INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Choose a private, safe location. Avoid having the conversation over text or email, as the person's partner may have access to their computer and phone. Avoid making a big deal of this conversation beforehand, or your friend (or their partner) may be suspicious of your motives. Just say something like, "Hey, I miss you. Can we get together sometime soon for a chat?" Once you're together in a private place, tell your friend or family member that you're worried about them. Back up your concern with specific things you've observed about their relationship. For instance, say, "I've noticed that Joe puts you down whenever you talk about looking for a better job. That doesn't seem very healthy or supportive." Don't hesitate to continue expressing your concern in future meetings if the problem continues. Your friend or family member may love their partner, despite their flaws. If you talk about what a terrible person you think their partner is, they could get defensive and shut down the conversation. Don't criticize the person for staying with their partner, either. They won't want to talk to you if they feel judged. Instead of saying, "Jane is bad news. I can't believe you let her dictate your schedule," say something like, "I've noticed that Jane doesn't want you to see your friends on the weekends anymore. How do you feel about that?" Let the other person steer the conversation. Try to suspend your judgment of their relationship, and don't interrupt them. Instead, focus on understanding what they have to say. Take the person seriously, no matter what they tell you. They understand their relationship better than anyone else does. Ask good follow-up questions to make sure you're understanding them fully. Try, "So, what you're saying is you feel like you have to stay even though you are unhappy?" Reassure the person that any abusive behavior they're experiencing is not their fault. "Don't beat yourself up about this. I know that's easier said than done, but this is her fault, not yours." Ask them what they need. Let them know that you're there for them and want to support them. Don't make assumptions about what your friend or family member wants or needs. Let them tell you what kind of support is best. This kind of conversation may have to take place on numerous occasions over time. Just be steady rather than pushy. Your friend or family member may not be ready to leave their relationship. If that's the case, let them know that you'll still be there to help them if and when they ever need anything.

SUMMARY: Set up a time to talk in person. Express your concern. Avoid attacking the character of the person's partner. Listen to what your friend or family member tells you. Offer to help your friend or family member however you can.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: It's important to choose a doctor whose expertise is suited to your problem. If you don't know any doctors or psychiatrists who prescribe medication for phobias, a good way to start looking is by contacting your family practitioner doctor. She will probably be able to refer you to a trusted colleague. Realize that medication-based options will not solve the underlying psychological issue that causes acrophobia. But, it can make life much easier by easing your anxiety and allowing you to relax. Consider using alternative and natural medications/treatments. They could include acupuncture, meditation, or essential oils. Be sure to talk to your doctor before trying of these methods. Communication is key if you are seeking medication for your acrophobia. Describing your symptoms as clearly and thoroughly as possible will help your doctor make a decision regarding possible treatment options. Share your symptoms openly with your doctor and let your doctor help you. Not every doctor will be familiar with all of drugs that are available for treatment of acrophobia, so you may want to do your own research on these drugs. Share any concern you may have with your doctor and let your doctor provide useful feedback. Many drugs are reported to have negative side-effects. It's alright if you decide that these outweigh the benefits for you. Here are a few of the most common types of medication that your doctor might prescribe you: Antidepressants such as SSRIs or SNRIs are drugs that typically act upon and increase the levels of certain neurotransmitters responsible for regulating mood. Benzodiazepines are fast-acting, psychoactive drugs that can be useful for short-term relief of anxiety. While effective in the short-term, benzodiazepines can be habit forming. Beta blockers work by blocking adrenaline. This medication is mainly useful for the relief of the physical symptoms of anxiety, such as trembling or rapid heartbeat. Though the cause of acrophobia isn't entirely understood, research has suggested it may be related to the way the body interprets visual and spatial stimuli from the vestibular system and eyes. For some sufferers, acrophobia may come from an inability to perceive visual and spatial cues at great heights, where the importance of such information is heightened. This may lead sufferers to feel disoriented or dizzy and incorrectly judge the positions of their own appendages. In this case, acrophobia may have a physiological cause, rather than a psychological one, so talk to your doctor. You may be referred to a medical specialist who can give you insight into physical causes of your fear. In some cases, especially if traditional treatments aren't working, you might want to look into approaches that have been labeled "alternative," "complementary" or "integrative." These approaches are not for everyone, but they have been shown to be effective under certain conditions. These can include forms of treatment as diverse as acupuncture, mind-body centering exercises that increase the relaxation response, guided imagery to engage the mind in the healing process, and/or eye movement desensitization and reprocessing biofeedback. As with most practices, it's always a good idea to consult a trusted physician before beginning any form of intensive practice.

SUMMARY: Find a psychiatrist or doctor familiar with prescribing medication for phobic disorders. Speak openly with your doctor. Research available drugs as much as possible. Seek treatment for visual/vestibular system ailments. Consider all of your options.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Cleats are T-shaped metal hardware that are usually placed on the sides of the boat, close to the edge. There will also be cleats on the sides of the dock. The dock lines on the boat must be attached to the cleats to the dock to keep the boat in place. Most boats will have cleats on the bow, stern, and sides for docking. If your boat does not have cleats, you can buy them at your local boating store or online and attach them to your boat. Pilings are long pieces of timber or metal that have a cleat on them. They are often attached to a pier or dock. You will need to use dock lines and knots to secure your boat to a piling. Pilings are also sometimes used if you plan to dock your boat for several weeks or months, as they can keep it secure for a long period of time. Fenders are usually made of foam or inflatable rubber. They attach to the front and sides of your boat so it does not hit the pier or dock. They are ideal if you are tying up your boat in a busy dock or want to protect the sides from damage when it is tied up. You can find fenders at your local boating store or online. If you decide to use fenders, attach them to your boat using the ties on the fenders. Leave them on, hanging inside the boat, until it is time to dock. Then, place them on the outside of the boat before you set up the dock lines.

SUMMARY:
Check that your boat has cleats on all sides. Use pilings if there are no cleats on the dock. Get fenders to protect your boat from scratches and damage.