If you are having difficulty forgiving someone and it is impacting your life in a negative way, perhaps it is time to seek professional help from a counselor or therapist. Therapies intended to promote forgiveness have been successful in helping people overcome past hurts and achieve peace and resolution. Obtain a referral or suggestion from your physician, health insurance company, or a trusted family member or friend. However, if that is not feasible, contact your local department of mental health about counseling options. If you feel you and your therapist are not a good fit, look for a different therapist. Every therapist is different and finding one with whom you feel comfortable is essential. Try a therapist who practices cognitive behavioral therapy. Your therapist will help examine and dispel the negative thought patterns that you have developed. Consider spiritual counseling. Many people find comfort in seeking help from spiritual leaders who can guide them toward forgiveness. The power of prayer has been successful toward healing and alleviating feelings of guilt and shame, which are motivators for people seeking forgiveness for various reason. Commit to changing your behavior. In both psychotherapy and physical therapy, you will benefit from setting goals. Engage in the process by allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable. Don't abandon the process just because it gets difficult. Your hard work will pay off and leave you with a healthy sense of accomplishment. Identify your objectives. For example, would you like to feel more at peace toward a family member who betrayed you? Tell the therapist that this is one of your goals. Reward yourself when you reach your goal. Your motivation will increase if you reward your accomplishments. Adjust your objectives rather than give up. Continue to make new goals as it will keep you engaged in life. Surround yourself with people who care about you. This includes family, friends, and co-workers. Branch out and meet new people to expand your circle of support. You have learned so much through the therapeutic process that you feel resourceful and confident. A good support system will help you reduce stress and may even boost your immune system. Exploring your interests may lead to joining groups that allow you to meet new people, and experience new situations. Personal struggles can leave you feeling bad about yourself. You may feel guilty for not taking care of yourself in a situation or you unfairly blame yourself for what happened. You can learn to manage feelings of guilt and shame rather than try to eliminate them. If you have chosen to participate in cognitive behavior therapy, it will help you examine your thoughts and develop new more effective ways of thinking about yourself.
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One-sentence summary -- Find a therapist if you're struggling to cope. Set therapeutic goals for yourself. Enhance your support system. Forgive and accept yourself.

Q: Even though the word "cancer" can strike fear in us the moment we hear it, skin cancer is actually one of the most curable forms of cancer. When caught early, it can oftentimes be removed with no long-term ramifications. The key to curability depends on both the specific type of skin cancer, as well as the time-frame in which it is noticed and excised by a physician. If the skin cancer is either a precursor lesion (a precancerous growth), a "squamous cell carcinoma," or a "basal cell carcinoma," it can most likely be removed and cured. These are types of cancers or pre-cancers that, when caught early, rarely cause long-term consequences. Melanoma, on the other hand, is the most dangerous form of skin cancer. Although it is the least common diagnosis, it is the leading cause of death from skin cancer, and the fastest one to metastasize (spread) to other areas of the body. Fortunately, with early identification, many melanomas can be noticed, excised, and effectively "cured" as well; however, the risk is certainly higher with this subtype and thus of greater concern. When you see your doctor and show them your skin lesion, they will evaluate it and may recommend biopsying (taking a sample of) or excising (completely cutting out) any lesions that are potential cancers. If your doctor recommends a biopsy or excision, they will most likely send you to a medical specialist (a dermatologist, who specializes in skin concerns) to undergo the procedure. A biopsy is done if the purpose is to gather more information i.e. if the goal is to determine the specific diagnosis of the skin lesion, and to assess whether or not it is a cause for concern. There are a variety of ways to perform a biopsy; all can be done easily in your doctor's office. An excision is done if the goal is to completely remove the lesion due to a sufficiently high level of suspicion. Generally, skin lesions can be excised using only local anesthetic (local freezing injected in the surrounding skin with a small needle so that you won't feel any pain). It is a procedure that can most often be completed within one office visit, without needing to go to a hospital. If the lesion is smaller, another option is that your doctor may try "cryotherapy," which uses liquid nitrogen to kill the cancerous or pre-cancerous cells; however, this can only be used for lesions that are small and shallow (i.e. that do not penetrate the skin layers too deeply, otherwise the liquid nitrogen is ineffective). If you have had a skin lesion excised by a doctor, know that they will examine the piece of skin under a microscope after it has been removed. What the doctors are specifically looking for under the microscope is whether or not the margins (i.e. the borders) are "clear." If the margins are "clear," meaning that they show no cancerous cells, then you and your doctor can take confidence knowing that all of the pathological cells have been removed. On the other hand, if the margins show cancerous cells, it indicates risk that the cancer has spread to other parts of your body and may not have been completely "cured." If the margins show cancerous cells, your doctor will speak to you about how best to proceed, and what further forms of treatment (such as chemotherapy) may be needed to give you the best chance of a complete cure. When surgeons or dermatologist remove suspicious spots, they will generally remove at least 1 cm of normal tissue. This helps ensure removal of all cancerous cell.
A: Understand that most skin cancers are easily curable. Biopsy or excise any worrisome lesions. Evaluate the "margins" after excision.

Article: Use a mop and warm water to wet your tile flooring before using cleaning agents. Tile is porous and will absorb the water to prevent chemicals from penetrating the tile. You can loosen tough dirt before wetting the floor with a broom, or after the floor is wet using a plastic pot scrubber. Fill a bucket with warm water and a couple of drops of dish soap. Scrub the floor with a nylon or natural bristle brush. You can leave the cleaning solution on the floor for ten to fifteen minutes, as long as it you don't let it dry on the tile. After scrubbing, rinse the flooring twice, if possible with plain water. Dry the flooring with terry cloth towels, if needed. If soap and water haven't worked, try a household or commercial floor cleaner intended for ceramic tile. Find an inconspicuous area and make a small test spot with the cleaner. Use acid-based or chemical cleaner with caution, only if necessary and always following the manufacturer's instructions. Make sure to thoroughly pre-wet the floor first, and completely rinse it afterwards. Acid-based cleaner may be necessary to remove lime or cement mortar staining. Never use abrasive cleaners like powdered cleansing agents, baking soda or even creams advertised as "mildly" abrasive. These can damage the tile's surface and design. Fill a bucket with an ounce of Murphy Oil Soap, 1/2 cup white vinegar, and two gallons of warm water. Dip a toothbrush or other narrow brush into the bucket and gently scrub the grout. Avoid the tiling as much as possible. Since some contact with the tile is inevitable, perform a test first in a small area. Allow the diluted cleaner to air dry on the grout.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Pre-wet the floor. Scrub mold or mildew with soap and water. Rinse the tiles. Test the floor before using any chemical or acid cleaner. Brighten the grout.