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How to stand on a skateboard
Decide whether you would be more comfortable riding regular or goofy.
There are two common stances used in skateboarding: regular and goofy. In a regular stance, the left foot is situated at the front of the board, whereas in a goofy stance the right foot is up front.

OPTIONS:
- The goofy stance is for your body to push off the board. Goofy stance means for the board to swing back.
- Determine which stance is more natural for you by considering whether you're right or left handed. Most right handed skaters ride in a regular stance.
- The former styles are especially comfortable for skateboarders. However, for a goofy stance, the front foot is usually right at the edge of the board.
- On straight forward piston style, the left foot is on the ground and the right foot is on the deck. In a goofy stance, the front foot is on the ground and the back foot is on the deck.

OUT: Determine which stance is more natural for you by considering whether you're right or left handed. Most right handed skaters ride in a regular stance.

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How to have the courage to speak up
Stop feeling guilty.
Speaking up for yourself may cause you to step out of your comfort zone. You may feel leery about doing so because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

OPTIONS:
- However, if you look out for your well-being, while still being respectful towards others, you have every right to take care of your needs. When you say " no " to someone, don't focus on what you said no to, but instead think about what you said yes to.
- You may fear you will hurt others in the future if you speak out. However, no one cares what happens in the future.
- It is important to stand back and ask yourself why you did something so you can take responsibility for your actions. Determine what you wish you could change about yourself.
- The reality is, not everything you tell yourself is 100% true. Reacting in a negative way can lead to feelings of depression or self-doubt later.

OUT: However, if you look out for your well-being, while still being respectful towards others, you have every right to take care of your needs. When you say " no " to someone, don't focus on what you said no to, but instead think about what you said yes to.

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How to get over resentment
Understand your emotions.
Be honest with yourself in confronting the emotions surrounding the situation. Ask yourself whether this resentment is associated with any other past hurt, not related to the person or situation.

OPTIONS:
- There is no right or wrong way to feel. Try to identify which feelings you do not enjoy or which ones you would like to.
- This will allow you to get past the emotions. For example, some people often become emotionally defensive when their partner wronged them.
- Acknowledge your anger or feelings of indignation, but don't get stuck in them. Anger can sometimes feel like a remedy for feeling powerless: it makes you feel more powerful.
- You may want to address the emotions however, in addition to what you are feeling. If you are feeling really bad, anger might be the main emotion to address.

OUT:
Acknowledge your anger or feelings of indignation, but don't get stuck in them. Anger can sometimes feel like a remedy for feeling powerless: it makes you feel more powerful.