In one sentence, describe what the following article is about: When one or both of you starts mentioning divorce or separation, it is time to assess your relationship seriously. If you both want to make it work, see a counselor as soon as possible. This advice also applies if arguments are escalating to the point where one of you leaves the house, creating an unplanned, short-term separation. Infidelity does not necessarily lead to divorce, but it can take a lot of time and commitment to work through such a major breach of trust. Professional assistance is recommended in these situations. When couples feel distant, they may start an "emotional affair" where they develop feelings for someone else, even if they do not have a physical relationship. This is a warning that your marriage needs serious work. If one of you is dealing with major depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues, your relationship may suffer. In addition to individual counseling for the person dealing with mental illness, you should check in with a marriage counselor together. People who suffer from a traumatic experience sometimes find that their marriages suffer as a result. Individual therapy may also be needed. Consider seeing a marriage counselor if your relationship has been affected by: The death of a parent, child, or another close relative A major illness Rape, assault, or another violent experience A home burglary or fire Loss of a job Starting a family is a major adjustment that can throw your relationship off-kilter. A marriage counselor may be helpful if: You and your spouse have children from other marriages or relationships who are struggling to adjust. You cannot agree on whether you should have children (or more children). You cannot agree on how to raise your children. You disagree about the religion, discipline, or education of your children. You feel you are staying in your marriage "for the children." If you and your partner are butting heads over spending habits or budgets, a marriage counselor may be a good resource. Marriage counseling can also help your relationship weather financial difficulties, like debt, buying a house, or sending a child to college.
Summary: Find a marriage counselor if a separation seems imminent. Seek counseling if 1 or both of you have been unfaithful. Get help if either person is dealing with mental illness. Consider seeking help after traumatic experiences. Look for a counselor if parenthood is causing tension. Get counseling if you are struggling with finances.

To help prevent insomnia, make your bedroom or sleeping area as inviting, calm and soothing as possible. Simply improving your sleeping area can lead to higher quality sleep. Here are some ways to improve your bedroom to help you fall asleep: If you live in a noisy apartment or area, consider a white noise machine. This can drown out unwanted sounds. You can also download white noise apps on your phone. You should strive to keep your beds and sheets comfortable. If you're irritated by a certain fabric, replace it. Experiment with the temperature in your room. Keep your room cool try around 6065 F or 1618C (though this may be too cool for some). Keep bright lights and electronic screens out of the bedroom. Try putting a fan in your room, which can provide white noise as well as move air around and keep your room cool. Your bed should only be used for sleeping and sex. Avoid doing work or reading in your bed. You do not want to associate your bedroom with anything but sleep. Avoid trying too hard to sleep wait until you're drowsy to go to bed. If you can't sleep, then get out of bed after 2030 minutes and do something relaxing until you're drowsy. Remove clocks from the bedroom. Once you set your alarm, hide all clocks from view. Seeing what time it is can increase anxiety and make insomnia worse.
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One-sentence summary -- Make your sleeping area quiet, cool, dark, and comfortable.

Problem: Article: Keeping the incision area dry, which may mean delaying your shower for 24 to 72 hours after your surgery, is thought to help prevent infection and promote healing. Follow your doctor's instructions. There are many variables involved with surgery, and the risk of developing an infection or damaging the incision can be avoided by following your doctor's specific directions. Keep clean gauze pads nearby to pat the area if needed throughout the day, even when you are not near water. Depending on the specific instructions provided by your surgeon, you may be able to shower when you feel up to it, if the incision is at a place on your body where you can carefully cover the area using a waterproof material. Most surgeons will provide clear instructions for methods they prefer to cover the incision while showering. Use clear plastic wrap, a trash bag, or a cling-type wrap, to completely cover the incision. Use medical tape around the edges to prevent water from seeping inside the covered area. For difficult to reach areas, get a family member or friend to cut plastic bags or plastic wrap to cover the area and tape it in place. For shoulder and upper back areas, in addition to the cover placed on the incision, a garbage bag draped like a cape can be helpful in keeping water, soap, and shampoo away from the area as you shower. For a chest incision, drape the bag more like a bib. Until your instructions indicate you can proceed with a shower, you can feel more refreshed by taking a sponge bath and still keep the incision dry and unaffected. Use a sponge or washcloth dipped in water with small amounts of a mild soap. Dry yourself with a clean towel. Most surgeons recommend taking a shower once the time limit required to keep the area dry has passed, and you feel up to it. Do not soak the area, sit in a tub filled with water, sit in a hot tub, or go swimming for at least three weeks or until your doctor says it is ok to do so. Most surgeons recommend taking showers that last about five minutes until you are stronger and the incision is healing. Have someone with you at all times during the first few times you shower on your own. Depending on the type of surgery, you may want to use a shower stool, chair, or hand rails to provide stability and prevent falling. Surgeries that involve your knees, legs, ankles, feet, and back may make it difficult for you to safely balance in the small shower area, so using stools, chairs or rails, can help to provide additional support. Avoid a strong flow of water directly against the incision. Adjust the water stream before entering the shower to provide a comfortable temperature and adjust the flow of the water to protect the incision.
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Keep the area dry if your doctor instructed you to do so. Cover the incision. Take a sponge bath. Avoid taking a bath. Take quick showers. Provide stability. Position yourself so the incision faces away from the water stream.