Multi-select problem: How does the next paragraph end?

How to tell the truth when it hurts
Ask permission.
It's a good idea to let the other person know you're interested in having a tough conversation so that they don't feel blindsided. Ask if the person is willing to talk to you.

OPTIONS:
[+] Ask them about their past and confirm that they are willing to talk about it. Let them know how they feel, and try to be flexible with their decision.
[+] For example, say something like, " hey, is everyone over here? " or, " there's something i haven't been told so i'll be more prepared. " if the person comes to you feeling closed off and isolating, chances are they aren't ready for a serious conversation.
[+] If the person says " no, " be confident that they can stand to do it. Say, " if i'm comfortable here, asking then would be a great choice.
[+] If the person says no, allow him or her to have a bit more time, and then ask again. Sometimes people need time and space to process that someone has something potentially painful to say.
If the person says no, allow him or her to have a bit more time, and then ask again. Sometimes people need time and space to process that someone has something potentially painful to say.