They may be saying awful things about that person, but pay attention to the fact that they are still talking about them 24/7. They are trying to fool you into believing the person is undesirable, thus throwing the suspicion off them. Casually ask a boyfriend or girlfriend where they were such and such day, and let them answer. Remember their answer, and ask again a few days later. If they are lying constantly, then they will have a hard time keeping up. They may start to get angry with these simple questions, another big hint.
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One-sentence summary -- Notice if a boyfriend or girlfriend is constantly putting someone else down. Catch them in a lie.

Plan an outing where everyone sits down at coffee shops, cafes, or park benches and simply observes the passersby. Have them make up stories in their heads about what the people might be doing, thinking, or feeling. When people are really caught up in their own small worlds, their capacities for empathy are limited. When they expand their focus to the world at large (including strangers), they become more capable of feeling deeply for others. If coming up with simple stories about stranger's lives doesn't come naturally, encourage them to use body language, style of dress, or actions to help build the stories. They can also draw on stories they know, such as in movies or books, as a foundation for what they think strangers are doing. Differences separate, while similarities bring people together. Talk to others about the different people in their liveseveryone from their kids' teachers to the mailman. Make a list of the things they might have in common with these people. If they have trouble spotting commonalities, suggest that they start with the larger, more obvious things that can forge connections. For example, a mom may like the same color as her child's teacher. A neighbor may root for the same sports team as the mailman. As you practice connecting more through bigger items, you can eventually move toward smaller, more personal things. Encourage those you are teaching to be mindful about everything they do for a day, particularly how others may play into their daily activities. Getting in touch with the human side of basic activities can help them build stronger connections with others. For example, while drinking their morning tea, they may think about the farmers and workers who harvested the leaves. While driving, they may consider the mechanic who gave their car a tune-up or the person who washed it. Becoming immersed in fictional stories has been shown to increase one's capacity to understand and relate to other's experiences. Challenge everyone to get lost in a fictional story and really connect with the lives of the characters. Inspire those you are teaching to take positive action in their local communities. Suggest some of the following volunteer opportunities to the adults you work with: serve in a soup kitchen, dedicate time to an important charity, or read to at-risk children at the library. Working with and helping others from a variety of backgrounds can help people see the shared humanity in others who seem different on the surface. As a result, this cultivates stronger empathy for people in general.
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One-sentence summary -- Get curious about strangers. Spot commonalities. Use mindfulness during daily activities. Read fiction to connect with others' experiences. Volunteer more often.

Having the demotion, and all its specifics, in writing can keep things clear and make certain you and your supervisor are on the same page about what is now expected of you. You might not need any of this information, but you never know, and it's better to have everything documented than to realize too late that it could have helped you. Just to be on the safe side, keep the documentation on a home computer or flash drive, not on your work computer. You might, for example, decide to deal with the decision if it comes from company reorganization or is warranted based on your performance. Although a demotion can seem on the surface like nothing but a negative, there are times when it presents a positive move forward for you and your career, such as: A chance to work with new people on new projects. The chance to grow by developing new skill sets. Less responsibilities, therefore less stress. The possibility of having more time to spend with family. Freedom from difficult co-workers or a toxic environment. Many organizations have an internal mechanism in place for appealing decisions such as firings and demotions. If your company has such an option in place, there are times when this might be the right path for you to consider, such as: You truly believe that the demotion is unjust due to misinformation. You have evidence that the demotion is directly due to discrimination of some sort from the supervisor demoting you. You want the chance to challenge the decision and plead your case. If internal appeals don't work or you simply don't trust the internal process, you can consider the more drastic approach. Although this option can create a hostile situation between you and your employer, depending on the situation and the company you work for, you may need the support of a mediator or an employment lawyer to help you in your search for resolution.Times when this might be necessary can include: Your company lacks any avenue to address worker grievances. A badly handled appeal process resulted in a rejection of your claim. You feel you cannot get a fair hearing due to internal prejudice.
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One-sentence summary -- Get it in writing. Document everything related to the demotion. Consider accepting the decision if the rationale makes sense. Appeal the decision internally if you can show it is unjust. Seek outside intervention if you have no other recourse.

This means that you should pick or cut the flowers that have died while the bush continues to bloom. Spent blooms will start to turn brown and will look very wilted. Cut the dead blooms back to where they attach to the stem. Doing this will ensure that your bush produce new flower buds longer into the blooming season than they would if the bush was left unattended. At the end of the season, you should dead-head all of the now finished blooms. This will help the plant along when creating buds for the next year. It will also limit the butterfly bush's chances of self-seeding and thus taking over your entire garden.
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Dead-head the spent blooms while the plant is flowering. Remove spent blooms at the end of the season.