So because they think marriage = one man and one woman that means they are scared (phobic) of gays? Why does everyone have to agree with your definition of marriage? Especially when throughout 99% of history marriage was one man & one woman? 
If the women at ID felt the church was being misogynist I'm sure they could speak up for themselves. There are many deacons who are women there. 
What is wrong with a sub-set of society wanting to live under a different set of rules?

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