INPUT ARTICLE: Article: Before you walk up to a random girl, it's a good idea to scan the room and figure out what's going on. Look at the people at the party and figure out who came together. Find girls that look bored or have no one to talk to and consider talking to those girls first. Once you've found the girl that you want to start a conversation with, make eye contact before approaching them. Look in their direction and wait to lock eyes with them and smile. If the girl smiles back, you can approach them. If they look away or seem uninterested, you should approach a different girl. Once you get the girl's attention, approach her and strike up a conversation. Walk over to her and smile as you approach so that you put her at ease. If she smiles back and makes eye contact, it's a good signal that she wants to talk. Look at her arms and whether they are crossed. Crossed off arms indicate closed body language and she may not be interested in talking to you. If you've walked up to the girl and her body language says that she wants to talk, start up a conversation and introduce yourself. If they say hello back, there's a good chance that they want to talk to you. Say something like "Hey, my name's Erin. I just saw you from across the room." After you ask her what her name is, make sure to remember it. Asking a question can open up a conversation with the person. Good starter questions include "Having fun at this party?" or "Are you into the music they are playing tonight?"

SUMMARY: Scan the room and assess the people there. Make eye contact. Walk up to the girl and smile. Say "hi" and introduce yourself. Ask her what her name is and ask her a question.

INPUT ARTICLE: Article: A common misconception about abuse is that the victim somehow "deserves" it. For example, when Chris Brown battered Rihanna, many people quickly believed that Rihanna had done something wrong to "deserve" this abuse. This is not true. It doesn't matter what you have or haven't done; nobody deserves to be abused, and abuse is always the responsibility of the person committing it. This is true for all types of abuse, not just physical abuse. Each person deserves to be treated with dignity and kindness. These hotlines can help anyone who is or thinks they might be experiencing relationship abuse. They provide trained advocates who can listen to you and help you brainstorm solutions to your situation. In the US, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for free 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE. You can also contact the LoveIsRespect hotline, specifically for teens, at 1-866-331-9474 or text "loveis" to 22522. Both of these hotlines offer advocates for LGBTQ individuals, too. If you're concerned that your boyfriend is abusive, talk with someone you trust about it. This could be a parent, a counselor, a school official, or someone from your church. The important thing is to find someone who listens to you without judging you and offers you their support. Leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous. It's important to talk with people who can help and support you so that you don't have to deal with it all on your own. Remember, asking for help isn't a sign of weakness or failure. It's a sign that you're strong enough to do what's healthy for you. If you feel like you're in immediate danger from your boyfriend, get away as soon as possible. Call a trusted friend or family member and ask to stay with them. Call a domestic violence agency in your area to find a local women's shelter or safehouse. Call the police, if you have to. Don't stay in an environment where you will continue to be abused. If you have been physically or sexually assaulted, call the police and seek medical attention immediately. Getting over an abusive relationship can be incredibly hard. Commonly, abusive people isolate you from your other friends and loved ones. An abusive ex can leave you feeling frightened, alone, or worthless. Rebuilding your support networks can help you move on from your abuser and recognize that you're an incredible person who's worthy of respect and caring. Join extracurricular activities and clubs at school. Serve your community as a peer advocate against relationship abuse. Many schools and communities have programs that help educate others about relationship abuse. If there isn't one in your area, start one! You may have heard so much abuse that your brain has come to accept it as "natural" or true. Remember that the abusive things your ex said to you were not true. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, take a moment to challenge them. You can find a positive thing to say instead, look for the logical flaws in your thoughts, or reframe negative thoughts in a helpful way. For example, you might find yourself thinking negative things about yourself or your appearance, especially if your abuser was very critical of you. Shift the focus to finding things you love and admire about yourself instead. It may feel "phony" at first because you aren't used to this way of thinking, but consistently choosing the positive will help you overcome the trauma of abuse. If you find yourself generalizing, such as "I'm such a loser," look for the logic to support these thoughts. Chances are, it isn't there. Focus on specifics, and if there's a real problem, look for ways to address it in a helpful way: "I spent more time watching TV than I should have today and didn't get my homework done. Tomorrow I can focus on putting my homework first and then reward myself without feeling guilty." Recognize even small accomplishments. Often, people who have been abused struggle with feelings of worthlessness. Take the time to recognize your achievements, even the small ones.

SUMMARY:
Understand that abuse is never your fault. Contact a domestic violence hotline. Talk with someone you trust. Seek safe shelter. Build strong support networks. Honor yourself.