You Are Cordially Invited (episode)

When Worf and Jadzia decide to bring forward their wedding, the matriarch of the House of Martok challenges Worf and Dax's marriage.
== Summary ==
=== Teaser ===
:"Captain's Personal Log, Stardate 51247.5. It's been a week since our return to Deep Space 9, but the mood of celebration continues. We're still at war, and the station has been designated headquarters for the Ninth Fleet. That, plus our strategic position guarding the wormhole, makes DS9 one of the most tempting targets in the entire Quadrant. But for now at least, the war seems very far away."
Captain Sisko looks out on the second level of the Promenade with satisfaction as the flags of the Federation, the Klingon Empire, and Bajor are unfurled side by side from a rail, and the commerce of the Promenade resumes heartily, populated by the station's civilian population, and a mix of officers from Starfleet, the Bajoran Militia, and the Klingon Defense Force. Even though the Federation is still at war with the Dominion, the celebrations over Starfleet's return to the station are continuing and the atmosphere on the station is that of a happy one.
In Ops, Sisko arrives for work and he and Major Kira warmly wish each other a good morning, noting how happy they are to be working together again. However the captain has a lot of work in front on him, beginning with General Martok waiting in his office.
Martok, who has just been appointed Supreme Commander of the Ninth Fleet, is more angry than honored, ranting about the amount of paperwork that comes with the position. Sisko, who recommended him for the position, smiles and offers his congratulations, and offers to arrange quarters for the general aboard his new headquarters. Martok declines, preferring to keep his cramped berth aboard the Rotarran, so that he can at least feel like he's still "in the war." He requests Sisko's permission to have Worf continue serving as his principal intelligence officer, and Sisko agrees, noting that Worf seems to be the only officer he's met who can never have enough work. The conversation then drifts to Worf's son Alexander, whom Sisko hasn't met before. Martok, choosing his words carefully, calls Alexander a fine boy with "the heart of his father," but admits he isn't much of a warrior.
In Quark's, Alexander is sharing a drink of bloodwine with his father and Jadzia Dax, telling her about one of his memorable screw-ups aboard the Rotarran (flooding an entire deck with superheated hydraulic fluid). He says that, despite his clumsiness, he has become surprisingly popular among the Rotarrans crew, who have come to see him as a sort of "good luck charm." He then surprises his father by mentioning that he has received new orders to transfer to the cruiser at the end of the week, since they took heavy casualties in an engagement and most of the Rotarrans crew will be transferring. When Alexander leaves to get more blood wine, Quark approaches the two and asks if they have reconsidered having their wedding in Quark's. Worf tells Quark firmly that the wedding will be held on Qo'noS after the war is over, however Dax, after looking thoughtful during the conversation, suddenly jumps in and agrees to Quark's request. Worf is surprised, but Dax explains that this way Alexander can attend the wedding before he leaves.
When Alexander returns, Worf informs him of their change in plans and asks Alexander to be his Tawi'Yan ("swordbearer"), the Klingon equivalent of a best man. Alexander is so happy about this that he accidentally knocks over a tray of drinks.
=== Act One ===
In a turbolift, Dax and Kira are discussing the wedding, with Dax mentioning Worf has been planning everything for three months. Kira comments the wedding seems to be dominated by what Worf wants, but Dax is all right with that knowing it's what Worf has wanted since he was a boy, and she's already had several weddings. As they talk, they almost run into Odo in a corridor but he sees them and abruptly changes direction to avoid meeting them. Kira tells her it is because of what happened during the occupation of the station, of which Dax has no idea, but she doesn't feel like getting into it at the moment.
Later, Worf meets with Sisko, Martok, Miles O'Brien, and Julian Bashir. He asks them to join Martok and himself in Kal'Hyah, a mental and spiritual journey that lasts for four nights before a Klingon wedding. Martok advises the four to get a good night's sleep before entering. "Four nights at a Klingon bachelor party. Just think of the possibilities," Bashir tells O'Brien as they leave. O'Brien tells the doctor that he is glad his wife Keiko isn't currently at the station.
