You have a point in that some feminists have muddied the waters and totally confused a lot of men with their emphasis on women's sexual "empowerment", supposedly limitless sexual voracity, "slut shaming", etc.

Many men have interpreted that as meaning women are, just like them, always ready and willing to have sex with anyone available, or would be if not repressed by society, and so are ready to interpret a woman's refusal as either old-fashioned coyness or evidence of "repression", which could be overcome with a little forceful "persuasion". "Try it, you'll like it!" "You know you WANT it!"

The alternative would be to accept that the woman just does not find them attractive...and their ego can't handle that.