This might include crying, whining, or pouting. You might be able to get what you want by making people feel badly about themselves, but this isn't healthy behavior. If you continue to behave this way, the person will likely pull away from you over time. Any time you're trying to control someone's feelings, you're being manipulative. For example, you might say something like, "If you really love me, you'll stay home with me tonight," "My friends can't believe you treat me this way," or "I hate it when we work together because I have to do more than my share." The purpose of these statements is to get the other person to do something for you. This includes trying to change the meaning of something you said or deliberately misinterpreting what someone else said. You might also hide information in an effort to get what you want. For example, you might have said, "I'm going to stay in tonight." Later, you might tell the person you're manipulating, "I meant that I wanted us to hang out at home tonight." Similarly, your coworker may have told you her part of a shared project will be late because the client rescheduled a meeting. You might manipulate your boss into seeing you more favorably by saying, "I finished my assignment 3 days ago, but I'm chasing her around to get her to finish the report. I might just have to do it myself." It's easy to manipulate someone by withholding something they want, such as sex, money, assistance, or love. This can also include withdrawing from them or refusing to talk to them. You might maintain control temporarily by withholding something from someone, but they'll eventually pull away from you. For example, you might say something like, "Don't contact me until you're ready to apologize," or "I'm not helping with the housework again unless you admit you were wrong." It might be hard for you to accept responsibility for your feelings or actions. This might make you reframe situations to make others seem responsible. You might even spread gossip about them so others take your side. For instance, let's say you missed a doctor's appointment because you overslept. Instead of accepting that it was your fault because you missed your alarm, you might blame your partner for keeping you up too late or not waking you up. If they take on the blame, you don't have to feel bad about your mistake. This means dropping hints or suggestions about what you want instead of just telling someone directly. This is an unhealthy way of trying to get what you want and may cause a conflict. As an example, you may say, "I don't think I have anything going on Saturday night," instead of telling your friend you want to go see a movie with them. As another example, let's say you're unhappy that some of your coworkers went out to lunch without you. A healthy way to handle this would be to talk to them directly to tell them that you're interested in going next time. However, you might attempt to manipulate the situation instead by gossiping about the person who organized the lunch or trying to get them in trouble for something unrelated. You might manipulate your friends, relatives, and coworkers to make them like you better than everyone else. This often involves spreading gossip and driving a wedge between others so that they each turn to you for support and friendship. However, this is unhealthy behavior that is unfair to them. While this can work temporarily, it's likely people will eventually catch on. When this happens, you might lose your friends. It's better to be honest with people. For instance, you might become your parents' favorite by telling them nice things and pretending to always act perfectly while also telling them every time your siblings act up and making up stories to make your siblings look bad. Similarly, you might get everyone to exclude a coworker you don't like by telling everyone that they spread rumors even though you're the one who is actually gossiping.
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One-sentence summary -- Notice if you make someone feel guilty or shameful to get your way. Watch for lying or twisting the truth. Notice if you've been withholding something to get your way. Consider if you might be blaming others for something you did. Notice if you're often vague about what you really want. Recognize if you tend to create drama between people for your benefit.

From simply listening for the leak to spraying the mattress with soapy water and looking for bubbles to more extreme tests like submerging the mattress in a tub or swimming pool, the many tests for find a leak in your air mattress are detailed in 5 Ways to Locate a Leak in an Air Mattress. However, the most reliable methods seem to be the easiest: using your ears and spraying the mattress with soapy water. Whichever method you choose, always inspect the mattress systematically. First inspect the valves. Then, check the seams. Finally, inspect the flat surfaces of mattress. Use a permanent marker or a piece of masking tape. For "flocked" (fuzzy) mattresses, use fine grit sandpaper or an emery board to smooth the area before attempting to patch it. Be gentle! And make sure to remove any debris with a damp cloth or vacuum cleaner before proceeding. Alternatively, use acetonean ingredient found in many nail polish removersto smooth the flocked area before patching it. Wet a cotton ball with a small amount of acetone and dab the area around the hole. Then, use something rigid like a spoon to scrape away the flocking. Finally, use rubbing alcohol to clean the area thoroughly. Use hair dryer to speed up the process. Or let the mattress air-dry overnight.
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One-sentence summary --
Find the leak. Mark the leak. Dry the mattress completely. Deflate the mattress.