INPUT ARTICLE: Article: The classic date is to spend a nice meal together with her. Pick her up in your car and drive her to the restaurant. Open the doors for her. This is a great moment to ask her questions, and have lively conversation. Look at her eyes as you are speaking and listening. Compliment her on that nice dress she is wearing. Do not go out to places like movie theaters until at least your second date. For a first date you aren't looking at each other, and there isn't a chance to talk to one another. When it comes to later dates, movies can be fun experiences and give you guys something to talk about. Bring her some flowers right when you walk up to her at the door. It's a great kick-starter, and will start your date out tremendously. First dates are usually never times to inquire about sex. However, you should hold her hand, perhaps during dinner, or the car ride back home. An older girl may make the first move herself, but you want to exude confidence. After you get her back home, walk her to her front door. Kiss her on the lips good night. As you are kissing her, move your hand behind her head. A first kiss good night should only last about 5-6 seconds. You do not want to make the situation awkward, or make her feel as if you want more. Do not simply peck her on the lips or cheek. Use a little bit of tongue and show that you feel something for her. She will want more, and will be more open to dates in the future. Know that an older girl may be further along sexually, and she may have had more experience in this area than you. Decide upon your level of intimacy as you get to know her better. If you are not ready for further advancement, be upfront about it. If you are willing, go with the flow. Listen to her needs, and feel free to express your desires. Remember that older girls are mature, and will want to practice safe sex. Always have a condom ready in case the moment is right. Open, honest relationships are built on a good sex life. If you can't be happy here, the relationship probably isn't going anywhere. Spend time before and after sex teasing and cuddling. This gets the other partner in the mood, and shows you that you are mature. While the differential will always there, it is best not to stress over it. In the end, age differences do not mean very much. Relax, get to know her, and pursue the relationship like you would any other. Don;t listen to other people who don't understand the relationship you have. A mature man is there at all points for his girlfriend. That means when she is happy, laughing, and when she is sad, and unstable. Prove to the older girl that you are mature, and won't walk out on her. Continue to buy her flowers, bring her chocolate, and buy her cards. It can be a bit cliche at times, but it actually works. Every day that you are away, make sure you tell her that you love her.

SUMMARY: Take her out to a nice restaurant. Begin moves towards physical contact. Prepare yourself for deeper levels of intimacy. Don't stress over the age difference. Continue to remind your girlfriend you love her.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Before you can forgive yourself completely, you first need to acknowledge your actions. It may help to write down your actions that you have strong feelings about. This will help pinpoint concrete examples of why you have negative feelings about yourself. One way to be honest to yourself is to accept the consequences of your actions. If you have done or said something wrong, you need to own the action before forgiving yourself for it. One way to achieve this is by letting go of stress. The more stress you hold inside of you, the more damage you do to yourself. Stress can sometimes lead you to releasing your anger out and harm yourself and others around you, but if you forgive yourself the anger will be gone and the bad stuff will be gone. The result is that you are more concentrated and better about the positive instead of the negative. Accepting responsibility is one thing, but understanding the emotions behind is another thing. Feeling strong emotions like guilt is not only common, but also good. Feeling guilt will encourage you to take action for yourself and others. . You may be feeling guilty over your own thoughts. You may have thoughts of wishing pain or misfortune on others. You may feel things like lust or greed. If you are overwhelmed by these guilty feelings, know that they are common. Your guilt may stem from these strong emotions; it is best to confront them and acknowledge why you are feeling this way. Only by doing this may you move on to forgiving yourself. You may be judging yourself (or others) too harshly out of guilt. You may be taking out your feelings on yourself and others, making you feel guilty for your actions. You may blame others out of insecurities and increase the feeling of guilt. If you find yourself blaming others, take a step back and acknowledge why you say these things. It may help you on the path to self-forgiveness. You may be taking on guilt because of another's action. It is not uncommon for a couple to feel guilt over his/her significant other's actions. You might feel guilty over a spouse's actions or insecurities. You should identify why you feel this way to realize if you should forgive yourself or another person. Before you can forgive yourself, you must identify what it is you value and what it is you believe. Take a moment to think about how you might atone for what you feel guilty for. Think about how you might make an actual difference. These actions may be based on a spiritual belief system, or based on societal demands. One way to forgive yourself for feelings of inadequacies to is to identify what you need in your life versus what you want. Identify both concrete needs - such as shelter, food, and social needs - and compare them with concrete wants - nicer car, bigger house, nicer body. Identifying these needs vs. wants may help you realize that perhaps you were too hard on yourself or perhaps things are out of your control.

SUMMARY:
Be honest with yourself about your actions. Stop rationalizing, and start taking responsibility for what you say and do. Accept the guilt that you are feeling. Identify self-values and self-beliefs. Analyze your needs versus your wants.