I'm judging my sister's divorce.  It was a decision like any other in her life, weighing the pluses and the minuses.  But if she took her marriage and her faith more seriously, she and her husband would be working it out.  I'm pretty sure that's how most divorces go these days, and I have witnessed others.

Now ask me how many times I would have left my wife had I not taken seriously my vow to love her in the presence of God.  There were times that it seemed irreparable, yet here we are over 20 years together.  I know my grandparents (50+ years wed) and my parents (50+ years wed) had their issues, as well.

My brother's wife is bi-polar, manic depressive: married 25 years.  My sister used to show up with unexplained bruises in the earlier years of her marriage (married 30 years, happy, and the bruises stopped).

A 20-page booklet is too much to bear?  No wonder that marriage didn't last; I'd go for the lack of capacity annulment.