Come on, start. Dodged a Ross here, and today we're taking your question. So I chose the questions today, and I'm going to open it with a question on Aina Lingus. I know it's going to be all godfucking ass licking. I know! Is Licking ass dangerous? Hi Betty, I love your advice and bust, and felt that you were the safest and most reliable person to ask this question. I've been with my boyfriend for four months, and it's been the most loving and sexual relationship I've ever had. The last time we had sex he was giving me oral and started to lick my Aina's. Yay! It felt amazing, and it had a great orgasm. However, I'm afraid that doing this might be harmful to him. Can you get sick from doing this? Thank you for having a site where people feel safe and confident to ask these questions. Kat. Here she is worried about the guy again. That's our role in life. Do you think we have... Where if we're looking at their ass bones? I'm afraid she's swelling my stomach. She might get sick. Look away, bitch. Let that feel us into you. No, there's nothing wrong. As a matter of fact, Aina's made me clean her parts on your body if you're both healthy and be. Moving on to question number two. Want to join my wife's girl party? This one sounds interesting. My wife was asked to go on an all-girl party by a workmate. The other guy did not show up, but my bride went and met two ladies who got interested in her. Both were friendly and my wife even modeled some sexy clothing for the group of women. One actually took a very large and long double dildo and used it on her. I would love to see her take a toy of that size. Did you talk to one of the ladies and she was willing to bring the tie for some hotel play? My wife is not sure she would enjoy herself with me being there. Probably true. How do I change her mind about seeing her with such a big toy? You know, it fascinates me that people want me. Guys write me all the time and they want me to help them to help change their wives or girlfriend's minds. Before that can happen, she would have to be writing the question. The whole party thing is the reason they're having fun. Is it because it's all women? No, go ask her to take some pictures for you to masturbate to. This could create your fantasy image. She's getting sexual energy outside the relationship in a safe environment and it's exciting to her and she can bring that home. Ask her to take a picture with the double dildo and the women. No faces or anything so you don't know who's who. That would be hot. Very smart. And then I think that would be a good way to deal with it. And incorporate yourself in it. If you ask her to take them before she leaves, she'll be knowing the whole time she's having this sex rob that you're going to see it. And then she feels like she's a porn star and that's kind of hot. Of course. Okay now on to question number three. And I really felt bad for this one so I wanted to cover this. Oh. 23 and lost my libido. I'm so sorry. I'm a healthy 23 year old woman in a great relationship with a man who is very attentive and good in bed. She didn't say great. She said good. Along with being a great partner outside of the bedroom. Uh oh. Good in the bedroom. Great outside. Great outside. Okay. So, especially I just don't want to have partner sex. It's been this way for months and honestly this has happened in almost all of my relationships as well. Despite my disinterest in partner sex, I still masturbate on a semi-regular basis. Oh darling girl. First of all, what is a libido? I always get, you know, I don't know what it is. Wanting to have sex. Oh please. Oh desire. Please. I mean you want to have sex at the very beginning of a relationship when you first meet someone. And you've got all that juice running. But if it's someone you've been going with, it's like if I waited till I had the desire, I wouldn't do sex. I'd eat. But do you hear about that study? There was a huge study and they found that the theory is that desire precedes a rousal. And they found that a rousal precedes desire. Thank you. Reach down. Take a hold of your clitty. Give it some action. Uh-huh. Right outside. Get out of your vibrator and get a little juice going and you'll be surprised. Whatever that libido thing, it's there. It's there. And don't think that you're just going to wake up in the morning, come out of the shower. It's going to be like, I have to fuck. I got a boner. No. I got a boner. No, I couldn't ride cock right now. Go to the one you just pulled out. Okay. Which is. Why would my boyfriend prefer dry-humping to sex? Hi, Dr. Betty. First, I just want to say your advice is when to fall in your tips. Have helped me out in the past. So she's a repeat customer. Yes. I have an issue with a new boyfriend that I could use to advice on. He's very good at manually bringing me to orgasm. I love a guy with good makeup. However, when it comes to actual intercourse, I'm a little confused. After a session of foreplay for some reason, it seems that he only wants to dry-hump. He likes to rub his penis against my vagina and thrust, but only through close. Oh, see, I like that naked when someone rubs their dick on your clip. And it's a joke. I've had great orgasms like that. But through close, that's the dry part. I've been able to take charge and parlay this into actual penetration intercourse, but it only tends to last a minute or so. And I'm tired of having to be the one always to initiate it. So I guess I have a multi-part question. Why on earth? What do you prefer to joy-humping to actual intercourse? Why is it so brief when it does happen? And could these two things be related? Thanks so much, Dr. Betty. No kidding related. So the whole point here is that he likes to dry-hump because the sensation lasts longer. The minute he penetrates your nice, wet pussy, boom, it's all over. I would prefer to teach a man how to prolong. Why should the woman put up with, you know, he's rubbing the side of the leg or, you know, behind her ear, under her neck, you know, between her legs. You know, between her labia, of between her ass cheeks. You know, it's great to have a penis inside the vagina and really get into some eyes. It feels good. So, stroke. He needs to learn how to prolong his erection. Does that through his masturbation practice? His kegals. Yeah. And there's some guys keep him tight to, you know, to control it. You mean they keep their muscles tight? They tighten it and that's he's... Keep from coming. Others tell me that they get better result when they completely relax. Really? That's so interesting. Yeah. So, Eric talked about that in the book. Well, we also have a post that was under the blog section, the front page, that Eric wrote on Injaculation. So, that could be something he could do is he's... You know, you can control when you ejaculate. Men don't think they can, but they can. Yes. So, that he... Boyfriend needs to get in control of his dick. Or you need to just relax and enjoy the outer course, which is what he's doing. And he's doing the four play and his fingers are good. Yeah. So, I love fingers. It's not a bad deal. It's like, junior high all over again. Enjoy hoping and fingering. That's what I thought.