Problem: Article: You may want to plot revenge, show how much better off you are now, or get closure in some way with your abuser. To fully move on and experience personal closure, it's best to cut ties with your abuser. If you live with the abuser, move out promptly. While you heal, avoid places you may bump into the person. If this feels severe, remind yourself that this person has chosen to continually hurt you and you are unwilling to endure any more hurt from this person. Delete this person's phone number, remove any social media contacts, and avoid any contact with this person. You may also need to change your locks, get an unlisted phone number, or even file a restraining order if threats or harassment continues. . It is important to show kindness and love for yourself as you work to get past hurtful emotions. This can take time, but by doing things like taking good care of yourself, saying uplifting things to yourself, and showing self-compassion can help. Take good care of yourself, such as by eating healthy food, getting regular exercise, getting plenty of rest, and doing things to relax, like meditating and practicing yoga. Give yourself a compliment every day, such as by looking in the mirror and finding something positive about your appearance. For example, you might say to yourself, "My hair looks so shiny and beautiful today!" Show self-compassion to yourself such as by writing an understanding letter to yourself from the perspective of a friend. In the letter, say encouraging things to yourself like a good friend might do. For example, you might say something like, "I know how hard this experience has been for you, but I am so proud of you for working towards healing! You have so much strength and it amazes me every day!" . You may feel guilty or regretful for "wasting" your time in this relationship, or for allowing yourself to be treated disrespectfully. It can become easy to feel the sting of regret and hold onto it. Yet, recognize that you cannot change your past. Regardless of how strong or deep or hurtful your regret feels, there comes a time when you recognize that the pain regret causes you detracts from your life and it's time to release it. Regret keeps your focus in the past. Keep yourself in the present and work toward a positive future. Create a mantra or positive phrase that reminds you to let go of regret. Say, "Sometimes I make mistakes. I am still capable, smart, loving and lovable." . You may feel ashamed about the abuse. Perhaps you fear talking to other people about your experience for fear that they may judge you or think differently or less of you. Shame makes you feel like something is "wrong" with you, or that you are unworthy or undeserving of things or feelings that other people have such as love, happiness, and success. Shame can hurt you and make you feel lesser-than and affect your self-confidence. If the abuser shamed you by saying "You're nothing, nobody likes you, you'll never survive in the world," stop believing those lies as soon as possible. You are just as deserving as those around you. Try rewriting the things that your abuser told you into positive messages, such as, "You are kind, intelligent, and sensitive. Your friends and family love you and deserve to be happy." While you might take responsibility for what happened, remind yourself that abusers make a choice to be abusive. The person may say that he or she lost control, yet remember that abuse is one way someone chooses to exert power. Each abuser chooses to act in an abusive way. Recognize that the person is responsible for his or her own behavior, and you are not responsible for the person's words and behaviors. . Forgive yourself for any guilt or shame you have about being in an abusive relationship. And when you feel ready, forgive the abuser and release this person from your life. Holding onto anger, bitterness, or rage only serves the other person for still having control over you. Choose to let go of these negative feelings and release the power this person holds over you. Embracing forgiveness means embracing peace and your own well-being. Forgiveness doesn't mean accepting the abuse as okay or pretending that it didn't happen. It doesn't mean you let the person "off the hook" or that you'll immediately stop being angry or hurt. It means letting go of the negative feelings you have for your own personal freedom.
Summary: Sever all ties. Be kind and loving to yourself Release regret Let go of shame Avoid blaming yourself. Forgive

Problem: Article: Because you want to avoid damaging the keratin bonds, shampoo selection is very important for this type of hair extension. Do your best to find one made specifically for use with hair extensions. If this isn't possible, pick a mild moisturizing shampoo instead. Be sure to avoid shampoos containing sulfates and silicone. Sulfates will dry out your extensions, while silicone may cause them to slip off. Use warm (but not hot) water. You can do this in the shower or at the bathroom sink. Run your fingers through your hair to make sure it is soaked-through and tangle-free. Shampoo your hair, including the extensions, as you normally would. Take a dollop of shampoo and lather it into your hair. Massage it in beginning at the scalp and work your way down to the bottom hair tips. Rinse the shampoo out with warm water. Keep in mind that extensions will not be reached by your scalp's natural oils. Even if you don't normally need to condition your hair, use one when wearing extensions. Hot water may damage your extensions, while cold water will not properly remove residue. Wrap your hair with a towel to remove excess water when you're finished. Leave your hair to air dry. Remember that more frequent washings will shorten the lifespan of your extensions. If you normally go longer without washing your hair, add a leave-in conditioner to your extensions to keep them moisturized. If your natural hair is oily, try using dry shampoo to reduce the washing frequency necessary to keep your hair looking clean.
Summary: Choose the right shampoo. Wet your hair. Shampoo your hair. Moisturize with a conditioner. Rinse with warm water. Repeat washing two to three times a week.

Problem: Article: The smoke shouldn't be going into your mouth or lungs at this point. You're just using your inhale to draw the smoke up into the smoke chamber. As you're inhaling, you should start to see the chamber getting cloudy as it fills with smoke. If you're new to smoking bongs, only fill the smoke chamber halfway with smoke for your first few tries so you don't overwhelm yourself. Set the lighter aside or hold it in your hand. Stop inhaling, but don't remove your mouth from the mouthpiece or the smoke in the smoke chamber will escape. Use the same hand you used to light the bowl to pull the bowl out of the stem. When you're inhaling the smoke, inhale deeply so it goes into your lungs. If you can't inhale the smoke in the chamber all at once, take your mouth off the mouthpiece and cover the mouthpiece with the palm of your hand so the smoke doesn't escape. When you're ready to inhale the rest of the smoke, remove your hand and quickly put your mouth back on the mouthpiece. Holding the smoke in for longer won't get you higher, and it could be worse for your health. Holding the smoke in for 2-3 seconds will be enough to get you high. Blow the smoke into the room or out a window. If you're smoking with other people, tilt your head back and blow the smoke up so you're not blowing it in their faces. If you're smoking alone, relight the bowl when you're ready to take another hit. If you're smoking with friends, pass the bong and lighter to the person next to you. If you're all done with the bong, remove the bowl and pour out the water. Thoroughly rinse the bong and place it in a safe spot where it won't get damaged.
Summary:
Inhale slowly as you're lighting the bowl. Stop lighting the bowl when you're satisfied with the amount of smoke. Pull the bowl out of the stem and inhale the smoke in the chamber. Hold the smoke in your lungs for a few seconds. Exhale the smoke. Place the bowl back in the stem.