If you've discovered that your partner has been cheating on you, stop and take a breath. There may be tears by both partners. This is a normal and healthy part of the process. When everything calms down, you'll still have the same issues to deal with. Even though it'll be frustrating and painful to discover, try to give it some time. Avoid Jerry Springer scenarios. You don't need to employ hidden cameras, dramatic run-ins, or public humiliation to address your partner's affair. You're not on television. Act with dignity. If you have your suspicions that your partner has committed an affair and you want to know for sure, or if you're sure already and you want them to end it and start working on your relationship, confront your partner about it in a calm manner. Your partner will be more likely to tell the truth if you're as calm as possible. Be prepared that your partner may continue to be untruthful. Sometimes the truth comes out bit by bit. If you start yelling, it's more likely that your partner may try to pile on another lie to calm you down and get out of the conversation as easily as possible. If you want to know the truth, do it calmly. If you slip up, it's not the end of the world. This is a painful time. You are likely hurting. Tears are normal. It can be very difficult to attempt to rebuild the trust of an affair, and all relationships won't be worth the effort. Decide whether or not you're willing to recommit to the relationship and try to start healing when the affair is over. If your partner is unwilling to end the affair, or hesitant in any way, you should consider ending the relationship. Protect yourself in this process. The love and support of family and friends will be vitally important. Your initial instincts may be surprising. You might experience anger, depression, and a whole host of other emotions all at once. You may even feel relieved that a relationship that was struggling can finally be over. Whatever you're experiencing, try to give yourself some time alone to process them. Don't rush into a decision.
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One-sentence summary -- Act in a way you'll be proud of. Talk to your partner calmly. Decide whether or not you want to end the relationship. Give it time.

If you need to prune the roots of a tree or shrub on public land, you may need to get a permit from your local government authority. There typically isn't a fee for a root pruning permit. Contact your local government to find out what you need to do. In some locations, your local government will send out a professional to evaluate the tree and prune the roots if necessary. In others, you can do it yourself. If the tree or shrub (and its roots) exist entirely on your private property, you typically don't need a permit. If it's close to your boundary line, you may want to talk to your neighbors about it first. If a tree is old, or in poor health, you generally shouldn't prune its roots. These trees are more likely to be severely stressed by root pruning, and could die as a result. Avoid pruning the roots of a tree that is leaning. You could damage its stability and cause it to fall over. Look at soil conditions as well. Root pruning can cause more damage if the soil is shallow or drains poorly. An experienced arborist can give you advice on where, when, and how to prune a tree's roots. They can also let you know whether you can safely do it yourself. An arborist's opinion is particularly important if you're planning on moving a tree to a new location. If you're planning on hiring a professional to do the work for you, talk to 2 or 3 different companies before you make a final decision. Ask about their experience and contact references. Make sure they have necessary licenses and bonding or insurance. If you prune the roots too aggressively, you risk damaging or killing your tree or shrub. Generally, the size of the root ball increases incrementally as the size of the tree or shrub increases. Different types of trees and shrubs also have different minimum root ball sizes. Adequate root ball size is particularly important if you're transplanting the tree or shrub. The Penn State Agricultural Extension has a table of minimum root ball diameters of several common types of trees and shrubs available on its website. Go to https://extension.psu.edu/transplanting-or-moving-trees-and-shrubs-in-the-landscape to review the list. Trees have roots for stability as well as for feeding. When the tree is in full foliage, estimate the line where leaves or branches would drip water onto the ground. Roots growing from this line towards the trunk of the tree are necessary for the tree's health and stability. Generally, roots within the drip line are stability roots. Pruning them may destabilize the tree, causing it to lean or fall. Prune small roots using a sharpened spade. Take care to prune as few roots as possible. Pruning away more than 20 percent of the roots of a tree or shrub may put it under stress, leaving it weakened and vulnerable to pests. Make sure any spade or other gardening tool you use is sharp, so you don't risk damaging the remaining root. Your cut should be clean. Don't prune any roots that are greater than 2 inches (5.1cm) in diameter. These are most likely stability roots, and could cause the tree or shrub to fall over in high winds. Generally, there's no need to prune underground roots of trees or shrubs that will remain in the same place. However, if you're planning to transplant the tree or shrub to a different location, pruning feeder roots several months to one year before the move can reduce the shock to the tree or shrub. Pruning the roots encourages the tree or shrub to grow new feeder roots. These roots will be younger, healthier, and more resilient to transplantation. Particularly if you pruned the roots of your tree or shrub during a dry fall or winter season, make sure the soil surrounding the tree or shrub is watered thoroughly. This will encourage the tree or shrub to grow fresh new roots. Check the soil's moisture daily, especially if you don't get rain often. The top 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6cm) of soil should be moist to the touch. You might also mulch around the tree or shrub to help hold in the moisture, as well as protect the pruned roots, while your plant recovers.
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One-sentence summary -- Get a permit if necessary. Evaluate the health and condition of the tree. Consult a professional arborist. Determine the adequate root ball size. Mark the drip line. Remove no more than 20 percent of above-ground roots. Prune feeder roots underground before transplantation. Ensure adequate moisture after pruning roots.

Pick 1 cup red or green seedless grapes off the vine. Wash the grapes and pat dry. Carefully slice each grape in half. Set the sliced grapes to the side. With a can opener, open the cans of pineapple, mandarin oranges, and maraschino cherries. Empty the contents of the cans into a large colander. Drain the fruit very well. If you could not find halved maraschino cherries, slice the cherries in half now. Scoop one 8 oz container of whipped topping into a medium sized mixing bowl. Add 1 cup sour cream to the bowl. With a spoon, combine the sour cream and whipped topping. If you are using a frozen whipped topping, thaw before combining it with the sour cream. Add 1 cups sweetened coconut flakes and 1 cups mini marshmallows to the sour cream-whipped topping dressing. Carefully fold the coconut and mini marshmallows into the dressing. Add the drained fruit and nuts (optional) to the bowl. With a spoon, fold the fruit into the dressing. Cover the fruit salad with a lid. Place the covered bowl into the fridge for 1 hour. Once chilled, remove from the fridge and serve. If your mixing bowl does not have a lid, you cover the dish with saran wrap or aluminum foil.
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Wash and slice the grapes. Drain the canned fruit. Combine the sour cream and whipped topping. Fold the ingredients into the dressing. Cover the ambrosia and chill before serving.