Summarize the following court judgment. Civil Appeal No. 3013 of 1987. From the Judgment and Order dated 30.7.1986 of the Andhra Pradesh High Court in A.A.O. No. 1491 of 1985. section Madhusudan Rao	 K.K. Gupta and Rakesh Kumar Gupta for the Appellant. K.V. Sreekumar and B. Parthasarthi for the Respondent. The Judgment of the Court was delivered by JAGANNATHA SHETTY	 J. We grant special leave and proceed to dispose of the appeal. Shobha Rani is the appellant. Her husband is Madhukar Reddi who is respondent before us. The wife is post graduate in biological 1013 sciences. The husband is a medical doctor. They were happily married on December 19	 1982. But their happiness did not last longer. They started exchanging letters with bitter feelings. Then they began to accuse each other. At one stage	 they thought of winding up by mutual consent. It was perhaps out of disgust. it would have been better	 if it had happened. But unfortunately	 it did not materialise. Ultimately they landed themselves in the Court. The wife moved the Court for divorce on the ground of cruelty. Before referring to further facts	 let us consider the law. The cruelty simpliciter is now a ground for divorce under Sec. 13 of the (Act 25 of 1955). Section 13 provides	 so far as it is material: "13 Divorce (1) Any marriage solemnized whether before or after the commencement of this Act	 may	 on a petition presented by either the husband or the wife	 be dissolved by a decree of divorce on the ground that the other party . . (i) . . (i a) has	 after the solemnization of the marriage	 treated the petitioner with cruelty	 or xxxx xxxxx xxxxx xxxxx Section 13(1)(i a) uses the words "treated the petitioner with cruelty". The word "cruelty" has not been defined. Indeed it could not have been defined. It has been used in relation to human conduct or human behaviour. It is the conduct in relation to or in respect of matrimonial duties and obligations. It is a course of conduct of one which is adversely affecting the other. The cruelty may be mental or physical	 intentional or unintentional. If it is physical the court will have no problem to determine it. It is a question of fact and degree. If it is mental the problem presents difficulty. First	 the enquiry must begin as to the nature of the cruel treatment. Second	 the impact of such treatment in the mind of the spouse. Whether it caused reasonable apprehension that it would be harmful or injurious to live with the other. Ultimately	 it is a matter of inference to be drawn by taking into account the nature of the conduct and its effect on the complaining spouse. There may	 however	 be cases where the conduct complained of itself is bad enough and per se unlawful or illegal. Then the impact or the injurious effect on the other spouse need not be enquired into or 1014 considered. In such cases	 the cruelty will be established if the conduct itself is proved or admitted. It will be necessary to bear in mind that there has been marked change in the life around us. In matrimonial duties and responsibilities in particular	 we find a sea change. They are of varying degrees from house to house or person to person. Therefore	 when a spouse makes complaint about the treatment of cruelty by the partner in life or relations	 the Court should not search for standard in life. A set of facts stigmatised as cruelty in one case may not be so in another case. The cruelty alleged may largely depend upon the type of life the parties are accustomed to or their economic and social conditions. It may also depend upon their culture and human values to which they attach importance. We	 the judges and lawyers	 therefore	 should not import our own notions of life. We may not go in parallel with them. There may be a generation gap between us and the parties. It would be better if we keep aside our customs and manners. It would be also better if we less depend upon precedents. Because as Lord Denning said in Sheldon vs Sheldon	 (259) "the categories of cruelty are not closed. " Each case may be different. We deal with the conduct of human beings who are not generally similar. Among the human beings there is no limit to the kind of conduct which may constitute cruelty. New type of cruelty may crop up in any case depending upon the human behaviour	 capacity or incapability to tolerate the conduct complained of. Such is the wonderful/realm of cruelty. These preliminary observations are intended to emphasize that the Court in matrimonial cases is not concerned with ideals in family life. The Court has only to understand the spouses concerned as nature made them	 and consider their particular grievance. As Lord Reid observed in Gollins vs Gollins	 ; (1972): "In matrimonial affairs we are not dealing with objective standards	 it is not a matrimonial offence to fall below the standard of the reasonable man (or the reasonable woman). We are dealing with this man or this woman. " Chandrachud	 J. (as he then was) in Narayan Ganesh Dastane vs Sucheta Narayan Dastane	 ; (978) said: "The Court has to deal	 not with an ideal husband and an ideal wife (assuming any such exist) but with parti 1015 cular man and woman before it. The ideal couple or a near ideal one will probably have no occasion to go to a matrimonial court	 for	 even if they may not be