Nobody talks about this man. I wish somebody gave a speech on it. I'm so glad Friday night when we showed up here. We smoked a cigar with it outside and we were just having a good time This is why all you guys need to hang out in the barber shop all you guys need to stop Well, you can play your video games or you need to get off that for a little bit And you need to talk to other men. You need to talk to other men who are established Not some boy not some guy that has a concept about relationships Not somebody who's just starting out. You know not somebody who married their first girlfriend or whatever it is Not somebody who just has this limited experience, but a man All right, and he's not special. He's not greater than you He doesn't have to be more alpha, but somebody has life experience and man he brought this up You know and this was one of those things on those calls I Test drove this sucker on the My TSL calls and Jim said to me. He's an older gentleman. He's in his sixties He said Stevie need to make this much more simple for the guys. There's child sport and custody I don't hate on women. I believe man. I love women But this is not a cool place to be if you get there and I've been here with this right? Okay, it's easy to get carried away with the legal battle. It's easy to talk shit Okay, it's easy to burn bridges. It's easy to get expensive and nobody wins that I don't fucking care when I have a discussion on the plane with a guy He's like I just spend a hundred and fifty grand Custom me my custody of my daughter and there's all this shit about it And we get caught up in it man. So I've been there right? I understand that anger, but as men we have to have dialogue about it to drop that shit man You cannot get stuck in it. You guys are like well, I don't want to have kids neither did I You know and that happens to me 18 year paycheck Jim is like you need to make this simple 18 year paycheck. Guess what in some states it's different for everybody or different areas It can go up to 26 if they go to college Right where you're paying that Okay, you get all resentful because you're paying you can't get there man Who gives a shit if she's spending it on something else you cannot get there right the average custody battle costs $40,000 That's for men and women for men because we tend to fight for fight more. I'm sorry Goes up. I'd say it's above that. So that's the legal fees man And that's not just the the retainer you give to your attorney That's everything that gets added on to it. It's easy to do right? average child support for 30 a month minds double that That's 5100 a year over 18 years. That's if you're 18 years 92,000 dollars Man use condoms fire family a beach house fire whatever it is man do something for yourself You know pay that child support In a different way. All right, I'm not if you have kids pay your child support, but But and man I can get tough man. It's easy to get caught in a trap you walk into that Attorney General's Office. You don't have your shit together Man, I don't even want to go there. There's another thing here. I didn't have the slide Just because well it came a little bit late But a lot of the guys on the different forms we talked to the Facebook groups we talked to they said you have to also talk about the abortion talk I don't want to be political. I don't want to piss anybody off. I don't want to gross anybody out But man if you don't know how to have that discussion You're gonna get walked all over it's a it's a different story. You can have that discussion before you have sex sex is different man We think it this logical thing, but there's this emotional thing right and after somebody gets pregnant You as a man can get attached some men don't that's normal all right It's very important all right when some people their kids are born. They're super attached They find out their wife or girlfriend or so on someone is pregnant and they develop a lot of attachments Some people don't that doesn't mean you're a bad dad that doesn't mean you're a psychopath or anything and that should Get thrown at you, you know if you guys break up It's it's different But women also the same thing too they go through an emotional change You know in the state of Texas they make it very difficult for you to go through that procedure if you choose to do it So I'm not pro or against but you got to have that discussion if you don't have that discussion It's gonna be had on you. I remember I had Somebody got pregnant and a guy said this to me. He's like well Steve. It's her choice and I was like what? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I get the cool political like whatever we're all voting and let's hold up a sign for whatever party we believe in No, it's our choice. It is our choice learn to communicate you don't have to be an asshole to do it You don't have to be a dickhead. You don't have to abuse somebody for it You need to state what you think and you believe and that is a long discussion and if you're in that mode You need to be a part of a men's group You know because there's stuff that will get talked about in that group that just cannot be discussed on a public thing because it's inappropriate man You're gonna go through some shit, right? All right, so we got to talk about that stuff. Here's the other thing guys I rode on the way up here I said the number one thing that was that was said was use condoms all right It's a number of things that was said and the guy next to me said yeah, everybody says that but nobody uses them Man, I'll tell you right now. I've had a lot of sex, right? And I was actually talking about this last night as a man for a hundred times of having sex So this could be with the same partner and so on but a hundred times having sex I probably used the condom twice five times Right and and I'll tell you this it makes no sense for men and women, right? And it's your choice man sex with a condom is there's a lot of differences man a lot of girls don't like it a Lot of men don't like it You know doesn't feel the same is that saying sex without a condom isn't sex all that sort of stuff But but man you got to know the repercussions in there But and you also should be a part of men's group because it's a discussion, right? But there's times this amazes me with sex amazes me man. I can't tell you how many times this happened This is this is unbelievable. This is the power of sex We build walls around it through culture and all this stuff of not to have it But guess what happens man? Guess what happens? You say hey look. I have this SCD. You know This is whatever blah blah blah blah blah man I have a lot of crazy stories about it I'll be on the phone with the next girlfriend and the other girls next to me whatever it is and 10 minutes later we're in her room and we're about to hook up and it's like well, do you want to? Let's just fuck and she's like let's do it The power of the sexual drive does not allow you to think logically the other thing too Is this got brought up on the calls as well? We're not open a fucking condom and put it on practice practice a couple times because that's another thing You're fucking pulling for the condom and you pick up an alka-senser tab or whatever you're like oh shit Okay, it's just going in Because the the sexual mind is like I'm going I'm going I'm going and if she's in the mode where she's saying I'm going I'm going I'm going man It's a force of nature. It literally is a force of nature. It's how we state a lot You