The article states that one of the first questions that these men are asked after coming out is how they were able to continue having sex with their wives.

The other party to whom one should pose the same question would be the wives of the men who came out.

I had a friend who discovered early on in her marriage that her husband (highschool sweetheart) was gay, but stayed with him until all the children were in their late teens/early adulthood because she wanted the kids to grow up in a two parent family.

Towards the end of the marriage, she took a lover or two on the side and eventually remarried a heterosexual man.

She told me that she only knew in retrospect, after having sex with heterosexual men, how unfulfilling her sex life with her gay husband had been.  Until then, because she had married her first love, she never had any other points of reference.

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