I wish a new welcome back to my husband is my best friend Erica Campbell and daughter Christo discuss saving yourself before marriage Shins and the words don't match because all guys can give great words great text message good morning beautiful How are you? Have a good night. Texan follows Wish he never did Now I'm talking about college That's what I wanted out nobody Nobody that's why we're talking. That's the dilemma. I think she telling me the truth Why would I lie? That's right. That's right tell me the truth my sweet girl Beautiful Yeah, y'all know she's she's gonna get into it. She's gonna ask me all the questions exactly how I don't want to hear her ask them What you mean about him? Be sure to like share and subscribe Okay, okay, please Save it for marriage please I just feel don't save if he cares Carries But also okay, this is I don't know what she's saying is what What I just you wouldn't buy a dress without trying it all first, wouldn't you? You mean you want a boy to test drive your tt before you get married? I What if we get married and then it's horrible and what if he didn't treat you Like a portipotty he coming in and he leave it just take a dump and leave and he gone well obviously there'll be a long level of commitment beforehand Maybe it engagement. I'm sorry. Jesus. I'm sorry Jesus. She's changing your rules for cultural reasons Without a thou shalt not as thou shalt not you're right He didn't create a new book and said except in 2024. I just Do you trust guy He said I just passed out. He should me too, but I mean Oh, absolutely, baby God isn't all of it Got to know it means no 23 years baby No, no, no, no, but really when when you are really when you are really Emton Like the you'll know I'm telling you you know you'll know and you have to make sure that you don't move God out of the way because God don't understand as far he understands everything Created concerning you he created he created relationships he created all the things and he knows the beauty of it So when you allow God to lead and guide you and not be led by your hormones or what people are saying or the fear that it might because It's really fear what if it's what if we get married and it's not good What if we get married and it's not right? I understand that I get that but at the same time It doesn't then how many test drives you don't test drive well. That's the thing This is this is post engagement No, no, no, no, no, are you married did you say What did you say to the Lord Lord I commit myself to you I give myself a way wasn't about the man. I give myself way so you could use me was not it was to the Lord Give myself a way I You need songs for wrong reasons you have to say I do first You know that mean he got to stand before everybody and say this is who I want all I want for the rest of my life All right then it could go down But before then Is it Erica please You don't want me to lie you didn't have to sing fill me up That wasn't necessary that's what I'm saying Church girls be a church looking at the music They do Somebody told me I seen them so they told me about a meme It said which girls in the church are wildest you know what they say in the out in the comments They said out toes Was devastated on my out so yeah Okay, we're just having real conversations with Christa real talk about real life. I've been blushing Can't see because I'm a little chocolate. No, we can see it's red. We can see You think I wanted to be unprepared I just want to at least have this knowledge so when you have conversations about other things You don't think there's this part of my life that God does not know or not understand or I have to go somewhere else to get the conversation Like if you keep it 100 I know a lot of girls that when they get meant You know if they grew up church girls and they tell you don't don't don't don't you never have Conversations about your body or your Wellity or how you look are feeling comfortable in your own I'm not thinking it's nasty So you don't talk about it with somebody that is Feel what the Holy Ghost happily married but also happy fully right? And so you don't have those conversations so then who you go to Homegirl homegirl or home boy or you watch Or you know, I'm saying or you end up doing these things that you feel like it's going to teach you But I'm telling you there's nothing more beautiful than being married and exploring each other Right, but within the sanctity of week both want this for each other right not let me look You know because most of time if it's pre-married you try to please them You try to I need to impress him I need to be better than everybody else you've been with It's always gonna be somebody that was a little more But did a little more so it has to be something Is that why they say ways that you don't have like all these pre-existing like and you have to compare yes Comparisons you have to you get married and I love I love this guy. I love this guy But that's when I was 17 blew my mind and that guy 22 and that guy You know what I mean? So then you get married and then you have to work paths getting deliverance from that Because I don't want to compare and you maybe knew when you maybe developing and Expecting this big thing on your marriage night and then you didn't develop it together But you have all this comparison if you don't get delivered from that and you put all those other things in your mind and in your spirit It just complicates things and I don't think that when people say don't it's because they're trying to keep you from something They're trying to protect you from how the enemy will manipulate the beauty of what I'm telling me in late night was all times like we were first like who's like 15 16 What are you Google say cuz she just talked about all times she doesn't crazy. There's a little Yes, we teach we have healthy conversations Listen, y'all she gonna go back to college. I have to make sure that she got some information Because when the enemy come knocking on that door When the boys want to do this They will christine ask what they want to do You don't have to and you don't have to show them they know they know De smoke us Girl now No, I want you to really just I want you to be equipped with the information When it comes I want something to come back to your mind that I remember this conversation Hmm, maybe I shouldn't you know what I'm saying and then be honest like I'm not saying that you won't feel it You will I'm not saying that you won't want it But realize that doing it God's way gets God's results. Does that mean you all have a problem for your life and nothing will go wrong Never never never but it means that God I tried my best to honor you You know, I mean there's a blessing in obedience here. We know that there is a blessing and If you want your marriage to be blessed But also there's I'm preparing my speech for your reception I think man I'll teach you to go and do it together Thanks for tuning in to my husband is my best friend