Problem: Article: The solution you reach during a mediation is rarely cut and dry. You may not have an exact, specific game plan. However, everyone should leave with some idea of how to heal broken relationships. It's not your job to offer exact courses of action. However, you can offer suggestions how family members could better treat one another in the future. Think about what has been said during mediation. Look for areas where change is needed. Remember to seek the input of others. Ask them specifically what they are willing to do to help improve the situation. Start with your own areas of change if appropriate. Suggest something that needs to be different in the future. For example, "As a person's career is so vital to their sense of self, maybe we should all use more sensitivity when joking about someone's job." You should also agree to work actively on letting go of the feud. For example, "For the next couple of months, let's agree not to bring this up. We don't have to talk about it over Thanksgiving. I think this will give everyone a chance to let some of this go and move forward." You can start by forgiving the family members in question yourself. Even if you were not directly involved in the feud, you were probably affected by the drama in some way. Choose forgiveness. Remember, you can't control someone else's actions but you can control your own response. You can also encourage other family members to forgive. However, remember you cannot force someone to feel a particular way. If a family argument or conflict has been going on for awhile, you're not going to fix it overnight. Moving forward, expect that things will continue to be strained. If the family members in question are difficult and melodramatic by nature, they may be unwilling to completely mend fences. At the next holiday or get together, accept there may still be tension despite your best efforts. Keep in mind that it might take several conversations before a situation is better. Give everyone involved a break, but don't be afraid to revisit the issue down the line to see where areas of progress exist. Express pleasure about this and encourage everyone to keep trying.
Summary: Work on healing the relationships. Strive for forgiveness. Keep your expectations realistic.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: The members will be allowed to discuss the idea whether you need to move or build at present location or to find an area in which to buy land. The members will decide when to make a motion when the discussion is finished and vote on the motion to build or to buy land or both. If the idea is agreed upon, then elect or appoint a Finance Committee and a Building Plan Committee to learn about how to proceed and to present their findings later. Ask for and take pledges of amounts that members will promise to donate monthly or in a lump sum to help pay off bonds. Have a presentation by an approved/recommended" church bond company that can handle issuing church bonds. Get volunteers to agree to sell bonds for free (with no commission or pay). Ask about their design and engineering plans, etc., and request to buy or borrow a copy of those building plans for a relatively small donation to their church. The interest rate is considerably better for the buyer than one can get at a bank. The church has to pay these off with interest. The bonds are for various numbers of years so that the investor can tie up their money for about as long as they like.

SUMMARY: Attend the whole church business meeting for the voting members of the congregation to discuss the idea of the new building program--perhaps scheduled before an evening-service time or after a day-service time. Have a Finance Committee report at a church business meeting to explain the bond program. Have the Building Plan Committee search for an existing church design of the size/kind that your church likes. Have a Building Plan Committee meeting to present the plans to be voted upon, expecting them to be accepted. Continue selling bonds using materials furnished by the bond company. Church Board can proceed with the acquiring of the land, if that will be needed. Have the Church Board select a general church building contractor who will hire the subcontractors and oversee purchasing materials and services for the construction. Have a ground breaking ceremony, and begin the building process. Register the plans with the city building development and inspections department. Finish the building with proper procedures like using plumbers and electricians and getting inspections as required on various stages of the construction.

In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: Now that you're a bit more than just vague acquaintances, the next step is becoming friends. Lots of people say this might be a wrong move, but most of the time, this is not the case. It will help you to avoid the main risk, that is to say, to make him fall in love with a person you are not. Among your friends, you are yourself and if you want him to be addicted to you, you have to be your true self from the beginning. Moreover, becoming friends will help to see how much common ground you have. If you go on being warm, friendly, and interesting (which you undoubtedly are) you'll become friends in the most natural way possible. Remember: how did you befriend all those people you're surrounded by? Well, if it worked for them, it'll work for him too! Once you are friends, you want him to know he's more than just "one of the guys" for you. Don't make it too obvious, but try to make him stand out a little. Don't tell him your biggest secret ever you'll scare him but do slightly odd things that show you feel close to him or that you thought of him. For example, if you don't share your feelings easily, try telling him things like, "Well, I feel a bit blue today." Or if you talked about some kind of sweet he liked, try to bring him a piece of it (and one for yourself, too). What you want is him slowly wrapping his head around the fact that you and him have a lot in common. By showing him trust and giving him a little more attention than your other friends, he will subconsciously register that something's happening. Don't make it too obvious. If we take the first example again, don't tell him, "OMG I feel so depressed. I'm so sad, it's awful," because you would scare him: he wouldn't understand why, suddenly, you began talking that much about yourself. Everything must be natural. A bit odd, perhaps, but never forced. Try telling him a story first (when it is just the two of you) that you plan on telling your other friends later. It will make him feel special to know he heard it before the others. Or try touching him just a little bit more than you touch other people. You could touch his arm while you are talking to him or give him a hug when you see him. For one, you'll be less embarrassed if it turns out you're not that into him. For two, you'll avoid awkward situations like: "Is this the one?" in the loudest voice possible when he's just a few meters away. You'll also avoid your friends trying to give you a hand. They mean well but it often ends in disaster. You can feel comfortable telling other people (including your friends) only if they don't have even the remotest chance of meeting him or if one of the steps described here cannot physically be achieved without their collaboration. But otherwise, you're on your own on this one.
Summary:
Include him in your circle of friends. Make him feel special. Be subtle. Don't discuss your plans with other people.