What's going on you guys welcome to the single guide channel my name is Lloyd today we're going to be talking about when she says She's always busy. So I get guys who email me ask me questions asking me hey Lloyd I know this girl really likes me, but whenever I asked her out whenever I try and make plans with her She says she's busy, okay? So what do you do in this scenario? Someone be covering three things. I'm gonna be covering number one What to do or what she actually means when she says she's busy? I'm gonna cover how to reduce the amount of times that she's going to say this and the number three I'm going to give you how to probably escape this problem all together, okay? And we'll talk about how to do that. Okay, so let's get into it When she says she's busy is she actually busy? Well, I don't know I can't read minds, but probably not okay Probably usually if a girl says she's busy Maybe she's interested or maybe she is busy, but those little excuses that If she was going for a guy that was like she was super into probably wouldn't come up Okay, she has to wake up early for work tomorrow. She really liked you Do you think she could spend one day where she gets you know maybe five or six hours of sleep instead of eight? Yeah, probably okay If she was really really into you could she postpone that project and maybe work on it tomorrow? Yeah, she probably could okay, so there's a lot of times where a girl says she's busy where she's actually not and She's maybe she likes you a little bit, but just not enough to to cancel those plans, okay? We live in the 21st century People are gonna be busy a lot Now there are times though Where a guy is asking a girl out in the wrong way where he's saying things like hey He immediately asks them out and then they just start thinking about all the things that they have to do that day And then they suddenly become busy, okay? But there is a way to ask people out to Progress things the relationship and a direction that's gonna be positive Without encountering these issues quite as much, okay? And the first thing that you have to do is stop immediately going for a meetup time or a date or saying hey, let's just hang out What you want to do is you want to get her schedule first, okay? You want to reduce the amount of nose that she get when you're going for the meetup so What do I mean by this the typical guy when they ask a girl out they'll usually be like hey you free Monday? Oh, no, okay cool are you free Tuesday night? Oh, okay cool. What about Wednesday night? He's already gotten three nose this girl is getting used to rejecting this guy What he should have done instead was say hey, what are you up to this week? So ask her what she's up to this week. She says well, I have to work Monday Tuesday Wednesday, but Thursday evening You know maybe maybe I'm free or maybe she doesn't say anything on Thursday So then ask her then say hey, well, what what's going on with you Thursday? And if she says oh nothing Then that's when you start to make the plans And I would open with something like Okay, so you're free Thursday. Well, don't say that you could say So now that you know that she's free Thursday you say oh wine or beer. What do you prefer wine or beer? Another one that works too is you could say how do you feel about Sunshine and rooftops. That's one that I've used before and watch my stuff Okay, basically this is a question that she can't say no to everybody loves sunshine and rooftops Most people too Maybe some people don't but like 99% of the population loves sunshine and rooftops Okay, you ask wine or beer. That's more of either or question It's not something that she's gonna say no to so you've actually reduced the amount of knows that you get now Whatever she chooses she's already kind of put herself in a position Which is probably gonna say yes to the next thing that you suggest, okay? You know she's free on Thursday. You know she likes wine or you know she likes beer You know she likes sunshine and rooftops or whatever whatever. Yes question you gave her Now you just have to come up with a plan so cool well There's this cool wine bar that we can go to they have happy hour on Thursday nights and that could be a great plan Okay, the way you can word it is I would be maybe a little bit more descriptive I would say well, there's this cool wine bar that opened up They have this special that goes on from seven to nine would love to hear all about your travels during that time Okay, so a lot of what's preventing girls from meeting up It's necessarily that they're busy, but it's the fear that they might miss something It's the fear of going on a date. There's a lot of like fears involved If you have too many unknowns people are just gonna come up with excuses So once you know that she's free once you know that she likes the thing that you're going to do I'll all it just becomes is setting up the date in the time But the way I led into it was asking you're getting her schedule first, okay? So a lot of guys what they'll do is they'll go in they won't they won't do it by that way And so that reduces a lot of those a lot of those things Okay, so but even if she's saying at this point that she's busy and you're going by this format and she's still not She's still saying that she's busy at those times You got to move on man. I don't care if this girl has said she likes you I don't care if you feel like there's a really big connection with this girl The fact of the matter is she won't meet up with you and that's really how you have to look at your life You gotta stop looking at your life as oh is this girl does this girl like me? Can I be appealing to this girl? No put yourself first dude Put yourself first and make sure that you're bringing women into your life that makes sense for you for me Even if a girl likes me if she won't meet up and her schedule is too inconvenient for me You know she's gonna have to do something to go out with me, okay? I'm not gonna break my back for somebody because there's you know because I like them. There's there's Liking is easy, okay? Once you're a high-value guy, you know, you have people in your life that that do like you and it's finding someone who makes sense for you in your life So even if you don't have that right now I encourage you to have this mentality where you can spend your time going after girls that are always busy Are never making time for you or you can go after other girls who won't be giving you this objection Okay, and I would recommend the latter far more than the former okay So hopefully this helps you guys if you've made it to the consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week. 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