What happens next?

How to make divorce less traumatic for your kids
Make a plan and talk to your kids with your former spouse, if possible.
Do your best to have a civil conversation with your former spouse about informing your child. Decide what you'll say, and schedule a time (sooner rather than later) to break the news together.

Pick from:
I. Try to give as little details as possible. These conversations may make your ex-spouse uncomfortable, but they also offer detailed information that might have been lost during the divorce.
II. Sometimes, being in the presence of your former spouse can be confusing for your children. Even worse, having them witness your conversation may be upsetting to them or their child.
III. Ultimately, talking with your children will give you both a chance to work through the final details without blowing things out of proportion. Create a birthing plan for your children.
IV. Informing your child with your former spouse can show that you both love your child and will be there to support them. Make an agreement with each other to keep your emotions in check and to avoid blaming each other when you discuss the divorce with your child.
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