English: hello my participant number is f c twenty five p two please call stella ask her to bring these things with her from the store six spoons of fresh snow peas five thick slabs of blue cheese and maybe a snack for her brother bob we also need a small plastic snake and a big toy frog for the kids she can scoop these things into three red bags and we will go meet her wednesday at the train station

American: hello my participant number's id f c two five p one please call stella ask her to bring these things with her from the store six spoons of fresh snow peas five thick slabs of blue cheese and maybe a snack for her brother bob we also need a plastic snake and a big toy frog for the kids she can scoop these things into three bags three red bags and we'll go and meet her wednesday at the train station

English: okay good so we're done with the first part right

American: mm hmm

English: uh should i start asking some questions or

American: yeah hit me

English: okay okay um i wanted to talk about friendship first the first question i have is do you prefer to have many friends or just a few that you are close to

American: for me i think uh a few i'm close with honestly i think having having acquaintances and people being familiar with people is one separate thing but what i deem friendship is uh so i'm close and i can be kind of be vulnerable with and open up to so definitely on a i would say a close amount

English: mm hmm

American: how about yourself and why

English: oh i think just by my nature being more like sec like a secluded kind of person

American: yeah

English: i'm not too extroverted

American: mm hmm

English: it's not like i'm shy

American: yeah

English: but i just pr prefer having a few close friends

American: yeah

English: i like having acquaintances and being friendly even if i don't know people like i like to say hi

American: yeah nice

English: or start a conversation but not get too close with most people but just a few <laugh> so yeah

American: yeah i think uh again i think understanding understanding that you don't need to open up to everyone and the few people that you do open up to and you decide to open to uh is still a big thing so regardless you have like a small amount or a big amount of friends it's important to have uh friends where we can open up i think that's the the big thing we need to really focus on when when we think about relationships and friendship it's like asking yourself am i okay to open up is this actual friendship was this something what i think is a friendship but really it's just you know me just me just going around to loads of people being like hey what's up what's up look i have so many friends

English: yeah

American: <overlap> you know is that

English: yeah but i don't think there's just one like um way to have a close friend like closeness is different for different people 'cause with my close friends or who i think are my close friends

American: yeah

English: i don't really really even need to talk to them too much it's more kind of like one of those things where we meet a few times a year have a good conversation

American: yeah

English: and then we like live in different countries and everything we don't really

American: but yeah yeah but that's what i'm trying to say it's like i guess the different there's different like layers to it of like what if like how close you can be to a friend for me when i say close friend

English: mm hmm

American: i mean someone genuinely like i can open up with i'm talking to maybe not most all the time but i can you know like

English: yeah

American: that level of reliance but this is someone which i can be vulnerable with you know and

English: okay i think yeah

American: uh that's what i think that's i mean but not everybody's like that though 'cause you know <overlap>

English: yeah yeah

American: uh 'cause not everybo 'cause not everybody can be even vulnerable to themselves you know some people are very repressive so it's it's like i guess it's it's different for each for me that is it's this case for me

English: yeah i think everyone has their idea of what being close to someone is

American: yeah

English: i don't know if you remember but i told you about that story of those two friends of mine that kind of stopped speaking because one of them felt like the other one was not

American: yeah

English: putting enough work into it while the other

American: yeah

English: one was just thinking that they were just doing enough 'cause their