DD,

A person who is gifted by the Holy Spirit easily recognizes and respects when another is gifted and their experience with God enables them to see quickly when a person is not gifted. Thinking that a person can be gifted by the Holy Spirit without having a testimony about their experience with the power of God is the first evidence that their concepts are based on theory rather than scripture and experience with God. Second is their persistence in arguing with those who are gifted and ministering using the gifts that are in them. Please, get experience with God, discover the gifts He has promised to give all who believe and find the ministry He wants you doing. Then come back and let's celebrate God's greatness together.