Even if we agree with your last line...

Isn't it just as accurate that "Catholic hierarchy don't want it; they want Protestants to conform"?  

And I ask this very, very seriously: How do you and Mrs. Archer handle it when you disagree,  stipulating that divorce is out of the question? I'll bet there are very, very few "deal breakers" where one of you would say "Get out and don't come back til you agree with me." 

I'll bet to you two, unity is more important than uniformity. It better be.