Welcome everyone to Depression to Expression. My name is Scott and today we're talking about how to help someone that you know with depression and this is this is what the channel is all about depression anxiety if you're new. Welcome don't forget to subscribe and please leave a comment and and a like if you enjoyed this video. I'm gonna get right to it because us millennials are attention spans are very very short so I'm gonna try to make this quick helping someone with depression has to be one of the most selfless things you yourself can do because you can't expect anything in return. If you know a little bit about depression or you yourself have experienced it you know that you can't just snap out of it you can't ask someone or motivate someone to snap out of it. When when helping someone with depression it's a pretty simple video because there is way more things that don't work than things that do. The things that you can do to help someone with depression are very short and I'm gonna talk about them in just one second but the first thing I want to mention is you can't expect anything in return. You can't the way you help them you're not gonna get maybe any acknowledgement from them. You may not even get a response or a thank you. You have to trust in yourself that what you're doing is the most incredible thing and that person you're helping at that moment owes you their life. Their life is in your hands and trust me we appreciate it more than you will ever know. And I'm sure we'll tell you that when we come out of depression. But for now I just want you to know that one thing is helping someone with depression requires the most unconditional kind of love and complete selflessness with absolutely no expectations to get anything in return. So that's one thing kind of me saying I'm amazed by you and I'm so proud of you for even clicking on this video and wanting to help a friend family member someone out with this illness. And the second thing is there's a few things you can do to help someone with depression. How about a survey? Do you think that giving someone a million dollars in cash while they're on the couch depressed? Do you think that'll get them out of depression? You said no good because it doesn't mean a damn thing. It doesn't. What if you went up to that person and you did your best comedy routine? I'm talking the best material you had. You wouldn't pursue your career as a comedian because you wouldn't get one laugh out of this dude. You would seem like the most unfunny person on earth. There's so few things you can do. I'll tell you what you can do and what makes all the difference. Ready to shot off the video? In my experience, this is what has helped the most and I'll give you an example after two. Love means being there for someone. Love is simply just being there. Be available to that person. Be on call for that person. Let them know sincerely whatever you need. I am here for you. Let them know that they can count on you. Let them know that they're not in this alone and you have their back. You are in their corner for as long as it takes. Don't put a timeline. Don't say just wait until next week you'll feel better. Don't put a timeline on anything. Say as long as you need me, I am here for you. Visit them. Call them. Text them. Be there. The one example I want to give is what a friend helps when I'm in a very low state. A friend has done this for me. A very good friend. Someone so dear to me and close to my heart. When I'm in a low state, somehow she always knows. But she will send me a text every morning. She'll send me a text every morning. Something maybe so simple, maybe a motivational quote. Maybe just saying good morning, Scott. You got this. Maybe just something that simple. Good morning, Scott. It's okay if you didn't have a good sleep. It's such a fresh day. New opportunities. You can do this one step at a time. I'll talk to you when you get home. I'm always available. I'm here for you. Every morning she sends me a text and here's the thing that I said at the beginning. I usually won't reply. Sometimes you don't have the energy. You don't have the will. And I know it's just a few pushes on a phone. But she doesn't expect to reply. That gesture alone means so much to a person suffering knowing that they are not alone and you are there for them. No matter what. And no matter for how long loneliness is the biggest part of depression. Loneliness kills people. And by you being in their corner, by you showing and proving your support to them, that's all they need. When I was in university suffering pretty, pretty bad. You could give me a million dollars. Give me anything I ever wanted. Materialistic wise. Give me all the money in the world. Literally all the money in the world. Anything I kind of would want in a healthy state. You know, I kind of want the new iPhone and I want a new MacBook and I want a new camera and a microphone. None of that matter. All that I wanted to do was call my sister and to talk with her. People matter in these moments. People matter. And you matter for this person that you're helping right now. And just be there for them. Simple. Just be that loving, kind, gentle, warming presence in their darkness. And they will thank you for it and they appreciate it so much right now. Thanks for watching everyone and I'm so proud of each and every one of you for clicking this video because I guess it means that you are looking to help someone who is suffering. And that is the most courageous thing you could possibly do in this world. Take care. Love you.