user: Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

Example Input: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Three-ish years ago I got pregnant due to BC failure, but and we decided to keep the baby. However, husband basically stopped doing any childcare a few months into her life. In addition, despite knowing how hard childcare is to get into, he was somehow surprised that I ended up having to stay at home. He made up an impossible budget and wouldn't give me access to a shared bank account so I had to use up my savings for basics like food and diapers.

 

 I finally got a job a some months ago. I'm hourly but work full-time, I commute 3 hours total a day, do all daycare drop offs and pickups, doctor's appointments, housework, shopping, etc. He barely comes home, let alone do anything around the house (when daughter looks at pictures on my phone, she doesn't even know who he is). If daughter is sick or her daycare is closed, he refuses to take off, so I use up my paid days quickly and usually end up not getting paid a couple days/month. His only contribution is paying for rent/utilities and some living expenses.

 

We agreed that I would save up to move out. I told him it might take a while because I had to replace some things around the house he refused to pay for, and I wanted to save up quite a bit. I will have full custody, and I have my doubts I will see CS from him. I also don't have much of a support network here so I want to save up as much money as possible as a buffer. I'm not sure when I will be able to move out but I'm hoping to be out in 6, maybe 8 months maximum. I also asked if he wanted me to pay some rent and he said no.

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I replaced my broken computer last month (used, for quite cheap) and when he saw it, he snidely said he \*thought\* I was supposed to be saving (I was), but obviously I wasn't since I had money for a new computer. He said it was strange that a family with two working adults didn't split expenses and demanded I pay right there. I told him that families with two working adults also split household/childcare duties, and since that wasn't the case, I wasn't going to pay any until he stepped it up. He did not, so I have not paid any rent to him.

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Am I the asshole for refusing to pay?
Example Output: no

Example Input: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I (30F) have been in a relationship with my partner (30M) for almost 2.5 years, and he is more introverted than I am. When we lived apart, accommodating for his solo time was easier. If I'd go to his place after work, then he would go upstairs and chill on his own for a bit to recombobulate and then come back downstairs. On weekends, we'd hang out for a while but he'd get his solo time on weeknights when I wasn't there and on weekend mornings when I wouldn't be around. He told me then that he appreciated me accommodating his need for solo time. 
We've been living together now for almost 6-months and we've had the same discussion 4 times and I can't for the life of me figure out if I am at fault or if he needs to be more vocal about needing his solo time, now that we share the same space. It is a two-bedroom space with his computer in the 2nd bedroom; I try to not bother him in there because that is generally his "resetting" space. The conversation that we've had a few times now is that he needs his solo time and he doesn't feel like he is getting it. The issue is, he never tells me at the time, that he needs his solo time. I think it's been every two months now, he'll address the issue in a conversation, which is great, but he has almost never asks for solo time in the moment. I'm really struggling to deal with this since its the forth time we've addressed it. He hasn't let me know many particular ways I am impacting his solo time, aside from that we go to bed earlier than he normally would or we hang out more lazily on weekend mornings. He's been accommodating to what he thinks my needs are (lazily hanging out more than he would prefer), while I feel like I'm able to accommodate to him, he is just not communicating that he needs time in the moment. From my perspective, he needs to make behavioural changes like just getting out of bed, or not coming to bed with me, but he hasn't done these in the past.

I don't know how to adjust my behaviour right now so am looking for advice too. Since this is the 4th time we've discussed this, I'm almost at my wits end and don't know what to do anymore. I have told him in other discussions that he needs to be more vocal about when he needs solo time. My approach now is, should I just try to accommodate for him if he will not let me know when he needs his solo time? This I am also struggling with though, because obviously it is situational. So I think; "okay, from now on, I won't do xxx", or "from now on, I'll just stay away from the house for longer periods of time after work". But, I don't particularly want to loiter somewhere instead of coming, when I wish he would just say, I need my solo time and I will be staying up later solo etc. 

I feel like each time we have this conversation I have failed. I can't really hid my true feelings so he knows something is off with me. I don't know if this is a similar scenario to people with depression as well though. I've also been wondering if it's one of those: if you're depressed, people will say just let people know and they will help you! But since you're depressed you really don't have the capacity to reach out to others. Am I failing my introverted partner by asking him to let me know when he needs his solo time?

TLDR: Have lived with introverted boyfriend for 6 months and we continue to have the same discussion that he is not getting his solo time. He has never mentioned it in the moment that he needs to "retreat" but I have now explicitly asked him to do so and I don't know if this is a bad approach. 
Example Output: yes

Example Input: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Here’s a little background: we’ve been doing long distance since I met him on vacation in Europe (I’m in the US) a few months ago. Since meeting, we both have already taken turns visiting each other— I came to him around the holidays, he came after the new year— and everything was great. We made tons of amazing memories, and I was very happy.

The day that he left, we found out that his grandma was in the hospital. I asked him if he wanted to talk about it but he said no and that he wanted to enjoy his last hours with me before he left. And they were wonderful— peaceful moments, with him saying that his biggest takeaway from the trip was that he loved me more than he had thought possible. Needless to say, I swooned.

After he landed, he texted me saying that his grandma had passed while he was on the plane. He expressed frustration that despite trying to turn his life around (he’d had some interesting decisions in his life) and after taking an amazing and much needed vacation to visit me, it felt like this was a huge slap in the face. I told him to please message me or call me if there was anything I could do for him, and he said he was going to spend the rest of the day with his family so don’t expect too much from him. I told him of course, and we exchanged I love yous.

And then I didn’t hear from him for over a week.

I would message him from time to time with some things I thought were interesting or funny, and call him once every day or two to check to see if he would respond. He didn’t check any of my messages, didn’t answer any of my calls, and according to Facebook messenger (our main mode of communication) wasn’t active for about a week, and after that it registered activity a few times but he never bothered to open my messages to him. I checked in with a couple of his friends and they said they hadn’t heard from him, either. I even emailed him pleading with him to at least let me know if he’s safe.

Eventually, I got fed up with it. I was upset and I felt abandoned. I understand that losing a family member is hard and traumatic— I’ve lost two grandparents; one to cancer and one to prolonged health issues— but I was sick and tired of not being able to even know if he’s safe. In my mind, it didn’t make any sense: he had told me before that he would never disappear on me for an extended period of time, and ignoring people you love who are trying to confirm your safety just doesn’t make any sense to me.

I don’t understand how someone who loves me could decide it’s okay to not check in over the course of a week and a half, especially when it only takes thirty seconds to open up your phone and text, “Hey, I need some space, please stop calling for a bit”. In a relationship, I feel like I should be entitled to at least that much.

So I broke up with him. Except, of course, he hadn’t responded to me at all so I sent it by text (and email, just in case).

Anyway, I’ve been feeling guilty because I know it’s a stressful situation for him— he wasn’t able to be at his grandma’s side, and I know he was frustrated about it— and I don’t want to make it worse, but at the same time I don’t want to tolerate being ignored for almost two weeks by someone who says they love me. So the million dollar question is: am I the asshole?
Example Output:

assistant: yes