Q: Bullying goes beyond simply being excluded from the group or normal teasing, and it is a serious problem. Bullying includes teasing that is hurtful, unkind, and constant. Bullying is intentional tormenting and can involve physical, verbal, or psychological torment. It can range from hitting, shoving, name-calling, threats, and mocking to taking the victim's money or possessions, like taking a child's lunch money or sneakers. Some kids bully by ostracizing others and spreading rumors about them. Bullying can include using social media or electronic messaging to taunt others or hurt their feelings. Cyber-bullying is increasingly common. Bullying occurs for many reasons. Sometimes bullies pick on other people because they need a victim to feel more important, popular, or in control. Sometimes kids bully others because that is how they've been treated by other kids or by their families. They may think their behavior is normal because they come from families where everyone calls each other names or uses violence. Sometimes bullies learn the behavior from popular culture, which makes them think that bullying is normal or "cool." Certain reality TV and internet sites show promote mean behavior. Bullying is not something you should tough out on your own. If you are being bullied, tell someone. Most schools and communities have anti-bullying policies. Notifying an adult will spur the adult to follow the procedures in place to stop the bullying. A parent, teacher, coach, principal, lunchroom attendant, or other adult can help you handle the bullying. You are not alone. Although it can be difficult, it can help to find a supportive person in your life who will be a good listener, like your parents, a favorite teacher, or other loved ones. When young people are hurting because of their relationships with their peers, they should confide in supportive adults. Talk about how you feel when you are bullied. Feeling like you are heard and understood can help make you feel better. Talking to an adult will also let you know that you are not alone and will help you manage your emotional distress. Identify at least five adults you can go to for help when you are being bullied. Find a place where you go to be safe from bullies, such as church, a community center, your home, etc. Staying away from the bully and avoiding being alone can help in the short-term. Don't go where you know the bully will be, and try not be alone when the bully is present. Buddy up with a friend on the bus, in the hallways, at recess, or wherever the bully is. There is safety in numbers. Bullies are encouraged to continue bullying when they provoke a reaction from the person they are bullying. Remain calm when you are bullied. Do not to respond to bullying by fighting or bullying back. It can quickly escalate into violence, trouble, and someone getting injured. If you cry or become angry, it will make the bully feel more powerful. Practice not reacting. It will take a lot of practice, but it useful to learn how to stay calm in an upsetting situation. Not reacting may eventually get the bully to leave you alone. Cool down by counting to 10 or taking deep breaths. Sometimes the best thing to do is to wear a "poker face" until you are clear of danger. Smiling or laughing at the bully may only provoke the bully more, so try to maintain a neutral, calm expression. Tell the bully that his/her behavior is inappropriate. Say something like, "I don't like what you are doing and you need to stop," or, "That is bullying and it is not right." Firmly and clearly tell the bully to stop, then walk away. Practice ways to ignore hurtful comments, like acting like you are texting someone on your cell phone. By ignoring the bully, you're signalling that you don't care what he/she says. Eventually, the bully will probably get bored and will leave you alone. If a bully physically attacks or hurts you, notify an adult and the authorities. Physical bullying is called assault and is illegal. Telling someone will ensure that the bully is punished and cannot hurt anyone else. Being bullied can hurt your self-esteem. Know that there is nothing wrong with you; the problem is with the bully. Spend time with friends who make you feel good about yourself. Participate in clubs, sports, or other activities that you enjoy to build self-confidence, distract you from your negative feelings, and help you to build positive friendships. Focus on the positive things in your life, and talk to someone about them.
A: Identify bullying. Learn why bullying happens. Alert an adult. Confide in a loved one. Find safe haven. Avoid the bully, and use a buddy system. Remain calm. Set clear boundaries with your bully. Walk away. Notify the authorities. Restore your confidence.

Q: Eyelid glue (also known as "putti") and eyelid tape are popular cosmetic items that help create a "second eyelid" for those who have mono-eyelids. Both the liquid adhesive and the tape are effective, though the tape may need modification to achieve a perfect fit. Eyelid tape comes in a few varieties, including rolls and "pre-cut" shapes. Give your eyelids a gentle washing prior to applying an adhesive. Too much oil or makeup will cause problems for the adhesive, resulting in your eyelids not adhering properly. If you wish to wear makeup, apply after putting on the adhesive. If using tape, cut a small thin strip that roughly matches the length of your eye. The tape should be completely obscured under the crease of your eye, so avoid cutting the tape too "wide." Cutting an appropriate size may take some trial and error. Pre-cut strips may also have to be modified to fit without being visible. Not all eyes are the same! The shape of your eye, even if "almond," can vary drastically from another set of almond eyes. Review your eye carefully, and talk to a beautician if you need advice specific to your own eye shape. Find the crease of your eye and apply the adhesive along the crease. Look in the mirror if you aren't quite sure where your to find your crease, or have a friend help while you apply the adhesive. Both eyelid glue and tape can be removed with warm water, or a small amount of makeup remover. Take care when removing the tape from your eyelids. Peel slowly to avoid stretching out your eyelids. Eyelid liquid glue comes with a small applicator. Once you have applied the glue, use the applicator to push a portion of the upper eyelid upward, so that the glue adheres to nearby skin, creating a fold. Note that both types of eyelid adhesives, particularly the liquid, may require physical adjustments to adhere in place. Practice using the applicator to create an additional eyelid fold prior to applying the glue. This saves you the trouble of having to reapply the glue if you apply the adhesive incorrectly the first time. Make sure your eyelid folds are to your liking and have a strong enough bond to last throughout the day. It will take some practice to get the perfect look on both eyes. If you feel one type of adhesive does not work well, give the other a try and see if it works better. Eyelid glue will last longer based on how much you layer on your eyelid. A thinner layer will dry quickly, but only last a few hours, whereas a thicker layer will last longer, though it will also feel more noticeable. Eyelid tape holds stronger than glue, but can be felt much more easily in the eyelid, meaning it may be uncomfortable over longer periods of time. Sweat and oil can cause the glue to lose its hold as the day wears on, so reapplication may be necessary (most notably in eyelid glue).
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Purchase your choice of adhesive. Wash your eyelids. Cut out a thin strip of tape. Apply the tape to the upper eyelid. Adjust with an applicator. Blink several times.