INPUT ARTICLE: Article: It doesn't matter how long you have been together, there will always be things you don't know about one another. What's more, relationships are hard work, as you both grow and change over time, so will your relationship. Making assumptions can be self-limiting and prevent the growth of the relationship. How do you know when you are making them? Spotting an assumption is not always easy, but, generally, you are probably making an assumption when you feel rejected, neglected, hurt, or have an urge to lash out or blame your partner for something. Instead of assuming you know anything about your partner, make an effort to ask questions and maintain an open dialogue with one another. Emotions can be a major roadblock to compromise. When you feel upset or angry with your spouse, you might fight him or her on an issue that's not even very important to you. Check yourself during a disagreement to see what's really driving you. Are you truly invested in this issue or are you just disagreeing to prove a point? If you don't feel strongly about the issueand your partner doesrelent in order to claim a win for the relationship. Don't let your emotions divide the two of you. For example, your spouse got a promotion that required a big move and you're feeling resentful about having to leave your group of friends in the area. You might fight your spouse on the issue despite knowing that the move would mean more income for the household. Instead of standing in the way of progress with resentment, let your feelings be known. Tell your spouse "I'm really sad about having to leave behind my good friends. Will there be room in the budget for me to visit them a few times a year?" Sometimes the tone of your voice can skew your intended message and cause your spouse to put his or her defenses up. Couples often find that it's not always what you say, but how you say it, that matters. Starting a tense conversation off with a soft, warm tone can make all the difference in how your spouse reacts. Try this: When you have something important to say, take a deep breath before initiating the conversation. Use "I" statements that minimize blame, such as "I feel angry when you" and use a friendly, affectionate tone. Refrain from using sarcasm or accusations that push the discussion into a bad place. Compromise is all about willingly seeing things from your spouse's perspective and working to find a middle ground. If you remain close-minded or rigid in your own point-of-view, you reduce the likelihood of reaching a peaceful resolution.

SUMMARY: Don't assume anything. Check your motivations. Watch your tone. Keep an open mind.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Checking it all the time will give off the impression that you would rather be somewhere else. It's fine to pull out your phone to show them something related to the conversation, but don't rely on your phone when you have nothing to talk about. Remember that there's a lot more to a person than their appearance, and everyone appreciates compliments about their personality, intelligence, and sense of humor. Do not compliment them on the sexual parts of their body on the first date, since it will make it seem like you're there with one goal in mind. Do not "neg" your date. Backhanded compliments like "You look a lot like my little sister, she's in middle school!" or "You're such a dork, but at least you're cute!" will hurt your date's feelings and drive them away from you. Don't overdo it with the genuine compliments. Two or three throughout the whole course of the date should suffice, since more can come off as a demand for reciprocation. Looking deeply into their eyes and nodding as they talk will show that you're a good listener. However, don't stare at them, and make sure you spend some time looking elsewhere every once in awhile. Ask about their job or hobbies to get the conversation rolling, and then follow up with questions about things you find interesting. For example, if they say that they went to school for psychology, ask what their favorite class was. Don't let the conversation end with "oh, that's cool" over and over. Don't talk about yourself the whole time, as it can be seen as arrogant or self-centered. Don't ask questions about previous relationships. It will make it seem like you're comparing yourself to her past romantic interests, which comes off as insecure and annoying. Similarly, don't talk about your ex-partners, as it may cause them to compare themselves to people they don't even know! A person who is uncomfortable will look down a lot, hold their arms close to their body or touch their face and neck, and shuffle around in their seat. If you're talking and they looks uncomfortable, that's your cue to switch the topic to something more positive, like music, movies, or hobbies. Current events can be a great conversation starter, but being too negative or trying to show off your worldly knowledge will not impress your date. If you talk about the news, tell them about uplifting stories by starting the conversation with "Hey, did you hear about?" Contribute a personal story that's related to what you were talking about only after your date is done speaking. Interrupting to tell your own story can be seen as trying to one-up them, which will make them feel small and like their story wasn't worth telling. It's impressive if you can recall something they said a long time ago and work it into the conversation. For example, if they said they like hockey and you're trying to think of things to do, offer to take them to a hockey game.

SUMMARY: Put away your phone. Compliment them genuinely and kindly. Make eye contact, especially if they're talking. Ask them questions about themselves. Avoid sensitive topics like family issues, religion, and politics. Listen closely when they talk.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: After completing the quest, talk to the Jarl in Dragonsreach. He will inform you that a home is now available for purchase, and point you towards Proventus Avenicci. You can usually find him near the throne in Dragonsreach. If he's not there, he's either in his bedroom or dining in the Great Porch. If you haven't purchased the house by the time you start the "Battle for Whiterun" quest for the Stormcloaks, you'll be required to purchase the house afterwards from Brill in Dragonsreach. Proventus will sell you the house if you can cough up the 5000 Gold payment. If you don't have the cash yet, raid a few nearby dungeons and sell the loot off to the merchants in Whiterun. Your house will be pretty bare when you first purchase it, but you can add additional furniture and decorations by purchasing them from Proventus. When you purchase additional furnishings, they will be delivered to your house automatically. You can purchase furnishings by the room. For example, furnishing your Living Room will provide 2 Weapon Racks, 1 Bookshelf, 1 Cupboard, 1 Small Table, and 2 Small Chairs. Furnishing the bedroom will provide 3 End Tables, 1 Dresser, 1 Table, 1 Chest, 2 Chairs, 1 Shield Plaque. After purchasing your home, you'll receive the key and can start using it. The house is called "Breezehome", and you can find it to the east of "Warmaiden's" just inside the western gates of Whiterun.

SUMMARY:
Talk to the Jarl. Find Proventus Avenicci in Whiterun. Purchase the house for 5000 Gold. Purchase furnishings from Proventus. Find your new house.