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Your spouse doesn't have clairvoyant powers. If you want something, ask. If something is wrong, say so. Don't drop hints or figure they'll "come around" or you'll never get anything done. If you want to be able to express how you feel, you should be able to speak with a positive tone and to listen to what your spouse says instead of being accusatory. Here are some ways to do it: Send "I messages." Instead of accusing them of not meeting your needs, focus the conversation on yourself. For instance, tell them, "I feel ignored when I don't see you until 6:30 every night." Listen to what they say. When they tell you something, repeat what they said back to them so that they know you understand. For example, "I hear you saying that you're worried about finances, and that's why you've been working late." Avoid passing judgment. Let them finish what they're saying before you respond. After they're done talking, offer a solution. For instance, say, "I'm willing to live on a tighter budget if that means that I get to see you more often." . Some issues are worth fighting about, and some aren't. If you spend all of your time nitpicking your spouse about minor problems that don't really matter, then they're not going to listen to you when major issues come up. Criticism can destroy a relationship. As long as the dishes are clean and unbroken, for instance, don't nag your spouse about how to load the dishwasher "the right way." Let them do things their own way. Don't sweat the small stuff. Avoid criticizing your spouse without doing it constructively. Remember to try to be calm and rational, as strong emotions can easily turn a discussion into an argument. If you criticize every little thing they do, then they will quickly tune you out. You should praise your spouse for the things they do right much more than you argue with them about things that they do wrong. This will make them much more likely to listen to you, and much happier to be around you. Fight right. Don't let anger take over because it may cause you to say things that you will regret later. Even when you don't agree with your spouse, you need to respect their opinion and their viewpoint. To be a good wife, you need to understand that you may never agree on certain issues. No couple has an identical set of morals and beliefs, which means that both of you will need to learn to cope with occasions where you just can't resolve your opinions. Talk to them at the right time. Don't just spring your problems on them whenever. Avoid bringing up problems before dinner, while they're paying bills or when they're immersed in a stressful situation, like fixing a problem with your car. And never, ever start an argument in front of your children. When you're wrong, admit it. You need to learn to respond to arguments and remain rational so you can recognize and apologize when you've made a misstep. Never talk to your friends or your family and say negative things about your spouse if you're not communicating with them first. Talking about your spouse behind their back is disloyal. When you get married, your first loyalty is to your partner, not to your birth family or your social group. Complaining about your spouse to your friends and family will not only not solve any of your problems, but it will also make them view your relationship in a more negative light. Your friends and family may think they know what's best for you, but they don't know your relationship as well as you do and may unintentionally give you bad advice.

summary: Express your feelings and needs effectively. Pick your battles Be understanding when you discuss an issue with your spouse. Talk to your spouse, not about them.

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This also helps you perform well and appear accomplished, which makes you seem more professional. Plan ahead, and build your knowledge base about the topics you're studying for work or school. Additionally, get all of your assignments finished before they're due. Keep a planner or use the calendar in your phone to help yourself stay on top of things. Maintain good posture by standing up straight and pressing your shoulders back. Smile, keep your arms at your sides, and look at your surroundings. When you talk to people, focus on your talents and achievements, not your flaws. If you want to increase your confidence, do something small every day that makes you feel accomplished. You can also do more things you enjoy and take calculated risks. For example, you might try out for a sports team, enter an art show, or volunteer to take the lead on a project. Punctuality is essential if you want to appear serious and professional. Always be on time or early for things. Set an alarm or calendar entry on your phone to help you remember when you need to be places. Everyone encounters obstacles at one time or another. If you're going to be late due to an emergency or unforeseen event, call ahead and let people know. Say exactly what you mean, and ask for what you need. Always be kind and respectful when you provide feedback, but don't be vague because you think it will spare someone's feelings. Additionally, don't say more than you need to say. Don't expect people to guess what you're thinking. If it's important, just tell them. Let's say you're working on a group project and think one person is holding up your progress. You might say, "Our group project is coming along, but I'm worried you aren't going to be finished with your part on time. Can you get it finished by tomorrow?" Avoid meaningless chatter, as talking too much can make people see you as unprofessional. Additionally, speaking less often will make your words carry more impact. Keep it professional by only sharing your best thoughts and ideas. For example, don't add to workplace gossip or chat about topics like TV shows and sports. However, do speak up when you know the answer to a question or when you have a great idea to share. Appearing to be unsure can make you look unprofessional or flaky. At the same time, you're not going to have all of the answers. To protect your image, respond positively but buy yourself some time to think about what you'll do or say next. You might say, "That's a really great point. I'm going to think that over today and get back to you tomorrow with my response," or "I appreciate your feedback. It's given me a lot to think about." Talking about your personal life too often or at the wrong times can make you look less professional. At the same time, talking about your life may help you bond with others. Choose the right times to share personal details about yourself, such as during lunch, breaks, and post-work or after-school events. During work hours or class, stick to topics related to work or school, as well as current events. Similarly, don't gossip about others' personal lives. People may perceive you as immature and unprofessional. If your friends or coworkers are gossiping, change the subject. You might say, "All I'm thinking about right now is our project that's due next week. Have any of you started?" Do what you say you'll do, when you say you'll do it. Write all of your tasks and appointments in a planner or the calendar in your phone to keep track of everything. That way, nothing will be forgotten. If you don't follow through, people won't respect you because they'll perceive you as being immature and unprofessional.
summary: Prepare yourself for things in advance so people see you're serious. Show others that you're self-confident. Be on time for work or school, as well as your appointments. Be direct and concise when you're communicating with others. Speak only when you have something meaningful to say. Give people affirmative responses, even if you need time to think. Avoid sharing personal details when it's inappropriate. Follow through on all of your promises and assignments.