Later, Sisko and Martok go to one of the upper pylons to greet Martok's wife Sirella, who has arrived on a ship. By marrying Worf, Jadzia will become a member of the House of Martok. As a of a Great House, Sirella approves all the weddings conducted by its members. Sirella greets Martok by telling him he has put on weight – and his hair is going gray. After Sirella tells him she expected him to be in his grave, he tells her he will attempt to die soon – before the year is out if possible. After being introduced to Sisko, she asks where Dax is and goes alone. Martok is in awe of her, though Sisko a tad confused.
Worf is with Dax as she prepares to meet Sirella. He's a bit concerned about the var'Hama candles being replicated, but Dax responds that he is just criticizing and that the meeting will go fine. Then Sirella enters. Dax gives a Klingon greeting, but she responds immediately asking Worf to leave. Then, she continues to be hostile. Sirella tells her that it would be difficult for a Klingon female to impress her and that for an alien it will almost be impossible. Dax says she enjoys a challenge. Sirella demands she prepare the appropriate meal for the following day, and finally, comments on the candles being fake before abruptly leaving.
=== Act Two ===
Aboard the Rotarran, Worf confronts Martok asking him why he never told him Sirella was opposed to his marriage to Jadzia. Martok tells him Sirella believes that by allowing aliens into the House of Martok, they risk losing their Klingon identity. Martok does not want to interfere in Sirella's affairs, either. Worf wants to talk to her, but Martok reveals that Sirella does not like Worf either. Martok mentions that it was his decision to allow Worf into the House of Martok, he had every right to do so, and Sirella has accepted that there is nothing she can do about it. Worf sarcastically tells Martok that he finds that fact comforting. "And they say that you have no sense of humor!", Martok laughs while Worf scowls at him.
Meanwhile, Sisko, O'Brien, Bashir, and Alexander begin the Kal'Hyah in one of Quark's holosuites, all eager for what they assume will be four days of Klingon debauchery. Worf shows them the Ma'Stakas, that are to be used at the conclusion of the wedding in a ceremonial "attack" on Worf and Dax. This tradition stems from Kahless and Lukara's wedding when they were nearly killed by Molor's troops. Worf also mentions that the food sitting nearby is not to be eaten, it is there to tempt them to break their fast. This is the first trial on the path to Kal'Hyah – deprivation (with the other trials being blood, pain, sacrifice, anguish and death). Everyone realizes that they are in for four days of hell.
At the same time, Dax is undergoing a trial of her own. She is holding two braziers and lifts them onto a column, conducting a recitation. Sirella is unimpressed and orders her to do it again. Dax is frustrated, since it has been the third time. Sirella then tells her to end her attempt as she believes the House will not tolerate her weakness and she will always be considered an outsider, clearly expressing her opinion to her. Dax reacts angrily to this and lifts the braziers again.
=== Act Three ===
Dax's next trial is to recite the history of all the women in Sirella's family. Dax is recounting the end of the Second Dynasty, but then tells her that one of Sirella's ancestors who was apparently the daughter of the Klingon emperor was in fact a concubine through a little-known fact. This infuriates Sirella, who orders Dax to continue with the "correct" history.
While this is happening, Kira congratulates Jake Sisko on having his stories of life under the Dominion occupation published by the Federation News Service. Odo approaches but once again avoids Kira, who then has Jake ignore it. Kira and Jake then see Sisko, Bashir, O'Brien, and Alexander enter the holosuites again, on the second night of their path to Kal'Hyah, appearing quite serious. This trial is the shedding of blood. Sisko, O'Brien, and Alexander quietly take a step back before Worf and Martok turn around. Although Worf is surprised to see that Bashir has "volunteered" to go first, Bashir is even more surprised. Worf tells the doctor not to worry, as the pain only lasts a few seconds, and approaches him with the knife.
=== Act Four ===
Meanwhile Dax is hosting a raucous party in her quarters with many people including Kira, Nog, Quark, Rom, Leeta, Morn, and Jake. She's invited Lieutenant Manuele Atoa from the to perform a fire dance. It's a big hit with everyone.
Meanwhile, Bashir and O'Brien are chained to the ceiling above a floor covered with hot coals. Bashir tells O'Brien he is having a vision – he is going to kill Worf. O'Brien agrees with him.
