Well, we've decided no doula and we've actually got this doula bent and that would be me. Hey everyone, welcome back. So you found out we were pregnant and we showed you how Ben found out and how we told our families. But today we wanted to talk about just an overview of what we're thinking for our pregnancy, how we've been preparing for the birth and then how we envision or would like our birth to go. Because we know many of you are probably wondering with how different our lifestyle is, what choices we've made. So we're gonna go over that and then upcoming videos, we will go into more detail on those topics. So a big question that we think in a lot is, well, is it a boy or a girl? And our response usually is what? We don't know yet. I mean we have our guesses. But we're not gonna find out. So yeah, we're keeping it a surprise until the baby is born. Going kind of old school with it, right? Yeah. And normally you find out that sex is the baby either through an ultrasound or even blood work. But we have decided we are passing on a lot of the routine pregnancy tests that they normally do throughout your pregnancy. And so we're not doing any ultrasounds and we're not doing a lot of the other tests as well. And less our midwife brought up a reason that we would need to. But everything seems to be going well so far. And we decided that we're gonna be doing all of this at home, right? Yes. Yeah, we decided that you know we feel more comfortable doing the birth at home. I'm a little bit of a spurt so that works out great. Others feel doing it at the hospital and that's totally fine. It's what you guys feel most comfortable and where you want to get birth. Yeah, I was born at home. My three sisters were born at home. So we kind of had that going for us, right? That we'd be doable. We'd be able to know that it can happen. And so then it was just finding a midwife that would want to come and deliver the baby at home. Right. And one that we felt comfortable with too. Yeah. That's important. So we like interviewed like four. It's funny how it all worked because like the lady that delivered me and my three sisters at home, we reached out to her. She's well in her 70s or 80s by now. And so she's definitely not delivering baby still. But she referred us to the midwives that we ended up choosing. Yes. Yeah. So it's two midwives, their business partners and they will be delivering the baby. And we also plan to have a water tub there so I can labor in it and possibly deliver in it depending on what I feel comfortable with. But that always helps with pain management. And we're prepared if things change. This is just our plan as of now. I mean if something was to happen that could actually at risk or the baby at risk, we'd be in the hospital if we absolutely need to be there. Yeah. We are mentally preparing ourselves for that because we know it can go in any direction and that's out of our control. And then there is this thing called a doula and you can get a doula along with the midwife while we've decided no doula and we've actually got this doula bent and that would be me. So I'm going to be the doula. Yeah. We thought long and hard about it, right? Yeah. I think we almost were going to, I was looking into it. But then we thought about it, we also talked to our midwife and they said you know it's whatever you're comfortable with. A lot of times the husband really is the one that is going to help push through the labor with the wife. So we felt like we're a team with so many things and that felt really good for us. So and we're so comfortable with each other. Like having someone else massaging you and getting you know like there could be two of you doing that. Okay. Well you know there's not going to be and it's going to be me. Yeah. So yeah we're excited to for me to be able to do all this stuff. I really think that I can do it and I can do a better job and comforting you and I think you're going to be more comfortable with me. Yeah. Yeah. So with that said, that needs to be trained on it, right? So our midwife suggested the Bradley Method classes. So we've been taking the women we're taking it through. She has a 12 week course set up. I think we're on like our fifth or sixth class now. It's like once a week, two hour class via Zoom and it has been teaching us all about like the stages of labor and coaching him on all the right techniques to keep me relaxed and calm throughout the labor in the birth. Yeah we're definitely not taking it for the nutrition of the class. Yeah. There's a nutrition part of it and it is not in a line with it. Our beliefs and what we feel like keeps the body healthy and a baby healthy. Yeah and with that said, we have not changed how we are eating. We are eating the same way that we were eating prior to Ashley being pregnant. We've even done a liver cleanse during the pregnancy. So like yes. Things have not changed. We're not incorporating more protein or eating dairy or eggs or gluten or you know any of this stuff that we know is bad for us. We're doing this. Right. Right. There are just things that I have adjusted knowing that there's certain supplements I shouldn't be taking because it might be too harsh for the baby staying away from like strong herbs. And I've been incorporating more things like lots of potatoes, good, clean carbs, bananas, things like that that I know helped develop a healthy strong baby. Also with the food we've been making sure we've been incorporating a lot of adrenal snacks because that's really important when you are giving birth to a baby because when you give birth to a baby you are using a lifetime of adrenaline. So you want to make sure your adrenal glands are in tip top shape so that you have all this energy to push out a baby. And we've also been making lists of what we want at the birth for keeping up our energy. So we'll have like smoothies and juices and other liquid like coconut water to keep both of our energies up during the birth and we'll go into more detail that I definitely want to do a video on all the things that I'm going to have prepared for that. Yeah we're going to have like a team of people juicing stuff and like putting all her liquids together and okay order out you know. And of course it's been important to make sure that I'm also staying active. Right which has been pretty easy because I don't have a desk job. We are pretty active with our farming even just our micro green business. So that has kept me very active but of course I'm not doing any strenuous lifting. You got precious cargo. Yeah. So and our Bradley method class is also incorporating and having us do certain exercises like squats and things like that. So we can keep in doing that. Yeah. And then lastly mentally preparing ourselves has been really important. So we've been doing a lot of prayer which is something we were doing before but just praying a lot about the baby and the labor and the delivery and the pregnancy. And praying with the baby. And praying with the baby. And then also doing meditation. So like Anthony the medical medium he has some really great meditations that help like with releasing fear and keeping calm about things going on in the world. And then I've been listening to this really great app called the Christian Hypno baby app. I'll have to be exacting. But that is also connected to God and is about saying calm and relaxed about the whole thing. So that's been really good. So just mentally preparing ourselves as well. Yeah so this is the plan. We know things don't always go as planned but this is our plan. And we're hoping everything goes as planned for praying for it. So yeah. So we wanted to kind of open the whole pregnancy video realm that we plan on doing. Yeah. Which is kind of talking about like all of the plan that things we're going to be doing and then eventually there'll be videos on this. Yes it was so hard not to go into detail on these things right now but we will have videos on those topics. So you guys can learn more but that will be it for now. We thank you guys so much for joining us. Feel free to reach out with any questions and we'll be around soon. Yeah see you. Bye.