Q: after every shooting. To keep your shotgun in good working condition, you'll need to follow this process after you're through shooting every time. The powder and the grease from the gun can build up, causing malfunctions in no time. A dirty shotgun is a dangerous shotgun. Clean it. Follow the instructions in your owner's manual to break the gun down. If you've got a break action shotgun, you just need to let the gun hinge open and you can clean the gun that way. For a pump action gun, you'll at least need to remove the barrel to clean it. Use an aerosol degreaser or solvent designed for guns. Don't use this on any areas with moving parts, like the trigger assembly, but spray a coating of this into the barrel and into the choke tubes. Using a rag and a rod to push it through is fine, or you can purchase a Boresnake barrel cleaning device made for the purpose. Make sure the rag or the snake don't snag on anything and leave little cloth chunks in the barrel. These will get very dirty, taking the brunt of most of the powder grime that builds up on the gun. Use a rifle brush or an old toothbrush with a little bit of aerosol cleaner sprayed directly onto it. With a clean cloth, spot check for any powder or dirt spots that need scrubbing, and wipe the gun down of any excess aerosol spray.
A: Clean the gun Break the gun into its primary parts. Degrease the gun. Swab the barrel. Scrub the chokes. Wipe the gun down.

Q: After both you and your mom have gotten some distance from the fight, seek her out to apologize. By now, you should have a new level of appreciation for her position as your parent. Go to your mom and ask if now is a good time to talk (being mindful of the HALT states). If she welcomes you to talk, start by saying you're sorry. Use one or two of those behaviors you identified as wrong to verbalize your apology. It might sound like this, "I am sorry I waited until the last minute to tell you about the money I needed for school." Next, include a remedy to the issue. The remedy might sound like, "I will try to give you advanced notice in the future when I need money for school things." Express to your mom that, after some deep thinking, you realized that you were inconsiderate or inappropriate during the fight. Give her a few points about the things you noted about your own behavior that were not helpful to the argument. Your mom will probably be astounded that you took the time to consider her perspective. She may even view you as more mature. Talking back, having an attitude, or refusing to listen can come off as disrespectful to your mom. Even if you don't think you did any of these things, your mom may have felt slightly disrespected after the argument. Do a few things to acknowledge your respect for her. Show respect by doing the following: Try to listen and pay attention when she speaks. Stop texting on your phone when she is talking. Acknowledge all the things she does for you. Share things with her that are happening in your life. Ask her opinion about important topics. Refrain from interrupting when she's talking. Do chores/tasks without her having to ask. Refer to her by the name she prefers (i.e. Mom or Mother). Avoid the use of curse words or confusing slang phrases in her presence. Chances are, the fight may have left you feeling unheard. After you have listened to your mother and shown her that you can see things from her perspective, try to help her understand yours. Use "I" statements to take ownership for your feelings while minimizing the chances that your mom will get offended. Then, state your needs to your mom without putting down her position or beliefs. Consider that you and your mom were fighting about how often you've been going over your friend's house. You can say "I have been spending time with Whitney because she's really upset over her parents' divorce. I understand your concern. It would be great if you could work with me so I could be supportive of my friend and still get homework and chores done here." You might wonder what this has to do with getting over a fight with your mom. Well, finding an activity that you two share can help you to forge a closer bond with her and enhance the way you communicate with her. Spending time with your mom in a relaxed state, such as while watching a movie, going for a run, or gardening, may help you to see her as a person with many facets, just like you. As a result, you may earn a greater sense of respect and love for your mom.
A: Go to her and apologize. Tell her that you have tried to see things her way. Try to make her feel respected. Communicate your own feelings in a respectful way. Discover a common interest.

Q: Relationships are complicated, messy, and involve a lot of strong feelings, and asking someone to move out is an action that can't be undone. Before taking the step of asking your boyfriend to move out, make sure that this is the best decision for you. When considering this, it's OK to put your personal needs above the "needs" of the relationship. Ask yourself: Is the relationship healthy? Do you still enjoy spending time with your boyfriend? Do you still have strong feelings for him? Find a place where you can talk in person (not over the phone or texting), and where you will not be interrupted. Treat him politely, and explain the reasons why you feel that the relationship is no longer working and should end. It's important that this is a calm discussion; if you try to break up and ask him to move out during an argument, tempers will flare and you both may feel hurt by the other. This will make the break up and moving-out process more painful. Even if you feel that your boyfriend deserves a share of the blame (which he probably does!), focus your talking points on your own emotions and your experiences. This will allow you to express yourself without presuming to understand your boyfriend's motives and reasoning; he may not have understood the way you felt before, either. Instead of prefacing your remarks with "you" (e.g. "you make me angry"), try to preface them with "I." For example, try saying something like: "I feel disappointed when the utility bills are paid late every month." "I feel like we don't invest as much time in our relationship as we used to." "I feel as if you don't treat me with as much respect as you used to." If you aren't direct and clear with your boyfriend, you may end up confusing him and making your own position more awkward. It can be uncomfortable and painful to ask a former partner to move out, but vague wording will only make the situation worse. Even if it's more painful in the moment, direct statements will limit misunderstandings and save you from having future conversations about this in the future. At some point during the conversation, you should say something like: "I would like for you to find a different place to live." "I don't think that this living arrangement is working anymore; I'd like you to move out." "I'm not willing for us to live in the same apartment anymore." It can be tempting to ask your boyfriend to move out, but, in order to spare his feelings, to leave the timeframe open-ended. This often ends up hurting more than it helps; he may drag his feet and end up staying in your apartment for months. It will be beneficial to both of you if you establish a firm timeline: ask him to find another apartment within a month, and insist that he has all of his belongings out of your place within six weeks.
A:
Make sure that this is the right decision. Talk to your boyfriend honestly and calmly. Avoid statements that place the blame on your boyfriend. Be clear about what you want. Establish a timeline for him to move out.