I have mixed feelings for LW1. On one hand, yes, I'm sure it would be nice to have the mother be able to attend and I'm sure it would be a lot to her too. But on the other hand, call me insensitive, but it's supposed to be a celebration of love primarily between the bride and groom. Yes, families are coming together too, blah, blah, but it's primarily the bride's day. I can see why a bride who's likely been thinking/dreaming about what her wedding would look like for years wouldn't want to do a quickie wedding and just to get it over with. 

Personally, I don't think it's fair to call this woman selfish, unsupportive, bridezilla, etc...