Many negative people have a tendency to be time and energy sucks, where they feel their needs and wants are more important than yours. While it is important that you share and listen to everyone's experiences, relationships are about give and take. You should feel that you have enough space in the relationship for your own time and your own needs. Otherwise, it is likely a negative relationship that needs to be addressed. You may have family members who only contact you when they want to discuss their issues and problems, or friends who spend all their time with you complaining about their life. You may also have people in your life who use all of your shared time to work on their projects and goals, without considering your goals or needs. These are telltale signs of negativity that you need to work to remove from your life. If you have a friend or family member who only tends to contact you only when he or she wants to complain or get help with something, try saying something like, "I care about you and I am happy to help you when I can, but I feel like I don't get a chance to share my problems/goals when we talk." Or, you could also try changing the subject by saying something like, "That sucks! Something really frustrating happened to me today too. Do you want to know what happened?" You may have negative people in your life who are always criticizing your appearance, your actions, and your goals. They may tell you that you are "always doing everything wrong" or that "you just don't get it." They may also insult you and pick on you, reminding you that you are "too dumb to do anything right" or make negative comments about your physique and your lifestyle. Keep in mind constructive criticism that helps you grow as an individual can be useful. Constructive criticism should also begin with a focus on the positives of what you are doing and then an open, friendly discussion on where you can improve. You may get constructive criticism from a peer, your boss, or even a friend. This type of criticism can be healthy and helpful, unlike negative criticism, which is often done to shame or embarrass someone. Try saying something like, "I appreciate your feedback when it is constructive, but I feel upset when you criticize me for things that I can't control. I would really like it if you tried not to do that so much." Negative people also tend to have a short temper and may get angry or upset at you often. You may find yourself always having to defend your actions and decisions to the person. You may also have to often try to calm down the person or tell them not to take out their anger on you. The negative person's anger may feel unreasonable or irrational. They may snap over the smallest issues and take their anger out on you. You may find yourself always on the defensive around them and struggling to calm them down on a consistent basis. If there is someone in your life who frequently gets angry at you, try saying something like, "You are entitled to your emotions, but I feel upset when you take your anger out on me. I would appreciate it if you could find a different way to deal with your anger." If you are in a situation where someone is threatening you or you feel threatened, then get away from the person. Many negative people have a difficult time focusing on the positive and will often only entertain worst-case scenarios. They may always only view things in a negative light and see the world as gray and miserable. It can be a challenge to maintain a positive attitude when you are surrounded by people who only view things negatively and doomed to fail. Their negative perspective may also cloud their judgment so they are not able to see the potential in a situation. Possibly positive things, like a job offer or a big prize, do nothing to brighten their mood and they often view positive things suspiciously, as they are afraid they may not work out and end up being disappointed. If you often encounter a negative perspective from someone, try saying something like, "I know that there are different ways to look at things, but I feel frustrated when you point out the negative side of things. What are the positives of this situation?" Dishonesty can be another source of negativity in your life, and negative people may lie often or manipulate others. You may have family who are always making up stories and lying about their past or friends who try to manipulate a situation for their own benefit or gain. These sources of negativity can make it hard for you to maintain a positive attitude. If there is someone in your life who frequently lies to you, try saying something like, "Honesty is important to me. Please tell me the truth." Negative people can also come in the form of people who tease you, bother you, or hit on you inappropriately on a consistent basis. You may notice these "pick up artists" are starting to infect your life with negativity, discomfort, and maybe even anger or frustration. Though some people do not mean to be negative or annoying when they tease or bother you, you may start to feel like you are being taunted or talked to in inappropriate and negative ways. If there is someone in your life who teases you, try saying something like, "You may not mean anything by it, but it really bothers me when you say things like that. I would appreciate it if you stopped." Another option is to simply walk away from someone who is teasing you or being inappropriate. Accountability and responsibility are two elements that many negative people tend to try to avoid or ignore. These individuals may blame their own mistakes on others or avoid taking responsibility for their actions. They may also justify bad life choices or decisions based on the negative actions of others or on their inability to control their actions. This type of negativity can be difficult to be around and may make it hard for you to also be accountable and responsible for your day to day actions. For people who blame you or others for their problems, try saying something like, "I am sorry you feel that way. Do you think there is anything that you could have done to change the situation?"

Summary: Think about people who soak up all your time and energy. Identify individuals who are highly critical towards you. Note people who get angry at you often. Consider any individuals who always have a negative perspective on things. Think about people who lie to you and are dishonest. Note individuals who bother you or tease you often. Identify individuals who blame others for their issues.

Stress can be a big trigger for psoriasis flare-ups. Reduce the amount of stress and anxiety in your life in order to avoid these unwanted symptoms A great way to minimize stress levels is to practice relaxation techniques like meditation or yoga. These methods are proven to reduce stress and improve overall life satisfaction. Doing yoga is also a great form of physical exercise, which can work to additionally minimize stress levels in your life. at least 3 times per week. Exercising is one of the best ways to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety. Virtually any kind of physical activity will work to clear your mind, increase endorphins, and improve your mood. Be sure to consult with your doctor before you begin any strenuous activities. It's always better to start slower (like walking before you start jogging) and then build your way up to more intensive activities. Everyday life is full of stressful situations and events. But that doesn't mean that you have to welcome them into your life. Prioritize the things in your life so that you can make a conscious decision to cut out the things that are less important. Consider what makes you feel fulfilled, and what seems to just be causing you too much stress. This includes things like hosting dinner parties, inviting family over for long visits, or taking on volunteer responsibilities at school or work. If there are things in your life that are stressing you out too much and making you feel overwhelmed, try to get out of them, if possible. Try to find someone else to organize your company's Christmas party, or tell your church you just don't have the free time to teach Sunday School classes anymore. Listen to your body and know when you need to take a break. It's okay to say no to things or to ask for help when you need it. Tell your friends that you're too stressed out to meet them for drinks, or ask your parents to babysit your kids for the weekend.
Summary: Try relaxation techniques several times each week. Exercise Say no to things that cause stress in your life.