This is a red herring.

No one has said that perfect families exist, Holy Father.  No one.

Why lash us with the obvious?

But our Lord did tell us to "be perfect as my Heavenly Father is perfect"

This is a perfection of charity, not one of power/mastery over the temporal.

And so we must realize that Our Lord wants us to struggle a bit with Him every day, drawing a tiny bit closer..and when we fall down..He wants us to run to Him..as He runs to us...so that He can help us.

It's not pastoral to tell people.."don't bother struggling...don't aim for holiness".

I mean just look at the sad pile of marriages we've seen since "no fault divorce"