"She . . . said she could never join a church that discriminates against women."

It is unfortunate that this error continues to be perpetuated, both in and out of the SDA Church.  To equate role difference with discrimination is disingenuous, at least the way the term "discrimination" is used.  Discrimination is not always bad.  We all discriminate in one way or another.  We evaluate our kids' friends, sometimes forbidding them to associate with those who exert a bad influence.  We discriminate by evaluating our friends of the opposite sex, and eventually choose one for a spouse.  In the US, we discriminate by not allowing anyone who was not born here to become president. 

Even the Godhead has role distinctions.  But these differences in roles have nothing to do with inferiority, ability, or any other negative aspect.  As long as we phrase it as "discrimination," we can't even have a meaningful discussion.