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If you're serious about making friends with an extremely shy person, you will have to initiate. This means having quite a few conversation-starters in your pocket and often having to pick up the ball when the conversation starts to lull. Of course, in some cases, the shy person might warm up quickly and start engaging more. However, in the early stages of your friendship, you will have to be prepared to start and/or carry the conversations. When starting a conversation with a shy person, you may want to avoid small talk. In general, many introverted people prefer more engaging and deeper conversations about ideas as opposed to surface-level topics like the weather or weekend plans. Try to stimulate your shy friend by observing what she seems interested in talking about and sticking to those topics. For example, if your friend seems to light up when discussing a certain television show, try to get her to go into more detail about it. You might ask "Who's your favorite character on the show, and why?" or "Tell me about the episode that officially made you a fan of the show." Shy people are often fearful of social interaction, sometimes responding to these circumstances with physical signs such as sweating, a pounding heart, or a red face. They often worry excessively about how others view them. Use your own body language to create a soothing and less-threatening exchange. When you are around your shy friend, be sure to: Make occasional eye contact (don't expect any in return) Orient in her direction during conversation Lean in to show interest in the conversation Keep your arms and legs uncrossed and relaxed at your sides Smile and nod to encourage her to continue talking Self-disclosure is a bold yet effective way to turn a casual acquaintance into a friend. Friends know things about one another that the general public may not. If you're hoping to upgrade your relationship with a shy person, open up to her in a personal way. One of the main aspects of friendship is intimacy. You can achieve intimacy through appropriate self-disclosure. Be warned, however, that it's unnecessary to share your deepest, darkest secret. In fact, doing so, may scare your new friend off because of the sudden intimacy. Start with something rather small but that many people don't know. You might even disclaim your self-disclosure by saying "A lot of people don't know this but...".

summary: Be prepared to initiate conversations. Talk about similar interests. Demonstrate open body language. Share a secret to deepen the intimacy.

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Inhibitions are feelings that make you self-conscious and unable to act in a relaxed and natural way. Perhaps you are shy, inexperienced, or fearful. In order to let go of what is holding you back you must feel safe with yourself, your surroundings, and the people around you. Ask yourself why you want to be adventurous. What do you think it will provide to you? Do you want to be open to all possibilities? If so, you are correct. Conquering physical challenges requires you to overcome mental challenges as well. For example, if you train for and climb a mountain it will challenge your physical abilities and show you how physically and mentally strong you are. Do you think you have something to prove? Are you starved for attention? Why are you seeking a thrill? Do you think it will build your self-esteem? Do you just want to have more fun? Take a few minutes to answer these questions as it will help you craft a plan for action. If you haven't been adventurous to this point in your life, then fear has likely been holding you back. Identifying your fears might be simple, or it might take a bit more introspection (the process of directly attempting to access your own internal processes). Your feelings, thoughts, wishes, and fantasies cannot be seen, but they are very real. Your fears might include public speaking, snakes, or high places. They may also include talking to strangers, being fired, or flunking a class. They may be rooted in a deeper fear of looking ignorant, being abandoned, or losing your sense of safety. Conquering fear leads to building trust in yourself, your thoughts and actions. You will learn that you can take care of yourself. For example, you may be too afraid to move out of your parent's house because you don't think you can do it. If you choose to be adventurous and move out and see that you can do it, you have conquered your fear. Use visualization techniques. Imagine yourself doing activities that challenge you to be adventurous and you coming out of it alive and healthy. These scenarios can be surfing, racing horses, exploring your musical talents or something smaller like asking an athlete for an autograph. Adventures can be big and small. You may be avoiding adventure due to a fear of uncertainty. You must tip the scales from certain toward uncertain to remove mental obstacles preventing you from being adventurous. For example, if you avoid or procrastinate participating in events because you don't know what is going to happen, then set up small excursions that slowly build a tolerance. Being adventurous entails feeling mentally free, open and willing to experience life. Opening your heart by being kind to yourself will help you build personal strengths. If you need to feel safe before you are comfortable doing something new, use meditation and yoga to calm you and relieve stress. Once you establish a sense of safety and calm you will be more open to adventure. For example, you will go on vacation by yourself to Portugal despite not knowing any Portuguese. Give yourself a push toward feeling free. It can be helpful to say self-affirmations like, "Everything is going to be okay; I'm ready to get started; This change is going to be good for me!" Being vocal helps as well. Simply yelling at that moment works to expend the energy to move you forward. Take safety precautions. Being adventurous does not mean that you do things that are unsafe. Physically demanding adventures must include a deliberate evaluation of the dangers involved. For example, if you want to learn to race a boat, you must research the safety requirements. Consulting with a professional is advised.
summary: Let go of what is holding you back. Address your fear. Muster your adventurous feelings.