Problem: Write an article based on this summary: See a therapist. Determine if you require medication for depression. Take part in a support group.

Answer: A professional mental health therapist can help you identify the source of your negative emotions and develop healthy skills to lead a more satisfying life. Your self-worth may have been jeopardized by unhealthy relationships or abuse from your past. Talking about these experiences in a unbiased and supportive context can lead to healing. One recognized form of therapy for those who self-sabotage is dialectical behavior therapy. This treatment approach is directed at gaining a better understanding of your feelings in order to build skills that help you stop problematic behaviors. You may work with your therapist to prevent overeating, stop risky sexual activities, and establish healthy relational patterns. Another is cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT will help you identify beliefs that fuel your self-worth. Once you identify those beliefs, you can explore their origins and validity and eventually replace them with thoughts and beliefs that are true. Self-sabotage is prominent in people who feel depressed but do not know how to express or improve their emotions. If feeling unloved has led to depressive symptoms, you need to see a doctor. Depression may manifest as a loss of interest in once pleasurable activities, withdrawing from loved ones, having trouble eating or sleeping, and feeling hopeless. A certain class of prescribed medications known as antidepressants are effective at improve depressive symptoms. This may be advisable if therapy alone does not improve your symptoms. Support is imperative for anyone struggling with mental illness. It's vital to build a network of health care providers and loved one who are there for you as you heal. However, meeting with other people who have gone through what you are going through can also be comforting. Ask your mental health provider about support groups for people who are struggling with the same issues as you. Attending these groups can help you learn how others cope with feeling unloved and help you gain a sense of belonging in a supportive group.

Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Make a cat sandbox. Attract cats to a cat garden. Move your bird feeder.

Answer: You can create an alternative outdoor litter box for cats by using a new or old sandbox that is at least as big as a large litter box. Fill it with soft, fine-grained sand (this can be bought by the bag at hardware and home supply stores), which cats find especially attractive. With luck, cats will be drawn to the sandbox instead of your garden and use it much as they would a litterbox. Make sure to scoop the sandbox regularly; if it gets too full, cats may return to using your yard. Keep children away from the cat sandbox, and make sure they understand not to play in it. If you want to keep cats out of your garden, but don't mind them being in other areas of your yard, then try making a cat-friendly area. Cats will be attracted to areas covered by certain plants, and hopefully leave the rest of your yard alone. Create a small plot and grow one or more of the following non-toxic plants in it: Catnip (Nepeta cataria) Catmint (Nepeta mussinii) Cat thyme (Teucrium marum) Valerian (Valeriana officinalis) Spider-plant (Chlorophytum comosum) If you have a bird feeder near your garden, move it to another area of your yard that is further away. Ideally, you should hang the bird feeder in an area that is too high for a cat to jump to. Otherwise, a bird that visits for a meal might be in more danger than your garden ever was.

Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Eat plenty of vitamin-rich foods. Keep your body hydrated. Maintain a healthy weight. Do not smoke.

Answer: Having good nutrition is vital to keeping your body healthy and keeping bedsores at bay. When you are healthy, your body can help heal bedsores more quickly and keep new ones from developing. If you are deficient in certain vitamins, especially iron, zinc, vitamin A and vitamin C, you may put yourself at higher risk for developing bedsores. Take vitamin supplements in addition to eating foods rich in vitamins. Eating or drinking lots of protein will also help keep your body healthy. If you're worried you aren't getting enough protein through your diet, a supplement drink like Ensure can help. Drink plenty of water every day. Men should aim to consume about 13 8-ounce cups of fluids and women should aim to consume about 9 8-ounce cups of fluids per day. This does not mean you need to drink only water. Many foods have high water content, and healthy foods can have up to 20% of your daily intake of fluids. Eat foods that also have high water content, such as watermelon, to increase your water intake. You can also get added hydration by sucking on ice cubes throughout the day in addition to drinking water. Do not drink alcohol, as this can contribute to dehydrating your body. If you are underweight, you have less padding to protect certain parts of your body that are prone to developing bedsores. Your skin can break down more easily. Being overweight can similarly cause problems, as it may be difficult for you to reposition your body to relieve pressure. Smoking contributes to drying out your skin and is generally considered an unhealthy habit. As well, it reduces blood circulation, a condition which can contribute to increased risk of bedsores.

