The ugly wife is a treasure at home
Subtitle: true stories of love and marriage in communist China
By: Melissa Margaret Schneider
Publisher: Potomac Books Inc.
Published: 2014
Language: eng
Number of pages: 288
ISBN-13: 9781612346946
Subjects: Social life and customs; History; Mate selection; Marriage; Sex
Description: For centuries, Chinese marriage involved matchmakers, child brides, dowries, and concubines, until the People's Republic of China was established by Mao Zedong and his Communist Party in 1949. Initially encouraging citizens to reject traditional arranged marriages and instead wed for love, the party soon spurned "the sin of putting love first," fearful that romantic love would distract good Communists from selflessly carrying out the State's agenda. Under Mao the Party established the power to approve or reject proposed marriages, dictate where couples would live, and even determine if spouses would live together. By the 1960s and 1970s romantic love became a counterrevolutionary act punishable by "struggle sessions" or even imprisonment. The importance of Chinese sons, however, did not wane during Mao's thirty-year regime. As such, in a world where nobody spoke of love, 99 percent of young women still married. The Ugly Wife Is a Treasure at Home draws the reader into the world of love in Communist China through the personal memories of those who endured the Cultural Revolution and the generations that followed. This collection of intimate and remarkable stories gives readers a rare view of Chinese history, social customs, and Communism from the perspective of today's ordinary citizens.
Notes: Includes bibliographical references.
Table of contents: title: Introduction : Who wants an ugly wife?; title: Prologue : Rooster weddings, second wives, and little feet / Chang Xing; title: The 1950s generation : when love didn't exist. Love after revolution / Jack Chou ; We didn't know what love was / Lucy Lai ; The three wives of a former (teenage) intelligence operative / Tom Liu ; The first group wedding in Zhengzhou / Ma Yajing ; The "old hand" man / Mr. Yang; title: The 1960s generation : forbid the early love. Marriage is nothing special / Ziu Shouhe and Lin Chunjiao ; Wearing white for Chairman Mao / Xu Kiwi ; The boy with the baby-raise-wife / Liu Wumin ; My reasons for hating my father / Wen "Ayi" ; A good fortune-teller and three tips for concealing your outside woman / Mr. Zhang and Mr. Wu ; You know your boyfriend is married if... / "Big Carol"; title: The 1970s generation : sex and love...or marriage? My lover's name is Sam / Fangfei ; For one tree, do not sacrifice the forest / Ming-Ming ; Shenzhen marriage park : want ads of last resort / Jason ; The ultimate perfect happiness as a stay-at-home mom / Sally ; A man who could speak his own name / Chou Xiao; title: The 1980s generation : reform and opening up of the heart. Girls / Ben Wang ; Six times love / Pan Shanshan ; Everyone knows that a girl shouldn't like a girl / Riley ; A wife of noble character, who can find? / Lightly Chanchan ; A tale of two sisters : arranged marriages and secret boyfriends / Lingyu ; She cut out my chicken eyes / Licai; title: The 1990s generation : unguided love. The Buddhist oracle said "no boyfriends" / Carrie ; I thought we would be together forever / Ethan Li Mingwen ; I thought to myself / Yu Lihe ; A conventional man / Will Guo Pingyou ; There are three kinds of Chinese parents / Emma Yang Xichi and Peony Li Dandan.