Q: When you are grieving, you are bound to have a lot of memories of what you have lost. You can protect yourself by knowing what might cause you to become emotional. Once you recognize triggers, you can make a plan about how to most effectively cope with them. Maybe you lost your best friend. You can likely anticipate that her birthday will be a rough day for you. Anticipate your moods and plan accordingly. Maybe you can plan to work from home that day so that no one will notice if you cry. It's fine to have triggers. It's normal that when you are going through a divorce and hear your wedding song to feel a lot of emotions. Learn to acknowledge these emotions and move on. Moving on doesn't mean that you have to stop feeling. You simply have to find new ways to channel your emotions. Don't repress your emotions, just re-purpose them. Are you angry at your ex? Find a good way to channel that anger. This might be a great time to try that popular kickboxing class at your gym. Try art therapy. The act of creating something can be a very therapeutic way to deal with what you've lost. Look into taking a painting class at your local community college. Getting in touch with your emotions can help you relate to others. Use your own experience with grieving to help you be a better listener to your friends and family. As you go through the grieving process, you will likely learn a lot. For example, maybe you'll have a good understanding of what it feels like to lose a parent. Consider using your experience to help others. Ask local support groups if they need volunteer speakers. Your words could help someone else heal. Make some donations. It can be difficult to part with a loved one's belongings. But when you feel up to it, try donating some clothing to a worthy charity. Just remember to keep some items that you will treasure. Grieving takes time. The process of moving is quite long too. Remember that every individual experience is different. There is no magic number for the amount of weeks, months, or years it will take to feel "normal". Be patient with yourself. Take time to process your emotions. Each part of the healing process is significant in its own way.
A: Plan ahead for triggers. Express your emotions properly. Help others. Be patient.

Q: Whether someone likes you or not says nothing about you as a person. You are still awesome for all of the same reasons. Do not let her romantic feelings change the way you feel about yourself. Think about it from her perspective. The more you understand her, the easier it will be to realize that it is not about you. Avoid jumping to conclusions. You don't know why she doesn't like you. Be careful not to assume that it is because of something particular about you. Make some space between you and your immediate reaction. Try to suppress any initial panicked emotions. Realize that your feelings will subside and wait for them to do so before you speak or do anything. Liking yourself is more important than other people liking you. When you truly like yourself, it has an awesome effect- other people want to be around you more. Speak to yourself as a friend. You should offer yourself the same compassion, love and support you would to a friend who is going through a hard time. Imagine yourself confident and free. In your mind visualize what you would look like if you were perfectly confident and happy. What would you look like? Strive for being that person. Think about that person when you are in doubt about yourself. It is hard to be open and honest with someone you like. If she does not also have a crush on you too, at least now you know. You are in a better position because you don't have to spend more time wondering about her. Being open and honest is a good habit to get into. With the next girl you like, you will be better able to interact with her because you had this experience. If you feel like you are not ready to start dating other people, work on yourself. Do not worry about liking someone again until you feeling better. Go out with your friends. Spend time with good friends who make you feel good about yourself. These people will remind you of your interests and the other things that you love. Distance yourself from her. If you are having a hard time with your emotions, tell her that you'd like some time and space from your relationship. Having her out of your life for the time being will help you focus on you. If you are feeling like you are ready to move on, pursue girls you are interested in. Hang out with groups of people that have new girls. Ask your friends about any get together coming up and attend them. When you meet a girl you like, ask her for her number. You can be direct and say "I really liked talking to you- can I have your number so we can keep talking?" Go on online dating websites. There are a few free websites that you can join and meet people to date. Lots of people use these applications to find people who share their interests and personality type.
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Do not take it personally. Work on liking yourself. Feel good about being honest. Take time to get over her. Start talking to new people.