Both times , she declined , saying she was n't ready to plan that far ahead . Both times , she said she would call us when she knew what her schedule would be like . I know that Willem has had similar talks with her .

Question: What is the reason that she keeps saying she does n't want to plan that far ahead ?
Answer: something came up at the last minute and it was impossible and totally out of my control .she wanted to surprise them by popping up unexpected .She wants to avoid the activity and will do anything to avoid it in a passive way .She liked them so much she could n't stand it .