If you're still angry with your ex, the last thing you'll want to do is give a little when it comes to the time arrangement, especially if your ex is being uncooperative. However, giving a little can open up space for a better relationship in the future because it shows you're willing to compromise a bit. Think of it this way. If you're mad at someone and they give you a cookie, you're less likely to be as mad at them because they've been generous to you. It's a silly analogy, but it shows how we think of relationships. When one person gives a little, the other person may be more willing to give a little, too. In addition, your ex may be willing to be more flexible with the time arrangement in the future when you want to keep your kid for a special day. Of course, you can't control your ex's behavior. However, you can control what you do. One way you can help the situation is stop trying to fix your ex, especially if they keep trying to change you. By stepping back, you are signalling you are done with that type of relationship, and in turn, your ex may come to realize that they need to be done with that part of the relationship, too. Making a statement to your ex about what he or she must do can be off-putting. Instead, try re-framing your statements into requests. That way, your ex will at least feel like you are trying to work with them, rather than dictate to them. For instance, you may be tempted to say, "You should stop taking our kid out for ice cream late at night." Instead, try saying, "Can we talk about Charlie's bedtime? I feel like he does better when we're both on the same page." Even when you'd rather avoid speaking to your ex, it's important to be direct with your ex. Using your child as a mediator only puts stress on the kid. Plus, messages can get mixed up when you send them through a kid. Whatever conflict you have, face it directly. In addition, talking to your ex yourself shows your child how to deal with difficult situations with grace. You're modeling a behavior that your child can rely on later. It also leaves the burden of parenting on you and your ex, not your kid. Bring up the issue you need to discuss. Say why it's important, and what you want to happen. Once you've brought up the issue, give your ex a chance to react. Then discuss possible solutions until you come up with one you can both live with. Don't place blame. Rather, discuss what problem is happening. For instance, instead of saying, "You give our kid too much sugar," you could say, "I've noticed Charlie has behavioral problems after eating sugar." Move on to why you think it's important. "At his age, I think too much sugar is detrimental. I'd like to reduce the sugar in his diet." Ask your ex for a reaction. "What do you think?" Whether your ex agrees or disagrees, discuss solutions. You could say, "I understand you disagree, but can we come up with a solution we both can live with? What if we limit his sugar intake to one sugary snack a day?" Go back and forth until you can come up with a compromise. If you can't come up with a compromise, you may need decide to disagree. That is, as long as your ex isn't being abusive, he or she gets to make the decisions when your kid is with him or her.

Summary: Resolve to be flexible with the time arrangement. Stop trying to change your ex. Re-frame your statements. Be direct. Resolve conflicts with problem solving.

Mustard greens should be harvested when the leaves are still young and tender; older leaves will have a bitterer flavor. You can start to pick the leaves after 4 weeks, when they should be about 3 to 6 inches long (7.6-15.2cm). You can harvest greens by snipping off outer leaves from the plant, and then leaving it to continue growing. Alternatively, you can unearth the entire plant and harvest all of the leaves at once. Discard any yellow leaves that you find on the plant. Pick all your mustard greens and refrigerate them. Leaves can be kept in the crisper drawer for up to a week. Beyond that, you can freeze the greens to be used for cooking later on. When the environment gets too hot, the plants will begin to seed and grow a flower stalk, signaling that no new leaves will grow. At this point you can either dig up the plants, or leave them there to seed. Once the seed pod developing on the plant has dried, you can collect the seeds. Be sure to collect them before the seed pod splits open; seeds that spill onto the soil will likely be dispersed and grow into new plants later on.

Summary: Collect your greens. Store your greens. Harvest mustard seeds.

Most modern vehicles have a serpentine belt instead of a fan belt, though the names may be used interchangeably. Older model vehicles and some high-performance applications still utilize fan belts instead of electric fans. Older belts were made of neoprene and would benefit from the application of belt dressing, but newer EPDM-made belts may dry out as a result of using belt dressing. If your fan belt was installed after the year 2000, it is likely an EPDM-made belt. The two belts are difficult to tell apart visually until they are worn out and need to be replaced. You will need to apply the belt dressing directly onto the belt. In order to do so, you will need to open the hood of the vehicle and remove any cowl cover that may be in place over the fan belt itself. This may require the use of some basic hand tools like a socket or hand wrench. Some vehicles have engine covers that will need to be removed. You will need a direct line of sight and access to the belt while the engine is running. The fan belt will likely be located at the front of the engine, attached to a pulley that rotates the cooling fan or fans for the radiator. It will often be black or grey. You may be able to locate it faster by starting at the radiator fan and working backward. In many older American vehicles, the fan belt is connected to a shaft with a large metal fan at the end and is easy to identify. Serpentine or accessory belts that serve the same function as a fan belt may be on the side of a horizontally mounted engine. Ensure the vehicle is in park with the parking brake engaged, then start the engine. You will need the engine to be running in order to apply the belt dressing evenly over the entire length of the belt. Leave the hood open and engine covers removed when starting the engine. With the engine running, spray the belt dressing directly onto the back of the fan belt. As the engine runs, the fan belt will be moving quickly, so you can leave the can in one place and spray onto the belt as it spins. Spray the belt dressing onto the belt until the entire belt is wet. The squeaking from the fan belt should stop almost immediately.

Summary: Ensure your vehicle is equipped with a neoprene belt. Open the hood. Locate the fan belt. Start the vehicle. Spray the belt dressing directly onto the belt.

After you are done rinsing the shrimp in cold water, pat them dry. You can use a clean paper towel to do this. Some experts believe you should buy frozen shrimp if you want the shrimp to taste best. Fresh shrimp is rare. Shrimp that is bought already peeled and deveined probably won't have as much flavor. Frozen shrimp can be defrosted in cold water. You should avoid brown shrimp or shrimp with black spots on their shells. You also want to avoid shrimp with yellowing shells. To remove the head of a shrimp, you should twist its head if the head is still attached. Do this with a gentle twist, and the head should pop off. Some people will also remove the shrimp's legs by pulling them off, although this is not necessary and is a matter of personal preference. Keep the shrimp cold while you are peeling and deveining them. Keep the shrimp on ice or in ice water while you are working with them. One reason to peel your own shrimp is that they will likely have more flavor. Pre-peeled shrimp are often overcooked.
Summary: Rinse the shrimp. Remove the head of the shrimp.