Problem: Article: Once you find out your partner is married, you may not be prepared to be with them moving forward. Be honest about how you are feeling and acknowledge the reality of the situation. You may not feel you can trust your partner anymore and do not feel emotionally prepared to be with a married partner. Discuss how you are feeling with your partner so they know where you're at. Use "I" statements when you do this. For example, you may tell your partner, "I can't handle being with someone who is married," or, "I feel as though the trust between us has been broken." Let your partner know that your relationship is over. Be as gentle and firm as you can, as you do not want to give your partner false hope about the situation. If your partner tries to convince you that you can still be together, remind them about how you feel and what you want. If you do not want to be with a married partner, be clear about this. For example, you may tell your partner, "I do not want to be with a married partner. I think we need to separate," or, "I am no longer comfortable in this relationship. I think we need to end it." It is fair to give the other person time to tell you why they think you should stay in a relationship, but don't let them go on and on. Once they've said their piece, move on and do not engage in further discussion on the matter, even if they pressure you. Let your partner know that you will need some time apart from each other. Be clear about keeping your distance from each other. Tell your partner that you will decide when and if you will speak to each other again. For example, you may tell your partner, "We need space away from each other. I will let you know if and when we can talk again. I need time away from you." Once you and your partner separate, keep your distance from them. Agree not to contact each other for awhile and give each other space. Remove the person from your social media and do not respond to their calls or messages. If you see the person on a daily basis at work or school, agree to keep your distance and not talk or interact when you can avoid it. Doing this will allow you both the time you need to move on from the relationship. Remember that it is nearly impossible to immediately transition from being partners to being friends. While you may decide to be friends eventually, it is essential that you keep your distance and do not contact each other. You need time to heal and resolve your feelings, which may allow you to change the dynamic of the relationship to one of friendship. You may also be tempted to jump into another relationship to try and forget about this person. Try to avoid this, instead allowing yourself time to heal on your own.
Summary: Discuss your emotions with your partner. Explain that you are breaking up. Establish distance from your partner. Maintain your distance from your partner.

In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: There are a plethora of skills a good probation officer must have. In addition to being able to read people, get information out of them, and know what's best for them, you have to get book smart, too. Familiarize yourself with the laws in your state and at the federal level. And the consequential punishments, of course. Knowing the procedures when it comes to what's happening around you will help you make sense of your environment. You'll be writing reports almost daily, so hone those writing skills. Other people will be judging you on your writing, so make it good! People skills, as stated, are invaluable on the job. Keep up with policies in your work environment (harassment, confidentiality, etc.) in addition to gaining the trust of those who depend on you. If you're familiar with another language or two (in the US, Spanish and prominent Asian languages will be the most useful), stay on it. If it's not incredibly useful already, it will be. Most of the time you'll be working with people that only have minor offenses to their name.</ref> Those on probation will be first-time offenders and those that aren't doing jail time (hopefully). That being said, that doesn't mean you won't get put into situations that aren't slightly threatening. You probably will. And if you know that's in the cards, you can prepare yourself. You'll be wandering through your fair share of halfway homes or houses, decrepit parts of town, and just in general not being around, well, the most trustworthy of folks. You may find that people don't like you just because of your job title. Things can get heated. Never resort to violence if you don't absolutely have to. A large part of your job as a probation officer will be to run constant check up on your offenders. You'll be doing interviews, seeing how they're doing, making sure they're on the right track, helping them pay fines, pointing them in the right direction, and finding them opportunities in addition to running urine tests and the like. This won't always be fun, but it can be rewarding when you see someone who's turned around and living life to the fullest. If one of your cases doesn't violate their probation, you do have the power to arrest them. Depending on your agency and your cases, you may be issued identification, a firearm, and other tools to pad your arsenal. Some probation officers are on-call pretty much 24/7. If a case of yours goes awry, you may get a phone call in the middle of the night. These things will happen. You deal with them in stride. Phil and a UFC fighter. Though they're sort of mutually exclusive, for you they can't be. You need to be a metaphorical arrow for the people you work with, showing them where they need to go. You also need to show them who's boss. If Dr. Phil were kicking butt and taking names, he'd look like you. It's a fine line to toe, but an understanding hard-ass is what would serve you best in this work world. People will be tempted to take advantage of you and you can't let them. However, you also have to act in their best interest and not your own. If you can cultivate a personality that's both oriented to the other and yet rational, logical, and unmoved, you'll be off to a good start.
Summary:
Brush up. Be prepared for dangerous situations. Check up on your parolees. Get ready for a hectic schedule. Be both Dr.