Article: . A negative mindset can lead to judgemental thinking. Try to see the positive aspects in every situation, rather than the negatives. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, challenge them. Then, challenge yourself to pick out something positive. You can still be realistic while being positive. You don't have to ignore negative aspects, just don't focus exclusively on them. It's okay to have bad days. Forgive yourself on days when you are feeling down and negative. Having a positive attitude can improve your life in many ways! Sometimes people will do things that you find abhorrent, such as stealing someone's lunch money or cutting in a line. Although their actions may be wrong, it's important not to judge them solely on one action. They likely have positive qualities that you haven't seen yet. Consider that their actions in that one moment may be driven by a circumstance you don't understand. For example, they may have stolen the lunch money because they haven't had a meal in 2 days. Nip judgments in the bud by identifying how and when you're thinking about other people. When you catch yourself having critical thoughts about someone, ask yourself how you or they benefit from those thoughts. Then, offer a compliment instead. For example, you might catch yourself thinking, "That girl needs to lose some weight." Challenge that thought, asking yourself why it's your business. Then say something nice that you noticed, such as, "You have a beautiful smile!" Every person is a unique individual with different talents, skills, personalities, and life experiences. Additionally, people are shaped by their upbringing, including where they grew up, how they were treated, and their living conditions. As you get to know people, try to imagine yourself in a similar position. Even if you may not have made the same choices, accept that they have a right to make their own decisions. For example, a person you consider to be too needy may have grown up without a supportive parent. Similarly, a person that you believe has not applied themselves enough academically may have prioritized earning money to help support their family. Whenever you find yourself tempted to judge someone who is different from you, look for commonalities rather than differences. We all have something in common because we're all humans! This will help you see them in a positive light, rather than one clouded by judgment. Casually mention a few topics until you find something that you can both talk about and be interested in. This will help you realize that people aren't so different from you. for what you have. Appreciate the good things in your life, especially those that have helped you get to where you are in life. Celebrate your friends, family, health, opportunities, relationships, and how you grew up. Recognize that not everyone has had the same benefits that you have had, so judging them for living differently is unfair. If you feel tempted to say something negative about someone, take a deep breath. Instead, wish them all of the luck you've had in life. Being compassionate is the opposite of being judgmental. Instead of judging people and thinking bad thoughts about them, try to empathize with a person and to really try to imagine what that person is thinking or feeling. It won't be easy to go from thinking bad things about people and wanting the best for them, but this transition is possible. Focus on wanting to give people what they need and to help them out instead of wanting the worst for them. Compassion is also one key to happiness. If you want to be a more compassionate person, then you have to have positive feelings toward people and the world.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Embrace positive thinking Separate people's individual actions from their personality. Notice when you're judging. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Find common ground. Be grateful Show compassion.
Article: This doesn't have to be a super expensive diamond necklace or anything, but something small that lets her know that you've been thinking of her and that she's important to you. If she likes flowers, get her a lovely bouquet of her favorites. By getting her favorites you show that you've been paying attention to her likes and dislikes (flattery in and of itself) rather than just reverting to the old red rose stereotype (although some women do like roses, of course). If she's a gardener you could get her some seed packets she's been wanting for a while, or a new pair of gloves. If she loves to write, or writes in a journal or diary, get her a lovely notebook or special pen. Again, the token should be something that's specific to her as a person and to what she likes. Showing that you listen to what she says and the things that she does is a huge compliment and one which a lot of people forget to do. Obviously, this means that you should be listening when she talks and paying attention to what she's up to. If she's been having trouble with a roommate or a family member, make sure to ask her how it is going with them. It'll show that you care and that you're paying attention. If she's been talking about getting a new haircut, or piercing, or tattoo, compliment her when she actually gets it done. Say something like "Your new haircut really frames your face in a great way" or "That tattoo is so creative and gorgeous. Did you design it yourself?" Even if it is something small ask her to show you something that she is proud of having accomplished. It could be anything from baking a cake, to refitting her car engine, to fixing a leaky faucet. Ask her to help you with a project that appeals to her strengths. For instance, if she's really good at interior design, ask her for some ideas on how to make your living space better or more comfortable. If she's good with web design, ask her help designing the webpage for your new novel, your new company, or simply a blog. By encouraging her to choose something for both of you, you are showing that you think she has good taste and that you trust her to exercise that taste. There is little that's more flattering than someone thinking you have good taste. Say something like "You always pick the best food, why don't you choose where we'll eat." Ask her to help you pick out some clothes (if that's something she likes to do). Tell her that you're no good at it and that she has such a great eye you'd love it if she'd go shopping with you. You'll get to spend more time with her and you'll get to show her how important her skills and her opinions are to you. If she's having a stressful time, or she's trying to run an event, take care of her aging parents, and so on, offer to help her out. It will show that you've noticed what she's going through and that you like her enough to help. If she's going through a busy period with work, school, or some outside interest, offer to bring her dinner and to clean up afterwards (bonus points if you make it yourself). If she's running some sort of event, volunteer some of your time to helping her make it a success. She won't forget that you were there for her and she'll be flattered that you took an interest in what she's working on. Don't only offer to do things that are self-serving to you. If she's really stressed and you offer her a massage and she says no, find a different way to show your appreciation for her like asking what she needs. This is a huge part of flattery and of making sure that flattery doesn't get really creepy. Make sure that you respect her boundaries and her as a person. If you aren't respectful, you're flattery will come off as creepy. For example: If you say something nice about her appearance and she doesn't respond well, let it go. Don't badmouth her simply because she didn't respond to your flattery. Remember: just because you've said something nice, or done something nice does not mean that she owes you anything.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Give her a small token of your appreciation. Show that you've been listening to her. Take interest in her accomplishments. Let her pick the movie/restaurant/music. Offer a helping hand. Show her you respect her.