So why accept their meaning of it? You can acknowledge that some people see it in that way that you disagree with but you can also see it in your own way. Why require them to change? Why be held hostage to the opinions of others because someone has a different idea from you? That's sad, and crazy, because the implications is you require everyone in the world to have the same ideas as you, ideological purity, or you won't touch it. Which is sad, crazy, toxic and dangerous. But people promoting that sort of persecutory viewpoint seem to lack the empathy or awareness to see what their own position really is.

When i see this, i think it's reasonably funny, i understand it might upset some people, but i also think, what's wrong with virgins? I know some people might be of the view that associating the so called "less desirable" traits with virgins is "unfair", but i just see it as, funny and dumb that people would actually believe that has any validity, because it presupposes some idea that virgins are bad. So what's wrong with being a virgin? I hold all these competing interpretations in my head at once but i don't let the ones i dislike win out, i just keep my own. I think the ideological purity requirement where you demand other people drop interpretations that you dislike, is toxic because you think you can control other people's thoughts, saying other people are "wrong" because of an idea in your own head, and failing to grok the key personal responsibility boundary that other people are not responsible for your feelings. If you arrive at a set of interpretations that you find personally upsetting, change the set, because you're giving validity to that interpretation that you pretended to disagree with, because if you had your own interpretation that disagreed with that you wouldn't be so troubled by these other ones you dislike. I agree that this is s hard thing to do sometimes, but precisely I think to the degree to which you are internally validating the interpretation you find repellant. It's actually very helpful to shift your own perspective, in these cases.

Don't confuse this with other cases where it's more clear cut and people are doing something bad. I'm not saying "interpret" away bad intent, or bad actions, just... In cases where you can see the competing interpretations, (maybe indicated by the fact that there's a lot of other people who are not troubled by this and think that it's okay, which is perhaps a defining characteristic of things where you shouldn't be interpreting away the bad intent or bad actions are where the majority the vast majority of people not just people in your echo chamber but the vast majority of people find these thing repellent and bad and only a small, generally regarded as twisted, minority think it's acceptable), but when you have a case like this where there are competing interpretations, and you find yourself arriving at interpretations which you dislike then don't require everyone else to change and drop their interpretations, or not say the things they think, rather just own your own reactions and change your own dominant interpretation in your head. Say you don't like this because you make it mean people are saying virgins are weak and awful, and you're a virgin, so you feel people are attacking you. But say you also feel deep down that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. So just hold to your own interpretation and make that dominant. So you think it's funny because all these people are counting on the implicit association that virgins are not good but you think what's wrong with being a virgin so you think it's funny that all these people have that belief. That they have that belief doesn't affect your belief and trust in yourself. But if deep down you really hate yourself then you'll have to change that belief but if you do hate yourself then that's not something you can blame other people for. so if you hate yourself you can ask other people to stop saying the belief that you feel is a reflection of your own self-hatred. because because what they're saying only has significance to you because you already believe it. In either case of you blame others for your reaction, you have the concept of responsibility all wrong and it will get you in a bond. So hopefully this helps you out if that's the case. This thing i described is actually really effective for a lot of situations (not just this one) particularly where there's ambiguity and where you don't really understand what someone meant when they did a certain thing. Don't be trapped by other people's interpretations, and especially so when you're maybe just imagining what they are, rather than knowing, but in either case, hold your own dominant interpretation that you like. Then you won't be troubled. And if you're not troubled, then everything's good. I know this is not easy, from personal experience, but it's possible and it's effective. So if you try it i think it might work for you ;p ;) xx