Q: Mimic the style of the people around you. Similar to a group of soldiers, football players, or fireman, identifying an individual is difficult because they are all dressed alike. Aim to fit in with clothing choices around you. Adapt to your environment by bringing a reversible jacket or a different colored undershirt for multiple options. Change color like a chameleon and fit into your surroundings. In a general setting without a like-minded group, aim for the middle-ground. Somewhere between the tightest and loosest clothes, between the brightest and most muted colors. Find a happy medium between neatest and sloppiest. Make sure if someone were to describe your appearance they'd also be describing several others in the group. Wear what others are wearing. People in specific locations and climates dress to their needs and local fashion. Find the trends and fashion most popular in your area and start fitting in. Try to imitate the speech patterns, common lingo, and behaviors where you live. In other words, adopt local customs. If everyone in your area says, "Hi y'all!" as a normal greeting, practice your twang. In many Europe locations, for instance, counting on your fingers begins with the thumb. Therefore, if you want two of something, start with the thumb and then the index finger. Be comfortable even if someone is in your personal space. In Korea it's normal for male friends to physically be very close to one another. Personal space may be respected in America, but in some cultures it's not treated the same way. In Korea it's not uncommon for friends to hold hands, sit together closely, and be much closer than traditionally acceptable to Westerners. Avoid being the outright winner or loser of anything. While somewhat unhealthy to purposely throttle yourself, you certainly won't gain notoriety for being average in every way possible. If you are finished with a test in class before anyone else, wait until others finish before putting your pencil down and leaving the room. When walking in a group of people, aim to be in the middle of the pack. If you're leading everyone is going to notice. If you're dragging behind, pick it up and get ahead of some people. Avoid being in charge. Authority is often despised, and rebellion to it is even part of our psychological makeup. Even when marooned with several strangers, it's important not to be seen as an authoritarian or as the person controlling affairs.
A: Conform to common attire. Do what others do. Be mediocre.

Q: With rejection sensitivity, you can easily get caught up dwelling on people who reject you and forget about those who embrace you. Make a point to spend time with people who value who you are as a person. Whether it's friends, coworkers, peers at school, or family members, make an effort to connect with people who love and care for you. They can help balance the scales against any rejection you feel from others. If you don't have strong relationships, meet some new people. Volunteer and help out in your local community. Join an organization or club. Strike up a conversation with the wallflower at a party. Become an advocate for those who are being bullied. People with rejection sensitivity often go into social situations expecting to get the cold shoulder. In many ways, this can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you enter a situation in bad faith and with a negative attitude, you are more likely to get the same in return. However, you may start getting a more positive outcome by expecting to be accepted. When you're entering a new social setting, tell yourself, "They'll like me" or "I'm going to make so many friends." You just might be surprised at the outcome. If you tend to receive many rejections in a particular area of life, such as in your career or dating life, you may need to examine your actions to see how you can improve. Think about it: you will never catch a fish if you're using the wrong bait. For instance, if you are applying for jobs that demand gregariousness and you're shy, you may not impress the interviewer. Switch tactics and search for a similar job in which it doesn't matter so much how outgoing you are. You may just get the position. If you interact with people who reject you, criticize you, or put you down on a regular basis, you should consider distancing yourself from those people. Establish healthy boundaries by letting them know that their behavior is hurtful to you. If the behavior continues, avoid contact with the person if you can. On the other side of the coin, it is important to respect the boundaries of others. For example, don't keep asking someone out on a date if they consistently say "no." Let them know that you respect their decision, and move on. People with rejection sensitivity often have histories of abuse or neglect in childhood. In addition, there are certain mental health conditions like depression and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) that are associated with higher levels of rejection sensitivity. See an experienced psychologist or psychotherapist who can carefully evaluate your history and any other symptoms you might be experiencing.
A: Find a positive support system. Expect acceptance. Rethink your strategy. Avoid people who consistently reject you. Consult with a mental health provider.

Q: If you are truly terrified, you may feel more comfortable if you ask someone to sleep in your room with you. Call up a friend or ask your sibling or parent if they can sleep in your room or if you can sleep in theirs. Having someone else in your room can make you feel safer and more secure, and will also distract you from your fear. If you have a dog, let it sleep in the same room as long as it is not a distraction. Some people feel more secure with all their doors closed, while others may prefer to have them all open. Decide which will make you feel better and open or close them. Just be sure to lock any exterior doors and windows. If you're afraid of the dark or worried about scary things entering your space, leaving a light on can help you feel better. Choose a light in the hall or bathroom, or turn on a lamp or nightlight in your bedroom. You could also leave the television on and mute it, so the soft light illuminates your surroundings. If you are nice and cozy, you will have an easier time falling asleep. Put on your most comfortable pajamas, plump up your pillow, and snuggle into your sheets and blankets. Adjust the thermostat, so you are at a comfortable temperature or turn on a fan or heater. If you have a favorite stuffed animal or blanket, bring it to bed with you.
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Ask someone to sleep in your room. Open or close your interior doors. Leave a light on. Get comfortable.