Problem: Article: It can be very easy to hold onto anger if someone has hurt you in the past. However, there are enormous psychological benefits to forgiving others. Specifically telling people that you forgive them can help. If someone has said something cruel to you, try telling that person "I was hurt when you said X, but I want you to know that I'm letting it go because I want to move on. I forgive you." While saying that a problem is someone else's fault might seem like an easy way to get rid of it, things don't work that way. When you place blame on others, you may have a subconscious expectation for them to correct things. It is more effective, however, to acknowledge an issue and focus on moving on. For instance, if a partner's spending habits have created financial troubles, don't just say "You've ruined things!" Instead, try to be more constructive: "We are having financial problems and need to make some changes in our spending habits." A grudge is a specific type of emotional baggage that can make a past issue really drag you down. If someone has hurt you or done you wrong in the past, don't focus on retaliating. While you may think it would be very satisfying to see the person get hurt, you will feel better if you move on. For instance, if you are angry because you think that a someone took an ex away from you, approach that person and say something like: "I was upset at first, but I want everyone to be happy and move on. I want you to know that I accept your relationship." Making changes to get over a past problem is difficult. It is hard enough to change yourself, let alone someone else. If you let others worry about taking care of their own problems, you will have more energy and attention to devote to correcting yours. If you have tried unsuccessfully to repair a past personal relationship that is holding you back, it may help to give yourself some breathing room. Time to reflect can work wonders. You might make an agreement with someone to come back to a problem at a later date. For instance, if you are having relationship troubles, you might consider taking a break from one another.
Summary: Forgive others. Don't place blame. Let go of grudges. Focus on changing yourself, not others. Give some space if need be.

Problem: Article: Feed one end of the lace through the top of the bottommost eyehole one one side of the shoe's flaps. Pass the lace under to the tongue of the shoe to the opposite eyehole. Push the lace through the bottom of the opposite eyehole. Pull the lace upward to form a loop running from one eyehole to the other. Pull until the length of the laces on the left and right are about the same. Once your laces are looped, start on the right. Pass the right end of the lace to the left. Feed it through the top of the second highest eyehole on the left and pull until the lace is snug. From here, you essentially do the same thing on the left. Pass the left lace to the second highest eyehole on the right. Feed it through the top of the eyehole on the right and pull it snug. This should create a criss-cross pattern on your shoes. Take the left side of the lace. Move it down to the bottom eyehole. Re-feed the lace through the bottom of the bottommost eyehole on the right and pull it up snugly. Repeat the process with the left lace. Move it downward to re-feed through the bottom of the bottommost eyehole on the left. Take the lace on the right. Push the tip through the top of the second highest eyehole, re-feeding the lace through this hole. Pull the lace until it's snug. Repeat the same process on the left. Push the tip of the left lace through the top of the second highest eyehole on the left and then pull the lace until it's snug. This will create an hourglass-like shape running across the tongue of your shoe. Repeat the pattern you made with the first two eyeholes with both the third and forth eyeholes on the right and left. Remember, the process is as follows: Pass the right lace through the bottom of the third eyehole on the right. Pull it snugly and pass the lace to the left eyehole. Feed it under the fourth eyehole on the left. Repeat with the left lace. Re-feed the lace on both sides through the third eyehole and then the forth eyehole, creating an hourglass shape. You should now have two hour glass shapes running across the tongue of your shoe. Feed the tips of either lace underneath the top eyehole and pull them snuggly. Pass the right lace to the left and re-feed it through the top of the topmost eyehole on the left. Pass the left lace to the right and re-feed it through the topmost eyehole on the right. Pull your laces snug and then tuck them into the flaps of the shoes.
Summary:
Loop the laces through the bottom eyeholes. Pull the right lace through the second eye hole on the left. Pull the left lace through the second eye hole on the right. Re-feed the right lace through the bottom eye hole. Re-feed the left lace through the bottom eye hole. Re-feed the right lace through the second eye hole. Re-freed the left lace through the second eye hole. Repeat this pattern with the third and fourth eyeholes. Pass the laces through the top eyeholes. Feed the top laces through the opposite holes.