You don't like altruists. I disapprove of them. I regard them as evil. Do gooders. Lord save me from the do gooders. I don't like those popular expressions. That's too narrow and too political. Okay, but what's so what's bad about the person who wants to help other people? To begin with, that's the big mistake. People can want to help other people. Properly and with very good reasons, but that isn't altruism. Altruism doesn't mean nearly helping people. It means sacrificing yourself to others. Placing the interests of others above your own is the self-sacrificing person who is an altruist. What's wrong with that? What's wrong with committing suicide? What's wrong with giving up life? And why is the happiness of another person important, good, but not your own? Why are you always the outsider and the sacrificial animal? For a good relationship, there should be no victims, no sacrifices. Okay, so that in a relationship, for example, a man and one will talk about the heterosexual world for a moment. To sacrifice for your loved one is in many cases then a misnomer. What you really doing is tell me what you mean. What I mean by sacrifice and what is a general element is to give up some value which is important to you for something else which is a lesser value or a number. That's sacrifice. And you don't approve of that? No, I don't. Now, if you love your husband or wife and you have to let us say select between spending money for your spouse if he's ill or going to a nightclub, it's not a sacrifice to spend money for your spouse if he or she is your value. That is what you want to do. But if you let for instance your husband die in order to save the neighbors husband or your wife, that would be all through. If you reject or pass up something which is or someone who is valuable to you and in favor of somebody who is a neutral stranger or even worse an enemy. If you sacrifice a friend for an enemy, that's all through. And the issue there is simply watch the hierarchy of values. If something that is important to you requires a great deal of effort from you, that's not sacrifice. But if you give up your career because you want your competitive arrival to be more successful, that would be hideous and very evil sacrifice. I'm trying to figure out how this applies to every day. If your wife wants you to go to the A and P and you don't want to go, but you sacrifice because it's for the good of the family, is that okay with you? Perfectly, but what if you filled with resentment as you go? Wondering why how come you're always there? Well, if that's true, that it's unfair. If it's not your understanding, which your husband but team poses this on you, then it's perfect for your right to resent it and properly you should raise the issue and decide what you want to do.