Q: As difficult as it may be to come to terms with, the first step to reconciling with your estranged parents is acknowledging the part you may have played in losing touch with them to begin with. Don't blame yourself for the rift that developed, but be willing to acknowledge and accept that some of the blame may be yours for the time you've spent apart. The only way you and your parents will be able to reconcile is if you are each willing to shoulder some of the responsibility. It can be difficult to empathize with the pain of estranged parents. You may still have some very difficult feelings to work through, and when something or someone hurts you, it can be difficult to see beyond our own pain. Remember that sometimes the decisions we make when we're hurt aren't always good ones. Losing touch with a child can be especially painful, even if they don't act like they've been hurt. Remember that not seeing the pain doesn't mean it wasn't there. Understanding what your parents were going through when you stopped communicating can help you forgive them, and appreciating what they may be experiencing now will make it easier to find common ground when you meet. Your parents may have been experiencing a low point in their lives when you stopped talking. Remember that parents are nothing more than people, and people struggle with internal and external challenges. All of the feelings of fear and anxiety you have about reconciling with your parents are probably going through their heads too. This is an important step that you will need to come to terms with at your own pace. You parents may have done things that truly hurt you, but by trying to consider their perspective and acknowledging that they have felt pain regarding losing you may help you to overcome the desire to blame them. Remember that blame won't solve anything now, only love can. Acknowledge that you and your parents all share at least some responsibility for losing touch, but that doesn't mean blame needs to be assigned. Instead of placing blame, focus on the future and how good it will feel to have your parents back in your life.
A: Take responsibility for your part. Acknowledge that they're hurt too. Try to understand their perspective. Move past blame.

Q: Setting reasonable goals and breaking them up into smaller goals that can be achieved in succession will help you to remain motivated and decrease frustration. Your confidence will get a boost each time you achieve a small goal progressing to a larger goal. For example, if you want to lose 30 pounds, set a goal to lose one pound a week. It will take a long time to lose 30 pounds, so focusing on smaller weekly goals will provide opportunities to regularly boost your confidence. Focusing on smaller goals also makes setbacks seem less significant. Failing to lose one pound doesn't seem as bad as failing to lose 30. Having visual reminders of your goals in various locations will help to motivate and focus your energy. Keep reminders in your home, office, locker and in your backpack or handbag. These representations may be very basic or extremely elaborate depending on your preferences. For some, this may be simply posting lists of your goals in key places, while others might enjoy making collages. Look for multiple solutions to your problems and create contingency plans. Having options will help you remain hopeful and provide alternative routes to success, should your first attempt fail. Make a list of all possible solutions to your problem. Writing down potential solutions will make them feel more tangible. A mentor will help provide guidance and support, keeping you focused on your goals. Mentors are a positive source of escape from adverse situations. You may have multiple mentors to provide various points of view and guide you in various aspects of life. Choosing a mentor may seem daunting, but you probably know several people who would make great mentors. Consider teachers or professors, family members, or colleagues. Giving up will not solve any of your problems. Most circumstances eventually change. Everyone who wishes to change or improve their circumstances must go through some kind of personal struggle. Most people who have overcome adversity have stories of their difficulties and how they actually benefited from these difficulties. Try to realize the benefits of moving forward such as gaining resolve, personal strength and thicker skin despite the fact it might be unpleasant at first. Eventually, you may find new resources and solutions just by staying on task. It's ok to take a break from a source of frustration, but commit to returning to it as soon as you are in a less agitated state.
A: Set realistic goals. Create visual representations of goals. Have a Plan B. Get a mentor. Refuse to quit.

Q: If you eat too fast, you'll probably end up swallowing a lot of air. Take small bites, chew slowly, and swallow when the food is all chewed up. This can prevent belching during a meal. Eating slower will also make you feel full sooner, so you won't experience gas from overeating either. If you do get air in your mouth while you're eating, blow it out before swallowing. These drinks force air into your digestive system, which can cause both belching and flatulence. Limit the number of carbonated beverages you have to reduce the air in your GI tract. Common carbonated beverages are soda, seltzer, and beer. You don't have to cut these drinks out altogether. Try only having half a glass instead of a full one. Air usually gets trapped in straws, so you'll swallow it while you drink. If you have problems with gas, then don't use straws. Sip from a cup or glass instead. Remember to take small sips while you're drinking as well. Taking large gulps will make you swallow air. Smoking involves constant inhalation, so it's inevitable that you'll swallow air. This can cause belching and flatulence as that air escapes. Either quit smoking if you already do, or don't start in the first place. Besides gas, smoking is linked to all kinds of other health problems like cancer, breathing difficulty, and decreased life expectancy. It's best to avoid altogether.
A: Eat slowly to avoid swallowing air. Drink fewer carbonated and fizzy beverages. Sip from a cup instead of using a straw. Avoid smoking so you don't suck in air.

Q: A temporary job will allow you to start saving, making money, and potentially paying rent while giving you time to look for a position in your field. Apps like Uber and Lyft allow you to use your car to drive people around or deliver food, and you can make your own hours. Look into tutoring in your field or doing freelance work while you search for something you love. Even when you find a position, you can keep up with your other job on the side to make some extra cash if you'd like! If you're a recent graduate, it's very likely your university has a career center that's meant to help you with planning your future. Many graduates are having trouble finding a job in their field due to a sluggish economy, and a career counselor will be able to assist you in creating a path for yourself. If you didn't attend a university, many states have some form of public assistance that offers free counseling for job seekers, as well as resume assistance. Search for free or public career counseling in your area to get a list of organizations. . The next step to finding a job is creating a resume for your applications. A career center can help you get started with this process, and make sure that you have the proper format and are including all important information. Be sure to highlight your most important achievements in your current position, as well as previous jobs you may have held. If you don't have a lot of employment experience, focus on your community involvement, academics, or other activities that you've devoted your time to. Highlight what makes you a good candidate! It's important to find a job that will support your living expenses before you move on your own. It will make landlords more likely to rent to you, and make your parents more likely to trust your decision to live by yourself. Devote at least an hour everyday to looking for new positions and submitting your application. Much of this time will be spent filling out online applications, writing cover letters, and sending inquiry emails. Be prepared to put serious effort into your job search in order to find the position that works for you and your budget.
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Get a temporary job while you look for a steady position. Meet with a career counselor. Create a standout resume Make looking for a job your number one priority.