Why do men always come back? Why do you think men always come back? I hear it all the time. So, one, let's get something straight. The fact that he keeps coming back, do not assume that's love. In most cases, it ain't gonna do with love, it's infatuation. Because they think, well, he must love me because he keeps trying so hard. He must love me because every time I let him go, he finds his way back to me. This must be real feelings. No, not at all. It can be attachment, but do not assume that it's because he's not letting you go, that that means he loves you. One of the big reasons why he keeps coming back is because he can't. Because he knows you're going to give in and let him in that door.