Problem: Article: Many people feel that their thoughts are beyond their control. While we're never in complete control of our feelings and emotions, there are things we can do to direct our thoughts. While you cannot always change your circumstances, you can work on adjusting your own perspective. Remember, you can control your attitude. In any given situation, you can control how you choose to see and perceive what's occurring around you. Try to take responsibility for this throughout your day-to-day life. For example, if you're unhappy with your current company, you do not have to see your situation as wholly negative. If you keep having thoughts like, "This is terrible. I hate my job," pause and think of other ways to view the situation. You could, for example, think about positives like your family and social circle. You could also see your disdain for your current job as motivation to get your career on track, or view your position as a stepping stone toward your dream job. The only sure thing is change. No matter where you're planted, situations and circumstances will change with time. If you want to learn to bloom despite any circumstances, it's important you learn to calmly embrace change. Learn to cultivate mental flexibility. You can do this by not being too rigid in your habits and being open to new experiences. Remember, change is necessary to progress. If things always stayed the same, there would be no personal growth or forward motion. If something has changed recently, adapt instead of feeling upset or uneasy about the changes. Be on the lookout for opportunities and ways you can change your current situation. If you're in a situation that's not ideal, there are likely ways to change it or yourself for the better. If you're feeling negative about your life overall, this can affect your overall energy level. A negative mentality makes it difficult to bloom. Instead of wishing for ideal circumstances, look for things you can appreciate right now. This can help you develop the positive attitude necessary to bloom. If you're unhappy with where you're planted, negativity can consume your thoughts. It's easy to forget the good things about life when you're faced with difficulties every day. Try to make a conscious effort to focus on what you do have. For example, maybe you don't love your job, but do you have coworkers you like? Are you learning skills you can use later on? Are there other things about your life, such as relationships, that make you happy? Focus your energy here. One great way to bloom in any circumstances is to always be on the lookout for life lessons. Look at where you're at right now. Ask yourself what you can learn. How can you make your present experiences and situation into a life lesson? Even bad situations come with lessons. If you, say, relocated for work and hate your current town, think about what you could learn. Maybe this will be a lesson in resiliency. You may learn a lot about yourself. If you're, say, lonely in a new town, this is a chance to get to know yourself and learn how to stay entertained and fulfilled when alone. It's not always easy to see the lesson if circumstances are bleak, but a lesson often becomes more clear later on. If you can't find a lesson right now, try to remind yourself you will learn something from your experiences some day. Do not think of the present moment as a waste. Radical acceptance means learning to accept your current situation, and everything you cannot change, as it is. This can help you bloom where you're planted as you will not waste time indulging in "what if" scenarios. Try to wake up every morning with a sense of acceptance about what you cannot change. Remember that suffering is optional. The way you interpret the situation determines whether or not you will suffer. Radical acceptance is about accepting your current reality with all it's ups and downs. However, accepting does not mean agreeingyou can choose to change things. Practice acceptance with little things at first. For example, traffic is heavy and you will be late for work. You cannot change this, so do not get upset. Try to accept it and not let this setback interfere with your attitude at the office. As you practice accepting small things, you will begin to learn how to accept bigger setbacks. For example, you do not get a promotion at work despite trying very hard. This can be a devastating blow, but if you've learned to accept circumstances as they come you'll bounce back from this quicker.
Summary: Acknowledge that you can control your thoughts. Accept changes as they occur. Value what you do have. Try to learn lessons from your circumstances. Practice radical acceptance.

Problem: Article: If you still have one of your eyebrows, this might be a little easier--just match the pencil to the shade of your eyebrow hair. Otherwise, use your hair color as a guide. If you are a brunette or a redhead, look for a color that is one shade lighter than your hair. If you are a blonde, try one shade darker. You can't substitute eyeliner for an eyebrow pencil in this case. You are literally drawing on your eyebrow, and eyeliner is too likely to smudge and ruin the illusion. Use the same method to choose powder, but don't get too matchy--if the colors are a little different, it will add more dimension to your drawn-on brow. Feel free to mix brow powders or eyeshadows to get the right color or simply add more depth to the look. Avoid anything with sparkles or shimmer, as this will look unnatural. You want to follow the shape you created with the brow powder or eyeshadow and use short, feathering strokes that look like actual little hairs. It is important to keep the pencil very sharp, so make sure you stop to sharpen it and keep that fine tip. Don't press too hard or draw your strokes too dark. It will look more natural if you draw your eyebrows in several layers of light strokes. Again, use a cotton swab to fix any mistakes.
Summary: Choose an eyebrow pencil and powder that is similar to your natural coloring. Use a very sharp eyebrow pencil and begin drawing little hairs in gentle, upward strokes.

Problem: Article: The tea needs to be strong, so consider using two bags. Brew enough tea so that you will be able to rinse your hair completely with the tea. The amount will depend on the length of your hair. If you have very short hair, a large cupful may be enough. If you have very long hair, you may need a pitcher of tea. Fortunately, tea is cheap and easy to make, so if you need more, you can always make some extra. Make sure that you wait for the tea to cool before applying it to your hair! It can still be warm, but make sure it won't burn your skin. If you only wish to lighten certain parts of your hair, you should separate those sections from the rest of your hair. Instead of dumping the tea all over your hair, you can put it in a spray bottle and spray it directly on the section you wish to lighten. You can also dip the sections directly in the tea, and use your fingers to apply it to the roots. This will be the least messy if you get undressed and stand in the bath or shower. Slowly pour the tea over your hair until it is completely drenched in the tea. If you wish, you can leave this on your hair for as long as you wish. Some suggest leaving it on for 15 minutes, while others suggest letting it stay in until your next shampoo. You can try both ways and see which yields better results. If you can, after applying the tea to your hair, go out into the sun, and let the sun dry your hair. This will speed the lightening process. As an alternative to completely drenching your hair in the tea, you could make the tea, put it in a spray bottle, and spritz onto your hair before going in the sun each day. Remember to use sun screen each day on the parts of your skin that will be exposed. As with all of the methods, it will take many days for you to see results. Fortunately, the tea method will not damage your hair as badly as lemon juice might. If you have very dark hair, be patient! Eventually your hair will lighten, but understand that it is unlikely that your hair will ever be platinum blonde without using bleach or some other chemical treatment.
Summary:
Brew the tea. Separate your hair into sections. Rinse your hair with the tea. Leave in your hair. Spend some time in the sun. Repeat the process.