Whether you are long single or getting over heart-break, try to value your independence. Remember that you don't need true love to make you happy, because happiness comes from inside. It's OK (and healthy) to focus on yourself sometimes. Being single comes with freedom: you can do the things you enjoy, when you want to. Do you want to go for a swim at 6:00 every morning? Sure thing. Do you like to sit around and watch TV in sweatpants after work? Go right ahead! Being independent gives you the chance to be selfish, too. Focus on your career and work long hours, if you're ambitious. Or, spend more time on your hobbies and friends. Use the time for self-exploration, too. Being single, you can spend energy figuring out your needs rather than on those of a partner. Some of us already have a clear vision of true love, while others need some time to figure it out. You may have a sense of what you're looking for, but need time to articulate your ideal partner. Start with your core needs. What things are "must haves"? Do you need a partner who shares your social or religious values? Who wants a family? Who understands and validates your career? Learn to understand your own emotional needs. Think of earlier relationships and what made you feel fulfilled and what didn't. You might need good chemistry, for example, but you also might need loyalty or a strong intellectual connection. Be aware that true love isn't a magic potion. It can't make you feel worthwhile, happy, or whole in life, at least not by itself. These things ultimately have to come from inside of you. Remember that self-examination? Start to act on it. Figure out what positive qualities you've got going, but also those you need to work on. Set up clear goals to aspire and work toward. Write your goals down. What do you want to be better at? Do you need to be a better listener? To show more empathy? Or perhaps to be more generous with your time? Ask yourself whether each goal is realistic, achievable, and about you as a person. Make sure that the goals are also worded positively. That is, they should be about getting better and not at removing something from your life. Write that you want to get better at expressing emotion, and not that you want to be less cold to others. Set a time-frame and list specific things that you are doing or will do to address each goal. To be more generous with your time, for instance, you might say that you will volunteer at a soup kitchen once a month for the next three months. Set your list in a visible place. Put it on your mirror, your fridge door, or in your office to see. Keep it close so you can see it every day. Try to be the best person you can, in mind, spirit, and body. That said, pay attention to your health as you better yourself. Eat good food, sleep well, rest, and reduce stress. Your health is important in preparing yourself for true love. Make it a priority. Exercise, a good diet, and rest will give you more energy and vim and put you in a positive frame of mind. Aim for a diet rich in vegetables, fruit, whole grains, and lean meats, for example. Take up an exercise routine. Doctors recommend at least 130 minutes of moderate activity per week for optimal health. This will help if you're still healing from heartache, releasing feel-good, depression-beating endorphins. Exercise will not only make you healthy and happier, but it can also help you manage stress and boost your self-confidence around other people all important in finding a partner.
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One-sentence summary -- Value your independence. Articulate what you want in love. Make a list of personal goals. Be as healthy as you can.

Opt for either black or acid wash denim. Look for a pair with holes at the knees or rips all the way up and down the pant legs for an edgier look. Choose your denim in a skin-tight skinny jean cut. Skinny jeans are still in fashion today, so feel free to pull a pair from your wardrobe or a mainstream retailer. Keep in mind that the softer, stretchier denim of today differs from what was worn in the 80s, though. Pick out a second-hand pair of 80s jeans from a thrift shop to get a more authentic look. While band members didn't necessarily wear their own logos around, this is a great way to show off your allegiance to specific 80s rockers. Choose a black t-shirt with a large graphic featuring the name of one of the decade's top rock groups like Iron Maiden or AC/DC. A brand new t-shirt won't look very rock-n-roll, so opt for a distressed, lived-in t-shirt instead. Choose a band t-shirt featuring muddy, worn colors like deep red or dark blue in the graphics. Make sure your t-shirt features a band you love. Others might use your t-shirt as a conversation starter. Instead of a band t-shirt, you can try a plain white, gray, or black t-shirt. Just be sure to amp up your rocker look with additional layers and accessories. Try a vintage jacket from a thrift shop to get the right silhouette and a lived-in look. Find one with big shoulders and a tapered waist that's embellished with silver zippers and studded lapels. For a sleeveless look, opt for a vest. Try either a leather biker-style vest or a cutoff acid wash denim option. Personalize your denim vest with patches and pins. Consider placing a large motif on the back panel of your jacket or vest so anyone approaching you from behind will know your rock allegiances. For ladies, try tulle and lace mixed with edgier leather and denim in the style of Cindy Lauper and Madonna. Finish off your hard rock ensemble with tough black boots. Choose a pair that's edgy and worn-in, with messy laces, scuffed and distressed leather, and heavy silver buckles. If you want to aim for a sleeker, more New Age rock look, try a pair of black leather Chelsea boots instead. Avoid wearing sneakers with your 80s rocker outfit. When it comes to 80s rocker jewelry, the more the better. Focus on studded leather and thick chains. Stack up a selection of mismatched bracelets, wear an edgy choker, add a studded belt, and sport chains around your neck, wrists, and belt loops. Pick out a handful of chunky metal rings and consider wearing a rocker hoop earring in one ear. Stick with silver-toned metal to get the 80s look. Avoid gold jewelry and accents. Work classic rock imagery skulls, snakes, crosses, and roses into your accessories. For instance, try a thick snake ring or a heavy skull pendant.
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Slip on a pair of shredded skinny jeans. Wear a t-shirt featuring your favorite 80s rock band. Throw on a leather motorcycle jacket or a denim vest over your t-shirt. Ground your rocker look with a pair of black leather boots. Layer on heavy silver-toned jewelry.