While revenge may cross your mind and you may even begin to plot your plan, don't go through with it. Revenge may be a way that people seek justice, yet the quest for justice may result in more injustice if the cycle of revenge continues. When you want revenge on someone, acknowledge your feelings as a way to cope with a loss of trust. Don't act on your impulses; wait until you are calm and in control of your body and emotions. It is likely that feelings of revenge will pass once you get out of the mindset. If you choose to talk to the person you resent, watch your words. Don't say anything you may regret in a moment of passion or to get revenge. It's ultimately not worth it. Remember that no one person can meet all of your needs. If you believe that having a partner or a friend or being part of a family means that you will have all your needs met, think again. Having high expectations sets you up for failure. Resentment can occur when expectations aren't communicated clearly. A discussion on expectations and desires can help clarify current problems and avoid future problems. Have clear expectations with the people in your life. Compromise with the people in your life on what standards and expectations you each have for the relationship. When discussing your resentment with someone, don't be quick to place all of the blame onto him. Instead, own your own feelings and experience. You cannot tell someone what his motivation was, or why he did something, because you simply cannot make that judgment call for someone else. Instead, focus on yourself, your hurt, and your experience. Instead of saying "You ruined the relationship and I'll never forgive you!" try saying "I feel very hurt by what you did and it's hard for me to move past this." Sometimes it's hard to admit that you yourself are flawed, have blind spots, and don't always respond to situations in the most constructive way. This a reality for every person on planet Earth. Just as you want people to forgive your mistakes, extend the same courtesy to the people in your life. Remember that the person that hurt you is flawed, and sometimes functions from a place of limiting beliefs or skewed perception. Accepting that people make mistakes doesn't mean excusing their behavior. It means you allow yourself to see the context surrounding the person and the experience to help you understand better. Allow the people in your life to be positive people who support you and allow you to make your own decisions. These are people who allow you to make mistakes and still support you. Have friends that are honest with you, that will give you a fresh perspective when you are stuck, or that will tell you when you are over-reacting. Good friends will accept you regardless of the mistakes you make, and being a good friend means accepting others even when they make mistakes. You may feel betrayed or absolutely justified in your resentment toward someone, making forgiveness nearly impossible. However, forgiveness doesn't mean pretending the situation didn't happen or that you have to excuse the person's behavior. Forgiveness means you let go of the pain the person caused you. Ask yourself what the person or situation triggered that deeply hurt you. Did you experience feeling abandoned, traumatized, or re-experience unpleasant memories from the past? It's likely the person uncovered a deeper hurt inside you. You don't even have to verbally forgive someone. You can forgive someone who is no longer in your life or who has passed on. One way to practice forgiveness is by writing the situation and then writing about why you are choosing to forgive. Have a small (safe) fire and burn the paper.
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One-sentence summary -- Avoid revenge. Have realistic expectations of others. Use "I" statements in discussions. Allow people to make mistakes. Surround yourself with positive people. Forgive.

If it is not available, you will be less tempted. Fueling yourself properly at the beginning of the day ensures that you don't put your body in starvation mode by lunchtime. Starvation mode essentially means that your body holds on to fat, even if you don't eat much. It also ensures that when you do eat, you will overindulge to compensate. Try to make sure your breakfast is balanced nutritionally, including a good source of protein. Many popular breakfasts are very carbohydrate-heavy with little protein, making you hungry much sooner. Make sure to take at least 20 minutes to eat your meal or snack. Eating slowly gives the brain a chance to be satisfied. Slow eating will help you avoid eating more than is necessary to feel full. Take the time to appreciate the foods that you are eating. You will receive more satisfaction out of your meal by savoring it than if you quickly scarf it down. Try replacing three large meals a day with six smaller meals. There is evidence that suggests an association between more eating occasions and lower BMI. The theory is that eating more frequently will help keep you fuller throughout your day because your energy levels will be more stable, as will your blood sugar levels. Try having protein at meals and snacks. This will help keep you full for longer periods of time. Beans, lean meats, and nuts are effective for this purpose. Consider eating a snack like cottage cheese before bed. Your body takes longer to break down the casein protein contained in cottage cheese; therefore, your metabolism will be working all night. Treating yourself with junk food once a week can undo all of your week's hard work. One slice of cheesecake, for example, can be over 1,000 calories. If you really need something sweet, try eating a piece of fruit instead. Dessert usually consists of bad carbohydrates that also leave you feeling hungry quickly. If you want a frozen treat, try freezing grapes or blueberries. You can also mash a banana and add a teaspoon of honey for an ice cream-like treat. Restaurants focus on serving delicious food, not healthy food. Besides being tempted to order something you know is unhealthy, you may order something you think is healthy only to consume more calories than you thought. For example, the Garlic Rosemary Chicken at Olive Garden is 540 calories; however, when you add the sides, you could end up eating over 1,000 calories for a meal without knowing it.
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One-sentence summary --
Remove all the junk food from your house. Have a nutritious breakfast every morning. Learn to eat at a leisurely pace. Eat small meals several times a day. Replace dessert with fruit. Avoid eating out: