Problem: Article: Found among Lincoln's papers after his death was a stern note to a particular general who had failed to follow orders, in which Lincoln wrote that he was "distressed immeasurably" at the general's conduct. It's harsh, personal, and cutting. Interestingly enough, the note was never sent, probably because Lincolna great leader by any standardhad learned to empathize with the general, who had seen more blood at Gettysburg than Lincoln could have imagined. He gave the general the benefit of the doubt. If a friend stands you up when you had plans, or if your boss fails to mention all the hard work you put in at a meeting, a person of character will let it slide sometimes. Learn from the past and be more cautious and calculated with your expectations next time. A person of character focuses on the bigger picture. Tearing the general a new one would have accomplished nothing but alienating him from Lincoln, making the situation worse. What's done is done, and what's past is past. Try to focus on the future. Just because Lincoln didn't send the letter doesn't mean it wasn't important for him to write. No one, no matter how strong of character, can be made of ice. You're going to get angry, frustrated, and upset. That's a part of life. Burying those emotions into the depths of your person won't help you build character, so it's important to make room for venting sometimes, but in a private way that'll keep your public character safe. Find a relaxing activity to help you process frustrations and anger, so you can let it go. Write angry screeds in a notebook, then tear it out and burn it. Listen to Slayer while you lift heavy stuff at the gym. Go running. Find a physical and healthy way to get the frustration out of your system and let it go. On House of Cards, Frank Underwood, stoic and sleazy politician, likes to blow off steam playing violent video games after a long day of cutting deals in the House of Representatives. It's more than just a funny character trait: everyone needs a way to unwind. Find yours. A person of character is able to communicate openly with lots of different kinds of people. Don't be insular. character comes from learning as much as you can from different sorts of people. Have long talks with the guy at the BBQ joint you frequent, and with the bartender, as well as your coworkers, your friends, and your family. Listen to what they have to say. Be honest with them. This helps to build character. If you need to vent, find mutually-beneficial vent partners and meet up to open up with each other. Then talk about other things and focus on happier times. Don't just dwell on the bad. As James Michener once put it, character has to do with what you do on the third and fourth try, not the first. How do you approach a difficult or a losing situation? Learn to face defeat and lose graciously and you'll start building strong character traits. Compete at little things to help learn this skill. It's hard to learn to lose graciously when you're talking about major, life-changing competitions, like getting into college, competing for a job, or more serious competitive moments. Build these traits playing board games, sports, and other littler ways of competing, so you can have the essential foundation for the more important stuff. Be a good winner, too. Remember how it feels to come up short and neither condescend nor criticizer the loser. Celebrate in private, but celebrate. A person of character should lead by example, taking on challenges that won't come easily. Whether at school, work, or wherever you are, take on difficult projects and commit to doing them the right way. In school, don't challenge yourself to get "good grades," challenge yourself to do the best work that you're capable of doing. Maybe an A isn't high enough for what you can achieve. At work, volunteer for extra responsibilities, put in extra hours at the office, and go above and beyond each time you do your work. Whatever you do, do it right. At home, commit to bettering yourself in your free time. Nights that might be spent aimlessly shuffling things around your Netflix queue could be spend learning guitar, or getting cracking on that novel you've always wanted to write, or fixing up that old roadster. Take your hobbies seriously.
Summary: Learn to empathize. Let yourself vent in private. Open up to a variety of people. Lose graciously. Challenge yourself with difficult goals.

Problem: Article: with a round brush. Start with damp, freshly-washed hair. Blow dry your hair straight by running your hair between a hairdryer and a round barrel brush. Keep the round brush under your hair, and the hair dryer over your hair. Use a flat iron to smooth out flyaways. If you don't have an excessive amount of flyaways, rub a pea sized amount of serum in the palm of your hands and apply it to your hair to tame the flyaways. Work in sections from 1 side of your head to the other. You can use this technique on bangs as well. Make sure that your hair is dry first. Apply a heat protection spray, then let it dry as well. Use a flat iron to straighten your hair like you normally would. As you reach the ends, twist your wrist to rotate the iron upwards. Let your hair cool before setting the style with hairspray. If you have curly hair, blow dry it straight with a round brush first. Keep the brush on top of your hair rather than under it so that the ends curl outward. Touch things up with a flat iron, if needed. Apply a good heat protectant, then blow dry your hair as straight using a round brush. You can also use either a paddle brush or a blow dryer with a comb/pik attachment. Gather the upper three-quarters of your hair into a bun, then straighten the bottom layer with a flat iron and a low-heat setting. Let down another layer of your hair, and repeat the process. Keep going until you reach the top of your head. To get your hair straighter, place a fine toothed comb below the flat iron as you run the flat iron through the length of your hair. You may have to work in smaller sections if your hair is very thick. Apply a hair oil or serum to smooth any stray strands and add shine. Apply a high-shine gel to your hair, from roots to ends. Comb your hair back with a fine-toothed comb, so that it flows away from your front hairline and the part disappears. Apply more gel to the top of your head as needed to finish the wet look. Leave the ends alone. Straighten your hair first, if it is curly or wavy. A thick, fabric headband will look trendy, but if you want something fancier, try a decorative metal one instead. Experiment with brushing your hair straight back, away from your hairline, or parting it down the center or off to the side. Make sure that the headband that you are using goes with the rest of your outfit. For example: A thick, fabric headband will look better with a casual outfit than a fancy outfit. If you are wearing jewelry, match the metal headband to whatever you are wearing. Pair gold jewelry with gold headbands, and silver jewelry with silver headbands.
Summary:
Blow dry your hair Straighten your hair with a flat iron, then flip out the ends. Use a blow dryer and a flat iron if you have textured or natural hair. Create a sleek look by applying gel to wet hair and brushing it back. Accent your straight style with a headband.