Q: To secure heavy items on plaster walls, use screws that are 2 inches (5.1cm) long. If possible, get screws that have plastic anchor attachments to help hold them in place. Use a magnetic stud finder to locate the wooden studs hidden behind the plaster wall. Try to find one at the spot where you would like to hang the object. Heavy objects will be more secure if they are held in place by screws driven into the stud. Most stud finders will light up when they find a stud. If you find a stud, mark the spot on the wall. Then use a measuring tape to make a straight line going up the wall from this spot. Along that line, mark the height where you actually want to hang the object on a piece of painter's tape. You can hang heavy items in plaster walls without driving screws into a stud. However, you should use screws with anchors to be more secure. Use the same procedure as you would for hanging light objects. However, make sure to use a drill bit that is just a bit smaller than the width of the anchor if you are using one. For instance, a screw that is 0.25 inches (0.64cm) wide may have an anchor that is 0.3 inches (0.76cm) wide. Use a drill bit that is no larger than 0.25 inches (0.64cm). If possible, just use the pressure of your hand. If the anchor won't go in that way, gently tap it with a light hammer until it is flush with the wall. Be very careful, however. Plaster is brittle and can crumble if you accidentally hit it with the hammer. If you do end up with a crack or small hole in your wall, you may be able to repair it with a plaster compound repair kit. Look for one at a hardware store. Basically, you will need to carefully smear the compound into the damaged area, smooth it out, and let it set. This should be fairly easy, but you can use the drill with a screw attachment to do it quickly. Don't drive the screw all the way in. Leave a small distance between the screw head and the surface of the wall. Attach the hanger on the back of the object to the screw on the wall. Or, if you prefer, you can wrap one end of a piece of wire tightly around the screw head, then attach the other to the object's hanger. Check the placement of your object with a level to make sure it's even.
A: Use heavy-duty hardware. Find a stud, if you can. Pre-drill a hole at the spot where you want to hang the object. Tap the anchor into the hole you drilled. Drive the screw into the anchor.

Q: This is your first girlfriend, and you want your parents to understand how much she means to you. However, this doesn't mean acting the same way you do around your girlfriend when you're both alone together. Overdone PDA can cause the interaction to be a lot more uncomfortable for your parents, and it could affect their view of the relationship. If you want to show your girlfriend your support and affection, put your arm around her or give her hand a squeeze. This is a mature level of physical interaction between a couple and will not make your parents uncomfortable. Avoid prolonged kissing or touching. Although this might be normal for the two of you around others, this is not a good way to act around your parents. They will appreciate your maturity if you abstain from this kind of behavior around them. It's important to show your parents that you respect your girlfriend. Do not tease, yell or swear around her in any way. You may be feeling vulnerable or even confused about how to act in this interaction. It's important to remember that your girlfriend is probably feeling the same way! Make sure that you treat her with support and respect and make her proud to be dating you. Although you and your girlfriend may talk together about every topic under the sun, there are just certain things that your parents don't want to hear. Keep everything G-rated when they are around. Talk to your girlfriend in the same way your would talk to a close friend and keep the conversation family friendly.
A: Don't overdo the PDA. Act respectfully towards your girlfriend. Don't talk about personal things with your parents around.

Q: While revenge may cross your mind and you may even begin to plot your plan, don't go through with it. Revenge may be a way that people seek justice, yet the quest for justice may result in more injustice if the cycle of revenge continues. When you want revenge on someone, acknowledge your feelings as a way to cope with a loss of trust. Don't act on your impulses; wait until you are calm and in control of your body and emotions. It is likely that feelings of revenge will pass once you get out of the mindset. If you choose to talk to the person you resent, watch your words. Don't say anything you may regret in a moment of passion or to get revenge. It's ultimately not worth it. Remember that no one person can meet all of your needs. If you believe that having a partner or a friend or being part of a family means that you will have all your needs met, think again. Having high expectations sets you up for failure. Resentment can occur when expectations aren't communicated clearly. A discussion on expectations and desires can help clarify current problems and avoid future problems. Have clear expectations with the people in your life. Compromise with the people in your life on what standards and expectations you each have for the relationship. When discussing your resentment with someone, don't be quick to place all of the blame onto him. Instead, own your own feelings and experience. You cannot tell someone what his motivation was, or why he did something, because you simply cannot make that judgment call for someone else. Instead, focus on yourself, your hurt, and your experience. Instead of saying "You ruined the relationship and I'll never forgive you!" try saying "I feel very hurt by what you did and it's hard for me to move past this." Sometimes it's hard to admit that you yourself are flawed, have blind spots, and don't always respond to situations in the most constructive way. This a reality for every person on planet Earth. Just as you want people to forgive your mistakes, extend the same courtesy to the people in your life. Remember that the person that hurt you is flawed, and sometimes functions from a place of limiting beliefs or skewed perception. Accepting that people make mistakes doesn't mean excusing their behavior. It means you allow yourself to see the context surrounding the person and the experience to help you understand better. Allow the people in your life to be positive people who support you and allow you to make your own decisions. These are people who allow you to make mistakes and still support you. Have friends that are honest with you, that will give you a fresh perspective when you are stuck, or that will tell you when you are over-reacting. Good friends will accept you regardless of the mistakes you make, and being a good friend means accepting others even when they make mistakes. You may feel betrayed or absolutely justified in your resentment toward someone, making forgiveness nearly impossible. However, forgiveness doesn't mean pretending the situation didn't happen or that you have to excuse the person's behavior. Forgiveness means you let go of the pain the person caused you. Ask yourself what the person or situation triggered that deeply hurt you. Did you experience feeling abandoned, traumatized, or re-experience unpleasant memories from the past? It's likely the person uncovered a deeper hurt inside you. You don't even have to verbally forgive someone. You can forgive someone who is no longer in your life or who has passed on. One way to practice forgiveness is by writing the situation and then writing about why you are choosing to forgive. Have a small (safe) fire and burn the paper.
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Avoid revenge. Have realistic expectations of others. Use "I" statements in discussions. Allow people to make mistakes. Surround yourself with positive people. Forgive.