Mom, I'm so tired, I can't get up the stairs! Yes, you can. Have you ever heard that before or something like it? Today I'm going to tell you about what I did when my daughter Michelle came home from school and whined like that every day for three weeks. And this idea I took off of my diala discipline. Diala discipline is my handheld tool that I created to help you when you're in situations where your child might be misbehaving. So this is a way where you can assess why your child's misbehaving and then get ideas for what to do instead. And there's a magnet on the back so you can hang another refrigerator. There's a link to an MP3 that you can listen to and hour of instructions that I give of all the different situations when your child is misbehaving and how to redirect their misbehavior. And so today I'm going to talk about what happened when Michelle, my daughter, would come home from school and she'd get to the bottom of the stairs and she'd go, I can't get at the stairs, I'm too tired. Yes, you can. I can't. Come on, you were just fighting with your brother in the car. I'm sure you can get up the stairs. I can't. And finally I just be so tired of it. I would go over and grab her and pick her up and take her up the stairs. So this was going on for about three weeks and I realized I'm having some serious misbehavior here. I need to figure this out. So I got my dial a discipline and I looked on the chart and I figured out why she was doing this. She was in what we call the goal of inadequacy and when children are in this school they feel like they can't do anything and they give up. And so there's several tools but the one that I decided to use in that instance was breaking up the problem into smaller steps and celebrating the successes. So the next day when we got home and she got to the bottom of the stairs and she started pointing, I can't get up the stairs. I was going to hide and I went over and I got down next to her and I said Michelle, do you think you could get up three stairs? I don't know. Give it a try. Good job. Way to go. How about three more? All right, right on three more and all the way up the stairs we did this going up three steps and then celebrating. And she got to the top of the stairs, she went and did her thing and the behavior stopped. She never did it again. So it really solved the problem of all the attention that she was getting every day when she had gotten home from me when I was carrying her up the stairs. I was actually perpetuating the mistaken goal of her feeling helpless and feeling like she couldn't do it. So I hope that you'll click on my website link, www.positiveparenting.com and there you can get more information about my dialed discipline. And you can purchase the dialed discipline and right when you purchase it you'll get the link to the MP3 files that you can listen to about how to deal with power struggles, how to deal with a child who's whining, how to deal with a child who's being annoying and interrupting you, how to deal with a child who says, I can't. Have a great day. Happy parenting.