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Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and a question asks if AUTHOR, NOBODY, EVERYBODY, or OTHER is wrong in the situation. Answer the question and classify your answers into yes or no.
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Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I've been friends with this guy for a few years now. Really close for the past year and we dated in the months leading up to his having to move away due to getting a new job in a different state. We decided to break up because he wasn't ready for long distance, but wanted to remain friends.
We texted almost incessantly that year up until a week after he left. We hung out together any spare moment we had. I was there for him through some really tough times involving people close to him and I can pretty confidently say that I was a great friend and girlfriend, even through times that he was especially shitty to me (I never took it to heart because of what he was going through). We'd said we'd keep in touch in various ways/be there for each other when he left. 
However the moment he started his new job he seems to have decided that he didn't have time for me. I had needed to call him a few times for what were necessary work continuity things (we had worked together and of course we chatted every time), but he started to sound annoyed with me for calling at all. He'd take entire days to respond to texts (I know he basically always has his phone glued to his hand). 
My last call to him was to keep him posted on some milestones I'd hit which he had previously asked to be kept posted on, and he started complaining he doesn't talk to even his really good friends that aren't immediately in his vicinity more than every 3-5 months unless he explicitly needs something. I took the hint and apologized, and it's been some time since we last spoke. 
Obviously, I hadn't expected to talk/text nearly as often, but to be told that he just wouldn't talk to me unless absolutely necessary was unexpected, abrupt, and hurtful.
I want to tell myself that transitioning to living in a new place is difficult/busy and maybe he just needs time, but it's painful to be shut out by someone you care about. 
We live in the digital age, and while I didn't expect a ton of communication, I didn't expect to be essentially ghosted by someone I considered my closest friend. It's not hard to text a person and I have many other people that I keep in touch intermittently with this way. 
Am I the asshole/in the wrong for having expected more from a friend?
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no


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Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : This is rather light compared to some of the super drama filled posts on this sub. If that’s what you’re here for, about face. 

Few days ago I had to get some routine maintenance done on my vehicle. It’s a higher end dealership, so there’s a nice waiting room/lounge area with TVs, charging stations, beverages and snacks. There were a couple unforeseen issues on my vehicle so I ended up being there for about 3 hours for what was supposed to be an oil change and tire rotation. 

About two hours into waiting there (I was alone in there for quite a while at this point) a salesman walked in a little girl and her younger brother, they both had tablets, they sat down and the salesman left. The girl was somewhere between 8-10, and the boy was probably 5 or 6. We were in there alone and I wanted to make them feel comfortable, so I started talking to them about the snow storm that was all over the TV. We’re in the southwest and they had never really seen snow so it started a good fun little conversation. Then the little boy started showing me his games on his tablet, and I was just entertaining them. 

We were really having a good time and about a half hour into it the little girl was telling me all about her family and her life. All totally normal stuff, but then she started to tell me about their house and how close it is to the school (she specifically told me about walking through the path behind the school taking a left and walking X houses down, etc.) and what time they do this, and I cut her off. I didn’t know her name I just said, “Sweetie, I’m sorry, but you really shouldn’t be telling me this stuff. I’m a nice man, and would never hurt you, but you don’t *know* that. You can’t tell these types of things to strangers.” 

It seemed like she understood, and shook her head yes, but then she totally shut down. It seemed like I almost scared her. Any attempts to talk to her from that point on were futile. It was sad because I was really having fun with them, could tell they were, and I wanted them to feel comfortable in this place alone with me. 

Side note: no one came to check on them, like once. In the entire hour I was there with them. Their grandparents were looking at getting a car, but no salesman came around to look for them or anything. That didn’t really seem right to me, but whatever. 

AITA for stopping this girl in the middle of her story and pointing out what she shouldn’t be telling me and why? Should I have let it go, knowing I’m obviously not going to do anything, and they’re not my kids so it’s not my responsibility to educate them on these things?
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yes


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Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have a few caring friends which I am very close with. I also have an eating disorder, I relapsed a few months ago. I've struggled with my ED on and off for years and I've grown comfortably uncomfortable with the cycle of relapsing and 'recovering'. It's my coping mechanism for stress and eventhough it isn't healthy, it sure is effective. Due to this and -mostly- other personal reasons I do not want to get help for my ED.

Because this is such a big part of my life, I have this urge to open up to my friends about it.  I also rather tell them myself than having them find out about it by themselves (they have no clue right now). My friends are genuinely kind and caring people that want the best for me. I know that they will worry about me if I tell them, especially if they see that I'm not doing anything to better the situation. 

Will telling them turn me into a toxic person? Am I just seeking attention? 
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assistant: yes