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This will show that you are confident and that you care enough about her to get out of her car. You should also give her flowers at this step if you have bought any This is a gentlemanly gesture which some think is antiquated. Your date may or may not like it, so consider what sort of tone you want to set for the date. If you open the door for her and she reacts negatively, take note of it and possibly let her close the door on her own. Walk around the front of the car to get back to the driver's side so you aren't awkwardly making a long walk. This is expected of men and is thought of as polite. Unless she is really against you doing so, continue this practice throughout the date. Some women do not like it when men open doors for them because they feel it diminishes their abilities as a person. Your date will likely tell you if she thinks this way. This will make it easier for her to get in. Again, some people think this is an antiquated practice but others find it very gentlemanly and polite. The most important thing you can do on a first date is to be genuinely engaged and interested in what she is saying. When she is talking, listen to what she says. Smile and ask questions to show you are listening to her. If you don't understand what she's sharing, ask her to clarify. Share experiences of yours that relate to what she shares with you. People like to be heard and understood. Be sure to look her in her eyes while she is talking. If you feel uncomfortable maintaining eye contact for a long time, as many people do, try looking right in between her eyes. Try to avoid controversial topics like religion or politics. These topics are almost guaranteed to make the date go poorly. Instead focus on FORD: Family. Ask her about siblings, parents, cousins, and uncles. Occupation. Ask her about her job and what she thinks of it. Recreation. Ask about what she does in her free time. Does she play in a sports rec. league? What are her hobbies? What shows does she watch? Dreams. What does she want for her future? This is a good way to prompt her to talk more deeply about herself. If you've found a common interest between you and your date (i.e. you both like gardening) focus on that interest. Talk about funny experiences, tips and tricks you've discovered, and your favorite parts of that common interest. Try turning the conversation back to your date by asking questions, listening, and asking follow-up questions (How did you get interested in that? Why is that your favorite? etc.). Share funny and relatable stories from your past. Talk about the same topics that you asked her about, such as your family, occupation, recreation, and dreams. If you have a plan for achieving your dreams, share that with her. It will come across as confident and passionate. Avoid dwelling on negative things and experiences. You will have time for sharing negative experiences later on in the relationship, but try to keep things positive initially. Be polite when she is speaking. Don't interrupt her when she is talking and try not to argue with her. Speak passionately, and be honest about, your interests. It is best to be honest about what you like because she may find the same things interesting. If you are honest with your interests, you will also be able to speak with greater passion. In general, just try your hardest to be kind and polite. Pay attention to table manners such as keeping your elbows off the table and not chewing or talking with your mouth open. Offer her the option of letting you pay for her meal, ticket, etc. Some women don't like men pay for her while others do. The safest way to not offend her is to just ask. Take things slow at first. Most girls don't even want to be kissed on their first date. If she makes it clear that she wants to move quickly, or if she wants to hold hands, you'll definitely know. It is also more respectful to take things slow because it sends the message that you care about more than just her body. Try not to act too needy. If you have been obsessed with her since the moment you saw her, try not to explicitly say that on the first date. Instead, imply it by saying things like, "I'm so glad you decided to come out with me tonight!" Think about what you want to say when your date ends so it's not awkward and you make it clear you want to see her again. It doesn't matter what medium you choose: texting, email, or phone call, but just make sure you tell her that you had a good time. Also, if it is true, make sure you mention that you would love to go on another date with her.
If you are picking her up, go to her door rather than texting her that you are at her house. Open up the passenger side of the car door for her and close it once she is seated. Open up the door for her at the restaurant, theater, or wherever else you are taking her. If you are going to a fancy restaurant, pull back her chair for her. During conversation, pay attention. Ask questions which will prompt her to talk about herself. Try to be interesting and polite. Ask to pay for her. Do not try to force yourself on her. Last, but not least, be sure to correspond with her after the date to give closure.