Q: Sometimes, even if you do everything physically possible to avoid an embarrassing bodily function or gut sound, it cannot be avoided. The good news is that these noises and functions are common they happen to absolutely everyone. So, while you may want to melt into the floor when your stomach makes a weird sound during your presentation, it may help to remind yourself that embarrassment (and gut noises) are universally experienced, and not something you need to obsess over. Because the sounds our body makes are, ultimately, not totally under our control, try not to worry about it too much. If you'd like to minimize these noises, you can try the diet and lifestyle changes suggested in this article; but, unless it's indicating a more serious health problem, try not to worry about it too much. It is unlikely, too that anyone else is making as big of a deal out of your embarrassment as you are it's possible, even, that no one else heard your stomach rumble. You may be experiencing the "spotlight effect," which is when you believe people are more focused on you and your actions than they really are. Everyone feels embarrassed at some point in his life it's part of being human. And, believe it or not, embarrassment can actually be a positive thing. Research has found that people who display embarrassment are more likely to be kind and generous to others. In addition, a person who reveals his embarrassment is considered more likable and trustworthy by others. Maybe you know everyone heard the embarrassing gut noise because they responded with laughter, or a comment like "What was that?". There are many ways you can deal with the embarrassment in the moment (and some may be involuntary, such as blushing). One good tactic is to acknowledge what happened, then laugh it off or minimize it, and move on. You could say something like, "Woah, sorry about that!" or even, "Well, that was embarrassing. Anyway..." Even if you want to run out of the room and hide, try just owning what happened and acting like it's no big deal. Take a deep breath if you need to get control of your emotions. Remember not to take yourself or the situation too seriously. Sometimes, people will dwell on an embarrassing moment weeks, months, even years or decades after the incident. But once the moment has passed, that's it it's part of the past, and you need to keep moving forward and living. Reliving the experience doesn't change anything and neither does punishing yourself especially because gut noises really aren't something you can even control! If your stomach is noisy and you're afraid of being embarrassed by the sounds again and again in the future, you can do some work to prepare yourself for these moments, such as visualizing how you might react in the moment should it happen again. This way, you've already practiced what to do, and it will likely be easier for you to quickly move past it in the moment. Don't let it stop you from living your life. You may be tempted to avoid situations with the potential for embarrassment (meeting someone at the library, where it's very quiet, giving a speech or presentation in front of a group, hanging out one-on-one with a crush, etc.), but it's important not to limit yourself based on something that might happen.
A: Understand that these noises are common. Know that it's okay to feel embarrassed. Learn to deflect. Move on.

Q: Although not everyone experiences each of these stages and not everyone experiences stages in the same order, you may experience some combination of denial, anger, resentment, yearning, suffering, sadness, and eventually, acceptance. In addition to possibly not experiencing these in order you may experience these stages repeatedly over the course of your grief journey. Let yourself feel grief and allow yourself to work through these stages. Do not try to mask your emotions. If your spouse died suddenly and there were no final requests, explore ideas to honor the memory of your late partner. This may give you a peace of mind, and will ensure that you will not have any mental obstacles in your new life. You can make this a recurring practice, or you may wish to honor your spouse once and then do your best to move on. To honor your spouse you might: Light a candle in their honor. Take flowers to their grave and talk to them. Let them know what's on your mind. Do an activity that you loved to do together, while remembering everything that was great about your spouse. Your pain will not just disappear, and it will not heal itself. Be patient with yourself as you work through the process of grief. Grief is a journey that lasts as long as it takes to reconcile all issues pertaining to death, your loved one, yourself, and the good and bad parts of your relationship. Grief and depression can look very similar, but they are quite different. It is important to know the distinction so that if your grief turns to depression, you can seek help from a therapist. When grieving, you may experience the following: Sadness, despair, mourning, fatigue or low energy, tears, loss of appetite, poor sleep, poor concentration, happy and sad memories, and/or mild feelings of guilt. If depressed, you may experience symptoms of grief, but also the following: feelings of worthlessness or emptiness, helplessness, extreme guilt, suicidal thoughts, loss of interest in pleasurable activities, extreme fatigue, and/or severe weight loss. Pay attention to how good memories of your spouse make you feel. Do warm memories of your spouse give you some comfort or joy? Or do you feel emptiness and loss that even good memories cannot relieve? If you experience the latter, it may be a sign that you are depressed. What matters is how you feel you are grieving. The loss of your spouse is between you and your spouse. There is no right or wrong answer for the right amount of time to move on. If someone is telling you that you aren't grieving properly, thank them for their concern and tell them that everyone grieves differently. You may run into someone who thinks that you are either healing "too fast" or who thinks you are healing "too slow" and have become stuck in your grief. If this happens, be sure to keep in mind that while this person's intentions are probably good and that he or she wants to see you healed, it is up for you to decide when you are ready to move on. There is a time when you need to cry and go through the suffering to get to the other side. There will come a time when you are ready to actively participate in grief work to bring healing to have a new life. Although you had no choice in the loss of your spouse, you can choose how you respond to the situation and how you aim to move on with your life. That said, in the loss of your spouse, you have faced a drastic change. It is best not to make any other drastic changes right away while you are still navigating your loss. You loved this person enough to be with them until the end. You will remember them. Take comfort in knowing that memories of them will always be in your mind to recall whenever you want to. Let yourself become busy with life; it may do you good in your journey toward emotional healing. Don't think that if you become busy you will forget or that you are disrespecting your spouse. Life requires your attention and hard work. It is normal to be busy with life and it is not a sign that you are forgetting him or her.
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Understand that there are stages you may go through. Fulfill any request that your late partner explicitly made before passing away. Know that it will take time before you can begin to feel a sense of normalcy again. Know the difference between grief and depression. Ignore those who tell you that you are not grieving properly. Realize that you have choices. Do not worry that you will forget your spouse.