It takes one to tango
Subtitle: how I rescued my marriage with (almost) no help from my spouse - and how you can, too
By: Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT
Edition: First Touchstone hardcover edition.
Publisher: Touchstone
Published: 2017
Language: eng
Number of pages: 261
ISBN-13: 9781501125829
Copyright date: 2017
Subjects: Spouses; Psychology; Change (Psychology); Interpersonal conflict; Interpersonal relations; Marriage; Psychological aspects; Marital quality
Description: With a focus on self-empowerment and resilience, this refreshing and witty relationship guide has a reassuring counterintuitive message for unhappy spouses: you only need one partner to initiate far-reaching positive change in a marriage. Conventional wisdom says that "it takes two" to turn a troubled marriage around and that both partners must have a shared commitment to change. So when couples can't agree on how or whether to make their marriage better, many give up or settle for a less-than-satisfying marriage (or think the only way out is divorce). Fortunately, there is an alternative. It Takes One to Tango is a groundbreaking guide that shows how one determined partner acting alone can spark lasting, significant change in a marriage, often accomplishing change that cannot be made any other way. It doesn't matter how short-fused, argumentative, or seemingly impossible your partner can be or how long you've been stuck. Marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly has this message for struggling partners: Take the lead. Doing so is effective and powerful. Through Reilly's own story of reclaiming her now nearly forty-year marriage, along with anecdotes from many clients she's worked with, you'll learn how to: -Focus on your own behaviors and change them in ways that make you feel good about yourself and your marriage -Take a firm stand for what truly matters to you without arguing, cajoling, or resorting to threats -Identify the "big picture" issues at the basis of your repetitive fights and learn how to unhook from them -Be less reactive, especially in the face of your spouse's provocations -Develop the strength and stamina to be the sole agent of change Combining psychological theory, practical advice, and personal narrative, It Takes One to Tango is a fresh and engaging guide that will empower those who choose to take a bold, proactive approach to creating a loving and lasting marriage.
Notes: Includes bibliographical references (pages 257-260).