This gray area is my point. I do not think you "jut ask" as somebody has said in response to one of my posts. And I'm no Trump either (despite my first name). I like and respect women. Sometimes you're not sure about her wishes, but are sure about yours, so you try some sort of overture. If it fails, you've got to drop it, but unless you're unnaturally aggressive, the overture ought not in itself to be sexual assault.