You will need to dig into the dirt quite a bit using this method, and gardening gloves should reduce the amount of dirt you get on your skin and under your nails. Dig down as far as you can go. Nut grass root systems can extend as deep down as 12 to 18 inches (30 to 46 centimeters) below the surface. Doing this gently is vital to reduce the number of roots that break off, as well as the number of pieces those roots break into. If any roots remain, there is still some chance that the nut grass can return. Dispose of the weeds in your trash. Do not throw them into a pile or into a compost heap, since you may end up spreading them into another area of your lawn by doing so.
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One-sentence summary -- Slip on a pair of gardening gloves. Insert a gardening trowel directly next to the nut grass. Gently pry the nut grass, roots and all, out of the ground. Dig out any stray roots. Put the weeds into a garbage bag, along with the soil you dug out simultaneously.

Let your parents know that you appreciate everything they do for you. This includes not just the big stuff, like putting a roof over your head and feeding you, but also smaller everyday things, like giving you a ride to your friend's house. A simple "thank you" goes a long way. Let your parents know when they gave you good advice. It will make them feel so good to hear "You were right" or "I was wrong" every now and then. No one is always perfect . If you did something that upset your parents or said something you didn't mean, tell them you're sorry. It's never too late to say you're sorry! Your parents want to feel involved in your life, so set some time aside to talk to them every day if you can. Ask them how their days were and tell them about yours. Discuss any problems you have and ask them for advice. Try not to do this when they are in the middle of something. Dinnertime is ideal for family conversations. If you don't live with your parents, call them regularly. Visits are always appreciated too! It's inevitable that you will disagree with your parents about some things, but try to be mature about it and understand where they are coming from. Even if you think they're wrong, don't start an argument. Keep in mind that your parents have a lot more life experience than you do. Take a moment to consider if your parents' religious beliefs, cultural background, or upbringing may have something to do with their opinions. Be understanding of this even if you do not share the same values. If you don't understand why your parents disagree with you about something, ask them to explain their thoughts. Your parents probably miss the days when you were a little kid and used to give them hugs all the time. Show them you still love them by giving them a big hug every now and again. Telling them you love them will make the hug even better.
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One-sentence summary -- Say thank you. Apologize when you do something wrong. Make time for a conversation. Try to see their perspective. Give them a hug!

In order to begin healing, the first thing you will need to do is apologize. This apology shouldn't be a simple, "I'm sorry." Rather, you need to sit down with your child and explain to them exactly what you're sorry for. Don't expect this to be an easy conversation, because it won't be. It's important that you set your ego aside for this conversation. Remember that, if you have been a toxic parent, it is your fault. Yes, your child might have done a lot of things to push you to the edge, but that doesn't excuse your behavior. Thus, you should avoid saying things like, "I'm really sorry for the things I said to you, but you just made it impossible for me to stay sane." Even if you feel like your behavior was justified in some cases, you won't heal your relationship with your child by placing the blame on them. Don't expect your child to just forgive you. This might happen, but if it doesn't happen right away then you have to respect that they need time to process what you've said. Be prepared for the fact that they might never be able to forgive you, especially if you don't take steps to work on your behavior. If your child is willing to talk with you, they may have a lot to say, and a lot of it may be very painful for you to hear. However, it is important that you allow them to get it all off their chest, and to show them that you are listening. When they are talking, do your best not to interrupt. It will be tempting to justify your behavior or disagree with something they are saying, but if you want to repair your relationship, you have to try and understand where they are coming from, even if it is painful for you. Tell your child what you are doing to change. For example, if you are working with a counselor to learn how to react differently, tell them this. Your child needs to understand exactly how and why things will be different. For example, you can say, "I know that I've made a lot of mistakes, and I don't always know why I did those things. I decided to go to a counselor to learn how to be better for you." Now that your child knows what to expect, it's extremely important that you stick to what you said. If you do something that deviates from what you said, immediately change your behavior and acknowledge that you messed up. It is difficult to change, but when you learn to catch your behavior, you are on the right path. If you and your child are really struggling to get back on track, but you both are willing to work at it, it may be helpful to go to counseling together. Having a trained and objective person to help guide both of you down the path to rebuilding your relationship together can be really helpful. Especially if you are struggling to understand why you do the things you do. If there have been really traumatic experiences in your past relationship with your child, it will likely be very difficult to deal with those issues without the help of a therapist. Don't force your child to go to counseling if they say they aren't interested or don't want to. Effective therapy often requires a willingness to engage in the process. If one person is not interested, it's unlikely that it will be helpful. If you are trying to repair your relationship with your child after years of toxic parenting, remember that it won't be easy at all. It will be painful for both of you, and at times, one or both of you might feel like giving up. When you are struggling, remind yourself that it takes a lot of courage to admit you were wrong. It also takes a tremendous amount of self-awareness to reflect on your own bad behavior and become aware of the sources of your toxic parenting. If your child is willing, try to take small steps towards having a more positive relationship with each other. For example, don't spend all your time together re-hashing the past. Instead, try to do something fun together. For example, take them to a movie of their choice, make them their favorite meal, or go mini-golfing.
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Say that you're sorry. Listen to what your child has to say. Explain to them how things will be different. Get help. Take it slowly.