The second thing we have to absolutely address and it will take so long before you get anywhere with it is lying. Lying man, kids lie and they will convince themselves that they didn't. I didn't say that, I never said that. I swear you said it to me, I was there. I didn't. I recorded it, here's the video. I didn't say it, I swear I didn't. They'll watch the videos I didn't do. They did not. They somehow convinced them. You know why that happens? It happens because the first time they lied and they actually admitted that they lied. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. You lied, my house. Tad doesn't. So now, first you said, please tell me the truth. What did you actually say? And they finally said it and then you came down with the axe. So the next time I'm like, I will take all of this. But once I admit that I lied, I know what comes next. You know what? I am not doing that. I am not admitting to this crime again. There's pleading guilty in this house. Does not work out for you. You got to stop that first. You cannot punish. You cannot punish extra for something that happened that's already made you angry. So the mother is angry because the child lied. Or because the child did something bad. Then she's angry because he lied about it. Then she's angry because she's telling me the truth. I'm giving you one last chance. One last chance. I'm going to ask you one last time. Maybe she's going to ask six more times. But she says one last time. Tell me, and this is the only time I'm going to ask. I'm not going to ask again. Did you do it? No? Okay, I'm going to ask one last time. Before I tell your father, one more time. I didn't do it. I didn't do it. And you'll go to bed. You'll cry. You'll wake up. I didn't do it. I didn't do it. And you'll stick to it. And you're like, how do I deal with this? And you said, I know you did it. I know you did it. I mean, making me even more angry. You get angry. And he gets more defensive. And you get angry. And you get more defensive. At the end of the day, you start pulling out your hair. And you're like, I don't know what the end of the husband comes on. I don't know what to do with this one. He lied. You're like, you lied? No. No, it starts over again. How do we have to deal with this? We have to take those situations. And sometimes, you just believe them. Even though they're lying. I believe you. Because I trust you. You wouldn't lie to me. You promised last time you wouldn't lie. So I trust you. And the other kids are like, what? I trust him. You're fine. You're not a children. And let him get away with a lie three or four times. Guess what's going to happen? Children are not inherently evil. Children are inherently good. Their nature is goodness. So when they do something bad and you don't punish them for it, then they have an opportunity to ask their conscience. If you punish them for it, their conscience was not bothered. Because they already got punished for it. When they get punished for it, they don't feel bad. Because they did something bad and they paid for it. There's no conscience. But if you don't punish them once in a while, I said, pick your battles. You don't have to get them for every time. Pick your battles and say, OK, I trust you. You didn't do it. She must have got it wrong. She must not have remembered properly. When you slapped her, she must have been sleeping and imagining it. The mark on her face, I don't know, is red coloring. I don't know what it is. Doesn't even look like your hand. Looks more like a foot. You know? So it's OK. You're not in trouble. You know what that does over time? Mama, I want to tell you something. I did do it. And then you can, when you console, you say, it's OK. It's OK. I still trust you. I still trust you. And what you've done is you've taken the child away from being defensive. You know? But it takes a little bit of long-term thinking to be able to do that. You won't be able to do that the first time. And it's very hard to forgive those kinds of things, right? Especially if they heard another child. If they're wrong, somebody else. It's hard. And you have to take another child and take them to a court and say, I know. I know. I trust you too. I'm not angry at you either. And I know that it's something wrong. But you don't have to be happy if they get punished. That's the other thing. One child gets happiness only when the other one gets punished. And they get so used to it. She pulled my ear the other day. And they just came back from Scotland, my family. And when the little one came to me and said, you know, I'll be. She pulled my ear one day. I was like, when? I don't know. One of the yesterday's. I was like, what do you want me to do? He was punished her. I was like, will I make you happy? Huh? Sometimes kids do that. They get a kick out of the other one getting punished. They do. You don't want to create that either. With the little kids, with the two year old, it's okay. You want to entertain them. So you bring the older one and you slap your own arm a couple of times. And you tell her to say, ow. You know, she's ow, ow. It hurts. And then you happy now, Alidia? Yeah. That's cool. But with older kids, when they get happy, when the other one gets punished, that's a problem. That's a punishable offense. That itself is a punishable offense. Why are you happy? When do you get out of that? You know? That's something we have to address with our children. That's so that there are two things so far. Tantrums. Lying. Lying. And lying, it's a long-term process. You don't get lying out of somebody's system right away. Especially because they don't even see it as lying anymore. They just see it as saving themselves. And kids, when they lie a lot, you know what happens? They actually start believing it themselves. They become better than any actor you have ever seen. They believe they take on the role, boy. They will own it. And so you become extremely dumbfounded. Where do you even begin? Well, begin by not tackling it. Begin by disarming, taking the fear away. That's the second thing, right? So the third thing I want to highlight is when children are only happy, and I kind of alluded to this now, when children are only happy, when the other one loses something, or when the other one got punished or something like that.