Q: Avoid calling your flaws "flaws." Instead, see them as characteristics, rather than judging them harshly. Instead, see them as "quirks", "habits" or "something I do." Do not label your characteristics as flaws. You can label yourself as "shy" or "withdrawn"--something that is probably bad. Or, you can simply think of yourself as a person who takes a while to warm up to new people -- which is totally normal. Use language that is loving and detailed rather than vague and judgmental. Look in the mirror everyday and say, "I really love myself." Literally say it out loud. Get on top of a high building and shout "I'm proud of myself." Say, for example, your flaw was being extremely ugly. If so, get on top of your roof and shout, "I'm ugly and I'm proud." People will respect you for your newfound bravery. Is it a "quirk"? A relatively harmless flaw may not really need "fixing"; you just may need to learn to work with your differences. Is it something that is sometimes useful? Some characteristics are sometimes a good thing, but sometimes a bad thing. That is not a flaw; it is just something that you have to work on to know when to use it, and when you have to approach things a different way. For example: Stubbornness can be Determined. A stubborn person may be steadfast at the wrong time, and that may get problematic. But being steadfast about the right things can be a real gift. Perfectionism sometimes is perfect. Perfectionists run into trouble when they try to make an imperfect world fit to exacting standards and get upset when the world will not cooperate. But surgeons, Olympic athletes, and engineers thrive in jobs where perfection is the goal. Include everything that occurs to you. Do not eliminate any quality because you think it might be redundant or unexceptional. List things like patience, kindness, bravery, determination, taste, intelligence, or loyalty. Sometimes there is so much focus on flaws, that the strengths a person possess get lost. Having a comprehensive self-image will help you take a more balanced view of yourself. If you are feeling too down on yourself to make a list, free write for a while first. Also get ideas from friends and family. Sometimes others see good things in us that we do not always acknowledge in ourselves. And often these qualities are not said enough. List accomplishments such as achieved goals, moments you surprised yourself, and hard times you survived. You can be proud of recovering from a hard situation, being present for someone who was in a hard time, completing projects at work or in school, or things you have learned. Write down your masteries, the things you have learned to do well. Writing freely, list the things you do that you don't feel good about. List things about yourself that you wish would change. Be as specific as possible. For example, instead of writing "The way I look," write "I don't like it when my skin breaks out." If you are writing about an incident, put it in as much context as possible. Ask yourself how you got your habits and way of being. Are they cultural? Familial? Biological? When do they happen? Were you criticized by others? Have you absorbed messages from companies trying to prey on your insecurities to sell you something? If you say things you later regret, ask yourself if this is a lack of tact you learned from your family, or if it is your reaction to awkward situations. If you spend too much money, ask yourself what triggers these incidents, how you first started spending money, and what you hope for when you are spending. The more you can understand these past behaviors, the more likely you can forgive yourself for them. What made you consider each of these things as "flaws"? Do these qualities have positive sides? Look at your list of strengths and ask yourself if any of the strengths listed are also connected to the qualities you viewed as "flaws." Start to think about your characteristics in a positive way. Maybe you feel that you are too emotional. Reframe this thought to remind yourself that your emotionality is the reason why you have strong empathy skills to comfort others during hard times, and why people seek you out for care and assistance. Or perhaps you feel that you are too excitable, but that may tie into your incredible creativity. Positive reframing will not change these qualities, but it can give you a healthy change in perspective that will help you accept yourself.
A: Rename your flaws. Make a list of all your strengths and abilities. List things you are proud of. List and become aware of your unique tendencies or needs. Think about past experiences. Reframe your thoughts.

Q: First, if your shirt has buttons, button them all up. Then lay your shirt on its front, with its back facing up, preferably on a flat, sturdy surface like a table (as opposed to a soft surface, like a bed). Straighten each sleeve so they extend straight out from either side. Fold the sleeve over from its shoulder, creating a roughly 45-degree downward angle along your crease. As you do, line the sleeve up with the shirt's side, so they run parallel, with the sleeve's cuff meeting the shirt's bottom. Smooth the first sleeve out with your hand from shoulder to cuff, and then repeat with the second. After its first fold, a couple inches of each sleeve will be hanging off the side of your shirt. With each one, take the outer half (the one that's spilling over the shirt's side) and fold it over the inner half. Use your hands to smooth out both sleeves again from top to bottom. Use both hands to pinch each shoulder and sleeve together. Then lift the top of your shirt and draw it back until the bottom of your collar reaches the bottom of your shirt, with the chest now facing up. Smooth your shirt out to form a light crease where it's folded in half below the chest.
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Lay your shirt out. Fold each sleeve over the back. Fold each sleeve in half lengthwise. Fold your shirt widthwise.