This Is What Itâs Like When A Court Tells Your Abusive Ex
Jane
Jane *  who is in  her  late thirties and from the West Midlands  got an admission from staff at Coventry family court that the disclosure of  her  address to  her  abusive ex-partner last month was an administrative oversight.
âIt took 24 hours before they admitted they had given him my address "  she  said. "They said  âActually  it was the same paperwork  and yes  heâs got it. Itâs an oversight on our part and we should have marked it out.â
In police interviews  Jane âs ex-partner said  he  didnât know where  she  was living  and until the court sent out the paperwork  he  had no firm idea  she  still resided in the area.
âAnd speaking to Warwickshire police  this is the second time that Coventry [family court] have done this in eight weeks "  she  said. "So Iâm not an isolated case  and it would seem that they havenât learned anything."
 Jane  split from  her  partner in 2015 after a year together.  The NMO Jane  then obtained expired on 20 August this year and  she  went back to court to get an extension late last month  when  her  address was exposed.
But it hasnât been a straightforward process.  She  said  her  ex-partner repeatedly evaded the court bailiffs who turned up to his door to serve the order.
âHeâs got cameras so he would then ring them up and tell them what they were wearing â heâd say the paperwork had been sent but he wasnât prepared to accept it â  Jane  said.
 Jane  hired a barrister â  she  qualified for limited legal aid â to avoid  her  abuser cross-examining  her  in court.
âI wasnât in a state to be cross-examined by the perpetrator â thereâs no way I could have dealt with that "  she  said. "Itâs barbaric. Itâs really difficult because youâre stuck between a rock and a hard place. Iâm lucky because I havenât got children involved  but it is a nightmare."
Before  she  left  her  relationship   Jane  had for some years been campaigning to improve the rights of domestic violence survivors.  She  has an ongoing dialogue with MPs and has a meeting scheduled with the Home Office officials to discuss potential changes to the system.
[TGT]  *  who is in   [TGT]   late thirties and from the West Midlands  got an admission from staff at Coventry family court that the disclosure of   [TGT]   address to   [TGT]   abusive ex-partner last month was an administrative oversight.
âIt took 24 hours before they admitted they had given him my address "   [TGT]   said. "They said  âActually  it was the same paperwork  and yes  heâs got it. Itâs an oversight on our part and we should have marked it out.â
In police interviews   [TGT]  ex-partner said  he  didnât know where   [TGT]   was living  and until the court sent out the paperwork  he  had no firm idea  she  still resided in the area.
âAnd speaking to Warwickshire police  this is the second time that Coventry [family court] have done this in eight weeks "  she  said. "So Iâm not an isolated case  and it would seem that they havenât learned anything. [TGT] 
split from   [TGT]   partner in 2015 after a year together.   [TGT] then obtained expired on 20 August this year and   [TGT]   went back to court to get an extension late last month  when   [TGT]   address was exposed.
But it hasnât been a straightforward process.   [TGT]   said   [TGT]   ex-partner repeatedly evaded the court bailiffs who turned up to his door to serve the order.
âHeâs got cameras so he would then ring them up and tell them what they were wearing â heâd say the paperwork had been sent but he wasnât prepared to accept it â   [TGT] said.
  [TGT] hired a barrister â   [TGT]   qualified for limited legal aid â to avoid   [TGT]   abuser cross-examining  her  in court.
âI wasnât in a state to be cross-examined by the perpetrator â thereâs no way I could have dealt with that "  she  said. "Itâs barbaric. Itâs really difficult because youâre stuck between a rock and a hard place. Iâm lucky because I havenât got children involved  but it is a nightmare."
Before  she  left  her  relationship    [TGT] had for some years been campaigning to improve the rights of domestic violence survivors.   [TGT]   has an ongoing dialogue with MPs and has a meeting scheduled with the Home Office officials to discuss potential changes to the system.