skysight-inc/HackerNews huggingface dataset:
> 1. Deny you're calling your husband childish while comparing him to a child.

She was using that as a metaphor. Using an image with which everyone (or at least most people) can identify. Being angry/upset with yourself (or just your situation) and taking it out on others is not something that is restricted to childhood. The metaphor works better in terms of describing the method of dealing with it (i.e. ignoring it, and not allowing the other person to drag you into what is their personal problem).

> 2. Proclaim that you're impervious to abuse by touting your toughness as if those in abusive relationships are not physically tough enough.

When people speak of physical abuse, the usual retort is that one is 'tough enough' to defend his or herself, even if the reality is that people in abusive situations are really emotionally weak/co-dependent. Most people that are trying to 'prove' to others that they are impervious to abuse are usually trying to display something that can be seen/evaluated by others so as to be interpreted as 'proof.' They are not usually thinking about the flip-side (the implication that people that do 'allow' themselves to be abused are lacking these traits).

> 3. Highlight your suffering martyrdom as much as possible while claiming that you refuse to suffer.

This was the only part that I found mildly annoying. She repeats "I will not suffer," while talking about the ways in which she was suffering, but trying to get on with her life. It may be a good internal motto to use in such times, but in reality she was suffering.
I think you've missed a great deal of the point of the article. Read the followup too (see tokenadult's comment).

This is one of those rare cases where "passive aggression" (stonewalling) is actually the most effective thing to do. If your partner claims to be unhappy with your relationship, but you're really sure they're actually miserable with some other aspect of their life, then this seems like a workable strategy.

I think you got confused because another instance where stonewalling is an effective strategy happens to be dealing with childrens' tantrums.
hackerish != hackish.
In the case of a man with a name like that in the United States, publishing the photograph of a charged defendant (which is quite routine here, actually) may do a favor to other people who have the same name but are not that man.
Must be Stockholm syndrome.

Have you tried to pay a friend an amount of money that would be inconvenient to do in cash? The best way to do it through your bank is to have them chop down trees into paper checks, physically mail them to you (this takes a few days), have you scribble down a number on the paper, hand (or mail... wait a few more days) the check over to your friend, who feeds it into an ATM, which scans the number you scribbled down, then you wait a few more days and eventually a few bytes in your bank's servers change to reflect your intended payment.

The last time I tried to make that entire process electronic-only, Bank of America said I needed to know my friend's account number and routing number, and even then they wanted me to show up to a bank branch in person to complete the deposit.

Sure, you could use Paypal, but it's an additional layer of complexity and risk, and if you're not careful they'll skim 3% off the top of your transaction.

Let's see... what else? Debit and credit cards. I live within my means. I don't want credit. I pay off my balance in full every month. Other than a hypothetical emergency, I would have no use for a credit card... except consumer protections for credit cards are much stronger than for debit cards. I'd be a fool to use my debit card instead of my credit card. And even though I've paid my credit card balance off in full every month for years, the one time I slipped by 3 days, I got slapped with a $30 late fee on a $200 balance (180% APR!).

Speaking of debit/credit cards... I visit my family in Mexico 3-4 times a year. Every time I go, I have to make sure to call Bank of America twice, to let both their credit card and debit card departments know that I'll be traveling. I'll have to wait on hold an average ~30minutes each time I call. If I forget to do this, and I try to use my credit or debit card while in Mexico, my cards will get frozen due to "suspicious activity", again necessitating a call to Bank of America. I do appreciate that they're looking after my financial safety, but I really do travel to Mexico quite frequently. There's nothing anomalous about my using my cards while I'm there. Once I do call they're incredibly helpful, but it's annoying that I have to call at all.

And don't even get me started on the fees and shitty exchange rates for using your card outside of the US...

Banking in America really is broken. If they're as good as they say they will be, I look forward to giving BankSimple my business.
What makes your site different from the 10,000 other sites selling sex toys on the internet? Why would a customer buy from you and not a more trusted/bigger brand?
I wonder if Twitter is still happy to have crucial pieces of their backend written in Scala. Have they found other Scala hackers to pick up the slack?
must be easier to make money when your business model requires cash up front as oppose to finding it later.
Applying for federal financial aid fraudulently is a federal crime. That takes money away from eligible students.
Another example of multi-touch is Naughts and Crosses, one of the two demos I made for the iGesture jQuery plugin:

http://github.com/raganwald/iGesture

After drawing some naughts and crosses, you can rotate the board by placing two fingers on the screen and rotating them 45 degrees or more.

It's all Javascript and jQuery.
I don't think she is comparing him to a child. I think she is saying that sometimes people behave badly because they lack the ability to understand and/or express what is really bothering them. A toddler having a tantrum is the canonical example of this, and has the advantage of having a large body of literature that explains how to deal with it, but if you think about it for more than a minute there are legions of adult examples.

