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If you really want to date a player, then you can be a playerette, if that's your thing. If he's seeing other girls while dating you, then what's there to stop you from hanging out with a few other guys you're crushing on? If he goes out late without saying what he's up to, you're free to do the same. Contrary to popular belief, not every single girl out there is looking for a stable relationship, kids, or a white picket fence. If you want to be a playerette, too, then go for it; of course, if that's not your thing, don't feel compelled to beat him at his own game. However, if you were dating a player without realizing it, that's a different story. If you found this out the hard way and you're much more into monogamy, let him know that he really hurt you, but don't feel compelled to fight fire with fire if it's not in your nature. Another way to get a player's attention is to play hard to get. If he thinks you're at his beck and call, then he won't have any incentive to chase you down. To play hard to get, don't be there to answer the phone every time he calls. Don't be available if he asks you out the day-of, or even the day before. Flirt with him, but don't make him think he has you in the palms of his hands. Let him see that you're worth the chase. Don't tell him how much you love him all the time. Just be flirty and give him a few compliments while teasing him and keeping things light instead. Make him work for it. Show him that you still expect to have nice dates, go dancing, or do whatever you want to do together if he plans to roll with you. Don't let a player get to know exactly who you are. You can reveal things to him, but don't pour out your heart and soul to him, or you're bound to be disappointed. You don't have to lie or pretend like you don't have feelings, but you don't want to be completely vulnerable around the player unless you want to get burned. If he starts opening up to you a bit, you can follow suit, but make sure not to give too much up at once. Letting your guard down can be tempting, especially if you're with someone you're really starting to like. However, the more you reveal to him, the more you'll regret later when your relationship is over. You can tell him what's on your mind, but avoid telling him your deepest, darkest secrets may lead you to cringe later. If you want to date a player, then you can't spend all of your time at his side. You have to continue to be an independent woman and to enjoy the time you spend with your friends, doing the things you love, from yoga to writing poetry, and to maybe even look out for other guys while you're at it. If you start doing all of the things the player does and losing interest in your own hobbies and your own lives, then a red flag will go up for him. Don't ever forget about spending time with your girlfriends. They will center you and will remind you of who you really are. If you ditch them for the player, then they won't be there when you come crawling back to them. Pursuing your own hobbies and interests can help you develop your identity and to stay centered. Don't give up the things you love to do on your own to spend time with the player all the time. Don't count on a player for too much quality time. Though you can go out once or even twice a week, he won't be the guy who watches TV in his pajamas with you all day, and he won't be free to meet up for lunch or brunch whenever you're missing him. If you're co-dependent or the type of person who loves spending 24/7 with whomever she's dating, then this player is not for you. Instead, fill your schedule with time with your friends, as well as time to be on your own to decompress and do your own thing, and you'll be better off. If he's a true player, then his friends may not take the time to really get to know you because they'll be seeing you as the latest Flavor of the Week. Still, if you start coming around more often, there's no need to be less than nice or even cold to his friends; work to be friendly with them and to show that you want to get to know them a bit without butting in to their conversations too much. At the end of the day, a player cares what his friends think about his girl, so it's important to leave them with a good impression. You may not think his friends are the greatest people in the world, but nothing is stopping you from saying hi and asking how they're doing when you see them. Make it easier for yourself to get along with them, and your time with the player will be more enjoyable. If you want to date a player, then you can't let him make all the calls. He may think that he can tell you where to meet him and what you'll be doing all the time, but it's up to you to show him that you have other ideas. He can pick when and where to hang out, sometimes, but you can do the same. You don't have to hang out around his schedule, either; he can hang out when it's best for you. Staying in control of the relationship will make the player see that you're a force to be reckoned with. If the player feels like he has you under his thumb, he'll be much less intrigued than he'd be if you're behind the steering wheel.
Beat him at his own game. Play hard to get. Keep your guard up. Keep doing your own thing. Don't spend too much time with him. Be friendly with his friends. Stay in control.