able to drown their differences	 their ideal attitudes may help them overlook or gloss over mutual faults and failures. " With these principles in mind	 we may now unfold the story with which the wife came to the Court seeking dissolution of her marriage. She made several grievances. We may ignore all but one. The one and the only one with which we are concerned is her complaint about the dowry demand by the husband or his parents. The dowry is a deep rooted evil in the society. It started as customary presents with love and affection. In olden days	 it was customary to give some presents to the bride and bridegroom and his family at the time of marriage. The parents of the bride or their relations out of affection and good intention used to provide the couple something to fall back upon in case of need. The system started at a time when girls were generally not very much educated and even if they were educated they were unwilling to take up gainful employment. There was also less opportunity for them either to supplement the family income or to become financially independent. There was yet another reason for such customary gifts. The daughter then was not entitled to a share in the joint family properties when she had a brother. Hence the father out of affection or other consideration used to give some cash or kind to the daughter at the time of marriage. The right of the father to give a small portion of even the family property as a gift to the daughter at the time of her marriage was recognised. But unfortunately over the years new practice developed. The boy or his family members started demanding cash or kind from the brides parents. They started demanding dowry as a matter of right. The demand more often extended even after the marriage. There were instance of harassment of the wife	 if the demand was not complied with. In order to curb this evil practice	 the Parliament enacted the (Act No. 28 of 1961). The Act prohibited the giving or taking of dowry. But in spite of this enactment	 the pernicious practice continued in some communities. The Joint Committee of Parliament appointed to examine the working of the remarked "the evil sought to be done away with by the Act	 on the other hand	 increased by leaps and bounds and has now assumed grotesque and alarming proportions. " Again the Parliament intervened. The Dowry Prohibition (Amendment) Act	 1984 was enacted with considerable changes in the parent Act. Likewise the Indian Penal Code was amended by introducing of an entirely new offence hitherto unknown to criminal jurisprudence. Sec 1016 tion 498 A has been introduced in the following terms: "498 A. Husband or relative of husband of a woman subjecting her to cruelty; whoever	 being the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman	 subjects such woman to cruelty shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to fine. Explanation For the purposes of this section "cruelty" means: (a) Any wilful conduct which is of such a nature as is likely to drive the woman to commit suicide or to cause grave injury or danger to life	 limb or health (whether mental or physical) of the woman or (b) harassment of the woman where such harassment is with a view to coercing her or any person related to her to meet any unlawful demand for any property or valuable security or is on account of failure by her or any person related to her to meet such demand." A new dimension has been given to the concept of cruelty. Explanation to Sec. 498 A provides that any wilful conduct which is of such a nature as is likely to drive a woman to commit suicide would constitute cruelty. Such wilful conduct which is likely to cause grave injury or danger to life	 limb or health (whether mental or physical of the woman) would also amount to cruelty. Harassment of the woman where such harassment is with a view to coercing her or any person related to her to meet any unlawful demand for any property or valuable security would also constitute cruelty. We are	 however	 not concerned with criminal offence either under the or under the Indian Penal Code. We are concerned with a matrimonial conduct which constitutes cruelty as a ground for dissolution of marriage. Such cruelty if not admitted requires to be proved on the preponderance of probabilities as in civil cases and not beyond a reasonable doubt as in criminal cases. This Court has not accepted the test of proof beyond a reasonable doubt. As said by Chandrachud	 J. in Dastane case (Ibid at p. 976): "Neither section 10 of the Act which enumerates the 1017 grounds on which a petition for judicial separation may be presented nor section 23 which governs the jurisdiction of the Court to pass a decree in any proceedings under the Act requires that the petitioner must prove his case beyond a reasonable doubt. Section 23 confers on the court the power to pass a decree if it is "satisfied" on matters mentioned in clauses (a) to (e) of the section. Considering that proceedings under the Act are essentially of a civil nature	 the word "satisfied" must mean "satisfied" on a preponderance of "probabilities" and not "satisfied beyond a reasonable doubt". Section 23 does not alter the standard of proof in civil cases. " Let us now turn to the evidence in this case. It consists of that of wife as P.W. 