Here is the problem with your position. If you insist on ignoring the 'will' of a substantial portion of the population of a region, then you often end up in civil war. The US is perhaps the most famous example of that. Lincoln had absolutely zero business insisting that the 'union' remain in tact. In fact, the war of independence had been fought on exactly that principle - the enduring 'right' of people to choose their own path, if that is the only way they can find the freedom they seek.