Q: If the menu is not appearing, your Accessibility settings may be blocking access to it. This is below the first two groups of options in the General menu. You'll find this in the second group. This setting needs to be disabled in order for Invisible Ink (and other bubble effects) to work. You'll need iOS 10 or later in order to use Invisible Ink and other effects in Messages. The iPhone 4S and earlier models do not support iOS 10. Open the Settings app, select "General," then tap "About." Find the "Version" entry to see which version of iOS you are using.
A: Open the Settings app. Select "General" and then "Accessibility." Tap the "Reduce Motion" option. Toggle "Reduce Motion" off. Ensure you are running iOS 10+.

Q: All men and women have emotions, even if they show them in different ways. Men who don't show much emotion still have emotions, but because of social conditioning they have learned not to show their emotions too much or at all. This might mean that the man in your life might remain stoic when someone important to him dies. Since anger is an emotion that is more acceptable for men to show, in situations where they might be sad, they will instead get angry. If your man has a reaction that confuses you, keeping this social conditioning in mind will help you understand his reaction. He has emotions, but he's been taught not to show them, because it's perceived as a sign of weakness. Men are often taught to suppress their emotions, which is not always the most productive way to deal with emotions. Suppressing emotions can create a disconnection between emotions and thoughts. This means that men might not even know what they're feeling. It is important for men to work on expressing emotions because emotion suppression can lead to negative physical and psychological effects. Because of emotion suppression, your man might not be able to discuss how he is feeling. If he's willing to work on this with you, realize that this will take practice and time. Realize that suppressing emotions is not only a male trait. Women suppress emotions also. Women also need to work on expressing their emotions in productive ways. Just because women are thought to be better at expressing emotions, this doesn't mean this is always the case. People are not born knowing how to express their emotions in meaningful and efficient ways. It's a skill that needs to be learned for both men and women. Unlike that old saying, men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus. Men and women are much more alike than many people would like to admit. In fact, many scientists today prefer to discuss gender differences in terms of a broad continuum of possibilities, as opposed to a strict distinction between two straightforward options. It's important to avoid making assumptions about men and anticipate their behavior to conform to the gender roles and expressions you'd typically expect. Don't assume he likes sports, for example, or that he likes beer and hates "chick flicks", which are all common stereotypes about men. Rather, get to know the man in your life on an individual level as opposed to approaching him based upon what you think you know about men in general. After all, he's just a human being just like you and has his own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. Try to understand where the particular man in your life is coming from when he does something that shocks or upsets you. Women also often feel pressure to conform to prescriptive roles about how women should behave and be feminine. Rather than write him off, perhaps show some empathy and understanding. In some cases, men don't even intend to subscribe to the male ego, but it just happens since they've been socially conditioned regarding how to act. For example, if a man interjects in a conversation to say that he thinks professional women's sports aren't worth anyone's time, don't just blame his comments on the male ego. Try to understand that he lives in a world where women's sports really are NOT valued as highly as those of men. In a lot of ways, this attitude isn't surprising; both men and women have been told by society that professional men's sports matter more than women's. The problem may not be with this individual man, but with society as a whole and how it talks about men, women, and gender roles. Empathy can be an important step on the route to transformation. Once you empathize with how his behavior has been impacted by social expectations and norms, you can then begin to open the conversation to challenge that process. For example, perhaps broach the subject of why we don't value female athletes as much as male athletes in major sports. What types of social cues have led us to think women's sports don't matter as much, such as the news coverage, salaries, etc.? This empathy can also come in the form of checking your own instant reactions to moments when your boyfriend, father, or other male friend or family member doesn't conform to gender stereotypes. For example, if he mentions that he really likes to go the ballet, your instinct based on conventional gender norms might be to consider that "girly" and not very manly. Instead, check those reactions and remember that you too might be part of the problem in validating the male ego. Studies have found that both men and women use humor as a way to complicate their identities as men and women, and experiment with the boundaries between them. But what is interesting is also how humor functions for men and women in terms of sustaining their particular gender roles in society. While some men might prefer making jokes that reinforce traditional gender stereotypes, such as those positioning women as inferior to them, other men might instead challenge those stereotypes by making fun of the way men have traditionally considered themselves superior. How a man jokes about his sense of masculinity and the conventional stereotypes that apply to men and women in his culture can tell you a lot about his personality and his willingness to conform to these stereotypes, many of which are outdated according to recent scientific research. If he makes a lot of sexist jokes that denigrate women and portray men as superior, you're going to have a harder time breaking down the male ego. The first step is to have a genuine discussion about the unfunny nature of those jokes and to ask him why he makes them. The hope is that he will realize that these jokes are not funny and that he only does it because everyone else does it too. Making men aware of their behavior and drawing attention to the things that they do that reflect almost unconscious motives can help them to be more conscious about what they say and do. The closer you become with a man, the more you will be able to separate the man's true self from the social expectations placed upon him. Keep in mind, however, that this might take some time, as most men will not be willing to open up right away. As with most relationships, forging intimacy takes time, whether it's with a love interest or friend. However, as your relationship progresses and you begin to delve into deeper topics about your interests and views on the world, he may be able to let some of those gender scripts go. Talk and get to know each other. Share private details about your past, stories that give a sense of who you are, how you grew up, and what sorts of things made you the way you are today. Ask the man to reciprocate; you might be surprised by his honesty and how, over time, the layers of the macho male ego slip away to reveal his true colors. Maybe he will confess that he cried when watching The Notebook or that he hates all organized sports, things that are not traditionally associated with masculinity. In other words, as he feels more trusting and open with you, he may be more forthright about some of the ways in which he is ambivalent about some aspects of the gender role he is supposed to embody. This will act as yet another avenue for more intimate communication.
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Consider how social expectations shape men's handling of emotions. Learn to recognize emotion suppression. Challenge outdated stereotypes about men and masculinity. Empathize. Get to know his sense of humor. Become closer and more intimate.