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Dealing with Narcissistic Parents

I commenced my policy of non-contact / NC and it's been the most
peaceful five years I've ever had. Here is my advice based on
my own experience:

1. If you still live with them, move ASAP with the shirt on your
back.

2. All communications with them shall be written via email, and
don't tell them where you live, where you work, your bank
balance, who you're dating, etc. Every piece of information
will be used against you.

3. Get some therapy and start your recovery process.

Here's some things I would go back in time and tell my younger self:

You're never going to change them.

You are not responsible for their mental health or emotional state.

Don't bother trying to reason with them, they are irrational.

Don't try to earn their respect, you never will.

Don't agree to their assessment of your capabilities.

Don't tell them how much money you make.
Don't tell them how much money you have.
Don't tell them where you work.

You will not get them to be accountable for their actions,
it's useless to try.

They will act out and seek retribution when you start changing
your life without their knowledge/consent/blessing/judgement.
They will sabotage your best efforts if you let them into your
life. Don't tell them ANYTHING. Keep it light if you must speak with
them.

Don't wish them happy birthday, don't have dinner with them, don't
show, call or send a card for any holiday, christmas, hanukkah,
thanksgiving. Don't do it. It's a trap.

Remove the emotion from it. It's not out of spite, anger or
vengeance -- it's for your health. You are not a petty person, this was
in the works for a long time. It's like going for a jog in the morning.
It's what you need to do to stay mentally, emotionally fit in your life.

Don't blame yourself, this is a logical consequence of your
nparents actions. People around you might not understand and that's
okay. The time to leave and break contact is right now.

Retake agency in your life.

Good luck everyone!
The `/bin/bash` on macOS is severely out of date. So a script that starts with `#!/bin/bash` will be unable to use a lot of features.

If you only rely on `/bin/sh` the user has the flexibility to point `/bin/sh` to whatever shell on their system is fastest and most up-to-date (e.g. `/bin/dash` is a pretty good choice for performance).
> There is a direct correlation between fire suppressive actions carried out over the last hundred or so years, and the increase of more devastating wildfires in California.

And yet, over the last 100 years, there weren't routine wildfires like this. It's only been the last 20 years--when underbrush management was prohibited because of environmental concerns--that we've had this problem.
> are you saying it’s a better strategy to just not comment on it

Yes.

> Seems like a strong denial would go much further here.

"But he would say that, wouldn't he? Why would he deny it if it was fake?"
Isn't the main idea of "Russiagate" that Trump was knowingly involved with Russia? Nothing about this leads to that.
Amazing! TTRPGs are the ultimate co-op game!
Just food for thought:

What if AMD actually acquires Xilinix?

Everybody thought it's about CPU-FPGA integration but, they may pull something very, very different.
"Russiagate" is commonly used to refer to the accusation that Trump colluded with the Russian state to determine the outcome of the 2016 election. The Special Counsel investigation found no evidence of collusion.

Or is everything involving Russia now its own "Russiagate"?
First it is protein shakes. Then creatine and other supplements. Then pre-workout stuff. Then the better pre-workout stuff someone at the gym recommended. Then you find out that pre-workout stuff was banned by the FDA for containing amphetamine analogues. Whoops, you were cheating!
The motivation for rdrview is cleaning up all the menus and clutter from the dump. It still uses lynx (or any other text browser) for the render.
I personally found almost all points they were talking about interesting. Sure, I also often get the feeling that they should dive deeper on a particular topic, or that a certain point raises more questions than it answers but then again we are clocking in at almost 3h already and I am not sure how far the term „long form content“ can (or should) be stretched
If you want to launder money with impunity, don't do it in crypto. Just be a megabank.

See: https://www.icij.org/investigations/fincen-files/, or Matt Taibbi's writeup of it: https://taibbi.substack.com/p/revenge-of-the-money-launderer...
Jesus I just had this exact same thought. I wonder if that director ever considered retrying his original concept...

