Being there
Subtitle: why prioritizing motherhood in the first three years matters
By: Erica Komisar, LCSW with Sydny Miner
Publisher: TarcherPerigee
Published: 2017
Language: eng
Number of pages: 271
ISBN-13: 9780143109297
Subjects: Development; Motherhood; Infants; Parenting; Toddlers
Description: "In this important and conversation-starting book, veteran psychoanalyst Erica Komisar offers a provocative and compelling premise: a mother's emotional and physical presence in her child's life--especially during the first three years--means that her child has a greater chance of growing up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and resilient. When that essential presence goes missing, the child is at higher risk for social, emotional, and developmental issues, both immediate and long term. Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional health and well-being of children as well as that of the mothers who care for them, this book shows mothers and fathers how to give their children the best chance for developing into healthy and loving adults. Based on more than two decades of clinical work, established psychoanalytic theory, and the most current and cutting-edge neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment, and brain development, the book explains: - How to establish emotional connection with a newborn or young child--regardless of whether you're able to pause your career to stay home - How to select and train quality childcare if necessary--and how to ease transitions and minimize stress for your baby or toddler - What's true and false about widely held beliefs like "Babies are resilient" and how to combat feelings of post-partum depression or boredom - Why three months of maternity leave is not long enough--and how women and their partners can take control of their choices to provide for their family's emotional needs in the first three years"--
Notes: Includes bibliographical references (pages 235-257) and index.
Table of contents: title: Part 1. A mother's presence.  More is more; title: Debunking the myths of modern motherhood : making better choices; title: What does it mean to be a present mother?; title: Presence 101 : being present and engaged to meet your baby's needs; title: Making it better : strengthening and repairing the mother-child bond; title: When you can't be there : the benefits and challenges of surrogate caregiving; title: Part 2. The costs of being absent.  Understanding the costs of being absent; title: When mothers turn away : postpartum depression and the legacy of absence; title: Part 3. Changing the conversation.  Why don't we value mothering?; title: Where do we go from here? : making the needs of families a priority.