Ada,
So very sorry. She was a beautiful girl and you can tell she had a beautiful spirit and soul. 
Please reconsider and DO name those places. Part of the problem is that these places get away with not following the training and rules. Although you have no plans to sue, people need to know what places don't look out for those who are too intoxicated. Just imagine if one of those bartenders or sales clerks had put her in a cab instead of putting booze in her hand. Do it for that next girl who may run into the same. It's not about 'blaming' them, but making them responsible because they agree to do just that and overwhelmingly don't. I've seen many serve people inebriated with no care for their safety. Part of working in the liquor industry is taking responsibility for those who are vulnerable and cannot take responsibility for themselves when they are over served. 
The laws are set to protect. It takes people to follow and enforce and realize it's a matter of life and death.