Here's what your argument boils down to:  The family isn't really being broken up, because the kids can (a) visit papito a couple times a year or (b) tear themselves up by the roots, give up their entire world and go away with papa.

And if they choose not to jump when your whip cracks, why, it's all the kids' fault.  

Those kids, amirite?  

You never actually raised any, is what your comment says loudest to me.