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This is likely to occur pretty early on in the relationship, or at least one of you might be thinking about it. It's important to spell out what you don't want and what you might be open to. You might be embarrassed, and it might feel somehow un-sexy, but the more you communicate about it, the easier things will be in the long run. It's less than ideal to interrupt with ground rules during a makeout session. If things are going too fast, though, don't be afraid to tell your partner that you're not comfortable. It's more important to be safe. It's okay to say, "I don't want to go this fast right now. Can we go back to what we were doing before and talk about it later?" If you think that you want to go further and your partner hasn't shown any signs one way or the other, you should bring this up as well. It's okay to be matter-of-fact: "I'm interested in having sex in the future, but I don't want to go faster than you're comfortable with. What are your feelings about having sex?" If you are both on the same page and want to have sex, make sure that you use proper protection . This can mean condoms, dental dams and birth control in some cases. If one of you has had sexual partners before, they should get an STD test at a local clinic. If something that they do bothers you, don't let it fester. No one is a mind-reader, and might be surprised at how difficult it is to tell what you are thinking. Try to be open about your feelings. If you think that your partner cares more about hanging out with friends than spending time with you, don't immediately accuse them of neglecting you. Instead, try to find a way for your partner to do what they want while still meeting your needs. For example, "We haven't hung out much this week. Can we have a date on Saturday?" You should be able to disagree about small things without fighting. If anyone is trying to control what the other person thinks or does, it can quickly become an abusive relationship. You should never be afraid of what your partner thinks. You should not be dating anyone you do not respect. This is why the friends stage is so important-- you have to think about your partner as a person, not just as a romantic object. Listen to your partner. If you're dismissing things that they do and calling them stupid, you aren't respecting them. If you make fun of them to your friends, or don't defend them to your friends, you aren't respecting them. If your partner forces you to do something that you do not want to do, emotionally or physically, you should end your relationship immediately. You deserve someone who respects you and your free will. Search for things that you respect about your partner-- look for talents they might have, and try to notice when they've worked hard on something. When you say, "I really admire your ability to work hard on x", or "I've never seen someone so great at x", your partner will notice, and by searching, you will see them as more capable too. Everyone needs alone time, or time to spend with other people. If you become intensely jealous or possessive of your partner's time, they might start to feel trapped and controlled. If it makes you uncomfortable that your partner is spending time with someone, it might be best to just tell them how you feel. For example, "I get jealous when you spend so much time talking to this person. I just need a reminder that you aren't interested in anybody else."
Establish ground rules for sex. Communicate with your partner. Respect them. Trust them.