What's going on everyone welcome to another video. Now this is probably one of the most requested videos I have ever been asked to make. Now this question I get nearly at the end of every single one of my speeches and it's also probably one of the hardest questions to answer. Earthling Ed has done a very good video on this topic which I'll leave linked down below and I always link Ed's video but I thought I'd do my own. It's about dealing with non vegan friends and family, especially as a new vegan. Now this can be a very difficult topic and it also can be a very hard scenario to be in and everyone goes through it so you're not alone. Now not everyone can sit their whole family down like James Aspie did with one conversation in turn and all vegan. Although that does happen, it's not really realistic for the majority of us. There's always going to be some resistance from friends and family. And for some reason I don't know what the psychology is behind this but friends and family are less likely to listen to you. And that's just what I've found from my own experience and a lot of other people have found the same thing. Now there's no blanket solution for this problem. I can't give you one amazing solution to everyone's issue because everyone's scenario is so unique. Everyone's character is so unique. You might not be able to handle certain situations that other people can. Everyone's family members are very different in their own character. So there's too many variables for me to give you a blanket solution but I can give you some strategies that will help you. So first off you have to be a lot more strategic when you're talking with friends and family. You don't really want to alienate yourself from your friends and family. You don't really want to create a big argument. So you have to use something called tact. Be very tactful in these situations. Now one of the most powerful things I do when I'm educating people is called so critic method. Now this is the art of asking questions. It's a lot different to sitting there and pumping information down people's throat. Especially friends and family. They're going to find out a little bit overwhelming. You can do that if you feel like the situation calls for it. But if you feel like people are switching off, the best way to educate anyone in any situation, especially friends and family is to ask them leading questions. Do you think there's a she main way to kill an animal who doesn't want to die? Do you think there's a she main way to kill anyone if they don't want to die? Do you think you can be healthy without eating meat and animal products? Are you an animal lover? Ask them in them leading questions. Make sure you don't look like you're that emotionally invested in this, that you're going to have some kind of aggressive breakdown in front of them. You're going to become cool, calm, collected, logical. They don't know the information that you know. I know it can be very hard watching your friends and family eating products that are very bad for their health and that are destroying the environment and that are hurting these innocent sentient beings. That can be a very hard truth to wake up to. It's like you've woken up in the matrix and you can see the truth and your friends and family just can't. But you have to maintain a calm demeanor when you're discussing this with friends and family. You're going to be an uncomfortable situation. You're going to be in the dinner table and there's going to be meat and cheese on the dinner table. But you're going to bring your vegan food and you're going to say, hey, look at this. This is dairy-free cheese and dairy-free chocolate and vegan meat substitutes, which are awesome plant-based with no cholesterol, no saturated fat. You're going to be really positive shining light and I think that is probably the best way to do it. Be a positive calm shining light and make sure you are very educated on this topic. At the start, inundate yourself with information so that you can answer the questions calmly and respectfully and politely. And then you can chuck a question back to them. A really good way to get experienced that this is to watch either myself, Irfling Ed, James Aspie, some other good YouTubers that do interview style videos and see how we handle the situations and mimic that. But never let your emotion run the conversation. Trust me, it's going to cause problems and you don't want problems within your friends and family. I mean, unless you've got a really thick skin, unless you don't mind a bit of conflict, that's fine. You can do that. But I think for the majority of people it's best that we maintain a calm respectful demeanor. Another great strategy is if your friends and family are less likely to listen to you, then you point them in the direction of a documentary. What the health, Caspiracy is a fantastic one. Get them on the health and the environment first, maybe. And then bang, maybe a Gary Erofsky style speech. If Gary Erofsky is a little bit too full on for them, point them in the direction of James Aspie or Irfling Ed or one of my videos. Or even Bite-sized vegan, Emily, one of her really educational videos. The content you share with them should be specific to that person's character. If you think your mum's more of a Gary Erofsky type of person, I'll leave them shared out with them. If you think she's really into her health, then share what the health with them. If you get someone else to tell them, they're more likely to listen. And I really wish I knew the psychology behind this. If anyone does know the psychology, leave it down below. I want to tell you a story about some obstacles I faced with my friends and family. And it was with my father. And my father got very sick very quickly. And it was because of lifestyle