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These threats and punishments will target you emotionally, such as by withdrawing affection or making you feel insecure in the relationship. In most cases, the person will use manipulative statements to make you feel like something bad will happen if they don't get what they want. It may be blackmail if you feel like you have to do certain things to avoid their threats or punishments. For example, they might say, "If you don't want to move in together, that's fine. I knew this relationship wasn't going anywhere." This statement might make you feel like you need to rush the relationship or risk losing them. They may say, "My family doesn't see what I see in you and I'm tired of defending you. I guess there's no point in you going to Christmas dinner with us since you don't want to do big gifts." They are trying to make you feel like you aren't accepted so that you'll do something, in this case, buy them presents, to gain acceptance. This usually comes in the form of physical threats, ranging from self-harm to cutting. When these threats are used to emotionally blackmail, the person is trying to force you to do what they want. While the threat is against them, it's meant to hurt you. Threatening self-harm alone doesn't mean a person is emotionally blackmailing. They may be reaching out for support. A blackmailer may say, "I need this vacation to feel better about myself! I guess if we can't go on the cruise, I'll just spend the week at home. Hopefully I don't get too depressed and hurt myself." In this case, they are trying to manipulate you into going on vacation. A blackmailer will accuse you of hurting them in some way, even though you haven't done anything. While it's important to recognize when you have made mistakes, be aware when someone is trying to use guilt against you. If your guilt is driving you to do things for them, they may be blackmailing you. For instance, they might use statements like "you never do what I want," "you don't care about my feelings," or "my friends agree that you're neglectful." If you know these statements aren't true, don't let the person make you feel guilty. It's normal and appropriate to feel a certain responsibility toward family, friends, and your partner. However, your loved ones might try to make you feel a sense of duty when you shouldn't so they can manipulate you. When this happens, the blackmailer tries to convince you to step into a role or take on a burden that isn't yours. If you feel like you consistently need to go out of your way to help the person, it may be emotional blackmail. Similarly, they may be emotionally blackmailing you if they make you feel obligated to do things that really aren't your responsibility, such as babysitting their kids for free, paying their bills, or doing repairs around their home. However, an emotional blackmailer will make you feel obligated to do things that aren't your responsibility. Let's say your little sister wants you to give her $2,000 to help pay for college. She might say, "It must have been nice starting college first when Mom and Dad didn't have other kids in college. I wouldn't know. I thought maybe you'd give me the money because you knew you had it better, but whatever." She's hoping you'll feel it's your duty to give her the cash, even though it's really not. People who use emotional manipulation often blame others for the mistakes they've made. They hope blaming you will get them what they want. If you take on the blame, they can manipulate you. If you are doing things for them because you feel responsible for the difficulties they're facing, they may be emotionally blackmailing you. Let's say your partner lost their job. They might say, "I got fired because you were always texting me," "You made me late every morning because you hogged the shower," or, "I told you I needed better work clothes, but you wouldn't listen." People who use emotional blackmail only care about themselves, so they'll demand you tend to their needs. However, they'll often ignore yours. This imbalance makes it easier to see they're taking advantage of you. If the person consistently expects you to help them but refuses to reciprocate, they may be emotionally blackmailing you. For example, they may expect you to listen to them vent about work issues, but they might cut you off when you try to vent. Similarly, they may expect you to drop what you're doing to help them, but make excuses when you need help. Another example of someone putting their needs before yours is self-deprecation. For example, if you share an accomplishment, they may talk about how they could never do anything similar so attention is refocused on them. Listen for when someone tells you how another person does something, such as if your mother says something like, "He calls his mom every week. He must really love her." In this instance, she's pointing out another person's behavior because she wishes you would do the same thing.

summary: Watch for threats or punishments if you don't do what they want. Notice if they threaten themselves to get what they want. Observe when someone's trying to make you feel guilty for no reason. Notice when they're making you feel a sense of duty. Be aware of blaming behavior. Realize when someone puts their needs before yours.

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If you wish to make butterfly cakes, you will need to prepare some fairy cakes first. You will also need to prepare some buttercream icing. Once the cakes have cooled, you can begin turning your fairy cakes into butterfly cakes. To make the base cakes, refer to the section on making fairy cakes. To prepare some buttercream icing, refer to the section on making buttercream icing. Using a serrated knife, cut part of the dome off on each cake. You want to angle the knife slightly while you cut, so that you are creating a small groove in each cake. You will be filling this groove with buttercream icing later. Your butterfly cakes will need some wings. You can create wings for your cakes by cutting each dome in half, creating little half-domes. You will need to fill the grooves you made earlier in your cakes with buttercream icing. Not only does this give the cakes extra flavour, but it also helps secure the wings. You can fill the grooves with icing either by spreading icing into them with a knife, or by piping icing into them using a decorating bag. If you do not have a decorating bag, you can make your own by filling a plastic bag with buttercream icing and cutting the corner off. To prevent the icing from squishing out the opposite way and getting all over your hands, secure the open part of the bag either by knotting it or by wrapping a rubber band around it. At this point, you can add the wings, or you can make the butterfly cakes more colourful and flavourful by dding a dollop of lemon curd or jam. Simply spoon a little bit of lemon curd or jam right right in the centre of each cake. This can be the body of the butterfly. Each butterfly cake gets two half-dome wings. Place the wings on top of the buttercream and to either side of the dollop of curd or jam. Apply gentle pressure. You want them to stick, but you don't want them to be completely submerged in the icing. The parts that were originally the top of the cakes should be facing each other, and the parts that were in the groove should be facing out. The flat edge, created from when you cut the wings in half, should be in the buttercream. At this point, you can leave your butterfly cakes as they are, or you can add some variety with icing sugar. To do this, simply dust some sifted icing sugar on top of each cake. Make sure to get the wings! You can use coloured sugar or hundreds and thousands instead of icing sugar. This will make the butterfly cakes more colourful.
summary: Consider making some butterfly cakes. Cut the domes off. Cut each dome in half. Fill the grooves with buttercream icing. Add a dollop of lemon curd or jam. Stick the wings on top of the icing. Lightly dust the butterfly cakes with icing sugar.