And yet you don't "test" the idea behind the word you used ("penalized")?

Doesn't it strike you that perhaps you've swallowed the secular's world's criteria: power, (misunderstood) freedom, position, accolades, money, rights?

The goal in life is self-gift, love.   How you demean motherhood (and of course indirectly fatherhood). 

The noblest vocations (I didn't use the secular word "profession") in the world are mother and father. 

We have to "give back to them" their noble and holy meanings, sucked out and distorted by secularists. 

There is no greater love (and use of freedom) than laying down one'e life (and of course ambitions etc. ) for someone else. 

Jesus taught us this.

Your whole schpiel is so utterly temporal, secular. Every bit of it.  You just can't see it.  There's a whole other plane of action.  It's hard even to talk to you, since you don't recognize the supernatural in the ordinary.