Article: . Don't consider yourself a failure or beat yourself up because this relationship didn't work out. Just because this love failed, doesn't mean you are a failure at love. Remember that you are an amazing person and you will find love again. To help lift yourself back up again, it might be helpful to work on improving your self-esteem. Make a list of all the good things about yourself that make you lovable and able to love someone else. Tell yourself, "I am lovable and can be successful at love because I am" Fill in the rest of the sentence with things from your list. Every day try to add one new reason why you are great to your list and constantly remind yourself that you can be happy. You may feel like isolating yourself and just being alone, but this isn't a good idea and won't help you be happy. Being around people that love you is one way to remind yourself that you are lovable. Your friends and family want to help you because they care about you, so it's okay to rely on them for a little while to help you recover. It's okay to ask someone to just be with you not doing anything or talking, but just being present with you for support. Talk to them about how you are feeling about this love failing and how you feel about yourself. For example, you might say, "I feel a lot of different emotions because of this love failing. I feel confused sometimes and optimistic at other times." Don't resist their attempts to cheer you up. They just want to see you happy. Laugh and have fun with them. Ask them to help you avoid texting, calling, or obsessing over your ex. You may feel cranky due to lack of sleep or feel tired because you aren't getting enough sleep. Research indicates that break-ups can also actually weaken the heart, so treat yourself well. Eat balanced meals, get enough sleep, and participate in regular physical activity. This will help you physically and mentally. Take the time to do something different or special with your appearance. Try a new hairstyle or put on a flattering outfit. Do something special for yourself like buy yourself some fishing gear, or a have a spa day. If you are having trouble completing everyday activities, eating, or sleeping you may want to talk to a counselor. You should also see a counselor if you have started or increased using alcohol or drugs. Counseling can help you with these things so that you can be happy and is just a way of loving yourself. Research has indicated that chemical changes occur in the body after love failure that may cause you to feel depressed. In some cases, your therapist may prescribe an antidepressant to help your body regulate the chemical changes that are going on. Sometimes you may need to use specific coping methods to help you deal with the emotions your love failure has you feeling. Using these techniques can help reduce stress you are feeling right now, as well as help you be happier in the long-term. Practicing deep breathing techniques can help you think more clearly and decrease some of the negative emotions you may feel. Try meditation as a way to calm your mind and heart. For a few moments each day, sit or lie quietly and focus on your breathing, a mantra, or just being present in the moment.
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Boost your self-esteem Use your support system. Treat yourself well.Not taking care of yourself can make it much harder to be happy after love failure. Seek counseling. Try coping techniques.

Effective communication is key to preventing and dealing with the inevitable disagreements that surface during a marriage. Learning how to communicate in a productive matter is important to getting along with your spouse. When expressing frustration, avoid statements that place an external judgment on a situation. Statements should start with "I" instead of "you." For example, say you want your spouse to give you more alone time once in awhile. Instead of saying, "You expect me to do everything with you and I never have time to myself," rephrase it in a way that emphasizes your personal feelings on the situation and not objective fact. Try something like, "I feel like I don't get enough time to myself and that makes me feel stressed." Listen to your partner's side of the argument. Oftentimes, fights over a small issue are driven by underlying circumstances. When the two of you disagree, try to listen actively and repeat back anything you don't understand for clarification. Do not expect your partner to read your mind. If something he or she does bothers you, you cannot expect your spouse to simply figure this out. The sooner you say something, the sooner the issue can be addressed and dealt with effectively. No two people have the the same opinions and values 100% of the time. You need to accept your partner's values even when you do not agree. Couples are generally able to get along fine with different political or religious values. However, it's when someone feels their values are not respected that problems arise. Even if you radically disagree with your partner on a given subject, try to understand where he or she is coming from and respect his or her opinion. If you really radically disagree with your spouse about an issue, it's okay to agree not to discuss it. Sometimes, it's hard to give up your desire to change a person's mind, especially if it's a subject you care about deeply. People tend to communicate in different ways. You should pay attention to how your partner conveys his or her feelings. This will allow you read your spouse better and smooth over arguments more effectively. Some people are more visual communicators. They do not necessarily talk out their feelings but visual clues, such as how they carry themselves and eye movements, convey feelings. If this is the case with your partner, make sure you two communicate face-to-face. If your partner tends to get very emotional during communication, try to speak softly and provide reassurance by holding hands, touching, and other warm gestures. When talking, always paraphrase what you two have said. This way, you'll be sure you understand each other. People have different "languages of love." That is, people use different means to show that they care. If you or your partner feels under-appreciated, the two of you might just use different "languages of love." Words of Affirmation means your partner expresses how he or she feels directly. You might hear "I love you" a lot and get a lot of compliments on small matters. This is perhaps the most direct and easy-to-read language of love. Acts of Service means someone feels actions are louder than words and shows affection via completing small tasks for their significant other. Your partner may, for example, take the garbage out for you or do the dishes if you've had a long day. These people are sometimes less verbal with their affection and their acts of love are easy to overlook if you don't realize they're meant to convey affection. Receiving Gifts means people feel loved via sharing and giving. Your partner might bring your flowers or a small treat from the store to show he or she cares. Like Acts of Service, your partner may be less verbally affectionate if this is how he or she expresses love. Quality Time means love is expressed by giving the other person undivided attention. Your partner may want to spend time with you alone and treasure small moments you might not think much of. Nightly dinners, for example, may be very important to your partner if this is how he or she expresses love. Physical Touch means your partner shows affection via touching. He or she might want to hold hands, cuddle, and kiss. Your partner might be less verbally affectionate, but will strive to make up for it through contact. If an argument is getting nowhere, it's okay to pause. If neither side is listening anymore, and you're repeating the same information, simply stop the argument, give each other some space, and revisit the issue later.
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Communicate effectively. Accept your partner's values. Learn your spouse's communication style. Understand how your partner expresses love. Pause during arguments.