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Often we set higher expectations for ourselves than we do for others. Try instead to treat yourself the same way you would treat a close friend. Don't say anything about yourself (out loud to others, or even just in your head) that you wouldn't say about someone you care about. Scientists have proven that by focusing on developing and appreciating our strengths, we are more likely to live fulfilling lives. Make a list of three of your strengths. These can be specific (such as, "I am good at chess") or broad (such as, "I am courageous"). Include at least one specific and one broad example on your list. Stop and appreciate these parts of yourself. Say out loud, "I like that I am courageous." Brainstorm one way to further develop each of these strengths. If you listed "I am good at chess," consider entering a chess tournament. If you listed "I am courageous," perhaps go white water rafting. If you are not okay with being you, there may some guilt living under the surface. Forgiving yourself is not easy, but it can be transformative. In order to try to forgive yourself, perform a ritual release. Write a letter confessing your secret. Explain everything you feel guilty about in vivid detail. Destroy the letter. Send it into the ocean or burn it. Say to yourself, "I put my guilt in the past." Repeat this ritual as many times as you need to. Many people have internalized the belief that taking care of yourself is selfish. When in reality, being kind to yourself is one of the most responsible things you can do. If you take better care of yourself, you will begin to feel worthy of such care. As a result, you will soon be okay with being you. Here are some ideas: Set specific times when you don't work. Give yourself permission to relax during these moments. Work out. Get those endorphins pumping! When you do make it to the gym, thank yourself for showing up. Get enough sleep. Don't sacrifice this essential human need. Plenty of sleep will help you stay physically and emotionally strong. An affirmation is a simple, positive, present tense statement about yourself. Think of such a statement and use a dry erase marker to write it on your bathroom mirror. Say it out loud first thing in the morning, and again every time you enter that room. It is okay to feel silly at first! This feeling will pass, and in time, this will help you be okay with being you. Some examples include: I am a good writer. I am a strong person. I love you, ____ (fill in your name).
Be your own friend. Celebrate your strengths. Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. Make an affirmation.