1 as against the evidence of husband as R.W. 1. The parties have also produced the letters exchanged between them. There appears to be no doubt that the husband or his parents were demanding dowry from the appellant. The husband in his letter exhibit Al dated August 28	 1983 wrote to the wife: "Now regarding Dowry point	 I still feel that there is nothing wrong in my parents asking for few thousand rupees. It is quite a common thing for which my parents are being blamed	 as harassment. " The wife in her evidence before the Court has stated: "My Mother in law always used to make demand for money from my parents. I used to tell my parents about what was happening to me in that house. I used to keep silent when my mother in law made demands for money. The respondent also sometimes used to make demands for money. I used to tell him as to why should I ask money from my parents	 and I also used to tell him that I would not ask my parents. But he used to reply that such things were only there in olden times and not now and that therefore	 I should ask money from my parents. There were fixed deposits receipts in my name in the Bank upto one and a half to two lakhs. Besides this there was house plot in my name at Jubilee Hills. I was afraid of telling my husband and my parents in law that I would not ask my parents for money. 1018 This I was afraid because I had an apprehension that something would be done to me either physically or mentally if I told them so. I entertained this apprehension because this went on regularly every day	 that is their demands for money. xxxx xxxx xxxx xxxx xxxx xxxx xxxx xxxx I was afraid to go back again to the respondent 's house because I felt that the pestering for money will go on like this. I	 therefore	 developed aversion for going back to the respondent. For that reason	 I joined as a school teacher. " The trial court or the High Court did not state that there was no demand for money. The case of the wife was	 however	 rejected on the ground that there was no satisfactoy evidence that the demands were such as to border on harassment. The trial court said: "Though one would not justify demands for money	 it has to be viewed in this perspective. The respondent is a young up coming doctor. There is nothing strange in his asking his wife to give him money when he is in need of it. There is no satisfactory evidence that the demands were such as to border on harassment. " In regard to the admission by the husband in his letter dated August 28	 1983 as to the dowry demanded by his parents	 the trial court observed: "The letter should be read as a whole. The respondent has an explanation to make and has made one in the cross examination. He is trying to confess. It is clear from the attitude of the petitioner that she is prone to exaggerate things. That is evident from her complaint of food and the habit of drinking. " xxxxxx xxxxxx xxxxxx "Either because of her over sensitivity or because of her habit of exaggeration	 she has made a mountain of mole hill. Further	 for the reasons best known to her	 the petitioner 1019 has not examined her father. There is no explanation why he has not been examined in support of her contention that the respondent and his parents were harassing her for money. " The High Court also went on the same lines. The High Court said that the wife appears to be hypersensitive and she imagines too much and too unnatural things. The High Court then observed: "Though one would not justify demands for money it has to be viewed in the circumstances from a proper angle. The respondent is a doctor	 if he asks his rich wife to spare some money	 there is nothing wrong or unusual. " This is not a case where the husband requested his wife to give some money for his personal expenses. The High Court appears to have misunderstood the case. It has evidently proceeded on a wrong basis. It proceeded on the ground that the husband wanted some money from his wife for his personal expenses. If the demand was only of such nature we would have thrown this appeal away. The wife must extend all help to husband and so too the husband to wife. They are partners in life. They must equally share happiness and sorrow. They must help each other. One cannot take pleasure at the cost of the other. But the case on hand is not of a failure on that front. It has been admitted by the husband himself in his letter dated August 28	 1983 addressed to the wife that his parents demanded dowry. But he wrote to the wife that there was nothing wrong in that demand of his parents. This is indeed curious. He would not have stated so unless he was party to the demand. The wife has stated in her evidence that there were repeated demands for money from her monther in law. Her evidence cannot be brushed aside on the ground that she has not examined her father. It was not the case of the wife that the dowry was demanded directly from her father. The evidence of the father was therefore not material. It is also not proper to discredit the wife as hypersensitive or prone to exaggeration. That would be judging the wife by our style of manners and our standard of life. That we cannot apply. We must try to understand her feelings and then search for the nugget of truth in the entire evidence. The contents of exhibit Al should not be