In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: Many people have a tendency to fall into unhealthy relationships over and over again. If you're worried about losers in your life, try to take some time to honestly evaluate relationships. It can be hard to accept when certain relationships become toxic to the point of not being sustainable. Do you feel drained when you're around a person? Do you honestly want to spend time with certain people, or do you feel obligated? Do you expect an amount of respect that you never received? Are you consistently disappointed by someone's attitude, behavior, or treatment of you? Answer these questions honestly. Avoid the temptation to make excuses, like, "Well, I do feel tired when I'm around Marguerite, but she's been going through a lot lately." If you're feeling negative about someone overall, this is a sign this is not a healthy relationship. Everyone goes through bad times. However, even at their worst, most people will have some ability to care for another person's needs. If someone is consistently draining to be around, and this has been going on for quite some time, you may be better off ending the relationship. A relationship should make you feel positive about yourself. You may occasionally feel frustrated with another person, and everyone inadvertently hurts someone else's feelings on occasion. However, if someone always makes you feel bad about yourself, this may be a toxic relationship. Try logging your feelings after spending time with someone. Returning to the above example, jot down how you feel after, say, having coffee with Marguerite. Do you feel drained, tired, frustrated? Are you going over things she said that upset you? If this happens consistently, this is probably not a good relationship. This is likely someone you should get rid of in your life. You may find you're significantly affected by another person's drama. If your friend Marguerite is upset about her boyfriend, for example, she may be unwilling to talk about anything else when you two are together. It may get to the point where you dread being around her when she's upset, because you know it'll result in endless and unproductive complaining. A relationship should be relatively equal. You should each support one another's emotional needs. In a toxic relationship, one person may always believe his or her needs are important. Once again, try to be honest with yourself and avoid making excuses for the other person. Try to remember the last time you were in need. Did this person reach out to you? Did he or she ask how you were doing? Or did this person simply avoid you until your neediness passed over? In a toxic relationship, one person may be competitive about his or her needs. Returning to the Marguerite example, you may bring up a stressful issue with your significant other. Marguerite may respond by saying something like, "At least you have someone. I've been single for almost a year." She may then launch into a tirade about her own issues, leading you to comfort her. This is an uneven balance. This person is placing her own emotional needs on a higher level than yours, and using your problems as a way to shoehorn in her own. Toxic relationships are often ripe with emotional manipulation, which can take many forms. Watch for signs of emotional manipulation to identify toxic relationships. If you're being emotionally manipulated, you may be afraid to assert your feelings to a friend, romantic partner, or family member. This person may find a way to dismiss your feelings, accusing you of hypersensitivity. You may also find an emotionally manipulative person does not take "No" for an answer. If you say you cannot attend an event due to work, for example, a manipulative person may ask several follow up questions, pushing you to blow off work unnecessarily. You may also feel controlled by this person. You feel like you have to walk on eggshells around this person to avoid an outburst, to the point you're emotionally checked out. You may simply go along with situations to avoid the fallout, ignoring your own needs to cater to the other person. It may sound strange, but identifying the perks of toxic relationships can be helpful for you. There are often reasons people are drawn to the wrong people. Try to figure what you get out of the relationship. You may have deeper issues you need to work out to stop the cycle of toxic relationships. You may be drawn to a type of personality due to previously poor relationships. For example, say your mother was cold and emotionally distant. You may unconsciously seek out people similar to your mother as you're hunting for an approval you never received. You may also have issues with self-esteem that draw you to toxic relationships. For example, if you worry your own life is a mess, you may unconsciously be drawn to people with problems you perceive as worse than yours. Emotionally unhealthy people may allow you to feel like you're caring for someone else, making you feel needed even when you have doubts about your own capabilities.
Summary: Be honest about your feelings regarding a relationship. Assess how someone makes you feel. Consider if the relationship feels equal. Watch for signs of emotional manipulation. See if there are any positives left in the relationship.

Problem: Article: The thought of going up to your crush to say hello might be making you nervous. To help yourself find the courage to go up to them, remind yourself that your crush is a person just like you are, and talking to them shouldn't be any different than talking to anyone else. Put on a smile, take a deep breath, and focus on showing confidence. Count to three if you notice yourself hesitating to talk to your crush. Once you get to three, go right up to them! If you see your crush while you're walking somewhere and don't have time for a real conversation, say hello and then their name so they know you're talking to them. Smile as you say hello and try to make eye contact, showing that you're friendly and would like to talk some other time. For example, if you see your crush as you're walking to your seat, say, "Hey, Adam!" with a smile and keep walking. Speak loudly and clear enough so that your crush hears you. Not only does making eye contact make you look more confident, but it also helps spark a connection between the two of you. Going up to your crush to say hello can be nerve-racking, but if you see a moment when they're waiting outside of class or chatting with 1 or 2 people, go up to them! There's no need to overthink the timing, and being proactive about it will make you feel more confident and in control. Avoid going up to them if they're talking on the phone. If you don't mind talking to them when they're with their friends, great! Otherwise, wait for them to be alone, like when they're at their locker or waiting for a class to start. This puts less pressure on you and makes the conversation flow more naturally. If you just want to say a quick, "Hi, how are you?" instead of a longer conversation, it's okay to talk to them when they're around others. You might say something like, "Hi Jack, I wanted to ask you how your soccer game went last weekend! Did you guys win?" If the conversation goes well or you just want to continue talking to them, ask for their phone number if you don't already have it. You could also add them on social media like Instagram or Snapchat to talk to them there too. After talking about interesting books, you might say, "What's your phone number? I'll text you the names of a few other books I think you might like."
Summary:
Gather the courage to talk to your crush by giving yourself a pep talk. Give a quick hello when you pass them in the hallways. Go up to your crush when they're free to talk to avoid interrupting them. Wait until they're alone to talk to them in more depth. Ask them for their social media handle or phone number.