In order to properly see the vibrant colors of your or someone else's aura, you need a neutral colored background. Find a white or neutral colored wall or backdrop. If you are trying to read your own aura, you will also need a mirror. If you don't have a mirror, you can read the aura around your hand by placing it in front of a white surface or piece of paper. Make sure you are in a comfortable, quiet environment. You need to be able to concentrate and focus on your subject without interruption. You need soft light that isn't too light or too dark. You need to ensure that your eyes are comfortable with the level of light so your eyes will not have to strain or be overly stressed by the light. Natural light is the best, but you can use candles or lamps to get the right concentration of light needed. If you're trying to read someone else's aura, make them comfortable in front of the white background and explain what you'll be doing. Have them wear clothes that aren't too patterned or distracting. If you are attempting to read your own aura, look at yourself in front of the mirror while standing or sitting against a white background.

Summary: Find a suitable background. Find the proper lighting. Position your subject.

We all have vulnerabilities in life. But those who have low to little self-esteem usually have a higher level of vulnerability and need extra support. As a partner to your girlfriend, much of that support will come from you in the form of empowerment, empathy, compassion, and love. Avoid the urge to judge her thoughts and actions and give her a strong sense of security, as you're the one she will mainly lean on. Be attuned to her vulnerabilities, but also try to guide her into understanding that she is in control and responsible for her own thoughts, actions, and insecurities. Even with your support, love, and stability, only she can choose to change her thoughts in a more positive way. Try to learn how much love and guided support to offer, how to help when her insecurities crop up, and how to assist her in resolving underlying issues. Complimenting your girlfriend can make her feel better about herself, and make you feel positive, too. Just make sure you stick to sincere and reasonable compliments. Exaggerating or lying about a feature that you don't actually like may worsen the problem. The key to a genuine compliment is looking for something good in her and sharing it freely without expectation of getting anything back. For example, you might say, "Your smile is beautiful" or "That outfit looks great on you." It can also help to not focus too much on her appearance. Tell her she did a great job calming down an irate toddler, or she gave a really awesome answer in today's history class. Although your girlfriend will appreciate compliments about her appearance, the best compliments point to someone's positive traits. This shows her that she is so much more to you than just her looks. Talk about things besides her beauty, such as her personality, her intelligence, or her kindness. You might say, "You know that was really admirable how you helped your friend back there," or "I can't believe how giving you are. That's one of the things I love most about you." Give her compliments that uniquely describe her. "You're funny" is a generic compliment that is easy to shrug off. "Your sci-fi satires are hilarious" is much more specific, and is harder to discount. If your girlfriend has low self-esteem, she may have trouble noticing her strengths. Make it your job to remind her of your many talents and achievements whenever she seems to forget. Sharing these sorts of compliments will make her feel good about who she is as a person. For instance, you might say, "I think it's amazing that you choose to spend your evenings and weekends volunteering at the shelter," or "Algebra is so confusing to me. I'm glad I'm dating a math whiz who can help me understand." Your girlfriend probably expects to be showered with praise when she's all made up and dressed up, so reserve praises for when she's looking like her normal self, too. For example, if you come over late at night when she's in her pajamas, tell her how beautiful she looks.

Summary: Be aware of her vulnerabilities. Make your compliments genuine and realistic. Note positive aspects of her personality. Remind her of her accomplishments. Tell her she's beautiful on regular days.

Ask your local pool, recreation center, or gym if they offer group water fitness classes. Try different types of classes that use the water's resistance to build your strength and endurance. Participating with other people in water fitness classes can make exercising in water more fun and keep you motivated. Some of the water fitness classes you can join include: Water aerobics Aqua zumba Aqua barre Aqua yoga Purchase or borrow a flotation belt, which will allow you to keep your head above water. Put on your belt and gently slide into either end of the pool. Deeper water puts less impact on your joints and muscles and also allows a greater range of motion. Stand straight with your shoulders back and chest lifted and then stride forward for as many steps as you like. Keep your abs and core muscles engaged to maintain your stability. Mix up your walking routine with any of the following types of steps: marching steps, gliding sideways, or walking backwards. Add weighted water gloves or webbed gloves for arm-strengthening moves. Strap on a flotation belt or hold water weights or a pool noodle to keep you afloat. Lean slightly forward with your upper body straight and chest lifted. Then bring up one knee to a 90-degree angle and push it down through the water with the same foot. Calculate your workout in time, not in miles. Aim for 20-30 minutes when you first start and gradually increase your time as you get fitter. Hop into water that is about chest to shoulder deep. Release your feet from the bottom and kick your legs in a beater-type motion. At the same time, cup your hands and scull them back and forth in the water. Perform these as quickly as you can for 30-60 seconds and then rest for 30 seconds. Repeat the exercise as many times as you like. Hold light weights while treading water for an added strength boost and calorie burn. Tread water at a slower pace for an extended period of time to build endurance. You don't always have to be in the water to get the benefits of water exercise. Instead, use different types of watercraft you have to operate and steer with paddles. Doing this can build endurance, but also strengthen your abs, core, back, and arms. Try the following paddle-driving activities for exercise and fun: Kayaking Canoeing Stand-up paddleboarding Much like water sports with paddling, other activities allow you to exercise in water without getting in it. Use the surface of the water to help you get a little exercise and build strength throughout your body as well as endurance. Sports that let you skim or ride the surface of the water for exercise include: Surfing Waterskiing Wakeboarding
Summary: Join a water fitness class. Walk through water. Go for a run. Tread water. Paddle on a watercraft. Ride on the water's surface.