Q: You need a minimum of two players to play I spy, but otherwise there's no limit on how many people can play a game. Players are old enough to play when they have an understanding of the world around them and can easily name everyday objects. For each round of I spy, there is one person who is the spy. That person selects an object and has to get the other players to guess what the object was based on a clue. There are many ways you can determine who gets to be the first spy. For instance, you can draw cards or straws, ask whose birthday is coming up next, go by whose name is alphabetically first or last, or even have an outside person who isn't playing randomly select the first spy. In another variation on the game, the spy is instead called the king or queen bee. As the first spy, your job is to pick an object from your immediate surroundings that all the players can see. But once you've picked it, don't say what it is! Instead, think about the object to yourself, and come up with a few features and characteristics that make this object noteworthy. If you're in a moving vehicle, you will have to work quickly, otherwise the object will have passed before anyone else has a chance to see it. In order to get players to guess the object you've chosen, you have to provide them with a piece of information about the object. Use those noteworthy features you came up with and think about what you can say that will hint to your fellow players what object you're thinking of. Good adjectives to use can relate to the object's: Color Height Weight Texture Geometric features First letter Material A word that it sounds like In this game, the spy uses the phrase "I spy with my little eye, something that" and the then finishes that hint with the descriptor or adjective chosen to describe the object. For instance, if you picked a purple hat that a nearby person was wearing, you could finish with "something that you wear." When you say the hint out loud, be sure you aren't looking right at the object! Another variation on the hint phrasing is "I spy something and it's designed to keep you warm," for instance. For the bumblebee game, you can say "Bumble Bee Bumble Bee, I see something you don't see, and the color of it is purple," for example. Once you've provided the hint, give the other players a chance to look around and find the object. Then, go around the group and give each player a chance to guess what object you chose. I spy is usually played with yes or no answers (players ask if specific objects were the chosen ones and the spy says yes or no), but the spy can also provide additional hints to the players by saying whether the guess was hot or cold. If a guess was close to or similar to the chosen object, the spy says the guess was warm (close) or hot (very close). If a guess was nowhere near the object, the spy says cold, or cool if the guess was mostly off. If none of the players are able to guess the object, repeat the phrase and provide another hint. Choose a different adjective this time, and concentrate on a different feature. For instance, if your hint before told the players what color the object was, provide a hint about something else, like the object's material, shape, or texture. Go around in the same order and let each player guess again. When a player does guess correctly, that player becomes the new spy, and the game begins anew. If nobody is able to guess the object, you can either provide another hint, or the spy role can automatically pass to a new player. If all the players are young and not able to easily guess, consider having a set order in which everyone gets to be the spy.
A: Choose the players. Select the first spy. Pick an object. Pick your first hint. Provide the first hint. Let each player guess. Provide another hint if necessary. Let the player who guesses correctly become the next spy.

Q: It can be hard to just stop talking to someone who was once important to you. However, if you want to move on and heal, this is a vital step. Stop texting, calling, or seeing him at social events. Avoid looking at his social media profiles. You do not have to be friends with your ex. However, if you want to maintain a friendship, acknowledge you can't do so right away. You will both need space, so mutually agree not to see or contact each other for a while. If you have to see him because you work together or go to school together, you can be cordial without going overboard. Be polite when you see him, but do not engage in small talk or banter. Try to have as little contact with him as possible. It can be hard to completely stop thinking about someone. If you're thinking of him, and think to yourself, "Stop thinking about it," you're only going to think about it more. Instead of beating yourself up for thinking about him, look for another way to direct your thoughts. For example, find something else to focus your thoughts on. Is there someone new you have feelings for? Try thinking about this person. Think about what it would be like to date them, and what kind of relationship you could envision with them. Redirecting your thoughts is more likely to get rid of unwanted thoughts than simply trying not to think about someone. The mind is a busy place and needs to be occupied, so give it something to do rather than trying to shut it down. Give yourself 90 seconds to allow negative emotions to run their course. Once you've taken 90 seconds to breathe and experience, you'll be better equipped to put your ex out of your thoughts. When you feel yourself obsessing, stop and start breathing for about 90 seconds. Take about 15 very deep breaths during this time. Breathing will help you allow your emotions to flow through you. After 90 seconds have passed, you should feel calmer and more grounded. The mind needs something to think about. If you can't stop thinking about your ex, use your imagination. Picture a soothing scenario, even a fanciful one, to remove thoughts of your ex. Imagine, for example, that you're at the bottom of the ocean. Think about the soothing feeling of the water and watching the fish swim past you. Have a variety of soothing scenarios in the back of your mind. When you're bothered by thoughts of your ex, indulge in one of the scenarios. If you are still hanging onto some items that belonged to him or that remind you of him, then it is a good idea to let go of them or at least get them out of sight. If you are not ready to throw away things that remind you of him, then at least put them into a box and hide the box away somewhere that you will not see it. You might even ask a friend to hold onto the box of items for you so that you are not tempted to look through it. When you're hurt, you may strive for an explanation. You may find yourself trying to explain why your ex behaved in a certain way. These thoughts can very easily get out of control. When you feel them coming, remind yourself of what you don't know. What would happen if someone tried to explain your thoughts and actions? Would they be able to completely explain what you were going through or experiencing? Probably not. It's not fair to try to explain your ex's actions. You cannot fully explain what he did and why. When you start searching for explanations, pause and think to yourself something like, "I don't know why he did that so I should not dwell on it."
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Cut off contact. Switch your focus when you start thinking about him. Do deep breathing for 90 seconds. Imagine a soothing scenario. Get rid of items that remind you of him. Remind yourself you can't explain his actions.