In this video, my friend Kat and I are going to advice on AMWF relationships. Hey guys, what's up? Welcome to another video from Lingling. Today, my friend Kat and I are going to talk about AMWF relationships. First, can you introduce yourself? Hi everyone, my name is Kat and I'm from Switzerland. I'm 25 years old and I'm living here in Beijing together with my Chinese boyfriend. So, this new series of videos are advice videos for AMWF relationships. Again, what was AMWF? Asian male, Western female. Yes, these videos are advised for you guys who are in AMWF relationships or interested in if you're a nation guy wanting to date a white girl or if you're a white girl who are interested in dating. Asian guys, if you have any questions or anything you want to know about these kind of relationships, then please feel free to send me an email. The email address is in the description box below. If you have any question for us, we'll be happy to answer you as best as we can. Yes. So, what's today's question? Well, I will tell you I have it here on my phone. We have a question from one of our followers. The girl she wrote, hello Lingling, really love your videos. I'm a Ukrainian girl who is super in love with my Chinese boyfriend. While we're together, I just sometimes feel like he is taking too much care of me. Do you sometimes feel that some guys are hyper caring and don't leave you a personal space? Oh yes. Good question. We have a lot of questions to talk about. We have a lot of things to talk about. So, please feel free to start. Personal space issue is an important problem of my boyfriend and I because I actually really like that he cares a lot about me and that he is a very gentle man. He plans to feel exactly. It makes me feel appreciated. Compared to some European guys who care more about themselves. Exactly. Their hobbies, their friends, their... Friends, oh my god friends and beer. Yeah, exactly. And at some point there's also this girlfriend in their life. Yeah. It just takes a part of their life. She's there, what the hell? But for a Chinese guy mostly you are number one priority. You are their life or at least you know very big part of it. Exactly. But sometimes it can make you feel a little... Trailed even? It's a little too much. Like we're from countries where personal space is very important and like I need my personal space and then you go over there. But I think we should we should also try to explain to them what we mean. What this girl she means with like hyper caring. Like what's a few of the very like common things Chinese guys do that is hyper caring. I think one is definitely if you're on your period. Your boyfriend, Chinese boyfriend, he will say you have to stay at home. You cannot go anywhere. You have to drink hot water. You're not allowed to eat ice cream. You're not allowed to eat anything that's cold. You're not allowed to exercise. You're not allowed to move at all. You just have to stay at home and chill chill chill chill chill until the period is over. I think that's super sweet actually. When I'm on my period my boyfriend looks up for an empty remedy on his phone and he's like super nice, he's extra nice to me and I really love that because most guys actually they don't even know about periods at all. In general we don't talk about like we don't talk about food. Yeah, or they think okay you're on a period so that means you're annoying. Yeah. You're in a bad mood. Yeah, in a bad mood. I'll leave you for five days and then I'll come back in the middle. Chinese guys are super nice super caring. Extremely caring. For me personally I like to drink cold things even though I'm on my period and I also know. Right? And I also do exercise but I usually just tell the guy that that's what I do and they usually they usually say that it's fine. But I really like that they just talk so openly about it like you don't have to be nervous about that at all. Okay so that's one thing yeah another thing is texting. Oh yeah. So Chinese guys like to stay in constant communication with you. Yeah, constant contact. And they text you they ask how you are what you're doing and you should text back. Yeah. Yes. That's I think that's a big difference from us from like especially me from North and Europe. Like Danish guys never look on their phone and they're like it's not important. I had a boyfriend once he was like yeah I saw you in the morning and then I saw you at night. So why would I want to talk to you the whole day? And I was like I'm so crazy and love I just want to talk with you all the time. So I like that about Chinese guys because it's it's I love to be in contact. Yeah me too. I'm also a type of person who you know likes to communicate with people that are close to me. Which I do. Yeah. Yeah. Especially when when they close so so those are some of the things the Chinese guys do. And I have a feeling that this girl she is thinking okay it's a little too much like chill. I guess it's also like if she has the flu he won't let her out or like if she is uncomfortable in some kind of way he's gonna carry all her things and tell her to sit down or I don't know but I'm just guessing you know she a lot of I've met a lot of messing well western girls who were like ah it's a little bit too much like please let me be you know just for a little bit I still like you but just chill. Yeah. So yes we have definitely experienced this and it depends I think it depends very much about the person and also like both of the people I think because as we said a lot of these things we actually really appreciate I told Kat that when I if I'm seeing a foreign guy like a guy who's not from China not Asian I always get really disappointed I'm like why did you not ask me if I came home safely or why did you not contact me the next day or why did you not do so that you know like didn't you pick me up from the airport. Oh yes. Oh yes the Chinese guys like I've had Chinese guys coming to what? coming to the airport to pick me up even though I told him you don't have to come it's after midnight like it's way too much trouble for you and he was still standing there and I was so happy to see him and and I was really thinking wow that's that's amazing yeah but sometimes it can it makes me feel a little entrap yeah for instance I have my own hobbies I like to travel I like to now see my friends and we had some quarrels in the past that he's more the you know the guy who likes to stay at home or do stuff with me and so he was asking me a lot of questions like why do you have to go out all the time when I'm out in the bag he's like when are you coming back and I don't like you know being controlled like this because sometimes I don't know. It can feel like controlling. Sometimes I don't know when I'm coming back and I also you know I don't want to justify myself all the time so there's still some tension here we have to talk about this a lot you know that no one is feeling excluded or bad about the subject and and and I think the advice we want to give you people who are having this problem is to just talk about it I guess like accept some of the things because it is also cultural you know that's the thing when you're in a cultural relationship if your boyfriend or husband or date is from China like if he's China Chinese it's different if he grew up in America obviously so AMWF just it just means Asian guys so it could be Asian guy wherever he came from wherever he was brought up so there are big differences but when we're talking we talk our experiences with Chinese guys mostly who grew up in China and they're definitely cultural differences so you know just appreciate it I guess you know and if it's really too much much for you just tell him there's a limit just tell him there are a few things you would like him to not do but be open I think that's the most important thing in a relationship like AMWF relationship because dating across borders and cultures it's not easy yeah it's not I totally agree with you but I would also suggest you not to over adapt so stay yourself that's true you have to be yeah try to understand his side but also talk about your side of the story and until you have find some kind of you know agreement and understanding you can't always adapt to the other person because over time it will make you feel uncomfortable in this relationship so stay true to yourself and even if it means you fight with your boyfriend a lot but sometimes it's better to fight than to you know pretend being another person that you're not don't pretend and don't stay quiet about it you know let him know just be honest communication it's Kate guys exactly it's Kate yes that was all for today's video I really hope that you liked this I hope that you learned a little bit or could take some of it with you into your relationship with a nation guy or a white girl or whoever you're dating you know we hope that it's useful and please remember if you have any questions or anything you want to know about dating AMWF dating please send me a message you can send me an email email address below info at laneatround.com you can also send me just a message on Facebook and Instagram I'm pretty all over the place online so you just send there as you can send there as well later around thank you very much to Catherine for joining this pleasure she is my help here talking about dating Asian guys now I'm gonna send her home to her boyfriend yes we have a apartment to decorate yes so thank you for watching have a great day evening whatever you are in the world and Catherine and I will see you again very very soon Lingling and Catherine is that yeah and bye bye bye bye I don't know how to start it so no that's the problem that I don't know what to say