There's you have to determine the relationship you're going to have with the child and the parent on the other side. Talk about that. That's so huge because here's the reality. If I had an affair and the affair partner is pregnant with child, while we're finding out all the way leading up to the actual birth of the child, the affair partner has a tendency to want to communicate directly with the spouse who they were in the affair with. The other spouse feels like, wait a minute, not only were you in this triangle that I was actually a part of the triangle, but she's the far reaching end of the triangle. You were in this affair relationship with this person. Now you want to continue to engage in conversations and interactions. When she has to go to the doctor, she wants you to come up. I'm supposed to be sitting back waiting for you to get home. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. What has to happen is there can be no private one-on-one interaction, communication, planning, strategizing with the affair partner and the spouse who had the affair. The spouse has to be a part of every interaction, every conversation, every bit of the planning. Now what's going to happen is that you all look at people's backyard right now because a lot of folks ain't doing that. Well, wait a minute, no, no, no, this is going to piss the affair partner off. Because I'm not trying to talk to your spouse. Your spouse wasn't there when we had this child. No, the spouse, if she decides to stay or he has to be a part of those engagements because right now, the spouse can't trust their partner because every communication in the past was based upon deception, secrecy, lies, and infidelity, and that's got to come to an end. So if there's no group kind of conversation, whether it be a group text, what's that? Markle Polo, join emails, whatever the case may be, that is a problem.