It took all the courage I had to introduce my girlfriend as my girlfriend to people when she was visiting . I lost a guy I thought was a friend because of it , and I ' m sick of that shit . It is an odd struggle between pushing myself to not hide , and at the same time deciding to hold off on telling people so that they will not instantly categorize me as simply the gay girl . D is living close by , which is both good and bad .

Question: What may be the reason for their hesitance ?
Answer: Because they are just shy .Because it 's not easy to be gay .None of the above choices .Because they are ashamed .