Title: Shanda
Subtitle: The Making and Breaking of a Self-Loathing Jew
First published: August 17, 2004
Description: "Early in his memoir, Neal Karlen tells a rabbi, "I love Judaism. It's Jews I can't stand."" "What he means is that he hates the parochialism and material trappings of the young Jews he knows: Their new temples are gilded and the parking lots spill over with luxury cars. Religion for them is a quest for a Jewish wife from "the right" family and a big house and splendid clothes. Gone is the soulful practice of tradition that his grandparents brought over from Russia. Karlen sees communities from New York to Los Angeles of Jewish status seekers and he can't stand the thought of being identified as one of them." "Frustrated and embarrassed, Karlen stops looking for the Jewish enclave that fits him and, for the next ten years, simply rejects Judaism. He antagonizes rabbis. He becomes the token Jew among his Mid-western friends and the buffoon at cocktail parties with a shtick of Jewish jokes and imitations that cross the line. And then one day, Karlen goes too far: he marries a blue-eyed Protestant from a family with an anti-Semitic bent. The marriage is doomed." "At midlife Karlen discovers that he belongs nowhere and that the Jew he really hates is himself. He is a shanda - a shame." "Shanda is Karlen's story of finding his way back to Judaism - and the Jewish community. His guide is an unlikely one: Rabbi Manis Friedman, the renowned Hasidic scholar with a beard to his chest and a fedora that makes him look like "Sam Spade about to go out in the rain." The rabbi invites Karlen to study with him. In their weekly meetings devoted to scholarship and Jewish ritual, Karlen asks the questions that assimilated Jews grapple with, such as "How do we bring meaning to the practice of Judaism?" "Where is the line between Jewish and too Jewish?" and "What does it mean to be Jewish-American and ashamed by Judaism?" Rabbi Friedman leads Karlen up the mountain to find these answers - and shows both author and reader the view from the top."--BOOK JACKET.
Subjects: Biography, Jews, Judaism, Jewish journalists, Self-hate (Psychology), Habad, Religion, Religious aspects of Self-acceptance, Self-acceptance, Return to Orthodox Judaism, Journalists, Religious aspects
Places: Minnesota
People: Manis Friedman, Neal Karlen