Notice which situations tend to amplify your doubt. Then, challenge your thoughts about the situation by trying to view it in another way. For instance, if your doubt grows when your partner fails to pick up a phone call, reframe it: they might be in a meeting or taking a shower. A missed phone call doesn't necessarily mean they are up to no good. Doubt can interfere with your life and sap your focus and productivity. Mentally tell yourself to "Stop!" the train of thought and distract yourself with an engaging activity. Read a book, knit a sweater, or go for a run. If a particular doubt is constantly bothering you, it could be your instinct signaling "trouble." Before you take any action, however, look for evidence. Maybe your doubts grew after seeing your partner flirting with another person. Can you find any other examples that made you feel uneasy about your partner's "wandering eye?" Some doubt in a relationship is completely normal, but if your doubts stem from frequent lying, cheating, manipulation, or unreliability on behalf of your partner, this may be a sign that you should leave the relationship. Healthy relationships don't involve undue control, deception, infidelity or abuse. Doubts may also be deal-breakers if you have them because your partner doesn't support your values. If they can't respect what's most important to you, then it may not be the best relationship for you. If you're unsure about how to move forward with your relationship doubts, consult with a relationship therapist. This professional can help you tease out what's at the core of your doubts and determine if they are healthy or pointing to a problem. You may choose to see a therapist on your own first before bringing your partner to a session. Ask your family doctor or human resources rep for a referral to see a therapist in your network.
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One-sentence summary -- Reframe triggering situations that lead to doubt. Practice thought-stopping when worries pop up. Question whether there is evidence that supports strong doubts. Decide if your doubts are deal-breakers. Talk through your doubts with a therapist.

Where you were and what you were doing before the onset of the rash can provide important clues as to what caused the rash. Think about anything new or unusual that you might have been exposed to. If you wore a new necklace for the first time, tried a new lotion or soap, or ate a new food, your rash may be an allergic reaction. Make note of how much time passed from the initial exposure until the development of the rash. This might give you some insight into the severity of your allergy. Retinoids, found in many personal care and cosmetics products, may sometimes cause a rash or irritation around the neck. Allergic reactions may develop with age. Consider substances you haven't come into contact with in awhile, even if you never had a reaction to them before. Your rash may have resulted from an insect bite, poison oak, or poison sumac particularly if you've recently spent time outdoors. Sometimes a rash appears in isolation. However, you may have other symptoms that occurred at the same time, or shortly after, the rash itself. Only eliminate symptoms if you know they are unrelated. If your throat feels tight or you have difficulty breathing, that may be a sign of anaphylaxis a severe allergic reaction that requires immediate medical attention. The appearance of the rash can give you some clues as to what caused it, as well as how you should treat it. Note the rash's color, texture, and location. It may cover a relatively continuous area, or be more spotty. Consider the condition of your skin as well. If your skin is dry, flaky, or scaly, it may need to be moisturized. If your skin is swollen or inflamed, this typically indicates some sort of allergic reaction. This type of rash may also be itchy. Do your best to avoid scratching a rash scratching usually makes it worse and may prolong the healing process or result in spreading the rash to other locations. Insect bites and bee stings are common causes of rashes. Commonly, the rash will seem to emanate from the bite or sting mark. However, look for a mark not just on your neck, but also along your scalp, shoulders, back, and chest. For example, a bull's eye rash surrounding a tick bite may be a sign of Lyme disease. A rash may spread on contact, or it may gradually spread on its own. If you can't tell whether the rash is spreading, you might draw a line around the rash with a pen or marker. Check later to see if the rash has extended beyond your line. If the rash was caused by contact with poison oak, poison sumac, or similar, it will easily spread. If you've touched or scratched at the rash with your bare hands and then touched somewhere else on your body without washing your hands, you'll likely have the rash there as well. A rash from an insect bite or bee sting may continue to expand after the bite or sting occurs. This typically indicates that the venom or other substance that caused the rash is still in your system.
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One-sentence summary -- Evaluate your circumstances before the rash appeared. Make a list of accompanying symptoms. Examine the rash more closely in a mirror. Look for a sting or bite mark. Figure out if the rash is spreading.

Sanding, priming, and painting can be messy work, so be sure to stretch out a large dropcloth or plastic tarp over your work area. The extra layer will act as a barrier to protect your floor against spills and splatters. Paint fumes can quickly become overpowering. For this reason, it's recommended that you do your painting in a garage or workshop that will provide some ventilation, or in an outdoor space like a patio or driveway. Use strips of tape or heavy objects like paint buckets to hold down the corners of the dropcloth and keep it from blowing around in a stiff breeze. Pull out each drawer, lifting them at the opening to help them clear the edge of the roller track. Set these aside on your dropclothyou'll be painting them separately from the rest of the frame. Clear everything out of the drawers once they're free to avoid ruining any cherished belongings. Use a square of 80-100 grit sandpaper to gently scuff the entire outer surface. This will remove the existing finish so that the dresser will have an easier time accepting fresh paint. Sand with smooth, circular rubbing motions to avoid leaving noticeable streaks in the grain. Make sure you give the edges, corners, and any recessed or molded bits some attention, as well. Bearing down too hard with the sandpaper may damage the wood underneath. Run the cloth lightly over the sanded surface to collect loose dust and debris. Once the dresser is clean, let it sit for 20-30 minutes to give it time to dry before you move on to priming. Any wood dust you miss may show up in the finished paint job. Apply the primer in one thin, even coat using a brush or foam roller. Aim for total coverageevery part of the dresser you intend to paint should be underlaid by a neutral base coat. This will allow the new color to come through clearer and bolder. A spray-on primer will also do the trick if you'd prefer not to go to the trouble of detailing by hand. There are both oil and water-based primers, just as there are oil and water-based paints. Be sure to choose a primer with the same basic formula as the paint you'll be using. The base coat needs to set completely before you can paint over it. To speed the process along, make sure the dresser receives plenty of airflow. Opening a couple doors or windows or setting up a portable fan in front of the piece can help with this. Come back periodically and give the primer a tough-test to see how it's coming along. If it feels sticky, it still needs more time. Painting over wet primer can smudge the base coat, leaving behind white swirls in your new color.
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Lay down a dropcloth. Remove the drawers from the dresser. Sand the dresser with a medium-grit sandpaper. Wipe down the dresser with a damp cloth. Brush on a coat of basic white primer. Allow the primer to dry for 4-6 hours.