in continuance: perhaps an example would make this more clear: If you have a female receptionist being refused to speak during board meeting, this is clearly not sexist, because the receptionist, regardless of gender, is not a member of the board and has no right to speak during the meeting. However, if a female board-member is not allowed to voice her opinion during the board meeting and is constantly interrupted by her male colleagues and, if her male colleagues are not treated similarly, one could plausibly claim sexism. 

If you are to be taken seriously as a writer, you must learn to distinguish between like and unlike scenarios. It may be profitable to try and push a "liberal hypocrisy" narrative, but at least make some attempt at intellectual honesty while doing so.