I am very sympathetic to your experience Michael3.  I'm a woman.  So I'm going to share something that is similar and my experience.  I was living in Newport OR for a couple of years.  I took the Master Gardener classes at Hatfield and this was 2000=2002.  One of our projects was to go to an elementary school and help a class set up raised beds for their garden. 

My partner, a male, and I gave a lecture and then moved on to the physical work w/the class c of 5th graders following.  OMG.  This one girl.........age wise she was a girl, stand up and walk in front of us to go out the door and my mouth hung open and my eyes followed her in disbelief.  When I looked away, her male teacher was pinning me down w/this look that even today I don't understand.  It was a nasty look and I was very grateful I wasn't a male.  She was as developed as a woman of mid 20's,, dressed liked a hooker and carried herself as a female who is, ah........experienced.  LOOKED like...don't know if she was.