Write an article based on this "Listen if he wants to talk. Validate Be okay with his silence. Give him space. Encourage him to get professional help if it doesn't pass."
If your boyfriend seems upset, one way to help is by giving him room to talk about what's wrong. Getting things off his chest may help him feel better or come to some sort of solution. You might say, "You seem upset, baby. Want to talk about it?" If he wants to talk, practice active listening skills. Don't interrupt or rush in trying to fix the problem. Just hear him out. his feelings. One of the most valuable things you can offer your boyfriend is the sense that you understand or have sympathy for what's happening in his life. Validation simply means that you let him know that what he's feelings is okay and understandable. First, let his words clue you in on how he's feeling. Listen for feeling statements, such as "I don't know what to do" or "I'm devastated." Then, validate his feelings by saying things like, "Aw, I'm so sorry that happened. It makes sense that you're so confused" or "I completely understand why you feel so crushed." Even if your boyfriend is typically the outspoken type, he may not immediately want to discuss the situation or his feeling about it. Encourage your boyfriend to talk. However, if he's not ready, don't press the issue. For example, if you ask "Do you want to talk?" and he responds with "no," you might say, "Okay, that's fine. I'm here if you ever want to." Don't constantly beg him to tell you what's wrong if he doesn't feel like talking. Give it some time. More than likely, he will open up. Don't be surprised if your boyfriend asks for some space to deal with what's going on. Some people prefer to be alone when they're upset. Try not to take it personallyjust give him a little time to himself. Let's say your boyfriend had a fight with his dad. If he needs space to think it over, you might say, "I'll give you some time alone, but I'll drop by and check on you later, okay?" If your boyfriend doesn't expressly ask for time alone, then he's probably happy that you're there. If your boyfriend remains upset for a long period of time, withdraws from his family and friends, or begins to engage in risky behaviors, he may need counseling from a mental health professional. Suggest to him that he attend a therapy session. For example, you might say, "I've noticed you've seemed really down lately. Have you considered talking to a therapist about this?" Tell your boyfriend that you'll help him find a therapist or even take him to the appointment if he needs support.