With that said I think a lot of the pedantics of "but IS doping really happening in international sports" going on in this thread could be emphatically answered with "uh, yes" by simply watching _Icarus_.
The following is my uninformed opinion, you can probably skip it; I recommend https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1OhE4w0TAU for a competent commentary.

Anyway:

Twitter violating its own ToS and/or promises to the users sounds like an example of bad faith. (This would not apply if Twitter's marketing was 'Fuck you! we do whatever we want', instead they promote themselves as a fair platform)

Moreover the entire exemption does not apply when the `provider` is not a provider but is actually a publisher using editorial discretion.
(for example if twitter decided to ban false statements in tweets this would clearly put them outside of section 230 immunity)
There is a time and place for cheap/IKEA furniture (keep in mind that IKEA does actually sell some genuinely nice pieces, but they're best known for their budget options).

For example, not everyone can afford more expensive furniture or are unable to wait for furniture to become available on the secondary markets (e.g. Craigslist, yard sales, finding stuff on the side of the road, etc.).

It's a mistake to think that buying pricey/"longer lasting" furniture is _always_ the right move.
Except that the incompatibility seems to be implemented by the kernel team (again), breaking the nVidia driver.

Is that deliberate to fuck with nVidia?
So Bitcoin is officially money now?
Thank you for the clarification.

It's interesting to observe that he claims to be targeting Twitter with a defamation suit. I believe S230 would block that.

Under Twitter's behavior prior to about this year, they would have let unfiltered defamatory tweets go through without any fact-checking. Fact-checking may actually have saved this young man some malignedly-lost reputation had it existed at the time.
I'm in agreeance that it's mostly forest management, but it's poor management in part due to a lack of response to the increased risk of fire climate change is introducing. Many regions are experiencing prolonged, record breaking dry spells. Some of the same regions also experienced well above average catastrophic fire seasons these past 12 months or so. I don't think it would be bold of me to link the two.
I'm "lucky" to have experienced chronic back pain for close to 10 years. Started a couple of years after graduation and got to a point where I couldn't sit for more than 20min or sleep for longer than 3 hours. It affected everything from my relationships, to my job (which I had to quit), to my mental state. I say "lucky" because I have mostly gotten over it recently, both physically and emotionally. So I can reflect on my time before pain, my time in constant pain and my time now.

Your response to chronic disease depends on your personality. Being stoic by nature, with strong background in sports I refused to accept I was disabled. I would not decline friends invites to play sports, even though I had to take a bunch of advil to last an hour of soccer. I wouldn't slow down on air travel, even though I spent half the flight in the bathroom where I could take a pose with less back pain. I had no empathy for myself and was refusing my condition. I regret that period and think it actually made me and my condition worse.

At about year 7, I started to accept my new, limited by back pain, self. I told my friends that I have the condition. It allowed me to vent periodically. Or make odd requests like asking to sit on side seat at a brunch table, so I can take frequent walks. I reorganized our house to be more forgiving for a back pain sufferer (basically moved everything I ever needed from the floor to waist level, so I didn't have to bend). Started taking days off work just to rest. Told my coworkers that I needed to adjust schedule because of the "back pain thing". I allowed myself to talk about it, vent about it and complain about I had a particularly bad day.

In the following years I was in more pain than before, but I actually felt better. I felt like I was accomplishing things I wanted and that my situation was just different, not hopeless. It no longer felt like I was disabled, but rather that I had a "thing". Everyone has their own: someone is taller, someone's brother beat them up, someone has a limp from a car accident, others grew up in poverty. It doesn't make them better or worse, it makes them who they are. My thing was that I had back pain. And it required me to make behavior changes to live a fulfilling life.

My advice is to evaluate your feelings to your condition and to yourself with the condition. Have you accepted it? Do you accept the new normal for yourself? Are your ok that some behaviors and experiences are out of reach? If the answer is "no" to any of these, finding peace with your new self should be the focus. It's not going to happen overnight, but it also won't happen without reminders and deliberate work.

