A lot of lasting pain, harm, tears, agony and sleepless nights derive from orders from those self-assured that they are doing God's work---and you're not! They can sleep at night, convinced that they play by the rules, a very low bar they can hurdle and think they are morally victorious. 

A "clerical cult of clarity" excuses--even lauds--any directive that erases the dreaded evils of confusion and nuance. Followers of this sect condemn Pope Francis's alleged ambiguity, claiming "The Joy of Loving" should be a codified rule book.  

Denial of a funeral for a child of God?  Small price to pay for clarity.

Assuring agony by family, friends, colleagues, and others? Small price to pay for victory over ambiguity. 

When we worship clarity and claim charity is trendy, we surrender to "the lawyers" who think they compose the admissions committee to heaven.