Calling the other side "SJWs" is kind of insulting, and an easy way to shut down a dialogue too. Last I looked, that label came from right-wing media outlets looking to dismiss the issues raised by some individuals. If you truly want a fair discussion, I'd suggest that you not use that label.

I'd cheerfully agree that equal opportunities is a great goal. So, how do you get there for groups that don't have the same set of advantages as others, and what do you call equalizing those advantages if you don't like the label of "affirmative action"?

Telling someone who faces subtle disadvantages -- in particular ones you're not aware of -- that they should just "get over" race could be taken as kind of insulting too. And I say this as someone who, as you can see from my own posting, finds the label "white privilege" as being kind of insulting as well. But equally, I think it would be ridiculous to claim that there aren't a bunch of advantages in being part of our society's dominant group.