Problem: Article: If you were the unfaithful party, it's important that you take responsibility for your actions and end the affair. You should stop all communication with the person you were unfaithful with and prevent any future interactions with them. If your spouse was unfaithful, you should confirm that they have ended the affair and intend to avoid all contact with they were unfaithful with. Avoid deciding right away if you are both going to stay in the marriage. Rather than make this big decision up front, agree to work together to try to sort through your issues. This will put less pressure on you both as you work on your relationship and allow you both to try your best to get over the affair. Don't be afraid to express your hurt feelings to your spouse and be willing to listen to any hurt feelings expressed by your spouse. Often, it can help to process the affair if you acknowledge the infidelity and explain how it has hurt you and your marriage. If your spouse is the one who had the affair, they should be willing to listen to your feelings, apologize, and validate your hurt feelings. Expressing your emotions can help you gradually the hurt and pain you are feeling, and begin to move past the affair. When you first discover the affair, or when your spouse confronts you with the affair, it's important that you do not make any rash decisions. You will likely be very upset and hurt. Avoid letting your emotions dictate your reaction. Try to discuss the affair openly with your partner and focus on expressing how you are feeling, rather than yelling or screaming at each other. It can be intense when you discover an affair or admit an affair to your spouse. You may act out of anger or be in shock. Take some time away from your spouse to think about the affair and to process your emotions. Don't be afraid to give each other space if you think it will help you move past the infidelity. Look for objective, nonjudgmental support from friends, loved ones, or a spiritual leader. If you already have a therapist, you may want to reach out to them for professional guidance. Often it helps to have someone who will listen to you as you process your emotions and give you verbal or silent support as you deal with this intense event. You can also lean on your family and friends as you continue to process and work through the infidelity. Once you decide to save your marriage and work through your issues with your spouse, it can be helpful to have a support network to turn to. It can be helpful to schedule time on the weekends to spend with family and friends as you work through the issues with your spouse. Keep in mind infidelity can occur for a variety of reasons and that reason may be unique to your relationship with your spouse. To help keep your marriage together after your spouse discovers your affair or you admit your affair, it's important to be willing to be transparent and honest. If you discover your spouse is having an affair, think about reasons why he or she may have cheated. Ask your spouse if they know the reasons they had the affair, and if certain factors were at play that may have lead to the affair. There are many factors that can contribute to infidelity, some of which have nothing to do with sex. Possible factors include: Sexual attraction to someone other than you, and deciding to act on this feeling rather than suppress it. Feeling a strong emotional connection to someone. Confiding marital issues to someone else other than you. Developing unrealistic fantasies about someone and being blinded by these fantasies.
Summary: Be accountable for your actions. Express any hurt feelings honestly and openly. Take time apart, if necessary. Reach out to family and friends. Consider the possible reasons for the affair.

Problem: Article: Most cotton mattress pads can go right in the washing machine, but you should check the care label first to make sure. The tag will tell you if there are special care needs for your mattress pad. Pour a mild laundry detergent into the washing machine. You should use whatever amount is listed on your laundry detergent for a medium/large load. Set the water temperature to warm or cool and add the mattress pad. If you can dry your mattress pad in the dryer, throw a few tennis or rubber balls to the dryer. Letting them bounce around the dryer with your mattress pad will maintain the fluffiness of the pad.
Summary:
Check the care label. Put the mattress pad in the washing machine. Dry in the dryer.