I did find the litany of toughness a bit grating, but clearly it is something that she needed to convince herself of, never mind other people.

I think the article has some value as a parable, almost, that shows the value in not taking things personally.
Eh, maybe. I haven't studied polyphasic sleep and I'm not a scientist, so understand that my opinion comes from someone who has slept monophasically, experienced quite a bit of sleep deprivation, and also slept polyphasically.

That said... what I was talking about is not at all like sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation causes tiredness, lethargy, lack of energy. You wake up feeling tired and maybe your eyes or your head hurts. What I experienced with everyman-3 was nothing like that. It wasn't you falling asleep because you were unusually tired; it was you falling asleep because you willed yourself and your entire body to relax and let go of consciousness, almost like a sort of meditation. You wake up feeling absolutely refreshed and ready to go. In any case, it feels completely different from going to sleep tired or waking up sleep deprived; I don't know about the specific mental mechanism, as I am not a neuroscientist, as cool as I think it would be to be one.

Anyway, I would recommend giving polyphasic sleep a few tries. I only managed it after trying and failing twice (once because I kept oversleeping, once because social things got in the way). Also, I would not recommend doing polyphasic sleep for many months on end. At least, I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it, as who knows why it's possible. Maybe I'm depriving my body of very necessary sleep and preventing long-term learning or something - until it's more well researched, I wouldn't want to sleep polyphasically for more than a month or two.
Things you have to know before start Wormhole Time-travel
I totally agree. But, like you illustrated with your comment, outsiders (perhaps because they are outsiders) occasionally come up with good solutions. Or at least new ways of thinking about the problem.
> My counterclaim was that you will find zero support amongst American conservatives for a nuclear power policy anything like the successful one used in France. Can you point to any important American conservatives who publicly speak favorably about the France's nuclear system and advocate for adopting it in the US?

So what?

Note that US conservatives do support more nuclear plants like the ones that we have.

It's also fairly easy to find conservative support for nuclear power under a variety of other circumstances.

Yes, France does use reprocessing, but the US nuclear power industry didn't ban that here.

Do you want to argue that the French system is cheaper because the French govt is not subject to the review cost that US companies must pay? Or is it that the French govt doesn't have to pay certain "in operation" costs by virtue of being a govt? In either case, imposing those costs is clearly a choice.

BTW - You can't damn someone for not going along with an "authority" unless you accept said authority. In other words, by suggesting that we should agree with said conservatives in all things, you're saying that you do.
Some of the things we've done in attempts to go viral:

-We gave away about 16,000 $25 gift cards, a limited number each day for a month. Didn't work so well, ended up with a bunch of people just getting them because they we're free. Had a very low percentage of ideal customers. Pretty much a disaster.

-Introduced Free Toy Friday (may be changing the name to Pleasure Fridays, or something else). We draw a name from our e-mail subscribers to be given a free something in the $50 price range. The FTF has garnered about 200 or so new subscribers in the past week. We introduced it about two weeks ago.

When starting, my plan was to target directly to a more conservative or discerning woman but we honestly have far more male customers buying for their lady friends. I still want to be reaching to the women, but I think I'm honestly reaching more men - both in advertising/promotions and in actual conversions.

I really like the video idea, but in my attempts to maintain a very classy feel, its hard to go sexy or funny without losing the message. Or at least I've had trouble with that.
According to the story linked in the other thread, there's "over" $45K of money involved. $14K in two writing prizes won with plagiarized material and $31K in financial aid.

The latter is certainly a criminal issue.

However you do have a point about the rigor of their admissions process, one local phone call to the MIT Registrar's office before the final decision would have sunk his scheme ... unless of course he used the name of a real student there. Maybe "identity fraud" includes identity theft, which is also something the state has in interest in deterring.

One final point: higher education is a big Massachusetts industry and probably one of its healthier ones, I can see the state taking a harder line on all this than many others.
I didn't see this point addressed: I gave Facebook information under terms that specified its availability was being restricted (e.g. only available to FB friends). Facebook subsequently took that information that I already provided under those terms and/or that understanding, and made it public (and publicly searchable).

If they want to change their privacy policy with respect to new interactions, ok, I can live with that (I may not like it, but I can "vote with my feet"). However, when they expose information they'd previous agreed to hold private, that's crossing the line, in my opinion. It's on that basis that I call them unethical and immoral.

The fact that they continue to refuse to speak directly to this point, only strengthens my opinion and the arguments made on this basis.

The previous information should retain its prior scope of exposure. If Facebook feels that is not technologically feasible or reasonable, it should be made unavailable unless the user explicitly opts to re-expose it under the new model. If that's more work for Facebook, tough. Being ethical isn't always the easiest course.

