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The Human Voice. It's the instrument we all play. It's the most powerful sound in the world, probably it's the only one that can start a war or say, I love you. And yet many people have the experience that when they speak, people don't listen to them. Why is that? Now can we speak powerfully to make change in the world? That I'd to suggest there are a number of habits that we need to move away from. I've assembled for your pleasure here, seven deadly sins of speaking. I'm not pretending this is an exhaustive list. But these seven I think are pretty large. Habits that we can all fall into. First, gossip. Speaking ill of somebody who's not present. Not a nice habit and we know perfectly well the person gossiping five minutes later will be gossiping about us. Second, judging. He know people who are this in conversation and it's very hard to listen to somebody if that you're being judged and found wanting at the same time. Third, nativity. You can fall into this. By mother in the last years of her life became very, very negative and it's hard to listen. I remember one day I said to her, it's October the first today and she said, I know, isn't it dreadful? It's hard to listen when somebody's that negative. And another form of nativity complaining. Well, this is the national art of the of. It's our national sport we complain about the weather, about sport, about politics, about everything. But actually complaining is vital misery. It's not spreading sunshine and lightness in the world. He've all met this guy. Maybe we've all been this guy. Some people have a blame thrown. They just pass it on to everybody else and don't take responsibility for their actions. And again, hard to listen to somebody who's being that. Penultimate, the sixth of the seven, embroidery, exaggeration. It means our language actually sometimes. For example, if I see something that really is awesome, what do I call it? And then of course, this exaggeration becomes out and out lying and we don't want to listen to people we know are lying to us. And finally, dogmatism. The confusion of facts with opinions. When those two things get inflated, you're listening into the wind. , somebody is boarding you with their opinions. Is if they were true, it's difficult to listen to that. To here they are. Even deadly sins of speaking. These are things I think we need to avoid. But is there a positive way to think about this? Yes, there is. I'd to suggest that there are four really powerful cornerstones, foundations that we can stand on if we want our speech to be powerful and to make change in the world. Fortunately, these things spell a word. The word is hail and it has a great definition as well. I'm not talking about the stuff that falls from the sky and hits you on the head. I'm talking about this definition to greet or claim enthusiastically, which is I think how our words will be received if we stand on these four things. To what do they stand for? Met's see if you can guess. The age, honesty, of course. Being true in what you say, being straight and clear. The A is authenticity. Must being yourself. A friend of mine described it as standing in your own truth, which I think is a lovely way to put it. The I is integrity, being your word, actually doing what you say and being somebody people can trust. And the L is love. I don't mean romantic love, but I do mean wishing people well. For two reasons. First of all, I think absolute honesty may not be what we want. I mean, my goodness, you look ugly this morning. Perhaps that's not necessary. Tempered with love, of course, honesty is a great thing. But also, if you're really wishing somebody well, it's very hard to judge them at the same time. I'm not even sure you can do those two things simultaneously. To hail. Also, now that's what you say and it's the old song. It is what you say. It's also the way that you say it. You have an amazing toolbox. His instrument is incredible. And yet this is a toolbox that very few people have ever opened. I'd to have a little rummaged in there with you now. Must pull a few tools out that you might to take away and play with, which will increase the power of your speaking. Register, for example. Now, falsetto, register may not be very useful most of the time. But there's a register in between. I'm not going to get very technical about this for any of you who have voice coaches. You can locate your voice, however. To if I talk up here in my nose, you can hear the difference. Of I go down here in my throat, which is where most of us speak from most of the time. But if you want weight, you need to go down here to the chest. You hear the difference. He vote for politicians with lower voices. It's true. Because we associate depth with power and with authority. That's a register. And we have tumour. It's the way your voice feels. Again, the research shows that we prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm, hot chocolate. Well, if that's not you, that's not the end of the world. Because you can train, go get a voice coach. And there are amazing things you can do with breathing, with posture, and with exercises to improve the tumour of your voice. When prokofy. I love prokofy. His is the sing song, the metal language that we use in order to impart meaning. It's root one for meaning in conversation. People who speak all on one note are really quite hard to listen to if they don't have any prokofy at all. That's where the word monotony comes from, monotonous monotony. Also, we have repetition prokofy now coming in, where every sentence sends us a question, when it's actually not a question, it's a statement. Of you repeat that one over and over, it's actually restricting your ability to communicate through prokofy, which I think is a shame. To let's try and break that habit. Face. I can get very, very excited by saying something really, really quickly, or I can slow right down to emphasize. And at the end of that, of course, is our old friend, Silence. It's nothing wrong with a bit of silence. In a talk, is there? He don't have to fill it with us and ours. It can be very powerful. Of course, pitch often goes along with pace to indicate a rouse, or what you can do it just with pitch. There did you leave my keys? There did you leave my keys? It's a slightly different meaning in those two delivered. And finally, volume. I can get really excited by using volume, sorry about that, by startled anybody, or I can have you really pay attention by getting very quiet. Some people broadcast the whole time, try not to do that. That's called sodcasting. Imposing your sound on people around you carelessly and inconsiderately, not nice. Of course, where this all comes into play most of all is when you've got something really important to do. It might be standing on a stage this and giving a talk to people. It might be proposing marriage, asking for a raise, a wedding speech, whatever it is. Of it's really important, you owe it to yourself to look at this toolbox and the engine that it's going to work on, and no engine works well without being warmed up. Arm up your voice. Actually, let me show you how to do that. Would you all to stand up for a moment? I'm going to show you the six vocal warm up exercises that I do before every talk I ever do. Daytime you're going to talk to anybody important, do these. First, arms up, deep breath in and sigh out, that. One more time. Now we're going to warm up our lips and we're going to go, BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH. Very good. And now BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH, BAH. Must when you were a kid. Now your lips should be coming alive. He're going to do the tongue next with exaggerated LALALALALALALALALALALA. Beautiful. You're getting really good at this and then roll an R. That's champagne for the tongue. Finally, and if I can only do one, the pro call this the sire. It's really good. It starts with we and goes to all the we is high the always low. To we go Fantastic give yourselves a round of applause. Thank you. Thank you Next time you speak do those in advance now. Met me just put this in context to close His is a serious point here His is where we are now right we speak not very well into people who simply aren't listening in an environment that's all about noise and bad Caustics I have talked about that on this stage in different phases. That would the world be if we were speaking powerfully To people who are listening consciously in environment which are actually fit for purpose or to make that a bit larger That would the world be if we were creating sound consciously and Consuming sound consciously and designing all our environment consciously for sound that would be a world that does sound beautiful And one way of understanding would be the norm and that is an idea worth spreading. Thank you

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