Q: Having an ex around the workplace means that you'll have to think twice about your other workplace relationships, too. If you're tempted to flirt with another co-worker, consider how messy the current situation would get by adding jealousy and contempt to the mix. To gauge whether or not your current actions might trigger excessive negativity between you and your ex, think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Wouldn't want to see your ex leaving with the co-worker he or she has always been smitten for? Avoid doing the same out of sensitivity for the situation and a desire to keep it running smoothly. What about having to ride the elevator with your ex? Not all friendly conversation have to begin with your juicy life outside the office. Try bringing up a work-related frustration or joke circulating around co-workers that the two of you can share in without issue. If you and your ex are working together on a project, make sure that you are not bringing in any sense of guilt or blame for whatever happened in the relationship. Be extra mindful of the decisions you are making and how you are acting and ask yourself if you are being motivated by residual feelings or by the work itself. Imagine that your professional aspirations are your sole guide, and make sure that all of your decisions keep you on track with them. For example, your ex is making coffee for everyone and brings you yours, fixed exactly how you like it. Simply smile politely, thank them, and then let them know that you are not looking for any special treatment. While it's a nice gesture, it's more important to avoid reinventing your old way of acting together. To avoid relying too heavily on your ex, make sure that you have other people who make you feel supported at work. This does not mean finding someone to vent to whenever you feel uneasy about seeing your ex. The most important thing is that you see someone regularly who you can connect with over something, and the more removed it is from your ex, the better. Seek out someone who has a similar sense of humor to yours, or better, someone with similar professional aspirations. After all, that's what you're at your job pursue. Misery attracts company, and mentioning that you are having issues with your ex will make the issue "fair game" for your colleagues to discuss. They may even begin to take sides, re-creating an old drama that doesn't apply to what's currently going on. Other co-workers might feel excluded or embarrassed by your situation and could start shying away from you in general. It's much better to keep your affairs to yourself and your support system outside of the office. This way you can prevent your life from being turned into the office soap opera. This is not to say that you have to be overly secretive about your past, just that you avoid making the topic "open". If it feels absolutely necessary to note that you were once in a relationship, be absolutely clear that the relationship is over and that you will not discuss further details. Let others know that you appreciate your privacy and that the topic is not up for conversation. The best part about working with your ex is the fact that you will be highly motivated to devote all your efforts to your work. If you find yourself drifting into memories you've shared with your ex or all the things that you miss about him or her, remind yourself to dedicate time away from work to address whatever it is that keeps entering your mind. You do not need to resist thinking about your ex, but you do need to make sure that you make other time to spend acknowledging your feelings and honoring what's past. Remember that it might be best to avoid sensitive topics altogether. Because it can be difficult to say what will spark lots of emotions surrounding the breakup, try disengaging from sensitive topics. At least initially, you may want to shy away from discussing romance, breakups, and experiences that you know you and your ex have shared. All of the new stress created from sharing a workplace with your ex might make you want to ramp up your activities and relationships elsewhere. Go ahead and re-connect with a friend you don't see often enough or make it a point to frequent a new bar. If you are satisfied with your social life more generally, you will be less tempted to mix it into your work or to see work as an opportunity to spend meaningful time around others.
A: Separate your work and personal life. Keep emotional baggage outside of your professional dealings. Stick close to other co-workers. Resist involving colleagues in residual drama. Stay on task with work-related topics. Increase your non-work social life.

Q: Well-respected Bengal breeders will be able to provide you with a guaranteed Bengal kitten with documented Bengal ancestry. They may even be able to advise you about a cat you already have to determine whether or not it is a true Bengal cat. To find a reputable breeder, you should consider looking for recommendations from Bengal breed organizations. The International Cat Association has a list of approved Bengal breeders. Most Bengal cats that are available for sale are at least 5 generations down from the original wild Asian Leopard Cat ancestor. This is because of limitations on breeding Bengal cats. The first generation Bengal is called an F1 Bengal. It will be closer in personality to its wild ancestry. However, most Bengals offered for sale will be bred through several generations of domestic cats to give them the traits we expect from house cats. Your cat will still be wild and exotic, but it won't be a wild animal. For almost every breed of cat, there are breed-specific organizations that regulate the standards of the breed and provide information about the breed to interested parties. Find a Bengal organization near you and ask them for more information about the breed. Try the International Bengal Cat Society or the Bengal Cat Association. When all else fails, take your cat to your vet's office and ask for their advice. Your vet will be able to help you analyze the cat's physical features and personality traits in order to arrive at a conclusion about the cat's breed.
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Consult a reputable breeder. Check with Bengal breed organizations. Ask your veterinarian.