Red Flags You Are Texting A Narcissist When the narcissist first targets you, they will usually have a lot to say in their text messages, but some of them will hold back. Some of them will use the push pull tactic, but the love bombing phase is often when you will get the truth about how they really feel about you. They may say that you are nice, they may say that you treat them well, and that is why they targeted you. That is why they chose to stay with you. If you are giving them everything they need, there is no reason for them to leave. It is only when you stand up to them that they know the jig is up and it is time to move on. But up until that point, they will idealize you. They will flatter and praise you. As long as you keep giving it into them, as long as you keep doing what they want, they will tell you they miss you. They will tell you they love you. They will tell you whatever they think you want to hear, whatever they think will keep you around. They will caress your ego until you let your guard down, until you decide to give them a chance, or they may use the push pull tactic, they may give you bread crumbs, and then leave you chasing after them for more. They may text you every few hours to make you wonder what they are doing, or they may leave you on bread to make you think you have said something wrong. They will play a lot of mind games to keep you thinking about them, to make you obsess over them, until they know they have got you exactly where they want you, but once they know they have got you, they don't really want you anymore. They get bored, they lose interest, especially if you figure them out, if you know what they are trying to do, then they will completely ghost you, they will stop texting you, or they may just devalue you, and at this point they will act like you need them or they need you, as though you are the one who is hanging on, you can't leave them alone, and they don't really want you, they will say that you are obsessed with them, they will say that you are stalking them, they will say they are busy, they will make you feel like you are crazy, like you are doing something wrong, for expecting them to communicate with you, for expecting them to be how they were before, because they used to put you at a pedestal, they used to say that you are so nice and you treat them well, they used to say that they miss you if you are away for just an hour or two, but now you are crazy because they haven't texted you back for several hours, they will project their insecurities onto you, they will blame you, they will gas like you, they will misuse technology, they will use it to abuse you, they will use it to control, monitor and harass you, until you start to feel like you are losing your mind, because they are telling you something and then they are doing something else, and they are making you out to be a problem and a nuisance, when they are the ones who are initiating it, they are the ones who refuse to live in harmony with you, eventually they will just tell you to stop texting them, they will use threats and intimidation, they will threaten to block you, they will threaten to expose you, they will threaten to get you fired from your job, they will deny anything you say about them, they will act like they haven't done anything wrong, without they were justified in doing what they did, they will become self righteous as though they are totally correct and morally superior, they will take on the authority to bro and treat you like they are subordinate, they will withhold whatever they think you want from them, until you feel like you don't even know who they are anymore, you feel like someone has hijacked their foe, like someone is messing with your mind, because it's like you are dealing with a completely different person, with a person who is nothing like the one you were originally met, but even if you do stop texting them, eventually they will hold the give, when you stop thinking about them, when you move on with your life, they will text you again even after everything they said about you, I don't have everything they have done to you, they will come back like nothing happened, like they never meant that things they said or did, and they will expect you to go along with it, they will text you hey or how are you, because they are just looking for a response, they want to know if you are still emotionally invested in them, if they still have power over you, if they can still get you to come back, but they are just talking with you, they are playing a game, they are playing cat and mouse, they are not really serious about you, they just want to see where you are in the mind, the best you will ever get from a narcissist is an illusion, a fantasy, and they know how to play their role, they have had years of practice, thank you for watching, I hope this video resonated with you, let me know the text messages that you have received in the comments section below, please like, comment, share and subscribe, if you would like to donate, my behavioural link is in the video description, coach the enquiries, you can email me at coached at an axe of ibert or crew UK, thank you for watching and I will talk to you soon.