Assertiveness is about getting your needs met in appropriate and respectful ways. The more assertive you can be, the more likely you will get what you want. Be direct. Approach your friend calmly and tactfully. Listen to her point of view, and then explain how you feel. Use "I statements," such as, "I felt angry when I heard you were talking bad about me to other people." Make sure you emphasize how you feel instead of what the other person did; you should always state your feelings first in order to reduce the likelihood that the other person will react emotionally or take it personally. Focus on positive aspects of the relationship. You could say something like, "Your friendship means a lot to me and I don't want this to come between us." Maintain positive eye contact. Don't stare without looking away every once in a while, and don't avoid eye contact. Maintain eye-contact that is comfortable, look away every once in a while, then regain eye-contact. Aggressive communication is based on, "I'm okay, you're not okay" thinking. It assumes that you are right and the other person is wrong. Examples of aggressive communication include: raising your voice or yelling, threatening, putting down the other person (e.g., "You're stupid"), and pointing your fingers. Avoid engaging in hurtful behaviors such as name-calling, put-downs, or blaming. For example, don't say things like, "I can't believe you did that. I hate you. You're stupid." Instead, say something assertive like, "I felt really angry when I heard that you were talking about me behind my back. I know that it may have been taken out of context, but can you give me your side of what happened? I'd like to understand where you're coming from." Some people back down and beg for forgiveness at the first sign of a fight, even when they are not the only one responsible for the issue. However, passive behaviors like avoiding confrontation are associated with more negativity within friendships. Don't avoid the problem, this can result in unresolved conflict. Don't apologize for everything, only your part in the problem. In other words, do not take the entire blame. There are always two people in a conflict, and in most case both people exhibit behaviors that contribute to the issue. Look at your friend and maintain eye-contact instead of staring at the floor or fidgeting. Do not simply accommodate the other person's will or wishes. Your needs are just as important. Passive-aggression is associated with showing your aggression in a passive way. Instead of telling someone how you feel, you tell the person through your actions. These passive forms of aggression can be confusing and hurtful. Some examples of passive-aggressive communication are sarcasm, talking behind the person's back (speaking negatively about her to others), spreading rumors, or getting other people to dislike your friend.
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One-sentence summary -- Practice being assertive. Reduce aggressiveness. Limit passive communication. Avoid engaging in passive-aggressive behaviors.

Almost as if you are a blank white canvas and your style is the art. What would you want to say to people? Indie is about finding your own voice and and being proud to speak. Look for vintage clothes that you like. Older cuts and prints are often lost to time, and some of them are completely worth bringing back! Don't be afraid to wear something that you might think is a little crazy. Being indie is about being you! If you think it will look good, give it a shot. Visit your local thrift store instead you will save money, help the earth by recycling, and find treasures you would never see at the mall. Jewelry, watches, hats, scarves: all of them are avenues of expression. Look for treasures in your travels, but don't forget that you can make them yourself! Your accessories should look like they have significance to you. Indie culture tends to focus on a natural look. Minimize the makeup, wear organically shaped clothing (flowy tops or willowy pants), and keep your hair looking great but kind of like you just rolled out of bed or came off the beach.
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One-sentence summary -- Express yourself with your wardrobe. Stay away from big brands and stores. Make your accessories treasures. Go for a natural look.

The cost will depend upon how long you intend to rent the car. Take the on ramp to US-101 N. Take that exit and turn right onto Market Street as you get off the freeway. Follow Market Street east until you get to your downtown destination.
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One-sentence summary -- Board the blue line on the Air Train, until you reach the Rental Car Center Station. Rent a car. Exit the airport heading west, turn right at the fork. Follow the US-101 North until you see the Octavia/Fell exit.

Pour cool water into a clean pot, tub, or container large enough to completely hold and cover your turkey. For this method, the shape of the container doesn't matter. The water must be no warmer than 40 degrees Fahrenheit (4.44 degrees Celsius) to avoid bacterial growth. Place resealable plastic bags of ice into the container to keep the water temperature cool, if necessary. While still in its packaging, place the turkey breast-side down in the water. The turkey must be completely submerged in the water. If the turkey is not in its original packaging, place the turkey in a sealed, leak-proof plastic bag. This will help prevent cross-contamination. Use a heavy baking dish or other clean, heavy item to weigh the bird down so it stays fully submerged in the water. After 30 minutes have passed remove the turkey and set it aside. Try not to drip everywhere. Even if the turkey was sealed, some of the water may be contaminated with bacteria. Pour all of the water out, and then replace the water with fresh, cold water. Be sure that it remains under 40 degrees, and add new ice if necessary. Place the turkey back into the water, and let sit for another 30 minutes. This method will defrost your turkey at a rate of about 30 minutes per pound. For example, if your turkey weighs 12 pounds, you must allow the turkey to thaw using this method for approximately six hours.
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Fill your container. Submerge your turkey. Remove the turkey after half an hour. Discard and replace the water. Repeat the process. Repeat continually, as necessary.