choices. And the doctors were telling him to eat more bacon, eat more cheese, eat more butter. So we could put some weight on because he had something called Croes disease. Now Croes disease happens when you have a leaky gut. And then dairy proteins get into the blood and you create antibodies, which fight these dairy proteins. But at the same time, they eat away parts of your intestinal tract. Now, I knew this. My father didn't. The doctors don't really promote our lifestyle change to cure these diseases. They were giving my father chemo-radiation therapy injected into his veins. And then they were feeding him dairy in a feeding bag. And I had to watch my father get bad information from the doctors. Listen to their advice over mine. And I was getting my information from plant-based doctors. And it really hurt me. It hurt me to see my dad suffer in front of me because of preventable illness. Now, this was a very big lesson for me. Because my father, he would rather have listened to the doctors than change his lifestyle. And I think my father actually knew what I was saying had some truth to it. But the point is, is that you can't convince people to change if they're not ready. And you have to come to terms with this. It is not your responsibility to turn that person vegan. And it's so much harder because you care about them. But you have to maintain a zen-like state with it. You have to realize that you can't control everything. You can't control people's lifestyle choices. You can only be a shining positive light for them. And I'll learn that the hard way. But I want you to know that you are not alone in this. And we all go through the same type of problems. Now, there's something I want to talk to you about. It's called the 100-point system. And this is by amazing activist who heads vegan-friendly in Israel. His name's Omri Paz. And this will help take some of the burden off of you thinking you have to convert everyone to veganism straight away. It's called the 100-point system. Okay? Now, what it is is someone might have a conversation with you. They'd never heard about veganism. And bang, you'd give them 25 points in that conversation. Now, that same person could be scrolling through Facebook and see a video on the egg industry. And bang, that would be another 15 points. So essentially, they're up to another 40 points. Okay? Now, what happens when they get to 100 points, they go vegan. Okay? Now, you might meet someone on the street. They might already have 80 points. And you might be that last 20 points for them. Okay? Then bang, they get to 100 points and they go vegan. But the point is, it's not your responsibility to turn that person vegan. You just need to be that 30 or 40 points. Now, with your friends and family, that's what you need to be doing. Is planting seeds. Okay? Now, you're not going to convert people straight away. Not all the time. It's not how it works. You're probably the first person they've heard this message from. What you can be is a shining positive example, a shining light. And don't let them see you get too angry about it. It'd be pretty chilled with them. Okay? Take your time, leave documentaries around. Bison plant-based milk alternatives. Bison vegan alternatives for them to try. And watch documentaries with them. Okay? Make it a point. Hey, for my birthday, mum, let's watch this documentary together. Also, I want you all to choose your battles very carefully. Okay? Some people can get very aggravated by talking about this. And you need to choose your battles, use your judgment and social intelligence in situations. And really feel the situation to get the best result. Okay, so that would be my advice when it comes to friends and family. Like I said, there's no blanket solution for this. You can only try your best. And remember, if you're hanging out with other vegans as well, you're not going to feel so isolated and alone. If you're getting involved in activism yourself, like what I did, I just got online. Okay? My friends and family weren't listening to me. I was trying to be that shining light of inspiration to people around me. And no one was listening to me. My inspiration was falling on deaf ears. So what I did is I got online and I started talking to a camera and I started spreading that message around everywhere. Okay? And now I'm really helping people who want to hear the message. Okay? So you've got to find people who want to hear the message and edify them. Okay? And this is what I've done. And this has really helped boost my confidence, give me a sense of fulfillment. Okay? And give me a real sense that things are changing and that people are willing to change. If you've isolated yourself and you're just hanging out with your non-vegan friends and family, you've got to feel isolated, you're going to feel smothered, and you're going to feel like no one's listening to you. But that's why hanging out with other activists, doing things with other vegans. Okay? Chatting with other vegans. Looking for support for the vegan community can really help you when it comes to these problems with friends and family. We all go through it. Okay? So that would be my advice. I hope this video helps you all really. If anyone's got some really good tips that I've forgotten, leave them in the comments section. And let's just make the comments section a community where we can all help each other and share this video with someone who you think's going through some problems with friends and family. And let them go through the comments section and maybe we can all support each other as a community about this. It's a very hard topic to discuss. And like I said, there's no one answer that fits all, but I hope these strategies can help you. Alright guys, I'll see you all in the next video. And peace.