Q: You should both seek help from a licensed therapist who is trained in marital therapy and can help you both work through the infidelity. A good marriage counselor can help you put the affair into perspective, identify any factors that may have contributed to the affair and teach you both how to rebuild your relationship. Your marriage counselor may also give you reading material to study and discuss together at home as you both work towards saving your marriage. It's important that you show your spouse you are willing to try to make the marriage work by committing to weekly counseling sessions and reading any material given to you by the counselor. You may feel that you would like to go to a therapist on your own to work on your issues, especially if you are the spouse who had the affair. Though couples counseling is very beneficial for you and your spouse, going to a therapist on your own can show your spouse that you are willing to also focus on your own issues so they do not hinder the progress you are both making in couples counseling. You may want to consider going to a therapist on your own if you think some of your personal issues may have caused the affair or lead to developing feelings for someone other than your spouse. Working through your issues can help you to better support your spouse as you work together on your marriage. Look for a couples support group in your area that focuses on saving a marriage after infidelity. It can be useful to share your experiences with others who are also going through the same issues and problems as you. The support group is usually lead by a certified marriage counselor, who will moderate the support group and help to facilitate discussion between you, your spouse, and other couples.
A: Go together to a marriage counselor. See a therapist on your own, if necessary. Join a couples support group.

Q: This will show respect and take some of the load off of their shoulders. If you live at home, make sure you take an active role in keeping it clean, particularly your room. If you don't live at home, stop by once or twice a week to help out. Wash and fold the laundry. Clean and put away the dishes. Pick up after yourself and others. Run the vacuum around the house. Cut and rake the grass for them. You were probably the recipient of your parents' taxi services for most of your life. Now, you can return the favor. Offer to take them to where they need to go, especially if they are aging and driving has become difficult for them. Even if they are still able to drive well, having someone offer to chauffeur them around is a sweet gesture. Stay respectful, especially if your parents are older. They may not like the fact that they need help driving. Asking their permission to drive them around, instead of telling them that you are, can make a big difference. As your parents age, they may be unable to take care of their home as well as they could before. Instead of having them call a handyperson to make household repairs, offer to do them yourself. If you are unable to, hire someone yourself so that your parents don't have to spend the money. Your parents may not be forthcoming about what they need help with because they don't want to burden you. Ask them directly how you can help. If they still won't tell you, do some inspecting of the home yourself, or ask other family members if they know if something needs to be done. Your parents have likely been paying for you for a long time. If you have the means, treat them when you can. Taking them out to dinner or paying for a vacation together is a great way to thank them for what they've done and to show your affection. If they are on a fixed income, try some of the following: Pay some of their bills. Buy their groceries. Cover the expenses for their pets. Work out a plan with them to help manage their finances.
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Tidy up the home. Offer transportation. Handle repairs. Pay for what you can.