What happens next?

How to forgive a mother after she has passed
Write down in detail exactly what it is that you resent about your mother.
We have to name it to claim it. We can't just keep saying " i resent my mother ", or " i hate my mother ", or " it's all my mother's fault ".

Possible answers: a). It is far easier to forgive her when you have a really good reason. Include this reason section in the letter.. b). Write everything down before you talk to your mother, or you just make it worse when you can't go to see her. Her actions, poor parenting, poor living conditions, she doesn't do anything.. c). Write it down in a letter or diary. Writing it down in a journal is good and that will help you get through it.. d). We can't be vague, or speak in generalities. Once you have named a specific type of behavior, or even one specific event of your mother's, we now have something to work with..
d).