When you have accepted the new normal, your happiness tank would start to refill with new experiences. The road ahead would not be easy by any means, but you would have the strength to walk it.
There should be more pressure on Nvidia to provide a proper upstream driver. Their blob is an abomination.
> (...) they're all particle board and, yes, bad quality.

That's not true. The Billy line is a mix of particleboard and a MDF backboard/diaphragm, but the Kalax/Lack lines are composite panels built from fiberboard, plywood, and a cardboard cell core. And they are superb, specially given their price and also weight.
I think you’re right for questioning the end-state, but you may be missing the current status quo.

The current status quo of multi-purpose roots is that supervision of a root, by a browser, auditor, and the CA themselves, constantly has to consider all the purposes a certificate is trusted for when considering the effective policies and design.

The classic example I give is that multiple CAs would have policies like “If it’s intended for TLS server auth, we put the domain name in the CN field and make sure it’s a real domain name. If it’s for document signing, we put the company name in the CN field and make sure it’s a real company name”, and with no further distinction between the two. So what happens when you have a company named “pets.com” - did they validate the domain or not?

What about if they misissued a TLS certificate. For TLS, you can quantify the impact, and you can move to distrust the CA, only thinking about how TLS works in your application. But what if they also issued certificates for lawyers used in judicial proceedings, and rely on the CA being trusted in the OS? This was the exact problem with DigiNotar, and why it took Microsoft over a month to fully respond, where Google and Mozilla took days.

We see similar issues with audits, and CAs having sub-CAs not “intended” to issue a particular type of certificate, but totally doing so.

For lack of a better analogy, and since earlier in this post I was talking about API design, the choice of singular trust purposes is like the S in SOLID. You want a single responsibility, clear, and do that well. It makes it easier to change and evolve that API when you don’t have to worry about breaking 30 odd unrelated use cases. And it lets you narrowly focus the supervision to the task at hand.
Why speak of hate?

The main problem I have with bashisms is that most people who use them just assume everyone runs bash as default shell. Instead of specifying xxx/bin/bash in their script, they use xxx/bin/sh (and they don't run any check about which kind of shell is running to ensure that bash is running and fail gracefully otherwise, and they don't either document that the script must be run from bash).

There's no problem about writing in a specific language, if you clearly say you did. If I stretch the example a bit, I wouldn't like a Python script to start with xxx/bin/ruby.
Strangely Behaving Red Supergiant Betelgeuse Smaller and Closer Than Thought
> there was nothing to "Russiagate".

...because this is a SOP for global super powers. I don't think that the Russians do anything that the Americans don't do better and more secretly.

SOP= Standard Operating Procedure
Secret Ethereum Bridge: Programmable Privacy for Ethereum and ERC-20s
After the birth of our daughter my wife and I got the Beautyrest Black. The improvements to our sleep and general well-being have been amazing!
https://www.beautyrest.com/black/k-class-ultra-plush-pillow-...
Are you claiming we have never caught or tried such a person?
Tox[0] actually works, reliably.

Jami, I've never managed to.

[0] https://tox.chat/
The work by byron Katie

Switch to elimination diet to see if it changes anything (eg. Oxolate-free diets seem to help in quite a few illnesses)
> Scientists estimate that prior to European settlement in California, fires burned approximately 4.5 million acres annually in California. In comparison, between 1950 and 1999, fires burned about 250,000 acres annually, less than 6 percent of the historical average. Within a few years, the natural fire regime in which Sierra forests evolved and thrived largely ceased.

This not only set up a perfect storm for massive wildfires, but also makes you think it this had something to do with the droughts. If there's millions of extra trees consuming/holding water, it's not crazy to think this may be related.
everybody will have SOME naturally or legally allowed amount of tested substance; etc. Which means that I cannot get excited that ANYbody at olympic level is doing it "on their own, unassisted, natural", for whatever definition of above we take.

But at that level, everyone is operating under the same rules. That's just the nature of competition, no? People will take any edge they can while following the letter of the law, if not the spirit.

