You are exactly what he is talking about here.  He isn't talking about lacking empathy for the victims.  He has it.  He is talking about empathy and sensibility regarding the abusers.    It was a great article.  "Your article makes me sick."  That makes me sick, unfortunately, because you completely missed the point of the article, or rather several points, which is sad.  He's talking about stuff I hadn't noticed, and I'm glad he brought it to my attention.  It's call insight and sharing.