Problem: Article: Think about the "who, what, where, and when" of coming out. Be sure about who you want to tell, and that you trust them. Choose somewhere that is neutral and safe. Consider spaces that are more private, where there aren't people who you know who could be eavesdropping. Choose a time that won't feel rushed or shortened by other activities, events, or obligations. You don't want people to be distracted. Consider places that aren't at school or at work. Avoid spaces where there are people you know and don't trust. Make sure that you want to come out, rather than feeling like you have to. Remember that this is your life, and how you come out is entirely up to you. Be confident in who you are, and share authentically about your experiences with being transgender. Understand your own identity at a transgender person. It's your life, and you can decide how, and in what ways, to come out. Be uniquely who you are and share from your experiences with being a transgender person. For example, you might share about what has been a struggle for you, such as feeling out of place among your peers. If coming to terms with being transgender has been a relief for you, then share this as well. Be thoughtful in how you describe and understand yourself as a transgender person. When talking about yourself as transgender, speak firmly with confidence. Be willing to be flexible and responsive to what others have to say. Consider saying, "I am confident that I am transgender. I know that you may have questions or not know what to say. That's okay. I'm open to listening." This process won't happen overnight, and will continue to shift and change as you and your loved ones understand more about being transgender. Know that as you get older, go to different schools, get jobs, or interact with new people that you will still be coming out throughout your life. Be patient with the process. While it may be nerve-racking at first, being honest with yourself and others about who you are can be deeply gratifying and make you feel better over time. Be accepting that others may not understand this process in the same way. Be patient with others who may want to help, but have ignorance about what you're going through. For example, if someone says, "You don't seem like someone who's transgender," be patient, and explore what being transgender means to you, rather than trying to correct them. Focus on how to remain calm, centered, and relaxed. Do things that help to relieve stress in healthy ways before you plan to talk about coming out. Learn to be open and direct in a loving way with your friends and family. Allow them time to respond and ask questions. They may react with shock, support, or frustration, but no matter what, remain calm and respectful. Tell them about your journey, and that you wish to transition or identify as transgender. Be open to answering their questions, no matter how small or odd the questions may seem. If you are not sure of how to answer, then provide them with resources or reading materials to help them. Give them time to respond, and understand that their first reactions may not represent how they feel later on. Sometimes shock or confusion can affect how a person responds. Consider that some people may react out of ignorance, be concerned for your safety, or try to change your mind. Tell them you are taking the process of coming out seriously and have thought about their concerns. Many people don't fully understand transgender issues, and they may need some help learning. In many cases, your loved ones just want you to be happy, so let them know that this is what makes you happy, and tell them how they can support you. "How long have you felt this way?" "I've known ever since I was 14. I realized I'd be much happier if I got to be a boy." "Why did you choose this?" "I can't choose how I feel about my gender, any more than you can. But I can choose to either hide myself, or to do what makes me happy. And this will make me so much happier than hiding would. I hope I'll have your support." "Does this mean you're a drag queen/king?" "No, drag is a performance that people do for fun. But this is very real for me. It'll impact my health and happiness." "Are you sure this is right?" "I've thought about it for a while, and the idea of trying to be [wrong gender] just makes me feel sad/awful/sick/hopeless. I feel like I'd be much happier and more confident if I could live as a [correct gender]." "Am I a bad parent? Did I cause this somehow?" "No, I'm pretty sure I was born this way. If you were a bad parent, then I would be too scared to ever tell you this. But I'm telling you this because I trust you, and I want you to be part of my life." "Will this change things?" "Not a ton, necessarily. I'm still the same person, and I still love you just the same. You just understand me better now. And the transition will probably help me be less grumpy/sad/irritable/whatever too, because I'll have a lot more fun when I get to be myself." "I'm worried. I've heard that awful things can happen to trans people." "I know. I've read the research. I've also seen the research saying that trans people are much happier and healthier when they come out and are accepted by the community. Support can prevent many of those awful things from happening. I hope you can help me through this, so I can live my best life." "I don't understand this. I want to help, but I don't know how." "That's okay. We'll work it out together. I'll tell you how you can help me through this. The biggest thing I need is your love and support." In some cases, having a conversation about coming out might not work out as you hoped it would. If you feel like the people you are coming out to are not being supportive or kind, then you might want to gracefully end the conversation for the time being. "Thank you for listening. I'll be leaving now." "I don't think this conversation is going anywhere. I'll talk to you later." The wisdom of this depends on your audience. There may be some people who may not be accepting when you come out. However, you may be surprised at how much support you will receive! Many people have different "circles" for different social media accounts, or may have more followers on one account than the other. You can start off by coming out on whatever site (Facebook, Instagram, etc.) you feel that people would be most accepting. Decide how you want to come out. Would you like to include a photo in your coming out post? Would you prefer a simple "I'm trans", or a longer paragraph? It's up to you. Just write what comes from the heart. After you post, remember to like and reply to all positive comments. Don't respond to negative comments, if you get them. Delete them, and block/report if it feels right. You may lose followers. (Sometimes, the trash takes itself out.) The people who remain are the more positive ones.
Summary: Identify the best time and place to come out. Be confident and authentic in coming out. Be patient when coming out. Sit and talk about coming out. Be prepared to respond to common questions and concerns. End the conversation if it is not going well. Consider the pros and cons of coming out via social media.

Problem: Article: It's a pink app with the word "lyft" in bold, white type. It's your image or a silhouette in the upper-left corner of the screen. It's next to a clock icon in the middle menu. You can only call your driver within 24 hours of the ride. The call is placed through an app that will anonymize your number as well as the driver's. Describe the item you left, when you left it, and make arrangements for the driver to return it to you. Lyft drivers are not compensated for returning lost items, so be sure to tip appropriately.
Summary:
Open the Lyft app. Tap your profile icon. Tap Ride History. Tap the ride during which you lost the item. Scroll down and tap Find Lost Item. Tap Call or Send Message. Talk to or leave a message for the driver.