Before you get started write down what you hope to accomplish. Is your goal to finish the outline for a paper? To complete the practice test at the end of the chapter in your math book? Be realistic about what you can get done while still challenging yourself. Setting up small rewards for yourself can be a great motivator as long as you practice restraint and stick to your schedule. Have a granola bar or some almonds as a snack. Listen to some music. Give yourself five minutes to check social media. Sitting and focusing for a long period of time can be exhausting. Giving your brain and body a break will help you stay alert. Take a ten minute break every hour or so to get up, stretch, walk around or grab something to eat. Everyone has a time of day when they work most efficiently. Schedule your homework during this time to make it easier for you to get the work done quickly. This will save you time without any extra effort on your part! For example, you may find that you're better able to concentrate right after school rather than during the late evening. In this case, you'd want to do your homework right after school every day. Track yourself for a week to see when you focus best. During that week, sit down at different times and try to concentrate on an academic task. Caffeine can make you more alert and help you stay awake, but too much can leave you jittery and anxious which will make getting your homework done even more difficult. Try to stick to one or two cups. Most high school students have study hall time. Use this to get as much of your homework done as you can so you won't won't have such a daunting amount when you get home. If you are in college, set time aside in between classes to visit the library or another quiet place. Work one assignment at a time. See the assignment through to the end. Don't do homework and pay bills at the same time. Don't talk to friends. Don't try and cook or clean while doing your homework.
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One-sentence summary -- Set goals. Give yourself rewards. Take short breaks. Do your homework at the time that works best for you. Don't rely on too much coffee. Take full advantage of study hall. Avoid multitasking.

Part of a no-strings-attached relationship means that you are free to see other people. Don't forget this important perk. If you're only hooking up with one person, it may turn into a real relationship. If that's not what you want, then keep a look out whenever you're out at a bar or a party. Don't just wait to get a text from your hook up buddy, but look around and see if there are any other options for you. You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner. Try to make your place as inhospitable as possible so your hook up buddy doesn't want to linger in the morning. If your friend does stay the night, don't fry up some pancakes in the morning, or give her a kiss goodbye. Be nice, but not loving. Don't do things a real couple would do, like go on a mini-vacation, go grocery shopping, or go on double-dates with your friends. Don't go clothes shopping together, and don't bring your "friend" as a date to a wedding or a party. Don't get gifts for the person you're hooking up with, or call him or her just to chat. Keep your distance. Don't see the person more than two or three times a week. The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals, whether it's grad school, your love for painting, or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends. You can keep hooking up with your friend while having plenty of time to do all of the things you love during the day. There are three main reasons that a friends with benefits relationship ends: one person gets too attached, one person finds someone else he really wants to date, or both people just get bored and want to move on. The fourth reason is that there is a natural time-based end to the relationship, such as the end of a summer, the end of a long trip, or that one or both people is graduating. Once you have a feeling that it may be over, then it's over. If you set the ground rules early on, then it shouldn't be too painful to have a conversation about ending the non-relationship. And in the rare event that you and your hook up partner have fallen for each other, just sit back and enjoy the ride.
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One-sentence summary -- Don't forget to see other people. Keep it casual. Keep doing your own thing. Know when to say goodbye.

Whether your spouse stays faithful in the future is entirely up to them. No matter how carefully you check up on them, if your spouse wants to cheat again, they will find a way. Likewise, if they are committed to fixing their mistake, you won't have to try to control them. Remind yourself that you have proven through this process that you can take care of yourself and survive no matter what happens. Sit down with your spouse and think about what you want your relationship to look like in the future. Make some step-by-step plans for turning your goals into reality. Working towards a common target puts you and your spouse on the same team, helping you to rebuild camaraderie and trust. It's valid for you to request access to your spouse's phone and online activity after they cheat on you. However, they still have a right to privacy. Talk with your spouse about how you will balance privacy and accountability in the future. If your spouse remains secretive about their online or phone activity, consider whether they are really committed to helping you trust them again. No one is a mind reader, and it's easy to imagine problems where there are none. Focus on the facts. Don't let yourself get caught up in fears that your spouse is planning to cheat on you again unless there's a concrete reason. Do a reality check with yourself when your imagination runs away with you. Stop and ask yourself, "Why am I thinking this? Is there a more likely explanation?" Also, remind yourself that if they are cheating, then they will likely mess up and get caught again. You don't have to constantly be on the lookout, so allow yourself to let go of this responsibility.
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Accept that you cannot control your spouse. Set goals for your relationship together. Discuss issues of privacy. Don't assume you know what your spouse is thinking.