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. Do something that will make her take notice of you. Don't try to make yourself into something you aren't, though. Being yourself (maybe the best possible version of you) is the best way to ensure that if she's interested in you, she's really interested in you, not somebody you're trying to be to get yourself noticed. Take care of yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, and dress in clothes that express something about you. You don't have to be a fashion model or a superstar athlete, but keeping yourself neat, clean, and groomed will show off your physical health, which humans have evolved to find innately attractive. Studies show that women value social traits, such as compassion and friendliness, as highly (or even more) than physical attractiveness. Do something that shows you care about other people. Volunteer at your local food bank, give blood, bail a friend out of a sticky situation, organize a charity auction. Show her that there's more to you than meets the eye. She'll be impressed that you give back and curious about what else you have to offer. Show her your funny side. Research shows that both men and women rank a sense of humor as one of the most attractive qualities in a potential partner. Joke around, make others laugh -- just don't belittle or use mean or bitter humor, because that's a surefire way to kill the mood instantly. A little playfulness is also likely to benefit you. Excel at something you're good at, preferably in her company. What do you do well? It could be anything from tennis, rock climbing, or football, to humor, math, or debate. Whatever it is, stand out for excellence in that area. Signal with your own body language. Women tend to be better at interpreting body language than men are, which can be good for you if you know how to use it. Things like making your body a little bigger, squaring your shoulders when you stand, and playfully bumping or elbowing your guy friends if you're all hanging out with her can help signal that you're trying to get her attention. Put yourself out there. Remember: fortune favors the brave. If you're stuck in your apartment constantly, you're probably not using your time in the best way. And if you don't hit a challenge at least some of the time, you might never see results. Both women and men are drawn to confident people. However, cockiness is usually a turn-off, so make sure your confidence doesn't take the leap into arrogance. True self-confidence comes from within. It's knowing who you are, accepting who you are, and being confident that you're pretty great at being you. You don't need validation from others to make you feel good about yourself. When you're confident in yourself, you inspire that confidence in others. Cockiness happens when you base your self-esteem on external sources, like compliments or achievements. It often comes from a place of insecurity. You may feel like you need to put others down to feel better about yourself, or like everything is a competition between you and the rest of the world. It's fine to accept compliments and praise, especially if you can acknowledge the roles others played in your success or achievement. For example, if you're a star athlete, you probably still have a great team behind you. When you win the big game, accept praise for your good performance, but remember to extend that praise to your teammates, too. That type of behavior shows true self-confidence, not cockiness. No, it doesn't need to be written down, and it doesn't need to involve little x's and o's on a whiteboard. Be strategic about what you do and you'll give yourself a better chance of winning a girl's heart. Be amateurish and you'll likely lower your chances. If you're in love with one girl, it's OK to focus on winning her heart. When love hits us, it's like a ton of bricks, and we often feel helpless. That's natural. If, however, you want to find love in general, try socializing with several different women. You'll increase your chances of finding someone you genuinely bond with, and rejection from one won't seem so bad if you have the possibility of another waiting in the wings. There are several other benefits to this strategy: You'll have a better idea of what you want. We often don't know what we want until we see it. Put yourself out there and chances are you'll find a woman you naturally gel with, instead of forcing it with someone you thought you knew. Socializing with several women is not the same as being a player. If you want to find love, date around, but only romantically involve yourself with one woman at a time. Don't go into a relationship hoping to exploit or manipulate. Really find out who she is, what she stands for, where she's coming from. She will appreciate your interest in what makes her tick. Ask open-ended questions, actively listen and engage with her answers, and don't make assumptions or jump to conclusions about her. People love talking about themselves. This is just the way things are. Don't forget to engage in conversation and give her information about yourself, but get her engaged in something she likes talking about and you'll find it's a lot easier going. One way to do this is to ask great questions. Ask about her passions ("What do you love to do?"), her inspirations ("What makes you tick?"), and her goals ("What do you want to achieve?"), for example. Questions that ask her about her future may help her envision you in it. Questions about what's going on right now tend to be more surface-level. Social psychologist Arthur Aron has a list of 36 open-ended, creative questions you can ask to prompt getting to know a person better. Now is not the time to harsh on your ex-girlfriends or trash your boss. This level of negativity could make the woman uncomfortable. If you're saying bad things about other people to her, she'll also have to wonder if you'd do the same about her with someone else. Stick to positive topics. . These things take time. Don't expect to win her heart in a matter of days. Slow but steady wins the race. Set realistic expectations so that you're not disappointed if she doesn't fall for you immediately. If she gives you her number, perfect, but don't beg for it. Call her when you get her number, but not too much. Some days, give her a chance to call you! Don't spill your whole life story at once. If you really like this woman, it could be tempting to give her the "hard sell" on why you're the man for her. Take it slowly. Leaving a little mystery to yourself gives her things to ask you about, and doesn't make you seem desperate or -- even worse -- like you don't understand boundaries.
Give her a reason to notice you Display self-confidence. Form a game-plan. Make the effort to get to know her. Take your time