Article: If someone asks or tells you to do something, you have the choice to say yes, no, or maybe. You don't have to say yes, even if you feel like you do. When someone asks you something, take a moment and remember that how you respond is your choice. For example, if someone asks you to stay late on a project, tell yourself, "I have the choice to say yes and stay or to go home and say no." " If you tend to always say "yes" to things even when you don't want to or when situations cause you stress, start saying "no." It might take some practice, but let people know when you can't do what they want. There's no need to make excuses or talk your way out of it. A simple "no" or "no thank you" will do. Start small by finding something small to say "no" to and say it firmly. For example, if your partner asks you to walk the dog yet you are exhausted, say, "No. I'd like you to walk the dog tonight, please." You can also do some role play with a friend to get used to saying "no." Have your friend ask you to do things, and then respond "no" to each of their requests. Make sure to pay attention to how you feel each time you say "no." If a flat "no" seems harsh to you, be assertive while also being empathetic. Show your understanding for the person and their needs, yet also be firm in saying that you cannot help them. For example, say, "I know how much you want a nice birthday cake for the party and how much that means to you. I'd love to provide one, but I'm unable to do that at the moment."
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Recognize that you have choices. Learn how to say "no. Be assertive and empathetic.