Hello, this is Bern and if you want to understand what you can do when a guy that you're so into and you're dating stops messaging you, well stay with me because I'll share with you a framework that will help you raise your value and your worth and feel much better about how to move forward. Stay around. Hello, this is Bern. Welcome to your greatlife2ve.com. Today's another edition of Get the Love You Crave. And today I'm talking about what to do when the guy that you know you're so into stops messaging you, there's three different ways of looking at this. I have a lot of women who connect with me from different parts of the world, typically before we become clients but sometimes just randomly in my YouTube channel who say, it is dude stop messaging me what can I do. And the first thing you can do, which I don't recommend but it's certainly what a lot of women do is message him in some desperate attempt to remind him that you exist. And behind the lines no matter what you text, behind the lines of what you're sending he, him is really something like this. Please remember me, please don't forget me, I might not enough for you, what happened, why you're not connecting with me, my life kind of sucks and I'm bored and you will entertain me in some way. So that's kind of the essence of what the message will be like. If you message a dude who's showing up with promise and then forgets to connect with you and then you start doing the pursuit. Second thing you can do, which I also don't recommend, is where you disguise your neediness as I'm just connecting with you because I happen to be in the dentist office and I saw a horse magazine and I want to hear your opinion on this horse, something random and ridiculous as that. Even if it's less ridiculous but still ridiculous in essence because in essence what you're saying is I am just afraid of sounding needy but I really am needy and I'm pretending that I'm showing you something right now so that you reply to that but then I remember that you, I mean you remember me and we start exchanging messages again, again, highly don't recommend that. There's a third approach which is scarier for a lot of women but far more recommended if you really want to get what you want and that is do absolutely nothing. You heard me right, do absolutely nothing. What happens if you don't do something? What happens if you don't reply to him? He'll either wake up from his deep sleep, he'll miss you and remember that there's an amazing woman on the other side of that phone that he can connect with and he can plan date with and he can do something about in order to pursue her or he won't and if he doesn't and he's that type of guy, you win. If he does and he's a guy who wants to do things better and show up with more presence and more pursuit then again you win, you win no matter what happens. Even though initially you might feel it but he didn't connect with me anymore, yes but if he's not the kind of guy who's going to want to drive things forward and he's expecting you to do that then most likely not the type of guy you want to connect with. In order for you to really lean back and step into this kind of worth that I'm talking about right now, you're going to need to do three things. The first thing you need to do is you need to buy into a philosophy that says a guy should pursue a woman. Now, I'm not saying that you should believe what I believe if you feel that you should pursue him equally, go out at sister all the power to you. If you believe that you should pursue him instead, all the power to you. I'm just telling you after connecting with thousands of women from every continent that every walk of life virtually who share their preference with me, I have found very few women, I'm not saying I haven't found any but I found very few women who actually do prefer to pursue a guy. Where a guy shows with interest, he initiates, he prepares, he plans, he shows up, he pays for the meal. There's a few things he can do now. As I said, you don't have to buy into it but if you do buy into it, you will buy the fault. This qualified guys were half-assing it and connect with the guys who are willing to do more of the work and who can see that you the price versus themselves the price. Why? Because in this dynamic idea, if you want a devotional type of love where he's going to show up with generosity, he needs to understand that the life force that you bring into his life is sufficient for him to do the work to be able to help Shimon and radiate more and pursue and work hard to get. Not saying you play hard to get, I'm saying that he needs to put an effort to value what he has. Now, that's the first thing and again, this is a big discussion that some of you will agree. Some of you will disagree. Some guys will actually just message me and encourage me for encouraging women to lean back but I don't give a shit. I'm not here to piece anyone. I'm here to say, express my philosophy what I think works in a dynamic where the masculine and the feminine provide the best thing for each other. Now, the second thing you need to do is you need to be able to step into an abundance of men. Men. An abundance mindset. That means that despite the fact that the vast majority of men will not be a match for you, you need to know that the small minority who are are still a large number. Because if you feel like that one dude who stopped messaging you is the best thing that could have ever happened to you, then you're going to come at completely different than if you understand in your heart of hearts that there are other men, yes, you may not have met them yet, that you can connect with who would be showing up as strongly or even stronger and have an amazing, powerful soul searching, mind exploding, physically amazing connection with you. Okay, so an abundance of men is something you need to step into and I know it's hard and that's why there's coaching for this type of thing and I know that there's other ways to get there. But understand that if you don't have an abundance mindset, you're not going to be able to walk away from something that is not good for you. Third thing you need to have to really pull this off is you need to have a life that you're creating that feels super exciting. Why? Because if you like, your life feels sucky. If your life feels boring and a guy who was bringing you the aliveness and the excitement that you don't have in your own life goes away, then guess what? He has become your oxygen and you're starting to feel like you're expiriating so you're going to go get it, right? But if you can bring your own aliveness and fulfillment and not that you don't want a man in your life, but you don't need him to complete you, then you can say no to situations that are far less in standard than what you're looking for. Hope this is helpful, useful, and insightful to you in some way. If it is, I'm going to ask you to do three things. Number one, click like on this video or thumbs up. Number two, subscribe to my channel. 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