What are some reasons why you have broken up with girls before and do you have one that's like that you feel is really Happy breaker. Yeah, so don't you have a deal breaker list because Jared has a deal breaker list kind of right there's like certain things Like if you can't get along with my ex-wife like that's part of my life right right gone Don't get on with my friends Matt my friends. You're not easy going in a saspect so Yeah, I would say a bad dream. I've been yeah like sloppy yeah Yeah, I don't like lying. That's like a big one for me like when I catch people in like little white lies Then I'm like, well, what else? Okay, everybody lies to maybe benefit themselves in some regard or another but It's hard because a lot of relationships. I've actually been kind of the the guy that's fucked up a lot of it as far as you know Not necessarily like loyalty. I just been like Squirt and I was young right and I think that's why like marriage has been pretty good to me these days Yeah, I got a decent head on my shoulders. It's still hard to fucking yeah, I got no I'm the same way though like I had to practice marriage on my belt and then the second one is like okay cool Sometimes you need to route like run down in the Vegas and show everybody your tadpoles, you know Every single one indiscriminately Would you like that's a team and Joe? Everyone oh, okay, I don't know. I thought it was a fun joke that you guys fun time you guys had together I don't know I never give in tadpoles in the blog I don't even like Vegas Did pull the Tiffany right there I know Like so you saying typically you're the one who's broken up with them No, no, I'm very convincing in my arguments. Yeah, okay. No, I've just had weird relationships I've actually only been in about for real relationships in my whole entire life and One person I dated was absolutely phenomenal. I was just kind of young and stupid and we wouldn't work out I'm a little too crazy for her but phenomenal to this day love her family love her And then two the other ones just didn't work based off of like Completely different people. Okay, you know, I mean one of them is terrible person But not the one you know. Oh, yeah, yeah, it's not bad, but no No, I think the biggest thing with relationships for me is like Why do people and this question for you guys? Why do motherfuckers go scorched earth? I've never got that because I've never just liked someone more than I've dated than than one point in my life and Other than this a little bit, but when I walked away I was just like I wish you the best I wish her happiness because I didn't provide that for her Even though I could say all the bad things and why I think she's a shit person But I don't wish will ill will and that it's like the social media thing everybody has to make someone else look bad to make Themselves look good. It's like yeah, it's quite possible that both of you are okay humans Yeah, just didn't work out and guess what your friends can still be friends with them and move It's like I fucking hate that stuff. Oh, so you're saying that you see People out there going hey, we just broke up. I'm gonna make this person look like shit Yeah, it's cream shots. I see a lot in the in groups to you and there we just like Fuck this and it's like do what does that do? I mean it think it's It's on people's insecurities, right? Yeah, because Jared was kind of talking about this too like every he's like why can't I just like If I say or if a girl says to him like I don't want to be with you anymore. I don't think it's working out I'm gonna go he's like cool like wish you well. He does it the other way. You're in a fight for a fucking day They're texting you done it up. They're like What do you want to leave me internet? Yeah, but um, he's also emotionally broken so oh, I know like I'm not comparing you guys at all But I think we're all emotionally broken in some ways Yeah, well accepting that you're not enough for somebody is one of the hardest things to do in your life But like we're just that you know, it's not even necessarily the you want it. Yeah, it's fucking brutal I think it is it boils down to you were rejected. Yeah, you're sitting there going hurt Don't want to admit there's something wrong with you So it's so much easier to point the finger at someone else and go you're the one with the black guy You're the fucking problem and I'm gonna tell the whole world about it What 100% because I'll be honest myself when I got a divorce and it didn't end great and while there was a lot of issues on his end Right like kind of why some things that end it and I could totally be bitter with him about it later on I had to look back at myself and go dude. I fucked up a lot of shit. Yeah, it wasn't just him It was both of us there was so many things that I could do better and later on like we know we're fine We should tell her well whatever, but it happens. Well, that's a that's a good point I think the best thing with all of this it's like when you walk away no matter how bad someone is like why break them down because They're essentially winning that fight if anything you should take away the things you could have done better even if they're small and Microscopic you could still go, you know, I guess I could have been a little more transparent for I went to bed and like let them know I would say or whatever the fucking stupid cases and bed yourself because