Talking about boundaries can be a touchy subject. Make the conversation a little easier by talking with the other person at a time when you're both emotionally stable. Avoid introducing the topic of boundaries during or right after a fight. If the other person feels defensive or angry, the conversation won't be productive. Introduce the topic by saying something like, "Are you free for a minute? There's something I've been wanting to talk with you about." Be upfront when you tell your loved one about your new boundaries. Be kind, but don't apologize or back down. Explain exactly what you need from the other person without any ambiguity. Use a calm, non-confrontational tone to lessen the risk of the other person taking offense. For your loved one, hearing about the new limits you're imposing on the relationship might sting. However, it's important that they understand why you're doing it. Be gentle but honest about your reasons. Phrase your explanation in a non-accusatory way that focuses on your needs instead of what the other person is doing wrong. For instance, if you find your spouse's mood swings exhausting to deal with, you could say, "It's really wearing me out trying to guess how you'll be feeling from one day to the next. I need you to communicate your feelings to me more regularly." Someone with BPD may feel insulted when others set boundaries with them. Make sure to give your loved one plenty of reassurance that you're not rejecting them as a person and that your relationship with them is still important to you. Emphasize the ways your boundary will benefit both of you. This will help your loved one understand that you're not setting limits just to try to push them away. For instance, you could tell a friend, "I think spending more time on our own will be good for both of us in the long run. I have more energy for socializing when I spend enough time alone, so we'll both have more fun when we do get together." Your loved one may try to make you feel bad for setting boundaries. Don't let them sway you with emotional manipulation. You have the right to protect your own well-being.
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One-sentence summary -- Choose a time when you and your loved one are calm. State your boundaries clearly and firmly. Explain why you are setting these boundaries. Reassure your loved one that you value them. Avoid letting the other person make you feel guilty.

Q: Floating row covers are basically tiny greenhouses made of plastic that cover an entire row. They let light, water, and air in, but they keep pests out. When placing row covers, cover the edges with soil so that the beetles can't get underneath them and into your plants. Remove them when your plants start to flower so that pollinators can visit the blooms and pollinate your plants. Kaolin clay is a natural deterrent that creates a surface the beetles don't like. Mix 3 cups (0.71L) of the powdered clay with 1 gallon (3.8L) of water. Spray the clay on the plant, making sure to get both sides of the leaves and the stems. This amount of spray will cover about 400 square feet (40 sq. m) of plants. Pick a cloudy day to spray so the water doesn't magnify the sun, burning the leaves. After a heavy rain, check to see if you need to reapply the mixture. Kaolin clay is even safe to spray on the cucumbers. Just wash it off before eating the vegetable. It's also good for other pests, such as grasshoppers, squash bugs, and other beetles so consider applying it to other plants. Eggplants, potatoes, and Brussels sprouts may benefit from being sprayed. If you've seen these beetles on your plants, they'll likely pop up in your garden next year, too. After you harvest your cucumbers, take away sites that these beetles would hide in over the winter, such as dense grass, and you'll end up with fewer next spring. Also clear away any leaves or other garden trash. Basically, you don't want to leave hiding places near the cucumbers for these beetles to hang out in.
A: Add floating row covers to keep the beetles out. Spray kaolin clay on plants. Remove dense grass after you harvest cucumbers.

Article: Panic attacks are the result of your body responding to a perceived trauma or threat. However, a pattern of panic attacks occurs due to the individual's anxiety related to the actual panic attack and his fear that the attack will be painful or harmful. This fear leads to increased anxiety, which can trigger another panic attack. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), an evidence-based treatment for panic attacks, focuses on changing thoughts in order to alter your feelings (both physiological and psychological) and actions. Ironically, the fear of having a panic attack can lead to more panic attacks. Your fear of having a panic attack is directly related to your thoughts about having an attack. If you change your thoughts to more realistic evaluations, then you can prevent or lessen future attacks by reducing your anxiety and fear. It is important to de-catastrophize the effects of a panic attack. Instead of thinking, "I'm having a heart attack, or I feel like I'm going to die," change this thought to, "I am okay, I'm just having a panic attack, and it will pass." Use a panic attack thought record sheet in order to track your thoughts and actively change them in order to reduce future panic. Go to www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/PanicThoughtRecord.pdf. Allowing fears (especially worries about having a panic attack) to build up can increase the severity and frequency of panic attacks. Thus, reducing your fears by facing them head-on could alleviate panic because instead of avoiding the issue you are dealing with it appropriately. This helps to alleviate some of the anxiety that usually builds up and causes an attack. Instead of suppressing your fears or hoping they will go away, deal with them in a straight-forward manner. Label your fear. As you feel fear coming on assign a number to it from 1 to 10. Your fear likely won't stay at a high number for long, so as the number decreases you can feel more relieved. When you fear failure, try new things you've been afraid to do in the past. If you fear social situations, meet new people and accept invitations to parties and gatherings you may have declined in the past. Individuals who experience panic attacks may avoid emotions more often and not accept their feelings as often as those who do not experience panic attacks. Learning to accept your emotions instead of avoiding them could help to decrease the incidence of panic attacks because the more acceptance you have the less fear you might have about getting a panic attack. Since more fear and worry is associated with more panic attacks, less fear (and more acceptance) may help to reduce panic. When you feel a negative emotion - say to yourself, "This emotion is natural, and it gives me important information about how I am doing. It is okay to feel this emotion and I can get through it." Attempt to be in tune with your emotions (anxiety, panic) instead of avoiding them. Sit with the emotion and experience how it feels in your body and what thoughts you are thinking when you have that emotion. Sometimes we may worry about things we cannot control such as what others say or do, and what might happen in the future. However, thinking about what we cannot control is futile. Worrying about what you cannot control can increase anxiety, so avoiding this can help to decrease the fear and worry that may produce an attack. Observe your surroundings and situation and examine what is actually happening as opposed to what might happen or what you fear might happen. For example: Accept constructive criticism and praise for a job well done rather than worrying about how you could have performed better. Prepare for things that may be out of your control, whether it's a possible illness or a potential disaster. Build positive relationships with others. Let go of what others may think of you and embrace those who spend time with you.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Realize that trying to avoid the attack is part of the problem. Understand that the panic attack will pass and it will not kill you. Face your fears. Accept emotions in general. Focus on what you can control.