I'd add the most transforming experience of common humanity in modern America has been sports leading in desegregation.  I've known many small town athletes who first experience with a black person was in sports.   You will find lifelong friendships between black and white based on being teammates and competitors.

One nice thing about sport's, it has rules and people to enforce them.    That brings it down to who performs the best, and skin color is not an excuse.   *My daughter is an IowaStat grad, home to Jack Trice Field, the first black athlete to be fatally injured in football by the intentional actions of Minn players during his first varsity game.     

Moving toward equality sometimes has a sad price to pay.   Trice paid with his life, but it's moved race relationships forward.   I doubt we ever have a fully color blind society, but we can learn the practice of empathy and compassion for others, of any color.