The gratuitous, unmerited - in fact the "unreasonable" - love we give to our neighbors (or not) is a direct expression of the love we have for God. 

"least of your brethren" applies, John. 

Too much self focus...your hurt, your pain, you.  waaHAAH.

I "side" with Christ.

That we make a big deal about our hurts, our pains, our bullied memories..says that we think an awful lot about ourselves.  We hold ourselves very high on the priority list...higher than our neighbor, and higher than God.