It's important to consider your decision when you are not emotionally upset and able to think clearly. This can help you avoid making an impulsive decision that you may regret or hurt the other person. It's more difficult to problem solve when you are emotionally upset, and this may contribute to irrational decisions. It's important to gain clarity as to why you want to break up. This can help you distinguish between the simple road bumps in a relationship and more serious and irreconcilable issues between you and your partner. Only you can define what are irreconcilable issues and those that you can overcome. For example, if your partner doesn't treat others well or doesn't want children, these are often factors that cannot be changed. On the other hand, a person's unwillingness to help around the house may be something they can amend. Every couple has arguments, but if those spats are constant and ugly, it may suggest deeper issues and incompatibility. If you're in an emotionally or physically harmful relationship, this is usually a clear sign to end the partnership. Consider writing a list of reasons you want to end your relationship. You may also want to include positives and negatives about your partner and the interactions and relationship you share. Seeing the positive parts of your relationship on paper may help you to focus on these instead of the negativity that may come along with the feelings you currently have. A list may also help you avoid ending the relationship based on the feeling "it feels like the right thing to do." Remember that any type of abuse is a clear reason to end a relationship. Looking at the list and thinking it through, ask yourself if the relationship is more destructive to your life than enhancing it. If you're simply upset with your partner, consider if there is a way to change the dynamic in your relationship. Before making a final decision, you may want to focus on resolving issues, rather than simply ending the relationship as the first solution. If change is an option, see whether or not your partner is willing and able to change. If the issue in question has already been discussed without experiencing any changes for the better, and you keep feeling unsatisfied, hurt, or betrayed, then breaking up might be the only way to end the pattern. Before you decide to make a final break, discuss your frustrations and considerations with your partner. Give him the chance to make changes for the better. If you eventually decide to end the relationship, this may make it seem less abrupt and soften the blow because you'll have already voiced your frustration. Bottling up your frustration and feelings often leads to blowing up or expressing your emotions in inappropriate ways. Try to respectfully and calmly tell your partner what is bothering you. Avoid shouting, abuse, or blaming. If your partner has cheated on or harmed you in some way, you may consider these irreconcilable differences that don't deserve communicating your frustration or giving the person a chance to change. You want to avoid getting into an endless chain of hoping for your partner to change and then experiencing disappointment. Setting a limit on timing for your partner to change can help make your decision easier in the long run. You may or may not tell your partner about your timetable. Issuing "ultimatums" by saying "If you quit smoking by next month we can stay together" can lead partners to agree in the short term before going back to the old ways in the near future. Make sure that the ultimatum is helpful. In most cases, ultimatums don't work. However, it may be necessary for your relationship to remain tenable. For example, you can say "I need to see you make an effort to quit or significantly reduce your smoking habit for this to work." Issuing ultimatums such as "You need to want to have children" will likely never work and only cause harm and feelings of guilt. For some people, it can take a long time to change long-established behaviors. For example, it can take smokers months or years to quit their habit. Give your partner time to make a concerted effort to change their behavior. If you are having a difficult time getting any clarity, talk about your feelings with a person you can trust. This can help you talk through your feelings and more effectively clarify where you stand. The trusted individual may also be able to add some perspective to your or your partner's behavior as well. Your trusted person can be a friend, family member, a counselor, or health professional. Make sure that the person won't betray your confidence and discuss the issue with any outside parties. You may also want to ensure that he or she doesn't treat your partner any differently, either. After you've considered the various dynamics of your relationship, discussed them with your partner, and given your relationship a second chance if applicable, make a final decision on the fate of your relationship. This can help you begin to move on and plan for a respectful and honest break up with your partner, or focus on healing your relationship further. Remember that your decision is based on what is best for youand no else.

Summary: Avoid making a rash decision. Clarify why you want to break up. Compose a list of positives and negatives. Decide if change is possible. Communicate your frustration. Establish a reasonable timetable for change. Confide in a trusted person. Render your final decision.

Use your usual bird-experienced vet to diagnose and treat the bird's illness. You can find an avian vet by using the Association of Avian Veterinarians' database. Be prepared to call if you're not sure about anything or if changes occur that worry you. Avoid situating the bird anywhere with drafts, noise or bright light. Keep human and pet traffic to an absolute minimum. Remove distractions from the cage, such as toys, mirrors or bells. Ensure that the bird gets at least 10 to 12 hours of sleep. This may include making the bird's resting area off-bounds to all household members. In some cases, it may help to increase the humidity in your home. Talk to your vet about this; it can assist with improved breathing if the bird is congested, but the vet must okay it first. This can be helped by feeding the bird foods with a high moisture content, such as leafy greens and fruit, provided the vet has said this is okay first. If it is okay to give fruit, float a piece of grape or apple in the bird's water. This can encourage the bird to drink, as well as take the piece of fruit. Recovering birds often do well on a diet high in simple carbohydrates because these are easy for the bird to digest. Your bird's vet should give you appropriate suggestions.

Summary: See the veterinarian first. Follow the vet's home-care instructions with great care. Keep the recovering bird in a warm place that is not too hot. Keep the fluids up. Ask your vet to suggest a feeding regime.

Endpins are the classic type of earring base that jewelers use for earrings, but you can also use other types of bases to give your beaded earrings a different design. See what types of earring bases are available at your local crafting store and do some experimentation. For example, if you want your earrings to have more movement, then you could use some fishing line as the base for your beads instead. Or, you may be able to find some hoop earrings that are thin enough to slide your beads onto.
Summary: Use a different type of base.