Problem: Article: You may find that college is all she or he wants to talk about, and that is OK. Share in this excitement and even play along since you are probably in some way excited for the change. College and moving out is a time filled with big change. If you have questions, ask them. Get the ball rolling with questions like "How do you feel about this big change? Are you excited?" Your sibling will probably enjoy talking about the new adventure and it gives you time together. Share in the excitement by getting involved in the preparations. This not only distracts you from feeling bad but gives you extra time with your sibling before moving day. Do not be afraid to speak up to your sibling or your parents about the fear. It's common for siblings left behind to have these worries. No one will be mad at you for speaking up about how you feel. There are some things you can do to ease these worries. Spend some time alone with your sibling before he or she leaves to make new memories and share in any knowledge he or she may feel they need to pass on to you before the move. Don't be angry at him or her for leaving. Be happy. Going to college is a rite of passage. Soon, you will be the one leaving the household. The sibling who is not going anywhere may be temporarily forgotten during the flurry of activity prior to one child starting college. Don't feel bad about expressing your concerns to your parents, if you feel this way. Moving dayand the days leading up to itis probably going to be pretty stressful so getting angry if you are feeling left out is not going to be helpful. Instead ask for some quiet time to talk to mom or dad about your feelings. "Mom? Dad? Can I talk to you guys for a moment?...I've been feeling really left out lately." Do not be afraid to ask for your mom or dad to give you some one-on-one time to talk about your fears and reservations about the move. You may be surprised to know that they are also probably feeling a mix of emotions. It's OK to be sad and to take time to adjust to the change. Don't fall into the line of thinking that showing sadness is lame or weak. Your sibling will no doubt be touched that he or she has such an impact on you that leaving makes you upset. You can overcome grief or sadness by talking about it with either your sibling, your parents, or a close friend. Don't be afraid to show your emotions. Bottling up how you feel often makes it much worse. Sometimes, it helps to just get it all out and show your sibling how you feel. That being said, don't make it so dramatic to the point that he or she feels guilty about leaving.
Summary: Express excitement for this new chapter in your sibling's life. Share your worries that things may change. Confront your parents if you feel like you have faded into the background. Grieve his or her absence.

Problem: Article: If you don't take time to process your relationship, you will not be emotionally available when you start going on dates. The grieving process is important, and if you don't follow it through, you may end up comparing your new date to your last partner. You also want to ensure that you're not bitter about how your last relationship ended. If you are, you may project this bitterness onto the new person or make them feel like you have too much emotional baggage to handle, making successful dating very difficult. Instead, work on forgiving your last partner. Forgiveness is the exercise of letting go of what you cannot change and not demanding justice for a wrong. It doesn't mean letting someone treat you like a doormat. To gain closure and give yourself license to explore your identity again, you must fully believe the past relationship is over. Do whatever you need to do to prove that the relationship is truly dead. If you were dumped, meet with the other person to hear her reasons for breaking up with you or watch her in a new relationship. If you're the one trying to get out of the relationship, stop all contact with the former partner, move to a new location, or recall how much she damaged you or held you back. Studies have shown that your body actually experiences physical pain after a long-term relationship ends. This is because couples often end up dictating one another's biological rhythms. This means disrupted sleep, loss of appetite, and change in rates of temperature and heart rate. After a breakup, keep your physical body in good shape even if you don't feel like it. As you take time to forgive the other person and get used to being without him, your physical body will adjust. More than physical recovery, mental recovery is key for moving on. A breakup affects the way you perceive yourself and your level of self-esteem. Studies show that clearly defining who you are after breaking up with someone is the most important part of being able to move on. You may not remember who you are without the other person. Re-identifying yourself is the only way you will be able to present a whole person to a new dating interest. Try "dating yourself" by going out to restaurants alone, seeing movies you like, and attending events you enjoy. You may even start to enjoy being single because you get to do things your former partner didn't like. The more you focus on longing for your last relationship and regret how it ended, the worse your future will be. To move on, you must practice self-compassion. One study showed that those who practiced self-compassion directly after a divorce were coping much better nine months later than those who did not. Practice being kind to yourself by having positive thoughts about how your relationship ended. You can say something like, "I'm not alone in this; I am not the only person to go through this. We had some good times, and I can take those with me, but it's best for the both of us if we move on." Focus on how it's best to forgive the other person rather than blame yourself for how it ended, or playing the "what if" game (repeating alternate scenarios in your mind). No matter how it ended, choosing to learn from the mistakes both you and your former partner made will help you be more successful in the next relationship. Common relationship errors include taking your partner for granted, not paying enough attention to her, gossiping about your partner to others, and constantly questioning the relationship. Examine yourself closely for mistakes you made and determine not to repeat them. One way to help yourself forget the last relationship and focus on the present is to build a network of close friends. Even if they are friends you had before the relationship, these friends should be on your side and ready to help you find new love. Friends can distract you from your pain by talking about other things, taking you on outings, and so on. Friends can encourage you when you are tempted to beat yourself up for how things went in the relationship.
Summary:
Recognize the importance of healing before moving on. Get closure. Acknowledge that you need physical recovery time. Acknowledge that you need mental recovery time. Avoid blaming yourself. Learn from the breakup. Surround yourself with friends.