When you arrive at an in-call location, look around. If you see anything suspicious (lots of people walking around, doing maintenance or clean-up, watching you), or get a weird feeling, just walk away. Remember that most hotels do their housekeeping early in the day, and maintenance is rarely done at night. Be safe and smart. Do this before you arrive at the location. You don't want a nefarious person seeing you do this. Only take your cell phone, cash and keys with you. If you have a spare wallet, use that one. You never know if the escort will rip you off and steal your valuables. When you get inside her in-call location, show her you have the agreed upon amount, and place it clearly on a nightstand or table. This money is only for her time(not for any illegal services). Do not attempt to exchange sex for money. It is against the law. Ask her if she is at least 18, and make sure she has a license to practice escorting in the state that you are in. If she does not answer yes to both of those questions then you are breaking the law. It could be a police officer, or an underage trafficker. Some escorts may ask you to wash your hands, or even take a shower. Taking a shower could mean she might leave with your money while you're not looking, so you can say you just took one (you should anyway, before and after). It's less likely an established escort will run off with your money, so keep that in mind when you're picking a new girl with no reviews or online history. You may be able to take the cash into the bathroom with you, she may or may not get offended at this. Take your wallet, cell phone and keys into the bathroom. Once she sees your donation and knows you're serious, she should have no problem undressing for you, which is a legal adult activity. However, state laws vary as to what is deemed legal and illegal. Make sure you look up your state's escort and sex laws beforehand to make sure. Escorts are very careful about how they talk about money, sex, dating etc. They will use code words like "donations" or "girlfriend experience." Make sure that when you are talking you also use code words. Never come right out and ask for sex, or a sexual act. Use terms like "get comfortable" or "get to know you." This is important, because you do not want the escort to steal your belongings while you are asleep. You also want to leave the in-call location, and move your car, so that no one you know finds out. Remember to leave at different times than your escort. You do not want to leave together.

Summary: Be cautious upon arrival. Take your wallet out, and hide it in your car. Display your money to the escort. Check the escort's legal status. Clean yourself up, if asked. Get comfortable. Use escort lingo while talking. Leave immediately when your experience is over.

To organize your mind for a project right in front of you, you should learn how to tune out distractions. Practice this by placing yourself in an area with distractions while working on a serious project. Start with only a short time in this environment--say 5 minutes--and gradually increase this time duration each day. For example, sit near the television while doing paperwork like homework or work forms. See how long you can tune out the TV before losing focus. Do a little of this exercise each day, trying to go longer without losing focus each time. Eventually your ability to focus will increase and you will feel like your mind is becoming more organized while actively doing projects. Paying attention to a conversation shows organization of your mind as well as a desire to be considerate of other people. To practice, have a conversation in a location you know to be distracting, like with the TV on or in a public place. Make an effort to ignore what's going on around you, and gauge how long it takes before you stop listening. Try to have a conversation like this everyday until you have paid attention the entire time. It doesn't have to be the same person everyday. You can have the conversation over the phone, but try not to have it over the internet or text messaging because people in chat settings tend to pause a lot (because they're distracted themselves). Paying attention to a lecture, whether at school or for progressional development, shows an organized mind. Practice focusing when someone else is talking by attending classes and visiting lectures, even sermons, and making note of how long you listen before letting your thoughts wander. Make an effort to listen longer each time you attend a lecture. Help yourself focus by taking notes. Note taking not only forces your brain to pay close attention, like we said handwriting does in an earlier part of this guide, but it provides a way to visually organize your thoughts. When it's time to make a big decision, it is especially important to have an organized mind. Just like we need schedules to help us with time management, spreadsheets help us organize the big picture so that it's quantifiable. A spreadsheet is basically a big chart of pros and cons, but you should also include columns for qualities and rankings. You can find templates for this type of spreadsheet online. The beauty of a spreadsheet is that you can make it as simple or complicated as you like, and no matter what, it will always look neat and tidy since it's typed. When you're done with your decision spreadsheet, print it out and post it so that you can think about all its aspects and come to a decision you won't regret.

Summary: Shut out distractions for a project. Ignore distractions in a conversation. Block irrelevant things in a lecture. Organize your thoughts in a spreadsheet.

Before getting started, you'll want to make sure your patio is completely clear. Find a place away from your work area to stash patio furniture, dining sets, planters, grills, toys and anything else that may be damaged by free-flowing water or cleaning solutions. Your work area should ideally be as empty as you can get it. Bring lightweight furniture inside, and move heavier pieces to the yard, sidewalk or a covered porch. Prolonged exposure to moisture can cause metal furniture and appliances to rust. Use a broom to dislodge as much loose debris from the patio as you can. This will make it easier to reach the more stubborn stains underneath, as well as give you an idea how extensive the cleaning methods you employ will need to be. Substances like compact dirt, dried mulch or sidewalk chalk may need to be scrubbed by hand using an abrasive sponge. Once you've swept the concrete, hose it down with a heavy stream of water. Push the dirt off to an adjoining section of the yard to drain. The concrete will then need time to dry before you can move on to other, more involved methods. If it's been awhile since you last cleaned your patio, add some mild liquid dish detergent to a bucket of warm water to make a soapy rinse. The surfactants in the soap will help break up dirt and oil more effectively. In some cases, a good hosing may be all you need to remove a thin layer of dirt and sediment.
Summary: Remove all furniture and other objects. Sweep away excess dirt. Spray the patio with a garden hose.