Perhaps Playboy fits your definition of pornography but sorry...FREEDOM OF CHOICE has ruined lives. Freedom of choice, Freedom of the press, Free enterprise...ever heard of those concepts? That is Playboy. Anything illegal about them? 

Can I assume you will post a similar comment strongly endorsing gun control? After all, firearms have ruined many lives too. Or is your logic something like: Guns do not kill people; people kill people BUT porn ruins lives not people choices on how they use it?

Moralists flip flop all the time despite their self-perception of being "holier than thou"....it just depends on whether an issue fits THEIR politics.  If you want to define Playboy as pornography so it fits your beliefs and makes you all comfy, that is fine. However it becomes a ringing endorsement that  freedom of choice and individual rights play no role in the "ruin."

I can write a 5 volume novel on "freedom of choice" and its consequences which will match your porn novel word for word.