read in isolation. It must be viewed against the background of accusations in the letter dated December 26	 1983 written by advocate for the wife to his counter part. The relevant portion of the letter reads: 1020 "In the background of these	 the worst form of ill trestment that is meted out to our client was constant harassment for monies. It may be brought to your notice that prior to marriage on demand by your client 's father a sum of Rs. 17	000 was given and also a Scooter thereafter. It may be brought to your notice that one other main reason for your client to dowry deaths which are very frequently seen now a days in papers. It may be pointed out that your clients philosophy is that since our client 's are financially sound	 there is no wrong for your client 's parent to ask for few more thousands. It may be pointed out and brought to your notice that it appears your client 's sole object of marriage was to get the monies standing in the name of our client transferred to his name. It would be better to understand that money that stand in our client 's name are somwhere about two lakhs. It is not out of place to mention that your client 's behaviour and treatment with our client could only be said to be a pointer for seeking these monies alone and marriage was a device. . ." The cumulative effect of all the circumstances and the evidence of parties lead to the conclusion that the demand of dowry went on with the support of the husband. The High Court while dealing with this part of the case has observed that there is no evidence to show that the demands were such as to cause harassment to the wife. The High Court appears to have misconstrued the scope of cruelty in matrimonial affairs. The evidence as to harassment to the wife to meet any unlawful demand for money is necessary to constitute cruelty in criminal law. It is the requirement of the offence of `cruelty ' defined under sec. 498A of the Indian Penal Code. 13(1)(i a) of the provides that the party has after solemanization of the marriage treated the petitioner with cruelty. What do these words mean? What should be the nature of cruelty? Should it be only intentional	 wilful or deliberate? Is it necessary to prove the intention in matrimonial offence? we think not. We have earlier said that cruelty may be of any kind and any variety. It may be different in different cases. It is in relation to the conduct of parties to a marriage. That conduct which is complained of as cruelty by one spouse may not be so for the other spouse. There may be instance of cruelty by the unintentional but inexcusable conduct of any party. The cruel treatment may also result by the cultural conflict of the spouses. In such cases	 even if the act of cruelty is established	 the intention to commit cannot be 1021 established. The aggrieved party may not get relief. We do not think that that was the intention with which the Parliament enacted sec. 13(1)(i a) of the . The context and the set up in which the word 'cruelty ' has been used in the section	 seems to us	 that intention is not a necessary element in cruelty. That word has to be understood in the ordinary sense of the term in matrimonial affairs. If the intention to harm	 harass or hurt could be inferred by the nature of the conduct or brutal act complained of	 cruelty could be easily established. But the absence of intention should not make any difference in the case	 if by ordinary sense in human affairs	 the act complained of could otherwise be regarded as cruelty. The relief to the party cannot be denied on the ground that there has been no deliberate or wilful ill treatment. The same is also the line of reasoning adopted by the House of Lords in Gollins vs Gollins	 ; at 976 where Lord Evershed said: "I am unable to accept the premise that "cruelty" in matrimonial proceedings requires or involves of necessity the element of malignity though I do not of course doubt that if malignity be in fact established it would be highly relevant to a charge of cruelty. In my opinion	 however	 the question whether one party to a marriage has been guilty of cruelty to the other or has treated the other with cruelty does not	 according to the ordinary sense of the language used by Parliament	 involve the presence of malignity (or its equivalent); and if this view be right it follows	 as I venture to think	 that the presence of intention to injure on the part of the spouse charged or (which is	 as I think	 the same thing) proof that the conduct of the party charged was "aimed at" the other spouse is not an essential requisite for cruelty. The question in all such cases is	 to my mind	 whether the acts or conduct of the party charged were "cruel" according to the ordinary sense of that word	 rather than whether the party charged was himself or herself a cruel man or woman. . . Bearing in mind the proper approach to matrimonial offence	 we are satisfied that the facts and circumstances brought out by the appellant in this case do justify an inference that there was demand for dowry. The demand for dowry is prohibited under law. That by itself is bad enough. That	 in our opinion	 amounts to cruely entitling the wife to get a decree for dissolution of marriage. 1022 In the result	 we allow the appeal and in reversal of the judgments of the courts below	 we grant a decree for dissolution of the marriage. In the circumstances of the case	 however	 we make no order as to costs. N.P.V. Appeal allowed.

