Q: Once you have provided adequate support, psychoeducation of the compulsion of hoarding may be the best first step in helping your loved one. Understand that hoarding is associated with excessive clutter, difficulty discarding items, and excessive acquisition of new items. Due to the emergence of hoarding behaviors, a new diagnosis of Hoarding Disorder (HD) was added to the most recent and updated version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which is the basis for diagnosing mental health concerns. First and foremost, hoarding can cause health and safety risks. Explain to your loved one that hoarding is dangerous because: it may prevent you from being able to escape in an emergency, does not adhere to fire codes, and can lead to mold and other harmful buildup in the home. It can also cause complications in activities of daily living (ADLs) such as walking, moving around, finding objects, eating, sleeping, and using the sink or bathroom. Hoarding can lead to social isolation, disruption of relationships, legal and financial issues, debt, and property damage. Some issues that may coincide with hoarding behaviors include negative and unhelpful thoughts such as perfectionism and fear of regretting removal of information or objects, over-attachment to material items, reduced attention abilities, and lowered capacity to make decisions. Being assertive means saying how you think and feel while being respectful and appropriate. Discuss how you feel about your loved one's hoarding, and the specific concerns that you have about your loved one's health and safety. Explain your concerns and set boundaries. Explain that you will not continue to live or be in the house if it is unsafe or unsanitary (if this is feasible). Tell your loved one that you are willing to help her if she is open to assistance. Be aware that people who hoard can have very strong emotional reactions when asked to give away their belongings. Assess the level of openness to your assistance. You could say something like, "I know you've been concerned about your hoarding and I am also. I am here to help if you want it. What do you think?" If the individual responds negatively and says something like, "Absolutely not, I don't want you forcing me to throw away my prized possessions," you may want to back off for a while. If the individual says something like, "I might be open to that," give your loved one some space to decide if she is willing to let you help. You can revisit the conversation at a later time. Individuals who hoard need specific goals to work toward in order to be successful in reducing hoarding behaviors. This helps them to organize their thinking and plans associated with reducing their hoarding. People who hoard may need help with motivation, organizing, avoiding acquiring items and removing clutter. Write down the specific goals you have developed with your loved one. This list might look like: reduce clutter, be able to move through the living room with ease, stop buying new items, and organize the attic.
A: Educate the individual who hoards. Use assertive communication. Offer your help. Help set goals.

Q: These bugs are not the easy to pick off one by one. However, using petroleum jelly makes your glove sticky, which helps pull the beetles off the plant. These beetles have a yellow body with black stripes or black dots. They measure 0.25 inches (0.64cm) in length. Drop the beetles into a bucket of water with a couple of spoonfuls of dishwashing liquid. You can use a simple handheld vacuum to suck beetles off the plants. Alternatively, use a reversed leaf blower to suck the beetles out. You can also buy a vacuum specifically made for insects if you're worried about harming the plant, as these are generally less powerful. Vacuum all around the plant, including the underside of leaves. Make sure to empty the vacuum when you're done. Seal the contents in a zip-top bag, and take them to the trash. It may be tempting to take out spiders you see, but they are natural predators for pests like cucumber beetles. Wolf spiders, in particular, eat a large number of these beetles, and the beetles tend to avoid the area if there are wolf spiders around. Of course, you should still be careful around spiders. By and large, though, if you leave them alone, they'll leave you alone. Wolf spiders are venomous, but they usually just cause some redness and swelling when they bite you. They aren't as harmful to humans as spiders like black widows or brown recluses. Ladybugs take care of a number of garden pests, including cucumber beetles and aphids. In the case of cucumber beetles, the ladybugs eat the pests' eggs, discouraging growth. Start with 1,500 ladybugs for a typical home garden, though you won't harm your garden by releasing too many. Many organic garden stores sell ladybugs to release in your garden. Place the ladybugs in your refrigerator when you buy them, which will slow them down a little. Spray down your yard thoroughly, and release the ladybugs in the evening. Taking these precautions will help keep them in your yard.
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Pick the beetles off by hand using gloves coated in petroleum jelly. Suck up beetles with a vacuum. Leave the spiders in your garden. Introduce a predator like ladybugs.