One of the key steps to not getting caught is staying out of sight. You probably know where he lives, where his wife runs errands, where his kids go to school, and other intimate details. Avoid those areas, especially if you're meeting up with him in public. If you live or work close to each other and you happen to see him out in public with his family, ignore him. If you have to interact, keep things short, polite, and professional. Lots of people having affairs get caught because the wife finds something intimate that doesn't belong to her, like lingerie, jewelry, makeup, or other clothing items. Keep all of your stuff at your place or in your purse, and double-check that you aren't leaving anything behind if you're rendezvousing in a mutual location. Similarly, don't send him gifts or packages to his home address or office. Wait to give him things in person so they don't get intercepted by someone else. Remember, you aren't his priority, and if you want your affair to go smoothly, you need to respect his boundaries and family time. Potentially exposing the affair by contacting him when he's at home could make him resent you and end the affair, and at the very least, it'll make your next couple of interactions pretty tense. It may be hard to do, but you're going to need to let him control the frequency of contact in the relationship. Discourage him from things like getting a second phone for you to use to contact him. If his wife finds it, she'll definitely know that something is going on. Keeping quiet about your relationship is the best way to ensure it stays a secret, but if you do want to talk about it, avoid using his real name or other identifying details. As you know, friends can be pretty interested in details, so decide beforehand if you're willing to lie and keep track of your stories, or if you'd rather just feign ignorance. Be prepared to get some serious feedback if you tell friends or family that you're a mistress. People might not be supportive of your choices, so think carefully if you're up to having those conversations with people you love. Even if you think you're being vague and sneaky, someone is eventually bound to notice some telling detail and figure out what's going on. It's best to keep your love life off of the internet completely to avoid getting caught. This means no photos of the flowers he sent, of the trip you took together, the meal you cooked, and other related details that you might otherwise be excited to share.

Summary: Steer clear of places where you know his friends and family congregate. Keep your belongings out of his home, car, and other personal spaces. Don't call or text him when he's spending time with his family. Use a code name if you're going to tell others about your relationship. Avoid posting about the relationship on social media.

Both brass and copper develop a patina with age, usually green but sometimes other colors. If none of the original metal is visible, try brass cleaning techniques. These typically work for both metals, but to be safe you could use a commercial brass and copper cleaning product. If the metal is highly polished, you may see false colors due to reflected light. Look at it in sunlight or under a white fluorescent light bulb, not under a yellow incandescent bulb. Copper is a pure metal, and always has a reddish brown appearance. A modern US penny is plated in copper (and was almost entirely copper from 1962 to 1981), so this is a good point of comparison. The word brass refers to any alloy that contains copper and zinc. Different proportions of these metals produce different colors, but the most common types of brass have a muted yellow color, or a yellow-brown appearance similar to bronze. These brass alloys are widely used in machined parts and screws. Some brass has a greenish-yellow appearance, but this alloy, called "gilding metal," is only used for a few specialized purposes in decoration and ammunition. Many other common brass alloys can look orange or reddish brown, when they contain at least 85% copper. These types of brass are usually found in jewelry, decorative fasteners, or plumbing. Any hint of orange, yellow, or gold means the item is brass, not copper. If the brass alloy is almost entirely copper, you may need to compare it side by side with a copper pipe or item of jewelry. If you're still not sure, it's either copper or brass with such a high copper content that the distinction may not be important. Brass with high zinc content can look bright gold, yellowish white, and even white or grey. These alloys are not common, since they are not machine workable, but you may find them in jewelry.

Summary: Clean the metal if necessary. Hold the metal under white light. Identify copper's reddish color. Inspect yellow brass. Learn about red or orange brass. Identify other brass.

If you don't have an office or a study, don't worry. You don't need to store all of your books in one room. Feel free to spread your collection throughout your house. For example, keep all of your cookbooks in the kitchen. You can display your organized book collection in a variety of ways. You may store your books on shelves or ledges. You can also stack your books in storage cubes. For a more eclectic look, consider stacking your books on the floor, in a dormant fireplace, or down the edge of your staircase. Once you've settled on a location and storage method, you can finally put away your collection. Place the books on your bookshelves or stack the books in a storage cube. Before you shelve or stack your books, you may want to clean and dust your storage unit. For convenience, frequently used books should be readily accessible. This is especially important if children will be using the books. If children are using the collection, store the books at their level. Instead of a traditional shelf, consider a storage system that would allow them to stack the books. Lastly, you may also want to store the books in the places they will use them the most, such as a playroom or bedroom. If you don't have the space to display your entire collection, you may need to put some of your books in storage. To protect your books while they're in boxes, follow these tips: Stack your books horizontally with the heaviest books on the bottom. To fill in gaps, insert books vertically. Never place a book spine down. If possible, try not to stack more than three boxes of books on top of each other. If your collection contains rare books, you may wish to take extra steps to protect these special items. It is good practice to apply all of these suggestions to your entire collection. Store your rare books out of direct sunlight. In addition to fading the book jacket, the sunlight will slowly deteriorate the book. Keep your books in their dust jackets. Before shelving or storing a book, always remove bookmarks and scraps of paper. Try to store your books at a consistent temperature. Too much humidity will generate mold in your books; too little humidity will leave your books brittle.
Summary: Choose a location for your collection. Settle on a storage method. Stack or shelve your books. Make books you use often accessible. Box and label excess books you want to keep. Protect rare, delicate, or important books.