It's okay to use your own name if you prefer. However, you might want to choose a name you really like, such as your favorite actor's name. Alternatively, you could use a name that works for any gender. For example, names like "Alex," "Andy," "Asher, or even "Cyrus are great names that work for any gender. Girls typically have higher-pitched voices than boys, but this isn't always the case. For example, Scarlett Johansson is known for her deep voice. Play around with your voice to see how you want to sound while you're wearing your disguise. It's helpful to practice your voice with someone you trust who can give you an opinion about how you sound. To help you change your voice, look up videos online that offer tips on how to sound more like a boy or girl, depending on your disguise. Additionally, take shorter strides and try to keep your knees close together and your elbows pressed in toward your body. Girls typically shrink to take up less space, so keep that in mind as you move around. Walk slowly when you're getting used to walking more like a girl. If you're wearing heels, be careful that you don't fall or stomp around. Give yourself time to get used to them. Squat slightly to make your spread-leg stance appear more natural. Additionally, hunch your shoulders forward slightly. To avoid using your hands too much, put them in your pockets or carry something you can play with, such as your phone. Boys don't use their hands as much when they talk. Additionally, they usually keep their hands occupied. It can also help to keep your movements more stiff. Society often teaches girls to be more modest, so it's common for them to sit with their legs together or with one leg crossed over the other. Adopting either of these poses while you're sitting will help you appear more like a girl. This is especially important if you decided to wear a dress. If you don't keep your legs together, people are going to see up your skirt. Males often feel more comfortable when they spread their legs and arms when sitting. This is because of the way their body is constructed. Some people call this tendency to spread out "manspreading." If you want people to think you're a boy, sitting with your knees apart and your arms stretched out around you can help. Don't worry about taking up too much space when you're "manspreading." Remember, there's no one way to be a boy or a girl, so what you want to talk about will depend on your own preferences. Think about the type of boy or girl you would like to be, then pick topics that seem like they fit with your desired self-image. For example, both boys and girls can like sports.

Summary: Pick a new name to use while in disguise, if you'd like. Alter the tone of your voice to make it higher or lower. Swivel your hips and rotate your shoulders to walk like a girl. Take long strides and walk with your legs apart to look like a boy. Sit with your legs crossed or your knees together if you're pretending to be a girl. Spread out when you sit if you're pretending to be a boy. Talk like the type of girl or boy you want to be.

Learning to say "no" is an important skill for empaths like you. You might become so enmeshed with others that you give and give until you are empty. Prevent this by identifying your limitations and verbalizing them in your relationships. For instance, you might need to tell a friend or family member, "I need you to respect my personal space. Please don't show up at my apartment unannounced." You might tell an energy-drainer, "I would love to have lunch with you, but let's not spend the entire time dwelling on the negatives. If we can't keep it positive, I'll have to pass." Setting boundaries, especially with people you care about, can be tough. However, don't feel bad about it. Having good boundaries is vital to your emotional health. Take an inventory of the people in your life: do they drain or invigorate you? Determine where they stand by assessing how you feel when they leave you. If you feel desperate for a nap, cranky or irritable, demeaned, or anxious after an encounter, stop spending as much time with these people. Instead, devote your time and energy to people who leave you feeling mentally and emotionally stimulated, positive, and upbeat. If you must be around energy-drainers, or emotional vampires, practice self-care before and after the encounter. Plus, keep the interaction as brief as possible. Empaths are typically introverted by nature, which means you are more fulfilled by time alone or with a few others. You might feel overwhelmed and drained by large groups, so stick to social encounters that involve one-on-one or small group meetings. You're probably a great listener, and everyone tells you so. As an empath, however, you might not only listen to someone's problemyou might shoulder it as your own. Be aware of your tendency to do this and make a conscious effort to listen without internalizing the problem or trying to fix it. To help you do this, you might have to repeat an affirmation silently, like "I can help by listening. It is not my job to fix or change anything." A wonderful way to share your gifts in an emotionally safe way is through volunteerism. Identify a cause that moves you and find out how you can get involved. This might translate to making calls to support a politician in your area, donating money to a charitable organization, or working at a shelter a few hours each week. While volunteering can be healthy and empowering, be careful not to put too much on your plate. If you don't have the emotional or physical energy to volunteer, engage with your emotions by reading or doing creative activities instead.

Summary: Know your limitations and set boundaries accordingly. Spend time with energizers instead of energy-drainers. Say "yes" to intimate gatherings. Listen, but don't attempt to fix things for others. Give your time to an important cause.

Keeping hydrated is the easiest way to prevent a UTI, and it's also important for your overall health. Drink at least 6 to 8 8floz (240mL) glasses of water every day to help "flush out" your system and prevent UTIs. The longer urine is in your bladder, the more bacteria can grow. Women should always wipe with toilet paper from front to back, especially after a bowel movement. This prevents bacterial contamination from feces. Women, especially, should always urinate after sex to stop bacteria from moving into the urethra. Birth control methods that use spermicide increase the risk of UTIs. However, using non-oral contraceptives without spermicide increases the risk of unwanted pregnancy. A good compromise is to switch to oral contraceptives, intrauterine devices or contraceptive rings, if possible. The goal is to keep your genital area as dry as possible. Loose, preferably cotton, pants and underwear let air pass better than nylon underwear or tight jeans. No conclusive research exists yet on the connection between high-fiber diets and UTIs. However, high-fiber diets will decrease the chances of constipation, which is a common cause of UTIs. Many people prevent UTIs by eating diets full of beans, lentils, whole grains, and root vegetables.
Summary: Drink lots of water. Urinate as soon as you feel the urge. Take special care after sexual activity. Wear loose clothing on the lower half of your body. Maintain a high-fiber diet.