Hell, even in the context of "on their own, unassisted", some countries directly support their Olympic athletes in terms of training, coaching and facilities, while other athletes have to pay out of pocket for that sort of thing and figure it out on their own and thus are more "unassisted", but there are no rules about that...

At the end of the day, all you can hope for is that the rules are applied justly & transparently.
How did I use Y Combinator’s StartUp library for building a product?
In Denver, I've seen many restaurants that have eliminated their physical menu and switched to a QR Code at the table that brings you to their menu online. Not as nice, but definitely useful in these times.
You're assuming he setup the geofence on his partner's phone when that's not a detail actually mentioned. We just know his wife happens has location sharing enabled.
https://www.fire.ca.gov/programs/resource-management/resourc...

> Certain Department activities may be exempt from CEQA due to their emergency nature (e.g., firefighting, flood response) or their minimal likelihood for causing significant impacts (statutory or categorical exemptions). Other actions may require the Department's development and approval of environmental documents, including Environmental Impact Reports. The following is a summary of CAL FIRE approvals that are subject to environmental review under CEQA:

> Fire Protection:
... Fuels Management Projects
4Chan Users Can Change Voter Registration Online in Oregon and Washington
Is this clear from the evidence or are these the allegations against them?

The evidence is presented at the trial, not in the initial press release announcing there has been an indictment.

One would expect that there is clear evidence, or there wouldn't be an indictment. You can't win a court case without evidence.
It's not bash hate. It's that a lot of the time, you don't have bash available (e.g., BusyBox environments), and you want your scripts to still work.
So basically kernel team repeatedly breaking the driver is how they want to bludgeon nVidia into giving them all their code and forcing them into supporting their own APIs?

Seems like petty behaviour to break users hardware just because you disagree with driver licensing.
> The only challenge that remains is discovery.

The Fediverse has a similar "friend of a friend" discovery method as Twitter in that you see the users that often get boosted (Mastodon retweet), and the users that often have interesting replies to toots that you follow, and can follow them directly (and then discover who they boost and who replies to them, etc).

(I'm also a solo user on a personal instance, and while I bootstrapped from the Twitter bridge early on, probably most of my follow expansion in the last several months has been through boosts and replies.)
I wonder if you'd say the same if the team changing the API would be Googles and the teams constantly having to scramble to unbreak their code would be an opensource project.
Dotfiles – Document and automate your MacBook setup – Gitlab
Pretty sure you could be "laundering money" with any sort of asset.
https://medium.com/@sleevi_/path-building-vs-path-verifying-... also has some utilities to visualize this using JS to explore these relationships, and understand the code tradeoffs.
Sometimes you catch them on camera https://apnews.com/article/ef3b036949174a9b98d785129a93428b
Isn't this basically what Trump has been saying? Hot weather (which isn't the same as climate) + overzealous suppression = tinder box forests that lead to explosive wildfires we cannot control.
It's whatever they want it to be. To FinCEN it's money. To IRS it's property.
What if we found out that Russian intelligence, in collaboration with the White House and RNC, has been trying to hack Biden family systems all year? And that these data, while real, were pulled from his laptop and a massive cover story created about the original?

