If you do manage to get together with the girl, you still have your work cut out for you. Remember, she made a major decision when she decided to go with you despite being in a relationship already. Let her know it was worth it by treating her well and being there for her. Let her know you care by being thoughtful and compassionate. For example, check up on her if you know she's having a rough time, and make an effort to really listen if she wants to talk. Show genuine interest in her as a person. Talk to her about her interests, hopes, and dreams, and spend time doing things with her that she enjoys. No matter what the circumstances, breakups are almost always hard. Understand that even if the girl breaks up with her boyfriend just to be with you, she may need some time to deal with her feelings before she can move forward with you. Don't try to rush her or pressure her to get over it before she's ready. You may not want to hear about her feelings for her ex, but remember, you need to be supportive if you want to be a good significant other. Listen if she wants to talk about it, and offer her a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. If she left her last relationship because she was bored, you'll need to work hard to make sure your relationship with her doesn't end up the same way. Keep things exciting by doing fun things together and surprising her occasionally with something new. For example, you might go camping together or go to a new fun spot in town that's just opened up. You don't have to do anything too elaboratetry surprising her with little gifts or a romantic evening at home now and then. You and your girlfriend might both have some complex feelings about her previous relationship. For example, she might feel some guilt about leaving her boyfriend, and you may feel a little jealous or insecure when she talks about him. If this happens, be honest with her and yourself about how you feel, but don't be judgmental or make accusations. It's natural for things to be a bit complicated under the circumstances. If you talk to your girlfriend about your feelings, use "I" language so that she doesn't feel like you are pointing fingers or blaming her for how you feel. For example, say, "I sometimes feel anxious when you talk about your ex. I worry that you still have strong feelings for him." Don't make it a one-way conversationbe prepared to listen to what your girlfriend has to say, too, even if it makes you uncomfortable.
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One-sentence summary -- Continue to be kind and respectful if you do get together. Give her time to deal with the breakup. Make an effort to keep the relationship fun. Be prepared for complicated emotions.

Increasing your self-awareness can increase your ability to be happy when you are alone. The more you know about yourself and who you are, the more capable you will be at making yourself happy. Being self-aware begins by paying attention to yourself, your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Spend time checking in with yourself to see how you are doing. Ask yourself questions such as, "How am I feeling? What am I reacting to? What do I want to do?" You can also ask people who are close to you how they see you and what they think are your best qualities. Writing down your thoughts and feelings on paper can help you get to know yourself through self-expression. You can also practice gratitude by keeping track of your thoughts in a gratitude journal. Take some time each day to write down something that you are thankful for. Make this a habit. You could write, "I appreciate that my brother is only a phone call away." It could also be something as simple as, "I am thankful that awesome cupcake place opened up in my neighborhood." Personality could definitely be a factor; some individuals are simply more extroverted than others. Being extroverted means you get your energy from being around others, while being introverted means you recharge by being alone. Loneliness can be a result of grief and loss, trauma, or self-esteem issues. Feeling lonely due to aging is common. Research indicates that people who feel lonely often tend to have more: anxiety, anger, pessimism, uncomfortable feelings, and insecurities. Feeling lonely can be a symptom of a larger issue such as depression. If you find yourself becoming increasing lonely or not being able to tolerate being alone, it may benefit you to seek professional assistance. Psychotherapy can be a useful way to understand yourself better. It can also assist you in coping with being alone. Contact your medical insurance provider for a list of approved psychologists, therapists, and psychiatrists (for medication).
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One-sentence summary -- Get to know yourself. Keep a journal. Explore your difficulty with being alone. Consider therapy.

The most surefire way to break in a stiff new softball glove is to use it to play catch frequently. This way, you're using it for what it was designed for, and won't have to worry about damaging the glove's materials using unorthodox methods. The downside of simply playing catch to break in your glove is that it can take many hours of catching to soften the glove up enough. When catching a softball with a new glove, concentrate on enveloping and squeezing the ball with the area around the thumb and forefingers to form what is known as a "pocket." This will give the glove a natural contour the size and shape of a softball and make catching easier as a result. Use both hands to bend, pull, stretch, squeeze and roll the glove. Working the glove manually can also be a time-consuming way to break it in, but the upside is that it can be done absent-mindedly while you're busy with other things. After a while, the repetitive contact will cause the leather of the glove to loosen up. Try kneading your new glove while you're watching TV, talking with friends or sitting in traffic. The natural oils on your hands can also be good for conditioning a stiff glove. Take out your aggression on your new glove and soften it up in the process. Punch it, kick it, stomp on it, hit it with a bat or throw it against the wall. It may seem odd to be so destructive to a new glove, but the abuse you dole out will simulate the pounding it will eventually take on the field. Just make sure you don't damage any weaker areas of the glove, like the stitching. Softball gloves are fashioned from thick, durable leather, so you're unlikely to damage the glove, as long as you don't employ extreme measures like running it over in a car or dropping it off a cliff. One traditional method for breaking in a new glove is to fold it around a ball, stick it under your mattress and sleep on it for a night or two. What makes this effective is the constant heat and pressure from having your body weight on top of it for an extended period. As the glove warms up, it will begin to conform to the shape of the ball, while positioning your shifting mass over it while you sleep will massage away tension in the new leather. Make sure there is a ball in your glove before sleeping on it. The point is to form a defined pocket, not to flatten the glove out. Play catch with your new glove by day and sleep on it at night. Between the two, the glove should be thoroughly broken in in no time.
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Use the glove to play catch. Knead the glove by hand. Rough up the glove. Sleep on the glove.