Ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives
By: Laura C. Schlessinger.
Edition: 1st ed.
Publisher: Villard Books
Published: 1994
Place of publication: New York
Language: eng
Number of pages: 232
Subjects: Man-woman relationships; Women -- Psychology
Description: Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the incredibly popular and controversial psychotherapist who hosts a nationally syndicated, top-rated midday radio talk show. She has strong convictions and doesn't hesitate to voice them to callers. She urges women emphatically to lose a domineering jerk of a lover and pick one of the "good guys," to stay home and parent the babies they've made, and to follow the dream rather than some dreamboat. Above all, she exhorts women not to blame anybody or anything but themselves if they're unhappy and their lives seem a mess.

10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives uses real-world examples from Schlessinger's radio show and private practice to drive the message home. And the message is that our reticence to be bold and brave often makes us act like stupid, submissive victims. Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless.

If you're looking for an all-approving hand to hold, you won't find it here. If you're prepared to take a clear-eyed look at your self-diminishing behavior and to make the move to a quality existence, there's no one better than Schlessinger to keep you honest and to cheer you on. One thing's for sure: You'll never look at your relationships, behaviors and decisions the same way after you've finished reading this book.
Table of contents: title: Preface .................................................................................................. vii; title: Acknowledgments  ..................................................................................... ix; title: Introduction  ............................................................................................ xvii; title: 1. Stupid Attachment: Is a Woman Just a Wo- Wo- Wo- on a Man? You typically look to the context of a man to find and define yourself  ................................................................ 3; title: 2. Stupid Courtship: “I Finally Found Someone I Could Attach To” and Other Stupid Ideas About Dating. Desperate to have a man, you become a beggar, not a chooser, in the dating ritual. 21; title: 3. Stupid Devotion: “But I Love Him” and More Stupid Romantic Stuff. You find yourself driven to love and suffer and succor (or do you spell that “sucker”?) in vain.  ........................... 46; title: 4. Stupid Passion: “Ohhh, Ahhh, We’re Breathing Hard.... It Must Mean Love.” You have sex too soon, too romantically, and set yourselfup to be burned.  ......................................... 70; title: 5. Stupid Cohabitation: The Ultimate Female Self-Delusion. So stop lying to yourself! You re not living with him because you love him. You with him because you hope he’ll want you! ...... 91; title: 6. Stupid Expectations: First You Commit to Him, Then You Hate Him!? Using marriage as a quick fix; title: for low or no self-esteem.  ............................................................................... 110; title: 7. Stupid Conception: Making Babies for the Worst Reasons. Misguidedly, you use biology as a jump start for love, personal growth, and commitment.  .................................................. 133; title: 8. Stupid Subjugation: Letting Him Hurt Your Babies. You and your children are held hostage to your own obsessive needfor security and attachment.  .................................................... 155; title: 9. Stupid Helplessness: “Oh, I Always Whine and Whimper When I’m Angry.” Too scared and insecure to deal with your rage, you turn it into wimpishness.  .................................... 174; title: 10. Stupid Forgiving: “I Know He’s Adulterous, Addicted, Controlling, Insensitive, and Violent.. .; title: But Other Than That. ...” You don’t know when to break off a no-win relationship, or how not to get involved in the first place.  ........................................................................... 197; title: Epilogue: The Birth of the Smarts  ....................................................................... 223; title: Referrals  ..................................................................................................... 227