Write an article based on this "Focus on all the positives of the relationship. Try putting yourself in their shoes. Talk about the incident. Depersonalize the incident. Try to keep a positive outlook on things. Recognize that we all make mistakes and think about the times you've received forgiveness."
If you've decided to forgive and move forward, one of the best ways to let go of resentment, anger and suspicion is to remind yourself of all of the wonderful things this person brings to your life. There's probably a reason hopefully a lot of reasons why you stayed in the relationship. Think about those as you begin to let the other person in. It's hard to do, and it's not necessarily expected of you, but it will help save the relationship if that's what you want to do. Try to imagine what drove the person to betray you, indirectly or directly. Try to think about how the person feels at this very moment. You shouldn't make any decisions just because you pity someone, but showing empathy is an olive branch that will mean a lot to the other person. Be clear about your feelings, and give the other person a chance to speak. At the same time, know that asking for specific details can make the pain even worse. This can make the healing process even harder. Discuss the event. Explain how you interpreted the event and why you were hurt. Avoid accusatory language. Give the other person the opportunity to explain the situation from their perspective. Establish your expectations and ask what is expected of you. This will help clarify the cause of the current problem, as well as avoid future disagreements. Don't expect to get through talking about the incident in one sitting. Make that clear to your friend or partner. The healing process is going to take some time, and that person should be prepared to talk about it for some time. If they're not prepared to, that's a sign that they may not care as much about mending the relationship as you do. Often, hurtful behavior has much more to do with the other person than it does with us. Rather than face their own issues, people project them onto a close friend, family member or partner. If the incident was borne of the other person's insecurity, help him or her deal with the pain. This will help you view the incident with compassion and help you to forgive. Here are a few examples of hurtful behaviors that are not personal attacks: Someone makes a snide comment about your appearance because he or she feels unattractive. A partner flirts to feel desirable, not because you are unloving or unlovable. A friend is hyper-competitive because she feels inadequate. You are sabotaged by a co-worker because he fears his work is inadequate. If you fear the relationship or friendship just isn't going to work, but want to try anyway, you may as well throw in the towel right now. If you decide to give it another try, believe that it will work, not because you want it to, but because the other person has earned it. Don't constantly live in fear of the same betrayal happening again. Try to get back to normal as much as possible. If you find yourself living in the constant shadow of the betrayal, that's a sign that it's time to get out both for your sake and for the other person's. Likely, forgiveness gave you the opportunity to be a kind and more responsible human being. Forgiving another allows you to pass that gift on to someone else.