user: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

[Q]: For some context, I have a job in college with this other guy, let’s call him John. This job is relevant to the career field that we both want to get into. Getting into said career field is 99.99% about who you know. We both interned for this school job for 7 weeks and it was very intensive so we grew quite close, but had it not been for the internship, I wouldn’t really have anything to do with this guy (for this I’m definitely an ass hole, but I do stick by this guy now and I have his back 100%)

John is kind of “stuck in high school” in regard to his maturity level. He is very outgoing but also socially awkward, so it makes a weird mix. He’s desperate for attention, and he’s still a virgin and he’s obsessed with losing his virginity. I am also a virgin, and I have reassured him not to worry about it. I never bring it up with him and every time he brings it up with me (which is every time I see him, in some way he brings it up) I assure him that he’s getting worked up about nothing. He thinks that people need to laugh at everything he says so he try’s wording everything like a stand up skit, even when it’s very important to be serious, he is still joking. And a lot of the humor is self deprecating which I have already told him is unbecoming, but it’s the only way he gets any attention. He can’t whisper or keep a secret for his life either. He has 2 modes, this comedian mode, and his networking mode where is more serious, but it’s very ingenue.  

Would I be an ass if I brought up my concerns with him? 

TL;DR would I be an ass hole if I brought up my friend’s social awkwardness?
[A]: OTHER


[Q]: My mother and I live in a duplex across the street from an elementary school. We live directly in front of the parking lot for parent pickups. Street is one lane each way, but it’s wide enough for parents to make a “turn lane” and let neighborhood traffic through.

Neighborhood traffic *cannot* go through, however, if anyone is parked on the curb in front of our house. I frequently park there for three reasons:

1. My mother’s car is more valuable than mine. We mutually agree it belongs in the (1-car) garage.

2. She leaves for work before I do; sometimes even before I wake up. She often comes home later than I do. If I park in the driveway, I frequently need to move my car so she can get in/out.

3. There is generally not enough space for me to park farther back in the driveway and for her to snake through to the garage.

If I sense that I won’t need to move my car for whatever reason (maybe she’s riding with someone else), I park in the driveway. More often than not, I need to park in the street to avoid dropping whatever I’m doing to move my car.

NTA: Parking in the street is perfectly legal. If we lived literally anywhere else on this street, I wouldn’t be blocking traffic. I may be physically unable to move my car at times (napping, shitting, timed testing, etc) when my mother comes home. I make an effort to park in the driveway when I can and only in the street when it is explicitly more efficient (which happens to be more often). Neighborhood traffic can go around the school street by taking the street directly behind us.

YTA: We chose to live on a school street. Although it was once *my* elementary school, we’re living in prime space for schoolchildren and ethically we should yield to their traffic. I can get off my lazy ass most of the time and move my car out of the driveway; the needs of the many (neighborhood traffic) outweigh the needs of the few (me) and I shouldn’t use the legality as a crutch. The fact that it happens more often than not means I should find a proper solution; otherwise I could maybe get away with it “just this once”.

NAH: I’m in the right but traffic has the right to be upset at me (and leave upset notes on my car).

ESH: I could be doing my part but ultimately the street is ill-equipped for school traffic.

AITA? What do you guys have to add to some of the arguments I’ve already heard? Which do you side with?

**Note:** I’m not posting this to seek validation. I’ve already made my choices, asshole or not. I’m posting this to raise interesting questions to this sub, for the sake of fresh content.
[A]: EVERYBODY


[Q]: My wife was at a friends at the weekend and the friends husband got too drunk and told my wife about the incident on my stag weekend, 18 months ago, about us both being caught by a doorman taking coke in the toilet of a nightclub. (He conveniently left out the part about him taking drugs)

The doorman couldn’t have been nicer about it to be fair. Just told us to stop it and maybe move on to a different club if that’s what we came here to do. We left and nothing more was said. Guy even recommended a few other bars as we walked out.

The next day my wife’s giving me a lectures about irresponsible it was. She knows I’ve taken drugs socially in the past and never really cared. All I keep hearing is what it id been arrested and charged with possession, what if the bouncers has beaten me up, what if her family had found out about it...?

I’ve explained it was 18 months ago. Nothing bad happened. Nothing like that has happened since and I don’t plan on taking coke again because I’m now married with a kid and put my family before anything else. 

She’s dragging this on and on, and says I should have told her as soon and I got home and need to be 100% honest straight away about things like that. It makes her wonder what else I’ve not told her. (Which is nothing because I’m actually a fairly boring guy)

Am I the asshole for not telling straight away?  Which would have potentially cancelled my wedding going by how she’s reacted 18 months on. 
[A]:

assistant: NOBODY