Ask a few gentle questions to get your friend talking and opening up about what's wrong. If you have some idea, you can be specific, but if you don't, just say something like, "Want to talk?" or "What's going on?" Don't push. Sometimes, just sitting there and being quiet is enough for letting someone talk if they don't want to. If your friend doesn't want to talk about it, don't make them. Follow up in a few days if your friend doesn't want to talk. Make plans to get lunch and say, "How you been?" They might be more willing to talk at that point. . If your friend starts talking, be absolutely quiet and focus on them. Don't say anything. Don't interrupt to try to sympathize, or start telling your own story to try to relate to their miseries. Just sit quietly, look at them, and allow them to talk. This is what your friend needs the most during a time of grief. Make eye contact. Look at your friend sympathetically. Put your phone away, turn the TV off, and ignore everything else in the room. Lock in and listen. Nod along to show that you're listening, and use non-verbal cues to be a good listener. Sigh during the sad parts, smile during the funny parts. Just listen. If your friend slows down, one way to keep them talking is to summarize what they've said and try to put it in your own words. Hearing it back can be a good part of the healing process for some people. If your friend is going through a break-up and talking about everything the ex did wrong, say, "Sounds like your ex wasn't really committed in the first place." Fill in the blanks for them to help the grieving process move forward. You can also use this if you're unsure exactly what they mean. "Let me see if I'm getting this straight: you're angry with your sister because she borrowed your astronomy books without asking?" Avoid playing down their problem if it seems small to you. It may be more upsetting to them than you think. Don't try pretending you know what they're going through if you haven't been in a similar position. Lots of people, especially guys, make the mistake of thinking that talking about a problem means that you're trying to solve the problem. Unless your friend specifically asks something like, "What do you think I should do?" don't try to come up with a solution. Grieving isn't a problem that has an easy solution, so don't go looking for a tidy one. Just listen, and just be there. This is especially true if your friend made some mistake. It's probably not necessary to point out that your friend might not be so upset about failing a test if they had studied instead of playing video games. If you want to offer advice, pause. Ask "Are you looking for advice, or do you just want to vent?" Honor their response. After a while, it's good to move the conversation forward gently, especially if you see that your friend has run out of steam or has just started repeating things. Try to get your friend to look at the bright side, or just start talking about other plans to start looking forward. Talk about what you're doing later, or what you're doing next. Take a little step into talking about a new issue. If you're sitting outside a school building, talking about a break-up, say, "So, are you hungry? What do you want to get for lunch?" Eventually, your friend may run out of things to say. Don't let them keep circling back to the same topic, over and over again, if it doesn't seem to be productive. Encourage them to talk about other things, and focus energy elsewhere.
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One-sentence summary -- Encourage them to talk. Just listen Summarize and validate what they're saying. Don't try to solve the problem. Talk about other things.

Good daycares fill up quickly, and there may be waiting lists to get into them. Start looking at daycares a couple months before you need one, and even sooner if you live in a large city, where wait lists are often longer. Ask neighbors, friends, and parent groups in the area for recommendations of daycares they've attended. Find out what they liked and disliked about the facility they used and why they left if they're no longer attending it. Focus on people who have the same parenting style as you. What worked for someone else might not work for you if you don't both agree on discipline or nutrition. Look online to see what kinds of reviews have been written about a facility. Check Google reviews, Yelp, or other community sites. Get a sense for the overall performance of a center, rather than looking at one or two reviews that deviate from the rest. If there are several similar complaints about a facility, it's probably best to steer clear. Narrow your search down to places that are right around your house or office or are located along your commute. It won't be convenient if you have to go too far out of your way to pick up or drop off your child. In-home daycares are childcare facilities that are located within a provider's home. While some of them are licensed, they don't have to be, so these places are often cheaper to attend. They also have fewer children, so your child may get more one-on-one attention. If the provider of an in-home daycare is sick, you may need to stay home too if they don't have an available backup. Traditional, large-group daycare centers need to be licensed, so they're held to higher standards than in-home daycares. The employees are usually background checked and often have relevant education or experience in child care. They tend to be more expensive than in-home centers, but for toddlers the prices are usually less expensive than a nanny. There may be less flexibility in scheduling for these centers since they have stricter policies regarding pick up and drop off. If you're considering group daycare, visit your state or city's website to search for daycares that are current on their license. Also check to see if the daycare you're interested in has any outstanding health or safety violations. Visit the website for the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). They have a list of accredited programs that have met a rigorous set of standards beyond licensure. For in-home daycares, visit the website for the National Association for Family Child Care (NAFCC) to see which ones meet higher standards.
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One-sentence summary -- Start early. Ask for recommendations. Read online reviews. Search for places near your home or office. Choose an in-home daycare if you're on a budget. Choose a group daycare for stricter standards. Research the daycare's license or certification.

Medium-sized, flat brushes are ideal for contouring. Fluffier powder brushes will not blend your contour as well and give you less control over its shape. Smaller, eyeshadow brushes are also not ideal because of their streakier finish. Contouring creates the appearance of shadows on your chest to make your bust look bigger. Look for a bronzer one or two shades darker than your skin tone. This will help your contour look more natural and give you control over the shape. Test the bronzer out on your hand before applying it to your breasts to make sure you got the right color. Pair the bronzer with a highlighter powder with a slight sheen. Apply bronzer to your chest in a v-shape over and to the center of your cleavage. Then, brush your highlighter over the tops of your breasts and around the v-shape. This will give your breasts the illusion of appearing larger and fuller. Use your brush to dust over the bronzer and highlighter, blending them together into a smoother contour. Step back and examine your contour in the mirror to make sure you don't have any noticeable bronzer streaks. Check your reflection in an area with natural light to accurately gauge how your contour looks.
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Find a blush or contour brush. Choose a matte bronzer. Contour over the top parts of your breasts. Blend the bronzer with your brush.