Parents often treat children differently for reasons based solely on qualities that are nobody's fault. Step-parents might show favoritism to their biological children because they raised them and feel closer to them. Other reasons might include: Age. Firstborn children often receive preferential treatment. Middle children are often neglected. Younger siblings who are still children might be treated better than teens because they are perceived as being in greater need of parental attention. Gender. Parents often feel closer to children of their gender than children of the other gender. For instance, mothers often feel closer to daughters than sons, and might thus show favoritism to their daughters. In addition, in a patriarchal society, boys are often treated better than girls. If your parents are treating your siblings better than you, they might have a personality disorder. This includes a broad spectrum of disorders (including histrionic personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder) in which a person's feelings are dysfunctional and their thinking is confused. Instead of making decisions on a rational basis -- by, for instance, realizing that each child deserves love equally -- they rationalize their unfair treatment and insist that some children don't deserve love (for whatever reason). If your parents are under stress, they will be more likely to show favoritism. Stress might be brought on by financial or relationship problems. If you're aware that your parent(s) are having problems and they are treating another sibling better, it could be a product of the stress they're feeling. If you parents continuously treat your sibling(s) better (or even if they treat you worse in one particular instance), don't assume that you deserve it. No matter what their reason for treating you differently, it's important to recognize that you deserve love, respect, and fair treatment just as much as your brother or sister. In the end, it shouldn't matter why your parents are treating you worse. What matters is that their behavior is wrong. Don't obsess over trying to figure out how to "fix" yourself or please your parents. In most cases, it just isn't possible. How would your parents explain the differences in treatment? Even if you don't agree with their reasoning, it helps to think about things from their point of view. . If your parents are treating you as less important than a sibling or if they are cruel to you in other ways, then this may be abuse. There are lots of different kinds of abuse, which may include: Emotional abuse, such as calling you names, shaming you, humiliating you, or ignoring you. Neglect, such as not feeding you enough or not seeking care for you when you are sick or injured. Physical abuse, such as hitting you, restraining you, or doing other things to harm you. Sexual abuse, such as touching you in intimate places, forcing you to perform sexual acts, or talking to you in sexual ways.

Summary: Recognize when parents play favorites because of your identity. Look for signs of personality disorders. Consider your parents' mood. Don't assume you deserve your treatment. Try to see things from their point of view. Watch for signs of abuse

There are signs in any relationship that can be indicative of it being a healthy one. If you should notice any signs that might indicate your relationship is unhealthy, you should work to improve those aspects or consider leaving the relationship. You should both have mutual respect, trust, honesty, and support in your relationship. Your relationship should also have elements of fairness and the preservation of your own identities. Both of you should have open communication with each other. If you feel danger, fear, mistrust, manipulated, controlled, or otherwise unsafe your relationship is likely unhealthy. Remember that you both are individuals with your own needs and wants, which need to be respected. Never try to disrespect something your partner may need or want. Work together to make your relationship one of trust and respect to improve your bond. Never lose your temper during a discussion or argument. Avoid name calling or verbal attacks. Apologize and forgive. Do not become resentful for any feelings of wrong doing after they have been addressed. Know that you can argue without fighting. Ignoring any trouble in the relationship will likely only make it worse. When you feel the time is right, try your best to openly and fairly address any potential problems you feel have arisen in your relationship. Leaving problems for later can cause resentment over time. Letting old problems go unresolved may cause defensiveness and create difficulties in communication. Discuss the issue when the time is right. Sometimes you will need to wait for the right moment to discuss the issue. A simple rule is to never discuss an important issue while angry.

Summary: Make sure your relationship is a healthy one. Respect both yourself and your girlfriend. Take care of any issues as you become aware of them.

Whether you are moving into a new house or reorganizing an existing closet, you need to take everything out of it to assess it as a space. Removing all the items from the closet will help you pare down some of the possessions that you have. Be sure to vacuum or sweep the floor of the closet once it is empty. This will make sure your closet is in its best possible state before your reorganize it. If you are having trouble organizing your closet, there is a good chance you have too many possessions. Research shows that modern consumers are driven by the desire to own new things, but buying new items does not necessarily satisfy our desire for more possessions. The consumer goods industry is the largest in the United States, where it generates more than $419 billion every year. The vast majority of this money is spent on non-essential goods that fill our closets. One very popular and highly successful method for organizing is the method designed by Marie Kondo, a professional organizer from Japan. Her method is very simple and easy to follow. After you have laid out all of your clothes from your closet in a pile on your floor, sit down and touch each item on the floor. As you touch the item, ask yourself "Does this spark joy in me?" Does the item make you happy? Or does it make you feel guilty for not having lost those ten pounds? Does it remind you of a stressful time in your life? If it doesn't spark joy in you, then prepare to donate or discard the item. After you have gone through your clothes, then apply the same method to your shoes, bedding, cosmetics, and any other items that might be in your closet. If you share a closet with someone else, ask that person to also go through their items and discard any items that do not bring any joy. This may take a few days to get through if you have a very large closet. You might plan to do this over the course of a long weekend or if you have an extended break, like the time between Christmas Day and New Year's Eve. If your clothing, shoes, and jewelry are still in good condition, consider donating them to a local organization like Goodwill or the Salvation Army. You can also look into donating at a homeless shelter or a shelter for survivors of domestic violence. You can read more about this method in Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying-Up. (Ten Speed Press, 2014). With fewer possessions, you probably won't need as many boxes or shelves to hold all of your things. Put all of your remaining clothes back on their hangars and see how much space they take up in your closet.
Summary: Take everything out of the closet. Apply the KonMari method of organizing to your closet. Reassess your storage needs.