> but you seem to think only one side is.

I don't think that's at all an accurate representation of what I've said:

> And of course, this isn't necessarily Republican-exclusive, I do also see Democrats who call themselves allies but have done very little research about what problems trans people face or how trans communities talk about these issues. And I do think there's a little bit of tribalism there where a subset of the Democratic party has picked a side in this debate based pretty much entirely on their party identity, not because they understand what's going on or because they've done any research.

My main argument here from my first comment has been:

> Some laws are tribalistic in America.

It's not just the populations that are tribalistic, it's not just the way the laws are applied. The laws themselves are tribalistic. The laws themselves are designed to hurt people.

To the extent that we're focusing on Republicans, it's because Republicans are behind the vast majority of this legislation. We're talking about tribalism within the law itself. Cancel culture as modern Republicans see it is a cultural issue, not a legal issue, so it's not really applicable to a debate about tribalism within the law.

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> when you can lose your job for voicing conservative opinions, no wonder you turn to voting trump.

Honestly, on the Republican side of things, if people want to be bigoted in private or express an opinion... I mean, I don't like their opinion, I'm not going to pretend it's not homophobic/transphobic, I'm going to exercise my right to free speech and call them out -- but that scenario would be a very different thing from Republicans passing legislation to take people's rights away, and I wouldn't be nearly as upset about it.

I think there's this characterization of the trans community itself that they're looking for a fight; the more I interact with them the less I believe it. They want to be left alone, they want people to give them a few extremely basic accommodations like using correct pronouns. They want to have access to medical care, they want to be able to make their own medical decisions without a bunch of governors getting in the way. I mean, talk about cancel culture, they want to be able to come out as trans or present as their gender identity without getting fired.

This is something Conservatives should be able to sympathize with, but they seem to be under the impression that cancel culture is something brand new that's only getting applied to Conservatives, rather than the default state of the world that's been applied to trans people and minority communities for generations in America. I mean, I'm genuinely sorry about Conservatives getting harassed on Twitter or losing their jobs, that must be really scary. They should try getting kicked out of their households by their parents and becoming homeless just because they dated the wrong person.

But whatever, to the extent Conservatives are only trying to believe things, fine. They can do that, go ahead. They just need to stop threatening business owners with jail time over their bathroom policies, they just need to stop threatening doctors with legal punishments if they provide affirming care to trans children. It's wild for Republicans to be complaining about cancel culture at the same time that they're passing laws that threaten to take away doctors' medical licenses just for telling a kid that trans people exist and they might be one.

My beef with Conservatives is not that they have "wrongthink", Conservatives can believe whatever they want. My beef with them is that they are actively going out of their way to hurt people that I care about, and that it really seems like the cruelty and suppression of the communities I care about is the entire point of their laws.

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> From a french person pov, the polarity and violence between is literally insane considering you guys mostly agreee on important (to me) issues.

This might be just skewed reporting in France. Republicans and Democrats currently disagree on a large number of issues, including health care, unions, minimum wage, environmental policy, election policy, voting rights, economic policy like tax rates, stimuluses, and unemployment. Even stuff that really should be bipartisan like ranked choice voting doesn't seem to be.

So yes, partisanship is real, it is getting worse, it is concerning both on the Democratic and Republican side of things. But also no, there are real fundamental disagreements here on almost every single aspect of how to run the country. If the "real issues" you're looking at are stuff like workers rights and the economy, Republicans and Democrats do not agree at all on that stuff. The conflicts there are (imo) entirely legitimate: they're actual policy differences based on real differences of opinion on how to fix things.