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Here is Aristotle: "... Friendship...it is a thing most necessary for life, since NO ONE WOULD CHOOSE TO LIVE WITHOUT FRIENDS THOUGH HE SHOULD HAVE ALL THE OTHER GOOD THINGS IN THE WORLD...FOR WHERE IS THE USE OF SUCH PROSPERITY IF THERE BE TAKEN AWAY THE DOING OF KINDNESS OF WHICH FRIENDS ARE THE MOST USUAL AND MOST COMMENDABLE OBJECTS" (caps for emphasis).
Now Paul:  If I have all the eloquence of men or of angels, but speak without love, I am simply a gong booming or a cymbal clashing.  IF I HAVE THE GIFT OF PROPHECY, UNDERSTANDING ALL THE MYSTERIES THERE ARE, AND KNOWING EVERYTHING AND IF I HAVE FAITH IN ALL ITS FULLNESS, TO MOVE MOUNTAINS, BUT WITHOUT LOVE, THEN I AM NOTHING AT ALL.
(By the way, I am told that the Greek word Aristotle uses for "friendship" also means "love")
The lesson for me is that until we understand and live in civility and compassion as human beings, as SECULAR, our faith is deceiving, a deception.