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Before you go out dancing, choose the right outfit. You want to wear something that accentuates your best features but doesn't make you uncomfortable. Choose a favorite outfit or something your feel comfortable in. You don't want to be worrying about your clothes while you are dancing. Try something tight or slightly shorter than you normally go for, but only if you are comfortable. Remember, you can be sexy in a crop top and shorts, but you can also be sexy in sweatpants and a hoodie. Wear black if you have a fashion block. It will make you feel put together and suave and will ease your self-consciousness. You can dress it up with statement jewelry and bright shoes. Statement jewelry, such as large hoop earrings or a blingy necklace can take a simple outfit to the next level. They will also catch the lighting and sparkle as you dance. When it comes to shoes, however, be sure to wear something that you can dance in. High heels can look sexy, but if you don't feel comfortable in them, or if you have trouble dancing in them, stick with flats. If you're male, switch up your shoes. Instead of dress shoes, wear sneakers like Vans or Converse. They'll be more comfortable and give you a casual, fun look. You want to look flawless and put together on your night out. As you are getting ready, allot more time than usual to take a shower and clean up. Trim any facial hair. Shave and moisturize, if you want. Brush your hair, and style it. Keep it in place with some hair spray. Put on a splash of your favorite cologne or perfume. If you normally wear makeup, try a smoky eye or add a bold color to your lips. Having a bit of fun before you go dancing can help put you in the right mindset. Listen to upbeat music that you love, and move while you get ready, even if it's just dancing from your chair while you do your hair. If you're of legal age, have a drink. A drink or two before you go out can give you that little extra confidence boost you need to just let go and have fun. Spend some time with friends beforehand, or go to the dance with them. Your friends can help set you at ease.

summary: Pick comfortable, sexy clothes. Dress up your outfit with shoes and accessories. Take time to groom. Try to relax.

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You may be preoccupied because you see your obsession as part of who you are. Instead, you need to focus on yourself. Mentally separate yourself from your obsession by considering what other areas of your life contribute to who you are. Think about tasks, roles, or jobs that reward you as much as your obsession. Is your obsession based on a fantasy or idealized version of a person or activity? You need to start seeing how the obsession has served or fulfilled you before you can begin to fulfill that need in other ways. For example, if you're currently in a romantic relationship but obsess over a co-worker who flirts with you, you might need to refocus your attention on making your relationship fun again. Become aware of yourself and your surroundings without judgement. To do this, tune in to each one of your senses while you also pay attention to your physical or emotional state. For example, notice if your body is tense, you feel fatigued, or you're content with your life. Even being mindful for small periods of time can help you become more aware of yourself. Mindfulness can help you to become more connected with yourself and others because it builds empathy and emotional intelligence. It can even stop you from negatively dwelling on things you can't control. Instead, you'll be able to regulate your fear or anxiety when you're stressed. Think about something else to take your mind off of your obsessive thoughts. Don't be hard on yourself if you find your mind wandering back to your obsession, simply acknowledge the thought and let is pass you by as you practice focusing on something else. To distract yourself, try reading a great book, chatting with a friend, or taking up a new volunteer position. You could also do something physical like taking a yoga class or cooking a complex meal. If you find that you're emotionally drained from constantly obsessing, you need to get in touch with your emotional needs. A good way to practice this is to write a letter to your obsession telling the obsession why it attracted you. Explain what part it's played in your life and the emotions your obsession makes you feel. Also, tell your obsession why it is has become worrisome or why it is causing you stress. Getting in touch with your emotional needs will help you to start meeting them, relying less on your obsession. You may be constantly obsessing. To stop these obsessive thoughts from interfering with your life, tell yourself that you'll only obsess at certain times of the day. Put it off for the moment and tell yourself you can obsess later. You might find that your mind relaxes enough to forget to obsess. For example, if you start to obsess over something when you're out with your friends, remind yourself to enjoy the moment and tell yourself you can always obsess when you get home.

summary: Evaluate your needs, wants and goals. Practice mindfulness. Refocus your attention. Write a letter to your obsession. Put the obsessive thoughts on hold.

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Look at the historical performance of your sales team. How many units have they been selling per quarter? Take this number and factor in a rough estimate of the kind of growth you'd like to see. Use this number to determine the quotas you want your sales team to reach. For instance, your salespeople might have been 25 units a quarter, but you'd like to see 20 percent growth. Set a quota of 30 units a quarter. Setting aggressive quotas can be reasonable, as long as you are prepared for the possibility of scaling back in the future. If you are just setting out and don't have historical data to draw on, research the sales figures of your competitors or similar companies in your market. Managing a team well means having expectations and helping team members meet them. If you want each team member to sell 30 units a quarter, for instance, expect them to do so. Don't make excuses for underperformers. If, however, many of your team members consistently have trouble meeting quotas, it may be time to review your expectations and create more reasonable ones. Consistent, widespread problems making sales--even among your best workers--is a sign that your expectations are off. Keep careful track of your sales metrics and compare them regularly against your expectations. Make any adjustments that seem reasonable. For instance, if many of your team members seem to be having trouble meeting your quota of 30 units per quarter, try scaling back to 25.
summary: Set reasonable quotas. Hold your team accountable for quotas. Review your metrics to keep expectations realistic.