Article: Recognize that different people react to life situations differently. Even if you have been through a similar situation as your friend, avoid saying something like "Oh, it won't feel so bad after a while. When I went through this, I ___" Your friend wants her feelings acknowledged not minimized. Show empathy instead. Empathy involves acknowledging the other person's painful feelings by trying to put yourself in her shoes. Even if you think you know what it's like, refrain from generalizing what the experience is like To your friend, this is new, raw, and painful. To offer support and empathy, say "I can see that you are hurting. I wish there was something I could do." When we see people we love hurting, a common reaction is to rush to find a solution. However, in some cases, the only factors that can lessen the pain are time or hope. Yes, you may feel powerless about not being able to offer some practical help to your friend, but she will appreciate your presence much more than your advice. During hard times, people resort to unhelpful platitudes that offer no comfort, but only make the circumstances worst. Avoid these unsupportive, straight-from-greeting-cards comments: Everything happens for a reason Time heals all wounds It was meant to be It could be worse What's done is done The more things change, the more they stay the same Offering to pray for your friend or telling her to pray, may seem like a harmless gesture. However, if your friend is an atheist or agnostic, she may not be soothed by religious practices. Try to meet your friend where she is and offer your presence and comfort in a way that is comfortable to her.
What is a summary of what this article is about?
Don't pretend you understand. Keep your advice to yourself. Swallow your empty cliches. Question how spiritual consolation will be received by your friend.