Hey everyone, I hope you guys are all doing good. I'm gonna be talking about the upsides and the downsides Do having three kids three and under what are the things that surprised me? What are the things that are actually easy that I was scared about and what are the things that are pretty freaking hard? So starting off and this is something that a lot of people with kids that are close together in age Will say and that is that your oldest two play together and it is very very true That is a perk Fiona and Ezra Fiona is three now and Ezra is almost two and they played together Another good thing was I feel like the transition was easier from two to three kids because my other two were used to not being the center of my world If that makes sense they had to share me they were not the only child Fiona experienced that but she was super little when Ezra was born So she's way past that and doesn't even have a memory of before he was in her existence a hard part that I Didn't really anticipate I guess I kind of knew that it was a possibility But maybe I was living in denial because looking back now I can't imagine how I didn't think about this when everybody is screaming Everybody is screaming when my oldest two are going insane My youngest starts going insane because they're going insane and maybe he wants to be held because he's scared for his life Or maybe he wants to nurse because that's what babies do But they feed off of each other and it's like that time for one if one is screaming than the other screaming The things that Ezra wouldn't normally be going through at 21 months he's going through now because his sister is only 16 months older than him so he's starting to like Follow the patterns that she's laying out and some of them aren't so good. It is really hard It is impossible to meet everyone's needs at one time. I have two hands Yes, I have two feet, but I am not And I'm an extras and I can't use my feet for things I don't know what the word is for that So someone is always going to be upset if everyone is upset But I've kind of come to terms with the fact that I'm only human I cannot be all things to all people and that's okay Which is actually a plus to having three kids three and under because you give yourself a little bit more grace It's impossible to be perfect It's impossible to meet the needs of every single person when I only had Fiona I was way harder on myself because I only had one kid now that I have three kids I give myself a little bit more grace. I'm like Jamie You're crazy. You have three kids rain under Do just like give yourself some grace go get yourself some coffee or a wine cooler or some chocolate or some Earplugs my family feels more complete now except for the fact that we might have more kids We feel more like a tribe that I guess maybe that's a better way of putting it more little tribe We're having fun. We're all together. It feels more Full now I'm the downside of that people look at me like I have five heads when I go somewhere They're like how old are you are you 15? Why do you have three kids? Do you not know what causes that? Do you and your husband have too much sex? Maybe you should stop having babies? Do you live off of the government? These are the things that people are just like creating in their mind and I know it and they look at me like How can I figure this woman out? But on the upside of that I have learned to embrace crazy I have learned that I don't care if my kids are screaming in target Take a picture if you have time to take a picture then you should come over here and you should help me because that's what nice people do I'm conscious that other people around me, but I guess I just don't beat myself up I'm like kids are gonna be kids. We need to embrace kids in our culture instead of locking them away and saying that they're Inconvenient and having less means having more. I don't have very much time to myself Like at all. I thought that I was really busy when I had one kid and then I thought I was really busy and Insanely busy when I had two kids and now I have three kids and they don't all nap at the same time Fiona's like never napping anymore. She's upstairs playing with little people and knocking things over Hold that thought. Yeah, I don't have very much time to myself at all Leaving the house is so insane like literally my checklist is like five feet It's like the same size as me. It is crazy you guys like trying to leave the house I'm changing diapers two sets of bots that I'm changing two sets of butts two sets of butchics I'm changing diapers like crazy. I'm nursing. I'm getting snacks I'm putting shoes on feet. I'm putting shoes on the right feet because they're on the wrong I go outside I come back inside to grab stuff that I forgot I grab water bottles I grab snacks I grab extra diapers and things that I need because my emergency bag that I have in my van is empty because I am too flipping busy and going out of my mind to remember to fill it I became way more of a mama bear like if you know me in my real life you might have noticed this But with each child that I've had I've become a little bit more confident in My abilities as a mother I've grown more into myself as a mom which happens I think with everybody either the more kids you have or the longer that you are mom You just become more confident in what you're doing you know that you are doing things a certain way that you want to do them That doesn't mean that I don't take advice from people or help from people because I love help What I mean is that I don't have a problem telling somebody no thank you if they're doing something that I don't want them to do I don't have a problem telling somebody that I don't want them to take my daughter to the bathroom because only I feel comfortable with that I no longer have a problem telling somebody no thanks if they want to hold my baby and I don't want them to hold my baby I'm not crazy even though some people might think that I am but I've just become a lot more confident and okay With the decisions that I make as a mom because I know that everybody is gonna make their own decisions parenting And I really feel like my job as a mom and my calling is to pour into my kids and be as intentional as a mom That I can be you can love your children all the exact same amount I know it's bizarre and if you only have one kid It really is bizarre but you do you love your children all So much like I was telling John the other day. I just love Jude so much like my heart just grew Way bigger when I had him and it grew way bigger when I had Ezra and it grew way bigger when I had Fiona And I love all of my children equally and I would die for any of them I would cut you if you hurt them like I love my kids and so that is something that I Think I told myself I knew what happened But then when you have another one you really are amazed that it happened you have enough love to give another child All right, I am sure that there are a ton of other things that are crazy that are good that are unexpected About having three kids three and under but this video is long enough So I'm going to stop right here. I'll edit and compact it and Tie it with a bow for you so it's all nice and neat if you guys are new to my channel and you're not subscribed Welcome I would love for you to subscribe comment below and let me know if there are any crazy things about motherhood That we're unexpected for you that are great about motherhood that you love and didn't know what happened Leave that down below because I think we could all use a laugh and some sister solidarity I love you guys. I appreciate all of your love and all of your support through my channel and through my journey of figuring out What being a mom means I hope you guys are all blessed and I'll see you later. Bye