Hey everybody, it's Friday! Yay! Woo! Today we're gonna talk a little bit about our experience with our two kids in the hospital when we had our kids and just kind of like things we learned would change with this next pregnancy layup rental. They have to be things we would change, minor just kind of things I learned. Yeah, either things that you would like changed or you learned that you like won't want to remember for the next time. So one thing that I really want to, like the number one thing that I want to work on because Piper's delivery was a lot more painful than porters and so I wasn't a lot more pain but I wasn't ready for it with Piper's and so this time around I want to make sure that I tell the nurses who are working with me like how I want to become like, how I want to be standing or sitting because so they should have you have to all these monitors, baby monitors, they have your IV in and all these things and you're laying like on your back in a bed and so it's just told them comfortable trying to get through your contractions if you're up a drill hasn't happened yet. So this time around I'm going to tell them what I want in this situation which is going to be I just want to be able to either be standing or be able to move around maybe sit on like a ball or something or be able to sit up somehow. It's hard because I know it's good and all those things are good like porters heart rate dropping during every contraction and so they gave me some oxygen to help him which I'm very grateful for but at the same time I just want to work with them and I don't want to take more control of the delivery as far as that goes. One thing that I've learned and I want to make sure I remember is just that it's like normal for like little things not to be right and that's like why the nurses and doctors are there the whole time and so like with we've had super like pretty normal everything so far but like a part of the whole delivery thing is it's a huge traumatic experience for both mom and baby and dad and so I mean there's just a lot going on and a lot going wrong and so just kind of like to not like freak out. Things will happen oxygen levels will drop. Seasections might be necessary but hopefully you're in a place where you can trust the nurses and doctors. Something that I just wasn't aware of when I went in for porters delivery was that like your body kind of goes into shock with all these things that are happening and I think that's what this is and so like you kind of shake and like shiver after porters it was like really bad like I couldn't control. So how to like really control my breath and the blood pressure thing was like working because I was so tense up because I was shaking so much. Anyway that's not something I can really change or whatever but I was just wasn't aware of it. I wasn't aware of it so you didn't know that that might happen totally normal. It's just kind of a little shock issue. So I have one just dealing with like use of cell phones and stuff like that. People were constantly texting like what's going on or updates and it's and and if you let yourself you'll be on your phone the whole time while this whole process is going on and so with hyper I think we like we caught on and like figured it out and I remember I like I don't think I was even on my phone at all which I'm very happy about. I said we're writing down our own. Well that's that's a different that's a different thing but I was able to be like present and I think that's important too that like people are going to want all the details of what's going on but like really play by play. Yeah you're going to miss out on the whole thing if you're constantly giving other people updates. The most important part is for you to just be present and not worry about updating your like every family member what's going on. It's just like you be present and after the fact you can tell them the whole story and do it. I think it's okay periodically to like send one out like for big updates but you don't need to be like responding to every single text and stuff. That's what I was getting at. Yeah. But tell them about like what you do what you did for Piper like on. Piper I just took notes on my notes app and on my iPhone just of time what time we got to the hospital and when we left the house and do the time so you know because everyone's like what time did you go with and what time did this happen and how long did it take you how long were you're doing. How long did you put it. And you have like it's such a crazy role and especially if you go like in the middle of the night just to write down the times is helpful for later documentation. I don't know I've ever hospitals different but for me if they offer to take the baby to the nursery at night and keep them all night and if you're like good with formula and like letting them see the baby formula I am like definitely going to do that because your sleep time at the hospital is super important before you go home. Let the nurses help you out and I know it's like a brand new baby and you want to like soak in all that time but after delivery you're so tired so help people know they can't visit tell the nurses yes take your baby and just sleep while you're at the hospital with like a million people they're ready to help you. During the delivery I knew I wanted to do this I wanted a mirror and like a lot of girls or people just get grossed out by that but it was super helpful for me because I could like see the baby coming out and it was really motivating because I can see like when they get