Odo arrives at the party with two Bajoran deputies after receiving complaints about the noise and that he also heard there was a fight. Kira is first at the door, and now he is forced to talk to her. Kira tells Odo the fight was between Morn and a Bolian, but the two are getting along fine now and that she is authorizing the party to continue under her authority as first officer of the station. Odo turns to leave but he and Kira finally realize they have to talk about what happened during the occupation. Allowing his deputies the rest of the night off to enjoy the party, Odo and Kira leave to talk in private as Dax begins to flirt with Atoa following his act.
Soon, Sirella arrives, ignoring everyone there, and tells Dax it is time for the Bre'Nan ritual. Fed up with her, Dax sternly tells her she is busy. Sirella insults her, calling her a Risian slut. Sirella orders her to come with her, or she will cancel the wedding. After Dax refuses, Sirella pulls a d'k tahg. Dax disarms her and punches her in the face. Sirella leaves and Dax forces the party to resume.
The next morning, Dax wakes up with a monumental hangover and, after kicking out the party-goers (Morn and Atoa) who ended up crashing for the night sluggishly orders a raktajino from the replicator. Worf arrives and tells Dax they have to talk; Sirella has canceled the wedding. Dax tries to sleep instead, but is prodded. She begins to explain what happened when the two hear voices coming from the adjoining room. Opening the door, they find Odo and Kira, who are still talking. Dax tells the two that it's 10:30, and the two quickly leave as they're both meant to be on duty. Worf tells Dax to go to Sirella and beg for forgiveness, to which she reacts angrily and tells Worf that all they should do is go to Captain Sisko and he can marry them instead. Worf is upset that Dax has so little regard for his traditions and feelings and sadly leaves, telling her that Sirella was right – there should be no wedding.
=== Act Five ===
O'Brien and Bashir enter Quark's bar where they see the Klingon banners being removed. Quark tells them that the wedding has been canceled. The two are sorry for Worf and Dax for a couple of seconds… then immediately order dinner.
Martok goes to speak with Worf who is brooding in his quarters aboard the and tells his friend he has made a mistake. Worf can't help but feel that Martok is right, but recent events have made it clear just how different he and Dax are – he is serious while she is fun, she has many marriages behind her while he is preparing for his first, he can't stand Quark while she plays Tongo with him, among many other things. As a result, Worf feels that love may not be enough in this case. Martok admits that Sirella is nothing like the woman he imagined he would marry; she has too much pride and vanity for his tastes, and yet he loves her with all his heart. Martok reminds Worf that honor and glory, things that Klingons prize above everything else, are worth nothing without someone to share it with.
O'Brien and Bashir are just about to eat a huge meal, when Sisko, Martok, and Alexander enter, telling them that the wedding is back on as Worf is apologizing to Dax. Sisko tells Quark to remove the food, that there should be no food for those on the path to Kal'Hyah. Quark tells them there are no refunds for those on the path to Kal'Hyah either, much to O'Brien and Bashir's dismay. However, Worf enters and tells them that Dax has refused to be married so the wedding is still off. Sisko decides to go and talk to his friend, telling the others to make sure Bashir and O'Brien don't eat anything.
Sisko goes to Dax's quarters where she is rearranging her items angrily. Dax finds the notion of apologizing to Sirella insulting, as she says she was once the Federation ambassador to the Klingon Empire and that she negotiated the Khitomer Accords before Worf was born. Sisko, determined to snap Dax out of her stubbornness, sternly reminds his friend it was Curzon who negotiated the accords, not her, and that she should go to Sirella and do whatever it takes to be forgiven, even if it involves grovelling. Sisko also tells Dax that if she cares so little for Klingon traditions she should never have fallen in love with Worf in the first place. Jadzia tells Sisko that her life was completely mapped out; friends, a career, but then one day a certain Klingon came aboard the station and all of a sudden she found herself falling in love with him. Dax realizes she has to apologize to Sirella, and thanks her old friend asking him whatever happened to the ensign she used to know. Sisko simply tells her he grew up. Dax responds by saying that she must as well.
In Quark's, several Klingons begin to beat Klingon drums. The marriage service is almost operatic. It relates the creation of the Klingons by the gods, who were later killed by their own creations. After Worf and Dax recite their vows, swearing to join with each other against all that oppose them, Sirella pronounces them married, and they kiss. Dax makes a gesture of respect to Sirella. Sirella then embraces Dax, welcoming her to the House of Martok and calling her "my daughter."
