Article: If you want to earn a girl's trust back, the very first thing you should do is to apologize sincerely about lying and hurting her. Whether you cheated on her, lied about spending a weekend with your friends in Vegas instead of at your grandmother's, or lied about a significant personal detail, it's inevitable that she's feeling hurt, confused, and like she doesn't know you anymore. Let her know that you understand how difficult you have made things for her, and that you deeply regret what you've done. Take FULL responsibility, show her you know you were wrong. She's not going to go for a half-hearted apology. It needs to be sincere and real. Don't just say "I'm sorry" because you think it's the right thing to do -- say it because you mean it. If you're not sincere, she'll be able to tell. When you tell her you're sorry, look into her eyes, speak slowly, and face your body toward her so she knows she has all of your attention. You don't have to say that you're sorry a hundred times -- it's about quality, not quantity. Let her know that you understand all of the pain and suffering that you've caused her. If she doesn't think you understand her pain, she won't want to listen to you. Though you shouldn't make this all about you, let her know that you're feeling real pain because of your mistake. You don't have to go in too much graphic detail if you think it'll only hurt her more, but you should be honest about why you told the lie. Maybe you wanted to protect her, maybe you knew that the truth would hurt her, or maybe you were even embarrassed about the truth and wanted to cover it up. Whatever your reason, let her know why you did it -- this will show that you're already maturing and trying to reflect, and that you're not just going to move on without gaining some perspective. Being honest about why you lied will make her feel like you're more likely to be honest in the future. Letting her know your motives will help her understand your perspective. Know when it's better not to be honest. If you just wanted to get with another girl because you were feeling bored or restless, then it's better to keep that to yourself. First, you have to make sure that it really won't happen again. If you doubt yourself or your future self and think you may make the same mistake, then spare the girl and work on fixing yourself before you get entangled with anyone else. If you don't think that you should be trusted, then why should anyone else disagree? Once you're certain that it won't happen again, then you should promise her that you're determined not to repeat your mistakes. Be sincere when you tell her this. Don't make an empty promise. Let her know that you understand that actions speak louder than words, but make it clear that from now on, your actions will match your promises. Tell her that you're going to work on becoming a better, more complete person who wouldn't lie to her. Be open about the fact that you know that this is a process and that you won't change overnight, but let her know that you're willing to try to change for her. If you have a concrete plan for how you'll change, whether it's by keeping a journal, going to therapy, or just trying to be a more honest, more reflective person, then let her know what you'll do so you'll sound more sincere. Again, make it clear that you know this won't happen overnight, but that you want to put in the work because earning her trust back is the most important thing to you.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Apologize. Be honest about why you lied. Promise it will never happen again -- and mean it. Promise you'll change.
Article: Telling your spouse is vital; if your spouse has no idea how you're feeling, they may put you in situations you'd rather not be in. Find an opportune time to sit down together and talk through the issues in a calm way. Let them know what's bothering you and what you'd like them to do about it. Your spouse may be better suited to talk to their mother for you. Don't be surprised if your spouse refuses to "take sides". They love both of you, so taking sides can put them in a difficult situation. Ask your spouse to talk to their mother about things that bother you. She might take the discussion better when it come from their own child. Even if you don't agree with what she has to say, listen to your mother-in-law. Don't immediately write off what she has to say. Hear her out (even if you feel it's ridiculous) and let her know you're listening. You don't have to agree to anything. Respond neutrally by saying, "Okay, I'll consider that" or, "Thanks for your input." If she puts you in a difficult position, defer to your spouse. Say, "I don't want to answer right away. Let me talk to my spouse first." . Deflecting criticism or other awkward interaction with humor can deflate conflicts and put everyone at ease again. Whether the situation seems tense or she's making things difficult, a little humor can go a long way. For example, if your mother-in-law is complaining about the weather, reply with "Well, at least it means we don't have to sit indoors complaining about how cold it is!" Are you able to put yourself in her shoes occasionally and see just where some of her so-called interfering or judgmental behavior comes from? She values the person you're married to, so there must be something good inside her! Keep in mind that whatever your feelings, your mother-in-law remains one of the most important people in your spouse's life. Be sure it's not your own untamed jealousy causing problems. If your relationship with your mother is strained or difficult, consider if that is affecting your relationship with your mother-in-law. Remember that they are different people, and you can have a different relationship with each one.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Come up with solutions with your spouse. Respect her different viewpoints. Use humor Work through your own feelings about your mother-in-law.