It doesn't change my thoughts on HB's actions, but now we have a much bigger issue: a conspiracy where the president in cahoots with an unfriendly foreign power. That's waaaaaay bigger than Biden's kid, or Trump's kids, enriching themselves because of their parents' position.
Common methods of laundering money have included art and soap. Neither of those are money. Except insofar as many medium of exchange is.
Sure. To put it very short, we give every user a trust rank. It varies overtime. If you consistently, and for a long while, reported attacks that could be correlated by others and our own botnet, you progress, until you reach trust rank 1. Other are listened to, but need double verification from TR1 and/or our own botnet. We also have a canari list, which contains IP not too shoot. (Google bot, Microsoft update, DNS, etc.) and last but not list, an AI mashing logs to extract larger patterns. With this "consensus" chamber, a weighted vote is cast and the IP is then included in the DB. (We are always on the more conservative side if in doubt) If you ever feed bad intel, your TR regresses. If you shoot a canari, we'll either presume you are trying to poison or that your scenario is too twitchy. If you feed a bad intel, you TR regresses instantly and your voice weight less in the consensus (actually nothing in fact). IP are fresh, they were seen doing crap at max 72h before. Beyond this threshold, we consider them not relevant anymore and wait for a refresh. So if you are doing "headshots", 0 days style, only, the system would have hard time catching you. But if you port / web scan, bruteforce, do credential or CC stuffing, or whatever else, the system catches you quite quickly.
App stores foolishly bundle updates and distribution
It doesn't need to be money to be used for money laundering.
Warned by a teacher that the University of Cambridge did not admit outspoken young women of “her sort,” she applied nonetheless and was granted an interview. “I didn’t have the proper clothes, so I made myself a suit,” she recalls. Her interlocutor, Tim Hunt, a biochemist who would go on to win the Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine (and in 2015 became notorious for disparaging comments he made about women in science), didn’t seem to notice. “He kept his head down and asked me seven questions,” she says. When he told Greenhalgh she’d gotten every answer wrong, she asked him to explain, and together they reviewed the problems one by one, until she fully understood her errors. “I got my place at Cambridge because research isn’t knowing the right answers before you start,” she says. “It’s about how you ask the questions and how systematically you go about finding the answers.”

Imagine if all interviews worked this way
I mean this [1] isn't really acceptable for a 500 dollar desk.

https://www.btod.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/ikea-id...
Unfortunately AMD totally missed the boat on ML.

I think by this measure so did everyone else. Nvidia pushed cuda, and everyone took it, even though 8 or so years ago openCL was a reasonable competitor. But various orgs choose to make a proprietary technology a first class citizen rather than putting the effort into an open alternative. Big win for nvidia, big loss for everyone else not large enough to create their own ML frameworks and accelerators.
Oh right, I wouldn't call my moaning here helpful advice! Nor expect everyone's tastes to agree.

Maybe I'm hoping someone will tell me who I should listen to, instead.
Sorry to hear what you’re both going through, arthritis sucks.

I was diagnosed with psioratic arthritis a few years ago. It’s well managed with Humira, a similar biological treatment which is thankfully free in the UK. However I’m still in pain most of the time and it occasionally flares up. Those days I feel incredibly tired and awful all over. Find it hard that I don’t know on any day whether I’m going to be okay or not.

Not sure if it’s the same with any other types of arthritis but the thing I’ve found that makes the biggest difference is exercise, especially on those days when I’m feeling terrible. Used to go to the gym pretty much every day, but post COVID it’s hard to do a similar amount of activity at home.

Hope you both continue to manage your conditions, it’s not always easy.
So basically the plan is to fuck over nVidia until they just give you all their code?

Imagine if that behaviour would be done by Google, Microsoft or others - constantly breaking Mozillas or anyone elses code until they'd change their software license.
You should consider changing default SSH port. It helps a lot with the spam.
It's a long PDF [0], but these indictments are usually very detailed.

[0] https://www.justice.gov/opa/press-release/file/1328521/downl...
> Yes, ImgTec/PowerVR is getting back into the discrete GPU game!

Are FOSS drivers available? If not, ImgTec/PowerVR is worthless and they can come back from whence they came.

EDIT:

Their webpage for their current gpus list no drivers at all (where is a generic user supposed to find them?) and no mention of Linux at all.

That's not promising at all. If they want to become a failure again, they're on the right track.
> You realize of course, that the Commodore 64/128 were better than the Apple 2 and PET in every conceivable way?

Disks were WAY faster on Apple II than C-64.

Also in the mid 80's when I was in elementary school, all my schools had Apple II's and all of them had 80 columns. I get the feeling it was better supported in software on Apple II than the options available for 80-column output on C64.

Both of these were more important to business use than the C-64's SID or VIC chips.