In my perspective, control over privacy was a major factor in building their brand. They seem to be undermining this very factor. Whether that will work for them in the long run, is an open question. It may be that their dominance in owning and controlling the leading "social graph" changes the paradigm for success; privacy is no longer needed to secure and grow the brand. It may also be that as the more general population gets up to speed on privacy and its implications, they will come to value the brand less. And as some other commentors have pointed out, some people are already beginning to find Facebook less interesting in their personal experiences, because their friends are increasingly policing their contributions and so the content is becoming increasingly generic and uninteresting, especially in volume.

(Purely anecdotal and somewhat incidental: I've been noticing how many of my own friends' profile pictures are now of their pets, or some or another piece of artwork.)
Thanks a lot. I will perhaps start bugging them by calling them first.
I was using the word "good" sarcastically and was applying it to the media companies' strategy.
Fine, don't have an exit button, but make sure I can stop whatever you're doing. Chat doesn't have an "exit" but it has a "sign out", which is close enough. If you don't have that for everything you have going on in your app, it needs an exit button.
His two examples - a custom antique desk or shaving cream that's a delight to use - hammer his point home: despite the abundance of choice online, he who organizes and specializes the data to the user wins.

I have yet to see a truly personalized experience that finds me that one esoteric object that I'd never heard of, but desperately need.

I'm always stunned by how poor Amazon & EBAY's reccomendation engines are, and how infrequently they suggest anything I want or am compelled by.

What start-ups are playing in this space and building something compelling?
> I mean, Iraq is not exactly giving us oil for free now is it?

Good point.

Suppose that you wanted to use the US military to get cheap oil. Would your plan for doing so have anything to do with how the US military is currently deployed?
Seriously. USAA may be a very stogy institution in general, but their banking arm has been on an absolute roll the last couple of years. Between their iPhone app, a great web site, and excellent customer service, they're setting the benchmark for online banking. And, by catering to service members who are literally strewn across the globe, they "get" remote banking.
More on solving the "marketplace" business model
python has done a great job at cross-platform development. If anything I'd say there is more work spent on "native-feel" in windows than mac. Since windows is the one that doesn't play well with others.

I'd also recommend wxWidgets or QT using the related python (or ruby) bindings.

I know exactly what you are saying about "good enough" apps. I can still remember some gtk+ apps for windows a few years ago... it was embarrassing. Given enough time the apps I've seen recently are native and no longer just "good enough".
Link to research? I'd like to see how it was done, being that in so many developing countries mental illness carries a huge stigma. Patients may do better according to their family members, for whom the inconvenience of hiding the patient is less bad than the shame of others' finding out.
Whoosh. Dyson Does For the Fan What it Did For the vacuum
Quality products, our Happiness Guarantee, and fast discreet shipping.

-Every product we offer we have deemed body safe and high quality. We have a 2% complaint rule; if 2% of a product's sales result in a complaint, we stop selling it.
-Free 90 day returns. Almost unheard of. Most retailers offer no returns or a 7 day guarantee. We stand behind our products.
-We deliver 98% of orders in 48 hours or less in boring brown boxes.
Well, yeah. Android moves things out of memory when there is memory pressure. You have to wait while this happens, and most currently-existing Android devices are massively underpowered. When you use a task killer, you are spending the time when you press the "kill" button, instead of at some other random time.

Android users that use task killers are like Windows users that disable their pagefiles.
Zynga’s Losing Streak Continues
I think that a nice lawsuit can help with multiplying the money they owe.
It would be cool if bills appeared in an inbox on your online bank account so you could review and pay it in one click. Also, you would have the full details of what you bought in the history of your account.

Also a graph and projection of your bank balance would be neat.

Actually, an API for a bank would be really cool.
Yeah congratulations to Mono and MonoObjC teams. This is great news for all those other business apps that are currently Windows / .NET only.
They also have an Android app.
Not always. Node.js is very opinionated on advocating a closure-based model versus user-space threading.
His example is still smoke and mirrors. The opinion of someone known and trusted just feels more valuable, because of the way our minds are put together. Granted, this may be enough to build a business on.

What he wants would be a search engine that can detect passion. Page Rank only detects this indirectly. Not sure if anything direct is possible.
Don’t Kid Yourself: Apple Really Does Want to Lock Up the App Ad Market
This is the gristle behind buzzwords like "authenticity" and "community". When I wanted the perfect pen, I asked 'that friend' and he pointed me to a Tiffany fountain pen I love. When I wanted to know: Xbox or PS3, I asked my gaming 'that friend' and he pointed me in the right direction. When another friend told me I had to try a particular hole-in-the-wall restaurant, I went and, despite myself, enjoyed it.

