question: CHICAGO ---Call it a reward, or just "bribery ".

Whichever it is, many parents today readily admit to buying off their children, who getgoodies for anything from behaving in a restaurant to sleeping all night in their own beds.

That's what worries parenting experts.

"I think that reward systems have a time and a place and work really well in certain situations," says Marcy Safyer, director of the Adelphi University Institute for Parenting.

"But what often gets lost for people is being able to figure out how to communicate to their kids that doing the thing is rewarding enough," Safyer says.

Parents and experts alike agree that thedynamic is partly a reflection of the world we live in. It's unrealistic to think a parent wouldn't reward their children with material things sometimes, says Robin Lanzi, a clinical psychologist and mother of four who's the research director at the Center on Health and Education at Georgetown University.

"But you want to make sure that they match the behavior, so it's not something huge for something small," Lanzi says.

She recalls hearing about a father who offered his child a Nintendo Wii game system for scoring a couple goals in a soccer game.

Elizabeth Powell, a mother of two young daughters in Austin, Texas, knows what she means.

"You want to raise them in a way that they're respectful and appreciate things," Powell says of her children. "But sometimes, you wonder now if kids appreciate even a new pair of shoes. "
1. What are the range of behaviors that parents admit to rewarding?
2. What do experts recommend for rewards?
3. What's an example the expert has seen in contradiction to this?
4. What's the reason the caretaker gave on why this is bad?
5. Is it realistic to imagine this can happen sometimes>
6. Which school was the person from who stated this?
7. What school is the other researcher from?
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answer: 1. behaving it to sleeping in their beds.
2. not something huge for something small,
3. game system for scoring goals in game.
4. Communication to the kids that doing something is rewarding enough
5. yes
6. Georgetown University.
7. Adelphi University Institute for Parenting

question: (CNN) -- When Sadegh Shahi heard reports about a SWAT team armed to the teeth storming onto a Sunwing Airlines flight to arrest a passenger, he thought to himself, "it's probably my son."

The father's intuition apparently was correct.

Ali Shahi was arrested Friday by at least a half-dozen heavily armed authorities who stormed aboard an airplane looking for him at Toronto's Pearson International Airport.

Jarring cell phone video of the episode was captured by fellow passengers.

Earlier that morning -- about 45 minutes into flight 772 from Toronto to Panama City -- the 25-year-old Canadian citizen made a "direct threat against the aircraft," according to Sunwing spokeswoman Janine Chapman. Witnesses told Canada's CTV news that Shahi said he wanted to bomb Canada.

The Boeing 737 -- which at that point was high above West Virginia -- was escorted back to Toronto by two U.S. fighter jets that were on an aerial training drill nearby, NORAD spokeswoman Capt. Jennifer Stadnyk told CNN.

The elder Shahi told CNN that Ali is not a violent person and did not mean what he said. He said his son is mentally ill, and has never gotten the support he's needed.

"Ali thinks life is a game," he said. "We've called the cops 24 times in the past year on him. We've begged police for help, but they never do anything. They always send him back home."

Shahi said his son is a friendless, unemployed gambling addict who has suffered from depression and eating disorders for a decade. "In high school, he was fat," he said. "He was bullied until he became anorexic."
1. Who's son was arrested?
2. What was his name?
3. When was this?
4. How many people came looking for him?
5. Where did this take place?
6. At which location?
7. Were there any recordings?
8. What were they?
9. By who?
10. How old is the son?
11. What caused him to be arrested?
12. Who did people tell this to?
13. Who helped the plane fly back?
14. What were they doing before that?
15. Where?
16. Where were they flying over at the time?
17. What did his father say about him?
18. How many times have they phoned the police on him?
19. Was he skinny in high school?
20. Does he have friends?
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answer: 1. Sadegh Shah
2. Ali Shahi
3. Friday
4. A SWAT team
5. Toronto
6. Pearson International Airport.
7. Yes
8. cell phone video
9. Fellow passengers.
10. 25
11. Shahi said he wanted to bomb Canada.
12. CTV news
13. Two U.S. fighter jets
14. An aerial training drill
15. nearby
16. West Virginia
17. Ali thinks life is a game
18. 24 times
19. No
20. No

question: My 13-year-old daughter Lisa remembers birthdays, makes people cards when they are sick, and sends encouraging notes written in colored pens in her neat, artistic hand. One day I got a call from her principal, "I called to tell you that in 20 years of teaching I have seen nothing like what Lisa did today", he said I held my breath again as I thought, my Lisa? My sweet daughter? She must be the wrong kid. What could she have done? My silence made him go on. "I've never seen a student do anything so nice for anyone who needed it more." "What did she do?" I asked. He explained to me about the cupcakes . When Lisa came home from school that afternoon, I told her the principal from her school had phoned me. "Yeah", she answered, "I got called out of math class to go to his office. Everyone thought I was in trouble, but he just wanted to know what was going on at lunch." Lisa and Ashley had sat with Jordan, a boy who is in special classes. They talked about birthdays, and Lisa asked Jordan when his birthday was. He told her it was coming up but that he lives in a group home and they don't celebrate birthdays there. "I remembered his birthday was today, so I made the cupcakes yesterday," Lisa explained. "Ashley bought a two-liter bottle of soda and some birthday cups, plates, and napkins left over from her little brother's party, and we got some other kids together at lunch today to sing 'Happy Birthday' to Jordan." "The principal wanted to know why they were having a birthday party for Jordan at school. When they told him, he just shook his head, took off his glasses, and rubbed his eyes," Lisa told me. "Finally, he said he was going to tell my parents that I wasn't in trouble, he was proud of what I did, and I could go back to math class." How different my daughter was from me. Better, in fact! I wouldn't have ever known how to help out disadvantaged kids like that. But my wise daughter knew how-- all it took was cupcakes and adventurous , independent , kind spirit.
1. What did Lisa make?
2. When?
3. For whom?
4. Why?
5. When was it?
6. What type of class does he attend?
7. Where does he live?
8. Who brought drinks?
9. what size?
10. What else?
11. How old was Lisa?
12. How long had the administrator taught?
13. From which subject was Lisa pulled from?
14. What did the school official remove?
15. Where did he send Lisa?
16. Who's celebration did the supplies come from?
17. Where was the celebration held?
18. What was sung?
19. What did the girls talk about with the boy?
20. What type of letters does Lisa send?
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answer:
1. cupcakes
2. yesterday
3. Jordan
4. birthday
5. today
6. special
7. group home
8. Ashley
9. two-liter bottle
10. birthday cups, plates, and napkins
11. 13
12. 20 years
13. math class
14. glasses
15. back to math class
16. Ashley's little brother
17. at school
18. Happy Birthday
19. birthdays
20. encouraging notes