Know what worship is and is not. Worship should be all about praising God, and as a worship leader, your main purpose is to encourage the entire congregation to praise God through song and prayer. Instead of modeling personal worship on stage, focus on leading community worship. Worship is not a time to show off your own talents or worry about making yourself look good. You may not mean to glorify yourself, but pride often finds its way in undetected, so keep a watchful eye out for it. Give thanks to God for the opportunity to lead others in the act of worshiping Him, and ask for the guidance, humility, and courage to make the worship session a good one. A few things worth considering as you pray may include: Understanding of the lyrics you sing and the ability to convey that understanding Love for the people you lead Wisdom in selecting the songs and verses used for worship The ability to act on the truths you sing and speak The humility to lead in a way that glorifies God instead of yourself or the congregation The ability to guide the congregation to an improved relationship with God Find out from the pastor what that week's lesson will be about and try to choose songs around that theme. Doing so will make the entire service more cohesive and meaningful. You'll also need to pick out short scriptural verses that go along with the songs and the overall lesson, as well. The idea is to get others to actively participate in worship by singing along. If the congregation doesn't feel comfortable singing that songs you've chosen, they probably won't sing. People generally don't sing songs that are unfamiliar to them. Stick primarily with songs you know the congregation will know. When you introduce a new song, plan on including it in multiple worship services so that people will have more opportunity to get used to it. Also note that some songs are meant for solo singers while others are more suited to group singing. Obviously, the songs you use for group worship should be songs that groups of people can sing together. You may have a superb vocal range, but know that most people do not share that same skill. The songs you pick need to fall within a shorter, more concentrated range so that more people can sing along. Know how many songs you need to pick out. In many churches, there is already some set order to the service. In others, you may have a little more flexibility. Regardless, you should pick out enough songs to fit the format and select the right songs for the right parts of the service. Know the lyrics to the songs you plan on singing. Memorize any verses you plan on saying. You can have an open Bible or sheet music in front of you during the service, but it's best not to rely on them. As you practice saying these readings, emphasize verbs instead of pronouns, adjectives, and adverbs. Verbs typically convey the greatest amount action and meaning, so emphasizing them can help draw out the truth of the text. Learning the words you'll be singing and saying beforehand will make you feel much more comfortable during public worship, which will allow you to lead worship in a more natural manner. You might be the only one leading worship at church. Then again, you might have an entire worship team to work with. No matter how many people are involved, it is crucial that you practice the songs you plan on singing a few times before you have to perform them at church. Make sure that everyone on your worship team knows when each song will be sung. Try to keep everyone as informed as possible so that there are no surprises. Listen to the input of others on your worship team. If the general consensus goes against your initial opinion, rethink your ideas and consider altering them as needed. Worship is a spiritual thing, but as a physical being, you also need to keep your physical strength up. Get a full night's sleep the night before. Hydrate yourself and eat enough that morning to give yourself the energy you'll need to make it through the service. If you're the sort of person who easily gets sick on a full stomach, make sure that you only eat enough to wake yourself up and not enough to make yourself feel queasy. Meet up with any other members of the worship team before the service to do one final, quick practice session. As a worship leader, try to show up 15 minutes or so before the rest of the worship team is due to arrive for your final practice. During that time, do sound tests to make sure that the equipment is set up, tune any instruments you'll be using, and flip through your notes to make sure that everything is in order.
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One-sentence summary -- Know your purpose. Pray. Build your worship around the lesson. Pick songs that others can sing. Consider the format. Memorize. Practice. Energize yourself before the service. Warm up before the service.

To avoid wasting time looking for things, have all your books, papers, writing utensils, and other materials readily available and easy to get to. Clean out your backpack and binder(s) weekly or monthly to stay organized. Consider consolidating your multiple different subject folders and notebooks into one big binder separated by tab dividers. This way, all of your schoolwork will be in one place. Instead of just grabbing the first book in your backpack and starting the work, plan ahead. There are several ways that you can plan out how to do your homework for the evening, including: Decide how much time you want to spend on your homework collectively. Make a list of all the different tasks you need to finish. Estimate how much time you'll be able to spend on each task to finish your homework when you want to. Work straight through your list and cross tasks off as you go. Waiting too long in the evening to start may result in working late into the night, which isn't good because it's much harder to work quickly when you're tired. Similarly, waiting until the next morning to do your homework will probably result in a rushed or incomplete end result. As you write assignments down in your planner throughout the week, make sure to write an "A" next to high priority tasks, a "C" next to lower priority tasks, and a "B" next to tasks that fall somewhere in between. An assignment that has to be completed by the next day would probably take priority over one that's due next Tuesday. Also prioritize bigger assignments over smaller ones. A ten page essay that's due in a week that you haven't started should be labeled an "A" or "B" while a short five question worksheet due in three days may be labeled a "C". Make sure you don't wait until the last second to get assignments done.
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One-sentence summary -- Get your supplies in order. Make a homework plan for the evening. Start your homework soon after you get home from school. Prioritize by due date and importance.

Simply talking with friends and family about your feelings and your situation may provide some much-needed relief. It may also comfort you to know that there are people who care about you and want to help you. Try meeting with a friend or family member for dinner once per week, or call up a friend during the day if you need to talk. Support groups for abuse survivors can be an excellent way to connect with people who will be able to relate to what you are going through. Try to find an abuse survivor support group in your area. You can ask your doctor or therapist for information on support groups in your area. You can also look into online discussion forums to get support from people who have had to deal with a trauma bond relationship. There are hotlines and crisis lines that are available through various health organizations, which can provide help and support. Do not be afraid to use the community resources that are available. If your efforts to break a trauma bond have not been successful or if you are suffering from the repercussions of trauma, then seek the help of a trained and licensed mental health professional, such as a therapist. A therapist can help you to break the trauma bond and develop healthy coping strategies as you go through the process.
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Reach out to friends and family. Join a support group. See a therapist.