Bashir and O'Brien, still smarting after their grueling march on the path to Kal'hyah, have been hovering anxiously with their Ma'Stakas. Martok gives the word as soon as Sirella hugs Dax, and they bellow hearty war cries and charge the altar with their Ma'Stakas held high.
== Memorable quotes ==
"Handsome young man… he must get his looks from his mother's side." 
:- Quark, musing to Worf and Jadzia about Alexander Rozhenko
"As you probably know by now, Jadzia and I will be married here on the station in six days." 
"There's nothing more romantic than a wedding on DS9 in springtime." 
"…when the neutrinos are in bloom."
:- Worf, Bashir, and O'Brien
"You've put on weight… and your hair is going grey."
"My… deterioration is proceeding apace."
"I thought you would be in your grave by now."
(laughing) "I shall endeavor to die, this year, if possible."
:- Sirella and Martok, upon Sirella's arrival at Deep Space 9
"Sirella is a woman of strong convictions. She believes that by bringing aliens into our families we risk losing our identity as Klingons."
"That is a prejudiced, xenophobic view."
"We are Klingons, Worf. We don't embrace other cultures, we conquer them."
:- Martok and Worf, about Worf's marriage to Jadzia
"I had every right to bring you into the family, and she's accepted the fact that there's nothing she can do about it!"
"How comforting."
"(bellowing with laughter) And they say you have no sense of humor!"
:- Martok and Worf
"We now begin a fast that will continue until the day of the wedding."
"That's four days away!"
"It is a short time, I know, but we must make the best of it."
:- Worf, Bashir and Martok at the start of Kal'Hyah
"I sold my first book today."
"Really? How much did you get for it?"
"It's just a figure of speech. The Federation News Service is going to publish a book of my stories about life on the station under Dominion rule."
"And they're not paying you?"
"No."
"Well, then you have my sympathies, and the first round of drinks is on the house."
"Really?"
"No. It's a figure of speech."
:- Jake and Quark
"Miles… it's working. I've had a vision, about the future. I can see it so clearly."
"What is it?"
"I'm gonna kill Worf. I'm gonna kill Worf. That's what I'm gonna do. I can see it clearly now, I'm going to kill… him…"
"Kill Worf?"
"Kill Worf."
"Kill Worf… Kill Worf!"
:- Bashir and O'Brien, on the path to Kal'Hyah
"We are not accorded the luxury of choosing the women we fall in love with. Do you think Sirella is anything like the woman I thought that I'd marry? She is a prideful, arrogant, mercurial woman who shares my bed far too infrequently for my taste. And yet… I love her deeply. We Klingons often tout our prowess in battle, our desire for glory and honor above all else… but how hollow is the sound of victory without someone to share it with? Honor gives little comfort to a man alone in his home… and in his heart."
:- Martok, to Worf discussing marriage
"This is Worf's fault! Worf and his traditional Klingon wedding!"
"Well, he may have let this wedding business go to his head, but you are 356 years old. Compared to you, Worf is just a kid. And if you can't abide by Klingon traditions, then you never should have let yourself fall in love with him in the first place! And you are in love with him."
"I wasn't looking to fall in love. I was perfectly happy with myself. I had friends, a career, adventure. Then one day this Klingon with a bad attitude walked into my life and the next thing I know, I'm getting married. After 356 years and 7 lifetimes, I still lead with my heart."
:- Jadzia Dax and Benjamin Sisko
"To this very day, no one can oppose the beating of two Klingon hearts… Not even me."
