Boys who are players will try to trigger impulsiveness in you because this works out to their advantage; they want you to violate your boundaries on physical intimacy fast. For example: He allows you to think that there's an instant emotional connection, perhaps even saying that you're soulmates or sending you romantic songs. He's trying to get you to cross your boundaries so that he can get what he is after, which is physical intimacy. He'll lose interest in a girl who reasserts her boundaries, seems very cautious, and requires patience because he's not really interested in a relationship. The best way to sort out for sure whether a guy is a player or not is to make him wait a significant time for any physical intimacy with you. If he's not a player, he will be OK with this and respect you more because you're not "easy." If he's a player, he'll be annoyed by this and will try to cajole you into breaking your boundaries. When this doesn't work, he'll dump you. Be aware, however, that some players who can wait a long time to get what they want. A player will have a reason to either keep you secret or just to downplay your relationship to others so that he can keep playing the field with other girls. The reason is sadly that he wants to keep his options open to mess around with lots of girls, and if he tells people he has a girlfriend, other girls might stay away. It's important to see whether he tells other people about you, and whether he downplays the state of the relationship to them if he does. Does he say things to you that indicate you're exclusive, but acts distant to you around other people? If he's downplaying you, he's probably a player. Other people around him, who have known him longer, will have had time to see his patterns. Check out his other relationships, and maybe talk to some of those people. For example: If his friends don't think highly of him, they've probably observed his bad behavior. Another bad sign is if his male friends are also known players. Is he mostly friends with girls? That's a bad sign. It means that guys have figured out he's not a very good person, and he doesn't like the male competition. Is he still connected to his ex in a way that goes beyond being platonic? Do girls seem desperate around him or are now angry at him? If so, he probably did to them what he's about to do to you. It's good if a boy cares if he looks nice. That's not the point. But if he's over the top about it, there's a greater chance he's a player. For example, a player will spend a lot of time working out and will brag about and show off his muscles. He puts a high premium on physical appearance. This will extend to how he dresses. He will likely be seen in nice clothes, including flashing expensive labels to show off. His car will also be flashy. There's nothing subtle about this guy. He uses his body, his clothes, and his car to draw girls. The way a guy presents himself on social media can give you a sense of whether he is a player or not. If he is a player, he will use social media to try to attract girls. Check his relationship status. Players may often pretend that they're single online or hide their status. Players will have lots of attractive girls on their friend list. Their comments will be flirty in nature. Their photos and videos on social media sites will be designed to showcase their physical attractiveness. He won't seem to mind or discourage flirting.

Summary: Analyze whether you're impulsive around him. Make him wait. Pay attention to whether he keeps you secret. Pay attention to his relationships. See whether he cares a lot about his appearance. Check out his social media.

Preheat the oven to 375F/190C. Grease the sheet pan, then line with parchment paper. Sprinkle a little flour on the paper. Add the baking powder, baking soda, cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, and salt. Stir to combine. If using egg replacer, follow the instructions to prepare. Mix together quickly. Pour the pumpkin mixture into the dry ingredients gradually. Mix enough to incorporate. Fold in the craisins. Place in the oven and bake for 10 minutes. Allow to cool on a wire cooling rack, sitting in the pan. Mix the cream cheese or Toffuti, powdered sugar, and topping together. Add the grated ginger root. Mix to combine. Grease the mold and sprinkle powdered sugar over the greased edges. Press the first quarter (or layer) into the mold. Spread the topping over it. Place another quarter over the first and spread the filling again. Keep molding until all the cake has been inserted into the mold. Add decorations.
Summary: Prepare the oven and pan. Sift the flour into a bowl. Beat the eggs in a separate bowl. Add the pureed pumpkin to the egg or egg replacer mixture. Pour the batter into the prepared pan. Remove from the oven. Prepare the filling/topping in another bowl as the cake cools. Mold the cake into a mold when cooled enough to handle. Cut the cake into quarters. Place the cake over a serving plate and carefully tap it out of the mold. Spread the remaining topping over the top of the molded cake. Serve. Finished.