INPUT ARTICLE: Article: If you don't love yourself, your lack of confidence and self-esteem may bleed into the interactions you have with your husband. Confidence is an attractive quality, and conversely, a lack of confidence can make you seem unattractive. Tell yourself that you are sexy, attractive, and interesting. Focus on your favorite qualities about yourself, and remember that your husband fell in love with you for a good reason. Speaking confidently and having a confident, upright posture will help you demonstrate your self-esteem. If you are unable to remove the negative thoughts you have about yourself, consider taking up practices like meditation or therapy for a little extra help. Being able to care for yourself emotionally can help you maintain a more positive attitude. If you depend on your husband completely, you are more likely to feel critical when your husband fails to make you feel better. This criticism could push him further away. In order to work on being your own person, you can: Spend time with your close friends and family Work on a hobby Take a class in something you are interested in Don't take your husband for granted. Value the time you spend together, and seek out quality time with him. Schedule dates or other ways to check in throughout the day. Talk to one another on the phone, Skype, or text at least once a day in order to display that he is in your thoughts. It can be hard to focus on a marriage when you have kids, careers, homes, and other responsibilities. Be sure that you don't have too much on your plate if you want to concentrate on attracting your husband. If you find the stress building up, find someone who can help share the load. This will also help reduce the likelihood of nagging, which is a buzzkill. You could: Ask your husband to do more chores Ask a friend to help you out around the house Hire a babysitter to give you some relief Use a cleaning service to take care of chores at home Remaining curious about your husband is key to revitalizing your marriage. Don't act like he is predictable or boring: tell yourself there is always more to learn about him. Ask him to talk about his life, emotions, and experiences in order to grow your relationship and your attraction to one another. Don't keep your emotions a secret from your husband. Tell him what you are thinking and feeling. Don't be ashamed if you need extra support. Be honest and tell yourself that sharing your emotions is key to growing and developing a marriage rooted in mutual attraction. As you grow older, you might start treating life with a greater degree of seriousness than you did as a young newlywed. Be serious when seriousness is called for, but make sure that you still know how to laughand make sure your husband knows that you can still laugh, too. In order to keep your sense of humor alive in your marriage, you can: Develop inside jokes Go to a live comedy show Rent a funny movie Let go of your inhibitions and act goofy or silly sometimes Show him that you still find him attractive. He will be more attracted to you in turn. There is nothing more attractive than being seen by others as attractive. In order to show your husband how attractive he is, you can: Tell your husband how much you love him Flirt with him Make eye contact Compliment his appearance and personality Initiate sex Pay attention to your husband's needs and desires. Give him emotional and physical support when he's feeling low, even if he isn't honest about needing that support. Make sure your husband can feel love emanating from you through the sort of treatment you give him. Take an interest in his interests. You don't need to force yourself to love everything he feels passionately about, but encourage him to talk to you about his passions by being an active listener. Do something special for him every once in a while. Plan a surprise party on his birthday or cook his favorite meal. Offer to pack him a lunch or give him a shoulder massage after an especially long, tiresome day at work. Show sympathy if he is having a hard time. You might be tempted to think that making your husband jealous will cause him to come rushing to your side. However, this sort of thinking backfires more often than not. Attract your husband with your honesty and care, not with dangerous games. Don't let problems in your marriage fester. Talk through your conflicts and problems in order to clear the air. If your husband seems distant or withdrawn, sit down with him and talk about what the problem is. Once everything is brought out into the open, the two of you can figure out how to make things better together. Understand that problems in your marriage might have nothing to do with you. If your husband no longer finds you attractive, there could be a medical problem behind it, or there can be something going on with him psychologically, spiritually, or emotionally that you have no control over.

SUMMARY: Project self-confidence. Be your own person. Stay connected. Get help with chores when you're stressed out. Ask your husband questions about himself. Talk about your feelings. Laugh together. Demonstrate your attraction to your husband. Be supportive. Don't play games. Resolve conflicts quickly.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: You dog acts in a specific way because of an expected reward - whether it be food, play, or attention. When a dog behaves badly, think about what it gets out of it in terms of a reward and then make sure the reward does not happen. Unfortunately, to the canine mind attention is a huge addictive reward which means shouting at your dog or telling him off is only rewarding the bad behavior. Any action can have three possible outcomes: a pleasant one, an uncertain one, or an unpleasant one. What matters is the dog's response to those outcomes. Each outcome evokes a different response. The pleasant outcome, means the behavior is likely to be repeated An indifferent outcome, means the dog may or may not repeat the behavior An unpleasant outcome means the dog is less likely to repeat the behavior. Now when you realize that shouting or chastisement is a reward, it puts a whole different complexion on reacting to bad behavior you are making the problem worse not better. Dogs live in the moment. If your dog chews up your favorite shoe and you don't punish him immediately, your dog won't learn his lesson. If your mother comes home later, discovers the destroyed shoe, and slaps the dog, he will link the punishment to the owner who came home and for no reason slapped him. Thus he becomes wary of the owner. The dog learns nothing about the inherent evils of shoe chewing. Punishment isn't clear for dogs oftentimes. If you catch the dog in the act of chewing a shoe, and tell him off immediately, once again he might simply link the punishment to the owner rather than to the inanimate object he's destroyed. Remember that your dog is a creature of habit. Determine if your dog is boredom or anxious. Boredom and a surplus of energy can turn a normally well-behaved dog into a delinquent. Make sure he has plenty of regular exercise and plenty of opportunity to express physical energy chasing and running. This leaves him happily content when he gets back home and less likely to get up to mischief. If your dog is destructive when you're out, consider that he might be anxious or bored in your absence. Try giving him a toy that will consume his attention for 20 to 30 minutes such as a Kong stuffed with dog food. In hot weather, stuff the Kong and pop it in the freezer overnight, so that he gets a cooling dog-food ice pop to keep his mind occupied whilst your out. The chances are if he gets over the initial half an hour without noticing you're gone then he's more likely to settle down for a nap afterwards.

SUMMARY:
Understand that your dog learns by trial and error. Understand that your dog makes direct connections. Think about your dog's routine.