:- Sirella, officiating Worf and Jadzia's wedding ceremony
== Background information ==
=== Story and script ===
* The working title of this episode was "Once Upon a Wedding". (Star Trek: Deep Space Nine Companion - A Series Guide and Script Library)
* Ronald D. Moore saw this as an episode which would allow him to correct an inaccurate impression of Klingon society which he himself had created. After , Moore felt that he had (unintentionally) shoved Klingon women into the background, promoting the view that they were unimportant to the proper functioning of society. This dates back to TNG fourth season episode in which it is revealed that women cannot sit on the Klingon High Council. In subsequent Klingon episodes, women had virtually no role, and the whole society ended up appearing to be completely male dominated, almost like Ferengi society. This was something Moore was keen to rectify in this episode, and as such, he determined that if men rule the Council, then women rule the Houses, and that the mistress of a great House wields unchallenged power in terms of the functioning of that house, thus restoring a degree of balance to Klingon gender roles. ()
* The script provides the following Klingon translations :
** Dax to Sirella: Tuq son bosh mok A'Beh Sirella koh. E'Gagh vet moh – "Enter my home and be welcome, Mistress Sirella. May you find it worthy."
** Sirella to Dax: Eck'taH roh masa qee'Plok – "May this be the first of many visits."
** Dax to Sirella: Toruk-DOH! – [A particularly vile Klingon curse]
** Sirella to Dax: Mok'Ta vor, kash a'VEH! – "You are an enemy of my House!"
* A question that does not seem to be addressed in this episode is where either the crew of the or Worf's foster family are during Worf's wedding. The absence of the Enterprise crew would indeed be unusual considering the eight years Worf served with them and the personal connections they established. However, one possible explanation is that the Enterprise was too busy with a war-related task, and it may not have been safe enough for the Rozhenkos to travel to DS9 at such a volatile time. The wedding had also been abruptly rescheduled, giving potential guests only seven days notice. In reality, the producers had wanted the Enterprise crew to appear (albeit in non-speaking roles), but only LeVar Burton and Jonathan Frakes could be secured, mainly due to their having offices on the Paramount lot, and it was decided that it had to be all or nothing, so the plan was scrapped. ()
* The was the ship that Lt. Commander Data captained in . Ronald D. Moore had originally intended that the Sutherland be established in "You Are Cordially Invited" as something of a "party ship", and that whenever it came to the station, something wild would ensue. However, this aspect was dropped from the teleplay for time reasons. () The captain of the Sutherland is named as Captain Shelby. About this reference, Ronald D. Moore stated: "My intent when I wrote the line was that this was indeed the same Shelby from BOBW. I thought it was a cool reference to throw in for the fans, but I had completely forgotten that John Ordover and Co. [of Pocket Books] had very specifically and very politely asked us if we had any intention of ever using this character again and we (including me) had said, "No way – do what you want with her." This very salient fact was pointed out to me after the show had aired and I had a rather sheepish conversation with Paula Block over in licensing and with John via e-mail explaining what had happened. Since I only used Shelby's last name in the episode, you're free to look at this either way – it's really her or it's someone else with the same last name (it's a big fleet, after all)." 
* Ronald D. Moore has speculated that Dax may have slept with Lieutenant Atoa had Sirella not interrupted the party. (24th Century Wedding, DS9 Season 6 DVD special features)
* A scene in the script, but not in the final episode, involved the Starfleet members clearing out their quarters, which had been occupied by various members of the Dominion. Doctor Bashir's quarters were occupied by Weyoun who was apparently fond of collecting various items and studying them in his quarters. The items included shoes, coasters, bits of string, broken bottles, power cells, picture frames, and chair legs. Nog's quarters were in an even worse state and had been occupied by Jake Sisko. (Star Trek: Deep Space Nine Companion - A Series Guide and Script Library)
=== Production ===
* To ensure the right level of energy for the party scenes, director David Livingston literally staged an actual party, including live music. He did this because it meant the actors had to shout on-set to be heard, which added an air of realism to the scene. As he explains, "With that drumming in the background, they had to be more active, they had to deal with it. If I'd have had them stop playing, the people would have toned down their performances." ()
* Of the party scene in general, David Livingston comments, "The party scene I think everybody was afraid of, because it was so daunting, and I went into it saying, 'This is a great challenge.' Traditionally, party sequences on Star Trek end up not being very interesting; it's just people ending up standing around talking. But the writers infused it in the writing with a certain amount of energy by having a fire dancer, and I said to myself, 'I've got to bring that same kind of visual energy and excitement that they put on the page, otherwise it's going to be like a lot of the other Star Trek parties that aren't compelling and don't have any energy to them. My template was starring , filmed from the sixties, which just had this frenetic kind of energy, with people moving around all the time, and having somebody that walks bringing you to another scene that takes place there, so it's all continuous, you're not just cutting from one part of the room to the other, something brings you to the other scene that's occurring." (24th Century Wedding, DS9 Season 6 DVD special features)
