Before you do your Kegel exercises, it's important to find your pelvic muscles. These are the muscles that form the floor of your pelvic floor. The most common way to find them is to try to stop the flow of your urine midstream. This tightening is the basic move of a Kegel. Let those muscles go and resume the flow of urine and you'll have a better sense of where those Kegels are. Just remember to see a doctor before you begin your Kegel exercises if you have any medical problems that may prevent you from doing Kegels safely. You should feel the muscles tightening and your pelvic floor move up. Relax and you'll feel the pelvic floor move back again. Make sure your finger is clean before you insert it into your vagina. If you're a sexually active woman, you can also ask your partner if he can feel you "hugging" his penis and letting go during sex. If you're still having trouble locating or isolating your Kegels, place a hand mirror below your perineum, which is the skin-covered area between your vagina and your anus. Practice squeezing and relaxing what you think are your Kegel muscles. If you do this correctly, you should see your perineum contracting with each squeeze. This is important. You don't want to do your Kegels with a full or a partially full bladder, or you may experience pain while you do your Kegels, as well as some leakage. Before you start your exercise routine, do a bladder check so you can perform those exercises as efficiently as possible. Your Kegel exercises should focus on these muscles only, so you should avoid flexing other muscles, such as your buttocks, thighs, or your abdomen, for best results. To help your concentration and the efficiency of your movements, make sure you breathe in and out as you perform each set of Kegels, instead of holding your breath. This will help you relax and get the most out of your pelvic floor exercises. One way to keep your muscles relaxed is to place one hand on your belly to make sure that your belly is relaxed. If your back or belly ache a bit after you complete a set of Kegel exercises, then it's an indication that you're not doing them correctly. You can do these exercises either sitting in a chair or lying on the floor. Make sure your buttock and tummy muscles are relaxed. If you are lying down, then you should be flat on your back with your arms at your sides and your knees up and together. Keep your head down, too, to avoid straining your neck.
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One-sentence summary -- Find your pelvic muscles by stopping the flow of your urine mid-stream. If you still have trouble finding your Kegels, place your finger in your vagina and squeeze your muscles. Use a hand mirror to find your Kegels. Make sure you have an empty bladder before you begin your Kegels. Concentrate on only tightening your pelvic floor muscles. Get into a comfortable position.

Due to the increasing amount of information about transgender people, you may have already heard some information about what being transgender is. Transgender people have a gender that is different from the sex they were assigned at birth. For example, a girl might have been thought to be a boy. Gender is determined in your mind and heart, not by your anatomy. If you really feel like a girl, you are a girl. It's just that not everyone knows it. Some transgender people compare it to being born in the wrong body. Others feel comfortable with their bodies. For example, a trans boy might say that because he is a boy, that makes his body a boy's body. If the label of "boy" doesn't seem right, but "girl" doesn't fully fit either, you may be nonbinary. If someone is nonbinary, their gender is a gender that doesn't fully fit "male" or "female". While there are many nonbinary genders, here are some of the more common ones: Genderfluid people may switch genders from time to time. For example, maybe that means being a boy yesterday, a girl today, and agender tomorrow. Demiboys/demigirls only partially fit the label of "girl" or "boy." Agender people have no gender. Some people don't totally understand what it means to be transgender or nonbinary, and come up with a lot of silly ideas about them. Oftentimes, transgender or nonbinary people are said to just be gay; however, these are not the same. Being gay means that you get crushes on people of your gender, and being transgender means that your gender doesn't match your assigned sex. If you feel like you're a girl, you're probably transgender, not gay. Of course, transgender and nonbinary people can be gay or bisexual, as well. You can be a girl who likes girls, or a nonbinary person who likes girls. There's nothing wrong with that, either. Imagine yourself in 10 years: being a man and being called "him", being a woman and being called "her", and being nonbinary with a different pronoun such as "they" or "sie." Which one sounds the most comfortable, fun, or exciting? Try looking in a mirror and saying, "I am a [boy/girl/nonbinary gender]". Which one feels best to you, and feels right? It is okay to be a guy who likes feminine things, if that's what you turn out to be. Whether you're a boy who likes pink or a boy who likes to cross-dress, that's okay. You don't have to match narrow gender roles. You don't have to be 100% traditionally feminine in order to be a real girl. Some girls like baseball, superheroes, and wearing pants. If you think you're a trans girl, this doesn't invalidate your gender. Take as much time as you need to in order to figure things out. There's never any rush to know who you are. As well-meaning as other people may be, you are the only one who can figure out who you are. Don't let somebody else tell you whether or not you're a girl, nonbinary, or a boy - only you can know what your gender is. Even the people who know you best can be wrong about how you feel inside.
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Look up what it means to be transgender. Look up what it means to be nonbinary. Understand the difference between being transgender or nonbinary and being gay or bisexual. Take some time to reflect on yourself. Don't let other people tell you who you are.