It's not easy to leave a culture born into for a foreign one. Chazal recognize that god’s commandment to Abraham to leave his country, birthplace and parents as one of the ten tests god inflicted upon his beloved to satisfy his self-confidence.  Recently a few fellow bloggers in various stages of leaving the community met at Dizzy's Club Coca-Cola in the city for a night out. After listening to the jazz band perform we were presented with a bill for the food and drinks purchased (around $20 each) plus the entry fee ($30 each). As we took out our wallets to pay up the perpetual tip question popped up, this time with a twist. If in general tip is twice the tax or so, and tax is only charged for food, do we tip for the entire bill or just for the food and drinks? We were clueless about the standard practice while the rest of the 200 or so people looked just fine. We have all been around numerous times it wasn’t our first outing, but these things just happen to people who step into a foreign culture, even with little things one feels insecure with their actions.  The frum readers can surly identify this kind of behavior when a BT or convert tries hard to fit in, but after countless years still has an inexperienced look plastered on his longer-than-thou bearded face.  Naturally then, when JP first hurdled his ridicules announcement that he has superiority because his real name is out there I tried to remind him gently why that is the case. Chasidim, for some reason, have an aversion of writing one's name in the 'letter to the editor' section in their own papers. There are many blogs out there, strictly diary like without controversy, belonging to Chasidic women who hide their identity. This is our culture, a part of it that JP fails to grasp.  The second thing JP must know, but plays dumb about is the persecution one will go through when his views are publicized. The very same JP’s out there will continue with their vile hate spreading and the Pinchas’s will come through, bloody sword in tow. Who needs that? I can just imagine how my life will play out if I post my name and picture on these pages. If until now things can be overlooked and the community as a whole make an about face it would no longer be possible.  Having my kids in the schools would be absolutely unfeasible. No threat of all out legal war, and the forever hanging threat of other legal problems (וד"ל) would stop the  authorities from an all out war at all costs. A war that will leave both sides bleeding and with no gain.  A war that I can easily avoid by staying anonymous.  It was  DovBear , I think, who once linked to an article by John Derbyshire who  writes  “It’s a wearying business, arguing with Creationists. Basically, it is a game of Whack-a-Mole. They make an argument, you whack it down. They make a second, you whack it down. They make a third, you whack it down.  So they make the first argument again .”  It isn’t the first time JP has brought up this issue and it isn’t the first time I had answered him the above, and it isn’t the first time he chooses to ignore the truth and runs back to the safety of insults and blatant lies.  So why am I bothering at all?  I’m not writing it for JP, or for the ones who understand him (if such people even exist). I’m not debating him, since he chooses to avoid debating, but JP isn't thinking anything up at all (if he's capable of thinking at all), there are many like him, or ideas like his floating around. Hell, I was just like him (when I was 15 though) so I know exactly how he thinks. I live amongst many who also think alike and my children’s curriculum is filled with that kind of thoughts. He just happens to be an easy target as he must be a נשמה of שבט דן, or the goyishe equivalent, as he is a מאסף לכל המחנות, or in plain English a sanitation department employee, who collects every single piece of garbage he finds in the plethora of books written by the torah giants.  It is these ideas that I wish to set the record straight (or be convinced otherwise).