Q: Now that you've analyzed, considered, and really meditated upon how terrible this idea is, you need to stop obsessing over this person. No matter how tempting it is to think about him/her, fantasize, and get yourself all tingly doing it, stop it. Think about and do something else. In loose psychological terms, it's called redirecting behaviors and thought patterns. You have to find ways to stay busy and to stop thinking about your inappropriate crush. If all you do is sit around the house all day, then your inappropriate crush will be a lot harder to forget than if you throw yourself into your work and studies and have an active social life. At first, not thinking about your crush will be even harder because you'll be so busy thinking about nothing thinking about him or her. But have faith soon enough, you'll be on your way to moving forward. Learn to redirect your thoughts. Train yourself to think about something else every time you start thinking about him/her think about how much you love the person you're with instead. Think about how much work you have to get done. If you're at home, turn on the radio or TV, and get some other thoughts running through your head. If you still feel yourself reverting to thoughts of your forbidden crush, find someone to talk to; call a friend. Ask that friend if he or she wants to hang out you can get out of the house and stop thinking about your crush! Throw yourself into a new hobby or an activity. Try tennis, yoga, writing short stories, or training for a 5K. Though these activities alone won't make you forget your crush, they will bring more richness to your life and will help you think of other things. If you can remove yourself from that person as much as possible, the crush will weaken. In order to sustain our adoration for someone, we generally need to reinforce it by seeing the person. (Absence usually doesn't make the heart grow fonder, actually.) Of course, this isn't always practical, but do what you can to minimize contact with the other person. Try to avoid doing anything dramatic while finding a way to limit the time you spend with your crush. Unfortunately, there are some cases where it would be quite hard to limit contact with the person entirely. If you have a crush on your married boss and it won't go away, for example, you may have to consider looking for another job. If you have a crush on your professor and it won't go away, see if you can switch into another class. If you do have to be in the same room as the person, try to minimize eye contact and conversation. You shouldn't make things extra awkward by avoiding or ignoring the person entirely, but you should limit how much time you spend interacting. All crushes fade with time. If you can avoid doing something regrettable and keep your feelings in check, eventually those powerful emotions will run their course. You may feel like you're trapped and that you are bound to have these feelings forever, but that won't be the case. One day, you'll be looking back on this moment, wondering how you could have harbored such feelings. If you have faith that you won't always feel this way, you'll be on the way to getting over it. Unfortunately, there's no timeline for how long it takes to get over a crush. But if you go about living a busy and fulfilling life instead of spending all your time moping and pining, you'll be guaranteed to get over it faster. If you're single, then you should begin to put yourself out there when you're starting to get over your crush. You don't have to feel 100% cured, but you should feel like you're ready to start a meaningful relationship with someone else if you're still completely lovesick, then it won't be fair to the other person to start dating just to distract yourself. But once you're ready, ask a friend to set you up or be open to meeting new people. You'll soon find that your crush is far from your thoughts. It doesn't matter if that person does not measure up to your "wrong crush." What does matter is that you spend some time in the pleasant company of someone other than that person. Start dating others, and keep an open mind. That person is off limits to you, and you have to start re-wiring your brain to think about being with someone else. Let's face it: sometimes, you can't convince yourself that you don't feel the way you feel. If you've tried to fight it, all to no avail, and you still find yourself sighing over them, then make it right. There are ways to make an inappropriate crush totally appropriate the most important thing to remember is to make it right first and then, and only then get involved. And then, true love wins the day! If she's your brother's girl, then you have to behave as a gallant gentleman, and never hit on her. If your brother breaks up with her, you can ask your brother if he'd mind you asking her out. Maybe he wouldn't mind, and there certainly is precedent for it. If he doesn't break up with her, or if he won't give you permission, you're out of luck unless you are prepared to accept the consequences your brother may not speak to you. If you are falling for your subordinate, then you must decide what measures you should take at work before you pursue the relationship. You can transfer to another department or take on a different position, or do whatever you have to do at work so that your relationship would not be viewed as inappropriate or a power play.
A: Distract yourself as much as you can. Avoid the person as much as you can. Give it time. Start dating other people when you're ready. If you can't fight it, find a way to make it right first.

Q: Bare wood always needs priming before painting as the primer acts as a sealant. When you are sure that the outside wood has thoroughly dried, use a top quality latex or oil-based primer and apply it to the entire exterior of the house. Latex primer is an inexpensive, all-purpose choice. Bring your final paint sample when purchasing primer. Primers are usually white, but tinted ones are available to match your top coat. Lay down a drop cloth to protect the ground and any plants in the area. Stir the primer well from the bottom of the tin to mix up all the solids that may have separated, and consider using a tray liner for your paint tray. You can use a nylon-polyester brush, roller or an airless paint sprayer to apply the primer. Start by priming the patched filler spots, then work your way down from the top of the outside wall to the bottom. Priming the patched areas first can improve the final paint job. Let the primer sit for 24 hours to ensure it is completely dry. Now that the surface is properly cleaned, prepped and primed, it's time to follow up with a great paint job. A good paint job protects your house like a raincoat. You can use a top quality 100% acrylic latex exterior paint as a topcoat - buy the best quality paint you can afford. Before you begin, mask windows and doors with heavy plastic and once again lay drop cloths on the ground. For primed, bare wood, you will need about one gallon of paint per each 400 square feet. Use a nylon and polyester brush for latex exterior paint or a paint sprayer for a faster job. Always start at the top and work down so that drips are erased as you work. Follow the sun around the house as you are painting. Another coat or two will make your paint job last longer. While it may seem like an extra expense at the time, you will save yourself time and money on future repairs by properly investing in the repair process now. If you can, you should always apply two finish coats, each within two weeks of each other. After you've painted the body of the house, proceed to the trim, using an oil-based paint. Brushwork is best for applying trim tidily. A good paint job will last for 10 to 15 years depending on the elements your house is exposed to.
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Apply a coat of primer to the dry wood. Apply the final topcoat of paint to the wood. Consider applying one or two follow up coats of paint.