Q: The first step is to know what you want in life. We're not just talking about material objects but goals, achievements, and feelings. Look inside and ask yourself what it is that you most desire. Ask what it is that you want in life and what is most important to you. Try writing down your answers as they come, without assessing them. Be as specific as possible in your stating what you want. "I want a lot of money" is a start, but "I want to be financially secure and retire by age 50" is more specific and better. Are your desires achievable? Are they realistic? Are they about you? They will need to be. You might have a good job, but can you manage to retire early? How would you do so? Let's be real: you probably cannot achieve everything that you want in life. Cars, clothes, fabulous riches, luxuries it would simply take too much effort and divide your energies. Focus on what is most important to you, giving that your full effort. Look again at your list of wants and desires and reassess it. What is at the top? Is your desire for financial security and to retire early really what you want most out of life? Ask yourself again whether it is doable. Are you sure that you can manage this goal or are you simply setting yourself up for failure? Try to be realistic and open-minded. Don't embark on an overly ambitious dream if you doubt that it can be done. Having a long-term goal will give focus to your ambitions, give you a sense of purpose, and make you aware of possible obstacles. For instance, where and how to you envision your life in the future? What lifestyle do you expect? What things to do want to do? Identify a long-term goal. Try, again, writing it down and be as specific as possible. "I want to retire at 50" is not as specific and achievable as a goal as saying "I want to be debt-free, own my own home, and be able to retire at 50 on an annual income of at least $50,000." The latter sets concrete benchmarks for success. Start to brainstorm pathways to success. How can you get there? What sort of job will you need? How much will you need to save every year? A long-term goal needs long-term vision. You will have to have a clear idea of how you want to get from Point A in your life to Point B, keeping in mind that you might have to take unexpected detours through Points C and D. You will also need a timetable and benchmarks. Consider breaking up your ambition into smaller parts. This will make the plan less daunting and help to keep you motivated, working toward smaller, incremental goals. Be specific again about timelines and what you want to achieve within a given time. For example, rather than just saying "Retire at 50," think in terms of "By age 30 I want to have $200,000 in stable and growing investments. By age 40 I want to be 75% of the way to my financial goal." Ambitious? Yes, but concrete. You can even break steps into substeps, each with its own plan. For example, how do you intend to invest $200,000 before age 30? You'll need to set aside enough money, talk to a financial adviser, and develop an investment plan.
A: Assess your wants and desires. Focus on what is most important and attainable. Set a long-term goal. Formulate a plan.

Q: The tea needs to be strong, so consider using two bags. Brew enough tea so that you will be able to rinse your hair completely with the tea. The amount will depend on the length of your hair. If you have very short hair, a large cupful may be enough. If you have very long hair, you may need a pitcher of tea. Fortunately, tea is cheap and easy to make, so if you need more, you can always make some extra. Make sure that you wait for the tea to cool before applying it to your hair! It can still be warm, but make sure it won't burn your skin. If you only wish to lighten certain parts of your hair, you should separate those sections from the rest of your hair. Instead of dumping the tea all over your hair, you can put it in a spray bottle and spray it directly on the section you wish to lighten. You can also dip the sections directly in the tea, and use your fingers to apply it to the roots. This will be the least messy if you get undressed and stand in the bath or shower. Slowly pour the tea over your hair until it is completely drenched in the tea. If you wish, you can leave this on your hair for as long as you wish. Some suggest leaving it on for 15 minutes, while others suggest letting it stay in until your next shampoo. You can try both ways and see which yields better results. If you can, after applying the tea to your hair, go out into the sun, and let the sun dry your hair. This will speed the lightening process. As an alternative to completely drenching your hair in the tea, you could make the tea, put it in a spray bottle, and spritz onto your hair before going in the sun each day. Remember to use sun screen each day on the parts of your skin that will be exposed. As with all of the methods, it will take many days for you to see results. Fortunately, the tea method will not damage your hair as badly as lemon juice might. If you have very dark hair, be patient! Eventually your hair will lighten, but understand that it is unlikely that your hair will ever be platinum blonde without using bleach or some other chemical treatment.
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Brew the tea. Separate your hair into sections. Rinse your hair with the tea. Leave in your hair. Spend some time in the sun. Repeat the process.