A long time ago I created a video about how to discipline your child without yelling or hitting and I got some great feedback from that video so I decided to do a series about that topic. If you haven't watched the first video make sure if you get done with this video that you go back and watch part one. If you are a mom with young kids make sure you stick around and watch the full video because in this video I'm going to be talking about the importance of treating your child the way that you want to be treated. I'm a wife, my husband and I we have been married for 29 and a half years. I'm a mom and also a stepmom. My husband and I we have nine kids together so we have a huge family. One thing that I am proud of and that's I was able to raise my children without having to yell our spank and to get them to listen to me, I should get their attention. One of the key things that I have learned in my life is that the importance of treating people the way that I want to be treated, what I put out I receive back in my life and a lot of parents don't realize that it's a key to raising children to treat them the way that you want to be treated. If you treat your child the way that you want to be treated, when they become adults they won't have so many different issues or mental stuff going on in their life because of something that happened in their childhood or because of something that their parents have said or have done. So if you just go by that one basic rule with your child you would get that same treatment back. Give your child respect. Even when you given them an order something that you want them to do for example if you want them to clean up their room are to put something up or to go and get you something instead of saying clean up your room, you know, talk to them the same way that you will want your balls to talk to you. You know think about it if you at work and your supervisor will give you a list of things that he or she won't you do. How do you want them to talk to you? Do you want them to force it on you? Or do you want them to tell you in a way not so forceful not to try to throw their weight around but to tell you in a respectable way when someone has given you an order or something that they want you to do and when they ask you or give you directions of what they want you to do in the right way it makes you want to do it. That's the same way with your child when you're giving your child directions or orders you don't have to be so forceful with it. I would even say like even when it comes to a sample of your child cleaning up their room it's okay to help them sometime and there is why I think it's good to help them. You're not trying to make it hard on them and that you are there to help them. One of the main things that I have learned with raising children is that when you are disciplining your child or correcting your child to show them love don't lose your character when you are out of character that means that you're out of control. What have helped me to be a good mom with my children into raising them in a right way is that I go by how the way that I feel is something don't feel right. What I'm interacting with my children I correct that behavior. I don't do that same tactic. I have learned over the years it's more like don't raise your children like someone else's raising them but you do what you feel that's best what you feel that's right for your children. For example I was talking to my oldest biological daughter the other day and I was telling her how that I think what helped me to be a good mom and to raise my children differently is that I went by my instinct if something didn't feel right I didn't do just because everyone else that I hung around spanked their kids I didn't spank mine because it just didn't feel right for me you shouldn't have to spank your child to get them to do what you want them to do it's very simple but it worked for me. I treated my kids with respect they gave me respect my steps for you gave me respect. People as a whole give me respect and I know it's not because I'm so good it all have to do it me treating them the way that I want to be treated me put it out what I want to receive so the main thing that I want you to get from this video is that your child is a human being the same way you won't love and respect your child won't that from you as well and not only that your child will gain more self-esteem and also confidence when you treat them the right way to them with respect it builds them up it builds up their character in a way that they feel about yourself when you give your child love and respect it will change their behavior towards you and also others. I have a question for you do you think it's important to respect your child if you enjoyed this video and you liked my message make sure you hit the subscribe button and also the notification bell that way you will be notified every time I upload a new video if there is a particular topic that you want me to talk more about or if you have a question that you need to ask me you can email me at chessflowatgmail.com thank you for tuning in bye