I was so focused on a single goal that I ruined my social life and lost three years just to find out. It wasn't even worth it and it's all because of the hustle culture and the so-called grindset. And yeah, a simple line from Hunter Hunter changed my life. I did the exact opposite of what the motivational gurus told me. Not only did I reach my goal but I also felt less pressure, I felt more free, and overall I just started socializing again. And with my case, you can apply it to your life because there's nothing more toxic than being overly obsessive on that one single goal to the point that it becomes your life. I listened to a lot of self-improvement podcasts and they come to the same conclusion. Make money, set a goal, and every day you wake up, grind your way to that goal. But they don't tell you that if you really believe in it, you will accomplish it. But you might lose yourself in the process. And that was my case. The funny thing is an anime change in my mentality for the better. So before this channel, I made a gaming content more specifically, Valorant. And as you play more, of course you want to get better, you become competitive, you want more views, and all this stuff. That implanted a thought in me, a very toxic thought. If I become the best in Valorant, everyone's gonna like me because I'm the best rank. Everyone will start watching me in my videos, so I kept grinding day in, day out. I had 13 hour days. It was so bad that I even moved out to my university apartment so I can play and not get judged by my parents at home. I ate junk food that I bought for 2 euros, some cheap salami and bread. So if I can give a portion of my time towards getting to my goal, I'm gonna be successful, my problems are gonna fade. And by giving up everything besides gaming, I'm gonna make it. It was a delusional belief, and that the hustle culture basically implanted in me. And yeah, I was climbing up the ranks, but you know, there's seasons in video games. Those are the periods that pass, you know, when they end the game resets. Anyways, the season ended and my rank reset, so I almost lost everything. In the meantime, I was watching Hunter Hunter. I love taking stuff out the anime like quotes, ideologies, because Monga could spend a lot of time sending messages to us. The last episode hit me like a truck. I lied to myself and did almost everything wrong to that point. So gone, and Hunter Hunter has two main goals, finding his dad become the best hunter. Spoiler warning, he accomplished both of them, but he had more fun doing random things along the way, instead of just focusing on that straight single goal. And it was the last episode that his dad told him this. I'm looking forward to seeing him. Oh, you know, the most important thing is that I'm going to be able to do it. Here's where I paused, and I thought to myself, even if I stray away from my goal for a little bit, it's going to be fine. Because I never knew what I would find along the way. All I did for the past one year was gaming, gaming, gaming, studying, and more gaming. My performance in gaming got worse, so I wrote 24 reasons why I'm doing bad in the game, what I'm doing wrong in my life. And I realized I can still call back to the people that are close to me, and I decided to create a system for myself. And I wanted to respect myself more, and I made sure to do a Japanese lesson every day. If I lose two games in a row, I'd go talk to my roommate for some time, and every single week, Saturday or Sunday. I come back home with no computer, and I played chess with my grandpa for at least one hour. And I was reading books, and in the first week, nothing happened. I was still the same, but I just played the game less. But what I did not understand is that if I lost the game, I didn't even care that much. I'm still going to get to talk to my roommate. I'm going to play chess with my grandpa while he's still alive, and I'm going to go for coffee with my friends. And it really made things easier for me mentally. And since it was the end of the semester in university, I had to come back home. I said goodbye to my roommates. Back home I was in solitude again, but as soon as my friends would text me, I'd just go out. I'd just go out with them. And the more detours I took, I was actually getting better at Valorant, which does not make sense at all, but you know, it's kind of that mental thing. So I randomly checked a streamer, which I don't usually do. And I was lucky enough to get a free coaching session with him. And as soon as we got that done, two weeks after, I got to the top five points of the year. It was exactly 5am, I remember. The sun was up, and I went to bed, woke up the same day, and I asked myself, is this really worth it? The same goes with Gon's father, who said his biggest excitement was when he shook hands with his friends. He met on the way, and not actually witnessing the truth of the tomb. If you've listened to the story, anything I deemed worthy of doing, I would do. Goals can put you in a dark place. If you can't meet someone's expectations, or your own, it's gonna put you down, and your self-worth is gonna be dropping. And just go to the cinema with your friends. Just go out without one girl or a talk into it. Start making videos today. And if it's in the back of your mind, just go ahead, take another detour. You're gonna see what really truly matters. And they do say that it's about the journey and not the destination. If you feel like you don't have opportunities in life, you need luck. And for that, you should watch this video. And if you wouldn't mind, please subscribe to the channel.