not a new convert, lest being puffed up he fall into the same condemnation as the devil.
13.    "Manages his own household well" (Gr. tou idiou oikou kalos proistamenon, 1 Timothy 3:4; Titus 1:6) means that he has control of his family. Family members submit to his leadership out of respect for him (cf. Proverbs 24:3-4; Proverbs 27:23; Ephesians 6:4). The elder’s responsibilities in the church are quite parental, so he should have proved his ability in the home before he receives larger responsibility in the church (cf. Matthew 25:14-30). The home is the proving ground for church leadership (1 Timothy 3:5). Again, Paul assumed children in the home but did not require them, I believe. [Note: Cf. Lea, p. 112; and Mounce, pp. 158, 177, 185.] 