### offender:

Abuser
* Many abusers experience uncontrollable anger when they are hurt or afraid
  - first use mental or emotional tactics before they become physically abusive
* Many abusers have a rigid, traditional view of sex roles and parenting
  - problems dealing with stress
  - hurt unborn children
  - never change, just as some alcoholics die alcoholics
  - truly believe their abusive behaviors have been caused by their partners
  - use violence to express the frustrations and hopelessness that come from depression
* Most abusers are emotionally dependant people
  - relatives, friends, neighbors, or people that the child knows socially
* Most abusers become more abusive with time
  - violent over time, and beatings tend to become more frequent and severe
* Some abusers are able to take advantage of a child who is already isolated
  - harass or stalk their partners at their place of employment
* Some abusers have access to children through work or outside volunteer services
  - problems with alcohol or drug abuse
  - show excess interest in children
* also harm animals to punish their partners for leaving, or trying to
  - snort heroin to avoid problems with needles
* are accountable to society for any violation of laws against spouse abuse
  - addicted to violence
  - controllers who seek to isolate and overpower their victims
  - generally unpleasant or angry people
* are often a person the child respects as an authority source
  - married and have children of their own
  - survivors of abuse themselves
  - people who use alcohol to become intoxicated
  - rich, poor, educated, dropouts, professional, unemployed and people of all races
  - violent in all their relationships
  - wrongdoers
* associate with other abusers.
* believe they have the right to use abuse to control their victims.
* can be homosexual or heterosexual
  - male, female and even children
  - use words, actions and emotions to get what they want
* cause trauma.
* come from all walks of life.
* come in all shapes and sizes
  - many shapes and forms
* is an offender
  - violent in all relationships
* isolate victims from family, friends, and other support systems.
* often abuse the children, whether it is 'only' verbally and emotionally, or physically
  - control what their partners do, whom they see and where they go
  - have superficial relationships with other people
  - lose their families and friends
  - maintain power and control over a victim through financial abuse
  - resort to stealing and selling drugs in order to fund their addictions
  - try to use alcohol or other drugs as an excuse for their violence
* start out as teenagers.
* tend to be angry people, with low self-ego strength
  - young and newly married
* use alcohol and drugs as an excuse for violent behavior
  - force and threats to force to control and maintain power over others
  - power to isolate and cause the victim to be afraid of leaving
  - threats and violence to make sure they always get what they want
  - violence because it works to keep their loved ones under control

### offender | abuser:

Child abuser
* Many child abusers have trouble dealing with other adults.
* Most child abusers have no criminal record.
* are persons usually known to the child.
* come from all walks of life crossing economic and educational demographics.
* do go to prison.
* prey upon more than one million kids, worldwide, every year.
* volunteer for ministries in which they can have access to children.

Chronic abuser
* Many chronic abusers quit school because marijuana reduces energy and ambition.
* can become deaf.
* display a typical pattern following physical abuse episodes.
* experience tremors and uncontrollable shaking.