close or when they like going back in. Anyway I really liked the mirror if you didn't know that was a possibility and you think you might like it just try it out because it might work for you too. Really good. Another tip slash thing I learned. The first time with Porter the doctor stitched me up because I tore a little bit but he didn't like talk me through it and then the second time with Piper oh did I not tear I don't think I tore a Piper but he was still a lot better so. It's about just like what's going on and what's going on down there. It's so confusing and there's so many things happening like when they're placenta coming out or whatever. If you're like me I want to understand things more and so I'm definitely like if I want to know like the details of where the stitches are so that when I'm at home and I'm trying to like heal and recover I can know myself. I can know my body after a baby which is kind of a big thing. I remember with Porter I was like asking the nurses everything that was going on like what the different machines did and why they were doing this and this and how it measured it. I think they like it and honestly like it's a service business like they're providing a service to you and so they give you better customer service too if like you're engaged in like you're just a set that's that's something and once they know that you like to be informed feel like sure and so yeah I was asking the nurses everything and they were so fun and cute and stuff so. So one funny part about Piper's my labor with Piper was that I was in a lot more pain than I had in with Porter and I was just very vocal about it that kind of got the front of it. Like we had it with Porter we hadn't gone through this and so he didn't really know and I didn't know how like what Zach's role was in my contraction dealing with my contractions. With Piper Tara was just like it's just like in the movies when like you know the the life in labor is like yelling at you. You did this to me. I didn't say that but it was like that kind of anger and like help me. She's like do something Zach don't just stand there and I was just like I don't know what to do like if I touched her back she said don't touch my back like I'm like okay I'm trying to do something like you're saying but nothing is right and like I would say something and like she's like don't say that. She would ask me like how are you how are you how are you and I'm like don't ask me how I am tell me I'm doing good. So anyway maybe if your relationship is similar to this just talk through it maybe and have a game plan a little bit. I don't think that necessarily but just like I don't wish we would would go to one of this class is where they you guys the husbands or partners learn how to like massage backs or good like pressure points that would help and things like that like we are already planning on getting that withdrawal and so you forget that there's like contractions that happen in order to get you to the point of an uproar. Yeah I think just many to be beware or beware. Yeah and be very concerned like don't laugh when your husband your wife is yelling like a crazy person. Did I laugh? Well I can tell you thought I was kind of funny. I thought you were actually ridiculous and honestly I still kind of feel this way that you were like getting a kick out of it. Well yeah see and I wasn't I mean I thought it was funny but it's what my body was like yeah I don't know what that tip was but this time around I still know we got to talk about it we got to figure it out. Well I don't like how are you going to control that like you can't tell yourself just be happy and and don't don't yell at me. I know. I know about his duties what his duty to be. Either way it'll help us both be more comfortable. But most importantly last of all this special time between like the beginning of your delivery vibrate delivery and like when you go home with your baby is like the best my like my favorite memories of all like my favorite memories in the whole world. Like you being off work or whatever and being with this new little person that was just inside of you and now they're outside of you and it's the best and so just enjoy it. Enjoy it like the the quiet and that time. The sounds and the smells and the low bake not like the good smells like the little new clean. The awkward diaper changes and if you can't I know we've had very very good and easy delivery so I know it's not like that for everybody but enjoy the time as much as you can because it's super special. Would you agree? I agree. Yeah so that's those are some tips and memories and things that I'm going to change for this next delivery and we'll see how it goes. We'll have to do like an after one and talk about these same things and see like how it went. But thanks for watching guys we hope you have a great Friday and weekend and we'll see you on Monday don't forget to subscribe. Oh real quick I guess before we end. I'm trying to get to 10,000 subscribers by the first of the year and that's like 3,000 subscribers away. But with your guys' help sharing, liking, subscribing if you haven't subscribed just click the red button below. If you're somewhere like on Facebook watching this video click over to YouTube it's just it's through your Google account and so you sign into your Google Gmail account if you have one and that's through your YouTube account as well. So subscribe and help me get to 10,000 subscribers is a big number but I think we can do it. I think so too. 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