Q: After the pre-screening and pre-service training have been completed, you get to meet your caseworker. It's very important to get off on a good footing with your caseworker; be honest, open, and thoughtful about your experiences and your motivation behind becoming a foster parent. After you meet your caseworker and complete an interview with them, you'll be expected to do the following: Be responsive to the caseworker's requests in a responsible, timely, and open manner. Honor your caseworker's requests for documents and information. Pledge to maintain confidentiality about children in foster care as well as the details surrounding their family. Accommodate your caseworker on required home inspections and criminal background checks. In some states, a home study is required. A home study is a document your caseworker compiles intended to learn more about you, your family history, and your personal relationships. A home study is conducted through a series of questions and interviews, and can last anywhere from three to six months. Generally, a home study includes: Family background and any relevant parenting experiences Education and employment Personal relationships and social life Information about your home and the neighborhood you live in Your reasons for wanting to foster parent and your readiness to do so It can take upwards of a year from when you first contact the foster parent agency until you are given a foster placement. During the waiting period, while your caseworker is making their determination, it's a good idea to stay busy and receptive to any questions your case worker might have. During this time, do as much research as you can about the types of issues foster children will have. Some come into the system abused sexually, mentally and physically and this presents serious issues for the both the foster youth and parents. Contact your state foster parent association and talk to other foster parents for insights and advice. Network with them and find out firsthand what's it's like to be a foster or adoptive parent. If a caseworker comes to you with questions which you think may put your eligibility in doubt, never lie. If your caseworker believes you to be deceptive or dishonest, your eligibility will suffer. Most issues that come up can be worked around. The best policy is openness with your caseworker.
A: Meet your caseworker. Do a home study. Wait for your caseworker to make their recommendations.

Q: " The girl is not obligated to give you her number just because you ask for it. There may be many reasons why she does not want to give you a way to contact her. This can also give you confidence, though. Her saying "no" is the worst thing that can happen when you ask for her number. It is easy to build up all the things that could go wrong, but in reality, her saying "no" is the worst it could be. Be prepared for rejection. Rejection is difficult, but once you accept it, the whole ordeal will feel much less intimidating and scary. In addition to being an attractive trait, confidence will make you feel more comfortable while asking her. Read our article on how to be confident for some ideas. A good way to be confident in this situation is to keep everything in perspective. Asking for her number may seem like a big deal at the time, but you will likely forget how afraid you were in a year's time. Remember that rejection can be overcome, but don't assume it will necessarily be the outcome. While it may sound silly, try standing in a Superman pose for a few minutes before you ask her. Some experts do believe it really can help increase your confidence. If you are feeling very doubtful that the girl even thinks of you, ask a friend to talk to her about you. Unless she adamantly says that she is completely not attracted to you, do not let her answer influence your decision too much. She may not think of you too much because you have never been confident enough to talk to her. Be sure that it is a friend you can trust. You do not want your friend to ruin your chances with the girl by making you sound creepy or invasive. The friend should be able to subtly bring you up in a conversation in order to gauge her opinion of you. The girl may respect this less than you simply asking for her number. It can help you gain confidence, but it also adds unnecessary stress to this fairly small situation. Just because you have a girl's number, it does not mean that you are going out with the girl. Asking for her number is merely a way to stay in closer contact with her to hopefully build a relationship in the future. This should also help give you confidence and decrease the intimidation factor of asking for a girl's number. While the implication is that you are interested, it does not need to mean anything more than that right away.
A: Understand that she could say "no. Try to psych yourself up to ask her. Try sending a friend to talk to her and gauge her interest. Understand that asking for her number is not a marriage proposal.

Q: Once you've evaluated the relationship, and had a frank talk with your boyfriend, you need to take some of your power back. Do not make decisions out of fear of your boyfriend's reaction. Decide what you need to do for yourself and your own sense of fulfillment. Reassert your boundaries when necessary. If your boyfriend gives you a hard time about answering a text in front him, say something like, "We talked about this. It's important I have my space and you need to respect that." Be ready to walk away from the relationship if things don't change. In cases of emotional abuse especially, it's important to get away from the situation. If you've concluded the relationship is emotionally abusive, end it. It's very important you not subject yourself to more bad treatment, and it's unlikely an abusive partner will ever change. Periods of normal behavior, in which your partner compromises and treats you well, are cyclical. Eventually, the abuse will occur again and periods of normalcy tend to get shorter as time goes by. If you end an obsessive or abusive relationship, it's normal to suffer feelings of low self worth in the aftermath. A good way to counteract such negative thoughts is through seeking out people who value you as a person. Seek the support of friends and family members who care about you and want to see you successful and happy. Find your most supportive friends. Connect with people who are positive and care about who you are. Have people you can share your passions with. If you're a writer, for example, host a small workshop with your friends where you share one another's work. It's important, in the aftermath of an obsessive relationship, to be around people who support you and want you to succeed. Whether or not you choose to stay with your boyfriend, it's important you seek the help of a therapist. Individual counseling or couple's counseling can help you sort through relationship issues and learn coping techniques. You can find a therapist through your insurance or you can get a referral from your existing doctor. If you're a student, you may be entitled to free counseling through your university.
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Take your power back. End a relationship that is abusive. Find people who value you. Seek the help of a therapist.