Problem: Write an article based on this summary: Let yourself grieve. Embrace your independence. Detach yourself. Turn on the water works. Exercise regularly. Surround yourself with people who love, care for, and understand you.

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Trying to block legitimate feelings or make short cuts around the grieving process will only prolong your heartache in the long run. By simply burying your emotions, they're bound to reemerge some day, only intensified. Although it can be difficult, focus on feeling every feeling and experiencing every heart pang because they'll make you a stronger person in the long run. Accept that you cannot avoid the uncomfortable feelings of withdrawal from your ex. You are not letting go because you want to, but because you have to in order to be the happiest and healthiest version of you. Recognize that every day brings you closer to healing and happiness. Be kind to yourself and accept that you will be functioning at a less than optimal level for a little while. Remember that no one and nothing can make you content except for yourself. You might feel a sense of power knowing that your happiness is in your hands alone. If at all possible, look at the upside of being alone. You get to make the decisions and are no longer defined by someone else. Spend some time exploring who you are now, and forge your own identity. Serving as your own support system means you won't be let down or disappointed. Engage in activities that you're ex didn't enjoy or wouldn't do with you. Eat foods that he didn't like and watch movies that he wouldn't see with you. Accept that for right now you're going to stand on your own two feet without your partner, and resist the urge to rush into another relationship. In doing so, you may come to understand realities about your previous relationship, or your ex, that you hadn't noticed before. View the relationship objectively, using your brain rather than your heart. Ask yourself if he was the kind of boyfriend that you would want for your best friend, sibling, or child. Consider if you had to do it all over again, would you choose this person as a partner. The answer may cause you to think about the relationship in a new way. Especially if the break up is still fresh, don't feel pressured to make any decisions regarding your old relationship or its future. Your ability to focus exclusively on healing will take some pressure off of the next few months. Remember that you broke up for a reason. The pain you're now experiencing is temporary, but it is likely there were real issues in the relationship that were permanent. Studies show that you really will feel better after a good cry. Emotional tears contain toxic biochemical byproducts, so ridding your body of them relieves stress and removes these substances.Even the physical feeling you get from shedding a few tears allows you to release your pain and begin the mending process. Another unexpected, but great, aspect to crying is that you're reminded how huge your capacity to care for others can be, and that you still have the ability to love. If you think you'd benefit from a good cry, but would like to do it in private, try taking a shower or going on a long walk to a secluded park. Walking, running, swimming and biking will actually offer immediate relief from your pain because staying active stimulates brain chemicals and increases serotonin, which advances the growth of nerve cells. You'll also gain valuable reflection time with which to ruminate and think over your feelings. You could come to some valuable conclusions this way. You'll not only enjoy physical health, but experience more energy to make it through the day. You'll feel satisfied on an emotional level for taking charge of your own mind and body. If you decide to join a group exercise activity, such as a spinning class or sports team, you may even form a valuable support system by making new friends. Don't be afraid to share your feelings with them. The more your support system understands what you are going through, the more helpful they can be. You may even find comfort in the fact that you can open up to and trust them, rather than depending on your ex boyfriend. Consider joining a support group filled with people who are going through the same experience you are. Sometimes it's easier to share your true feelings with strangers. If there is no one in your life you feel comfortable reaching out to, find a therapist or counselor who specializes in loss. Develop new friendships. Chances are that you didn't have as much time to form new bonds when you were with your boyfriend, or you may feel that you lost your network along with the break up. Take a class or volunteer so you have the opportunity to interact with others who you share the same interests as.