Problem: Article: It's okay to make time for a mourning period -- don't think that you need to rush back into all of your usual activities, immediately hang out with your friends, and do exactly what you always did right after your break-up. If you don't make time to be alone or with a close friend, to cry, and to reflect on everything that happened, it'll actually keep you from getting closure and forgetting your ex. It's natural to be sad and mopey for a while. Don't be in denial about how much you've been hurt. If you want to be left alone for a little while, let your friends and family know so they can give you space. Just don't be left alone for too long or you may indulge in your sad feelings. You can reminisce about these once you've moved away from everything else that reminds you of him; eventually, they will be fond memories, but right now they're just going to make you feel sad and lost. Try to avoid daydreaming or recounting some of the amazing days you spent together. You may be able to appreciate those special moments in the future, once you've gained some perspective, but not now. Instead of thinking about how great your relationship was, think back to all of the bad moments you shared, and remember all the reasons why the relationship didn't work. Remember the fights, the incompatibility, or any of the reasons why your relationship ended. Though you may miss him, keep telling yourself why it wasn't meant to be. Though you shouldn't obsess over all of the bad times you had, you can conjure a bad moment any time you catch yourself having warm and fuzzy feelings about your ex. It's natural to reflect on the relationship and the things that went wrong, but don't waste your time trying to blame yourself for what happened. Even if you feel that you did something or acted in a way that made your ex want to end the relationship, don't think about how you could have acted different. Accept that it's over and that there's nothing you can do to turn back time. Letting go of your regret is a big step towards forgetting your ex. If you're obsessing over what could have been or what should have happened instead, you'll be too wrapped up in the past to think about the future. Make a list of what you love about yourself. When you are done with that list, make another one of all the bad qualities of your ex. Look at both of them and let yourself draw the conclusion that he doesn't deserve you, and that your separation was necessary. You will have more self-confidence knowing that your ex is really a jerk or a pig. You will be thankful that you broke up with someone that has the qualities that make him an unfit boyfriend. Making a list of all the things you love about yourself will also help you develop confidence, which is exactly what you need when you're going through a break-up. Though maintaining a positive attitude may sound like the last thing you want to do, if you focus on the silver lining in the break-up, you'll be able to enjoy your life more quickly and to adjust your perspective. Catch your negative, whining, or doom-laden thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts about the things in life you're looking forward to, the pleasure you take from your friends and family, and all of the reasons why there's hope ahead. Any time you catch yourself having a negative thought, try to counter it with two positive thoughts. Spending time with positive people will also help you feel more positive. Seek out the people who make you feel good about yourself and the world. Make a list of all of the things you're grateful for. This will make your world seem a lot less bleak.
Summary: Give yourself time to grieve. Don't think about the great times you had. Remind yourself why it ended. Don't blame yourself. Think about all of your good qualities. Try to be positive.

Problem: Article: Some people reach out to their exes in a moment of weakness, while others do so in hopes of reigniting some romantic interest. However, any attempts at contacting your ex will only dredge up painful feelings for one or both of you, and it will only prolong the inevitable. Remember that you broke up for a reason: one or both of you were fundamentally unhappy, and that won't change. If your ex's phone number was saved on your cellphone, delete his/her contact information and delete any previous text message conversations or phone call records on your phone. Erase, blot out, or discard any physical copies you've written down of your ex's phone number (like from an address book, for example). Consider blocking your ex from contacting you on your cellphone. Generally this is done by going into settings, clicking on privacy, and blocking the number of your ex, though the exact method will vary depending on the type of phone you have. Turn off your phone any time you plan on drinking alcohol (if you meet legal drinking age) so that you do not text or call your ex in a moment of weakness. Some people are able to remain friends with an ex. However, if you don't think you can be friends without having romantic feelings for him/her, it may be best to cut off all ties with that individual. Even if you've deleted your ex's phone number, you may still be able to send your ex private messages or comment on photos and status updates. Unfriending/unfollowing your ex on social media will help remove temptation to contact that individual. It can also provide you with space and privacy while you heal from the breakup. Remember that if you remain friends on social media, you'll have to see whom that individual is in a relationship with in the future. You'll also be generally reminded of your time together, which may create feelings of longing. Remember that you can always send your ex a friend request or follow him/her in the future, once you've gotten over the breakup. If you're feeling vulnerable and may try to contact your ex, though, it's best to cut that individual out altogether for the time being. You may not need to do this, but some people may find it helpful to create some distance between mutual friends while the breakup is still fresh. If you think you might be tempted to ask a mutual friend to "report" on your ex, or if you cannot separate the emotional associations of your ex with your mutual friends, it may be best to create a little space until you've healed and moved on. Let your friends know what you're doing and why. If you don't communicate with them, they may worry that you've decided not to be friends with them as individuals. If your mutual friends bring up your ex around you, ask them to stop doing so, at least until you've healed from the breakup. Avoid any situations or social events where your ex may be present. For example, if your mutual friends host a party or invite you to an event, ask them in advance whether your ex will be there. The best way to heal yourself emotionally after a breakup is by accepting that the relationship is over. This may be difficult, especially if you were the rejected partner, but recognizing that it could never work out is important. Until you have found some sense of closure, you may continue to feel temptations to call or text your ex, and doing so will only prolong the suffering and emotional vulnerability you're feeling. It's okay to feel pain and sadness - these feelings are normal. But dwelling on those feelings or convincing yourself that you've lost your "one true love" will only delay your healing. Recognize that it's okay to be alone for a while. You can find other exciting ways to fill your time, and once you've taken time for yourself you'll be ready to begin an even better relationship with someone new. If you're still thinking fondly about your ex or hoping for some type of reconnection, you haven't found closure yet. It's vital that you avoid contacting, seeing, or even accidentally running into your ex during this time in order to heal and move on.
Summary:
Delete your ex's phone number from your contacts list. Unfriend or unfollow your ex on social media. Distance yourself from mutual friends for a while. Try to find a sense of closure.