Unless I have some reason to think you have my interests at heart, all the 'also liked' in the world means very little. For some purchases, I'll become the expert. (Still looking for that perfect keyboard!) But for most things, I want people I can trust to give me their best suggestion given what they know about the domain and what they know about me.
I hate installers
How Scribd's HTML document reader works (part 1)
Froyo Will Link to Adobe List of Flash Enabled Mobile Sites Post-Install?
Ok, think of it this way: imagine that you're pitching the idea of allowing porn apps into the App Store. How do you convince the board of directors that porn should be associated with the brand? You'll have to do better than slippery slope alarmism. So what do you say to make your business case?
My ~65 year-old dad included.

He took my advice a year-ago and let me set him up with a gmail account because hotmail was not filtering out enough spam.

When the phone sales person told him that all of his email, contact, and calendar items would automagically work he took the nearly free android option.

He's love'n it.

Apple needs to give mobile me away to iPhone users...
Cannibal Galaxy the Biggest In the Near Universe
Actually that might be an advantage to them.
i let other people lead the deals. it's not like i'm negotiating terms or anything. i meet a few times, i try to get a sense of the team (i have a bunch of specific things i am looking for) and a sense for the idea. so, it's not a lot of time up front. and i don't spend a lot of time bothering them after i've invested - i'm available as requested.

i still have plenty of time for xbox.

i'm tempted to write more about how/why/etc to angel but i'm not very successful, so i feel like i shouldn't talk yet.
"Closures" and user-space threads are two different approaches to the same end-state, which is code that is scheduled on I/O events instead of timeslices, and that implicitly manages all the state involved in the request.
Recommendations from people you know might actually be more valuable, if you count things other than the literal quality of the product as part of the equation. For example, post-purchase you have someone to talk to about the thing, whether in a "wow that worked out great, thanks for the suggestion!" sort of way, or to get tips or troubleshooting, or in some cases (like books or films) for discussion.
Ask HN: What is a good Silicon Valley area code?
I'm setting up a Skype In number. Since the service isn't available in Canada, I figure to set up an American number and I might as well go for one in the Silicon Valley area.

Are there any suggestions for which area code is a good one? I don't want to inadvertently pick one that might have a negative connotation to it.
Discreet shipping and quality products don't seem very different. A liberal returns policy could be though.

The Zappos Strategy. Get people to tell themselves that they're not really "buying" a toy, they're just going to try it out and then return it and get their money back.

Store credit is meaningless -- that is not a refund.

Free shipping is essential as well. Both ways. Otherwise people are thinking about how much the shipping will cost.

The key is for people to think they can screw the store. They'll try out a toy, return it, and be out no money.

The secret is that most people buy something and either enjoy it enough, or are too lazy, to return it. That's when you win.

The problem is that you need to have enough money/inventory to support the people that do return. Obviously you have to have limits, to minimize abuse.

This costs money though. It may not be a strategy you can afford to pursue.
i'm sure that admob doesn't generate a great number, at least not for the iphone. do you have other ad service ?
you can do a/b testing with ads, just put an 'if' in your code and check which service works better for you.
Use Squeak Smalltalk. Your program runs bit-identically across over 40 platforms. Done.

Cross platform is easy. Cross-platform with native look & feel - that's hard.
I have to admit I am surprised, and I'm even trying to compile a variant of a web marketing ebook. :-\
Just don't get one from East Bay.

415 = San Francisco, this one is pretty good

650 = Palo Alto, also very good

408 = San Jose, which is decent
if they didn't want the product they would not buy it.

If they had all the information available to them they would not buy it. Those are the loss sales that Apple is worried about.
212 all the way.

Oh, wait.
<li>{{home}}</li>
<li>{{home.features}}</li>
<li>{{home.pricing}}</li>
<li>{{home.contact}}</li>

You saved one line of code, but had to pass related data members that should be containerized in a home object to the template seperately, which means you actually used more total code if you include your view function. If you really want to do it that way, why not have a .list() interface method on your Home model that returns all of its string data members in a list?

{%for label in home.list%}
<li>{{label}}</li>
{%endfor%}

But I think the first way reads more like HTML and allows you to style them seperately which your going to have to often do 90% of the time

Edit: also, you can recurse all day long in django with clever use of the {%include%} tag. The {%include%} tag is seriously worth looking into in any complicated situation. Writing your HTML in seperate chunks also make rolling out an AJAX version of the page really easy, because you can just render the included subcomponent in an ajax request instead of the page that includes it, using the same view function.
Well, the bigger point being made here is that "telcos" are suing to prevent communities they aren't serving from providing their own service.

To amplify the "America 100 years ago" thesis, AT&T didn't provide their good service to much or most of rural and small town USA, so in those service gaps communities, co-ops etc. built their own service. Without AT&T suing them to prevent that.
In another post, he describes his method: http://www.publicstatic.net/2010/04/migrate-intranet-applica...

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