% The appellant wife	 a post graduate in biological sciences	 married the respondent husband	 a medical doctor on December 19	 1982. Soon after	 relations between them became bitter. Ultimately	 the appellant wife moved the court for divorce on the ground of cruelty. Her main complaint was about the dowry demanded by the husband or his parents. The trial court rejected the appellant 's case on the ground that there was no satisfactory evidence that the demands were such as to border on harassment. The High Court also rejected her case and held that the appellant appeared to be hypersensitive and imagined too much and too unnatural things	 that the demand for money had to be viewed from a proper angle	 and that there was nothing wrong in the respondent	 who was a doctor	 asking his rich wife to spare some money. Allowing the appeal by special leave	 ^ HELD: 1.1 In order to curb the evil practice of dowry	 the Parliament enacted the prohibiting the giving or taking of dowry. But	 as the pernicious practice continued in some communities	 the Dowry Prohibition (Amendment) Act	 1984 was enac 1011 ted with considerable changes in the parent Act. Likewise	 the Indian Penal Code	 1860 was amended by introducing an entirely new offence with regard to criminal jurisdiction. Section 498A was introduced providing for punishment to the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman	 subjecting her to cruelty. [1015F H] new dimension has been given to the concept of cruelty. Explanation to section 498A of the Indian Penal Code provides that any wilful conduct which is of such a nature as is likely to drive a woman to commit suicide or likely to cause grave injury or danger to life	 limb or health (whether mental or physical of the woman)	 and harassment of the woman with a view to coercing her or any person related to her to meet any unlawful demand for any property or valuable security would constitute cruelty. [1016E F] 1.2 Cruelty simpliciter is a ground for divorce under section 13 of the . However	 the word `cruelty ' has not been defined. Indeed	 it could not have been defined. It has been used in relation to or in respect of matrimonial duties and obligations. It is a course of conduct of one which is adversely affecting the other. The cruelty may be mental or physical	 intentional or unintentional. If it is physical	 the Court will have no problem to determine it. It is a question of fact and degree. If it is mental	 the enquiry must begin as to the nature of cruel treatment and the impact of such treatment in the mind of the spouse	 whether it caused reasonable apprehension that it would be harmful or injurious to live with the other. Ultimately	 it is a matter of inference to be drawn by taking into account the nature of the conduct and its effect on the complaining spouse. There may	 however	 be cases where the conduct complained of itself is bad enough and per se unlawful or illegal. Then the impact or injurious effect on the other spouse need not be enquired into or considered. In such cases	 the cruelty will be established if the conduct itself is proved or admitted. [1013E H; 1014A] 1.3 The matrimonial conduct which constitutes cruelty as a ground for dissolution of marriage	 if not admitted	 requires to be proved on the preponderance of probabilities as in civil cases and not beyond a reasonable doubt as in criminal cases. [1016G] 1.4 Evidence as to harassment to the wife to meet any unlawful demand for money is necessary to constitute cruelty in criminal law. This is the requirement of the offence of cruelty defined under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code. It is not so under section 13(1)(i a) of the Hindu 1012 Marriage Act	 1955. The cruelty need not be only intentional	 wilful or deliberate. It is not necessary to prove the intention in matrimonial offence. From the context and the set up in which the words `cruelty ' has been used in section 13(1)(i a)	 intention is not a necessary element in cruelty. That word has to be understood in the ordinary sense of the term in matrimonial affairs. If the intention to harm	 harass or hurt could be inferred by the nature of the conduct or brutal act complained or	 cruelty could be easily established. But the absence of intention should not make any difference in the case	 if by ordinary sense in human affairs	 the act complained of could otherwise be regarded as cruelty. The relief to the party cannot be denied on the ground that there has been deliberate or wilful ill treatment. [1020F H; 1021A C] 1.5 The matrimonial duties and responsibilities are of varying degrees from house to house or person to person. Therefore	 when a spouse makes complaint about the treatment of cruelty by the partner in life or relations	 the Court should not search for standard in life. In matrimonial cases	 the Court is not concerned with the ideals in family life. It has only to understand the spouses concerned as nature made them	 and consider their particular grievance. [1014B	F] Sheldon vs Sheldon	 	 259	 Gollins vs Gollins	 ; 1972 and Narayan Ganesh Dastane vs Sucheta Narayan Dastane	 ; 1978	 referred to.