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Whether law dictates that you return, retain, or recover the ring from your ex, you should obey the ruling immediately in order to avoid further fines or sanctions. If you need to return the ring, take it to your lawyer's office so that they can hand it over in a timely and professional manner. If you need to get the ring back from your ex, have your lawyer or a mutual friend make the hand-off in order to avoid emotional, messy scenes. No matter how the issue was decided, you should allow yourself time to reflect on the lost relationship which the engagement ring symbolized. Many psychologists argue that this process resembles the grieving process one endures after a death, so don't underestimate the emotional toll this stage can take. If you find yourself so depressed that you don't leave the house, have trouble sustaining normal eating patterns, or fixating on your ex in unhealthy ways, seek professional help from a therapist, counselor, or psychiatrist. You might feel like crawling into a corner and licking your wounds in the aftermath of your painful breakup, but try to resist this impulse to isolation. Studies have shown that meaningful social support such as close friends and family can mitigate a number of the adverse effects of stressfor example, lowering the hike in blood pressure and buffering damage to the cardiovascular and nervous systemas well as accelerate the healing process. Make a special effort to spend time doing things you love with the people you love. A simple afternoon movie with friends or potluck dinner can provide immeasurable emotional comfort while distracting you from the pain of your breakup. Try not to bottle up your emotions. No matter how difficult it may be, try to find a way to process your emotions. For some people, this may involve talking to family and friends, but if this is difficult for you, you may want to find a creative outlet, such as journaling or drawing. Giving yourself time to feel sad and damaged from the broken engagement will eventually help you to find closure in the future. Experts describe this process as one where you soak in the feelings of loneliness and pain in order to let go of them later. Once you're ready, you can forgive your ex-fiancee and yourself for the breakup, which will also contribute to a sense of closure. Some experts even suggest a kind of ceremony when you feel ready to let the engagement go. You can invite a bunch of friends and have a raucous ex-engagement party, or you can organize a smaller, contemplative ritual kind of like a funeral for your relationship. If you've ended up as the rightful owner of the ring, you need to decide what you want to do with this token of your past relationship. In order to make this decision, though, you need to figure out how you feel about the ring and what it symbolizes to you. Ask yourself what emotions you experience when you look at the ring and what you would lose if you relinquished it. For example, if you remain friends with your ex and remain strongly attached to the ring, you might want to keep the ring as a keepsake or alter it into another piece of jewelry. If you still like the ring but associate it with painful and even traumatic memories, you should probably get rid of it.
Comply with the court's ruling. Process your emotions regarding the resolution. Rely on your support system. Find closure from time and forgiveness. Decide what the ring means to you.