Mom and Bob are helping me pay the bills that that money was slated for , but still ... After work Sunday , I was such a wreck that I went over to John 's to hide from the world . I needed to go someplace where people were n't telling me how to fix it , were n't asking for a post - mortem , were n't forcing me to deal with it any more at that point in time . He said the only thing he might force me to do is eat .

Question: What has lead the speaker to become fed up with people telling them how to fix the problem they have ?
They have already done their due diligence and find that the best thing they could do is focus on something else