Problem: Article: Be aware of how certain activities and situations make you feel. If something excites you, grips you, and engages you to delve deeper explore it. Open yourself up to the possibility that your way might be right in front you. You won't know until you try. Be bold. Embrace your joys and your ideals, and try to own your circumstances. Don't try to suppress what truly makes you happy. You can certainly work to become the best possible version of yourself, but don't waste energy trying to become someone else. You are a unique and powerful human being, and you have the agency to own your destiny. Remind yourself that you will not find your way if you are riddled with self-doubt. You will need to make a choice, and you will need to step boldly into your future. You may come to a point at which your way seems to fork. You want to do this, and you want to do that; perhaps you want to do three things, or four things, or more things! Your way can be a focused and singular path, or it can be a constant exploration of new, exciting endeavors. Ask yourself whether you will be content with choosing, and whether it's worth splitting your energy up into different categories. If you choose to forego all other opportunities in pursuit of one goal or path: try to stick to your choice, but give yourself the space to open yourself back up. If you are going to commit wholeheartedly to a single job or focus, however, you may need to close some of the other doors. If you decide to split your time between two passionssay, music and psychotherapyyou may find yourself facing a hard, if meaningful, path. You will need to be especially disciplined if you want to keep on top of both goals. If something makes you feel joyful, meaningful, wired, inspired: keep doing it. See where it goes. You still may not have a clear picture of the larger scope of your "way" but you can let this feeling guide you. Remember: this thing doesn't need to be your only passion, and it doesn't have to be the only place to which you direct your energy! Your way can be a mix of many things. This is your lodestone, so touch it often. Practice being that person, and know that it may not be easy. If you want to be an adventure travel writer, then you have to get up out of bed, exercise, go out and explore and then come home and write about it. Playing computer games, watching TV, eating snacks, and hanging out at the mall doesn't get you there. It gets you somewhere else.
Summary: Follow a spark. Accept yourself. Choose between the one and the many. Stick with what fulfills you. Ask yourself what kind of person you want to be.

Problem: Article: Many cruises have strict dress codes that require you to wear certain things to get into restaurants, clubs, and other popular spots on the ship. Call the cruise line or visit their website to find out if they have a dress code before you start packing your bags. Even if there's no dress code on your cruise, take a look at other cruise line's dress codes to get an idea of what kind of clothes you should pack. Bring shorts, summer dresses, t-shirts, and sandals if you're going on a warm-weather cruise. Pack comfortable sweaters, khakis, jeans, and sneakers if the weather will be cold. Opt for loose-fitting, comfortable clothes that you'll enjoy lounging in. Pack workout shorts, tank tops, and t-shirts. You should also bring a pair or running shoes and extra socks to work out in. If you know you're going to be swimming a lot, bring multiple bathing suits with you. That way if one of your bathing suits is wet, you'll have a dry one to change into. Bring comfortable shoes like sneakers, sandals, and flip flops for when you're relaxing during the day. Pack at least 1 pair of nicer shoes, like dress shoes, flats, or high heels, for evenings when you want to dress up. Some cruises have formal nights where everyone dresses up. You may also be required to wear formal attire to enter the nicer restaurants on the ship. If you know you'll only be dressing up once or twice, one formal outfit should be enough. Pack a formal dress or suit. If the dress code is black tie or there's going to be a black-tie event, pack a floor-length dress or a tuxedo.
Summary: Find out if there's a dress code. Pack casual clothes for when you're relaxing. Bring work-out clothes if you'll be using the gym. Pack a bathing suit for the pool. Pack multiple pairs of shoes. Bring along a few formal outfits.

Problem: Article: Using the techniques we've discussed, try to get to know the waitress a bit. Talk over the course of several meals or drinks, if possible, and learn about her while subtly introducing yourself. This way your request for a date will not seem like it's coming from a complete stranger. Try to sit at one of the tables she is serving. Take note of any giveaways that she is unavailable, like a ring on her left hand. One way to ask her out without the embarrassment of a possible rejection is to leave a note on one side of a napkin. After paying, jot down your name and number and then leave. If she's interested, she'll respond. Notes also leave the matter entirely in her hand and spares her from feeling pressure or having to make a hasty decision. Be short and to the point, i.e. "You seem like a thoughtful person that I'd interested to know better. Coffee sometime?" End with your name and number. Insert a nice tip into the fold of a napkin, with the money is sticking out. Make sure that she will notice the tip or someone else could pick it up Use a clean napkin if you decide on this route. In this variant, leave your note inside of the check presenter with your payment and tip. Go with the same approach, including a short offer to take her out and your name and number. Don't stick around, as it will only make her uncomfortable. Unlike a napkin, the check presenter should be fairly secure and discreet. In many restaurants, there is an unspoken rule that servers only touch check presenters from their table. If there is room, write the message directly onto the receipt. If not, use a napkin in a pinch. Aim for a kind and no-pressure request, i.e. "To my charming waitress: pardon my forwardness, but I'd love to take you out. (Insert phone number). Call me sometime. I'd love to hear from you. This gambit involves your passing the note to the waitress directly as you leave the restaurant. Bold, but sure to get her attention. Tuck your tip inside of folded piece of paper with your note. Write something like, "(Your name and number) Dinner sometime? Call me anytime. I'd love to hear from you!" Hand her the note as you walk to the door, saying, "This is for you." Your move may well not work out. Your waitress might have just been friendly, or perhaps she is married or involved with someone else. In any case, do not push it any further. Accept the rejection and move on. The beauty of the note request is its discreetness and also lack of pressure. If you asked her out on a note, you'll know she is interested or not by her response. The ball is in her court. Don't be discouraged if you've tried all of the above and she doesn't call. At least you tried many men would not!
Summary:
Build up a rapport. Leave a note on a napkin. Leave a note in the check presenter. Hand her a note with your tip. Accept a rejection.