Article: At 10 or 11, they should, but good rules are: No fighting No swearing Don't be rude Don't answer back If you are still going to spank, follow these guidelines: Don't do it in anger, wait for the next day. Don't do it bare. Their 'front - bottoms' will have started developing, and it will be embarrassing, humiliating and cruel. To some people this may seem the point of a spanking, but a spanking is to stop a child from doing something. See How to Give a Spanking for more information. Don't do it to hard. Don't use an implement. It is abusive and indeed illegal in some places.
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Make sure they know the rules. Make sure they know the punishment for breaking rules. At 10 or 11, spanking should not be necessary, and in some areas is illegal. Grounding, or taking away things like toys, electronics or favourite books is often a good enough punishment.
Article: Spend some time walking the streets in your area. Talk to civilians, just to get to know them and to introduce yourself. When people know the police officers in their community, they'll have a better relationship with them. You'll have a better sense of the community, that will help you protect it and resolve any issues. There are lots of ways for police officers to make a positive impact in their community outside of their regular work. Think of these as opportunities to strengthen ties with the residents of your area, and to help them build trust in their police force. Try things like: Running a toys for tots drive. Hosting "Shop with a Cop" events at holidays and back-to-school times to help children and families who are financially needy. Volunteering to visit schools, community organizations, religious centers, and other locations to meet people and talk about the work that police officers do. To best serve your community, you need to know as much as possible about it. Talking to individuals face-to-face will tell you something about what's important to them, and what they're concerned about. Getting a big-picture view of your community will also help you serve them with sensitivity. Look at census data and other sources to learn things like: What is the average age in my community? What age range do the majority of people fall into? What are the gender, race, and ethnicity breakdowns of the population? What is the average household income in the area? Serving a diverse community is the reality for police officers. It's important to identify biases that may impact your thinking so that you can overcome them in order to make good judgments in your police work. Biases, when unchecked, can lead to problems like racial profiling. Evidence shows that they can be overcome with proper training. Ask your superiors to host a workshop on diversity to help officers. Invite experts trained in the areas of diversity and biases to come and speak to your force. Sometimes, it's necessary to withhold information from the press, especially for ongoing investigations. Appearing unnecessarily secretive, however, will make it harder for people to trust the police force. If you can give the media the information they request, do so. If you can't divulge information for any reason, tell them something like "I can't comment on that right now, because the investigation is ongoing. However, I promise to release that information to the public as soon as I am able."
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Get out there and talk to the people in your community. Take part in community events. Study the demographics of your community. Learn about biases and how to overcome them. Be as forthcoming as you can with the media.
Article: Once your partner tells you the relationship is over, avoid begging for another chance or calling your partner over and over again. Take a step back and respect your partner's desire for space and distance. Use this time apart to focus on your issues and what went wrong in the relationship, rather than try to talk to your partner directly. Limiting your contact may mean avoiding any messaging via text or social media. If you really feel you need more distance and space, you might want to consider unfriending your partner from Facebook and removing their number from your phone. This will prevent you from being tempted to drop in your partner's life while you are apart and can help you re focus on your issues and needs away from your partner. You can do this in an active way by keeping a journal and writing down your thoughts and feelings around the break up. Think about factors that may have lead to the break up, such as infidelity, a lack of trust, or a lack of sexual desire. Make a list of these factors and consider if you are responsible for any of these reasons. This can help you take ownership of the part you played in the break up and help you focus on issues that you may need to work through on your own. In the event your ex-partner does give you a second chance, you want to be sure you can step up and be a good partner. Part of this is acknowledging your shortcomings in the relationship and being willing to work on your shortcomings. Break ups can be very difficult emotionally and mentally, so it is important that you reach out and lean on your support systems. Contact your family and close friends, and explain the situation to them. Try to find someone close to you that you can talk to and that you know is a good listener. Often, it is helpful to verbalize your feelings of anger, pain, hurt, or shame to a sympathetic listener. Depending on how close you are to your family or your friends, they may have seen you and your ex-partner together or they may have known you both well when you were together. They may be able to give you some insight and perspective on some of the possible issues in your relationship and ways that you can work on these issues. Be willing to listen to their advice, but remember that ultimately you will need to figure out how to work through your issues on your own. If you are struggling with the break up with your ex-partner and are not sure how to unpack your issues, you may want to look for a therapist or a counselor you can talk to. A therapist can guide you through any anger, pain, or guilt you are experiencing as a result of the break up and help you work on addressing your personal issues. Working on your issues with a good therapist will also show your ex-partner that you are willing to acknowledge any mistakes you made in the relationship and that you are focusing on cleaning up your act. This is particularly important if the relationship ended due to infidelity, boredom, sexual issues, mental health issues, or even communication issues.
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Limit your contact with your ex-partner. Identify the issues that may have lead to the break up. Lean on family and friends. Seek professional support.