Write an article based on this "Tell them your convictions. Draw some boundaries for comments and behavior. Confront negative remarks Accept them where they're at."
If your parents don't know your views, share them. Whether you're trans or not, you can stand up for your views and for trans people in general. Tell your parents why you are an ally to trans people and why it's important to you to stick up for them. Being transparent with them will help them understand you better and learn your views. It will also help you because it will allow you to express yourself without hiding your true feelings. For example, say, "I think it's important to stand up for trans people. Many trans people already feel marginalized, so it's important to me to be there and support them." You can also say, "I don't know what it feels like to feel unsafe, but they do. I want to help trans people feel safe." If you know you disagree with your parents, set some boundaries for how you interact. Even if you strongly oppose one another, both you and your parents deserve to be treated with respect. Don't let anyone use name-calling, derogatory remarks, or curse words. Ask your parents not to say things about trans people around you or in public. If you can't talk about trans issues without getting upset or blowing up at each other, you might want to drop it. You can't change their minds, and you may have to agree to disagree. Your goal should be to allow both you and your parents to make yourselves heard, not to change each other's opinions. . You might have ignored some transphobic comments your parents made at first, but you may want to start saying something. A polite (not angry) confrontation can help change their attitudes and behaviors. Control your anger and don't take it out on them. See it as a way to share your views and kindness with them. For example, say, "That was an unkind comment. Please don't say that." You can also say, "Please don't say those things, especially around me. I think all people should be treated with respect, whether they differ from me or not." You might have to accept that your parents just don't understand, no matter how hard you try. It's upsetting when you feel like your parents don't understand or support you or the things you care about, but it can take time for them to see things differently. Acknowledge their feelings and where they are at. If you're trans and feel unaccepted, don't completely lose hope for your parents. Tell them that you love them and that they must accept who you really are. Expect it to take a little time. Make sure you are getting what you need without their support in the meanwhile.