Q: Whether you are in middle school, high school, college, or the workplace, gossip will always be an issue as long as there are other people around to talk. On the one hand, you have to accept that gossip happens and there's not always something you can do about it. On the other hand, if negative gossip is spreading about you because of your behavior, you can take steps to improve your damaged reputation. If someone is spreading rumors that you are sexually promiscuous and it is not true, that is a form of sexual harassment. There are a few different ways you might choose to handle it, depending on who is spreading the rumors and what you feel comfortable with. Talk to someone in authority to help you deal with the harassment. This might be a parent, teacher, supervisor, boss, or school counselor. You can try confronting the person responsible for the gossip if you know who started the rumor. If you feel like you need to set the record straight, this can be a good option. However, if the person who started the rumor is a bully who does not care about you, you should know that confronting that person might make you even more of a target. If you're happy with your lifestyle, what other people say about you shouldn't have an effect on you. However, if you're doing things that are hurting you or others and it has damaged your reputation, you can take steps to take responsibility for your lifestyle and begin to repair your reputation. Make sure your emotional needs are being met. Establish and maintain a network of supportive friends who care about you, value you, and support your choices. Make sure you're not hurting anyone else. If you are having many sexual partners, be sure you're not hooking up with people who are in relationships, and be sure that your partners know what your intentions are. Be sure you use protection if you're having sex. If rumors have spread that you are sexually promiscuous, you may find that whether the rumors are true or not, people may begin to treat you differently. In particular, you may find that guys might treat you differently if they think that you are sexually available. If you find yourself being sexually harassed or propositioned by guys, know that this is not your fault. No one is ever justified in treating another person as a sexual object. Tell the person to stop, and then tell someone you trust (like a parent, teacher, or supervisor). They will help you deal with the situation. If you ever feel unsafe for any reason, call the police or go to the nearest authority figure. If people who were formerly your friends begin avoiding you, you may consider talking to them to find out why. Keep in mind that someone who would stop being your friend because of a rumor may not have been a true friend to begin with. It's true that your sex life is your business, but there's not much you can do to keep people from talking about it. The most you can do is humanize yourself as much as possible so that people won't want to waste their time talking about you. Many times girls talk about other girls' sexuality because they are jealous or because they worry that sexually experienced girls will steal their boyfriend or husband. By showing everyone that you are a kind and sincere person, you can help to calm their fears. Going out of your way to be kind to others including people who have been unkind to you shows that you are the bigger person. It takes a long time, but consistency, kindness, and sincerity can turn a bad reputation into a good one. The thing about reputations is it takes a long time to build a good one but only one mistake to get a bad one. It's frustrating and unfair, but it's also just a part of life you have to accept. Be determined to build a good reputation, even if it takes years. Find a hobby, club, or pastime to occupy yourself and take your mind off of your social issues. You can choose a volunteer position or give back to your community to help further your reputation as a caring and loving person. In the meantime, try to learn to stop caring about what other people think of you .
A: Recognize that people gossip. Deal with untrue rumors in whatever way you are comfortable. Take responsibility for your lifestyle. Deal with people who treat you differently. Establish a reputation as kind, caring, fun, and dependable. Be patient.

Q: This includes pictures of you and your ex, listening to 'your' song, and gifts they gave you. While you don't necessarily have to throw all the stuff out (that cookbook you two would try recipes from might come in handy in the future) you should move it from your direct line of sight. However mad you may be, it is best not to destroy something that may be of significant financial or sentimental value to them (expensive items or family mementos). If you have items like this, the best thing is to gather them up, and arrange a time for them to come get them. This is not an invitation to reconnect, so keep your messages short and professional. Keeping in contact with them will make you feel even worse than you already do. Don't call your ex crying or send passive aggressive texts, and definitely don't communicate when you've been drinking. Your ex has made it clear that they are moving on. The best way to do that yourself is to avoid contact with them. Delete your ex from social media. You don't need the constant reminder of what they are up to that you'll automatically get from Facebook or other social media sites. That kind of avoidance will help keep you from thinking about them. Ask your friends to help. Don't make, or let, them fill you in on what your ex is up to. Instead, ask them to help you get your mind off them, even if it's just by spending time talking about anything else, or keeping you from contacting them. The best way to get over the past is to create a new, bright future for yourself without that person. Now is the time to fulfill your dreams of learning new skills or trying different activities. Enroll in a new after school or work class, or join a sports team, even just joining a pick-up game every week will work. The goal is to distract yourself with new ideas and activities, and to meet new people. One of the best ways to get your mind off your own problem is to try to help someone else with a challenge they are facing. Ask your friends about what is going on in their lives, or talk to your family about how they are doing. Don't let your emotions block you from the fact that other people are dealing with their own sadness. You don't have to just limit your helping to people you know. Volunteering is a great way to put your own situation into perspective. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or shelter and focus your efforts on bettering the lives of others. You may just find that in the process you discover new meaning in your own life. After giving yourself some space, get back into the game of love. You shouldn't close yourself off, and losing someone does not mean you are unlovable or can never love again. Use your new activities to meet potential new partners, or even be willing to use online dating. You don't have to actively look for new relationships if you don't want to, but don't immediately reject the possibility if someone asks or offers. Be careful with a rebound relationship. Opening yourself up does not mean rushing into a new relationship immediately. If you move too quickly, you may mistake the easy intimacy with real feeling, and create greater pain for yourself and the other person. These processes take time, and while on the way to recovery, you may come up against days that are harder than others. Don't beat yourself up over feeling sad when you thought you were recovering. Occasionally fantasizing about your ex is normal. The surest way to think about something is to tell yourself not to think about it. Sometimes that will happen. Rather than suppress these thoughts, accept them, and look for something else to think about instead.
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Get rid of things that remind you or your ex. Stop all contact with your ex. Get involved in new activities. Help someone else. Meet new people. Be patient.