> We're random anonymous internet strangers here, friend, and neither of us know the other's background.

Absolutely, we can disagree and not take it to heart. Someone who can stand the heat of an argument and coherently communicate, even if they have completely contrary view points, is someone I'd enjoy having a beer with.

Now, on the post: I think I fundamentally disagree with you, not on the language though, there's a difference in perspectives.

You say:
> I found it quite ironic that someone would say they completely relate to the struggles of the homeless as an employed and housed person, and then complain about minor inconveniences they experience from the homeless (you occasionally can't use a bathroom when drinking coffee), and the extra inconvenience they willingly endure with the specific goal of avoiding the homeless (you specifically find a place the homeless cannot easily get to so you don't have to encounter them).

The implication of your use of 'irony' is that, if I had been homeless, I wouldn't avoid them or talk about avoiding them. But you treat this opinion as fact. I don't agree with your opinion and find passing off an opinion as fact is sub-optimal communication. Which seems ironic to me in a post that is seeking others to communicate more optimally.

I grew up poor in a tough neighborhood; I watched people die from gunshots, had guns pulled on me, got beat and stomped on and dealt with the gritty reality of my environment at the time. And I wasn't even in a slum, just a hard place. By all possible meanings of the word, I can say I completely relate to people growing up in a poor, tough neighborhood. I wish the people in such places the best. I avoid such places like the frigging plague. Is that ironic? I don't think so nor do any of the people I know who also managed to escape.

From my perspective, you have to be pretty disconnected from reality to think it's unreasonable, bad, or negative in any way to avoid such places. So I completely disagree with the underlying opinion and premise you have.

> that isn't virtue-signaling. That is making an observation based on taking your words seriously as a true communication of your underlying feelings ... I was only pointing out the clear conflict.

People normally have feelings that are conflictive. Life is fundamentally filled with conflicting forces, where both sides are needed and can be correct at the same time. This is perfectly normal and healthy. You pointed it out like it's something wrong. To me it seems you are taking your opinion and 'begging the question' in an 'observation' where to answer you I must first accept your premise. But I don't.

> Recognizing when our actions oppose our values is an important part of the feedback loop that helps us better align our actions with our values—especially when being true to our values requires we accept some level of personal inconvenience. Recognizing when we avoid that personal inconvenience isn't a moral judgment on failing—it's just another data point in the feedback loop.

Again, we fundamentally disagree. I mean, yes, accepting of inconvenience is something I do (surely you don't think it's convenient to volunteer?) but avoidance of inconvenience is also something I do. I mean, it would be best for the homeless if I accepted all inconvenience and I brought them into my home. But then I'd probably be stressed out and unable to cope with my current reality and might end up homeless myself. So limits need to be drawn and balances need to be made at the value level. It's to me what makes someone mature, understanding these nuances. When you have a nuanced value system, nuanced actions aren't contradictory to simplistic values. This is because simplistic values simply seem immature and incompatible with how the world works.

Life isn't an all or nothing. I don't think my actions were at odds with what I said or believe in any way that's unreasonable. I think you should apply your own advice and maybe see how your posts in this thread which to me seem judgmental and opinionated are at odds with your message of empathy. And I'm not saying you are judging me personally. As someone who is a perfectionist and introspective myself, I know we tend to be the toughest when judging ourselves. I say avoid the 'judgmental attitude' and try to connect with people more, even yourself. Introspection can be used as an ego weapon to prop our little egos up, instead of something that can be humbly and quietly used to seek connection, generally in fighting our own ego.

> I apologize for offending you by taking your words too seriously and engaging them as written.

You haven't offended me at all, no need to apologize. You were telling your truth. That can be a rough and tumble game, as our truth when put out in the world will bump into its limitations. And it's always painful when our truth collides, especially when we are forced to adapt our truth to better fit with other peoples truth and The Truth. And I truly believe it is only the brave who risk putting their truth out there. :)