guess what you're gonna Rads land someone way more fucking rad down the road absolutely. Well, that's actually what we did after the divorce We sat down and then we both went hey, what are some things you think I can bring into my next relationship? No joke That's the image her though. I mean we did because yeah, we we knew it was coming for a bit And it was one of those things where he was like hey, I'm just gonna let you know and I'm saying it for myself too That he's like I'm just he did the white lie thing and then it turned into huge lies and the major lies, right? And he's like I'm not gonna lie. I was like don't because like you are amazing guy And that was like the biggest reason why we couldn't really be together anymore and then for me I was like I'm gonna control like my anger and try to be more loving towards men I love you say and I gotta give fucking Jared a shout out man like for sure on this because What he's done and bear with me Take a lot of fucking courage man because what he does he is so open and transparent about who he is day one Where he wasn't that way when he got married the first time he's like oh, I can be a husband and then he's fucking everything that walks And I was like this is who I am and it takes such courage to do that And I think those white lies what a lot of people do is like monogamy works for me guess what it's 2020 You don't have to be monogamous if you want to have an open relationship You can find that yeah, but don't lie to the girl that just wants one dude. Yeah, you know like for what and we all go through Or fucking transgressions. I'm not saying I'm fucking perfect, but like throughout my life But yeah, just like be open and honest like that's the biggest thing because yeah Maybe your chick likes three sims too, and you can go have fun. I'm looking at what Jared said was that Military people Get married very quickly, and if you're the single guy Then you like are kind of the odd man out. So you just sort of grab whatever So the you didn't know no, it's my first marriage Yeah Everybody thought you already thought I was married You're engaged, but you rush into were you engaged to rush to some relationships in the military? Living together or something in the military you like lived with someone or something like this? No, not in the military Was everybody else, but you weren't for the most part. Yeah, I took my job a little serious And so like I remember this one time I was dating an Air Force chick and Air Force girl. Yeah, she was scary forces how to shit I was I had a lot of accolades in that deployment But I remember one day I'm flying out to go hit a target and I'm the team leader, right? Like the assault team leader and I'm thinking about like pussy and all these things on the flight to my objective And I'm like snap myself out like this is really bad for me I'm like this is why I broke up with every girl before I want to receive because I didn't want to think about her at the club Yeah, or going out and they're not being mission focused and getting my dudes dead so no that makes complete sense Yeah, that literally did not have a relationship when I was in a rage of time That's smart. I mean you do what you have to do. I know in certain training like MPJs and CCT training They tell you to stay away from girls and alcohol and just just shit like stay away from that while you're going through training Because just have your head on straight and focus on it because that's at any time guys have gotten kicked out or failed It's because of that. Oh 100% booze booze and alcohol I mean shit. I told you I think that I stayed celibate during my when I went I mean tears nothing compared to what you guys do But our serial training was difficult, right? To go through and I didn't want to get shit for being one of the only girls So I just didn't touch a guy. I didn't look at a guy. I didn't want them to think anything of me So it's easier that way because you can focus on it Well being an attractive woman in the military is a is it an absolute difficult thing? Have you seen that a lot? yourself Because you say it so I mean well because you guys you know locker room talking guys are guys And it's like when you have a testosterone filled room in a rack and you got like like 30 fucking pipe hitters That are jacked and 25 is old full of testosterone and like a girl walks you know Doesn't matter like attractive or whatever. Oh, no, yeah If I was a chick I would like to point or something or where they call it. I mean name the name Is it really true though that like maybe a five in the US is totally maybe a 10? Obviously over that 100% and I think from a guy's perspective It's so funny that girls think that it's offensive those statements I'm like if I was a chick and wasn't like genetically blessed or something as the female I either way I would probably just get a job like the CIA and just go deploy all the time because you'd have like what a what a what a fantasy And a racist that is like you get a walk out to the gym and there's like 19 Shirt fucking shirtless oiled up dudes with tattoos with packs and you're like Life's not bad. I've seen a lot of it's right Very deployment so that's for sure and that's just from the United States from many different countries Oh, of course really in special forces. I was like come to mommy like an accent. Oh, I like it though. It's Clean clean. I don't know Things