True friends accept you for who you are. When you're with your friends, you should feel comfortable wearing clothes you like, sharing your opinions, and being honest about your interests. Consider if you feel comfortable around your friends or if you feel pressured to be someone you're not. For instance, if you find yourself hiding things from your friends or doing things you don't like doing, you might not be able to be yourself with them. You might not always agree with your friends. However, a good friend will accept that you have differences and not make you feel like you can't express them. A good friend will treat you with kindness. Consider the way they talk to you, their tone of voice, and whether or not they make you feel good about yourself. Make sure that your friends are treating you well. Otherwise, they might not be a good fit for you. It's okay for your friend to point out mistakes you made or to disagree with you. However, they shouldn't be mean about it. For instance, a good friend might say something like, "I've noticed that you've been making bad grades lately. Is something going on?" They shouldn't say, "Wow! Your grades are really tanking. Study much?" Friends care about your thoughts and feelings, so they'll really listen to you. When you're talking, check to see if they're engaged in the conversation. Make sure they're nodding along and seem to understand what you said. This is a sign that they truly care about you and are a good friend. When you're having a conversation, they should be totally focused on you, not their phone or what they want to say. Make sure you're also listening to them when they're speaking. A good friend will lift you up and make you feel happy, while a toxic friend can leave you feeling drained. After you spend time with your friends, consider how you're feeling. If you feel happy and excited to see them again, they're probably good friends. If you feel drained or anxious, they could be a bad match for you. If your friend acts like an energy vampire or draws you into drama, it may be a sign that you should find new friends. Track how you feel after several interactions with your friends to get an overall picture. You may occasionally have good or bad days with them, so consider the pattern of how you feel. You probably won't have everything in common with your friends. However, you should have some overlap in your interests. Make a list of things you have in common with your friends to see if your friendship has a good foundation. For instance, you might both enjoy making art or may both enjoy playing soccer. Similarly, you might share the same drive to help animals or save the environment. It's normal for people to change as they get older. It's possible you used to have things in common with your friends but have grown apart from them. If that's the case, it might be best to find some new friends. A good friend will support you and will always follow through on their promises. Notice if your friend ever breaks promises or lets you down. If so, it might be time to start looking for new friends. For instance, a good friend will take the time to comfort you when you're upset. If they promise to meet you somewhere, you can count on them to show up. If you loan them something, they'll always return it as promised. Keep in mind that everyone has last minute emergencies, so don't assume the worst if your friend occasionally disappoints you.
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One-sentence summary -- Decide if you can be yourself around them. Pay attention to how they treat you. Notice if they actively listen to you. Observe how you feel emotionally after being around them. Determine if you have similar goals and values. Make sure you can rely on them to be there for you.

It is normal to feel emotional after a breakup. Don't try to suppress your sadness. You will be able to approach getting back together with a clear mind once you release your emotions. Feeling sad as a result of your breakup is normal. You should seek help if the sadness reflects in all aspects of your life and does not improve over time. Seek help if your sleeping, eating, and concentration is affected for more than two weeks. Definitely seek help if you are having thoughts of self-harm or suicide. Don't get too weighed down by self-pity. Allow yourself time to feel sad, but don't forget the positive aspects of yourself. . Try writing your thoughts down in a journal, painting, or even writing songs. Writing and art are therapeutic ways to handle your thoughts and feelings. Sometimes a breakup can leave you feeling alone, and it is common to lose contact with a few friends during the course of a relationship. Spend the time apart from your ex-boyfriend connecting with friends and family. Being around the people you love is a positive way to build confidence and mend hurt feelings. There is nothing wrong with the way you look now, but often a change of appearance is a quick way to gain confidence. The change in appearance can be as small as getting your teeth cleaned, or as dramatic as a new hair color. Buy a new outfit. New clothes can show off just how how fun, sexy, or edgy you are. Start working out. A healthy change in lifestyle is beneficial to you, and your ex-boyfriend may notice the change. Now is a great time to try something you've been wanting to do. Doing something new is a good way to take your mind off of the breakup and prevent you from contacting him too soon. Take a yoga class. Go on a trip to a new destination. Take a cooking class. Volunteer at a homeless shelter. Being broken up with doesn't make you any less of a person. Take this time to remember what aspects of you made your ex-boyfriend fall for you in the first place. Consider your strengths, but also consider your weaknesses. Don't dwell on your weaknesses. Instead, think of ways to improve them.
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Allow yourself time to feel sad. Release your emotions in a creative way Make time for friends and family. Make a positive change in your appearance. Try something new. Remember who you are.