Problem: Article: We all have times we need to vent or to talk about something that's bugging us. When you're in a relationship, you become each other's place to discuss what's going in your lives. However, you have to make sure you create the space for that, both time-wise and emotionally. In other words, if you always cut your partner off when they start talking about something that's bothering them, that's not creating the emotional space for them to talk. In addition, you have to open the door sometimes. When you notice your partner is looking down or sad, try to ask them what's going on. Listening is an art. You've got to really pay attention to what the other person is saying, not just trying to figure out how to respond. When you're in a serious discussion, for example, you may have a tendency to get defensive based on just a few things your partner says without really hearing them out. Trying to truly understand what their trying to say rather than getting defensive can lead to better communication. As they're talking, take in what they're saying. Open up to what's underneath the words, not just what they're saying aloud. Show them you're listening by asking leading questions. You can also offer short summaries. For instance, you could say, "What I hear you saying is your upset because I'm not spending enough time with you." That helps them know you're listening, plus it helps you to know you are getting it right. A cue is when your girlfriend or boyfriend casually mentions something that they are interested in. In turn, you take that cue and respond appropriately, sometimes by asking about the interest, sometimes by taking action. For example, say your girlfriend says something like, "Isn't that car adorable? My car is getting so run down." You could say, "Oh, are you considering get a new car?" or you could ask her if she wants to go test drive one. Another example is if your boyfriend mentions a new restaurant going in down the street that looks good. You could take the initiative and make reservations. Picking up on verbal cues shows you are listening and paying attention. A person's body language can tell you as much about the person as what the person is actually saying. The body reveals underlying thoughts and feelings, so paying attention can help you put together what your partner is actually saying. For instance, if the person turns away from you while you're talking, it could mean they've lost interested or they're trying to hide something. If they're not looking at you, it could indicate they're hiding something or that they're having trouble getting out what they want to say. It can also be a sign of embarrassment. If they cross they're arms, it could mean they're starting to get defensive about the conversation. That doesn't mean you can't discuss problems. What it does mean is you try to keep your language positive and the way you hold the discussion positive. When you start out a discussion in a positive light, it has less of a chance of escalating. It also means your partner is more likely to listen and hear you, just as you're more likely to listen and hear your partner if he or she isn't yelling at you or being angry. In other words, try not to have arguments when you're very angry, as they can just escalate into nastiness. Humor can keep discussions light, as can affection gestures, such as hugging or lightly touching the person's hand or shoulder. Sometimes, when you're really angry, you want to discuss the problem right then. However, that means the conversation is going to be overly charged with emotion, and you probably won't get anywhere except into a fight. It's okay to wait until you've calmed down to have a discussion. A 2-day rule is a good bet. That is, you should bring it up within two days if you still feel strongly about it. If not, drop it. If you must deal with the issue today, try taking an hour break. Go spend some time doing something you enjoy, such as listening to music or reading a book. Once you've distracted yourself for a while, you'll be better able to deal with the situation. If you let small things go too often, sometimes they can snowball into something bigger. Deal with issues as they arise, and you're less likely to blow up at your partner. For instance, if you hate it when your boyfriend doesn't call at night, bring it up. If you let it keep happening, it can grow into this huge thing that comes between you and him, and then you'll explode on him. You could say, "Hey, I know your busy at night, but I feel upset when I don't hear from you. I like to know your safe."
Summary: Give your partner space to talk. Listen without being defensive. Hear verbal cues. Watch your partner's body language. Try to keep discussions positive. Wait until you've calmed down. Deal with issues when they're small.

Problem: Article: While eye contact is key to attraction, being too enthusiastic can be off-putting. Try to avoid going overboard with eye contact. Once you've initiated conversation with someone, glance away while he or she talking now and again. Do not be rude by glancing away to look at your phone or someone else. Just briefly glance to the left or right to avoid being overwhelming with eye contact. You should strive to look at someone's face about three quarters of the time you're talking to that person. Keep your glances between one and seven seconds. This shows a genuine interest, which can be attractive, but does not overwhelm a potential partner with eye contact. Raising your eyebrows can be seductive. Raising your eyebrows conveys interest and recognition. When you're talking to someone, raise your eyebrows when conversation begins. This can increase your chance of seducing this person. The way you look at someone can effect your likelihood of seducing that person. Maintain level, steady eye contact when talking to someone rather than looking using the corner of your eyes. Side-eyeing can help with making initial eye contact. However, people tend to respond better to occasional direct eye contact during conversation rather than side-eyeing. On occasion, glance the object of your attraction up and down. This can help convey attraction. You can also tell if a person is interested in you based on how they look at you. If someone glances at your hips and thighs there's a good chance they're interested in you. When you're interested in someone, you can show this by eyeing their head and shoulders while they talk. This tends to convey attraction, which might help in seducing someone.
Summary:
Do not overdo it. Use eyebrows. Avoid leering. Glance the person up and down.