Problem: Article: It will be easier to set trends if you have many friends who are popular and well-liked in their own right. This gives you more social capital and influence on the rest of your peer group. Trends are a powerful demonstration of how social influence motivates people. In general, people follow trends out of a desire to fit in. Trends are typically started by the rich and the famous because on some level people think looking more like them will give them some of that prestige. Don't make friends with popular people just to be a trendsetter. Make sure your friendships are genuine. . If you are confident and fun to be around, people will want to be more like you. Be conscious of how you present yourself, and try to be as likeable as possible. Maintaining good posture is often overlooked when thinking about charisma. Always try to keep your back and neck straight. Avoid being overly serious. This doesn't mean you have to be the class clown, but more laidback people tend to be more universally liked. Being kind and compassionate will go a long way. Express genuine interest in other people by paying them thoughtful complements. Ask them about their lives and interests. Doing these things will make others feel good about themselves and they will attribute these good feelings to your presence. Once you're known as a likeable person, others will want to be more like you. Without even noticing it, they may adopt some of your style, preferences, and habits. In other words, they will follow the trends that you set. This may seem counterproductive if you're trying to be stylish. While you may want to shake things up when it comes to your appearance, your personality shouldn't also change drastically. Don't be consistent in how you dress, but be consistent in how you act. In general, popular people are known to be reliable. People like to know where they stand with a person and are put off when someone is completely unpredictable. If you try to be a chameleon and change who you are depending on who you're with in a bid to make everyone like you, people will catch on. You may develop a reputation as being inauthentic, causing your popularity to plummet. Instead, be your best true self wherever you go. You won't be able to set a trend if other people don't see and follow it. Start by trying to be more "seen." Make people notice you and cultivate a presence. Talk louder if necessary, make jokes, and learn how to be the center of attention. If you want to start fashion trends, try to dress well in general. Your peers will start to think of you as a person who knows style and will be more likely to attribute an unusual look to a new trend rather than a fashion faux pas. While positive attention is great, don't be too loud or obnoxious. People who try to be cool rarely are. Make your outgoing persona seem effortless. If you have trouble being extroverted without it seeming forced, focus more on other methods of securing popularity.
Summary: Make a lot of friends. Be charismatic Be likable. Stay consistent. Get noticed.

Problem: Article: To be fun and flirty, you want to be positive, upbeat, and genuine. Smiling at others as you pass them is an easy way to display these qualities. Do this all the time, and others will likely think you are fun and easygoing. Radiate your beautiful smile for the world to see, and you'll seem confident and flirty. If you are insecure about your smile, that's okay! Smile in front of the mirror to practice. Try different techniques, like opening your mouth more or tilting your chin down slightly, until you find the smile that makes you feel the best. While walking down the street, keep a smile on your face the whole time. You can listen to positive music or look at nature around you to boost your mood if need be. For instance, don't constantly talk about how stressed or busy you are, but instead keep a lighthearted, optimistic attitude for life. This way, others will think you're upbeat and fun, and they'll likely want to be around you more often. For example, instead of saying something like "Man, this week sucked. I was so busy with work, I barely got to relax," try saying "Wow, am I glad it's Friday!" Another way to show your flirtatious side is to lock eyes with people when you meet them, rather than looking away. This shows enthusiasm and deepens your connection instantly. Making eye contact also displays confidence and a self-assured attitude, which often seems effortlessly flirty as well. For example, when you are buying your morning coffee, make eye contact with the barista and smile back at them. Oftentimes self-expression and self-assured behavior seems fun, flirty, and intriguing, so don't be afraid to dance in public, make a bold decision, or express your opinion. Expressing yourself without any reservations can make others interested in getting to know you better. This is an easy way to get cuties to engage with you. You can walk up to your crush and give them a note with your phone number. Try singing karaoke if you are at the bar with your friends. An effortless way to show your fun side is by finding humor in every situation. Laugh at other people's jokes and giggle at your own mistakes, for instance. This shows you have a lighthearted, playful attitude. For example, if you take the wrong exit while driving home from work, laugh to yourself rather than getting upset over the mistake.
Summary: Smile often so you seem warm and approachable. Maintain a positive attitude so you seem fun and carefree. Make direct eye contact with everyone you meet. Express yourself without hesitation. Laugh and giggle all the time!

Problem: Article: Perhaps you spilled coffee all over your customers or your boss told you that you have to work weekends for a while. When times on the job get rough, use your breaks to get away for a bit. Instead of having lunch in the office, go off site. Take a walk around the block when you have five or ten minutes to yourself. When life gets overwhelming, don't keep your feelings inside. Take a notepad and write down all the issues you're having. Getting it out can help you process the problem and figure out what steps to take to fix it. For instance, you might write down that your coworker got an attitude with you as soon as you came to the office. You might add that you had to work outdoors and it rained all day. Journaling your problems is even more effective if you look back on it later when you are less stressed and try to come up with possible solutions. Identify someone, whether a family member or a friend, and call them up to vent. Get advice if you'd like or just use this time to express your frustrations. You might call up your spouse and say "Hey honey, do you have a minute? I wanna talk about something that bothered me at work and I want to see what you think about it." Music is a temporary distraction from the negativity that might surround you. If you have your own office, shut the door and listen to a few songs to lift your mood. If you don't have your own space, use headphones. If you can't listen to music at work, take a restroom break and listen to a song. Instead of continuing to be down in the dumps, find a way to smile. Funny YouTube videos can be a great distraction to a bad work day. Revisit some of your old favorite videos or look for funny memes. Try to limit your time watching videos to ten minutes or less. Though laughter can be helpful, sometimes you just need a good cry. When you feel the tears coming, step away as quickly as you can to the nearest restroom. Take a few moments to cry and then pull yourself together. Blow your nose and splash your face with cool water to get rid of your puffy eyes and red face. If you're able, you might consider going to your car for a small break. Perhaps your boss was not pleased with your latest project or you received a less than stellar end of year review. Rather than sulking, identify some quick tasks that you can complete. This will boost your confidence and get you motivated to continue working despite the bad news. You might do something like respond to emails, clean your desk, or check your voicemails. Build some momentum with these tasks to help yourself continue throughout the day.
Summary:
Use your break to get away from the office. Jot down your problems. Vent to someone you trust. Listen to music to boost your mood. Watch funny videos to make you laugh. Cry when you need to. Complete easy tasks to get back on track.