Problem: Article: Though it might go against your instincts, your elusiveness rating might get a boost if you are intentionally indirect, incomplete, or vague in your conversations. You don't have to be withhold all the details from friends, classmates, and co-workers, but in a group setting people often imagine that other members are like themselves. Use this to your advantage by allowing your conversation partner's imagination to fill in the details they already expect. Some example questions and responses: Q: What did you do last night? A: Oh, the usual. You know me, I've always got something going on. Q: What are your plans for this weekend? A: Well, I was thinking about meeting up with some people downtown. The key to this strategy is to accept the invitation, but not the occasion. Tell your friend or acquaintance that you'll gladly take them up on the offer some other time, but that you already have plans for the date mentioned. Be careful not to deny offers too frequently, or you might end up appearing cold or distant. It can help if you have some emergency chores or errands in reserve. This can also be a kinder way of postponing plans with somebody, as it is less direct (and cold) than a simple "no." When you are certain you don't want to be available and, instead, want to showcase your elusiveness, planned responses can be useful: "I'd love to join, but I have plans already. How about next time?" "I hate how busy I've been lately. I keep missing your parties. Next weekend I'm free if you are." "You have no idea how much I'd rather be hanging with you, but something's come up and I have to take care of it." You might be thinking of dividing your attention between different people at a party, and that is a very effective strategy for amplifying your elusiveness. However, you can also use body language to indicate that there might be more on your mind than your current conversation. Look slightly upwards without completely breaking line of sight with your conversation partner to indicate distraction. Repeated actions, like tapping your toes or casually checking your watch, also serve as signs that you might have other factors to contend with. Try to use subtle gestures so that you don't end up upsetting anyone. This doesn't mean you have to abandon your current group of friends for the popular group, but you might want to take some time to talk one-on-one with those who are well regarded in your community. This can give the impression that you are broadly connected, which only makes you more elusive. If asked about your relationship with high status members, be vague or hint at non-specifics. As an example: A: Hey, what were you and the class president talking about the other day? B: Nothing in particular, aside from what everyone is talking about. But I really don't want to continue that conversation here, so maybe we'll pick it up again later? Language can sometimes have a strange effect on people, like making them unwilling to tear paper upon which the names of family members have been written. By withholding a name in conversation, you leave the subject you are talking about vague and uncertain, which by association, makes you more difficult to pin down. Practice using general forms of address: "I'll be downtown tonight with some people my cousin introduced me to." "So this guy I met through a friend of mine from way back said he had exactly the same problem as you." The point in being elusive is to evade physical or mental capture, but rudeness is hurtful to others. If you turn down a person too often or randomly disappear when hanging out, your friends might interpret your behavior as insensitive or disrespectful. Remember that the bonds of family and friendship require time and effort on your part to be preserved.
Summary: Try the "less is more" approach. Learn the value of a raincheck. Divide your attention. Associate yourself with high status. Use names sparingly. Appreciate the difference between being elusive and being rude.

Problem: Article: You can read the description provided under the podcast's name in iTunes and use it to find it online. You'll need to have located the podcast first - this can be done through a podcast site. Right-click the files and select "Save as," then put save them in a folder. You will need your USB cable. Plug the smaller end of the cable into your phone's charging port, and the larger, wider end into you PC's USB port. Follow the prompts on your PC to use the phone as a storage drive. Copy the content to your mobile device. Do this by opening the device on your PC as a drive and dragging and dropping the podcast files onto the device folder. Eject it on the computer before pulling the cable out of the USB slot.
Summary: Use your computer to locate the podcast on the Internet. Find files of the episodes. Connect your phone to your PC. Select the podcast files you want. Disconnect your phone. Find the files in your device's file directory and start listening!

Problem: Article: If you have bangs or short wisps that frame your face, style them however you like. Leave them untouched, create a soft curl with a curling iron, or make a sleek, straight style with a flat iron. If you would rather not have any hair near your face, use extra bobby pins to pull these strands back and secure them at the sides of your head. Even if your hair feels completely secure with bobby pins, it's smart to give your French knot a spritz of hairspray as well. This will ensure that your knot stays in place all day, and it will also help to eliminate frizz. Don't over-do it no one wants their hair to look like hard plastic. Hold the hairspray about 6 inches away from your hair and only hold down the spray for a second. Once you've applied the hair spray, avoid touching your French knot. This can cause frizz and ruin the sleek look you've created. If you're going to be out of the house all day, make sure you throw a couple of bobby pins in your purse or backpack. The French knot is a great style because of its simplicity and elegance, but one big stray hair can really throw off the entire thing. In case of stray pieces of hair, turbulence, or unforeseen bad weather, it's always important to bring emergency touch-up supplies!
Summary: Style any short pieces near your face. Spray your French knot with hairspray. Bring bobby pins along with you.

Problem: Article: If you or someone you are thinking about suicide, get help immediately. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency response (911). The following are some signs to look for if you are concerned about a loved one: Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves. Looking for a way to kill themselves. Making statements about being hopeless. Talking about having no reason to live. A psychologist or counselor can help you understand difficult emotions and overcome trauma. This person has the education, training, and experience to help you overcome issues that are driving your behaviors. Ask your doctor for a referral to a counselor or psychologist who specializes in self-harm. Schedule an appointment to talk. If you have trouble being honest with a close friend or family member, you may find it freeing and comforting to share with someone who doesn't know you. If you have some really difficult life situations, such as abuse or a traumatic incident, or your feelings are so overwhelming that they drive you to cut or harm yourself, the most productive place for you to express those feelings is in a safe, neutral, and nonjudgmental environment. Your community may have a self-injury support group. This group can be helpful in identifying, verbalizing and coping with feelings associated with self-harm. Look on the S.A.F.E. Alternatives website for listings of support groups near you. Some people who self-harm may be experiencing other mental health issues, such as depression,, substance abuse, eating disorders, schizophrenia, or personality disorders., If you feel that you may have another disorder that is contributing to your self-harm, talk with your doctor or counselor. Be truthful with your therapist about what you feel or what's been going on. Remember that he is there to help you. If you aren't honest, you might not get the treatment you really need. It's important to tell the truth. Remember, therapy is confidential, so anything you say to your therapist will not be repeated unless you are planning to hurt yourself or another.
Summary:
Get help if there is the risk of suicide. Seek professional help. Find a support group. Talk to your doctor about other conditions. Be honest.