* The dance performed by Aron Eisenberg (Nog) was completely improvised on-set. David Livingston simply told Eisenberg to dance "as goofy as you want." Terry Farrell joining in was also completely improvised. () Eisenberg has claimed that in his seven years on the show, this was the only time for him that a piece of improvisation made it into the final episode. (24th Century Wedding, DS9 Season 6 DVD special features)
* Director David Livingston had originally intended that the scene where Bashir and O'Brien discuss killing Worf was to be shot entirely in one long take that would start on their feet, then tilt upwards, before finally moving in for a two-shot. He ultimately decided against it because it meant that that the actors would genuinely have to hang from the rail for the duration of the take. ()
* J.G. Hertzler (Martok) and Shannon Cochran (Sirella) based their performances in their scene together on Benedick and Beatrice in Shakespeare's . ()
* During the second take of the scene where Dax punches Sirella, Terry Farrell accidentally punched Shannon Cochran for real. (24th Century Wedding, DS9 Season 6 DVD special features)
* On filming the Kal'Hyah scenes, J.G. Hertzler commented: "That was another hoot. There was like a five thousand degree fire going on, it was a hot day outside, we were standing next to this fire pretending not to feel it because we're Klingons. Those other guys complained, those wimps, Colm and Sid, hanging from their little fingers over the fire, wimpy boys!" 
* J.G. Hertzler considers the scene where he considers picking up Sisko's baseball one of his favorite moments while working on Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. Hertzler commented: "That little moment was one of my favorites on the show. Its really about two actors playing with each other and has little if anything to do with the show. Technically, it could be called "secondary action" in terms of the method… but in this case, it was merely Avery and I having some fun with the world around us. Surely, Martok had never seen a baseball before and may have correctly identified the covering of the ball as the hide of some kind of animal. For all he knew it could be Targ. But Martok was very curious about the markings on the ball and the way it was made, meanwhile they were discussing an attack on Cardassia or some such monumental topic, and distracted by a baseball. Sisko may have been afraid Martok might have thought it to be food and taken a bite out of it… or some such action. So, we toyed with each other a bit and that is what we ended up with. Thanks for noticing the by-play. That's the story". 
* Neither Nana Visitor nor Rene Auberjonois was happy with how the resolution between Kira and Odo was presented, i.e. off-screen. Ira Steven Behr was also unhappy with it and he has admitted, "that was a bad mistake." The reason the scene was written that way was because of a last minute rewrite and no time to come up with anything else. As Ronald D. Moore explains, "We had originally planned that in this episode we were going to start having Odo lock himself away, refusing to mingle with anyone else on the station. The events of and had really shaken him and made him wonder, 'What am I doing, where do I belong, look at what I almost did.' So he was going to show up at the wedding and make an unexpected announcement. He would say, 'I've decided I can't be friends with any of you anymore, because clearly you can't trust me, so I need to go my own way. I'll do my job but that's it and that's all that's ever going to be.' And then he would walk out again. And the people there were going to go 'Whoa, what does this mean?' Then we were going to play Odo completely different for the rest of the season." At the last minute however, Behr, Hans Beimler and Auberjonois came to Moore to inquire where the character was ultimately going to end up. Auberjonois in particular felt strongly about this new development, feeling that Odo was being alienated, and they wondered what Moore's ultimate plan was, how was he going to get Odo back into the fold. Unfortunately, he didn't have one, he hadn't thought that far ahead, so the plan was dropped at the last minute. As Moore says, "It felt wrong to take him out of the mix and alienate him from everybody without a clear idea in our heads about why we were doing it." This change in plans however, left no time for Moore to write a deep scene of resolution between Odo and Kira. He does acknowledge however, that his off-screen solution wasn't entirely successful; "I know Nana and Rene don't like it, and some of the fans don't like it, and I don't like it. It's just one of those things that we had to do because we were out of time, and I felt that I had to do something so that it didn't seem as if we hadn't even touched on it." ()
=== Reception ===
* Terry Farrell commented "I felt like a queen for a day in that dress. I have to tell you, I never thought that I'd feel so great in red leather, even though it was 104 degrees on the set. I'm 34 years old, I have never been married and I sometimes wonder if I ever will be. So it was cool to wear that dress and to pretend with a good friend like Michael, who's also not married, that I was getting married. It was like being a little girl again and playing Barbie. Michael was my Klingon Ken and I was his leather-clad Barbie! ("Farrell's Fate", ) Terry Farrell hates the shot where she enters Quark's and walks up to the altar, because she feels that she looks "a bit like a truck driver walking up in this wedding dress." The reason for this is that the Klingon boots she had to wear were too big for her, and she didn't have time to rehearse with them. During the shoot, she thought she had covered up her discomfort, but when she saw the completed show she realized that she hadn't. In 2002, when discussing the scene, she said simply, "yeah, that wasn't so good." (24th Century Wedding, DS9 Season 6 DVD special features) Farrell would don the costume again in 2014 at the Star Trek Las Vegas con. 
