If you meet someone who is attractive and they also represent the hope of adding a leg to the table that is really important one that you want to add to the table, do the counter-intuitive thing. Keep investing in these other parts of your life that give you FU confidence, that give you the sense that you can say no at any point if this person isn't right for you, if they're not treating you the way that you want to be treated or if they're not giving you much energy, they don't have to be behaving badly, they might just be not giving you much energy. And you realize this isn't enough, what this person is giving me isn't enough for me to keep going, just because someone impressive comes into your life. It doesn't mean that your world is an important. It doesn't mean that who you are is an important.