You may have fears of abandonment or being hurt. However, these fears can keep you guarded and not fully in the relationship. This behavior may sabotage the relationship, or you may try to leave your partner before he or she leaves you. Release your guard and be willing to be open, honest, and vulnerable with your partner. Let go of any assumptions you may have about the relationship related to your self-esteem. For example, you may fear (or expect) your partner to cheat, which can make your partner feel like you do not trust them. If you've been hurt in a past relationship, don't assume that your current partner will do the same. This can strain your relationship. If you feel unlovable, you may doubt your partner's intentions or actions of love toward you. If you believe you are unlovable, you might doubt your partner's intentions for you and the relationship. This is not healthy and creates an atmosphere of distrust in your relationship, which does not feel good for you or for your partner. You may test your partner by not calling or texting, purposefully not discussing your plans, or flirting with someone else in front of your partner. These actions set your relationship up to fail. If you have low self-esteem, you may feel constantly threatened by your partner's behavior. An innocent talk with a co-worker may feel like your partner is cheating on you. Recognize that the jealousy may exist because you feel bad about yourself, not because your partner is trying to hurt you. If you start to feel jealous, ask yourself whether you are thinking logically and fairly. One way to curb feelings of jealousy is to stop comparing yourself to others. If you find yourself catastrophizing ("He's talking to another girl. He must be flirting. He must like her. He's going to break up with me."), slow down and think more rationally. For example, say to yourself, "He's talking to another girl. It seems like a normal conversation and I have no reason not to trust him." Don't brush off compliments from your partner. Instead, listen to your partner's compliments without rebuffing them. Acknowledge what you contribute to the relationship and ask your partner what he or she appreciates about you. For example, if your partner says, "You look very attractive tonight," don't make an excuse or try to undercut the compliment. Instead, say "thank you." You may avoid confrontation or conflict if you have low self-esteem. You may think that the fight was your fault and that you don't have the right to talk to your partner about it. However, asserting your boundaries and communicating effectively are important parts of a relationship. If you find that you blame yourself for every fight or conflict, take a step back and ask if you're being fair with yourself.
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One-sentence summary -- Approach the relationship with an open-mind. Stop testing your relationship. Temper your jealousy. Acknowledge positives in the relationship. Avoid taking on all the blame.

About 5 strides from where you would like to stop, gradually begin to squeeze the horse's sides with both of your legs. Engage your lower legs to send a clearer signal and control the movement of the legs and the barrel of the horse. It's important to apply even pressure with both of your legs to prevent crooked halting. Be careful not to kick or frighten the horse, which can distract it from stopping. Move the reins back about 1 to 2 inches (2.5 to 5.1cm) while gripping them in your hands to further impede the horse's ability to move its head. Keep the reins low down near your waist. This will stop the horse's head bob and encourage the horse to decrease its speed. Avoid only using your reins to signal a halt. You should be communicating the halt to the horse with your entire body. Some expert riders are able to halt their horses without pulling on the reins at all. Do not pull or yank the reins up towards your chest. This can hurt the horse's mouth. If your horse knows a command, such as, "Whoa" or "Halt," give the command as you tighten your legs and pull the reins. Speak in a calm tone that is loud enough so that the horse can hear you. If you haven't taught your horse verbal commands, refrain from using them as they can be confusing. The horse doesn't naturally know what these words mean, but you can train them to respond to commands over time. Refrain from shouting or yelling. The horse's ears are close to your head, and they will be able to hear you speak even at a regular talking volume.
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Apply pressure with both legs as you approach the stopping point. Pull the reins toward your body to stop the horse's movement. Say a verbal command for the horse to stop.