Underwhelmed?  Parker's experience is a common response that many women use: "stashed the experiences so deeply in my psyche’s junk folder" -- it felt wrong, so it was buried to avoid confrontation.  Confrontational women, not too long ago, would have found themselves on the floor -- maybe with a black eye to boot -- for talking back to their spouse.  The essence of that attitude is still alive and well -- as many don't see their behavior as something they "should not engage in" nor do they consider it "abhorrent behavior".