Write an article based on this "Avoid contact with your ex partner or spouse. Practice self care. Make a list of goals for the coming year. Spend time with family and friends."
Though it may be tempting to share your anger with your ex in the form of a long, hate filled email, a text message, or angry voicemails, avoid contacting him or her in any way. Creating distance between you and your ex will help you to process your emotions and not get sucked back into the negative feelings you associate with your ex. If you need to exchange personal items post break up, enlist the help of a friend or relative so you do not have to see your ex face to face. Give yourself time away from your ex so you can move forward with your life, free of any reminders of past anger and hatred. Often, anger and hatred are emotions that can distract you from your needs. Take the time to re focus on yourself by pampering or treating yourself. This could be a long bath, a walk in your favorite area, or working on a hobby or craft. Practicing self care will show you have compassion for yourself and give you the opportunity to focus your energies on your needs, rather than the needs of your ex. To motivate yourself to focus on the future, rather than the past, create a list of short term and long term goals for the year. Think about skills you have wanted to learn or get better at, but were not able to get to due to your relationship with your ex or dealing with your hatred after breaking up with your ex. These could be short term goals like take a cooking class or long term goals like run every morning or do yoga at least three times a week. Focus on realistic goals that you feel you can meet and push yourself to achieve these goals. You'll get a boost of self confidence and feel good knowing your energy and personal time is not being spent on your ex-partner. When you are dealing with break up feelings, it can help to lean on your family and close friends as your support system. Often, family and friends will encourage you to let get of your hatred of your ex and focus on your goals for the future. They can also offer guidance and support in a constant and accessible way. Don't be afraid to ask for their help or advice if you are struggling with your feelings of anger and hatred. Leaning on family and friends during a hard time can make all the difference and give you the confidence you need to finally let go of negative feelings.