I totally agree. I've also found that that is generally the case for the men who are priests, at least with women. They are grateful enough if women apologize for some misunderstanding between them and act as though they are glad that they've learned what Jesus had in mind, but they don't initiate it even though they were the one who wronged. Women are supposed to do their emotional work for them, then be patronized by them for the effort. If priests fix the relationship problem, it is only by acting as though it no longer happened. The exception seems to be those who have sisters and have a better idea of being a part of a family instead of being a favored eldest or only son.


That, I think, is at the heart of the clerical problem, then magnified and concretized by being brought into a man-club with its bonds. They just see themselves as presenting the way to live and forget that we expect them to live by it even if they don't have that expectation.