Sprinkle the meat with 1/2 tsp (2.5 ml) salt and 1/4 tsp (1.25 ml) ground black pepper, or season to taste. Set aside. If the meat is in one large chunk, cut it into 1-inch (2.5-cm) cubes before seasoning it. You may also want to pat it dry with clean paper towels, as well. Curry can be prepared in the same way no matter which meat you choose (solid beef, pork, or chicken), but you might want to vary the spices according to your own personal tastes. For instance, many prefer to add more heat when preparing pork curry. You can do so by increasing the amount of pepper you use or by sprinkling chili pepper powder into the curry base before you prepare the roux. If you decide to make chicken curry, opt for dark meat portions of chicken, like the thigh. Take the skin off before you add the chicken to the stockpot. Alternatively, you can skip the meat altogether and prepare a vegetarian curry by following the rest of the steps as described. Pour the cooking oil into a large, heavy stockpot and heat it on medium over the stove. Give it a minute or so to warm up adequately. Note that you must use a heavy-bottomed stockpot with thick walls to avoid burning the curry. The stockpot should also be large enough to hold 5 L (5 qts). For a slightly richer taste, use butter or ghee instead of oil. Ultimately, however, the difference in taste might be difficult to distinguish since the flavor of the curry tends to overwhelm any subtle variations like this. Place the chopped onion in the hot oil and cook for roughly 5 minutes, stirring frequently, or until soft and translucent. Temporarily remove them from the stockpot and place them on a nearby plate. If your stockpot is wide enough, you could just push the onion to one side instead of completely removing it. The important thing is to keep the cooked onion out of the way as you cook the meat. Add the meat to the stockpot. Let the pieces cook on one side for 1 to 3 minutes, or until browned on that side. Afterward, continue cooking for another 5 to 7 minutes, or until all sides have browned. Browning the meat ultimately adds more flavor to each bite. If you decided to leave the onions in the stockpot as you cook the meat, keep a close eye on them while the meat cooks. The onions can begin to brown and still taste fine, but if they shift from a dark tan to a dark brown, remove them immediately before they burn and blacken. Return the onions to the stockpot. At this time, you should also add the ketchup, water, carrots, and grated apple. Mix well to combine. Note that the only curry base ingredients you do not want to add at this time are the potatoes and edamame. Reduce the heat to medium-low or low, until the liquid is just barely simmering. Cook, uncovered, for 20 minutes. Stir the mixture occasionally to prevent anything from sticking or burning. As the curry base simmers, you should start preparing the roux.

Summary: Season the meat. Heat the oil. Add the onion. Stir in the meat. Add most of the remaining base ingredients. Simmer for 20 minutes.

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Summary: See a therapist. Determine if you require medication for depression. Take part in a support group.