What you're trying to do is determine if she's bigoted or has a negative feeling about gays in general, or if she seems to be okay with everything. Be sure the joke is funny so you both can laugh over it if there's just a neutral response from her. Spur conversations in that direction (girls with girls) and let her know, "That sounds like fun." Or, the ever-popular, "I've never tried it but it doesn't sound bad". This requires you to come out and identify yourself as bisexual or lesbian. If she corrects you ("You mean "boyfriend?"), then say "Oops - what did I say? Silly me." and smile.

Summary: Tell a slightly inappropriate joke about gays or lesbians and watch for a reaction (don't get too nasty, you're just trying to gauge the response). Approach her often. Ask or tell about your current girlfriends. Inquire if she has a girlfriend or if she's ever had one.

African hair tends to be naturally dry with minimal oil, which is why it isn't necessary to use shampoo more than once a week. Shampooing your hair several times a week or even every day strips the oil that the hair needs from the hair shaft so that it becomes drier, frizzier and more prone to breaking. African hair does not often get overly oily like Caucasian or Asian hair does when it is not washed for several days. Do not wash tangled hair, as this will make the knots even worse. Always untangle hair and then wash. Because African hair tends to be dry, it's essential to use conditioner every time you shampoo your hair to restore moisture. When you condition, pay attention especially to the ends of your hair, which are the most brittle, and keep the conditioner in your hair for a few minutes before washing it out. After you finish washing your hair, add in a generous amount of leave-in conditioner to the wet hair to continue adding moisture to the hair. Try to find a product that contains coconut oil, shea butter or cocoa butter. If you exercise or build up a sweat regularly, you may feel the need to wash your hair more often than once a week to remove sweat or other buildup. Instead of using shampoo, wash with conditioner in between your weekly washes. Conditioner will gently wash away sweat or other buildup while keeping the healthy oils in your hair. Make sure to use the conditioner on your scalp as well as down your hair shaft. Using a leave-in conditioner or moisturizer on days when you don't wash or condition your hair ensures that your hair stays hydrated and protected from damage. Use a light leave-in moisturizer formulated for African hair at the beginning of the day before styling your hair. Try to find a moisturizer that contains essential oils, which are absorbed into the hair and moisturize. Avoid products containing lanolin or other greasy ingredients that sit on the surface of the hair and weigh it down. Spritz your hair with water, then apply the moisturizer, or find a moisturizer than can be used on dry hair. Use the moisturizer on all of your hair, but pay special attention to the tips of your hair, which are the oldest and driest. In addition to your regular maintenance of your hair, doing a monthly or bimonthly deep conditioning treatment will make a visible difference to your hair, making it more moisturized and less brittle. Use a deep conditioning product according to the label or get it done professionally for the best results. Try to use a product that contains coconut oil, shea butter, or argan oil.

Summary: Shampoo hair once a week. Condition your hair every time you shampoo. Use a leave in conditioner in washed hair. Co-wash your hair between shampoos if physically active. Use a leave-in moisturizer daily. Deep condition your hair once a month.

Some rabbits become territorial due to sexual maturity. However, other rabbits simply become aggressive if you reach into the cage or try to remove the rabbit from his environment. Other signs of cage protective behavior include biting you when you try to clean the cage or remove his food or toys. Rabbits need to feel like they have a safe space, which is most likely the cage. Reaching into the cage could be seen as a threatening act. Instead of reaching into your rabbit's cage to pull him out, try leaving the gate open and letting him come out when he's ready. Some rabbits resort to biting out of boredom. Much like a nagging child who pulls on your arm and cries until you pay attention, your rabbit's biting may simply be caused by boredom and not getting enough attention. Spend some time each day petting your rabbit or playing with him (if he'll let you). Consider getting a second rabbit to keep your bunny company. If you do this, however, you should ensure that both rabbits have been desexed to avoid aggressive competition. Make sure your rabbit gets plenty of exercise time outside his cage. Try to play with him, or simply let him romp around and explore a bunny-proof room. If your rabbit has reached the age of four or five months old and developed aggressive biting habits, it's possible that he's reached sexual maturity. This can mean that the rabbit is in heat, and may continue to act aggressively until he is desexed. Spraying urine is a common sign of being in heat, as well as the rabbit plucking its own hair (though this may be more common in females than males). Grunting, growling, and biting may be related to sexual behavior, though there could be other explanations. Talk to your vet or a qualified animal specialist if you're unsure of your rabbit's developmental stage. Some rabbits will nip at you when you try to discourage destructive behavior. This usually indicates irritation or a desire to be left alone, especially if it comes as a response to touching or moving your rabbit. Nipping may simply be a cry for attention. Try guessing what your rabbit might need (petting, food, water, etc.) and see if that stops his nipping. Typically, if your rabbit is nipping, it's to give you a warning. The easiest way to deal with a rabbit that wants his space is to leave him alone or put him back in his cage. Any time your rabbit's aggression or biting becomes a problem, you should talk to your veterinarian for advice on how to proceed. If the rabbit has already been desexed it could be a behavioral problem, perhaps related to previous mishandling, mistreatment, or even abuse. It could also be an underlying health problem that's causing your rabbit to act out. Your vet will be able to give you more concrete advice based on your rabbit's health history, adoption history, and a comprehensive physical examination.
Summary: Recognize cage protective behavior. Learn the signs of a bored rabbit. Identify the signs of a rabbit in heat. Address nipping behavior. Know when to see a vet.