Sex, when done right, IS making love. It is employing our sexuality in order to give pleasure to our partner because we love him or her. It doesn't have to be done in "missionary position." It doesn't have to include intercourse or consummation. It doesn't have to mean placing part A into receptacle B.  Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn't. The intent should always be to give to the beloved through sexual expression. 

Sex  is certainly not the only way to show love, nor is "making love" the only way to have sex, and I am not saying that all instances of "having sex" are inspired by love.  People can use each other, people can have sex thinking only of their own pleasure, people can abuse or rape. Those are perversions. Anal intercourse or oral sex are not perversions as long as both partners are willing and enjoy it. 

The ideal, however, is that sexual activity be between two monogamous people who love each other. Then it is indeed "making love."

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