Q: While you may perceive your anger as coming out of nowhere, there are some warning signs of rising anger. Your body communicates anger to you before your emotional reaction. Keep an eye out for some of the following signs: Clenched hands or jaw, muscle tension (like shoulders) Feeling flushed Faster breathing Headache Pacing, increased need for movement Pounding heart Anger is a reflection of how you feel, not how someone is "making" you feel. Your anger belongs to you and not to your partner. Avoid blaming your partner and accept that your anger is your responsibility to deal with appropriately. If your anger is your own, then it is also within your control. Recognize whether outside factors contribute to or worsen your anger. This can include not getting enough rest, being hungry, feeling stressed out at work or school, or other external factors. If you notice your anger in the relationship increases when you have outside stressors (like work deadlines or when the kids are sick), realize that you may be mismanaging your anger and taking it out on your partner or the relationship. Look at your regular routine and distinguish events or situations that tend to trigger anger. These situations may include commuting, dealing with rowdy children, or routinely not getting enough sleep each night. Address these factors and find healthy outlets for your anger that don't involve your partner. Often, anger is a secondary emotion to other deeper emotions, such as sadness, guilt, shame, fear, hurt, or rejection. Think about whether anger is your primary emotion, or if it is the way you are expressing a different emotion. Anger may be expressed if the other emotions make you feel vulnerable or weak, as anger can act as a defense that makes you feel more powerful. Ask yourself whether you are truly angry, or if you are responding to feeling vulnerable, weak, sad, or shameful. Are you being triggered and responding to the trigger through anger? If anger is the only feeling you experience regularly, it may be shielding other emotions that make you feel vulnerable. You may feel fear in experiencing other emotions such as vulnerability, sadness, guilt, shame, or defeat. Ask yourself what blocks you from these emotions, and practice expressing them, even if it's only in a secret journal. If it's difficult for your to access emotions other than anger, talk to a therapist. He or she can help you access and experience your emotions in a safe, non-threatening way. Nothing "causes" your anger aside from your own perceptions of situations. Anger has more to do with your interpretations than what actually happens. Acknowledge how your thoughts affect your anger, then address their validity and truth. Especially in relationships, your partner can trigger you and set off your anger. Some common destructive thought patterns include: Generalizing- Saying that your partner ALWAYS does something, or NEVER does something. ("You NEVER take out the trash" or "You ALWAYS cut me off when I'm speaking"). Blaming- Your first reaction is to externalize blame when something goes wrong. You may blame your partner for things that happen to you instead of taking responsibility. (If you leave your phone on a bus, you blame your partner for distracting you). Mind reading- Assuming that your partner is purposefully hurting you, ignoring you, or upsetting you. (If your partner doesn't do the dishes, you assume that he or she is avoiding them as a way to get back at you). Looking for the final straw- Actively looking for things to be upset about or only focusing on negative things. Often, this occurs one small thing at a time, until you reach the "final straw" and explode. Once you've identified your thought patterns, learn how to rationally respond to them. When you start to accuse your partner of wrongdoing or feel defensive, start paying attention to the thoughts influencing these feelings. Then, ask yourself some questions. "Is my perception an accurate and valid approach to the situation?" "Is there something I can do about this?" "Is this ruining the rest of my day? Is this something worthy of pursuing?" "How important is this in the grand scheme of things? Is this something that greatly influences our relationship?" Think of whether this is an issue deserving of your emotional energy and anger. If not, say to yourself, "This upsets me, but I can move past it."
A: Be aware of your anger warning signs. Own your anger. Handle outside factors. Address primary emotions. Identify your maladaptive thoughts. Overcome negative thought patterns.

Q: Shakira sometimes wears traditionally-inspired belly dancing outfits, with a cropped dance top and a low skirt or pants with a belt. She also likes to wear more modern outfits, such as a bikini style top or a cropped shirt and low cut jeans. Put on low cut jeans and cut a top so it shows your torso when you dance. Don't be shy about exposing some skin when dressing like Shakira, as this is her signature look. You can also make your hair long and flowing like Shakira's hair to imitate her in more detail. She is known for her blond mane of hair. Put on Shakira songs that you like and dance to them using your belly dancing moves. Try performing dances from songs like "Whenever, Wherever" and "She Wolf" to the music, or to the music videos. Stand in front of a mirror when you perform the moves so you can watch yourself as you dance. You can also show off your dance moves in front of others, such as at a club while a Shakira song is playing. To take your Shakira moves one step further, take up belly dancing classes at your local dance center. Look for a belly dancing class that focuses on Shakira's dance style. Sign up for the class with a friend so you're more encouraged to show up and have fun together.
A: Dress like Shakira. Dance to Shakira songs in the mirror. Take a belly dancing class.

Q: Hold a level on the ground and against the wall to find the floor's highest point. Measure up the wall about 48in (120cm) or 1912in (50cm) above a lower cabinet. Mark this spot with a pencil and draw a straight line through it all the way across the wall. Use a ruler to trace any lines. You want to keep them as straight as possible since you'll use them as references when hanging the cabinets. When you're finished tracing the line, you can use a level to check it. Using a tape measure, note the dimensions of the cabinets. The line you drew earlier represents their bottom edge. Measure up from it to sketch the cabinet's height. Then, use the ruler to make a 2nd straight line all the way across the wall so you can keep the cabinets level later. When hanging multiple cabinets, always start with the corner cabinet if there is 1. Otherwise, start with the leftmost cabinet. The cabinets need to be screwed into the wood studs in the wall. The easiest way to find them is with a stud finder purchased from a home improvement store. Mark these spots in pencil so you know where to hang the cabinets. Another way to find the studs is to knock on the wall. You'll hear a lower, fuller sound when hitting a stud instead of empty space. If you can't find the studs, you can do it by drilling partway into the wall about every 16in (41cm). You'll have to repair these spots with spackling or another substance before hanging the cabinets. First, measure the length between the studs, then transfer this onto the cabinets. The cabinets will have a thick support rail on the top and bottom. There should be 1 mark on each of both rails. Some cabinets will have another one of these thick support rails in the middle that you should also mark. At the home improvement store, pick up a 1in 4in (2.5cm 10.2cm) ledger board or wall cleat. Line the board's top edge up with the bottom line you drew. Use 114in (3.2cm) drywall screws to secure it to the wall. This board ensures the cabinets are level upon installation. If you have a friend who will hold the cabinets as you install them, you don't need a ledger board. Instead of a ledger board, you may also use a cabinet jack. Set the cabinet on the jack and raise the jack up so you can reach the cabinets while you work.
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Measure up from the floor to find where the cabinets will rest. Outline where the 1st cabinet will hang. Mark the stud locations on the wall. Mark the length between studs on the cabinets' backs. Hang a ledger board on the bottom line you traced.