There is a tendency for younger people in elementary school to socialize with people they don't like romantically. Kissing may not be for everyone, so it's important that you understand the person you want to kiss, and how they feel about kissing. Ask them about kissing. If they seem grossed out or embarrassed, they may not be ready for a kiss. You don't have to give away your intentions to kiss them. Say something like "My older brother kissed his girlfriend in front of me. What do you think about kissing?" You can ask their friends how they feel about kissing. If someone does not like you, they probably won't want to kiss you. Think about how you talk and treat each other. If they are constantly telling you to go away, that you're annoying, or that they don't want to be around you, it's a good sign they don't like you. If they always go out of their way to help you and always wants to talk to you, they may like you. If they tease you, don't lose hope. Some kids in elementary school tease other kids because they like them. If they go out of their way to talk to you and be around you, it might be a sign that they actually like you, even if teasing is involved. You can't force or trick anyone to like you. If you feel like your crush doesn't like you, try to find someone else. It might be hard and it may make you very sad, but you shouldn't be ashamed. There are plenty of people that will enjoy your company. Try to make friends with other kids in school to take your mind off the person you want to kiss. Don't give up immediately. Don't assume they don't like you without trying to talk to them. If you want to kiss a boy, there are common signs that point to if he likes your or not. If he fiddles with his shirt or socks, leans or stands with a wide stance, talks with his hands, or seems nervous, there's a good chance he likes you. If you're curious if a girl likes you, she will usually tilt her head towards you, point her feet in your direction, play with her hair, or will blush when she's around you. Don't take every action as a sign of something. Only consider this advice if this is how they always act around you. Even if you're scared or self conscious, act like you are confident. If you smile, stand up straight, and talk clearly, it will appear like you're confident even if you're not. Try practicing when you're in other situations so you can do it naturally when you're around your crush.

Summary: Talk to them about how they feel about kissing. Think about how they treat you. If the person doesn't like you, move on. Look at their body language and see how they act. Act confidently when you're around them.

Not the cause the root. Not why you feel this way, but why you chose to interpret this situation this way. Did you inherit this way of thinking? Was there a moment in your past you can pinpoint it to? Where does this anxiety come from? Here's a clearer example: let's say your friend Marie called you fat behind behind your back and now you can't stop feeling ugly and down on yourself. Some people would take this situation and be mad at Marie so why are you feeling the way you're feeling? Acknowledging that an emotion stems from insecurity or from a previous relationship (including that with your parents) or from a particularly stressful time in our past helps us understand ourselves. When we understand ourselves, we tend to give ourselves a little more slack. Negative emotions are often associated with the unknown when you know where it comes from, it has less power. Some people will take the above step and say, "I have no idea where this emotion is coming from or why I'm feeling this way." And that's fine. If that's your answer (and even if it's not), take into account your body. Your mind sends your body signals, sure, but it works the other way around, too. Are you exhausted? Stressed out? Do your muscles ache? Are you hormonal? Did you start a new medication? Often physical issues manifest emotionally without us even realizing it. Try this: start breathing quickly and shallowly for about 15 seconds. Then hold your breath. How are you feeling? Odds are if not a little nervous, at least a little uneasy. This should show you that the next time you're feeling a negative emotion, see if some of the trigger is in your body and what you can do to make it go away. If someone told you to not think about a pink elephant, there's only one thing you'd wind up thinking of. It's crazy to expect otherwise from your mind. If you tell yourself that these emotions need to be fought and aren't acceptable, then sure, maybe they'll disappear for a bit, but then they'll come creeping right back. Instead of fighting them, let them be. Feel them. Stew in it. It's the only way it'll pass. Think about the last time something was on the tip of your tongue. It probably bothered you and bothered you and bothered you until you either A) remembered what it was or B) forgot about it (until now). That's just the way humans are programmed. Though it may seem a bit counter-intuitive, a surefire way to get rid of an emotion is to feel it. It's ridiculous to tell yourself to stop thinking negative things, to stop feeling this way. That's just not how it works. Instead, take that thought, listen to it, acknowledge it, and take on a new, better thought to the end. This new and improved thought process will make the emotion a lot less jarring, more acceptable to feel, and cause you a lot less stress. For example, say that you look in the mirror and you're still feeling ugly thanks to Marie's comment. "I'll never be pretty," passes through your mind. After that, the more logical voice inside of you chimes in with a, "Okay, how true is that thought? Who would you be without that thought? And since when can you tell the future?" Opening up a dialogue can sometimes bring to light that this thought is just that only a thought. Most of our thoughts have nothing to do with truth and everything to do with how we're feeling at that exact moment. It's just a tape running in our brains that needs to be paused. How many times have you imagined a situation going bad and it actually went as bad as you thought it would? Probably never. So all that time spent worrying about the future is for naught. When you catch yourself riddled with this negative emotion, take a step back and focus on the present. Focus on what's in front of you. The human mind is fleeting step into the now now and that negative emotion may dissipate on its own. We've all heard "life is short," more times than we can count. And every time it's said, it's still true. Spending it feeling negative emotions is such a waste. If the world were gone tomorrow, would this thought process have gotten you anywhere? Or would it just have spoiled an otherwise good time? Sometimes when we see how ridiculous we're being, our thought processes realign themselves.
Summary: Find the root of this negative emotion. Know how your body is feeling. Let it be. Listen and acknowledge your thoughts. Only live in the now.