Your patterns of thought may be making you to believe things about your cousin that are your own ideas and not truly who they are. These thoughts can be dangerous for your relationship because they will make you more bitter and angry with your cousin. Once you start to notice yourself dwelling on all of the things that your cousin does that you don't like, do something to distract yourself. Listen to music, read something, talk to someone or do something. Making assumptions about someone elses reasons for doing something is dangerous. It is easy to think that you know what is going on because you are very familiar with that person. However, you may still need more information to understand a situation. For example, you might think "I know he is being loud just to get on my nerves". But, there may be something else going on with them. Maybe they are being loud while they play video games because they had a bad day at school. The next time you find yourself assuming tat you know why your cousin is doing something, ask them about it instead. Say "Why do you say that?" Get to know your cousin better. The more that you know about your cousin the more you will be able to be sympathetic to the things that they do. Ask them open ended questions. Ask them why they love the things that they do, or ask them about their relationships. Listen closely and do not interrupt. Show them that you are listening by nodding along, making noises, and keeping eye contact with them Ask good follow up questions. Show that you were listening and ask them more questions related to the topic they were talking about. Bring in the other information that you know about your cousin. You can say something you know about another friend, say "So does your new friendship with Maria make your best friend Anna feel left out? Little cousins especially want to be a part of what you are doing. Most of them, even if they do not look like it, are curious about your world. Let them in on it. Take them to a baseball game, go somewhere you like to eat, or go on a walk in a part of town you are familiar with. Tell your cousin stories about your life. They like to hear about what is going on with you, too. Laugh with your cousin. Make fun of each other or laugh at the things that happen to you. Having a sense of humor can help diffuse the situation in the future when you are getting on each others nerves.

Summary: Break your negative patterns of thought about your cousin. Do not make assumptions about why your cousin does certain things. Have real conversations with your cousin. Share the things you love with your cousin.

Exercise improves how your body handles fat and cholesterol. But it is important that you start slowly and don't do more than your body can handle. Consult your doctor before beginning a new exercise program to make sure that you will be able to handle it. Then increase the intensity slowly over time working up to between 30 minutes to an hour per day. Activities to try include: Walking Jogging Swimming Biking Joining a community sports team, like basketball, volleyball, or tennis Quitting smoking can improve your cholesterol levels, decrease your blood pressure, and reduce your risk of developing heart disease, strokes, cancers, and lung disease. You may find it helpful to: Get social support from family, friends, local support groups, online forums, and hotlines. Consult your physician. Use nicotine replacement therapy Go to an addictions counselor. Many even specialize in helping people stop smoking. Consider residential treatment Keeping your weight under control will help you to keep your cholesterol down. If you are too heavy, losing just five percent of your weight can reduce your cholesterol. Your doctor may suggest you lose weight if: You are a woman with a waist circumference of 35 or more inches or a man with a waist circumference of 40 or more inches. You have a body mass index of 25 or higher. Alcohol is high in calories and low in nutrients. This means that drinking a lot of it increases your risk of obesity. The Mayo Clinic recommends a limit of: One drink per day for women and one to two drinks per day for men. A 12 oz (355 mL) beer, 5 oz (148 mL) glass of wine, or a 1.5 oz (44.4 mL) shot of liquor qualifies as a drink.

Summary: Start exercising. Improve your health immediately by stopping smoking. Manage your weight. Cut down on alcohol.

Use a soft brush extension and a low power setting when running the vacuum over memory foam. Clean as much extra debris as possible to keep it from getting ground into the mattress when you clean. In a spray bottle, combine 4 fluid ounces (120mL) of laundry detergent and 8 fluid ounces (240mL) of cool water. Shake well and make sure that the two ingredients are fully mixed before spraying. Spray the stain and gently soak up the liquid with a towel. Keep repeating this until the stain disappears. Since you may not be able to completely remove all of the detergent, make sure to use a gentler, unscented formula. Look for detergents labeled "hypoallergenic." Mix together 1 part baking soda and 2 parts water until it forms a milky white liquid. Work the solution into the stain using circular hand movements and leave it to soak for half an hour. Use a slightly damp cloth to remove the solution. Soak up any remaining liquid with a bath towel. Set the memory foam product in a bright, open space to dry before using it. Make sure it is completely dry to reduce the risk of mold and mildew. Direct sunlight will help dry the foam more quickly and dispel odors. Some stains may need several rounds of washing to fully disappear. Let the mattress fully dry after each time you use the detergent solution followed by the baking soda paste.
Summary: Vacuum first to remove dust, hair, and lint. Spray the stained area with a laundry detergent and water solution, then blot. Soak stubborn stains with a baking soda solution. Let the memory foam dry completely. Repeat the process if the stain is stubborn.