Article: Once you have decided to have an abortion, you want to make sure that you have the procedure in a clean, safe, professional medical office. It is possible that your gynecologist performs the procedure. If your doctor does not perform abortions, ask for a referral to an office where you can have the procedure. In the US, you can look for a Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood offers a comprehensive range of reproductive health care services, and can be a great resource for you (even if you decide to keep the pregnancy). Make sure to find out if the clinic you phone actually offers abortions. Some Planned Parenthood locations do. Many "crisis pregnancy" centers serve to try to scare and manipulate you out of getting an abortion. A simple question when you phone will get you the answers you need. There are two types of abortions. One is an in office surgical procedure and the other occurs by taking a prescribed pill. Once you have found a provider, discuss these two options with them. Ask the health care providers about abortion laws in your state. Some states require minors to have the permission of a parent or guardian before having an abortion. However, you can sometimes get permission from a judge to waive that requirement. Ask the clinic about the restrictions in your state. If you are under 18, it is possible that you might need a parent's permission to have an abortion, depending on in which state you live. You can find this information out by asking your health care provider about the laws in your particular state. Either way, you might want to consider discussing your situation with your parents. Hopefully, they serve as a resource for you. Find the right time and place to talk to your parents. You want somewhere private, where you will not be interrupted. Ask your parents if this is a good time to talk you don't want them to be distracted. Try to remain calm and honest. Articulate your feelings and your needs clearly. Many states require parental consent, but there are also ways that you can still receive a legal abortion without that consent. If your parents will not agree to grant permission, or you are unable or afraid to talk to them about it, you will need to get judicial bypass. This is where a judge grants permission instead of the parents. Planned Parenthood has information on judicial bypass and can help you with the process. You can also call the National Abortion Federation Hotline, and they can help you understand the steps you need to take in your particular state. If you have ever been married, have a child, or have a medical emergency, the parental consent requirement does not apply to you. If you feel like you are unable to talk to your parents, it's a good idea to find someone else you trust to talk to. Even if you are confident that you want to have an abortion, it can still be a very emotional experience. It can be very helpful to have a support system during this challenging time. Be calm and rational when having the conversation, and let them know you could use their help. Try to think of a family member or friend that you trust. Ask this person to go with you to get the abortion. You might need a helping hand you are not allowed to drive yourself home if you've been sedated or the comfort of a friend to help with the emotional experience. When you are scheduling your appointment, make sure to ask how much the procedure will cost. Typically, the abortion pill costs approximately $800. The surgical procedure can be as much as $1500 for a first trimester abortion. It's best to be prepared and know how you are going to afford the cost. This can ease the stress you feel on the day of the procedure. Many health care providers offer sliding-scale fees. This means that your income and ability to pay are taken into account. Often, this results in a greatly reduced fee. You can ask the doctor if there is the possibility of using a payment plan if you cannot afford the abortion outright. Try to schedule the abortion on a day where you do not have to go to school or work. Plan to give yourself at least the rest of the day to rest and heal. Before you arrive at the clinic, make sure that you know whether you will be receiving the abortion pill or if you will be having a surgical procedure. The pill is typically an option if you are less than nine weeks pregnant. It is effective 97 out of 100 times. If you are scheduled for a surgical procedure, it can be helpful to know what to expect. There are two common types of surgical abortions: aspiration and D&E (dilation and evacuation). Ask your doctor which you will be receiving. Before either procedure, you may be given medication to help you to relax. Before an aspiration, your doctor will examine and then numb your cervix. A suction device will be used to withdraw the fetus. This procedure takes about five to 10 minutes. But know that you will need time before and after the procedure to fill out paperwork and talk to the doctor. A D&E also begins with the doctor examining your uterus and numbing your cervix. Medication or fluids will be used to stretch your cervix. The doctor will then use a gentle suction machine to empty your uterus. This procedure will take about 20 minutes, with extra time needed to prepare your uterus.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Locate the appropriate health care provider. Talk to your parents. Schedule the procedure without parental consent. Find a supportive person. Prepare for your visit. Know what to expect.

Making the decision to "divorce" a toxic parent can be very difficult. In some cases, cutting contact might be necessary for your mental health and happiness. In other cases, you may be able to maintain a relationship by setting better personal boundaries with your parent. Make this decision with your long-term well-being in mind. It might help to write out a pros and cons list. Write out all the benefits of getting distance with your parent versus any disadvantages you can think of. You might include pros such as "Peace of mind," while cons might be "Missing their presence." If you decide to maintain your relationship with your parent, establish that you are an independent adult now. Don't put yourself in situations where you won't be able to leave if you need to. Instead, set limits on when and where you'll see your parent. For instance, don't stay overnight at your parent's house and don't let them drive you places. Consider meeting them in public instead of at home, so they'll be less likely to say or do something hurtful. If your parent tends to hijack conversations by belittling you or bossing you around, change the topic instead of letting them continue. If that doesn't work, tell them you have to go, and break off the conversation. For instance, if your mother is criticizing the way you've redecorated your house, you could redirect the conversation by saying, "I like how the living room looks now. What did you do last weekend?" Make sure that you always have an exit line or exit strategy to help you in these types of situations. Set boundaries for what you're not willing to live with. Then tell your parent what you need from them and what actions you will take if they don't respect your boundaries. For example, say something like, "Dad, it's not okay with me that you insult my husband when he's not here. I need you to stop doing that around me, or I'll have to leave." Only set consequences that you can enforce. For instance, don't threaten to leave unless you are prepared to do so. Change your mindset by acknowledging and accepting who your parent is and giving up on trying to change them. Your parent will likely never accept responsibility for being toxic. To protect yourself, try to lower your expectations of your parent.
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Think carefully about whether to go no contact. Avoid putting yourself at the mercy of your parent. Take control of conversations. Let your parent know what behaviors you won't accept any more. Accept who your parent is and stop trying to change them.