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You can deal with people talking about you behind your back by remembering that their words are a reflection of them, not you. You can't choose what others say about you, but you can choose how you react to it. Write off gossiping as something the other person needed to do for themselves. Refuse to be a victim of someone else's issues. For example, recognize that a person who gossips may be doing so because they feel insecure and are trying to make themselves look better by putting others down. It may not feel like it when people are talking negatively about you, but this often happens because there's something about you that intimidates them. The person may be envious of your looks, abilities, or popularity. Their nasty words may simply be a way to hurt you. If someone is jealous of you, try to be nice to them. This will give them less gossip fuel. Another common denominator about those who gossip is low self-esteem. People who talk badly about you may do that to make themselves feel better. The person talking about you may regularly feel negatively about themselves or lack self-respect. As a result, they talk negatively about others, too. That's why treating a gossip kindly or complimenting them may end the negative comments. These people may simply want some positive attention because they feel bad deep inside.
Don't take it personally. Realize they may be jealous. Recognize poor self-esteem.