Problem: Article: In general, anything you find offensive can be harassingespecially when your tormentor knows that the behavior upsets you. However, not all offensive behavior will qualify as harassment. Instead, harassment is usually targeted behavior meant to annoy, terrorize or torment you, and can take the following forms: stalking cyberstalking a pattern of menacing behavior communicating threats to your safety Sexual harassment law has been developed the most in employment. Congress has made it illegal to discriminate based on sex, and this discrimination includes sexual harassment. You should research workplace sexual harassment. The federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission investigates allegations of workplace sexual harassment and publishes helpful information on its website. You can certainly face sexual harassment outside the workplace. However, in order to sue, you won't sue for "sexual harassment." Instead, you might sue for harassment generally, or for another civil wrong, such as wrongful imprisonment or assault. " The most obvious form of sexual harassment is the "quid pro quo." This means that someone offers you somethinga promotion, a raise, etc.in exchange for sex or other favors. If you were on the receiving end of a quid pro quo, then you were probably sexually harassed. There are many examples of a quid pro quo. For example, you might be called into your boss's office, whereupon he shuts the door and puts his hand on your thigh. When you object, he says, "Don't you want that promotion I was telling you about?" In this situation, there is a suggestion that in order to be promoted you must put up with his sexual advances. That is a quid pro quo. Even if you give in and accept the harassment, you can still file a sexual harassment claim. Other behavior isn't so clearly sexual harassment and will depend on the circumstances. You should pay attention to the following, which can sometimes qualify as sexual harassment: sexual jokes sexual slurs and epithets name calling, ridicule, and mockery touching physical threats restricting your movement (such as blocking you or leaning over you at your desk) displays of sexually suggestive cartoons or pictures Behavior can qualify as "sexual harassment" so long as it is based on someone's sex or gender. The conduct does not need to be sexually suggestive or relate in any way to sexual activity. For example, making demeaning statements about women or men in the workplace could qualify as sexual harassment even if you are not talking about sexual activity. You might find your workplace hostile because of pervasive sexual comments. However, you also need to analyze whether you have contributed to the sexually-charged environment through your own conduct. If you regularly shared lewd jokes and made derogatory comments, then it will be difficult for you to suddenly claim that you found the environment hostile.
Summary: Identify harassing behavior. Research workplace sexual harassment. Note any "quid pro quo. Identify common harassing behavior. Understand the full scope of workplace sexual harassment. Analyze your own participation in the harassment.

Problem: Article: You will need to make three more soles using the same technique outlined for the first sole. One of these soles should use your base color. The other two should use your accent color. Place one base sole on top of one accent sole. Slip stitch the soles together through the center stitches at the back of the heels. Use your accent color yarn to do this. Note that your base color sole should be the top piece and your accent color sole should be on the bottom. The wrong sides of the soles should face each other as you do this. Make one single crochet in the outer loops of each stitch set. Repeat all the way around the perimeter of the soles. This should add a border to the soles while joining both layers together. Cut the yarn, leaving a 3 inch (7.6 cm) tail. Pull this tail through the loop on your hook to knot it in place. Weave the excess tail into the stitches of your bottom layer. Slip stitch the other two soles together at the back, then single crochet both layers together in each set of stitches around the perimeter. Fasten off the yarn as usual. When finished, you should have two identical soles, each made with two layers. Note that these two soles should be mirror images of each other, just like standard sandals would be.
Summary: Repeat three more times. Slip stitch two soles together. Single crochet around the soles. Fasten off the yarn. Repeat with the other two soles.

Problem: Article: If you start to think thoughts like "I'm not good enough," or "There's something wrong with me," say to yourself, "Stop! These are not productive thoughts, and I have the power to change my mindset." The first step to being confident in social situations is to change the thought patterns that give rise to insecurity. Harsh self-criticism is usually based on distorted thinking. Stop beating yourself up, remain objective, and challenge distorted thoughts. Don't dwell on past relationships or think of them as "failures." Accept the fact that you can't change the past. Instead, move on and seize opportunities to become a more fulfilled and fruitful person. You don't have to be perfect to form new platonic or romantic relationships. In fact, being open and honest about vulnerabilities is how people bond with each other. Accept your imperfections, work on what you can change, and show yourself some compassion. Try not to fear being rejected. If things don't work out with a potential friend or partner, don't assume that it's your fault or there's something wrong with you. Sometimes people are incompatible, have a misunderstanding, or are just in a bad mood. It might feel stressful and risky, but you have to meet and interact with people in order to curb loneliness. Put yourself out there and make connections with new people. With each baby step, you'll get a little more comfortable in your own skin. Challenge yourself to try new things, to talk to new people, and to engage in unfamiliar situations. If your coworkers invite you out after work, take them up on their offer. If you're in line at the store, strike up conversation with the person next to you or with the cashier. If you're anxious about awkward silences or not knowing what to say, just ask questions. Most people like talking about themselves, so asking questions is a good way to get a conversation flowing. You could ask someone "What do you do for work," or "Have you seen any good movies lately?" If you're at a party, you could ask, "So how do you know the host?" While waiting for class to start, you could ask the person next to you, "How about that pop quiz yesterday? It really pulled the rug right out from under me!" Set reasonable expectations, and work on improving your social confidence one step at a time. For instance, you could start by smiling and waving at a neighbor while walking down the street. The next time you see your neighbor, you could introduce yourself and take a minute to chat. You could talk about the neighborhood, say how cute their dog is, or compliment their garden. As you become friendly, you could invite them over for coffee or tea
Summary:
Redirect negative, critical thoughts. Work on making yourself vulnerable. Take healthy social risks. Spur conversations by asking questions. Build your confidence in social settings gradually.