What do you have to consider? Emotional intelligence, emotional instability, does she have too much to consumer debt? She gonna spend all your money? Cause some of you guys look for shortcuts. We're gonna talk about that in a second. I'm gonna just make some money, and she gonna be with me. Dr. Dre, Jeff Bezos. How's that money working out for him? Ain't working out, they have to split with it, right? Okay, does she spend all your money? Does she gonna lose, she had too many sexual partners? She is student-owned debt. You know, 70% of the student-owned debt is owned by women. How did that happen? Go to college, make something of yourself. Okay, they got them. Alright, sometimes you know, sometimes the fool is just ready. Born every day, they got them. 70% of the student-owned debt owned by women. What's the likelihood that you've been introduced to a woman? And she got more degrees in the thermometer. She waved right in front of your face. And she worked at job at human resources. She got that. Investigated. She probably didn't even finish her degree. She got that. Okay, see, this is the stuff you don't see. And the other stuff you don't see is right here, the shark. See, you don't throw your baloney pony out there in the sea, hoping, wishing. Thinking I got whatever it is together. I was gonna make me immune to all the BS. There's the shark. Waiting for you. What is it? Society, the expectations. He's the victim. 100% of the time. Okay, 98.9% of the time. She's always gonna be the victim, no matter what you do. You start yelling at her, you do whatever you need to do. She's gonna be the victim. Just know that. She's always gonna come out of your marriage or relationships, smelling like roses. You, not so, just know that. And knowing's not enough, you have to accept it, right? What about this, the government? You wanna get married? Where's my guys that said they wanna get married? You know who you're marrying, the government. Not marrying her? Don't marry a state. And they're gonna give you a piece of paper, a marriage license with a whole bunch of family law codes. You're not gonna be introduced to until she's ready to introduce them to you. And then you'll learn them, holy moly. I don't know, I think I was gonna have to do all of that. Yep, that's what you just agreed to. But you like a piece of paper, right? You're gonna be introduced to people walking around with the itchy scratchy, as I call it on my show. 25% of women walking around with boils in between their legs. Okay, that's a statistic. Okay, for you cold approach gamers, okay? Pregnancy, what if I knock her up? All it takes is one to get loose, slip up. All it takes is one, and she got 18 years of your child support money. Any ability to move that kid, all across the damn county, all across the damn state. You agreed to that when you lie down to her. That's the shark. And the marriage, of course, with the statistics so ridiculous. This is what I talk about here on my channel, okay? I'll also talk about this. And it's a little bit blurry. This is patterns of human behavior. I know a lot of divorce people. I know some married, I know a lot of married people. I know a lot of unhappily married people. We talk about the divorce rate, 60%. What about the people that are stuck together? They don't wanna leave, they can't afford a divorce. They can't get divorced cause of religion. They too old to get divorced. All right, there's a whole bunch of things that are happening here. So I created this marriage wheel and said, this is what's gonna happen in your marriage, okay? From step one to step zero, okay? Right to the end, you're gonna connect with her. Y'all gonna be all of you, W. Y'all might, that's my baby, that's my boo. Then eventually, you'll say, let's stay together forever. It'll be great. Listen, if you can find this and do it, more power to you, okay? But in today's world is gonna be difficult. Then I'll tell you, eventually, you gotta have to invest in this, she's gonna want a house, it's gonna be the car, kids. A lot of things are gonna come along from it. You're gonna spend money. While you're doing this, she's good. She's right in, by and time right now. Okay? She's like, oh, he's investing in this. I'm gonna just sit this out. Okay, I'm gonna do whatever you need to do. By the time you've got fully invested, you get to the stage of what I call the bait and switch. At that particular point, once you're invested, she can do whatever the hell she wanna do. Well, whatever you said, I was supposed to be doing, I don't wanna do it no more. Now, you can't go to your family court office to say, you know what, she not giving me any, she not doing anymore, monkey double back flips on me anymore. Can you make her, give me sex? Nope. She's spending all my money. Can you make her stop spending all my, nope. Okay, you have no authority. She can change her mind and change your world. Now, how many times is this happening in the country? Over and over and over again. How many people have been to the family courthouse? Like the building in a courtroom, okay? See, a lot of you guys, only three people raised their hand, by the way. A lot of you guys haven't even seen what people look like when they used to love each other. They used to love, these people loved each other. And now they're dragging them through hell. See, if you haven't seen it, you don't understand anything I'm talking about. This is why I wrote the books, we'll get to that. Okay, after the bait and switch, she's gonna disengage from you. How many times is this happening? A lot. Over and over again, every day, and you don't even hear about it. The only time you guys hear about it is when Dr. Drake gets divorced, right? That's the only time you guys are paying attention. Oh man, it sucks to be him. That's how men deal with it. It'll never happen to me though. That's what I thought too. Okay, and then they have all of these reinforcements to make you cooperate. Family court, child support system, the family counseling, alimony, you lose your kid. They have all of these systems in place from the make you, and listen, I'm not saying that they're wrong for it. What I'm saying is, the systems are in place already hedging their bets against your failure. It's almost guaranteed. It's almost guaranteed. Okay? Now, say for instance, you say, well, maybe don't take me to child support court. What have you now done? You've now been a journey to her. She's in control. She has authority now. Now, you didn't get divorced. You didn't become a statistic, but now she has authority. You're done. You can never recover from that. That's the future of the modern relationship. So you can have some choices, and some people say, I'll try again. Maybe it was just her. That was her. She was the one acting up. You never take accountability for your lack of leadership. You never step up as a man. So you go out there and you try again. Remember I said 70%, 80% the next time you do it. Okay? So the reality is this, man.