Q: Having a friendly, outgoing personality goes a long way when it comes to being an influential person. People respond to people who are comfortable in their own skin, and are more inclined to follow their lead. But don't treat them like they are lower than you. Treat everyone like a friend, not like a younger sibling. People don't like when you are full of yourself. Smile. People are drawn to a friendly smile. It makes you seem approachable and trustworthy. Ask questions. Engage other people in conversations. Show an interest in them and they will become more open and responsive. Another way to start a conversation is simply asking for a pencil or helping them with something they seem to be struggling with. Plan activities. Take the initiative and organize a group trip, for example, hiking or to a concert. This will help you make them friends and show them that you like them and include them. In order to make a good impression, you need to show an active interest in the person you're talking to. Listen to what they are saying. A good listener learns a lot about people. Ask stimulating questions about the other person's interests and opinions. Respond to their questions with a sense of the topic. For example, if it is an upsetting conversation about sickness, don't tell a joke. Responding correctly will generate a sense of trust and create a bond between you. People are more likely to respond when they hear their name, as the use of their name makes your message more personal to them. By remembering to use someone's name, you will seem like an interesting person who pays close attention to details. It is the same as remembering their birthday, so take notice in what they have to say about themselves. Building a relationship with someone is a two way street. It's about response and trust. You shouldn't use a conversation as a vehicle for forcing your ideas and opinions on others, without letting anybody else get a word in edgewise. Equally, you shouldn't check out of a conversation either, nobody wants to feel like they're talking to themselves. Encouraging someone to talk about the things they are passionate about is another great way to demonstrate an interest in others. It is also one of the best ways to get to know someone, a vital component in building a relationship. Even the shyest person will open up if you get them going on a topic they love. If you find out that someone likes reading, ask them about the best book they've read lately, or ask them to recommend something for you. If they're interested in something like rock climbing, ask them how they first got involved and see if they'd be willing to bring you along sometime. Try not to overpower the other person by talking about your own interests too much. Remember, the aim is to make them feel interesting. Of course, if they're genuinely interested in hearing about your recent skydiving experience, don't refuse to talk about it! It is important to always respect other people's opinions, even during a disagreement. You do not need to agree with the other person, but you should allow them to express their opinions and beliefs without contradicting or belittling them. Relationships are built on trust and mutual respect, so it is important to recognize and accept your differences. If you really have to disagree with someone, recognize that although you don't agree, what you hear is not unreasonable. "Yes, I see where you're coming from, however, . . ." Make generous use of the metaphor of perspective. "Yes, but if you look at it from a different point of view,. . ." Never tell another person that their opinions are crazy, stupid or worthless. Establish your place within a social circle by becoming friends or respected acquaintances with as many people within that circle as possible. This will increase your influence and power over that circle as a whole. Don't just tag along and look bored if your friend introduces you to a new group of people. Seize the opportunity. Interact with them and try to get to know them, you don't know who you might meet! Speak to people within the circle you don't normally hang out with. Try to become friends with them for their own sake, not just because you know them through someone else. Host a party or group activity of some kind and invite as many friends, acquaintances and friends of friends as possible, then work the room!
A: Be outgoing. Demonstrate interest in others. Address people by name. Be an active participant in discussions. Talk about the interests of others. Respect the opinions of others. Secure your place within a social circle.

Q: A love story can be your main focus or it can be part of a larger tale. Decide whether you want your love story to be the main focus of your writing, or if you want it to enhance your main story. Framing a love story as part of a larger story can create a more realistic, relatable feeling to your writing. Focusing primarily on romance can be sweeping, epic, and more escapist. Neither is inherently better or worse, they're just different styles. For example, Love in the Time of Cholera is driven by its love story, but it also deals with themes of social strife, warfare, disease, aging, and death. It's also defined not just by its love story but by its magical realism, making it part of a strong Latino literary tradition. Love stories don't have to be romance novels. They play out across the daily lives of your characters and can work in any type of genre. Decide whether you want to write a more traditional romance or if you want to frame your story in another genre. To get an idea of how love stories are framed across genres, read books and short stories from the genres in which you're interested. Noir, sci-fi, fantasy, historical fiction, and comedic writing are some good genres to explore. Pay attention to how different authors in these genres develop different conventions of a love story. Do you want your characters to get their happily-ever-after? Will they learn that love isn't enough? Do you want something vague and open-ended? Deciding what kind of emotional resolution you want at the end of your story helps sculpt your plot and narrative. You can change this as you progress with your story if find that a different ending fits how your plot and characters develop. This should be a guide, but it doesn't need to be a rule. A love story for the sake of a love story can be a beautiful thing if that's what you want to write. However, many modern romance authors are considering the social contexts of what they are putting out, such as race, gender, and class. Think about whether you want your story to have a larger message. There is no right or wrong answer to this, but it is important to consider the message you're putting out. Love stories commonly deal with topics like social inequity, body image, gender equality, sexual orientation, class difference, and ethnic identity.
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Figure out if your love story will be your main story. Pick the genre in which you want to set your story. Decide what kind of emotional ending you want for your story. Consider whether you want your story to have a larger message.