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With addiction, you need to approach the topic from a place of love. You want your family member to feel supported, not alienated, by you. Ultimately, your goal should be to get them the help they need so they do not steal from you again. You are probably angry and hurt by your family member. It is okay to express this, as your family member needs to know their addiction hurts others. However, remember your family member likely feels guilt and shame on their own end. Come at it from a place of love. For example, do not say, "I'm furious that you took my medication." Instead, say something like, "I love and care about you. I'm angry you took my medication, but I'm also concerned by the behavior. I'm worried you have an addiction." Blame-oriented language can make the person feel guilty. While your family member should take responsibility for treating their addiction, a physical addiction itself is largely beyond someone's control. You do not want to say things that sound like you're blaming the person. This will only increase negative feelings and make your loved one less likely to seek help. It can be helpful to use "I"-statements here, as they are designed to reduce blame. They start with "I feel...", after which you immediately state your feelings. From there, you state the actions that led to those feelings, and explain why you feel the way you do. For example, "I feel hurt that you took my medication without asking because it's a huge betrayal of my trust." Getting angry in these situations, no matter how emotionally taxing they are, will make things worse. Remember, you want to help your family member confront their addiction and get help. It's best to remain calm to achieve this. Addicts may try to confuse you or deflect blame. They may even deny wrongdoing at first. Be calm and continue to state your case. For example, your family member says, "Maybe you took more than you intended and didn't realize." Respond with something like, "Please do not lie to me. We need to talk this over." You want to end the conversation on a note that allows you both to move forward. Talk to your family member about seeking treatment for addiction. This is vital if your family member has been stealing medication. End the conversation with something like, "I think we should get you treatment so this does not happen again. I love and care about you and I just don't want you getting hurt." Remember to keep your expectations in check. Your loved one might not be willing to make a change right away. They might need some time to think and want to return to the conversation later.

summary: Express love and concern. Avoid blame or guilt-tripping. State things in a calm and assertive fashion. Offer to help them get treatment.

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Be careful when you mix these substances; doing so will cause the solution to get very hot. You'll need enough of the solution to cover the charcoal completely. For normal-sized batches of charcoal, 100 g (3.5 oz) of chloride mixed with 1.3 cups (310ml) of water should be enough. Calcium chloride can be bought at most hardware stores, home centers, and general retailers. If you can't find calcium chloride, you can substitute it for bleach or lemon juice. Just use either 1.3 cups (310ml) of bleach or 1.3 cups (310ml) of lemon juice instead of the calcium chloride solution. Transfer the dry charcoal powder to a stainless steel or glass mixing bowl. Add the calcium chloride solution (or the lemon juice or the bleach) to the powder in small increments, stirring it with a spoon as you do so. When the mixture reaches paste consistency, stop adding the solution. Cover the bowl and allow it to sit untouched. After that, drain as much of the remaining moisture from the bowl as possible. At this point, the charcoal should be wet, but not saturated. Return your charcoal to the (cleaned) metal pot and put it back on a fire. The fire will need to be hot enough to boil water for the charcoal to activate. After cooking for 3 hours at this temperature, the charcoal will be activated.
summary: Combine calcium chloride and water in a 1:3 ratio. Use bleach or lemon juice as an alternative to the calcium chloride solution. Stir together the calcium chloride solution and charcoal powder. Cover the bowl and let the charcoal sit for 24 hours. Cook the charcoal for another 3 hours to activate it.