Article: Do you feel like you can talk with your spouse? Consider listening to whether they accept fault for their own behaviors, or appear to blame everyone and everything except themselves. Try to listen to their perspective about whether this marriage matters to them. Do they seem to act only defensive and negative? If so, they may not be ready or able to express what they think or feel about cheating. After you ask to learn more about their motivations and behaviors, do they seem to blame you or others for their behaviors? This may be a sign that they don't see a problem with their behavior. Do they apologize for their actions? And do you feel like you can trust their apology? It is important to gauge whether you trust their answers and their apology. A healthy relationship is about compromise. Identify whether your partner appears genuinely open to change, or is just trying to please you in order to feel less guilty. A cheating spouse will likely spur a desire for change. Evaluate if your spouse is really seeing change as an option for themselves. Try to rely on concrete evidence, not your gut or what your spouse says. Your spouse's actions are what count, whether they include visiting a counselor, talking to a spiritual advisor, or reading about the behavioral problems and how to overcome them. Think about change as something that will happen over time rather than overnight. Understand that some changes such as ending an affair may be different from long-standing behavior issues that your spouse may have. It may be easier for them to end an affair than it is for them to change their fundamental emotional or sexual behaviors. You may need to explain in clear terms your expectations of change in your spouse's behavior so that you can trust them. Use a timeline, such as six months or another reasonable amount of time, as a way to determine if trust can be rebuilt. For example, you may want your spouse to spend more nights with you and your children, and less nights out late at work or with friends. You state that this is a change that you would like to see that can help to rebuild trust. You ask to see your spouse home by 7pm at least four nights during the week. After three months, check on how well your spouse has been following these rules. If the agreed-upon timeline is not upheld, discuss consequences that could occur. If you feel like you can't trust your spouse, be honest about possible consequences such as separation, if that is what you foresee. Make sure to avoid empty threats in which you may expect them to change, but continue to cave into their behaviors. If you trying to rebuild trust with your spouse, avoid dwelling in the past about previous pain and hurt. Discussing and reflecting on the past is important, but it's easy to get stuck there. Consider scheduling certain times to talk about past problems so they don't interfere with everyday life. Try taking a more open and positive approach to the relationship moving forward. While this may take time, try making small steps towards positivity. See if your spouse is able to also work towards those small steps with you. If intrusive thoughts come to you throughout the day, write them down to bring up at a more appropriate time. If you feel like you can't let go of the past, this may be a sign that the relationship cannot stand going forward. If you have decided to stay in the relationship, both of you need to make an effort to keep the good times going. When you feel ready, invite your spouse to share activities and excursions together. You need to reconnect on a personal level, and not only meet to talk about the state of your marriage.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Ask questions about your spouse's motivations and behaviors. Determine if your spouse is willing to change. Create a deadline for change. Stay oriented in the present. Spend time together.
Article: If you think your guests will receive a joke well, you can use one to tell them it's time to leave. Then, laugh lightly to show them you're kidding around. Usually, people will get the message and head home, rather than waiting for you to ask them again. For example, say, "You don't have to go home, but you can't stay here!" Alternatively, say, "Well, I'm heading to bed. Turn the lights out and lock the door when you leave!" Offering your guests a final drink, leftovers from the meal, or a treat for the way home lets them know the evening has come to an end. It also makes them feel as though they're getting a gift, which takes the sting out of being indirectly asked to leave. Say to your guests, "Can I get you anything else?" or "Would you like a bottle of water for the ride home?" If you're hosting a party or other event and are ready for your guests to head home, you can let them know that it's time to go. Say "Sorry, everyone, but the party's over! I had a great time and hope to see you all again soon." This is direct, but polite, and should get your guests moving along. If you're living with a roommate or significant other and own or lease the property in your name, you can ask them to move out. Make time to have a conversation when just the two of you are together. Be calm and considerate of their feelings. You could say, "Though we had some good times living here together, it's no longer working out. I'm sorry, but I need to ask you to move out." If the person is on your lease and refuses to move out, you may need to get the police involved. It can be a difficult situation if a friend or family member is staying with you and you're ready for them to leave. Give them specific reasons why they've overstayed their welcome. You could say, "We can't afford for you to live here any longer," if they are a drain on your finances and haven't offered to contribute to utility or grocery bills. If someone has taken over a room in your home, say "We really need Sasha to have her own room back," or "Dave needs to use his office on a daily basis, and he hasn't been able to do that while you've been here." When you ask your houseguests to leave, you should also offer to help them figure out where to go! For example, you could get online and look for ads for places for rent within their budget or go with them to check out homes they're interested in.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Make a joke out of the situation. Ask if you can get them anything else. Announce to guests that the party's over. Tell roommates you need your own space. Explain to your houseguests that they've overstayed their welcome. Offer to help house guests find a new living situation.
Article: Until you are 14, you have limited choices for "real" jobs. Agricultural work is one of them. If you live in a rural or semi-rural area, you might have some farms in the area that are in need of some part-time help. In many places, individuals under 14 years of age can be hired to deliver newspapers. You can call or visit the newspaper office in your area to ask if they are hiring people to deliver papers. If your newspaper office isn't currently hiring, check back periodically. Doing so will demonstrate that you are serious about the job. You can also ask if they keep applications on file for future openings. While you have to be 14 years old in most states to have a part-time job, one exception is working for your family business. If your parents have a business, ask them if they would be willing to hire you for small tasks. Working a couple hours a day or on weekends for your family business will give you good work experience for when you are old enough to have a different job.
Question: What is a summary of what this article is about?
Look for agricultural work. Do a paper route. Work for your family business.