Both times , she declined , saying she was n't ready to plan that far ahead . Both times , she said she would call us when she knew what her schedule would be like . I know that Willem has had similar talks with her .

Question: What is the reason that she keeps saying she does n't want to plan that far ahead ?
Answer: She liked them so much she could n't stand it .something came up at the last minute and it was impossible and totally out of my control .She really does n't want to take part at all and this is just a likely excuse to achieve that end .she wanted to surprise them by popping up unexpected .