What's going on you guys, it's your boy Lloyd here and I got a question from a viewer and he basically writes, hey Lloyd, how do I get a girl to miss me? So the situation probably for this guy is that he was having a great thing with a girl for a little bit and then suddenly she's maybe not texting him quite as much, she's taking slow and slow and respond or she might be in the process of ghosting him. Okay, so what can you do when you're in this position to try and get the girl to miss you? There's a lot of information on the internet about this sort of stuff and it's kind of in the right direction but I think there's a bigger part to this. So I'm going to tell you how to get this girl to miss you, what things to do, but actually stay to the end because I'm going to tell you what you really should do in these situations. These can help but it won't ultimately solve the problem. Okay, so to get a girl to miss you, typically this girl, you know if you spend a lot of time with her or if you went too quick to, you went too intense to fast with her then that can scare people off as well too. A lot of times this will happen with a girl where you think it's going great and you know she just at a no where maybe she changes or something like that. Okay, so how do you get her back? How do you get her to want to miss you? Well, I would say the first thing is don't introduce negativity, don't be trying to beg her to come back or do any of that sort of stuff. I don't know if anybody's thinking about doing this watching this video but just in case you are, don't do that. Okay, and the other thing that I would recommend that you do too is focus on yourself. Okay, that's the biggest thing. Now obviously the best way to get a girl to miss you is to get another girl that's better than her and then she sees that and she's like, oh I messed up, I had a great guy. Well, but you know that would be the thing to do but probably if you're in that situation right now that's not going to happen for you. You probably met a girl that was like really really good and it's tough to get another girl like her. So what I would recommend that you do is like I said focus on yourself, do things that are going to entertain your life, do things that are going to make your life better. Okay, put yourself first. Like I always say on this channel. And once you start doing these sorts of things you start maybe going out and doing cool shit like maybe you went, you know, maybe you went to like an event or something like that. Maybe you started spending more time with your friends, maybe you started improving certain other areas of her life doing cool hobbies. Okay. You know those sorts of things maybe you went paragliding. I don't know. Okay. Now if you put that stuff on like social media or if you kind of demonstrate that and she hears about it from other people then she's probably going to want to you know want to go out with you again because she realizes, oh you know I had a good thing and sometimes when you drop everything to be with a girl and she feels that she feels like there's something wrong with you or she feels like your life must not be that cool that you're going to drop with her. This is not happening at a conscious level. It's kind of happening at an unconscious level. That's what women of kind of is biology basically. That's what she's feeling. Like that's happening to you then yeah I would recommend that you put yourself first and start doing all those stuff and she'll kind of hear about it and she'll see what of you know what a great life you're having and then she'll want you back because of that. Now here's the thing about this. Once you do this and the best example that I can think of was I had a lot of girls where I left and we had something and maybe they stopped texting me or whatever and this happened when I was around like 25 and I know sorry 23 then I went and I traveled for like I don't know a year and then I came back and when I came back so many of these girls were reaching out to me and they're like wow like you've you seem like you've changed you know like all those sorts of things. So they would reach out to me and I could tell they wanted to get back with me or that they at least wanted to at first when she reaches back out to you she's going to be like curious. She's going to see if you're actually the changed man that she sees or if you're just going to be the same guy that's doing the same old thing. So if that's the case then basically just stick to your guns don't immediately drop everything and then try and get with her again because if she reaches back out to you changes are she's testing the waters. So like just if she says hey how's it going or hey I saw your pictures they look pretty fun. Just be like yeah that was cool. It was cool how you doing and then you know she says something and then don't say anything after that. That would be a great way of doing things okay then that's going to make her want you more. So when she comes back in don't immediately drop everything and go with her and continue being that person you have to show her that you changed and then when you show her that you've changed then chances are she's going to be more likely to come back to you. Okay so that is the way to get a girl to miss you. She sees you doing cool shit having a great life without her she's going to miss that she's going to miss those things she's going to think oh maybe I was being too judgmental or I mean I don't know why I got so crazy or too scared and then she's going to want you back. Unfortunately though I would say it's probably still not a good idea to get back with her. Look man if a girl left you that easily one time who's to say she's not going to do it again. Yeah sure I believe that certain people that the right people can meet at the wrong time that's true but she has to change a little bit too. What do I mean by this okay if a woman meets a great guy and then she gets scared and runs away from it like that's also a sign of her immaturity too. It's not just you so have standards for yourself as well if a girl does this to you and she wants you back don't immediately try and get her back and don't think just because she leaves you all I did something wrong and I have to get her back. You might not have like I would not recommend getting going in too quickly with a girl but there's a chance that you might not have done as much wrong as you think you did. So if she tries to get back with you you know sure that you changed but there should be some indications that you can trust her because who's to say she's going to leave you again who's to say she's going to drop you for some unknown reason. You don't know that and so having standards for yourself and making sure that the women that you bring in your life don't do those kinds of things will prevent this but the problem is is that when a guy loses something he really wants to get it back and he doesn't really think about what's best for him in that moment because emotionally you just you miss this person and so you want them back in your life. So if that happens you guys what I would recommend that you do is you know check to see if she's changed. If like I get girls that hit me up all the time that maybe when I first started going out like I wasn't very good at talking to them or expressing myself or being that kind of attractive guy and they reach back out to me but a lot of times I don't even respond to them or I don't even you know maybe we'll respond and we'll talk for a little bit and maybe hook up but I'm not interested in pursuing anything further or I'm not I don't really keep up with them because I know these women haven't changed. I know they're not I know they're the same person that I hooked up with years ago and we're going to have problems down the line. I you know I've been dating a while so I know this kind of stuff goes down so that's a good recommendation for you guys look you can get a girl to miss you that's fine but in the end you have to really ask yourself is this going to be the best thing for my life and chances are it might be best to kind of leave it as it is and unless she's changed I don't even think you should try and get her to miss you. So that's my advice for you. If you made anything consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week. Thank you guys. Good luck out there.