In this video we'll be talking about topics of an adult nature, it is not suitable for minors. This Ramadan, I'm raising money for the orphans and the poor in Gambia. I'm doing it with my trusted spot charity started by a friend, its grassroots and allows donors to go and visit. Link in the description. Assalamualaikum guys and welcome to another episode of Smile 2 Jannah. Yes, it's another side man KSI video. Why? Why am I doing another one? With the youngsters that I've interacted with, they watch a lot of side man and KSI and beta squad or phase clan or whatever it is. So knowing what they're watching will be a good indicator of how they're being influenced. And I think it's a good litmus test for where society is at the moment as well. So let's see what the side man and KSI said about marriage. It has to be right to your team. I'm going to play devil's advocate. I think it's wrong. So let's just say you've got this woman beautiful blah blah blah. Why is sex so important? I think it's important for the rest of your life. Why can't we wait to marry? But then why are you putting a time on it in terms of like okay we have to have a label before we have sex? Because I want to know that it's real. Why does marriage mean it's real? Being married shows that you're devoted to nothing. As you guys saw, all of them are saying sex before marriage is fine. There's nothing wrong with it. KSI on the other hand playing devil's advocate. Who knows maybe that is his belief and he doesn't want to admit it. Who knows? But regardless, he said sex before married that it's wrong. And he says because the reason why marriage is very important for a person to be intimate is because marriage and getting married proves that number one is real. That is real. And number two, it shows your devotion. Now, what does the Quran say about this? Because the sin and effort devotion is commitment. And Allah says in the Quran, it has us to value our commitments. Oh yes. And then a hadith. Furthermore, we're told that one of the most important commitments is the marriage contract. So we are being told divinely to value marriage, the importance of marriage. Studies show that people that are married are less likely to engage in crime. So this is another advantage of being married. It's actually good for society. Governments should actually be promoting this. Movies and stuff like this should be promoting it. But we know obviously governments don't necessarily have control and have powers on the society's corporations call the shots mostly by lobbying them. So for corporations, it makes sense. Put marriage down and bring up promiscuity. Why? Because it leaves a person to be more vulnerable. It leaves a person to be more unstable and more weak. And let's face it preoccupied with the opposite gender continuously. So the Quran says they are a garment for you and you are a garment for them. Now let's analyze the analogy of a garment. A garment is something that's close to you. It's something that keeps you warm. It's something that protects you. SubhanAllah. So this is how marriage is being described. And also we're told in a hadith as well that if a person protects what's between their jaws and what's between their legs. So the Quran says, I'm not a wait such people. Yeah, why? Because these two things are a big test and a trial. And you think most of the issues that we're getting today are because people cannot control their mouth. Yeah, social media. It's got no kind of filter. Anybody can go in there and say whatever they want. And of course, it was between the legs. We're seeing that's become a big issue as well. But guys, let's also look at the flip side as well. And what's the flip side? I want to have a girlfriend. Yeah, I want to have a girlfriend. I want to get to know her. And yeah, like the side man said, What if, right? So say you find someone that you really like that you wait till married. You have sex and it's dead. Let's take an analogy. They're unqualified driver. They get into a car and they drive. Yeah, as they drive naturally, they don't know how to drive. So they're going to crash the car. They're going to injure themselves and they're going to injure the passenger as well. So we take this analogy and we put it to a relationship because if you get into a relationship, and you're not ready, you don't understand yourself, you're not mature yet. You haven't grown up yet. And because you haven't grown up, what you're now doing is you're riding a car and you're going to crash it because you don't understand how it works. So here in relationships, guys, you're dealing with somebody else. You're dealing with their mentality. You're dealing with your own mentality as well. And the thing is, if you don't understand, Yeah, you're going to crash and you're going to hurt them and you're going to hurt yourselves. So a child, he goes to a university lecture. Naturally, he's not going to understand 98% of the things that are going to be said. But the 2% that he picks up, what's going to happen with that is he's going to take that and he's going to apply it in the wrong way. And this is exactly what we're seeing in society today. Well, like children, yeah, well, like children when it comes to relationships, we take the 2%, yeah, or we take a very minimal percent. I wouldn't say he's just 2%, which is a