For a year ago, I created a video about how to discipline your child without yelling or spanking, and I got some really good feedback from that video. I received a comment from Jason Barrow about three weeks ago, and after I read the comment, it motivated me to create a series about the topic. In the comment, this is what he said. I have spanked my kids in the yield, and I can clearly see it's not helpful. It really teaches them to be violent. That's why I'm looking up this video because I see my ways don't work at all, but this was how I was raised, so this is how I react. But me and my wife was just talking about this, doesn't work. We need to be the adults in this situation. They will clearly act like kids if we do. So once I received that feedback from Jason, it motivated me to do an updated version about this particular topic. If this is your first time visiting, first I want to tell you just a little bit about myself right quick. I'm a wife, mom, and also a stepmom. My husband and I, we have nine children together. Two of our kids, I actually birthed. We have been married for 28 and a half years, even though we have a huge family. I never had any issues with discipline my children, getting them to listen to me. I never had to raise my voice, our spank them. There is a key of getting your children to listen to you. In these series of videos, I'm going to teach you what the kid is, so make sure you stick around and watch the full video and also stay tuned for the next upload. In this video, I'm going to talk about your behavior. Your behavior does matter. It matters so much more than what you think. By the way, that you are teaching your child how to interact with others and you're also teaching your child how to interact with you. When your children are young, especially in their toddler age, they like to imitate us and they want to be like us. Even if you watch your child while they are playing with their toys, the things that they say when they're playing pretend, a lot of times they are just re-acting the way that we eye. A couple of years ago, I worked at a date care. I worked in an infant room and most of them was like around the age of, I would say, from like nine months to one and a half. So every day, I would like to just play an inter-ide with each other while we were in the room at a certain time of the day. But then sometimes while they were playing, I may have made a mistake and bump into one of them. Whenever I would bump into one of them, I would always say, excuse me, I'm sorry. And I noticed later, they start doing the same thing with each other. If they made a mistake and made one of them fall, I'd bump into each other. They would say, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm just by teaching them that it helped me to notice how important it is for me to like the way that I wanted them to like. So just from that incident, it taught me how important it was for me to teach them how I wanted them to behave towards one another and also with myself. If you are a spanker, dump spank your child, and the reason why I feel that you shouldn't spank your child is because that you are teaching them how to react and how to respond to others when you spank them. They're learning that from you unconsciously. You are teaching them how to be violent towards others. Okay, just think about it. If you spank your child and when your child is playing with other kids, if the other child takes something from your child, how do you think your child is going to respond? Now, how do you want your child to respond? I mean, no doubt if you spank your child when they're around up a children and the other child do something to your child that they don't like, they're going to hit them. But your end that may not bother you now. But now when your child goes to great school and they hit another child, your child in a sense and detention all the time just because of the way that your child responded to the other child. So you don't want to teach them to hit or to bully other kids. So you don't want to teach your child that it's okay when someone makes you upset to hit them. Instead, you want to teach your child how to handle those kind of situations. What to do when someone makes you upset or wants to wonder something wrong to you, how to communicate, how to tell someone instead of leshing out. Another thing about when you spank your child is to your unconsciously teaching them that it's okay to lose your temper. This is how you respond when you lose your temper. If you're raising a boy, it's really not good because unconsciously you could be teaching them when they become teenagers or young adults. They can bring that same type of bullying attitude into their relationships. Have you ever been around someone whenever they get upset? They like to throw something or they like to break something. And that's the wrong attitude because it's like you have to learn how to handle stress. What to do when you get really upset and one thing I have learned with kids, especially working in a daycare, there will be times where you may feel overwhelmed. You may lose your patience with your children. The best thing for you to do is just to walk away for a couple of minutes, walk away until you come down. And then once you have come down, you go back to that situation and figure out what you need to do to handle it. Being a parent is hard and I can say that also with parenting, you are going to make some mistakes. I made some mistakes as a parent, but the difference is that whenever I made a mistake, I noticed it and I told myself you're not going to do that again. But for example, I remember when my younger sister, I pleased she was maybe like three years old in. And for stories that I noticed she had got to wear whenever I would tell her to do something, she was a pain in any attention. So I can remember thinking, okay, I'm going to have to spank her. So I got to switch and I spanked her and I remember as I spanked her, I didn't like the way I felt. It just didn't feel good for me and I felt bad about it and I made a commitment to myself that I would never spank her again and I didn't. So I want to encourage you not to spank our deal at your child and you may ask, if I don't yell or to spank my child, how do I get my child to listen to me? And she said to him for the next video because in the next video, I'm going to share with you the importance of treating your child the way that you want to be treated. Once you learn to do that, it turns everything else around for you. You will learn that you get back what you put out and the question for you. Do you spank your child? If you spank your child, does it work for you? 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