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Abusers are typically more concerned about what benefits them, as opposed to what benefits the relationship. Are your arguments consistently about how your spouse puts themselves first ahead of you and your family? Do your fights have to do with circumstances that are out of your control, but that you are constantly being blamed for? If you notice a pattern behind the fights, it could be the beginnings of your spouse attempting to control you, which can be a form of abuse. Although every marriage is different, typical marital spats are usually resolved in a matter of hours or days. In the case of abuse, the fights can extend for weeks, months, or even years. The abuser will often emotionally torture the victim by never really getting over a fight, and holding it over their head. For example, your partner might stay silent for days or weeks after an argument which leads to you feeling guilty and apologizing even though you were not wrong. This manipulation tactic of the "silent treatment" may be applied after every argument to keep you in line. Abusers want to have the upper hand in a marriage. Instead of attempting to see both sides of the argument and wanting to work it out, like those in a healthy marriage would tend to do, abusers just want to win at all costs. They will often resort to threats, name-calling, and mind games to get the job done. Do you often feel like your spouse has to have the last word? For example, do you suggest you take a break in order to cool off but they refuse and continue to argue? This is a power trip associated with wanting to win or be in control. Reflect on past arguments that you have had and who ended up admitting they were at fault or apologizing. If it is always you, then this is a red flag. Abusers are good at schmoozing with other people in order to create the perfect image. They may cuddle up to you when others are around, or even laugh off something they actually find upsetting. Their behavior can change the minute you are alone, however, where your spouse will make you "pay" for what happened when the others were around. Having different personalities in private and public settings is an abuser's way of showing dominance over you. When you're out and see this glorified version of your spouse, you let your guard down. When you're alone and the abusive personality comes out, you're reminded quickly who has the upper hand in the relationship. Keeping you on your toes at all times is often part of an abuser's game. For example, your spouse dotes on you in front of your parents calling you "sweetheart" and "baby," but, at home, they call you ugly names like "idiot."

summary: Consider the subject of your arguments. Decide if your spouse has to win in your fights. Notice if your spouse behaves differently when you're alone.

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It might seem counter intuitive, but white wine actually works great on red wine spots (they neutralize one another). Simply pour white wine over the red wine spot right before doing laundry. Then, toss your jeans in and wash normally. If this didn't work for you, try one of the steps below. Pour a little bit of salt onto the stain and let it sit for about five minutes. Rub the stain with a rag/cloth while rinsing it out with cold water, or club soda. Repeat this action until the stain vanishes. Then, wash your jeans. Egg yolks work particularly well on coffee stains. Mix one egg yolk with a couple of drops of rubbing alcohol and warm water. Take a sponge and apply the mixture to the coffee spot. Let it sit for a couple of minutes, then rinse. Wash your jeans as usual. Mix club soda and a teaspoon of salt in a cup, then apply it directly to the stain. Let it soak in overnight for best results. As previously mentioned, avoid all types of water on greasy stains. Club soda and salt work especially well on coffee stains.

summary: Get a hold of white wine. Use table salt. Get some eggs out. Use club soda.

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Face oil helps your fingers slide easily across your face, preventing them from dragging and stretching your skin. It also conditions the skin and lightens the appearance of lines and wrinkles. Apply a light layer of one of the following oils: For dry skin: coconut or argan oil. For medium skin: almond or jojoba oil. For oily skin: jojoba oil or your favorite moisturizer. Gently massage each part of your face again to end your massage. Your skin should feel firm and youthful when your massage is finished. Repeat daily for best results.
summary: Apply a light layer of face oil. Finish by going back over each area once more.