Oh so you now proclaim ignorance of the law.  Consider killing.  Pre-meditated murder, manslaughter, negligent homocide, etc. etc.  Criminal mischief I, II, III, etc.  Most crimes are differentiated in terms of severity and degree.  You are the one who says rape is no big deal.  You are desperate to put those words in my mouth.  Fact is, rape is not a single thing.  Sex is not a single thing.  The same physical acts (sexual acts) can be pleasurable with a lover  or torture under duress.  The complexity is profound.  Intelligent people must analyze to determine severity.  In my world view, murder is the ultimate crime.  The ultimate violation.  For you, it is apparently rape.  

I think you are very much women hating because you reduce them to helpless victim machines preyed upon by the male.  Such a characterization is demeaning beyond all understanding.  To say that women should not examine actions for likelihood of negative consequence, condemns many to profound injury.  Evil you are