Problem: Article: Plan a vacation with aging parents that you will all enjoy by letting your parents help choose the destination. Brainstorm locations you've always wanted to visit, a country that's central to your family's ancestry, or a trip to a special place from your childhood. Picking the destination will help your parents feel involved and allow them to voice any concerns they have over traveling to certain areas or activities. The itinerary describes what you want to do when you arrive at your destination. Your trip will be more organized and less stressful if you write out an itinerary about exactly where you'll go and what you want to see or do. Choose specific sites and think about how long you want to visit each. Setting an itinerary will keep you all on the same page and make it easier to make arrangements with hotels, airport shuttles, or taxis. Be sure to schedule free time into the itinerary. This will give both you and your aging parents time to explore or relax independently of each other. Be realistic. Don't try to plow through a tour of Europe when your parents aren't up to it. Instead, go relax on a beach somewhere for a week or so. You may need to exercise diplomacy when setting the itinerary. If your parents are not realistic about their own limitations, try to frame your decision to avoid certain places or limit the extent of the trip in terms that express your own disinterest or dislike of a place or places. Print a copy of the itinerary for everyone on the trip. That way everyone can refer to it and know where the group is going next. If you are an elderly adult traveling alone, let your sons or daughters know. If you are planning a trip with your parents, then you may want to have a direct flight so that they do not get confused with a transfer, connecting flight, or bus trip. Whether you're traveling on an extended tour with your aging parents or just heading a few hours away, it's important to give your parents time to settle in. Rapidly unpacking, rushing about to see the sights, and then repacking and jumping on a plane or bus every few nights can be tedious even for the hale and hearty. For aging parents, this exercise can be even more exhausting. Plan on at least four days in each location. Plan for rest stops and breaks throughout the duration of your trip. This will give your older parents, who will likely tire faster than you, a chance to rest, eat, stretch, take medications, and hydrate themselves as needed. A break will also allow you to assess how the trip is going and make sure your parents are having fun. If you schedule two days in Beijing but decide you want to spend an extra day or two there, go for it. However, always think about how adjustments to your itinerary will impact the rest of your trip. You might have less time in Shanghai or another location, and might lose money if you've booked hotels in advance.
Summary: Pick a destination together. Plan the itinerary together. Stay at least four days in each place. Schedule periodic breaks. Don't feel locked in to a particular itinerary.

Problem: Article: If you get on someone's bad side during a first encounter, it's hardly a bad idea to humble yourself. People frequently put their foots in their mouths when they are nervous or self-conscious. Explain this to the other person. However, don't come off as if you are making an excuse for your behavior. Odds are, the person has once been in your shoes; they may understand where you're coming from. Sometimes, a misstep is not so obvious and you may not be presented with an opportunity to apologize for something you said or did. In these cases, it's best to display pivotal behaviors that counteract the offensive ones. If your shyness is being received as rudeness, make an effort to smile more, start a conversation, and ask the other person questions. This can happen without any indicator to them that you are making a pivot. They will assume they judged you too quickly and assimilate these new interactions into their impression of you. On the contrary, if you have a tendency to come off as over-bearing and you ruffle someone's feathers, quickly adjust your behavior as needed. You might try to sit back and not respond to every statement made, but rather nod your head, smile, and listen more. This also works for interruptions, which can be seen as offensive in some settings. Acknowledge the misstep by saying "My apologies for the interruption." and ensure that your subsequent behavior is characterized by taking turns and listening until the other speak has finished. Many social faux pas happen during first impressions because a person is putting on airs. Be yourself when you meet new people. Or, better yet, be the best version of yourself. If you don't like speaking in front of others, don't put yourself in an uncomfortable position by signing up to lead a presentation. This might lead to a bad, false impression. Instead, highlight the talents that you do have. If you're highly organized, you can volunteer to put together the information packets for the presentation or research complicated concepts that may need explaining. You won't be the focus of the presentation by doing this, but you will still be acknowledged for your organizational skills, or for your in-depth knowledge when someone poses a complex question. Some people wince at the idea of asking another person for help. Considering that the person you are asking for help is one you've just badly impressed, asking can be that much harder. You may think the person will deny your request, leaving you humiliated and rejected. Ask anyway. Ask the person for a book recommendation or to explain a certain concept. Research shows people are much more likely to help those who ask for help. What's more, when you ask advice from a person with whom you have bad footing, you get the chance to not only understand them better, but to make them feel more competent. The person will be flattered by your request and may even change their opinion of you.
Summary: Project humility. Try a pivot. Don't pretend you're something you're not. Ask for advice.

Problem: Article: As a first course of action, your doctor will probably prescribe antibiotics to fight the infection. For most women with salpingitis (around 85%), antibiotics alone can successfully eliminate the problem. In more severe cases, your doctor may recommend that you enter the hospital. While there, you can receive fluids and antibiotics intravenously (through a needle in your arm). Most women are successfully treated with antibiotics, but in some cases, surgery does become necessary. Your doctor will recommend surgery if there are abscesses on your fallopian tubes that must be drained. In a small number of cases, you may also need a salpingectomy the removal of damaged fallopian tubes. If your salpingitis is related to a larger case of pelvic inflammatory disease, you may wind up undergoing a complete hysterectomy along with a salpingo-oophorectomy. In such cases, a surgeon will remove your uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes. If your salpingitis is traced to a sexually transmitted infection like chlamydia or gonorrhea, your recent sexual partners should be tested and treated. Keep in mind that these partners may be infected even if they have no symptoms.
Summary:
Take antibiotics. Consider hospitalization. Discuss the possibility of surgery in severe cases. Treat sexual partners if necessary.