People do things because they feel right, believe things because they feel true, and make decisions based on emotions (even if they say their reasons are logical). You may hear people making excuses for doing or saying certain things. Sometimes, the excuse might sound very flimsy. Instead of believing the excuse, assume that the person did it because they wanted to. If you want to persuade someone, don't focus on logical reasons. Focus on making an emotional impact. If someone says they are only motivated by logic, it may just be that they don't have much self awareness, and don't understand how their emotions impact them. People fall into patterns, and they tend to follow those patterns (for better or for worse). Think of the laws of motion: an object in motion will tend to stay in motion, and an object at rest will tend to stay at rest, unless a force acts on them. A man who yells too much will probably continue yelling too much unless he gets a serious wake-up call about how his behavior affects other people. A woman who eats healthy will probably continue eating healthy, unless something serious in her life changes. A person who wakes up early every day will probably keep waking up early every day. A child who often forgets their homework will probably keep forgetting their homework, until someone figures out a strategy to help them keep track of it. People can and do change, but you can't make someone change. Instead, the person has to realize for themselves that the way they're acting isn't effective, and decide that they want to do something better. You can help lead them towards a realization, but you can't make them believe in something or commit to something. They have to do this themselves. You are not responsible for them. Sometimes, people behave badly because their needs aren't being met. If you can identify and fill the unmet need, the person might start behaving better. If you don't like someone's behavior, see if you can figure out what they might need. A cranky parent might need a new job that doesn't cause them so much stress. A seriously disorganized teen might suddenly do more homework if a parent sits with them every afternoon to help, or if they get treatment for ADHD. A sullen child might need more praise and one-on-one time from attentive parents, and then become more upbeat and talkative. An emotionally distant girlfriend might need her boyfriend to listen to her more and validate her feelings. People may rise (or fall) to meet your expectations. This is especially true if you're their boss, teacher, or parent. An encouraging and supportive environment often helps people be their best selves, and be on their best behavior. Asking "How can I help you?" can sometimes calm an angry or upset person. People tend to behave better when they are praised for doing well. Punishments are less effective than some positive words or a reward. Predicting other people's actions is notoriously difficult. Everyone is unique, and everyone is complex. Get used to being surprised by other people, and take it in stride.
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One-sentence summary -- Keep in mind that people are usually driven by emotions, not logic. Recognize that habits are hard to break. Recognize that people only change if they want to. Keep in mind that sometimes people need a change in their environment, not a change of who they are. Recognize that people tend to be at their best in a positive environment. Remember that people can surprise you.

Each stronghold has exactly one End Portal. This is what you will use to get to The End. You activate the portal by filling the "frame" with Eyes of Ender. To do this, equip the eye, then use an empty block on the frame. Repeat this until all twelve blocks contain eyes. This will take you to The End. You will not be harmed by the lava under the portal when you are jumping into an activated portal, but if it is not activated you will likely burn to death and lose all your equipment!
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One-sentence summary -- Locate an End Portal. Activate the Portal. Jump into the Portal.

When someone close to you is dealing with a bad situation after a breakup, it can be difficult for everyone involved, including you. You may wonder how you can make the situation easier, what you should do, or what you should say. You can cope with the situation and help them cope by offering a helping hand, a hug, or even just a smile. Whether it is your parents divorcing, or a friend ending a long-term relationship, tell them that you care and want to be there for them. You could say, "I know this is a really tough time for you. I want you to know I care about you and want to be here for you. If you want to, we can just sit here." Do little things that you know will be helpful like walking their dog, cooking a meal, or washing dishes. Whatever the bad situation, and no matter how much you want to make things better after the breakup, you have to set boundaries to the support you give. In order for you to cope with the situation, you've got to know what you can and can't handle and you've got to express this. Make a list of things that you are and aren't okay doing to provide support. For example, you might write, "I can spend all day with my friend Saturday, but I can't skip school to be there for her on Monday". Tell the people involved what your limits are. For instance, you might tell your dad, "I'm okay with talking about the divorce and this whole situation, but not with badmouthing Mom or you." Everyone heals in their own way and at their own pace. There is no right way or time limit for getting over a breakup. It may take the people involved, and you, varying amounts of time to work through this bad situation. The best way to cope with a bad situation after the breakup of someone close to you is to be patient. Be patient with the ex-couple. It may take one, or both, of them time to work through their feelings and move on from what happened. For example, if your mom cries at everything after your parents' divorce, remind yourself, "I need to be patient. This divorce is hard for her and she needs time." Be patient with yourself. Don't try to get over the breakup in a hurry. You have feelings that you need to work through, as well. Tell yourself, "This breakup is a bad situation for me, too, but I can work through it if I'm patient with myself and give everyone time to heal." You do have to deal with negative parts, but you should also look for and point out the positive things that can come from the breakup. Looking for the bright side will help you cope with this situation better and help everyone else cope with the breakup. For example, you could remind your friend that now she can move to that part of town that she loves but her ex hated. Or you might tell your mom, "The divorce is hard on us all, but I've noticed it's given you the freedom to spend more time on your painting." One coping technique for any situation is doing things that improve your mood and make you feel happier. Cope with a bad situation after someone else breaks up by doing something fun to relieve some of your emotional and physical stress. For instance, you could go for a game of putt-putt golf with your dad or visit an antique store with your mom. You could take your sister out for frozen yogurt after her breakup or catch a concert with your friend after their breakup. Don't forget to do something fun just for you. Doing things you enjoy will help you cope with the bad situation, so go skating or catch the latest 3D movie.
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Be there for the person. Set limits. Be patient. Focus on the positive. Do something fun.