Not sure where you're going with that comment, but it sure sounds like an ugly place.

There's under 100 spousal homicides every year, clear across the country, but just in my province (Alberta) alone, there was several thousand people who presented to the DV shelter system last year. You aren't seriously arguing that because 80% of that tiny subset that were killed were women that we should feel perfectly justified in cutting the THOUSANDS of men that make up at least 50% of our victim pool from services, wholesale, clear across the country ... are you?  It kind of sounds like that's where you're headed with this line of reasoning.

You also know that this stat still means 20% of those murdered by their spouses were men, right? Are we really in the business of telling those 20 they can't get a bed because there's likely 80 women also out there in their situation, somewhere in the country, that matter more? Are we really so blinkered by gender BS that we can't help all 100 stay alive?