Article: Don't be in a hurry to start dating once you have lost your spouse. You have spent many years with this person, and whether your relationship was happy or not, you should fully grieve before moving on. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and there is no exact time when grieving ends. If you are unable to discuss your spouse without an extreme emotional display, you may need to wait longer before getting back in the dating game. In the meantime, take good care of yourself by eating well, getting physical activity, and avoiding behaviors that jeopardize health, such as drinking or using drugs. Join a grief support group or see a counselor. Yes, you will have to move on and live a life without your loved one. But, you don't necessarily have to "get over" the loss. "Getting over" a death implies that you will somehow return to normal at some point. Considering how closely interconnected your life was with your spouse's, returning to normal is impossible. What you want to strive for is acceptance. Learn how to integrate the loss into a new identity in which you plan for a future without your beloved. It can help to fill your social calendar with new and exciting activities, such as checking out books from the library, getting a part-time job if you are retired, taking up a new hobby, participating in group fitness classes, or adopting a pet. The object of dating is not to replace your spouse. You may long for someone just like your previous love, but having such a desire will only lead to disappointment. Think about what qualities you would like to find in a new partner. Be realistic having a laundry list of desired traits will make it hard for you to find a match. For example, consider some things you would like to do, such as traveling, and look for a partner who shares that same passion. It's common for widow(er)s to feel a sense of guilt for wanting get back out on the market. You believe it is a betrayal of your spouse to smile at a new man or enjoy coffee with a new woman. You must release these feelings and recognize that you are, indeed, single. Your spouse would want you to enjoy the remainder of your life as you see fit.
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Take your time. Don't believe you have to let go. Figure out what you want. Release guilt.
Article: Depending on how bad the bullying is, you might choose to walk away. This is very effective, especially for one-time cases. Most bullies seek a target for their anger. They will most likely lose interest if they don't get a reaction from you. Ignoring the bully sends the message that he has no effect on you. Walk away as if you are walking away from a friend so as not to give away a sense of fear. When walking home from school, stick with large groups, especially if the bully's behavior is escalating. Try not to walk home from school alone. Walk in high-traffic areas instead of dark or isolated walkways. If you are being chased, run to the nearest place with lots of people. Bullies are usually afraid of being caught and will most likely leave you alone. Talking to a bully can be challenging but might bring awareness to his demeaning behavior. Perhaps he doesn't know how his words or actions have on others. When you do, try to build him up, instead of putting him down. For example, say, "I think you are too smart for behaving this way and know you can do better" or "Be really cool and don't talk to me this way." Show confidence. Confidence is expressed through the words you choose and your own body language. Remember to stand tall, with your head held high. Speak assertively when engaging with the bully. Such as maintaining eye contact, being mindful of tone of voice and posture, or using appropriate language. Remind yourself that you do not have to resort on picking on anyone to feel good about yourself. Stay away from people that spread rumors or gossip. As a rule, if you tend to feel nervous or stressed around the people you hang out with, they are probably not good friends. An important quality in a friend is her ability to be trusted. Also, you want to make sure that you have their support and unconditional acceptance. Be mindful of how dedicated they are to you and notice their acts of kindness. Stick with friends that stand-up for one another. Bullies are less likely to harass you if you have strong friends that support you. Bullies are scared of confronting people who they think are stronger than them. Remember the phrase, 'bullies are cowards'? at the time you probably didn't understand why this was true, but the truth is that bullies are cowards because they will always pick on people that they perceive are weaker than they are. Show that you are stronger than they are by not backing down, and the bully will leave you alone. Stand up straight, look them in the eye and talk to them in a strong, confident voice. If you can't manage a confident voice, then just don't speak to them in a small or quiet voice. Respond to the bully with comebacks. If you're not good at these, then ask yourself why you are better than the bully and throw it back at them. (Eg: Bully: "You're so ugly". You: "Want to know who's ugly? Look in the mirror"). The bully is being mean to you; being nice isn't going to do anything. Respond to the bully by telling them to stop. Show the bully that you don't care by saying: "Tell that to someone who cares" and walk away. If a group is bullying you, they may laugh and whisper to each other. This may make you feel small, but stand up to them. Say something like "Why don't you just act your age and stop giggling and whispering like a bunch of five-year-olds" and walk away.
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Ignore the bully and walk away. Talk to the bully. Pay attention to the people you spend time with. Spend time with people that are kind and considerate. Don't back down.
Article: The first step is to look up good publishers. Here is what to look for in a publisher: Do they publish books you like? Do their published books often have mistakes? (Typos, missing pages/pages out of order, etc.) Do they publish books in your book's genre/age level? Will they publish your book if you don't have an agent? Are they well-known? Once you've found a few publishers you're absolutely certain you like, send in your novel to your top 30. Be prepared for rejection, a lot of publishers are picky about what they publish. Don't take rejection too hard, either. It's bound to happen at least once, even with the greatest novel. Acclaimed author JK Rowling received multiple rejections before her Harry Potter series was a success. Don't be afraid to try many publishers at once; the first one to accept it gets it! If that doesn't work out, at least you wrote a novel!
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Accept that publishing can be hard. Send the work in. Try self-publishing if the publishers don't come through for you.