Some people try to avoid their feelings after a breakup, while others wallow in them. Try to find a happy medium. Plan out time each day to think about the breakup. Use this time to cry and feel sad. Once the time is up, move on to another activity so that your whole day doesn't get stuck in the dumps. Consider setting a one hour timer. As the days and weeks go on, lessen the time each day. Oftentimes after a breakup, you might only remember your ex's wonderful qualities and forget their flaws. However, remember that you broke up for a reason. Your ex may not be the worst person, but they are deceitful and dishonest if they left you for someone new. Write down this in addition to all the other negative things they did and said. For instance, perhaps they were rude to waiters, messy, or yelled at you. You might have tons of questions to ask your ex. You might wonder why and how they could do this. Or what this new person did to make them leave you. But, asking them these questions will often lead to more hurt. Instead, write a letter. Talk about how you feel and get out anything you want to say, but don't send the letter. You can burn it, rip it up, or keep it. Being dumped for someone else has likely taken a toll on your self esteem. You might be feeling pretty low and you might even be having some pretty negative thoughts about yourself. When these thoughts arise, address them head-on and out loud when possible. Remind yourself how awesome you are to drown out the negativity. For instance, if you think "she left me because I'm dumb," combat this with "I am smart. Her leaving me has nothing to do with my intellect. It has to do with the kind of person she is." Try not to blame yourself for anything that might have happened. If you feel as though you are unable to do this, you may want to seek help from a professional therapist. To boost your confidence even further, write down all of the cool things you have done. Got an A on your last final? List that. Have a nice haircut that you regularly get complimented on? Write that down, too. List nice things you've done for others, happy moments you've enjoyed recently, or any compliments you've received. Write down at least a few positive characteristics or qualities about yourself. For example, are you kind, funny, generous, or intelligent? You can make this list on a sheet of paper or in the Notes app on your phone. During this time of grief, remember that your support system can help you through it. On tough days, call them up to chat. If you're feeling overwhelmed with household chores, call them and ask for help. Once you start to feel better, return the favor when they are in need. Avoid isolating yourself during this time. Relying on your support group will help you feel better. Imagine if your best friend was going through the same thing. What would you say to them? What kinds of things would you do to make them feel better? Once you have identified these things, do them for yourself. For example, if you would buy them a present, buy a present for yourself. Talk to yourself the same way you would speak to your friend in this situation. You might say, "You're better off without that person in your life."
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One-sentence summary -- Schedule time to grieve each day. List all your ex's faults. Write a letter to your ex, but don't send it. Talk back to the negative voices in your head. Write down your accomplishments. Rely on friends and family. Treat yourself as you would treat your best friend.

If home treatment isn't working or your breast pain is affecting your daily life, see your doctor. Breast pain is very common and very treatable, and getting a medical diagnosis early can help you relieve pain and/ or get proper treatment for underlying causes. You can see your regular doctor or visit an ob/gyn, who specializes in treating disorders such as tendinitis. Your doctor will conduct a physical exam to check your pain as well as feel for abnormalities in your breasts. She will also likely ask for a health history, including factors such as what type of activities you do and what medications you take. Bromocriptine, an oral medication, may be prescribed. Ask your doctor to prescribe a topical non-steroidal anti-inflammatory cream or purchase an over the counter option at a local pharmacy. This can help relieve pain and reduce swelling associated with breast tenderness. Apply the cream directly to the area of your breasts on which you feel pain. Because birth control pills often contain hormones, they may contribute to breast pain. Consult with your doctor about adjust the type or dose of pill you take, which may help to relieve breast pain. Skipping the placebo, or pill-free, week, may also help manage breast tenderness. Switching your form of birth control to a non-drug method may also help. Make sure to consult your doctor before stopping your birth control pills or changing them. If you are using hormone therapy for menopause or another condition, talk to your doctor about reducing or stopping your dosage. This may help relieve breast pain and tenderness, but may also have other side effects. Speak to your doctor about reducing your medications, going off of them, or trying alternative hormonal treatments. These drugs are short-term solutions for extreme pain and may be a last resort for those women who do not respond to other therapies. Speak to your doctor and consider taking one of these medications to help manage your breast tenderness. You need a prescription from your doctor for both Danazol and Tamoxifen. Be aware that both of these drugs can come with significant side effects including weight gain, acne, and voice changes. If your breast pain is causing you stress, think about undergoing relaxation therapy. Although studies have not been conclusive, some evidence suggests that relaxation therapy may help relieve breast pain by controlling the severe anxiety that can accompany it.
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See your doctor. Rub topical anti-inflammatory cream on your breasts. Adjust birth control pills. Reduce hormone therapy medications. Consider the drugs Tamoxifen and Danazol. Undergo relaxation therapy.