user: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).

Background:

I made these 2 friends (let's call them Brenda and Hope) when I was in a mental health group.Brenda and Hope knew I had no money because I had told them about the struggles of being on disability. 

We started to go out for coffee weekly, either Brenda or Hope paying for everyone. Hope had come over a few times, two times paying for pizza was her idea (I didn't even ask for pizza, she wanted to share with with my roommate and I), Hope called me up wanting to end her life and to meet at a restaurant for a meal (I dropped literally everything after a day of full classes to make sure she was ok) and was with her the whole time she was in the waiting room and ER (she paid for coffee and food there too), I asked her for deodorant because I had none (which I agreed to pay her back for), and we went out to one other meal so we could stay warm.

She also offered me a bag of skin/hair care products because she is allergic to them. She said if I don't take them she would throw them out.

So, Brenda messages me after we went out for coffee one day and said that she can't keep paying for me and that we all would have coffee again when I could afford my own. I was upset because I was actually getting out of the house and socializing, but I understood. This was kinda the start of Hope not speaking to me.

This month Hope messaged Brenda in a group chat I was in and mentioned that they were going out for coffee and I got super upset because I had tried to make it work where they could come over and I would make coffee n such. I got told no by both of them. Hope then says that she feels that I took advantage of her.

I figured that I owed Hope $350 for everything she paid for and gave me, which she agreed to. Tonight I told her I would start paying her back when I could afford to.

Keep in mind that 97% of the money I got this month from student loans and rental supplement went to rent. I got a whole $13 from disability. 

Hope said that I owed her $450 before the products she gave me and she was being generous with that figure. When I asked her to explain how I owed that much money, she backed down and said that I only owed her $350. I actually wanted to total it up so I started to list everything. She included literally every interaction we ever had. I only got to about $300 before she started to guilt trip me. I caved and said that with all the products I would make it an even $1,000. I knew that she would start to demand I pay her for the products she gave me. Keep in mind that these are used products, almost all of them are half filled.

Hope started to demand that I pay her in one lump sum. I told her that I would start paying her back in 6 months, after I get out of the hole with my bills. I explained that if I don't pay my bills that I won't have a phone, internet, or a place to live. She still demanded that I pay her in a lump sum.

AITA?
OTHER

A few months ago i asked to get guitar lessons to my mum and she said yes, as long as I practice (which I do). Now she wants me to play in front of her, and I don’t want to because if I mess up I will get all embarrassed and stuff, she says that because she’s paying I have to show her what I know. 
NOBODY

(English isn’t my first language so excuse and grammar mistakes)

So, a bit of backstory. I have a condition called Misophonia which translates to a ‘hatred of sound’. Basically, certain sounds that may sound normal to other people like the sound of typing on the computer, eating, and snapping your fingers trigger an extreme reaction from me. I get extremely angry or if it’s really bad I can get a panic attack. My two worst triggers are any sounds that come from the mouth like chewing, swallowing and whatever and the sound of typing on your phone and phone notifications. (My whole family knows this btw). When I know I will get triggered I wear ear plugs or headphones to cancel out the sound (like when I’m eating with people or in a classroom) but the thing with phone notifications is that they are random, which means I can’t prepare for that they are going to happen. The worst thing is that both my mom and my step dad have to sue their work phones a lot and tend to have their notifications on very loud. I get that they have to use them for work but if they just carry their phones around in their pockets on vibrations it should be ok right? 

The worst thing is that they don’t really understand how Misophonia works, I can’t really help when I get angry and it doesn’t help that they get really angry at me back. All of this is pretty recent for me and I don’t know how to deal with it yet, though I am trying my very best. I’ve tried telling them what triggers me but they only pay attention to the chewing trigger and ignore everything else which in turn I feel make them worse. 

So yeah, would I be the asshole?
Thanks!


assistant: NOBODY