Before you start the meeting, you'll want to make sure everyone's settled and as comfortable as possible. To do this, you can simply introduce yourself, but it helps to have an icebreaker activity. This can include anything like having people introduce themselves and state their experience with the group's theme and why they're there, such as having three years experience coding computer games for fun, but feel free to get creative. Creative icebreakers, for example, can be tossing a beach ball around and having people add a word to a story or answer a question you've written on a section of the ball. Don't pressure shy members to speak. Reassure your group members that they can pass if they don't feel comfortable sharing. Chances are you already have in mind what the group is about and have discussed this a little with prospective members. However, bring these ideas to the first meeting. Discuss with your members again why you are starting this club. Why do you want to create this club? Write these answers into a basic mission statement. For instance, if your club is about photography, you may wish to connect to others over a love of photography. Write a mission statement saying exactly that. Once you have a basic idea of the club's purpose, use it to determine what the club should accomplish and what the members will do together. The club members will share a common interest in the subject, but your club will benefit from having something to achieve and activities that allow members to have fun. Talk to your members about what they want to get out of your meetings. For example, for a photography club, you can discuss photographs, improve your knowledge of photography, and go on trips together. Many clubs require nothing more than one's presence. However, some clubs require extra material. If you want to start a book club, members have to have their own copy of the books you discuss. For other groups, such as ones about social anxiety, you can print out copies of lessons and worksheets and provide the material yourself. While conducting the first meeting, introduce yourself to unfamiliar members. Welcome them to the group. Tell them who you are, why you've created the group, and what experience you have with the subject. Then introduce anyone else responsible for the group and have them share the same facts about themselves. A social group usually lacks a formal structure. Groups that charge membership, raise funds, or get involved in politics may have to declare their type of group to the government. As your group grows, consider appointing other members to handle tasks such as a deputy leader to back up your role, a treasurer to handle expenses, a secretary to contact members, and a membership manager to keep track of group membership. What does it mean to be a member of this group and what is membership like? Many social clubs have an open door or simple rules like having social anxiety to be in a social anxiety group. Other clubs may demand qualifications such as advanced computer coding skills, being a certain age, and so forth. Is there a charge to be a member? What benefits to members receive for being a part of this group? Make sure these rules are clearly communicated. Many social groups won't need to do this since many groups have members show up as they please and pay for themselves. A ski group can have members pay their own way on trips, for meals, and chip in for snacks. Other groups need to identify what money they bring in, such as membership fees, expenses, how the money will be used, and draft a budget. You as a leader may wish to do this for yourself. Include any officers you've appointed. You'll need to consider your own budget, such as what you can afford to spend on meeting rooms, food, advertising, and materials for the meetings. A charter is a document that establishes the rules of the club. If your club is small, for fun, and has little structure outside of yourself as leader, you can simply write down all the rules. Outline the group's purpose, leadership, and rules such as how members should act and respect one another. Larger and more organized groups need to outline issues such as leadership position terms, how voting on group issues works, and how many members need to be at official meetings.
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One-sentence summary -- Break the ice. Define the club's purpose. Determine the club's long-term goals. Decide what resources members need. Introduce the leadership. Define group membership. Outline the group's finances. Make a charter.

Extroverts may tend to approach conflict through confrontation and problem-solving while introverts tend to shy away from conflicts. In turn, introverts may feel harassed or nagged while the extrovert may feel like he or she is being stonewalled. If you are an introvert, be willing to engage in conflict with your partner, and realize that your partner likely wants to find a resolution, not argue. If your partner is quick to discuss issues and it irritates you, ask your partner to thoughtfully consider the issue before immediately bringing it up. Some things are better left unsaid or can be worked out on their own. Likewise, if you're both extroverted, don't bring every little thing to the surface. Count to ten or ask yourself some questions before going to your partner, such as, "Will this help improve our relationship?" In addition to understanding your conflict styles, be honest about what conflicts are like for you. If you're an introvert, let your partner know what sets you off or shuts you down. You can encourage your extroverted partner to give you a nudge to open up or respond back. If you're introverted, say, "I tend to shut down when you are upset. I know that doesn't help us solve our problems, so please gently invite me to engage the situation, even if I seem mad and upset." If you are both extroverted, you may want to approach conflicts when you are each calm and settled. Don't let anger flare up and don't jump into discussions that could be better if you slowed down. If both partners are unwilling to compromise and continue to butt heads, this may be a relationship issue. For example, an introvert may retreat as a way to avoid problems in the relationship while the extrovert may spend more time with friends to avoid problems. If you've tried to find compromises but your partner won't budge, consider the longevity of your relationship and how the changes you want will affect it. Talk to your partner about your efforts and how you feel about not finding compromises. Say, "It's important that we find some degree of resolution about our differences, and I want us to treat each other with respect." If the problems continue to come up despite your best efforts, it may be time to see a therapist. A therapist can help you work through problems and see things more clearly from your partner's perspective. You may learn new ways to approach or interact with your partner or try new things to understand your partner's needs better. Seeing a therapist doesn't mean your relationship is doomed or that you should be ashamed that you are struggling. It's brave to ask for help and take steps to improve your relationship.
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Recognize conflict styles. Talk about how you handle conflict. Consider if you have a relationship issue. Talk to a therapist.