I want to be clear that I'm not brushing off the incidences or saying they're in any way acceptable. It's more of a thought exercise asking why these guys think the behavior is acceptable. Why are they doing it in the first place? Are some of them just predatory, knowing it's not acceptable and think they can get away with it? There are certainly plenty of examples in all fields where people in a power position think they can simply get away with it due to the resources available to them.

I've worked with, and hired, plenty of women and it's never crossed my mind to behave that way, not ever. Is it because I've not ever felt that I had the power to make the problem go away, ignoring what I know is right and wrong? Is it because I went through 'normal' socialization channels growing up? Is it because I do not feel socially awkward in different environments that would allow me to court a woman in a more acceptable fashion? Is it because those 'normal' socialization channels helped me figure out (even through trial and error growing up) what an acceptable fashion even is? Are 'normal' people just wired up to innately feel how an action such as touch could make the other feel in a given context? One of the hallmarks of autism spectrum is an inability to read social cues for example, so if people in these fields have a pre-disposition to be on the spectrum, is it possible this plays a factor?

Hearing the victims' descriptions of what they had to deal with genuinely makes my skin crawl, and that's why I floated the questions/ideas in the first place. I can't put my head into a place where I could see why these guys would do it, and I'm wondering if the general wiring of the types of people that gravitate to and achieve in these fields might pre-dispose them to socially abnormal behaviors like this. Are the incidences of this type of behavior greater than in other fields, say teaching, that have historically been more equal or female lead? If so, is it because the intent is generally predatory (in that the offender generally knows it's wrong and doesn't care), or is it that they don't get how wrong it is?

Again, going back to an anecdote of being in both social circles... One of my best friends from my CS studies at university was a delight one on one, or in the small circle of our group of CS friends. But whenever he could gather himself to come to a party that was filled with pretty much no one like himself he had no freaking clue how to behave. A lot of female friends said he creeped them out- stared too much, said weird stuff, etc. No physical violations by any account I can recall. I asked him about it one day and his response was pretty much what I expected: he had no freaking clue how to connect to these people, women in general scared the shit out of him, and he shared no real social point of reference with my other friends that would allow them to connect.

It's personal experience like that that makes me wonder if some of it is attributable to wiring/social disconnects, not just pure predation. Again, their actions whether with bad intent or out of ignorance are no more acceptable and do not magically inflict less trauma to these women. I'm just wondering aloud if there exists some common thread that might explain why this might happen more in some fields than others.