Jazz13man, other than "Let's not paint everyone with the same brush", not sure what you're trying to say.  What "kind of structure" are you talking about? 

Re: "others have no choice."  Not sure who the "others" are that you refer to. Doesn't matter. Because we ALL have a choice. 

Yesterday a friend recalled the moment when her former husband phoned her from the airport. He was bound for business appointments in another city. "I just can't get on that airplane," he told her. "Can you come and get me?" She did.  He quit. 
I'm reminded of the lyrics of a great Don Henley song: 

Harry got up
Dressed all in black
Went down to the station
And he never came back.

They found his clothing
Scattered somewhere down the track
And he won't be down on Wall Street in the morning.

He had a home
The love of a girl
But men get lost sometimes
As years unfurl...

One day he crossed some line
And he was too much in this world...

Happily, some--like Harry--realize that, yes, they have a choice!