It's better to layer short hair when it's evenly damp, so that you can cut the hair with greater precision. Wash and condition your hair as usual, then towel it dry in preparation for the haircut. Layering short hair is more difficult to do by yourself than layering long hair, since you're creating each layer individually. Keep in mind that this method will only work for pixie style cuts. Take a look at your hair and decide exactly where you want the layers to be and how short you want them before you begin. Plan to cut your hair in a well-lit bathroom with at least two mirrors, so you can check your progress often and see the back of your head as well. Short hair must be divided into sections before layering. Use a comb to carefully divide your hair in the following way: Make a "top box" section by creating a part on either side of the crown of the head where the head begins to round. The two parts create a section of hair in the middle of the head. Comb this "top box" forward and comb the hair to either side straight down, so that the sections are clearly delineated. It may also help to twist your hair before clipping it. Divide the rest into two parts: the first part extends from the crown of your head to your forehead, and the second part extends from the crown of your head to the nape of your neck. Lift the hair at a ninety-degree angle from your head and hold it straight between your forefinger and middle finger. Your fingers should be perpendicular to your forehead. Use a sharp scissors to trim the tips of the hair extending from between your fingers. Let the hair fall, then use the comb to lift another section of hair in the section of hair that is immediately behind the front section. Then comb a bit of the hair from the first section into this new section. This will serve as a guide for the correct length. Hold it at a 90-degree angle from your head between your forefinger and middle finger, then trim the tips to the exact same length as the first section of hair you trimmed. Continue trimming hair from the top until you've trimmed the entire front and back sections of the box. Use a spray bottle filled with water to keep the hair damp as you go. If your hair gets too wet, then dry it off with a towel. Pay careful attention to which sections of hair have been cut and which still need to be cut. When you're working with short hair, cutting the same section twice can make a big difference. All hair should be trimmed to the same length. When the cut is finished, it will be layered in appearance. Once the entire top box has been trimmed, change the part of your hair by combing it to the sides so that you have a part straight down the middle. Working from the front of your hair around the side to the back, lift sections of hair straight from the top of your head and hold them between your fingers. Hold your hair so that your fingers are perpendicular to your forehead. Use the scissors to trim the tips of your hair, then move on to the next section. Repeat until you've trimmed the top layer of hair on the side of your head, then do the other side. If you see a spot that is uneven, or you want shorter layers, use the scissors to carefully trim your hair a small section at a time. At this point, you can also refine the edges. Comb your hair into the style you plan to wear it in and trim the edges. Check around the ears and the back of the hairline especially.

Summary: Get your hair ready for layering. Comb your hair into sections. Use a comb to lift the frontmost section of the top box. Trim the top box. Part your hair down the middle. Trim the sides of your hair. Examine your layers.

A therapist, counselor, rabbi, minister or another professional will have had experience in helping people cope with unhappy experiences of love. It can be helpful to talk to someone who doesn't have a personal investment in the situation, who can talk to you without being concerned about taking sides. Self-pity can be due to a long history of bad relationships, starting from childhood. You may need to work through these issues to start improving your relationships. You should not attempt to do this on your own. Seek help from a mental health professional who can guide you through this process. You may want to check with the therapist to see if examining your past relationships is something that he or she can help you to do. Some therapists prefer to focus on the present rather than digging up problems from your past. Keep in mind that this process can be quite painful and it will take time to complete. You can trust a professional not to share your personal information with others. Seeing a professional can be expensive, but often insurance coverage can help defray the costs. There are also clinics which offer counseling services for free or lower-cost for low income people. . When you've been involved in an unhappy love situation, you might conclude that no one wants you. However, this is a result of rejection and/or being in a bad relationship. Instead, take this opportunity to remind yourself of your positive qualities. Practicing self-love will aid the healing process of a broken heart, as it affirms your self-worth and self-esteem. If you find yourself engaging in negative self-talk, check yourself. Are these words that you would say to a loved one? If not, consider what you might say to someone whom you loved. There are lots of good reasons to share your feelings with another person. Talking about your frustration will help you see your relationship in a new way, which may offer solutions you hadn't thought about before. Talking with a trusted friend is a great way to release pent-up feelings, and will help you feel better. You'll likely find out that your friend has had similar experiences, which will help if you're feeling alone. Low self-esteem is an unrealistically negative evaluation of yourself. People with low self-esteem are more likely to find themselves in unhappy love situations. As you develop your ability to care about yourself, you'll be less likely to feel sorry for yourself. Perhaps this is a good time to try new activities, join self-help groups, or volunteer to help someone less fortunate than yourself. Paying attention to your own feelings can help you develop self-esteem. When you don't respect your own feelings, you're left to believe whatever other people tell you you should feel. Moving your body is an excellent way to stop feeling sorry for yourself. When you force yourself to exercise and get your heart pumping, you'll start to feel better about yourself. The endorphins that come from exercise will kick in, elevating your mood. Remember the old expression, "Move a muscle, change a thought." Exercise helps everything about your life: you'll sleep better, you'll become healthier and more fit, and you'll feel less stressed. When you notice your internal dialogue (or self-talk) repeating negativity, find a way to see things in a new light. For example, if you find yourself telling yourself, "You're so stupid!" remind yourself that, "That's okay, it was just a little mistake." If it was a big mistake, remind yourself that you'll learn from the experience. You can say, "It's human to make mistakes. I love myself anyway, and I don't have to be perfect." Being understanding towards yourself when you make a mistake will help you heal as you cope with unreturned feelings of love. When you're in love with the wrong person, it's especially important to practice kindness to yourself. This means prioritizing what you want, feel and think. People who fall in love with the wrong person often have spent more time relying on what other people want for them, rather than on what they want for themselves. If you're trying to cope with an unhappy experience of love, restore your balance by paying attention to yourself. Consider what really makes you feel happy. When do you feel most "like yourself"? Do more of these things. When you find yourself doing things that make you feel awkward, silly, or unimportant, it's okay to try to minimize these things in your life.
Summary: Consider talking to a professional. Learn to love yourself Talk to someone you trust. Start to build your self-esteem. Get active. Practice kindness to yourself. Live intentionally.