Relationships
Published: 2016
Language: eng
Number of pages: 119
ISBN-13: 9780993538742
Copyright date: 2016
Subjects: Interpersonal relations; Love
Description: "Love has a history and we ride--sometimes rather helplessly--on its currents. Since around 1750, we have been living in a highly distinctive era in the history of love that we can call Romanticism. And it has been a disaster for love. Relationships challenges the assumptions of the Romantic view of love. It shows how to develop new attitudes that can lead to a psychologically mature vision of love: that it is ok that love and sex may not always belong together; that discussing money early on, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love; that realising that we are rather flawed, and our partner is too, is of huge benefit to a couple; that we will never find everything we need in another person, nor they in us; that spending two hours discussing whether bathroom towels should be hung up or can be left on the floor has its own dignity. Full of applied real-life examples, and enlivened throughout with humour and cultural anecdote, this innovative guide paves the way to a new, brighter future for love"--
Table of contents: title: Post-romanticism; title: Object choice; title: Transference; title: The problems of closeness; title: The weakness of strength; title: Partner-as-child; title: Loving and being loved; title: The dignity of ironing; title: Teaching and learning; title: Pessimism; title: Blame and love; title: Politeness and secrets; title: Explaining one's madness; title: Artificial conversations; title: Crushes; title: Sexual non-liberation; title: The loyalist and the libertine; title: Celibacy and endings; title: Classical vs romantic; title: Better love stories.