Q: The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) defines "gay" as an "adjective used to describe people whose enduring physical, romantic, and/or emotional attractions are to people of the same sex." This is the only appropriate way to use the word "gay." Any time you use the word to mean something other than this, you are using it inappropriately. Unless someone has told you that they are gay, do not use this word to describe them. It is not your job or business to discuss another person's sexuality. Also avoid calling gay people "gay people." This term is considered out of date and can be offensive to gay people. Using the word gay to insult something or someone implies that you think there is something wrong with being homosexual. Even if you do not believe there is something wrong with being gay, your use of "gay" in this manner suggests that you do. This can also be hurtful to people around you. You do not always know that you around a gay person or someone that has gay friends or family members. For gay people, constantly hearing the word "gay' used inappropriately can have a negative impact on their mental health and how they feel about themselves. You do not want to contribute to anyone's pain. Using the word inappropriately can also give people the impression that you are insensitive or have an issue with people that are gay. You do not want people to think things about you that are not true. Although you may not have intended to be offensive or hurt someone's feelings when you use the word "gay" as a derogatory term, the end result still remains. You cannot take back or cancel something that you have said. Even if you apologize and explain yourself, your words can still hurt. Your words can be used to both help and harm. Your words have a life of their own once they leave your mouth. Think of your words as a living, breathing extension of yourself. What you say may stick around once you have left. For example, you may casually call something "gay," but the person may think about what you said throughout the day.
A: Know the true definition of the word. Recognize that using the word gay as a derogatory term is offensive. Know that words have meaning regardless of your intention.

Q: Mental health problems can be both a cause and an effect of homelessness. One of the best ways to make a difference for homeless people is to encourage and support access to free or low-cost mental health services. Support local mental health clinics and write to politicians about their importance. Another problem that exacerbates homelessness in many cities is the lack of affordable housing. Support ballot initiatives for affordable housing and write to local housing organizations to help them understand the need. Speak out against new housing developments which are not affordable. Basic medical care is also a huge problem for homeless people. They are more prone to serious health problems but are stuck in a position where they cannot afford help. Support local free or low-cost clinics, and work on getting more free clinics in your city. Day shelters are another service which can help homeless people get back on their feet. These shelters give homeless people a safe place to stay and store their things. Day shelters are uncommon, so if your city doesn't have one, talk to your local city councilors or mayor about establishing one. Local libraries are a huge resource for homeless people. They make job searching tools, such as the internet, free and available for the homeless. They are also a source of important information, and often host programs that can help people learn the skills necessary to get a job. In many places, being homeless can get you arrested. When homeless people are arrested, it makes it even harder for them to get back on their feet. To help the homeless, vote against measures that criminalize homelessness, and against politicians that support such measures.
A: Support mental health services. Support affordable housing initiatives. Support free and low cost medical care. Support day shelters. Support libraries. Oppose laws making homelessness a crime.

Q: Once the Malawis have bred, the female will need some rest to allow the eggs to develop in her mouth. Not disturbing her for 5 days should be sufficient time for the female to rest. Be aware that she may not eat during this period. Consider partitioning your tank so that the female can have her own space. This is especially true if you choose to not remove the male from the tank. Likewise, you can also put the female in a separate tank. Remember to disturb her as little as possible because she may spit out the eggs or even swallow them. A female Malawi cichlid will hold her fertilized eggs in her mouth for about 21 days. At this point, she will begin to release the fry, or baby fish, from her mouth into the hiding spots or tank. Be aware that it may take a couple of days for the female to release the fry into the water. Recognize that Malawi cichlids have relatively small batches of eggsonly 10-30. You may see anywhere from 1-30 fry, depending on their survival rate. Make sure that there are hiding spots in the tank under or in which the fry can hide from males. Don't be surprised if the female takes the fry into her mouth several times. The females will eventually abandon their fry, and it's important for the young fish to have hiding spots. Your fry will need nutritious food to develop into healthy Malawi cichlids. There are a number of different nutritious foods you can feed Malawi cichlid fry. You can also watch if they're eating enough of their food by watching their bodies with a magnifying glass. You can feed your fry the following foods to promote growth: Brine shrimp Daphnia Microworms Grindal worms The fry are large and well developed, so infusoria is too small for them.
A: Allow the female to rest. Look for the female to release the fry. Feed the fry.

Q: If you'd prefer a more methodical approach, you can follow a "starting distance" methodology with your cat. Begin by creating a safe space. Before any guests arrive, provide your cat with a safe area to go. This will be an area where the cat can completely avoid guests. Provide water, food, and a litter box. Place your cat in the safe space (but don't lock him in) and let him remain there while guests arrive. This will help your cat to stop associating the presence of guests in the home with anxiety. " When you have a particularly patient guest, ask them to help you find your cat's starting distance. When you cat emerges from the safe area, have your guest come as close as they can to your cat before the cat displays any signs of anxiety or aggression. This is your cat's approximate starting distance. The next time a guest comes over, remove your cat from the safe area, and place him at his approximate starting distance from the guest. Ask your guest to remain motionless (standing or sitting), and allow the cat to investigate them. If the cat remains calm, reward his behavior with treats, play, or petting and attention for a few minutes, then put him back in the safe area. You can repeat this exercise a few times while your guest is visiting. If the cat seems uncomfortable, move him further away until he is calm, and reward him as just outlined. Keep doing these sessions, each time watching your cat carefully. Have the guest move slowly and with gentle motions. Your guest doesn't need to say anything, but they may choose to speak in soothing tones. Eventually, the cat will be calm enough to remain within arm's reach of the guest. Anti-anxiety medication can help with this process also. If your cat becomes anxious, simply increase the distance until he is calm. Once your cat is fairly comfortable approaching a guest that is still, see what happens if your guest moves around. Ask your guest to pace back and forth or make any movement that you want your cat to get accustomed to. (You may find that the starting distance is longer as some cats are more timid about movement.) Repeat the exercises with your guest moving so that your cat becomes desensitized.
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Provide a safe area. Find your cat's "starting distance. Begin with a motionless guest. Decrease the distance by a few inches. Incorporate movement.