The concept of anger, I think we have to think about the phases of anger. There are three phases of anger. One is somebody provokes me. I feel angry. I don't have any control over that. Then there's the phase of anger. How do I react to it? Do I walk away? Do I respond? Do I punch the guy in the face? Do I call him with something else to do that? That's my reaction to anger. Then the other thing is, okay, I didn't have any choice to be feeling angry when I was provoked. How long am I going to hold on to that anger? An hour? A day? 22 years? In order to keep things straight, I give these three phases, three different names. The feeling of anger, I call anger. The reaction to anger, I call rage. The hanging onto the anger is called resentment. Then you clarify it. I say, okay, I can do nothing about my feeling of anger. Other than perhaps take some things in perspective. One of my father's teachings that helped me a great deal was that when somebody did something in my father, which should have provoked anger, my father would say, you know, what he did was so foolish. If he only knew how foolish it was what he did, he wouldn't have done it. I feel sorry for the person for being such a fool. But if you feel sorry for a person, how can you be angry at him? I feel pity for him. Pity and anger doesn't go together. But nevertheless, I can't control how I feel when provoked. But I certainly can control what my reaction is going to be. And finally, how long do I hang on to the resentments? My greatest lesson came from Al-Khalik's anonymous, where somebody said, harboring your resentment is allowing someone who you don't like to live inside your head without paying any rent. And I'm not that kind of a guy. I'm not a nice guy like that, but let somebody else write it. Help me get rid of resentments. Reacting to anger took me a while to be able to control my rage. And then I had to realize that this is part of my being human. And then I was react with rage when provoked. As a human being, I'm supposed to be above that. I'm the author and a whole messapians. So I learned how to control my anger. So I think if a person keeps those things in mind, there are some people who feel guilty for feeling angry, especially at a parent. You don't have a choice. The feeling of anger is nothing like a song. If you don't have a choice, there's no reason to feel guilty about it. How you react? Now, my suggestion is, keep an anger journal. Here's what happened today. Somebody did this, is that? And here's how I did. At the time that I'm provoked, I think he isn't clear because I'm a expressor to respond. But at night, when I look over what happened during the daytime, and I say, did I handle that in the best way possible? Can I have done something better? And that becomes a lesson for the next time. So I think keeping a journal about anger and how we respond to it is an excellent way of them. Because ultimately, if I enraged, it doesn't hurt the other person as much as it hurts me.