What most naturally follows?

How to tell if a guy is playing with your feelings
Pay attention to how he is affectionate with you.
Typically if a guy is playing you, he will become very affectionate or physical when he has a chance to have sex with you. At that point, he probably goes from 0-60 pretty quickly.
But up to that point, he was probably not very affectionate. He would not have seemed interested in holding your hand.