sex bit. And then we say, oh, let's just, let's just roll with that, that's the relationship. And that's why sex has become so mechanized. Yeah, it's certain industries, I don't want to mention the names, but you know the industry that I'm referring to, I just turned it into animalistic act. That's what it's done. It's turned into animalistic act, that spirituality. Because in Islam, we make a dohar before, of course, we have relations with the wife. And it's such a beautiful spiritual. It's emerging of like two bodies and two souls and spirits. The savahana life's been demeaned. Yeah, you do it when you're young, it puts you off and savahana Allah. All right, guys, so this is what I alluded to as well. And this is heartbreak. Yeah, when you're young, like I said, you don't understand yourself. You're not understanding of yourself. How you're going to understand the other person? Naturally, you're going to break their heart. And if you look at relationships, what do they call it? Dump. I got dumped. People get dumped via text message. So, vahana Allah, why? Because families aren't involved. The community isn't involved. That there's no even spirituality attached to it. There's no barakah attached to it. So because of that, naturally, you're going to get heartbreak. But when you go to a therapist, when you go to a psychologist, you have to speak to them and it ends up being a trauma from getting your heart broken. Yeah, it's one of the things that are very difficult to deal with. You have heartbreak, death of a loved one. Yeah, these are excruciatingly painful. And this is what Islam protects you from. Yeah, look, Islam is not saying, stay celibate. Don't get married. Islam doesn't allow them. Yeah, it's a son to get married. And we encourage the Prophet of Allah, or some in fact, had many wives. Sometimes when people say stuff, they're so white, he was a man. He was a man. And rather than, you know, there's a super drug study that said that in the UK, people like having at least 15 sexual partners. By Islam, you can marry up to four. But ironically speaking, Muslims tend not to. But that choice is there, rather than having boyfriends and girlfriends and breaking their hearts and stuff like that. Yeah, so marriage, guys, is something that we should look forward to. It's something that is beautiful and amazing. And look, I'm speaking to you as somebody that has had his heart broken. I am somebody that was in a marriage and it didn't work out. And I'm still telling you that was a beautiful part of my life. Yeah, and even though we're not together, of course, you know, you still have that appreciation that this person, you know, you spend intimate moments together. I would say don't engage in these haram relationships, then you will wait and the juice and the nectar will be much more sweeter. And guys, even when you're looking for your potential partner, I would say look, get in your parents involved and this whole arranging the marriage. Yeah, there's a pair of viewed article that actually suggests that 70 to 80% of people that have arranged marriages love comes afterwards. Yeah, so this is proven. So this is proven and you're actually a bit more cognizant of the person you're getting involved with. It's not just lust, it's not just desire. And then you realize that person can't support you. You realize that there's other, you know, issues because you didn't get your parents involved. Yeah, you tried to drive a car when you were inexperienced. That's what it was at the end of the day. Yeah, and now you're paying the price. Yeah, sometimes if you get into an accident, when you're in an accident, it could lead to prolonged pain like paralysis and who knows what else. And guys, remember, haram relationships don't have one ingredient that marriages do and that is baraka blessing. Yeah, it is something that even looking at your partner gets you reward. Yeah, even consummating the marriage gets you reward. Yeah, spending time and spending money on your family is rewardable. It's a bar that is worshiped if you're in a haram relationship. So, Allah Allah, you're filled with guilt. It's going to spoil your future relationships and it leaves you vulnerable. Let's face it. And the powers that be, they want to leave you vulnerable. They want to keep you busy. They want to keep you occupied with this sort of stuff. Just so they're free to do whatever the hell they want, frankly. Yeah, so what's the solution, guys? Number one, walk on yourself. The early years when you're young, walk on yourself. I know the youngsters want to get married very quickly. And that's fine. You know, get married very quickly. But also, if that's something that you want to do, walk on yourself. Yeah? Conflict resolution. Yeah? Read books on psychology. Read books on marriage. Understand yourself. Psychoanalyze is psychoanalyze yourself. And then you'll be in a better position to understand yourself and the other partner as well. And guys, don't free mix with people. Because when you free, you mix with people, then you sending them wrong signals and wrong messages. And then there's more potential for Haram relationships to emerge. So guys, then, Shaa Allah, you benefited from that. And yeah, may Allah keep us safe. May Allah keep our youth safe as well. Let's leave it there. Until next time. As-salamu alaykum.