I empathize with your experience. As a male, can I explain from my (I certainly can't speak for any other male) perspective? We were faced with a most difficult choice, complete radical hysterectomy or not? Her Mother had recently died of uterine cancer and her older sister has endometrial cancer. Lynch syndrome was suspected but ironically, the Ontario Government would not approve testing to confirm. I fully understood the probable impact on our sex life but weighed against a possible/probable cancer diagnosis in the near future, for me, the decision was easy. Sex vs death. I supported her decision without reservation, whatever she decided. Post surgery, our sex life is dormant and I have no regrets. We will grow old together and love and laugh together, that is far more important to me.