When our grown kids disappoint us
Subtitle: letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives
By: Jane Adams
Publisher: Free Press
Published: 2003
Place of publication: New York
Language: eng
Number of pages: 206
ISBN-13: 9780743232807
Subjects: Family relationships; Adult children; Parent and adult child
Notes: Includes index.

Includes bibliographical references (p. [199]-200) and index.
Table of contents: title: May I Talk to You Privately?; title: Whose Story Is This?; title: When Bad Things Happen to Good Parents; title: Our Dirty Little Secret; title: The Elephant in the Parlor; title: The Kids Are All Right and Other Lies Parents Tell About Their Grown Children; title: The Most Privileged Generation in History; title: Except Theirs; title: Great Expectations: Ours or Theirs; title: Who's in Trouble Here?; title: Making Them Happy Is Not Up to Us; title: But Can We Be Happy If They're Not?; title: We're Waiting ... and Waiting ... and Waiting; title: When We Were Their Age; title: Prolonging the Search for Identity; title: Or Just Avoiding It?; title: Excuse Us, But We're Having an Identity Crisis, Too; title: Our Other Unfinished Task; title: Two Kinds of Parents, Same Kind of Kids; title: In Whose Good Time?; title: Addicted, Depressed, and Dependent: A Detour or a Final Destination?; title: Whose Fault Is It, Anyway?; title: The Two Myths of Parenthood; title: "I'll Never Make the Mistakes My Parents Made"; title: Wrestling Guilt to the Ground; title: The Echo of Our Childhoods; title: Regret Is Guilt Without the Neurosis; title: Why Wasn't I Listening?; title: When the Writing's on the Wall; title: Good Enough Is the Best We Can Do; title: They're Ba-a-a-ck!; title: The Never-Empty Nest; title: Out of Time and Out of Patience; title: Sparing the Help vs. Spoiling the Child; title: Lives Without Guideposts; title: Leaving No Forwarding Address; title: The Challenge of Independence; title: Strangled by Our Purse Strings; title: "Why Should They Wait Till We're Dead?"; title: Codependent on Dr. Spock; title: Parents Who Give Too Much; title: Maybe We Shouldn't Have Inhaled; title: The Perils of Nostalgia; title: It's Not the Age of Aquarius Any Longer; title: Is It a Symptom or a Disease?; title: Family Day at Rehab; title: Staying Out of Their Program; title: Doing the Wrong Thing; title: The Limits of Love; title: Paying a Different Kind of Attention; title: Denying the Undeniable; title: The Real Truth About Gay Pride; title: Following the Pied Piper; title: An Alternative to What?; title: Who Are the Victims Here?; title: Forgiving the Unforgivable; title: Separating from Their Problems Without Separating from Them; title: The Key to Our Survival; title: Thank You for Sharing; title: Marriages Under Fire; title: Blurred Boundaries, Loving Limits; title: But What About the Grandchildren?; title: Phantom Guilt and Other Crimes of the Heart; title: Reinventing Our Lives: The Challenge of Postparenthood; title: Reinvigorating the Postparenthood Marriage; title: New Wine in Old Bottles; title: Different Times, Different Agendas; title: Shuffling the Deck for a New Deal.