I'm pretty sure we know what happened and it's in the article above. 

Just so you know, though, you probably know rapists and abusers in your own circle and think they are just fine people. They hide it well, and even if they don't, people are for some bizarre reason uncomfortable with rejecting them. They just "don't want to get involved." 

It's not a matter of being "stupid," it's a matter of addressing the repugnant culture of misogyny and acceptance of abuse and rape (which your words perpetuate) that we have in this country. And addressing the behavior of men, because make no mistake, this is a problem with men.

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