That it is ok to assess and meet your own needs . That if you need some unorthodox ways of dealing with things , then no matter what others think , you should allow yourself to perform those behaviours , as long as they do n't harm others . And there is always a way of coping with yourself , in ways appropriate for your particular situation , you just need to find one that works for you .

Question: What may happen if one does n't pursue safe self - care avenues ?
Answer: They may hurt theirself or someone else .They might forget about their needs and go on successfully .They might become more open and loving over time .Others might view them as strong and courageous .