(but if a man doesn't know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the assembly of God?)
13.    "Manages his own household well" (Gr. tou idiou oikou kalos proistamenon, 1 Timothy 3:4; Titus 1:6) means that he has control of his family. Family members submit to his leadership out of respect for him (cf. Proverbs 24:3-4; Proverbs 27:23; Ephesians 6:4). The elder’s responsibilities in the church are quite parental, so he should have proved his ability in the home before he receives larger responsibility in the church (cf. Matthew 25:14-30). The home is the proving ground for church leadership (1 Timothy 3:5). Again, Paul assumed children in the home but did not require them, I believe. [Note: Cf. Lea, p. 112; and Mounce, pp. 158, 177, 185.] 