When you consistently do what you enjoy, you'll be happier and come off as more confident. Even if you feel what you're interested in isn't popular, you'll likely meet other people that share the same interests. Build a team of friends that will boost your confidence. Participate in your favorite activities and you'll meet friends who like the same things. Ask for phone numbers, email addresses, or social media accounts for fellow participants you click with to meet outside of your meeting. Make sure to follow up with them as well. Based on your unique interests, you may want to attend classes at a local library, join a herpetology club, or a writing group. There are so many different clubs available to meet new people. Even if it's just for a few minutes, chat with them and get to know more about them. People are genuinely welcoming to strangers. Ask how your waitresses day is going and show interest by waiting for a reply. Talk to fellow elevator passengers, even if it's about the weather. Most people lack the confidence required to be themselves. Incorporate easy ways to show the world who you really are. Over time, it becomes easier. Wear something silly and people will assume you're naturally confident. Try intentionally geeky glasses or mismatch colorful patterns. Be okay with having different viewpoints than other people. If you follow a certain religion or believe in a particular political candidate, you don't need to keep this to yourself. Aim to be true to yourself and your feelings. If someone hurts your feelings, let them know in a mature and rational conversation. Don't get too emotional about it, but be confident enough to speak up. People who know what they're talking about are more confident than people who don't. Invest time in learning new things so you can speak about them with others and use these new skills in your everyday life. Take a low-cost class in a subject that interests you at your local community center, library, or college. Enroll in an online class about something that interests you. Many websites offer MOOCs or Massive Open Online Courses from well-regarded universities for free. Listen to podcasts on your smartphone. Some cover topics about history, technology, and even marketing.

Summary: Do the things that you love to do, and feel good about them. Hang out with new people or old ones you rarely see. Show off your confidence in everyday interactions. Learn new skills and always get better at old ones.

You are not alone, the abuse was not your fault, and no one ever deserves to experience abuse in any way. One step to healing from abuse is to recognize that you did nothing to deserve disrespectful treatment. As a human, you have rights to be treated decently by those in your life, by strangers, family members, and intimate partners alike. Recognize that each human has the right to be treated with respect, have their opinions heard, to change their mind, to be listened to and to be treated with respect at all times. . Emotionally abusive people often force you to put their needs, desires, and demands above your own. This desire for harmony and less conflict can slowly choke out your voice, leaving you feeling like you don't know what you want or who you are. Learn to rediscover your inner voice. One way to do this is to begin making decisions on your own and learning not to second-guess yourself. While decisions can be scary at first, start with small decisions and build your self-confidence. Try asking yourself something simple, such as, "What do I want for dessert tonight? Cherry ice cream or chocolate?" As you gain confidence making simple decisions, you may start to feel more confident about making more difficult decisions. Try to develop a system for making difficult decisions, such as identifying the problem and using a pros and cons list to weigh your options. . After enduring emotional abuse, you may have lost touch with your own preferences for things. Spend some time reclaiming yourself by engaging in liking and disliking things. Do things for yourself that bring you happiness and joy. Do things that you enjoy without worrying about pleasing anyone else. To start, you may go to a candle shop and find which scents you enjoy. You can also cook or buy foods that you enjoy on your own, even if other people don't enjoy them. You may feel like your self-esteem has been shattered after enduring an emotionally abusive relationship. Take time to recognize your positive qualities. You can choose memories of yourself before the abuse began and remember that who you are is still the same and you still have those qualities. Remind yourself of the beauty within you that hasn't gone anywhere. Write in a journal. Ask yourself, "What positive traits, qualities, and characteristics do I like about myself?" Are you kind, generous, helpful, or good with people? Do you take good care of your pets, children, or family members? What things do you appreciate about yourself? Think about what you are good at as a way to boost self-confidence. Are you a good cook, athlete, artisan or crafter? Think about what you excel at.

Summary: Recognize your rights. Make decisions for yourself Re-learn your preferences Embrace your positive qualities.

The health of the tree you select is absolutely crucial for building a foundation for your treehouse. If the tree is too old or too young, you won't have the support you need for your treehouse and you will be putting yourself and anyone else who goes into the treehouse in great danger. Your tree should be sturdy, healthy, mature, and living. Ideal trees for treehouse include oak, maple, fir, and apple. It's a good idea to have an arborist inspect your tree before you start building. An ideal tree has the following qualities: A strong, sturdy trunk and branches. Roots that are deep and well-established! No evidence of disease or parasites that could weaken the tree. . Take the time to learn about local regulations or ordinances that may be relevant to your treehouse project, such as height restrictions. You may even need a permit to build. If you have protected trees on your property, there may be restrictions on building in them. As a courtesy, it's a good idea to speak with your neighbors and let them know your plans. If your treehouse will be visible from or overlook a neighbor's property, they will be glad you're taking their opinion into consideration. This simple step can head off future complaints and even potential lawsuits. Though your neighbors will most likely comply, this will help make them more amenable to your project. alk to your insurance agent. Make a quick call to your insurance agent to make sure that a treehouse is covered under your homeowner's policy. If it's not, then any potential damage that is caused by the treehouse won't be covered by your insurance.
Summary: Choose the right tree. Check with your local planning department Talk to your neighbors. .