user: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

Ex Input:
I tried being nice and helping him though some shit but honestly he treated me like shit so I was done. But he invited me over and just played video games all night and didn’t let me play and ignored my advances on him, he cried saying his ex didn’t tell him happy birthday yet totally ignored my message, he insulted my friend in front of all his friends, he would get blackout drunk a few times a month, he would regularly ignore my messages, I was the last one to be invited to his New Years party, he would point out how oily I was and how much dandruff I have (I have complained to him about these issues I had), he wouldn’t wanna cuddle, and he always complained that I never showed him my true feelings yet he literally didn’t show me emotions. I guess I freaked him out when I tried to get too close so I detached. I didn’t invite him to go to places with me, he didn’t meet my family, he didn’t meet my friends really, I never said I love you and I never intentionally left shit at his place. I tried really hard to not come on strong once he told me I went too fast too quick... i invited him on my vacation because I had planned it already and was going alone and I sent him nudes on the trip and he just said “your booty white” and ignored the message, and then later on I came home at like five am and he fucked me and went to sleep and didn’t even say thanks for my present, ever. 


I said: 
So I’m unsure of how you felt pressured. 

I didn’t wanna Make you feel like shit so I hid my feels. My friends wouldn’t treat me this shitty ever. 
Veronica would never invite me over and get blackout and then play games all night or only invite me to an event she planned after I asked her about it. or be rude about my other friend in front of people I hardly know. And Honestly no one in my life who I know would ignore my birthday wish (I wanted to be the first so I told you on the eve and you ignored that text so I gave you space because you wanted to not be that emotionally involved) then come to me drunk and upset about someone else not telling them happy birthday. Like honestly what the fuck? Who the fuck does that. And then to be like oh this girl who I used to date is one of those people, but she’s too cool now for me and living in LA....? (So you probably would drop everything to be with her if you had the chance to... that’s greaaaaaat.... that’s why you’ve been wanting me to take it slow... slow enough to not be alone till she’s available?) Like honestly I feel bad for you and wanted to do what I could to make you happy but try and treat people who try to show they care about you right and don’t be a dick to them. It’s fucking depressing... I always was optimistic but you didn’t seem to appreciate that at the time. I don’t even think you really appreciate it now. You say you do but your actions don’t. 






He said: But one that I remember early on is you getting upset with me while you were in Hawaii for not really taking it that serious when you asked if I wanted to come join you (I literally asked if he wanted to go.... he said he couldn’t affford it and I said ok, i just thought it would be a fun thing but I understand... no pressure cause I know this is new, I’m just going alone so thought I’d ask). I made a joke about your tan line like the girl from the suntan bottle because I did not think I was insulting you but kinda being cute everyone has a tanline on their butt (I literally sent him a nude and he said “lol”) and you took great offense yo that and then when oh got back it was like super early and I did not think not freaking out you were back would be that big of a deal because we were going to hang out normal people times soon (he hardly talked to me, fucked me, went to sleep- I was gone for two weeks prior). I said I wanted you to tell me if I was doing things like that because I felt at that point I did not know what I was doing sometimes but maybe you were just more sensitive than I realized.

Then blackout drunk thing was bad (but more for me I just shouldnt be doing that stuff) but as you know people on drugs are not themselves and are very unaware of what they were doing then you played it cool at the time only to leave in the morning and the plan was to just necer talk to me or see me again ignore my calls (I answered his calls... ) and texts forcing me to go and try to get an explanation that could have been a little sign I cared ya know if you just ghosted me and I didn’t give a shit why would I go to your place I would have just been like cool now I don’t have to deal with it 
I am not an alcoholic but I do have issues sometimes with taking my drinking too far and I guess my actions during those times are going to be put under a microscope the most instead of how I am sober. That is fine I was shitty to you those times I got drunk and I am sorry but as someone who said they have dealt with drug issues in the past maybe you could have talked to me about it and how the actual drinking was bothering you and how I acted during states of drunkenness were not okay and I would have listened not just ditch me and make me have to go to your place for you to finally tell me. 

Sorry for being shitty I get the picture and I apologize. If you still just want to keep being mad and bring stuff up some more that is fine as well if it helps you out. And you can believe whatever you want to believe about me and my appreciation or feelings for you back then I know how I felt and that is fine again whatever helps you feel better. If you want to keep writing this stiff out I suggest doing it on a piece of paper or journal or something cuz me just responding and trying to make you not blame yourself is obviously riling you up and I am not responding anymore.

Sorry for everything you are a way better person than me so just take some comfort in the fact you don’t have to put up with my shit anymore.  Feel better, goodbye

Ex Output:
AUTHOR


Ex Input:
So a few weeks ago I met a girl on a dating app. We were talking a little bit and I asked her out and she said yes. She didnt really respond to my texts that much so I really didnt even get a chance to talk to her much.
When the day came around I messaged her again and asked if we were still on. She said she totally forgot and was busy but suggested another day to go out. Usually I follow the rule that if a girl cancels a date without suggesting another day, it means shes not interested but she did so I kept going. 
A few days later we were supposed to go out again and she texted me earlier in the day and said that she was busy and had tons of homework but again suggested another day.
Third times the charm right? Wrong. She cancels our date for the third time but says she feels super bad and says we can hang out the next day. 
The next day I'm trying to iron out the details of the date and she says that we should just meet on campus and have a "study date" in the middle of the afternoon. This doesnt sound super fun to me for a few reasons: 
1. I wouldnt actually be able to get to know her
2. I dont really study anyway
3. We study completely different things so it's not like we could help each other
Then she stopped responding before we could even pick a place to meet and stuff. At that point I just decided it wasnt worth it and gave up. 
The other day she texts me, mad for standing her up, AITA?

Ex Output:
EVERYBODY


Ex Input:
It happened a while ago but I found this sub so I wanted to ask. I rejected a girl(A) (almost ignored her. My bad) and asked out her best friend(B). She rejected me and didnt even tell her(A) that I made a move to her(B) - which is funny considering that their groupies share everything. 

Now that I think of it looks like it was to not hurt her(A) feelings.

 Am I the asshole for not considering her(A) feelings and their(A and B) friendship?

Ex Output:


assistant: OTHER