Are you in middle school? High school? College? Focus on what really matters in your life, like completing your education and becoming a more informed, more capable, more mature person. You'll encounter guys all along the way, but you probably won't have endless opportunities to educate yourself. Have you always wanted to travel to Europe? Would you like to start an exercise routine? You can distract yourself from the pain of rejection by focusing on things in your life that are meaningful and will make you happy. It's also okay to mope for a little while. It's natural to feel bad after rejection. Don't be too hard on yourself if it takes you a few days to get on your feet again. Where rejection really hits us is in our sense of social belonging. Rekindle your relationships with friends. Find a community you can attend such as church or a reading group. Even joining a chat room can be helpful for your sense of self-worth and belonging. Surrounding yourself with good people and communities will help you feel better about the rejection. Rejection can cause other painful, destructive emotions such as anger and aggression. There are ways you can deal with these emotions, such as: Expressing yourself in words. A journal can be a good idea, or posting on an online forum, or talking to your best friend. Practicing deep breathing. One way to reduce anger and other powerful emotions is to remember to breathe. If you calm your body, your mind will follow. Seeing a counselor if you need additional help. Psychological counselors can help you learn to handle your emotions and promote your self-esteem so that rejection won't be so hard in the future. It's normal to have difficulty getting over a guy who rejects you. If you feel like you're obsessing or you just can't get him out of your head, practice these techniques to make a speedy recovery and get on with your life: Write down what attracted you to the guy. Was he smart, funny, cute? Was he a good listener? Acknowledge what made you want to be with him. Let yourself grieve the loss of not going out with him. You probably imagined possible future experiences with him, but those futures are closed off now. It's okay to be sad about that. Ask yourself what isn't closed off now. Are there other guys that you're interested in? If not, maybe you'll have extra time to work on yourself and your other relationships? Maybe you'll have more free time to have fun or take care of responsibilities? Shift your imagination to the future rather than mourning the past and would could have been.

Summary: Work on your education. Pursue your own goals. Spend time with friends and family. Deal with emotional side effects. Practice letting go.

During psychotherapy, you express your thoughts and feelings about the traumatic experience that has caused your PTSD. The most common psychotherapy is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT aims to help you overcome your negative thoughts about your experience and instead turn them into more positive or rational thoughts. Talk therapy usually lasts up to 12 weeks but, in many cases, the therapy continues until you feel like you have overcome your PTSD. Psychotherapy can be done one on one or in a group, and it usually needs the support of the whole family for it to work. Ask your family to go to therapy with you if that is something you think you might benefit from. Psychotherapy, specifically CBT, works because it addresses psychological issues directly and also provides you with practical advice on how to manage your life in the shadow of PTSD. Therapy helps you to process what you are feelingshame, anger, guiltabout the trauma you have experienced. Talk therapy can help you to understand why you feel the way that you do and can give you the tools to overcome those feelings. It will also provide you with ways to react in a healthy way to people, places, and things that remind you of the trauma you have experienced. This type of therapy falls under the category of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and focuses on facing your fears and memories head-on. It facilitates your confrontation with your fear by exposing you to the trauma once again (this time safety is guaranteed). The ultimate goal is to help you deal with your fear and to aid you in coping with the emotional distress you feel when the trauma comes back and haunts you. Through exposure therapy, you will learn how to control your memories and realize that they are nothing to be afraid of. Mental imagery (picturing the trauma in your mind), visiting the place where the traumatic event happened, and encouraging you to write about your ordeal is all common tools of exposure therapy. This is another CBT technique that can help you to find a more rational and logical take on what happened to you during the traumatic event. By doing this, you will be able to come to terms with the reality of what has happened and escape the guilt that people with PTSD commonly feel. People who suffer from PTSD feel shame and think that what happened is their fault; cognitive restructuring will help you to see that it is not your fault at all. There are some cognitive restructuring techniques you can try from home, such as tracking the accuracy of your negative thoughts. For example, if you find yourself ruminating, you can note when you ruminate and then note whether your ruminating helped you solve your problems or not. Or, you could try testing your thoughts through your actual behavior. For example, if you believe that you don't have any time to exercise, you could try exercising for 15 minutes and see whether you have less time for other important parts of your life. This sort of psychotherapy can help you to find closure and overcome negative feelings about yourself that the traumatic event caused. This type of therapy is another type of CBT and will teach you to control your anxiety. It goes a step beyond just restructuring your memories and will you to create a healthier mentality about your traumatic experience. The goal of this sort of therapy is to help you reshape the way you view the trauma you experienced before you developed anxiety or depression because of your PTSD. Group therapy, just like any other approach, works better for some people than for others. However, it may help you to overcome your symptoms because it will give you other people to relate to, who have gone through, or are going through, a situation similar to yours. Talking to others who have gone through a similar experience as you can help you to rationalize how you feel, realize you are not alone and feel more "normal." In group therapy, people talk about their experiences and the way those experiences have affected their lives and emotions. Hearing others tell their stories can help to ease feelings of shame, guilt, and anger that you might be experiencing because of your own traumatic event.

Summary: Consider treatment through psychotherapy. Understand why psychotherapy works for those suffering from PTSD. Try exposure therapy. Try cognitive restructuring. Go through stress inoculation training. Consider group therapy.

With the number of musicians that have jumped into the fashion scene, it will be fairly easy to find a style that works for you. Who better to give you expert advice on Hip Hop style than those that are part of the fashion forward movement? Sean John by P. Diddy, Rocawear by Jay-Z, the River Island Collection by Rihanna, or T.I.'s AKOO are only a few of the clothing lines available to you and all made Fuse's list of "12 Dope-est Hip Hop Fashion Lines". Beauty comes in all different sizes and so do clothes. When it comes to dressing Hip-Hop you want to ensure you are selecting clothes that fit your body type. Wearing something that fits too tight, or is way too big, will make it seem like you are trying too hard and may not necessarily look on you the way it does on someone else. Hip-Hop is about expressing your own fashion tastes and allowing your inner goddess to come to the surface. Even if you grew up in the 1980s, when hip-hop fashion was really hitting the scene, you will find that the style you were accustomed to seeing then has taken a turn in many directions. While red Kangol hats, big rimmed sunglasses, and old school Adidas sneakers were cool back in the day you will want to upgrade to something more modern and make sure it suits your age.
Summary: Choose a brand that works for you. Find clothes that complement your body type. Find age-appropriate clothing.