Article: It may seem like your parents are yelling for two or three hours, but if you look at the clock, you will see that very few parents have the stamina to do so. If you respond correctly to the yelling, your parents might stop. Tell yourself that you're strong enough to endure the yelling. All kids have to deal with yelling parents at least sometimes. Remain silent. If you speak, your parents will most likely take it as backtalk, rudeness, or lack of filial piety (even if your words are polite). They may also be in a bad mood in general and taking it out on you, even if you did nothing to make them yell. . Try to pay attention to how your body feels while you're being yelled at, with mindfulness. Chances are you are feeling tense and tightly wound. If this is the case, taking deep, measured breaths will help you remain calmer and looser. Sometimes detaching from harsh treatment is a good way to make sure that you don't take the yelling too personally. It's important not to take yelling personally because when parents are dealing with problems in other parts of life, they can end up angered by relatively minor things. This is not your fault. The best way to disengage while listening is to focus on your parents' faces. Notice the details of their features and the strain from yelling. Rather than trying to make sense of what your parent is saying, look at the desperation and frustration you see them experiencing. This way you will remember that even though you're the one being yelled at, your parents are going through a rough moment, too. Again, this may even be due to stress that you did not directly cause. For example, get them a glass of water if they are thirsty. This will, especially if you were not wrong, bring them to be remorseful and feel that they have done wrong by yelling. Make sure you don't have your head in the clouds completely--otherwise you won't know why your parent is upset. If the yelling subsides for long enough to step in, try paraphrasing or re-stating what your parents said to show that you are listening. An added perk is that your parents will have the chance to hear what they are yelling reflected back to them. Send signals to your parent that you are hearing them, like nodding your head, raising your eyebrows, saying "I see what you mean by that". Try to pick up on key words that will clue you in to where your parents' disappointment is coming from. If they're yelling about a particular instance, try to pick up on details that they seem to dwell on. If it's a long stream of moments, try to pick out the theme the runs through them. This includes stopping yourself from yelling back, throwing things, or slamming doors. Be aware that strong reactions on your part will simply escalate the tension and cause the yelling to continue and perhaps even grow in intensity. Your parent is angry for one reason or another, even if he/she is wrong in doing so, and the yelling is a sign of frustration and a desire to be heard by you. Respond with aggression will make them feel misunderstood, so more yelling will be likely in the future. Sometimes parents even take subtle signs of dissent as aggression (rolling your eyes, sarcasm, slightly mocking faces). So, these should also be reconsidered. Think about the reactions that you know from past experience that your parents can't stand. Even if you're tempted to get back at them for making you feel uncomfortable and inferior, do not engage in behavior you know triggers more anger in them. If the yelling continues to the point where you absolutely cannot respond calmly, resort to leaving the room. Ask if you can talk about the problem later, and briefly explain that the yelling is making it difficult to think clearly about the issue. Try not to sound accusatory by saying things like "your yelling is so annoying that it's driving me crazy." Instead, say something like "I want to clear up this problem, but I'm too flustered to be able to have a good discussion. I'd like to go to my room to think." Leaving the room can be difficult, as some parents may interpret it as a sign of disrespect. Do your best to make it clear that you still want to discuss the matter. Avoid suggesting that your parents need to calm down as well. This can come off as rude.
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Understand that yelling is not eternal. Do not speak, cry or whimper during the session of yelling. Breathe Let yourself disengage a little. Do a good deed for your parents. Keep listening. Think before responding . Leave the room politely if yelling seems excessive.