No friendship is perfect, but if it's a friendship worth keeping, the positives will outweigh the negatives. If you're feeling upset with a friend, remember a time they've been there for you and remind yourself that you need to do the same for them, even if it's difficult. Try not to dwell on the little things that annoy you, like a friend who takes a couple of hours to text back or who is too busy to spend time with you during the week. Unless these small issues become more serious, accept them as a part of your friend's life and personality that aren't worth getting upset over. As a good friend, you can also be a "constructive critic" by gently letting your friends know when they're not at their best, and they can do the same for you. Avoid drama and hurt feelings by deploying your honesty with sensitivity and kindness, highlighting their positive attributes as well as giving advice. For example, if a friend handled a situation poorly, say, "I admire you for not avoiding confrontation. Next time, though, try to keep a cool head instead of letting other people get to you." If you're upset by something your friend is doing, tell them about it as soon as an appropriate moment arises, instead of letting the tension build up. For example, if you're upset that a friend is avoiding you, say, "We haven't been hanging out much lately and I miss seeing you. Is everything okay?" Leaving an angry comment on Facebook is more likely to spiral into online drama than resolve anything, and even texting and email have their limitations. When possible, talk through problems face-to-face, or even over the phone, to avoid miscommunication and hurt feelings.

Summary: Focus on the positives. Be honest with your friends. Air out issues as they come up. Talk out problems in person, not on social media.

Salons have special color removing products that you can't get in a store. The formula changes depending on what color you are starting out with and what color you want to get. It also changes depending on your hair type and the type of dye you used: permanent, semi-permanent, etc. In some cases, a color remover won't be enough and your stylist will need to use bleach. This can get very expensive, and can cost you anywhere between $200 and $600. Be aware that a $15 at-home kit won't have the same quality as a $200 process done at a professional salon. There is also a chance that you may damage your hair. You can find these kits in well-stocked beauty supply stores. Check the ingredient label to ensure that it does not contain bleach. Be aware that some chemicals may be just as damaging to your hair as bleach is; in some cases they may be more damaging. Most color removers won't remove black dye completely. This means you may not be able to dye your hair a light, strawberry red after; you may have to settle for a darker shade. Read the reviews. Some color removers may remove the color just fine, but when you go to dye your hair, it may not come out the right color. Each brand is a little different, but in most cases, you will need to mix 2 products together. Apply the product to your hair, rub it in thoroughly, and leave it on for the recommended time before rinsing it out. Again, how long you leave the remover in depends on the brand; it could be 20 minutes, or it could be 60 minutes. Wrapping your hair in plastic and applying heat can be helpful for breaking up the dye, but only if the product you are using recommends doing this. Check the package for any indications about using heat. Sometimes, a single treatment is not enough and your hair re-oxidizes. If that happens, and if your hair doesn't feel dry or brittle, simply repeat the color removal process. This is best done immediately after the first treatment. If you need to do a third treatment, wait until the following day. A color remover will not bleach your hair, so don't expect your hair to turn blond. If your hair is naturally blond, that the color remover may not take the dye out completely. You may end up with dark blond or light brown hair. Use enough of the mask to saturate your hair. Tuck your hair under a shower cap, then wrap a towel around the cap. Go to sleep, then rinse the mask out the following morning. Allow your hair to air dry. Avoid using a hair dryer, as it can damage your hair. If you must use a hair dryer, apply a heat protectant, and use a low-heat setting. This is not absolutely necessary, but it will help make your hair stronger. Apply the product according to the instructions on the package. Leave it on for the recommended time, typically about 20 minutes, then rinse it out. Each brand is a little different, so if the instructions tell you to do something different, follow those instructions. While hair dye is not as harsh as other treatments (i.e. bleaching), it is still damaging to your hair. If your hair feels dry or brittle after the color removal process, it would be a good idea to wait a few days or weeks. When your hair feels strong again, you can dye it without damaging it as much.

Summary: Get the color removed professionally at a salon, if needed. Get a color remover kit if you want to do it yourself. Apply the color remover according to instructions, then rinse it out. Repeat the process, if needed. Apply a deep conditioning mask overnight. Follow up with a protein filler to reduce damage. Wait a few days or weeks, depending on how healthy your hair feels.

Accept the grief, sadness, loneliness, regret, anxiety, guilt, insecurity, or other negative emotions in the order they come to you. Let yourself be sad, and let yourself heal. Ultimately, the surest path to getting over someone is to be honest with yourself. Don't bottle up your emotions. Ask your support system for advice, and try to understand what went wrong. If you aren't sure what to do next, these people may have the wisdom and insight to guide you. Talk to parents, older siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents anyone that you feel comfortable asking for insight. You may even feel comfortable asking a favorite teacher or a leader in your community. Be careful who you trust. If you are spilling your guts to someone for whom your crush is a mutual friend, make sure that this person won't pass along what you say. It may be harder to get over the guy if there's gossip floating around. Consider that there are hundreds of thousandseven millionsof people with whom you can fall in love. He may seem like the one, but this doesn't mean that he is the only one. Nor does it mean you'll never find someone like him again. Think about why this crush didn't work out. Maybe you were into him, but he wasn't into you; maybe he was in a relationship already, or he had eyes for someone else; maybe you said something to turn him off, or he did something that made you decide that he was bad news. Whatever the circumstances, you cannot take back what has happened. You can only absorb this, learn from it, and grow. Think about what you would have done differently. You might be able to successfully navigate a crush situation in the future by analyzing what went wrong with this guy. Think about the sort of person that you want to pursue. Maybe this guy just wasn't right for you, even if you found yourself attracted to him. Consider which qualities will guide your future crushes, and which personality traits you want to avoid.
Summary: Embrace your feelings for him, then let them go. Talk about your feelings with a friend, a relative, or a counselor. Remind yourself that this crush is just another fish in the sea. Learn from the experience.