You'll probably call me heartless.  Maybe I shouldn't personalize this, but that's what you have done bigtime in your essay.

You are saying that I and all other taxpayers should have money taken out of our pockets to pay for your husband's needs.  Why?  Because you don't want yourself and your own family to have to spend all your own money for that purpose nor to feel you must sacrifice your own career to personally provide the needed care.

Let me say that more strongly.  You want to forcibly (tax) take my money and put it into your pocket.  That's immoral, and should be illegal.  You will not shame me by calling me stingy, heartless, having a "dark heart" etc.  You certainly have every right to ASK for help from family, friends, neighbors, church, etc.  Or start a gofundme account.  But you have no right to make a law to FORCE anyone to give you money, especially to enable yourself to keep your own money and inheritance.