Interview - "The unspoken - between children and parents" Today, VH assistance met Ann-Marie Stenhammar who is the project manager for "The Unspoken - between children and parents". The project is about the thoughts and feelings that are not said between parents and children, but which perhaps should be said - the thoughts that we can not always put into words. Those who sometimes get unsaid. The project will create and disseminate a perspective bank with films, pictures, texts and audio files where children with disabilities, siblings and parents tell on the theme: "What do we not say to our children? To our parents? Why? And how can we talk about what is difficult? Ann-Marie Stenhammar has worked with children and family issues for almost 40 years. Since the mid-80s, she has been working on issues related to disability in various ways. Both politically and in other ways. Her main focus is how society's support works in relation to children and adults with disabilities. - That I started working with issues regarding disability, is due to the fact that I myself had a child with several disabilities 35 years ago, says Ann-Marie. Can you tell us how the idea was born to start the project "The unspoken between children and parents"? Recently, I have worked with children's influence in connection with support measures from society. It has then emerged that children and parents may have difficulty talking to each other. Among other things, it has been about the children, for example, knowing that mum and dad are tired and then they may not say that they are in pain, because then mum and dad will be worried. This led to the idea of starting the project. This together with my own thoughts from when my children were small. What is the purpose and goal of the project? The purpose is that we should get a grip on what is important to talk about so that you do not feel bad. We have interviewed 160 people who include children from 4 years and adolescents, siblings, parents and mother and grandparents. We have talked about "What do you not say to each other" and "why do not talk about it". We will use all that material for the website. Among other things, we will produce 18 short cartoons with the most important topics we found in the interviews. There will also be a game for the youngest children that is about emotions. It is already possible to see three cartoons and they are on it outsagda.se or on Youtube and then we have called them Opratat. It's a word we'll use and maybe the next site will be called that. You have a large amount of material collected. What have you heard and what has it resulted in? - We have gone through the material and it becomes very clear that most of it revolves around how to talk about disabilities or how to NOT talk about it. The parents say: “This is difficult, I do not want to tell the child everything, it may make him not think so well about his future, or that the child becomes sad or that they do not understand. While the children think that the parents should instead be honest and say as it is, because it comes out anyway. For example, when a parent says "It is not dangerous" and they say it four times then the children realize that it is certainly something that is not good. - This is tricky and there is a lot of emotion involved. What we get from all the stories and interviews we will present in different ways on the website. Ann-Marie describes the website as a house with several floors in. The top floor is the 18 films that are about ex injustice, or not to say as it is. After that, there will be personal stories that address how you could do, then we will have children's picture books that touch on this with the unspoken / the unspoken and then there will be a game for the youngest children that is about emotions. There should also be guidance on how parents and staff can use this site. The idea and goal of the project is to botanize on the website and retrieve information. This in turn may make you dare to talk more to each other about difficult things. If that happens, we will have succeeded and we have reached the goal of the project, which is to prevent ill health. If you do not talk about difficult things, go and think for yourself and try to figure things out and guess what others think and feel, then it is often much worse than what reality looks like. How can we at VH assistance use the material that will be available on "Det Outsagda" website? - The material can be used to advantage for people who work as a personal assistant. The assistant is given the opportunity to think that there are things that the child can say to you, such as "I am in pain but do not say anything to the father then he will be so worried". It is not an easy situation to end up in. Then you know that it would have to reach the father. The assistant can use the website and the movies that will be there to get a little more meat on the bones. There are more children who talk in this way, there are many who say that they do not say things because you want to protect each other and it can be recognized and then the assistant can get help in the conversation with the child and parents. What are you working on right now in the project? - Right now we are going to start a storytelling workshop. We have three children and youth groups who are experts and work with us all the time. They will meet one day with a storytelling professional to get to grips with these stories that the films illustrate. "How do I think when, for example, mom and dad did not talk about my disability and I knew it was something I had but I did not know what it was." Then we think we should have a personal story on the website "this is what I did then" "this is how I thought then". So that those who watch and listen can get a little different ideas and strategies to start from. - Svante, who is one of the experts in children and the youth group, says this: “I work to help people talk more to each other in the family, and even if things that you think are a bit difficult, that's what my job is. out on". Svante describes very well what this project is about, concludes Ann-Mari Stenhammar. Thanks for an interesting interview! We look forward to the launch in June 2017 "The Unspoken - between children and parents" is a three-year project that was started in 2014 and it is financed with funds from the Heritage Fund. The project is expected to be completed in November 2017. It will be public in the form of a website, from June 2017 and then to be refilled with new material afterwards. Follow the project via detoutsagda.se (blog) handikapförbunden.se / detoutsagda arvsfonden.se/projekt (search for The Unspoken) Interview and text: Lise Henningsson / Communicator VH assistance Digital Autumn 09/09/2020 Advice from Veronica Hedenmark 05/08/2020 The court suspended IVO's decision 09/07/2020 Warm midsummer greetings from us! 18/06/2020 Read more posts More about personal assistance with VH assistance Personal assistance When I started the company VH assistance at the kitchen table at home in Sundborn in 1997, it was about being… About VH assistance My name is Veronica Hedenmark and I want to present our VH assistance to you. VH assistance is available… Travel with a wheelchair Much is possible with personal assistance, so even to travel! Contact VH assistance Do you want to work as an assistant for your own child, but do not know how? 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