Judgement works differently for me (a woman). I struggle to maintain domestic order, and I am always delighted to visit someone whose house is messier or dirtier than mine--it makes me feel like I can relax about a reciprocal invitation. And it's a bit like seeing someone who is more comfortable in their body, flaws and all, than I am--inspirational, a bit of "why can't I care less and accept my life/myself/my house, like she does--she seems so much HAPPIER."