Only one person can get you out of depression and that is you. Fallen your head. Fallen your head. Oh no, I'm holding you accountable for your own feelings. Oh, why do I do this to myself? I know every single argument that people are gonna throw at me about how depression is so hard and you can't just beat it and you can't just get over it. Once up, everybody, this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And today's problem is Nicole Arbor. I saw this video getting shared in one of my mental health support groups that I'm a part of. They're kind of, you know, do the things I do on the rewired soul but I help give other people suggestions who are struggling with anxiety and depression and other symptoms of mental illness. Somebody shared this and this depression shaming just blew my mind but I'm actually not all that surprised because some of you might think that she looks familiar like I did and not long ago she blew up because she made a fat shaming video. All right, now I want to make very clear. I want to make very clear just in case some of Nicole Arbor's fan show up on here. Like I think she's onto something but she's doing it in a very poor way and it's because she's not educated very well. All right, so the first thing that we have to do, the first thing that we have to do when we're receiving any type of information is check in with the source. Who is the source who is relaying this information? Because the problem is is that you can't just be a charismatic person doing a bunch of dump cuts all over the place and then people say, oh, you know what? I think this person's on to something. All right, like we're seeing it right now in politics. You know, Donald Trump's the president. We've heard of people like Mark Zuckerberg and the rock saying that they're going to run for president over one free minute speech and they're like, oh, that should be president. Like just because a lot of people are hearing you doesn't mean that you're saying the proper information. All right, but anyways, Oprah's kind of dope over 2020. Anyways, let's jump into this. So first, first, let's do this. When Nicole Arbor is talking about how depression is all in your head, which no duh. Let's take a look at Nicole Arbor's credentials real quick. So what I have done is I have pulled up Nicole Arbor's Facebook page. Her Facebook fan page. All right, so first off. And no, this isn't any kind of shaming or anything. But first, I'm going to take a look at this and say, is this just looking at the picture? Is this somebody who I want to get my mental health advice from? Right? Like, let's put it in these terms. Am I going to go to the grocery store and ask the person in the produce aisle how to fix my car? Probably not. I got to check the source of where I'm getting this information. But maybe I'm wrong. Let's check in. Let's see what kind of credentials Miss Nicole Arbor has. So here is her biography. Now, let's see. I'm a comedian because people laugh at me. I'm a recording artist because I spit fire like a witty dragon. I'm a writer because words fall out. I'm a model because I find a hilarious and absurd. Beauty is subjective, y'all. I'm a choreographer because I see music. I'm a dancer because music is because music sets up. I'm your new best friend because we're both awesome. I'm a YouTuber because I love making things. And I'm a cheerleader for life because it's the best way to be. Hashtag go team. So looking at her credentials, I don't see anything, anything that says that she is any kind of health professional. The question is a chemical imbalance in your head. It just fixes. So the fact that her video is getting millions of views and a ton of shares is kind of strange. Like, why is anybody taking mental health advice from this woman? I did some digging, I did some investigation. And it looks like Nicole Arbor struggled with depression. And I feel for it. This time, about three years ago, I sat trying to figure out how to commit suicide in a way that it would least affect my family and friends. Moving forward, that was my plan. I was done. And anyone who's ever been in chronic pain understands that you get to a point where it's not even you anymore. You just want to make it stop. Now, her depression came from a car accident that gave her chronic pain. Chronic pain. And that can put you into a depression. And that's for different reasons. And she talks about how chemicals in your brain are constantly changing. Agreed. But her depression was not a biological issue. It's almost like when I've talked about the different risk factors for addiction. Some people are genetically predisposed and other people develop an addiction. Same thing with depression. Some people are genetically predisposed to depression. And other people develop a depression. Nicole Arbor's depression developed because of a car accident. And I get it. Like, she got out of her depression. And she tries to motivate people. And like, trust me, you can check out the other video I did when I was reviewing Neil Brennan's comedy special where he talks about depression. And I even tried to hold all of you accountable out there too. Like, you have to put in work. The problem is, is the way that Nicole Arbor is portraying that message is depression-shaming. It is shaming people with mental illness. It is not just a button that people can flip and quit being depressed. One of the biggest issues with people with depression that is the hardest hurdle to overcome is motivation. Exercise! Go to the gym. Go to the dance class. Get out walking. Just keep it moving. I swear you will feel happier. Like, I get it. Yeah, get up. Go out. Go for a walk. Do these activities that increase dopamine and serotonin and all these other neurotransmitters you can bring. Go do those. But it's getting that engine started. Okay? She has this to say about antidepressants. When I was on antidepressants, I just felt like a robot who was now functioning versus a robot that was frozen. Okay. Nicole, if you see this, let me explain this to you. Okay? Different medications have different side effects. Not only do different medications have different side effects, but different people react to medications differently. So I'm not sure what they put you on that made you zombieed out. But for many people, these antidepressants do not do that. They might have put you on something really strong. They might have even put you on some kind of tranquilizer too. So that's something that you have to take into consideration. Not only does it depend on the medication, which are dozens of antidepressants, but it also depends on how your body reacts to them. I know plenty of people who take antidepressants regularly. I'm one of them. And do I look like a mozombie? No, I don't. Do you see this smile on my face? Something's working. All right. And the other thing is she mentions like these pills aren't just happy pills. I've done another video about antidepressants. And that's a common misconception about these medications is that they are happy pills. That's not how they work. These medications work in a couple different ways. So when she keeps saying it's all in your head. I know it's all in your head. But some brains have a problem creating certain neurotransmitters. So some of these medications actually help the brain to produce these neurotransmitters. In other cases, these neurotransmitters have to attach to each other to create more. And if you're familiar with neuroscience, I've heard neurons that fire together, wire together. So when they wire together, some people with depression do not have the neurotransmitters that stick to each other. So there are certain medications that make these neurotransmitters stickier so they can stick together and reproduce more. So what these medications are trying to do is get you to a base level to increase that motivation so you can start doing more work on your own. So these medications may not fix you, but there are good starting point just to get you out of bed in the morning just to get you to take a shower just to give you the motivation to go to the gym to go live your life and create more neurotransmitters. That's what these are therefore. I have a lot to say about this, but here's the problem with the world today. Here's the problem with living in a time where the internet is so easily accessed. Okay, and Neil the grassy Tyson actually said it best. This clip that you're about to watch is from one of my favorite YouTube series called hot ones. The internet has turned turned the world into a place where you can do a quick Google search and you can find at least one other person on the planet to agree with the insane idea you have that has absolutely no scientific backing. And Nicole, I'm very sorry, but you're not allowed to just use the words like scientific studies say it was proving at Harvard that only 10% of our long term happiness has anything to do with external factors that only this much of your happiness is based on this. You can't just say that without providing sources like I talked about this in my prince EA versus boy in a band video. Like you can't just go around saying that scientific study say certain things without providing sources because after she said that I spent about an hour researching this and I couldn't find one study that said that. So that's the problem with all of this stuff going viral and spreading is that ignorance breeds more ignorance and then people think that it's the word of truth when there's actually no backing for it. Alright, so I know Nicole Arbor is trying to come from a motivational good place, but she did a very, very, very poor job of it. Alright, but if you retained some information, if I helped you understand depression a little bit more, do me a big favor and give this video a thumbs up. But while you're here, leave a comment down below. I want to hear what your thoughts were on the Nicole Arbor depression video. Okay, but anyways, thank you so much for watching. If you're new here, I'm always doing videos about mental health. So make sure that you click the little round subscribe button and if you want to check out some of the other videos on my channel, check out the info card, but also click or tap on one of those thumbnails right there. Turn it good stuff. 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