Problem: Article: A safety plan is a personalized, step by step plan that lays out how to stay safe while remaining in a relationship with an abuser or leaving one. The safety plan should be unique to the person it is created for and should address each of the steps your friend needs to take in order to stop the abuse safely. You will need to address things like where your friend will live if leaving the abuser, as well as how to overcome financial hardships created by the transition. Children also need to be accounted for in the safety plan if your friend is a parent. It's important to outline even obvious seeming things because it can be easy to forget steps when upset. You need to determine if your friend needs to escape the situation or relationship with the abuser, or if it is a situation that can be managed. If your friend is being abused, it is likely that they will need to leave, but even leaving requires a level of planning based on you and your friend's assessment of the danger levels. Determine if your friend wants to leave or if they feel the situation can be changed from within. Decide if your friend will be able to leave safely, or if they will need to sneak out in order to leave without being hurt. Assess how much danger the person will be in if they remain where they are. Is there a risk that your friend could be hurt if they stay? Violence should never be tolerated. Any amount of violence can dictate that the risk is too great to stay. If your friend determines it would be best to leave their home, you will need to establish a plan to do so safely. Getting your friend and any children that may be in danger out of the home is the first priority. Plan for a time and date that your friend will be able to leave without arousing suspicion from the abuser if they need to leave secretly. Establish transportation if your friend needs it so they do not rely on the abuser to get them where they need to go. Children can often tell when something is going on, and it's important to plan for their involvement. Discuss the pros and cons of informing children about any portion of the plan as well as the logistics of getting them somewhere safe. It can be dangerous to tell children before executing the plan, because they may accidentally inform your friend's abuser. Plan for a safe place for the children to stay once they are out of the house. Make sure your friend knows to explain what is happening to the children in a way that emphasizes that it is not their fault and that they are loved. Your friend may ask to stay with you, or they may have other family or friends that they can stay with. There are also many shelters that exist solely to aid abuse victims escape their abusers. It's important that you consider what the abuser may do when your friend leaves. It may not be safe to stay somewhere that the abuser can easily find them. Tell your friend about local shelters or organizations you found when researching them on the internet. Offer suggestions for safe places for your friend to stay. Use websites like DomesticShelters.org to find a shelter for your friend nearby. Once your friend leaves their abuser, there will be emotionally fallout. If they were in a romantic relationship, ending it can be emotionally very difficult. Any time someone experiences a significant change in their lives, stress plays a part, but that may be even more significant when leaving an abuser. Help your friend seek the support of others through support groups or incorporating other friends if they are comfortable with it. Remind your friend that they are not at fault, and that they have great value as a person and a friend. Help your friend be kind to themselves by discouraging remarks that are self-deprecating.
Summary: Determine what type of plan to help your friend establish. Assess the level of risk your friend is in. Help your friend plan to leave if necessary. Incorporate children in your plan. Identify a safe place to stay after leaving. Plan for emotional distress after your friend leaves.

Problem: Article: Even though you are allowed to end your listings early, eBay frowns on the practice and may start penalizing you if you do it too often. Your account could have restrictions placed on it. For that reason, it is best to work around the problem as often as possible instead of automatically ending the listing at the first sign of trouble. Price your items carefully the first time around so that you won't want to set a different price later. Double-check each listing before you submit it to avoid any errors. Manage your inventory with a little caution. If you only have one of an item, or a small number of a certain item, only list it on eBay and do not list it for sale on other websites. Block certain types of buyers so that you won't be tempted to end a listing early when you receive bids from buyers you don't want to sell to. You can block buyers who don't have a PayPal account, have unpaid items on their account, have a primary shipping address in a country you don't want to ship to, have a low feedback score, or have violated eBay policies. You can also block users who have bought a certain amount from you in the past. If you are unable to end a listing due to certain time restrictions, you will need to contact the seller and work out a solution with him or her directly. If you want to act before the listing ends, contact the bidders, explain the situation, and ask them to retract their bids. If you want to wait until after a listing ends with a winning bidder, contact the bidder and explain the situation. If you can reach an understanding with the bidder, you can cancel the entire transaction.
Summary: Do what you can to avoid ending the listing early. Know what to do when this option is not available.

Problem: Article: Because paperbag waist pants tend to be baggier and add more volume to your figure, it's best to wear them with a fitted top. That will help balance the proportions in your outfit for the most flattering look. For a casual look, a fitted tee shirt or tank top work best with your paperbag waist pants. For a dressed up look, wear the pants with a fitted button-down blouse for an office-appropriate outfit. A fitted sweater can work for a casual or an office look depending on the style of the pants. Even if your top is fitted, it can have an unflattering look if it sits over the paperbag waist of your pants. That's why it's best to tuck your top into the pants so the waist detail is highlighted and you don't add any more bulk to your midsection. If you aren't a fan of tucking in tops, consider pairing the paperbag waist pants with a bodysuit that naturally rests beneath the waistline. Cropped tops are another option when you're wearing paperbag waist pants. Because they typically end above the waistline, they allow you to show off the paperbag waist and don't add any bulk to the area. You can opt for a looser fitting top if you're wearing a cropped style because the extra fabric won't compete with the pants' waistband given the higher hemline. You can wear jackets, cardigans, and blazers with paperbag waist pants, but choose slim styles that won't add too much bulk to your look. Avoid boyfriend style blazers or cardigans, which are too loose to work with the pants. Consider the length of the your layering pieces too. It's best to choose either a cropped style or a longer piece that hits at mid-thigh, so it doesn't hit right at the waist where it will compete with the pants' waistband.
Summary:
Choose a form-fitting top. Tuck in your top. Pair the pants with a cropped top. Opt for slim layering pieces.