IN: What happens next?

Man is talking to the camera is a snowy day outside a house. man

OPTIONS:
- is paring a paper and is whittling the paper.
- is in a ravine carving a wooden box.
- is holding a shovel and cleaning the path from the snow.
- is working in a driveway in a wood as the snow is falling.

OUT: is holding a shovel and cleaning the path from the snow.

IN: What happens next?

How to practice courtesy and kindness
Hold open doors for people.
It may seem small, but it doesn't take a lot of time or effort, and someone holding open a door with a smile can make someone's day. Helping or just being courteous to other people can make you feel good about yourself.

OPTIONS:
- In traffic, just keep reminding yourself that the person who just cut you off was probably having a bad day. Let others in front of you when there is a back up.
- Try buying a small fluffy comb and taking them out when they need it. Don't assume that you have to offer someone a big smile to walk through a crowd.
- Hold doors for people other than yourself, especially if that person is a friend or family member. If the person is a relative, you can close the door for the person.
- If you're in school, your classmates probably want to hold doors for them. Opening a door for them can become comfortable and respectful for other people.

OUT: In traffic, just keep reminding yourself that the person who just cut you off was probably having a bad day. Let others in front of you when there is a back up.

IN: What happens next?

How to heal from narcissistic abuse
Don't blame yourself if things aren't working.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important not to beat yourself for the challenges that you face in your relationship. Your partner is dealing with a mental disorder that you have no control over.

OPTIONS:
- One reason you might feel like the blame, is that you are hurting your partner. This works very well, but if things aren't working for you, you may want to consider consulting a therapist.
- What you do have control over is who you are in a relationship with, and your expectations for how you should be treated. Do not dwell on how things have changed, or think that the changes have been brought on by something you have done.
- Instead, strive to focus on putting problems first. For example, suppose you are in a relationship where you cannot afford a new pair of shoes for your friends.
- If you constantly blame yourself for things that are not your fault, your partner will not be able to get through to you. If you must blame yourself, tell yourself that you are the most capable of navigating this difficult time without self-blame.

OUT:
What you do have control over is who you are in a relationship with, and your expectations for how you should be treated. Do not dwell on how things have changed, or think that the changes have been brought on by something you have done.