During the brainstorming session, you'll need to be capable of letting some ideas go. You won't be able to fit everything you want to say into one speech, so don't try to give a detailed biography of your grandparent's entire life. Think about specific memories of your grandparent: times you spent together, occasions that strike you as being definitive of your grandparent's personality, and so on. Write everything down, and don't feel obligated to include everything that makes the list. Ask yourself what qualities best describe your grandparent. Consider what set your grandparent apart from anyone else you know. If your grandparent had certain hobbies or passions in life, you may want to mention those. But there's no need to make these the focus of your eulogy, as it should be primarily about the departed's role as your grandparent. The focus of your eulogy should be on how the departed was a caring grandparent in your life. But that doesn't mean you can't open up to other people who knew your grandparent. Asking your parents or aunts/uncles about their relationship with your grandparent might be a good place to start. You could even ask any close friends of your grandparent what their favorite memories are of your grandparent. It might help give you some ideas on how other people knew your grandparent, and why your grandparent was important to people outside your family. When speaking with others about your grandparent, you may want to consider asking how and when they first met your grandparent (if there is no familial relation), what their favorite memories are with your grandparent, and what your grandparent's best qualities were. The answers may vary greatly from your own list if the person was a friend rather than a relative of your grandparent, which can help you open your eulogy to include how others saw your grandparent. As you comb over the memories you have of your grandparent, look for moments that characterize your grandparent best. Did he/she ever say or do something that has always made you think, "That's the essence of my grandparent"? It doesn't need to be a huge, life-changing moment. Often the best illuminating memories of a person are the little things they said or did, the day-to-day qualities that contribute to the person's identity and personality. As you begin writing down your memories, focus on writing a series of little truths. Avoid the big, sweeping declarations and focus on the little details that defined your grandparent or your relationship with your grandparent. Don't just write that your grandparent was caring. Write out a specific memory that will illustrate your grandparent's caring nature. If your grandparent had a wonderful sense of humor, don't just say he/she was funny. Write about his/her humor, perhaps a time your grandparent played a practical joke or told a funny story. Remember that not everyone has the same memories of your grandparent that you have. Your eulogy should illustrate for everyone at the funeral what your relationship was like, and what the departed was like as a grandparent.

Summary: Brainstorm and plan. Ask about other people's memories. Look for illuminating memories. Be concrete.

If you suspect that you have a urinary tract infection, call your doctor right away. Don't ignore it if left untreated, the infection can spread to the blood stream, which can develop into a more serious potentially life-threatening situation. Your doctor will need to get a urine sample and perform a culture to be certain that it is a UTI and not something else. Some common symptoms of a UTI include: Feeling a burning sensation when you go to the bathroom Having the urge to urinate often, even if little or nothing comes out Feeling pain or pressure in your back and/or lower abdomen Producing cloudy, dark, bloody, and/or strange-smelling urine Feeling tired and/or shaky Having a fever and/or chills Confusion (in older adults) If your doctor diagnoses you with a urinary tract infection, then you will need to follow your doctor's treatment plan to ensure a quick and full recovery. Your doctor may prescribe anti-biotics, recommend a certain fluid intake, or advise against certain activities. In some cases, a UTI may not respond to treatment and may require a more aggressive treatment or even hospitalization. Some people are more susceptible to UTIs and may get one after another. Let your doctor know right away if your symptoms do not improve or if they get worse.

Summary: Call your doctor if you have symptoms of a urinary tract infection. Follow your doctor's instructions for care. Notify your doctor if your symptoms return or worsen.

Privacy is a must for this type of conversation. Pick a time and location that will allow you to carry on a long, uninterrupted discussion. You will most likely be better off having this conversation at home in your living room than in a public setting such as a restaurant or cafe. Try not to choose a time when your spouse is already stressed, such as right after he or she gets off of work. You may also want to check with your partner to be sure that the time and place you are considering for this conversation will work for him or her. Try telling your spouse that you have something important that you want to discuss and ask when he or she would like to talk. For example, you might say, "I have something important that I need to talk to you about and I want to make sure that we will have enough time. When would be good for you?" If you've decided to come clean, now is the time for the truth. Even if your partner asks painful questions, complete candidness is necessary. Try to be as straightforward as possible and do not leave out any details. You may think that leaving out some of the details of your affair may be a good idea, but only offering up a partial confession will end up making you feel worse. For example, if you cheated on your partner multiple times, then a partial confession would be telling your spouse that you only cheated once. . While you have a lot to get off your chest, your mate will probably want to say some things as well. Avoid talking over him or her and simply listen. Showing respect for their thoughts and feelings will go a long way towards repairing the relationship. Show that you are listening by leaning towards your partner and maintaining eye contact. Remove all distractions to avoid interruptions. Turn off your phone, TV, laptop, etc. Don't interrupt your partner when he or she is talking. Listen until he or she finishes saying what he or she has to say. Rephrase what your partner has just said to show that you were listening. For example, you can start by saying something like, "If I am understanding correctly, it sounds like you are saying"
Summary: Choose an appropriate time and place. Consider your spouse's schedule and preferences. Stick with the truth. Listen to your spouse