There's a whole lot of variety in how people worship and what they believe Bill.   It all seems quite real and solid when put into a religious theology, but I serious doubt God cares how you find your way to the doorstep or what you are wearing.  I find it very hard to claim any one path (and that includes those who follow Jesus).

All that makes sense to me only because God is really not a person we can imagine.  One person can't

There reason to thing that gender is not going matter at death.  As Jesus told the remarried widower who asked which wife he would be with in eternity.  Jesus said his marriages will not matter, "we will be like angels".   Angels have no gender and are not human.   Don Orange is a pastor and friend.  He would point out "Have you ever noticed when angels show up on Earth, it just scares the heck out of everybody"  (they are NOT sitting on fluffy clouds with harps).

I've always felt male and female are parts of the single whole, separated by our human form.