Oh, no sir.  No.  I know you mean well and have good intentions, but, really, trust me on this - NO.

First off, men do not get to "grant" women personal responsibility and such.  That is a strange way of conceptualizing personal responsibility at all, and very patronizing.  And the very idea that the victim of a crime should be held accountable  for the crimes committed against them is so horribly wrong that I must assume you were just not really thinking about what you were saying. 

 Why don't you extend this to all crimes?  Why do you exempt the victim of street crime from being responsible and accountable for the crime against them?  Why aren't all victims expected to respond to potential violence appropriately and productively? And why is the abuser of an educated woman absolved  of accountability and responsibility?  

You have not "granted" anything to women here, nor does this exhibit much caring.  Guys, talk to women about this before you offer opinions.  Trust me on this...