Hey my fellow follicle frontiers man it's DJ from Carrots and Brotherhood. In today's video I'm going to give you three tips to keep yourself centered so that you can reduce the impact of losing your hair. Stay tuned. Welcome back to the channel. If it's your first time here, thanks for stopping by losing your hair sucks. Let's just get it out there. You know it, I know it, everybody knows it. And I know from personal experience, the hair loss can cause a lot of problems like depression and anxiety. So the first piece of advice I want to give you is you need to find something to do with your time. I know this sounds really cliche but let me clarify. What I don't want you to do is I don't want you to just become a jimrat and hit the gym and get buff and swole because you think that's going to make other people see you differently or make you forget that you're losing your hair. One of the things about humans that sets us apart from all the other animals in the animal kingdom, we crave creating things. And when we are not creating something, we feel aimless. When we feel aimless, little things can begin to eat away at our self image. When we start losing our self image, that's when we can fall into the trap of things like depression and anxiety. You have to understand that happiness cannot come from other people and leave you feeling fulfilled. People begin to look for happiness in their partner. They begin to look for happiness in their friends. They begin to look for happiness in substances like alcohol. Look guys, I'm not going to sit here and judge your lifestyle. But what I would like the challenge you to do is I want you to really sit down and think about what can you create. What is something that you could learn today that you didn't know yesterday? You know, what is something that the world needs that isn't there yet? But there is a clear need for it. Creating something gives like the ultimate joy, the ultimate pleasure, which will help you deal with problems of like hair loss. Because hair loss, it really can stifle and it can really stagnate a person. Okay, that loss of identity is a big hit. But if you're creating something, then you kind of buffer yourself from all of the negative effects that hair loss can have. If you're not sure about how you can create something, think about a skill that you wish you had or think about some kind of trade that you want to learn. And YouTube search that man, like YouTube is the second largest search engine in the world. Google being the first in Google owns YouTube. You can literally learn anything on YouTube today. If you are one of those guys that's like really depressed and losing hair and you're not really creating something, go online and just search like how to use Adobe Premiere Pro or how can I speak more confidently. The second thing I want to challenge you to do is I want you to really analyze the people that you keep around you. Hair loss is a rough deal, man. And the only thing that can make it rougher is being around people that continually try to speak negatively about you losing your hair. Whether they tell you to just shake your head or like, oh, you're losing your hair. You get the ball to the last time. I don't know about you, but if I hear you tell me about that type of person, I would say that that person, either one, doesn't have your best interest at heart or two, is dealing with their own insecurities and their project identity onto you. Misery less company. Reliable one. Adulines your circle of people that you keep around you and if those people aren't pushing you to do better, to create something. If they aren't creating anything themselves, you know, you need to really start injecting positivity into your circle of friends. Find somebody who is doing better than you. Yeah, it's intimidating to really be in the same room with somebody who is really, you know, they're doing things. Like, if I was in a room with Gary Vaynerchuk or if I was in a room with like Barack Obama or if I was in a room with like an Oprah Winfrey, dude, I would feel slightly intimidated, but at the same time, I feel so energized. This is infectious positivity that you get from being around somebody who is doing better than you is doing things that are greater than themselves. Just change one or two people that are in your inner circle. I personally had to like literally weed out and shrewd fat from my life and I had to cut off people that, you know, all they do is drink on the weekends. I cut those people out my life or I had a lot of colleagues and co-workers who were just always like wet blankets, like negative nancies. Anytime I come with some idea, they're like, oh, that's not gonna work or, oh, this or oh, that. And it's never like, hmm, I never thought about that. Or, hmm, I like your idea. Let's build on that. You gotta, you gotta cut the people from your life, man. The crabs in a barrel do what's gonna happen is you're gonna wake up one day, you know, two, three, four, five years now and you have wasted time. Okay, I have cut as much negativity and in some cases, pragmatism from my life and I have a very close knit group of people that I trust and we collectively lift each other up. W island with them. I don't even think about my hair loss. Like, I literally don't worry about the small shit anymore. And I'm not saying that you're losing your hair is small, but compared to growing a company or compared to traveling the world or compared to sharing deep philosophical conversation with somebody who really connects with you on that level, you know, it kind of just dematerializes into something that's not important anymore. And the last thing I'd like to challenge you to do may be a bit ambitious, particularly if you're one of those people who don't have the financial resources to do it, but it is possible. And what I really recommend you guys to do is to travel somewhere outside of your country. This goes for any of you that are watching the video, but specifically for guys who live in the United States. I've been living in South Korea for six years, man. I'm an American. You know, I'm from America, from Deep South New Orleans, Louisiana. One thing I can tell you about Americans is that even though we value individualism, at the same time, we have a very collectivistic way of thinking. Like, society and the media really has a deep impression on the way that we operate. And so it would come to things like hair loss, for example. I don't know why, but there's stigma about hair loss. There's a stigma about guys wanting to do something about their hair loss. In Korea, people don't talk about you. People don't sit there in your face until you're bro to shave your fucking head, man. Yo, you're looking more and more bowed everyday. Like, they don't talk like that. Coming here was like, I'm opening because you know, I've been around it by people like that. Like, especially in the military, we're just fucking, sometimes we're just rude, man. And being surrounded by people who are always criticizing you. It's Americans, we criticize everything. We criticize each other, we criticize the weather, we criticize how long the line is, we criticize. The shoe fucking got wet. We do, we find reasons to complain and criticize everywhere. But it's not like that in other countries. It's not. And by traveling the world, you can actually open up your mind and see that in the States, maybe hair loss is a big deal, but in other places, you know, it's really not. Once you're able to reframe this hair loss journey that you're on, it begins to kind of lose its power over your life. You know, save your money, save your pennies and just choose a country on the globe and just go. Is hair loss going to be the end of the world for you? No. You're going to be so busy doing other things and sleeping because you're so tired from hustling. There's no energy left. We just spend on worry about hair loss. As always, my name is DJ, founder of Heritage Brotherhood. I'll see you guys in the next video.