Everyone faces problems or issues in their day-to-day lives, whether it's who to vote for, what job offer to accept, or how to deal with a family member. Each day, break one of these problems down in your free time. Identify the problem and decide whether or not it's something you have control over, like what job offer you accept or your aunt refusing to get help for a medical issue. If you can't control it, don't dwell on it. Gather the information you need to make a decision. For example, if you got multiple job offers, consider your salary, benefits package, and the work environment. Use the gathered information to make a decision. For example, if one job has better pay and benefits, you might consider accepting that position. Follow through on your course of action, while being aware that your strategy might have to change as you get new information. Begin by describing a situation that is emotionally significant to you. Next, write in detail how you responded to the situation. Analyze what the reaction might say about you and how you might have been feeling below the surface. Then, write down how you could have responded differently, or how you might respond differently in the future. Make sure that all of your entries follow the same format. Keep it consistent. You might be surprised by how many of your views on things have been shaped by the family of origin, cultural group, geographic location, schools, organizations, or employers you belong to, whether they are religious or cultural. Write down a list of things you are required to believe (or not) as a member of that group. And then decide whether you truly believe those things or not. For example, some religions forbid abortion. Consider your views on abortion and whether or not you agree with it. You can come to the same conclusion as your religion does, but make sure it's because what you truly believe. One of the best ways to think for yourself is to get information yourself, rather than relying on others. Ask lots of questions, particularly in situations that affect you directly, like voting to put people in office or which school you're going to go to. Don't just let people tell you what you should do. Make sure that you use reliable sources when you are conducting research. If you've had a hard time thinking for yourself before, you might find that you're swayed by other people the first few times you try to think for yourself. That's okay! Changing habits of thoughts are some of that hardest habits to change. Give yourself time to learn how to resist other people's opinions and think for yourself.

Summary: Tackle one problem each day. Keep an Intellectual Journal. Reexamine what you think and why. Question everything. Keep trying.

Self respect, whether we realize it or not, is one of the first things we look for when seeking out healthy relationships. You show your self respect in how you take care of and present your body. Bathe regularly, use deodorant, and generally do things like wearing clean, unwrinkled clothes. You should also exercise to keep your body strong and healthy. You should also show your self respect in your actions. Don't talk down about yourself and speak up for yourself when you're with other people. . No matter what you've got to start off with, you can make your body look even better by carefully curating what you wear. Wear clothes that fit, first of all: they shouldn't be too tight or too big. You also want them to accentuate good features and play down bad ones. Get those pants back on your butt, she wants to see your drawers later, not now. Next, figure out what colors look good on you. Depending on your mixture of hair and skin colors, as well as minor factors like eye color, different colors will look better or worse on you. For example, wear pants with vertical pinstripes, because they'll make you look taller and thinner. For choosing colors, you generally want to create contrast. If you have light skin, then darker colors will look better on you (just don't wear all black all the time). If you have dark skin, then light or brighter colors will look better on you. You don't have to have the best bone structure in the world in order to look like her Prince Charming; just a little facial care can do the trick! Make sure you're shaving correctly in order to fight shaving bumps and cuts. Do some basic maintenance by plucking wayward eyebrow hairs. You should also moisturize your skin, no matter how girly it seems. Moisturizing will make you look healthier, which naturally makes you more attractive. Don't forget to fight acne, if you have it. A good cleaning regimen is often all you need to significantly reduce the acne problem that you have, but medicinal help is also available. Try using makeup! We know, we know, but hear us out: makeup is designed to make your skin look better and healthier. It covers up all the problems with your skin. You don't have to do too much either. Using a wrinkle filler will make your skin look smooth, covering acne scars and large pores. Go over the top of that with a foundation gel stick and you'll be able to create a healthy look with little effort. Having a good haircut can totally change your whole looking, taking you from creeper-on-the-street to Michael Fassbender-like stud before you know it. Hairstyles compliment our natural features by playing up the parts that looks good, helping to hide the parts that look bad, and creating illusions that seem to give our face a whole new shape. See a hairstylist and get their recommendation to find a hairstyle that works for you. Spend some time in front of the mirror and practice your smile. You may find that your natural smile might be a bit off-putting. Try smiling in different ways until you find one that looks better. Some people look better with a closed mouth smile, some look better with one row of teeth, some look better with all teeth bared. It just depends on your face.
Summary: Show that you respect yourself. Dress to flatter your body Check your face care routine. Get a good haircut. Find your best smile.