This is an important event so it's normal to feel a little nervous. If you get to choose the place, pick somewhere that is convenient and a good place to talk. You could suggest a quiet cafe or coffee shop or even meet in a pretty park. You can say something like, "Would you like to meet at The Coffee Shop? It's quiet, comfortable, and has great drinks." If your first meeting will include the parents, it might take place at the home of one of the families. Ask for it to be your family's home if that makes you feel more comfortable. Ask to change locations if someone suggests meeting in a place that you don't care for. You want to show the other person that you are taking this seriously, so don't be too casual. Dress up for the meeting, but don't go over the top. Go for a look that is both simple and sophisticated. Avoid wild prints or ill-fitting clothing. If you are a man, consider wearing some nice slacks with a collared shirt. Don't forget to make sure your shoes are in good shape! If you're a woman, a nice dress is a great choice. Stick to a more conservative silhouette that isn't too short or too tight. The point of this first meeting is to see if you are compatible and feel a connection with the other person. That means you're going to need to get personal! While it may feel strange, it is totally acceptable to ask a lot of in-depth questions. To make sure you don't forget anything, write down all of the topics you want to cover. You can group your questions into categories like "family," "work/finances," "faith," and "romance." Once you have your categories, you can come up with specific questions like, "What are the characteristics that are most important to you in a spouse?" You can take your notes to the meeting with you if that makes you feel calmer. Many times, the first meeting will include both sets of parents and some other elder family members. If that's the case, you won't have to do much of the talking. The parents will take the lead in asking most of the questions. You can concentrate on listening to and observing your potential partner. Of course, you will need to politely answer all of the questions that you are asked. Try to smile and speak clearly.
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One-sentence summary -- Ask to meet at a place where you will feel comfortable. Dress to impress. Make a list of what you want to learn. Allow the parents to take the lead in a group setting.

Toddlers move very quickly from one feeling to the next, so if one can distract them long enough for them to forget what they're upset about, you'll be set. This is called redirection. Of course, the goal is not to distract them so that they never learn, but rather to help them move on from one thing to the next without getting caught in an emotional loop. However, there are some situations where redirecting is less productive. If your child has done something really bad, a strong scolding may be better. For example, hitting or biting another child may require a scolding, while simply not wanting to share is certainly a good opportunity for redirection. Always explain that and why a toddler shouldn't do something. When they do something wrong, they need to know that it's wrong so that they don't do it again. Don't make a big production about explaining to them, as this can make it more difficult to redirect them. Just state it simply and help them move on. For example, if your child is arguing with their sibling about sharing a toy, say: "Oh, we don't fight with our brothers. We have to share so that everyone gets a turn. You can play with that toy later. How about you and I go play with the bubbles instead?" If the tantrum is related to something that they think or feel, it may be possible to redirect the child by forcing them to think about something else. Manually guide their thought process by asking them questions and slowly move the questions away from what they were upset about, until eventually they forget what the original problem was. For example, if you see your child hit their elbow and a meltdown is on the way, ask if they hurt their toe. Their foot. Their hand. Their belly. Move from body part to body part that you know is not hurt, forcing them to think about the "not in pain" sensations in other parts of their body. Similarly, you can shift your child's attention to a new activity if they're upset about not doing what they want. Introduce the activity you want them to do, while also demonstrating it to them. You can also get their attention and encourage critical thinking by asking them questions about the activity, such as "What do you think?" Another redirection method is to create empathy while moving the child away from an action. This is helpful as a life skill, as it will help them become more considerate of the consequences of their actions for others. The empathy they have does not, necessarily, have to be for a real, living creature either. "Oh, don't draw on the couch. That gets the couch dirty and the couch HATES to take a bath. You don't want to take a bath, do you?" "Aww, why are you hitting the table. That hurts the table. You don't like it when your brother hits you, so why would you hit the table? How about we find a pot for you to hit instead?" "Don't pull the kitty's tail, that gives him an owie. We pet the kitty gently, like this. Oh, see, the kitty loves being pet gently. Look at how happy he is. Aw, he's so happy." When you redirect a child, you need to always give them something else to do. This teaches them to find other things that make them happy, rather than learning to simply sit around being upset about things they can't have or do. This can be tricky, as sometimes toddlers can be very stubborn, so you'll just have to know what works best for your child. Save some activities that your child really enjoys for when they need to be redirected. For example, playing with playdough or blowing bubbles. During times when you expect your child to get upset, bring their favorite toy or activity to distract them. For example, you could bring their favorite game along to a doctor's appointment. If they're having a really hard time finding something else to do, try relocating the child so that they have an easier time. Take them out of the room where the thing they want is when you give them something else to do. This way they have fewer visual reminders of what they were focused on.
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One-sentence summary -- Know when to redirect. Explain when you can. Change their line of thinking. Create empathy. Provide alternatives. Relocate the child.

Pool shock has high levels of chlorine that wipe out the algae and sanitize the pool. Choose a powerful shock with around 70% available chlorine, which is enough to handle tough algae and bacteria. Follow the directions on the shock package to make sure you use the proper amount for the water in your pool. If you have a high amount of algae in your pool, you may have to treat it more than once to keep the algae from continuing to bloom. The water might look cloudy or dirty when you add the shock, but as the water runs through the filter it will begin to clean up. 0. Allow the algaecide to work in your swimming pool for at least a 24-hour period. When algae dies, it will fall to the pool floor or float in the pool water. It will also lose its green color.
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One-sentence summary -- Treat the pool with pool shock. Treat the pool with algaecide when chlorine has fallen below 5. Prevent pressure buildup in your filter by cleaning it often to remove the dead algae.

Using a sharp knife, slice a piece of ginger of approximately 4 inches (10cm) off your larger ginger root. Cut off any small nubs with a paring knife so you have a relatively uniform piece.
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Cut your ginger into a 4 inch (10 cm) piece.