Article: The first step to dealing with a psychic vampire is by setting firm boundaries. If psychic vampires realize you have limits, they'll back off from you and search for other victims. Be very clear about what you can and cannot do for this person. Explain, in no uncertain terms, what amount of your time, space, and energy is reasonable and what is not. Try saying something like, "I am perfectly happy to talk with you about your problems, but when you refuse to listen to any possible solutions or let me help you feel better I need to step away." Try to set boundaries on your own end, especially if you're dealing with a narcissistic psychic vampire. Try to remind yourself you should not fall in love or form a strong friendship with a person of this emotional capacity. It is not possible for them to love you back. Body language helps as well. If a psychic vampire tries to break boundaries, cross your arms and break eye contact. This sends a signal - "Back off, I can't deal with this today." Psychic vampires thrive on controlling others. If you feel like your time and space is being controlled by another person, take a step back from the relationship. If a psychic vampire is trying to control you or offering unsolicited advice, cut them off with a firm declaration that you do not need their advice. Try something like, "I appreciate you offering advice, but I need to work through this on my own." People often internalize criticism from psychic vampires. You end up with an inner critic, just as harsh as the psychic vampire. Work to shut down the voice inside yourself that tells you you're incapable of making your own decisions. If you find yourself putting yourself down, pause and think, "That's negative and unnecessary." After a certain point, you might have to break off the relationship or at least lessen the bond. If a psychic vampire continues to violate boundaries and demand too much of your time and emotional energy, you need to work on keeping your distance. Don't return texts or phone calls and limit the time you spend with this person. Take care of your body and mind by maintaining healthy eating, exercising, and personal care habits. Spend time with people you care about, as well as your pets. Treat yourself to a bath, cup of tea, or time spent on your hobby. Eat a healthy, balanced diet consisting of plenty of vegetables, lean proteins, and complex carbs. Choose an exercise you enjoy, such as walking, dancing, yoga, or bicycling. Do something nice for yourself every day. If the psychic vampire has done damage, talk out your feelings with someone you trust or work with a therapist.
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Set firm boundaries. Step back if you feel controlled. Stay away from psychic vampires. Keep up with your self care.