Not trying to be stubborn here but as a single parent, I'm scratching my head comparing my own parenting with the parenting of my mother and father, and not really seeing how I relate to my kid in "a woman way" or "a man way." I see myself doing things my mom did and my dad did because I inherited that particular mix of traits from them (there's more of my dad in me).

I don't know what you mean by parenting after the onset of puberty. Yes, it is complex but both genders need to find meaningful work to do for the rest of their lives and both need support in discerning who/what makes a good friend or lifelong partner (I think the list varies only slightly based on gender). It doesn't matter whether you are raising a son or a daughter--these things matter at this age. 

When you say you have the inside track on the overwhelmingly common experience of male and female parents, are you sure or are you just repeating what you think is true?