Most people cannot wrap their head around the idea of somebody who could be married and then also work in the industry. So how does your relationship work within those parameters? So when I met my boyfriend, I was, I mean my actual husband, we haven't been married for two days. So I'm still getting, you've been married for two days, wait, you got married two days ago? Yeah. Oh my God. Congratulations. Thank you. Cool. Yeah, we've been together 11 years. And we moved into, we moved into this new house. And during quarantine, we just realized, oh, we should get married because we're going to have more rights. It's just going to be better. So, you know, yeah, the government that our families, so we just decided to get married. And then something happened to each other, I mean to one of us, yeah, for taxes for other things. But I mean, we just explained that if you think about it, and law of our two different things, I never, at the time, I didn't know, but I was still separating lust and love. Even though sometimes you know, we'll fall in love where I was. And then you do, I did, and now I can fell in love anytime I shoot. But that's still just last. For me, love is something else is something that you build with a person and this based on values and things you share together. Of course, has an irrational part that has to do with just liking each other and just have two different characters that, no, I don't think it's the right word. A person like this, that work well together and you can decide that, but what you can work on is being on it with yourself and honest with other people. So when you're dating, you know, we're looking for. And if the other person's honest too, things go so much smooth. And that's just what happened to me, my wife, and I mean, he told me I love you. And that was just, this is another guy just when I was, I'm like, and I told him, this, you don't have to tell me I love you. I'll have to do anyway. And they say, oh, no, I can see each other married and you know, have this like cold, cold type of conversation. And now we're here 11 years after. Yeah, I never understood jealousy and I always hated, I could never stand a jealous person. So actually, I never had a true boyfriend before him. Because I didn't, I was, even when I met him, I wasn't looking for a boyfriend. I want to have someone like a friend with benefits, but they go also, you know, okay, we have some good, we can also have fun. And because in Italy, people tend to separate get girls from bad girls. So you don't, you don't bring the bad girls around. You don't show your, the bad girls to your friends. It's like, oh, you have something and that's it. You can, you can be friends with it. Now, you know, there are more things are different or maybe it's because I do. I just attract different type of people. But when I was a teenager, I was feeling lonely, but it's still not at the point that I will like give up my values and start to, you know, like give up my sexual freedom. Because people were behaving that way around me. So I was like, no, I'm just going to do what guys do. Like when I will meet a guy is smart enough to accept that, then maybe I'll have a relationship. Otherwise, I'm good alone. Yeah, I think the most, I think one of the keys to entering into a successful relationship, at least this was the case for me is that you have to be okay with you by yourself first. And, and, and be comfortable in not needing another person to like make you whole. Yeah, I think the changing your mentality from like, oh, I need a partner to make myself whole to a partner would help compliment my life. I think that's really healthy. And, and I had reached that point when I met my husband and, you know, to this day, like, and I love him so much, like more than I've ever loved anybody else. Thank God, because we're having a baby together. Yes. You know, I, he's everything to me. But if he left me tomorrow, I would be devastated. I would be so devastated, but my life would not be over. I would get over it. I would move on with my life, and I would be okay. And I would, I feel that way now about with anybody. And I never felt that way before. And I think that that kind of attitude is what allowed me to find somebody like him and enter into like a really healthy relationship. That's not co-dependent. Hey guys, if you want to support my show, then you should think about joining my Patreon. And my Patreon, I offer all kinds of amazing perks and exchange for your financial support. From live streams of my interviews as they are happening to bonus Q&As, behind the scenes, photos and videos of my shoots, plus cool merch like stickers, mugs, and hoodies, we have you covered. So go to patreon.com, slash Holly Randall and filtered. And while you're at it, make sure that you click that subscribe button so you don't miss a single one of my new updates.