Q: You can never underestimate the power of appreciating another person for who they are, particularly the special woman in your life. It isn't enough to just say that you're thankful to have her in your life; it's important to spell out why. The details matter because they go to the core of who she is and how her essence is reflected in your eyes. Notice what she does to help others, including you, and make a comment about how much you value her generosity and kindness. Tell her that you really appreciate her ability to help and care for others. Pay attention to her appearance changes. Tell her you love her new hair style or her new clothes. Cherish the little things. Whenever you notice something small that reminds you how much you appreciate her, say it rather than just thinking it. One important way of letting her know that you appreciate her is to compliment her. Compliments serve as instant mood-boosters and are an important means for reminding her how much you care about her. Don't compliment her so much that she begins to question your sincerity, but at the same time, don't get into a routine that causes you to forget how much she needs to know that you notice her. Be specific in your compliments. Instead of making a general remark about how beautiful she is, pinpoint specific aspects of her that amaze you, such as her eyes, her hair or the way she smiles. Singling out a particular reason for why you like or love a person is far more effective than a generalized reason. Ask questions that are a compliment. For example: "I love your earrings, they are perfect with your outfit. Where did you find them?" A question like this shows that you notice, that you think she looks great and that she has good taste. Be sincere. If your compliments or comments are not meant sincerely, they won't carry a genuine feeling and she'll pick up on this lack of sincerity. Dale Carnegie once said: ""Flattery is from the teeth out. Sincere appreciation is from the heart out." Therefore, only say things you feel in your heart and believe with all your might. Tell her what you love about it. For example: "Darling, you've got such an incredible body. Are you sure we've had three kids and 10 years together?" Let her know she is beautiful, but be specific about what you like. Don't simply tell her she's the most beautiful woman in the world because she won't believe that you're sincere.
A: Tell her how much you appreciate her. Compliment her often. Respect her body.

Q: Before you begin to try making friends with a stray cat, make sure you can identify what kind of cat it is. A free-roaming cat has an owner that takes care of it, but allows it to wander around on its own. You should probably not try and befriend a free-roaming cat; if you begin to feed it or let it in your home, it might abandon its owner. Other cats are strays. A stray cat is one that formerly had an owner, but the owner no longer takes care of it, or abandoned the cat. Stray cats may roam widely, taking food and shelter where it can find it. Some stray cats may be willing to make friends with you, or let you pick them up and take them to an animal shelter. Some cats are feral, meaning that they have spent all or nearly all of their lives outdoors and without any human care. Many feral cats were born and raised this way, returning to a nearly-wild state, preferring to stay away from people. Some feral cats are willing to make friends with you, but generally it is difficult to domesticate them. Because it has spent time outdoors and without regular care, your stray cat might be hungry, sick, scared, or injured. Some stray cats may be friendly, walk right up to you, and allow you to pick them up and inspect them. If the cat runs away or acts scared, however, you will have to entice it to stay around. Letting a stray cat know that food is available is one of the most effective ways to start making friends with it. Pay attention to where you've seen the stray cat, and leave some food in the area. Strong-smelling foods like tuna or canned cat food make good choices. Leave food in the same spot everyday; this will make the cat come back and expect to treat. Observe when the cat comes and eats the food you have left outside for it. After a few days, wait near the food, and see if the cat will come and eat while you are within sight. Don't try to pet or pick up the cat at first. Try waiting near the cat as it eats over the course of a few days. Once it seems very familiar with your presence, you can try to approach it. Move slowly, and sit on the ground. This will make you look less intimidating. Try this again and again for several days, moving a little closer to the food each time.
A: Know what kind of cat you are dealing with. Try to note the cat's condition. Offer food. Approach the cat.

Q: Take a few moments every day, and just pause. Sweep your gaze over your field of vision. Try to notice as many details as possible. This will train you to pay more attention to your surroundings. Pay attention to the people, objects, animals, plants, and buildings around you. Try doing this in a different place every day. Start at home, then try it at an office, park, mall, grocery store, or a local landmark. Often, people only notice the large objects that surround them. As you go throughout your day, try to look for the smaller details that might surround buildings, landmarks, and large spaces. For example, you might be at a store. What does the sign say? Is there anything on the windows? How many carts are lined up outside? If you're walking through a neighborhood, you might study the different mailboxes, lawn ornaments, plants, or toys out in the yard. It is easy to become distracted by electronics, intrusive thoughts, or noisy environments, but these can make you less observant. Rather than tune out your surroundings, try to focus on where you are in the moment. Instead of listening to music on your commute, describe your surroundings. On the bus, you might notice that there are five people on it, that the bus is making a rumbling noise, and that there is a musty smell. When you take a walk, listen to the sounds of nature, such as birds singing or the wind rustling through the trees. Think about how the sun feels on your skin or how brightly colored the flowers are. Do this throughout your day as you notice things. This will keep you observant in the moment. Write your observations in a journal or word document. Try to be as specific as possible. What did you see? Was it a certain color, size, or shape? Where was the object? How it was placed in relation to other objects? What kinds of sounds were going on around you? What types of sensations did you feel? Who was there? What were they wearing? What were they doing? When you're trying to observe something, try to identify how many of them there are. These numbers will force to you to pay more attention to the size or quantity of objects. As time goes on, you may be able to count objects more quickly. For example, instead of "I saw some kids playing outside," you might write, "I saw four kids playing outside with one ball." Instead of saying "I had to sign a bunch of documents," keep track of what you did. You might observe that you signed your name four different times on two different documents.
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Stop to observe everything around you. Pay attention to small details. Stay in the present moment. Write down everything that you notice on a daily basis. Quantify everything you notice.