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Watching adult themed movies or tv with your partner can be a good way to get both parties aroused. You can experiment with pornography if you're both comfortable with that. Read erotic literature together or try pornographic magazines. Watching sex scenes or reading about sexual activities exposes both parties to potential new fantasies that they can peruse together and can help with arousal or provide stimulus. Watching porn habitually by oneself can desensitize a man to sex, reducing sex drive. Ask your partner if there is anything they want to try, but hasn't. If they says there is nothing, ask if there's something they have never done but hasn't particular fantasized about. A simple starting point can be being intimate in a room in your home other than your bedroom, if this is practical. If you are afraid to raise the subject directly, begin with indirect hints. "What did you think of the scene in that movie we watched? Would you ever try that?" Be cautious when discussing fantasies. it can be hurtful to suggest that you are thinking of something other than your partner when you're being intimate. Emphasize that you want to experience something new with the person you're with. Sharing fantasies can build trust, be prepared to talk about things you'd like to try too. If you're not comfortable talking about your fantasies, its not fair to expect your partner to be. Try foreplay to increase arousal. Not only can this get men in the mood, it will also decrease performance anxiety. If a man is able to satisfy his significant other without obtaining an erection, he will be less anxious about his libido. One study found that the preferred erogenous zones for men in order of rank are: penis, lips, scrotum, inner thigh, nape of neck, nipples, perineum, pubic hairline, back of the neck, and ears. One study has found that people who stare at a photo of their loved one for 30 seconds or longer, naturally begin producing the chemical dopamine. Dopamine is a chemical in the brain that is closely associated with libido. Massages can be a great bonding experience and can prime your significant other for an erotic experience. Establish a sensuous atmosphere to improve the experience. Try turning off the lights and lighting some candles. Play some music. Keep some oils near you for lubrication during the massage. Cut your fingernails before the massage to avoid scratching up your partner. A study has shown that scents from perfumes and candles can help increase sex drive. Because a variety of factors were involved, it is difficult to say definitively which were most effective. However preliminary results suggest some scents that might be more effective than others. The study suggested that effective smell profiles included pumpkin pie, licorice, donuts, lavender, oriental spice, cola, and various mixtures of these scents.
Enjoy erotica together. Discuss fantasies. Focus on the whole body. Look at your partner. Give massages. Use smell.