How You Can Talk To Anyone Never Be Lost For Words
Publisher: McGraw-Hill
Published: 2011
Language: eng
Number of pages: 274
ISBN-13: 9781444137248
Description: Tongue-tied at parties? Shy on dates? Dreading the next 'networking' event? Tackle your inner critic and find self-assurance with this empathetic and practical guide to overcoming your social pariah status and learning to make small talk that could seal your success at work, at home or in romantic situations. With an opening chapter on how to simply feel more confident about your ability to charm and impress, this book is packed with psychological insight and advice and, more importantly, with strategies for being charming in any social situation. From parties to work outings, it gives opening lines and practical advice on things like body language - and will even help you cope with the difficult times, when tackling conflict or facing an argument. You will learn to love the prospect of a dinner party with even the most challenging guests, and never be lost for words again.
Table of contents: title: Introduction
pagenum: xi; label: 1
title: Tongue-tied and terrified
pagenum: 1; title: You are not alone!
pagenum: 2; title: A common social phobia
pagenum: 3; title: Just butterflies
pagenum: 4; title: What is it that you are really afraid of?
pagenum: 5; title: Anticipatory anxiety
pagenum: 6; title: Which psychological model?
pagenum: 7; title: Not one key but a whole bunch
pagenum: 8; title: Summary
pagenum: 18; label: 2
title: Shyness
pagenum: 19; title: What is shyness?
pagenum: 20; title: How common is it?
pagenum: 21; title: Is it a disorder?
pagenum: 22; title: The causes of shyness
pagenum: 23; title: Introversion and extraversion
pagenum: 25; title: Disadvantages of shyness
pagenum: 25; title: Advantages of shyness
pagenum: 27; label: 3
title: Silence your inner critic
pagenum: 29; title: What some psychologists said about talking
pagenum: 29; title: The psychology of selves
pagenum: 32; title: The inner critic
pagenum: 33; title: Silencing your inner critic
pagenum: 35; title: Making your critic work for you
pagenum: 37; label: 4
title: Hesitation and stammering
pagenum: 44; title: Hesitation
pagenum: 45; title: Stammering
pagenum: 46; title: A mixture of mechanics and emotion
pagenum: 49; title: The 'Life Cycle' and how to put things in perspective
pagenum: 53; title: Stammer more easily or speak more fluently
pagenum: 57; label: 5
title: Appreciate your voice
pagenum: 59; title: Why you should learn to like your own voice
pagenum: 60; title: Distinctive voices
pagenum: 62; title: Change your tone at will
pagenum: 64; title: Voice problems
pagenum: 67; title: Protect your voice
pagenum: 68; label: 6
title: Small talk matters
pagenum: 72; title: Make time for pleasantries
pagenum: 72; title: Opening lines or opening gambits
pagenum: 74; title: Appropriateness and crossing boundaries
pagenum: 80; title: Building rapport with NLP
pagenum: 81; title: Openers should be open
pagenum: 84; title: Now you are talking
pagenum: 85; title: Closing down
pagenum: 86; title: To summarize ...
pagenum: 86; label: 7
title: How you look, act and say
pagenum: 88; title: The eyes say a lot
pagenum: 89; title: The 3-Vs - verbal, vocal and visual content
pagenum: 93; title: Body language
pagenum: 94; title: How you say things
pagenum: 105; title: Practice makes perfect (or almost)
pagenum: 107; label: 8
title: Dinner parties
pagenum: 109; title: Preparing for the dinner party
pagenum: 110; title: Your role as a guest
pagenum: 113; title: Dinner party etiquette
pagenum: 114; label: 9
title: Mingling
pagenum: 121; title: When you enter a crowded room what do you do?
pagenum: 122; title: Personal space and proxemics
pagenum: 124; title: The art of mingling
pagenum: 129; title: Breaking into a clique
pagenum: 130; label: 10
title: Flirtation
pagenum: 132; title: An innate behaviour
pagenum: 133; title: Love chemistry
pagenum: 135; title: Courting behaviour
pagenum: 136; title: The five phases of courtship
pagenum: 137; title: Asking someone out
pagenum: 142; title: The date
pagenum: 144; title: Pillow talk
pagenum: 146; label: 11
title: It's how you tell them
pagenum: 147; title: ACT
pagenum: 148; title: Observe and listen to comedians
pagenum: 151; title: Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the funniest of them all?
pagenum: 152; title: Types of jokes you may try
pagenum: 154; label: 12
title: Winning arguments
pagenum: 157; title: What do we mean by argument?
pagenum: 157; title: The art of persuasion
pagenum: 158; title: The structure of an argument
pagenum: 161; label: 13
title: Presentations
pagenum: 167; title: Don't compare yourself with others
pagenum: 167; title: But if you do compare yourself with others ...
pagenum: 169; title: Know your subject
pagenum: 170; title: Prepare your subject
pagenum: 170; title: Good planning
pagenum: 173; title: Script and rehearsal
pagenum: 180; title: Body language
pagenum: 183; title: Visual aids
pagenum: 184; label: 14
title: Making a speech
pagenum: 186; title: Could you just say a few words?
pagenum: 187; title: Wedding speeches
pagenum: 190; title: Divorce speeches
pagenum: 194; title: Funeral oration
pagenum: 197; title: Persuasive speech
pagenum: 199; title: After-dinner speaking
pagenum: 201; title: Saying thank you
pagenum: 204; label: 15
title: Be assertive in conflict
pagenum: 206; title: Wimp, warrior or wizard?
pagenum: 206; title: The PEA strategy
pagenum: 214; label: 16
title: Interviews
pagenum: 219; title: Your curriculum vitae
pagenum: 220; title: Self-esteem
pagenum: 222; title: Preparing for the interview
pagenum: 222; title: The result
pagenum: 229; label: 17
title: Talking to authority
pagenum: 230; title: Jungian archetypes
pagenum: 231; title: Dealing with bullies
pagenum: 236; title: When people raise their voices
pagenum: 239; label: 18
title: Don't shoot the messenger
pagenum: 241; title: Bringing bad news
pagenum: 241; title: Expressing sympathy
pagenum: 243; title: Whistle-blowing
pagenum: 244; label: 19
title: There is a call for you
pagenum: 246; title: What are you afraid of?
pagenum: 246; title: Learning to love the telephone
pagenum: 247; label: 20
title: Don't quote me - talking to the media
pagenum: 254; title: Does it fill you with terror?
pagenum: 255; title: Giving a newspaper interview
pagenum: 256; title: Radio interviews
pagenum: 257; title: Television
pagenum: 259; label: 21
title: Afterwords - keep talking!
pagenum: 264; title: Practice changes the way the brain works
pagenum: 265; title: Bibliography
pagenum: 267; title: Index
pagenum: 268