In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: While you may want to focus on learning how to have healthy relationships with other people, learning about yourself can actually help you achieve this goal. It is important that you take the time to get to know who you are and what makes you tick, your likes and dislikes, and simply how you experience the world so that you can relate to others in a healthy way. For instance, being aware of things that set you off can keep you from overreacting. Perhaps you felt that your father didn't listen to you when you tried to talk to him, and now you know that you tend to lose your cool when you someone doesn't answer your question right away. If you are aware of this tendency, you can stop yourself before you snap at the person, reminding yourself, "I'm getting upset because this reminds me of Dad. Susan may be formulating a response, or she simply may not have heard me. There is no need to overreact." Then you avoid blowing up at Susan and possibly damaging your relationship with her. Journaling is a way to let our inner self emerge. It allows us to facilitate dialogue between our ideal self-image and our present self. It can also act as a quiet, centering activity where we confess to page those things we are not ready to speak about. Below are some prompts that can help trigger introspection: Who am I? What do I love? What would you tell your older self? The purpose of writing a timeline is to take stock of your goals and your progress toward them. This can be helpful, both as a tool of validation for how far you've come, and a motivator to keep you striving toward the next milestone. Some things to remember as you are constructing your timeline: Decide where it will begin and end. It doesn't have to start with birth. Make a preliminary list of events that need to be included. This should be based on what you perceive as meaningful and valuable. Include a title. Come up with something more detailed than, "My life." The title should both guide how the timeline is read and reflect the values inherent in it's creation. The term "self-actualization" originates with humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow. It describes the process by which we fulfill lower-level needs so that we are then able to fulfill more conceptual needs.. This ideology places strong emphasis on all levels of self-care and embracing ones needs. Those needs are: Physiological security: food, shelter, warmth, air Safety: Protection from harm or threat Belonging: Inclusion in a group, love, the freedom to take what is needed and give unselfishly. Self-Esteem: Positive self-image "Being": the ability to explore abstract creative impulses and fulfill personal meaning.
Summary: Understand how self-exploration helps your relationships with others. Keep a journal. Compose a timeline. Self-Actualize.

One of the keys to getting over a girl you've been in love with is distance. When you're trying to stop her, avoid calling, texting, or seeing her as much as possible. Although the idea of being friends may seem appealing, staying in contact will likely prolong your feelings and can compromise your emotional well-being. If you live close to each other, try to avoid being in the same place as much as possible. For example, if you know she likes to grocery shop on Saturday, plan to do your shopping on Sunday. If you have mutual friends, ask your friends to plan time to hang out with you separately until your feelings for her have subsided. While it may be tempting to see what she's up to, try to avoid checking her social media, including her Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram accounts. This will only bring her to the forefront of your mind and make it harder to stop thinking about her. Most social media platforms allow you to block someone from showing up on your feed without having to unfollow them. That way, you won't have to see her posts every time you check your feed without appearing jealous or bitter by unfollowing her. Wherever possible, try to get rid of or put away the mementos that make you think of the girl of your dreams. While you likely won't want to get rid of an expensive television you bought together, for example, it will be helpful to put away knick-knacks from a trip you took together, or the scarf she left at your house. This will help you create a space that's free of reminders of her so you can start to move on. This is particularly important with gifts that she's given you, as these will surely continue to bring her to the forefront of your mind. If you have any framed photos of you together, put these away as well. These will only serve as a reminder of the good times, which can make you forget about the real reasons it didn't work out over time. While you may have some hand-written letters and printed photos, in this day and age, it's likely that most are stored on your smartphone or computer. Having these reminders with you at all times will just give you more opportunities to reminisce about happier times, which can prevent you from getting over her. If you don't want to remove all her photos and texts entirely, try creating a folder on your computer and putting it on an external hard drive. That way, these memories won't be readily available, but you won't have to get rid of them entirely. If the girl of your dreams breaks your heart but still tries to be friends, try not to read too much into this and hope that it means she's changed her mind. Instead, tell her that while you appreciate her efforts, you're still hurt and need her to stop contacting you until the pain subsides. She may not realize how painful her continued contact is for you, or that it's giving you false hope. If you allow her to continue to contact you, this can also lead you to waste time overanalyzing everything she says or does.
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One-sentence summary -- Cut off contact with her as much as possible. Avoid checking her social media accounts. Get rid of things that remind you of her. Remove any photos and texts from your smartphone and computer. Tell her to give you space if she still contacts you.

Problem: Article: Some apps can be tailored to specific demographics and interests, making it even easier to search for a good match! For the best results, create an open and honest profile with accurate images of yourself. Start with just one app or website and take it slow. If you feel overwhelmed at first, try limiting your online browsing to evening hours. Be careful about the photos and details you provide on your dating website. Don't provide too many identifying details that could compromise your safety. Try exploring dating websites like Match.com, eHarmony, and ChristianMingle.com. Dating apps like PlentyofFish, Bumble, Happn, and OKCupid are also good options. When meeting people in real life, make sure that you meet in public. Happy hours are popular with people in their 30s, since it's something they can do right after work and still get home at a reasonable time. Find out where there are good late afternoon drink specials near you, and try hitting a different place each week. If someone catches your eye, smile at them and consider buying them a drink as an icebreaker. Skip that dance club full of 20-year-olds, or the dive bar near the university. Instead, go to dinner parties, wine tasting events, gallery openings, and other places that are usually populated by people in your approximate age group. Tailor your conversation to the event if you're looking for conversation starters. For example, if you're at a gallery opening, you can talk about artists you like or recent openings you've attended. These days, a lot of single people are in their 30s. There is a good chance that someone in your social group knows somebody who might be a good fit for you. Meeting people face to face, through mutual friends, can be a great way to connect in a low-key way. You could say, "Do you know if Darrell has any single friends? If so, I'd love it if you'd introduce me." Trying something new can be exciting! It can also provide you with opportunities to connect with potential dates who share similar interests. You never know who you might meet! For example, you could check out a yoga or aerobics class at your gym or take an evening painting class at a community college.
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Explore dating apps and websites. Check out happy hour at local bars and restaurants. Look for dates where you know other 30-somethings spend time. Ask your friends to set you up. Take a class or pursue a new hobby.