Q: Find a day when it is available. The sooner, the better, so that you know you have the place you really want. Check out the spaces offered, the catering deals, the marriage fees, the ability to decorate a church or synagogue, wedding space, etc. Research into venues for the wedding and reception usually starts around the 12 months-to-go mark, with bookings occurring within the month once you've made up your mind. Find out whether the prices quoted cover everything or whether you'll be expected to pay for extras. Be aware that even church and synagogue venues may charge fees. Choose a place that fits the date you've chosen. If you've decided to get married in November, you probably don't want to get married in a place that gets a lot of rain and snow that time of yearunless you and your fiancee are into skiing. If you've decided to get married in July, consider whether you want an outdoor wedding or an indoor wedding. After you've narrowed down the available times and made sure that your venue is available, you are able to pick the date! Make the reservations to set everything into stone, then write up some invitations and start inviting the special people in your life. Now that you know the date of your wedding, you can use it make reservations and set all of the arrangements into stone. Setting the date usually occurs at the same time you've confirmed the place of the wedding and the place of the reception. Start booking caterers, photographers, and other services. High-demand wedding photographers are often booked months in advance, and you want to make sure that you're prepared ahead of time. Try to finalize the guest list by the time there are about seven months to go. Do expect some cancellations and possibly some last-minute additions due to illness, pregnancy, overseas travel, etc. It often can't be helped, so go with the flow. Send out "save the date" cards to your guests so that they have plenty of time to plan to be there. Once the venue and guest lists are confirmed, let everyone know what's coming up. Send emails if you know people will read them; otherwise, send cards to their postal addresses. Tell friends and family so they don't agree to go somewhere else and then not be able to come.
A: Choose the venue. Set the date. Make reservations. Finalize the guest list. Send out the invitations.

Q: Lean in slightly toward the person you are talking with. Slouching back and/or crossing your arms sends out a signal that you are bored or perhaps upset by a conversation. When you're talking to someone, or they are talking to you, looking in their eyes shows confidence and that you are fully engaged in talking with them. If someone isn't making eye contact with you, don't jump to conclusions. Cultural differences sometimes deem eye contact inappropriate, or it could be a sign that someone is intimidated by you. Give it time and see if you can figure out the cause. There is a difference between making eye contact and staring at someone. You definitely don't want to watch what someone else is doing if you are not directly having a conversation with that person at that time. It may be intimidating to that person, and is considered rude and sometimes creepy by most people. People feel much more at ease around someone who smiles. We don't mean plaster a fake smile on your face at all times, but during a conversation, it helps to smile occasionally especially if someone said something interesting or funny.
A: Sit and stand up straight. Make eye contact. Avoid staring. Smile.

Q: Even though there are no strings attached, you should not disappear and ignore your partner's attempts to reach out. Ignoring text messages or emails can hurt your partner's feelings. Be respectful and mindful of their emotions. Although there was an agreed-upon casualness to the relationship, it may insult your partner and damage their self-esteem. If you become too emotionally invested, if you meet someone new, or you are no longer interested in pursuing a casual relationship, talk to your partner. It is important to be honest; after all, the casual relationship was founded on open, honest, upfront communication. Don't lie in an effort to spare their feelings, but do be kind and forthcoming. Perhaps you both agree for a clean break and agree to end all communication. Or, perhaps the two of you formed a great bond and wish to continue to keep in touch as friends. Recognize that the transition from a casual relationship to friendship can be complex and take time. Listen to your instincts and decide what would be best for you as you move away from the casual relationship. Be sure that you are really interested in maintaining a friendship. Ask yourself if you would mind seeing your partner with someone else. Consider if you or your partner ended things because romantic feelings got in the way. It may be too complicated to maintain a friendship as it can could cause romantic feelings to grow stronger. If you do decide to be friends, give yourself some time away from one another. Reach out when enough time has passed, and make plans to catch up in a public place.
A: Don't disappear. Be sincere. Decide if the two of you should be friends.

Q: There are many different types of negative behavior. Your parents probably don't do all of these things, but it's important to pinpoint exactly what kind of behavior they are exhibiting that is bothering you. Common behaviors include: Undermining. For example: "I thought you might mess up the order, so I bought it for you." Insulting. Example: "You look fat in that dress" Underestimating or writing off. Example: "You're probably not going to be a good sprinter." Reinforcing a stereotype. Example: "You're a woman, so you should do teaching, not scientific research." Blaming. Example: "It's your fault your coworker was harassing you you always wear sexy shoes." Making excuses for someone. Example: "It's alright to eat junk food. You had a bad day." Limiting someone. Example: "You're a good painter, but you'll never become a really great artist." Making unfavorable comparisons. Example: "Your cousin Jimmy is always on the honor roll. Why aren't you?" Hostility, threats, or verbal abuse. Ignoring someone. Think about your parents' behavior in the past and try to figure out what kind of negative treatment it is. It might be helpful to make a list of specific incidents where your parents behave in a negative way. This will help you pinpoint the negative behavior so that you can talk about it more clearly. If your parents' negative behavior is fueled by their love for you and their desire to see you succeed, then you are in a better position to have a conversation with them about how their negativity makes you feel. If your parents don't have good intentions, this conversation might be more difficult. Negative behaviors driven by good intentions can include things like trust issues, being overprotective, or coddling. Sometimes negative behavior is because of a misunderstanding or due to a personality conflict. These types of negative behavior are usually resolvable with a little communication and effort. But if your parents are abusing you, you might need to take more drastic action. Abuse includes physical abuse (hitting, kicking, using physical force to restrain, etc.), verbal abuse (insults or cursing that make you feel bad), and emotional abuse (anything that doesn't make you feel safe and loved this can be from abandonment, threats, etc.). If you think you are being abused, you should tell an adult you trust. Another family member, a teacher, a school counselor, your pastor these are all good options. You can also call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline for help (1-800-422-4453). But make sure you don't falsely accuse your parents of abuse. There is a big difference between parenting/punishing and actual abuse. And an accusation like that could get your parents in serious trouble.
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Identify types of negative behavior. Determine what kinds of negative behavior is bothering you. Determine if your parents have good intentions. Get help if you are being abused by your parents.