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Like the vast majority of human beings, most girls won't want to ask to be treated well - they'll want you to spontaneously treat them well. If your girlfriend constantly has to ask for the things she likes in your relationship - like for you to hold her hand, listen when she talks, remember her birthday, and so on - these special things are robbed of the joy they might otherwise bring. This can even make her feel isolated or needy. So try to stay on the ball - make an effort to treat your girlfriend with respect without her having to ask you. It's hard to be a steady presence in your girlfriend's life (and vice versa) if you rarely talk to her. Though every couple will have a different natural "rhythm" of communication, generally, you should try to meet, call, or, at the very least, text your girlfriend once or twice a week, if not more. This should stem from a natural urge to want to know what she's been up to - what minor accomplishments she's made in the last few days, what challenges she's faced, and so on. Be sure to contact your girlfriend on your own - don't just respond to her calls and texts. Taking the initiative to make that crucial first contact with your girlfriend demonstrates that you want her as much as she wants you. Nothing is less romantic than a man who loses sight of what's really important in life in favor of his money or possessions. Your girlfriend should always take precedence over material pleasures. For instance, don't skip your anniversary dinner to wax your new car. Don't neglect your girlfriend for weeks to play an addictive video game. Don't devote your every waking hour to your work. Keep your life in perspective - genuine love is a longer-lasting source of joy than any material gains you can ever hope to make. This being said, a good girlfriend will never willingly ask you to do things that are bad for your financial health. Though the mythical "gold-digger" is much rarer in real life than popular culture may lead you to believe, beware of women that pressure you into buying expensive gifts. It's normal for a man to show he cares for his girlfriend by celebrating birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, and so on with her. It's exceptional for him to show that he cares on the days between these big events. Take your girlfriend by surprise. Celebrate your relationship for no other reason than that you cherish it. This doesn't necessarily have to mean booking a fancy, expensive night out - a simple love note, a rose, a sweet text message, and other things like this can let her know that you are thinking of her and care for her. One of the goals of any good relationship should be for both partners to reach the point where neither has to put on a "nice" front for the other. Within the context of your relationship, you should be able to truly be "you" and not one of the characters you adopt for work, school, etc. This won't happen overnight, but it is something that has to happen for a great relationship to develop. Sometimes this may mean being truthful about negative emotions that, for whatever reason, you can't express during your daily life. Be honest and open about these emotions - they're part of the real you - but don't let them become the only topic of conversation in your relationship. This goes far beyond everyday compliments, which can become rote and dull if you repeat them too often. Instead, when you want to make your girlfriend feel amazing, be specific, drawing examples from your personal history and attempting to genuinely express your inner thoughts. Also, try to adjust the "sappiness" of your comments to a level that you know your girlfriend is comfortable with. Finally, choose especially poignant opportunities to make these types of comments - no matter how good you are with words, you can cheapen your thoughts by repeating them incessantly. For example, if you know your girlfriend is comfortable with a little sappiness in your expressions of verbal affection, rather than saying, "Hey, nice dress", you might say, "I like your dress. It reminds me of that dress you wore when we first met." This is much sweeter and has the added benefit of showing that you remember a small deal from early in your relationship.
Be proactive. Keep in touch. Don't be materialistic. Do things "just because". Strive to be yourself around her. Let her know that she's valuable to you.