There are many legal issues involved with separating from your spouse. You are advised to meet with a family law attorney and discuss the separation. Each person's separation is different, and only a qualified attorney can identify and untangle any legal issues. To find a family law attorney, you can contact your local or state bar association and ask for a referral. Once you have the name of an attorney, you should call and schedule a consultation. Ask ahead of time how much the attorney charges. You and your wife need to discuss who will take care of the children. Generally, it is best for the parent who stays in the house to have custody, since there is rarely a good reason to remove children from familiar surroundings. You might find it easier to leave the house but want to seek custody of your children at a later date. In this situation, you need to remain closely involved with your children. Make sure to visit often and also have your children frequently spend the night with you. In fact, you and your wife should draft a temporary child custody agreement. It does not need to be particularly detailed, but it should identify when each parent will have custody of the children. You and your wife could also agree to divide your time in the home. For example, you could both pay to rent an apartment in town. On Mondays through Thursdays, you could stay in the apartment while your wife stays at home. On Fridays through Sundays, you could then stay in the home while your wife is in the apartment. If you aren't the person who will take care of your children, then you can expect to pay child support to your wife. You must pay child support even if you aren't divorced. There really isn't any wriggle room for getting out of child support payments, so you might as well try to estimate how much you will have to pay each month. There are many online calculators you can use to estimate monthly support payments. You enter information about your salary and the number of children that you have, and the calculator estimates your payments. See Calculate Child Support for more information. Your wife may have abused you or the children. In these situations, you will need to get a restraining order. You can get a restraining order, also called a protective order, by stopping into your local courthouse and asking for the forms. See Get a Protective Order for more information. Sometimes separation is temporary, but other times separation can be permanent. In some states, you can get a "legal separation," which is like a divorce although you remain legally married. When you legally separate, you divide assets and debts just as divorced people do. You also settle on child custody arrangements. You should discuss this option with your attorney and identify your reasons for seeking legal separation: You might want to stay married but legally separate if either you or your wife has a religious objection to divorce. Legal separation can also be helpful if one spouse needs to stay on the other's insurance or if one spouse is close to qualifying for spousal Social Security benefits. You can begin the legal separation process by drafting a marital separation agreement, which is like a divorce settlement agreement. You and your wife agree on a division of assets, debts, child support, and spousal support (alimony). Although you can create a marital separation agreement if you separate temporarily, they are more common for people who choose to permanently separate. The marital separation agreement becomes a contract between you and your wife. If either of you violate the agreement, the other could sue in court. You each should have your own attorney draft and look over the agreement.

Summary: Consult with a family law attorney. Discuss child custody issues. Estimate child support payments. Get a restraining order, if necessary. Decide whether to legally separate. Draft a marital separation agreement.

First, arrange your hands into the basic grip for the pitch you want to modify. Modify it by bending your index and middle fingers at the first joint. Place your fingernails flat against the ball and keep these 2 middle knuckles raised up. When you release the ball, allow your top knuckles to push away the Wiffle ball to give it a spin. For example, with a knuckle slider, you'd get a counter-clockwise spin. Don't let your ring and pinky fingers wrap around the ball. Position your hands higher on the side with no holes for this pitch. For dramatic movement and a big break, turn your wrist slightly so that the holes face the batter when you follow through. Snap your wrist so your fingers graze the side of the ball when you release it. This will be a slower pitch than a regular slider but the dramatic curve will throw off the batter. This works best with a scuffed or cut Wiffle ball. Hold the ball with the holes as you would for a regular slider or riser, then insert the tip of your middle finger into 1 of the holes. Wrap your other fingers and thumb loosely around the ball. Throw a slider change-up over the top if you want to make the ball break left, or try throwing it at 3/4 if you want to add some rise toward the end. Use different arm angles to make the ball break at different spots when throwing a riser change-up. Face the ball's holes toward your palm and hold the ball with a secure grip. Just be sure not to cover the holes heavily with your fingers or palm. Hold the ball with just your index and middle fingers, or add your ring and pinky fingers to the grip to modify this pitch. Throw this forcibly as you would with a fastball, but whip the ball out of your hand at the end with a snap of your wrist. The goal of a change-up is to trick the batter into thinking you'll pitch a fastball, but the change-up will be a slower pitch.
Summary: Bend your index and middle fingers against the ball for a knuckle pitch. Adjust your follow-through by snapping your wrist for a nasty slider. Place your middle finger into a hole for a slider change-up or riser change-up. Hold the holes toward your hand and use a loose grip for a straight change-up.