My wife and I have 6 kids. I don't do remote work, but I can give you some protips on the aspects of parenting that I think help a house to run well.

(I don't think having 6 kids especially qualifies me to weigh in here, raising 1 or 2 kids can easily be just as much of a challenge as raising 6! Raising kids is hard!)

Mostly, I want to encourage you to be purposeful about a few things:

1. Be in your child's life.

I want to reiterate the suggestion others have made that having either you or your wife in your child's life full-time is probably the single biggest thing you could do for them. Children desperately need their parents' involvement in their lives. (There's another ditch to avoid here which is to make your children's lives your entire world. Your kids need to understand that the world doesn't revolve around them, but that they are unmistakably important and special to you.)

2. Start with the end in mind.

What kind of adult are you aiming for your child to become? How will you get them there? What values do you hope will define them? Answering these questions up front can make the in-the-moment decisions you will be faced with much easier to make. (e.g. "No, you can't go to that party because your room isn't clean." is something said in service of teaching a child responsibility.)

3. Don't be afraid to tell your child who they are.

Don't be too "hands off". Teach your kids your values and instill in them what it means to be a part of your family. It's popular these days to view kids as if they are just fully-formed tiny adults with their own preferences and desires who need to be consulted before any decision is made on their behalf. Children need to be molded into mature adults, it doesn't happen naturally. Sometimes they want things that are harmful to them and it's your job to disagree with them and tell them why they aren't getting their way. Maturity doesn't just come with age. Your job is to build an adult out of the pile of goo which is a 2 year-old screaming at the top of their lungs in the middle of Walmart because you didn't let them chew the used gum on the bottom of the cart seat.

4. Love your wife more than you love your kids.

This is good for you, good for your wife, good for your kids. You're embarking on a tough journey (raising a child into an adult) and you need a travel partner who will go the distance with you. She'll get tired and need your support, you'll get tired and need her support, and you'll both get tired at the same time and you'll each need to know that you're both in it for the long haul.

5. Guard your family's sleep schedule!

Babies often come out with their days/nights mixed up. Opinions are mixed on how and whether to have play/eat/sleep/change schedules, but I'll just say that we did Baby Wise and all of our children were happily sleeping through the night by 6-8 weeks old. That pays HUGE dividends. If you and your wife are well-rested, you'll be giving your child your best parenting. If the baby follows a schedule, it's much easier to tell what they need when they are crying.

There's lots of other good advice in here and it's great that you're seeking it out! Don't be afraid to ask people around you for help. It's a hard journey, but worth it!