Welcome back to the Hulsing Feed. Today I want to address the topic that I have channeled about before because it's an important topic. I want to talk about the Dad's Guide to Certified in Colleague because Colleague is intense and crazy and a lot of babies have it. It's not really necessarily diagnosed thing like Colleague is not a thing per se but it means that your baby's going to be really fussy especially in the evening like a profoundly fussy and uncomfortable and insolable and it's just very difficult and it just takes a big strain on everybody's relationship and everybody's psyche to deal with collage because it is very intense. One thing you can do, your dad you are a breastfeeding you can have a drink. You know don't have a lot but have one have something that calms your nerves. That's very valuable because if your kid's going to scream from like six p.m. until two a.m. straight through every night for months you're going to want something that calms you and that leads up to number two is learn to do breathing meditation while you're holding your child right because you won't be able to pit your child away and go meditating in a quiet part of the house around the yard. Right you're going to have to be dealing with this you're in the moment of it but it really helps to learn to do breathing meditation that isn't just breathing it out right. Counting to 20 that's not what it is. You're breathing your vision lies in light coming into your body and then you're breathing out through your mouth anxiety and worry and out of the moment thought. All that negativity you weren't focusing on it and that is greatly helpful to calming nerves. Those are two easy way to calm nerves. Number three is to baby wear. You know your partner cannot deal with collic baby 100% on their own. No one can't. It's unfair to out of your partner. So learning to baby wear is very valuable because you are given them a chance to go have a shower take a moment collic babies often want to breastfeed a whole lot in the evening when a mother's supply is the lowest a dip of their supply so it's really nice to give them a half hour 45 minute break to go breathe a little bit or even just to sit in with you while the baby cries but not have to be holding the baby. So baby wear and there's a lot of different baby carriers there's ringslings there's babyer goes you can just hold them in your arms and jiggle all that that gets tired her an after a while. Number four and I think this is a really important one because it makes baby happier too is find a music that you love and maybe very rockest music that you wouldn't normally play at night. I found it with my son, rockest music really helped his collic. I don't know why I don't know what the sound was but it seemed to calm him a little bit. I mean it's all relative right. So put on some rockest music and just you know enjoy the music and hopefully it will drown out some of the collic screaming. I found it that helped me because I was listening to music I wasn't just listening to the screaming going please stop please stop right just moving back and forth moving back and forth dancing back and forth because they love the little collicky dance. It helped to have some music on. And number five is to talk about how stressful colloc is with your partner with your friends with your family it is okay to say as a dad that this is stressing me out. I love my child. I love my life it's okay to still be stressed out with that it's not a bad thing or a sign of and being able to talk about it is a huge one right. You can do all these other four steps but without number five without talking about how you feel about it it just builds up and it builds up into all sorts of negative outcomes that nobody wants right. It's just a collic baby. Lots of collic babies exist. You can totally survive it and it's so much more bearable and enjoyable experience to have a baby with collic or at least a baby slash one like collic if you can talk about it. So have people in your life that you can confide in and that you can just complain and blow up steam too. That is so valuable. I hope that you know some of the father's topics that I cover are useful and helpful to you and inspire you to maybe get out of the zone you were in or maybe you were feeling a little stuck and you went oh one of these ideas inspired something good. I hope that's what they do. So until next time check out all the links in the description. I link to all of my romance novels and to my blog and Instagram account. I will see all around and hey thanks so much for subscribing to the wholesome feed and being a part of this family. If you're new to the channel, welcome. I'm Rose Kelli. I'm a mom and my three-year-old son who was a very collic as a baby. Incredible high needs and still is. And so I really try to address those in a gentle parenting way where we're gentle to ourselves. We're kind to ourselves as moms and dads and we're kind and respectful to our children. So that everybody has a happy joyous family, right? That's the goal is we just want to have be family and that's a lot of what you talk about on this channel. One with you know fitness and breastfeeding and motherhood and fatherhood and you know the complex it is that that is okay to not have it be perfectly polished to be a parent and that we're all working through this journey and experience in this journey, right? It's a community journey. We're all going through it. Nobody has gone. Oh, got to the journey on the great parent. Wow this is five-drilled. It's amazing. Right we're all just walking along the way down there. So I will see you all over Instagram and Twitter and back on here in Minnesota.