Each person's experience with grief is different. That means that no level of expertise will equip you to tell the person in mourning how he should respond. Your role is to provide company, listen, and validate their feelings. Don't tell, listen. Constantly reinforce that their response is normal and natural. Encourage them to use their own skills to cope with grief. If they are an artist, encourage them to use this ability to express his feelings. Help them understand and recognize their feelings. Help them develop a schedule that allows them to manage their daily tasks while reducing unnecessary outside stressors. Remember that your job is to be there, not to take away the pain. That is impossible. Your job is to support them, not to try to fix them. It is important to make it clear that you understand the person's feelings. Be sure that they know that such feelings are natural and that people experience grief differently. It might be useful to explain some of the common responses to grief and make it clear that they are natural. Those who experience instrumental grief focus on problem solving and try to control emotional responses. Those who experience intuitive grieving have intense emotional experiences that might include depression and thoughts about mortality. It is common for people to blame themselves, feel anger, hopelessness, anxiety, and withdrawal from the world. Don't ask leading questions or "yes" and "no" questions. Ask big, broad questions, that encourage him to think about his feelings and explore the subjects that he is interested in. Make it clear that you want to know what he feels, but are not questioning the validity of his feelings. Do not ask "why" questions. These make it sound as if you do not understand or support his feelings. Ask broad questions like "How do you feel?" Ask "What bothers you the most?" Instead of asking "Why do you feel that way?" ask "Could you give me specific examples?" When you are trying to get to the core of her problems, try giving a short summary of what you think she has told you. This will demonstrate that you are listening and might help her get a better grip on what is bothering her the most. If she tells you, "I stay up every night thinking about him. When I go to work I am tired and can't think clearly. I am getting more and more nervous and depressed because I can't function during the day." Ask, "So your grief is causing sleep problems that disrupt your life?" When you get a sense for how he feels, verify that you have correctly understood his emotions. This is a way to demonstrate that you are listening and that you have developed an emotional connection. Try, "Sounds like you are very angry about what has happened." Alternatively, "It sounds like you are having difficulty understanding your emotions." Everything you do should be directed at her. Anything that suggests your focus is elsewhere will be counterproductive. You should avoid forcing your own solutions upon her. Do not watch the clock. Do not take notes. Do not look around the room. Do not try to read too much into her feelings and impose your own idea or her feelings on her. Do not preach or lecture about what she should do. Refrain from giving too much advice or asking too many questions. Do not respond too quickly. Allow moments of silence. Do not change the subject. Do not talk too much about yourself.
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One-sentence summary -- Act as a companion. Validate feelings. Ask open questions. Paraphrase responses. Reflect his feelings. Refrain from unsupportive behavior.

Before you begin snow blowing, stand outside and feel the wind against your face. When you snow blow, you should move in the direction of the wind. Snow blowing against the wind will result in snow blowing against your face while you work. If you can't tell the direction of the wind, try licking your finger and then holding in front of your face. The wetness will help you feel the wind better. You can also throw a handful of loose snow up in the air. The direction it lands is the direction that the wind is blowing. Look at moving or waving objects, such as trees, flags, or wind chimes. If they're bending or turning a certain way, it means that the wind is pushing them in that direction. You need to blow the snow away from your driveway. Ideally, you should blow the snow as far into the yard as possible. Check your snow blower's capability to see how far you can blow snow using the highest setting. Plan to twist the nozzle as necessary to get the snow into the appropriate spot in your yard. Aim to blow the snow towards an unused area of your yard. Avoid blowing the snow into places like walkways or near the mailbox. Remember that the pile of snow will melt in spring, so try to blow the snow towards an area that has good drainage. Make sure your snow blower does not blow the snow too far out. You don't want to use a setting that would blow your snow into a neighbor's yard. Be sure to check the condition of the snow blower before using it. You may have to make some adjustments depending on the snow blower's condition and your driveway. Check the following: Check the machine's oil before every use (applies to 4 cycle engines). Snow blowers can often burn oil without smoking, and the lack of the proper amount and/or correct type of oil can kill your machine quickly. Fill the machine with fuel before starting, to avoid breaking your routine and walking back to your garage just to re-fuel. This should be done outdoors to prevent vapor build-up. Do not add fuel to a hot engine; a snow blower's engine must be cooled down first. Add a fuel stabilizer if it is extremely cold outside. This will help prevent the fuel from freezing and gelling inside of the snow blower. Check the skid shoes, which are the metal pieces on the bottom of the snow blower. If you have a paved driveway, make sure the skid shoes are set to the lowest setting. For a gravel driveway, skid shoes should be set higher up to avoid displacing the gravel.
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One-sentence summary -- Determine which direction the wind is blowing. Choose a place for the snow to build up. Prepare the snow blower.

If you find yourself plagued by flies or other insects, trap them with duct tape. Cut off a length and then attach the two free ends to each other to form a loop, with the sticky side facing outward. Fix this to your ceiling wherever flies are concentrating. Simply pat the sticky side of a swath of tape over your clothes, furniture, or anything else that needs a quick clean-up. Repeat as needed until all the offending particles are removed. For large areas, speed things up by grabbing an empty paint roller and wrapping your tape around the actual roller with the sticky side facing out. Use a strip of duct tape to cover the leftover bits of price stickers and other adhesives left behind when you tried to tear them off new purchases or other items. Rub your finger back and forth over the surface of the tape to make sure it adheres to the offending adhesive underneath, and then rip the tape off. Repeat as needed, then remove all final traces if desired by misting window spray and scrubbing lightly with a cloth or paper towel. Say you want to keep a spare key outside, or hide a thumbdrive in your office where prying eyes won't find it. Just rip off an appropriately sized strip of tape and secure your key, thumbdrive, or other small object in the center of its sticky side. Then attach the tape to a solid surface somewhere out of sight, where people won't think to look.
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Use it as fly tape. Clean up dust, dirt, and hair. Get rid of other sticky materials. Hide small objects.