* Collin Kelly commented: "Now, call me a hopeless romantic, but 'You Are Cordially Invited' – the marriage of Jadzia and Worf – is an amazing and passionate celebration of inclusivity and respect that thrills me to my toes every time". (Star Trek: Waypoint Special)
* A Swedish couple were inspired to have a Klingon-themed wedding by the episode. 
=== Trivia ===
* Paramount's promotion of the episode included an "invitation", which noted "Paramount cordially invited you to bear witness to the exchange of nuptials between two Star Trek series regulars for the first time in Star Trek history". 
* This episode marks the final appearance of Alexander Rozhenko on Star Trek.
* In this episode, it's revealed that Jadzia Dax's father's name is Kela, and that the is 356 years old. It is also revealed that Curzon Dax negotiated the Khitomer Accords.
* O'Brien wonders why Worf and Dax's wedding is abruptly canceled when Quark tells him. His wedding to Keiko was also briefly called off at the beginning of .
* This episode marks the first and only appearance of the modified TNG dress uniform before the adoption of the dress whites introduced in .
* In the party scene, Kira can be seen wearing the bracelet given to her by Tekeny Ghemor.
* The chime to Worf's room is the same as Picard's chime to his ready room in TNG.
=== Remastered version ===
* Remastered footage from the episode is featured in the documentary What We Left Behind.
=== Apocrypha ===
* The conversation that Kira and Odo have in this episode is revealed in a series of flashbacks in the Olympus Descending novella in the Worlds of Star Trek: Deep Space Nine.
* Reference is made to the absence of the Enterprise crew in the Star Trek/ crossover , when Worf, visiting the Enterprise, apologizes for not waiting for them, saying that there was no time due to Alexander needing to leave in a short time. Captain Picard, however, assures Worf that he understands, and the entire senior staff toasts Worf's marriage in a private celebration of their own shortly before the arrival of the X-Men.
=== Video and DVD releases ===
* UK VHS release (two-episode tapes, CIC Video): Volume 6.4, 
* As part of the DS9 Season 6 DVD collection
== Links and references ==
=== Starring ===
* Avery Brooks as Captain Sisko
=== Also starring ===
* Rene Auberjonois as Odo
* Michael Dorn as Lt. Commander Worf
* Terry Farrell as Lt. Commander Dax
* Cirroc Lofton as Jake Sisko
* Colm Meaney as Chief O'Brien
* Armin Shimerman as Quark
* Alexander Siddig as Doctor Bashir
* Nana Visitor as Major Kira
=== Guest stars ===
* J.G. Hertzler as Martok
* Marc Worden as Alexander Rozhenko
* Shannon Cochran as Sirella
* Chase Masterson as Leeta
* Aron Eisenberg as Nog
* Max Grodénchik as Rom
=== Co-star ===
* Sidney Liufau as Manuele Atoa
=== Uncredited co-stars ===
* Sam Alejan
* Ivy Borg as Rita Tannenbaum
* Cathy DeBuono as M'Pella
* Terry Green as Operations lieutenant
* Randy James as 
* Dan Magee as Operations lieutenant
* Robin Morselli as Bajoran officer
* Mark Allen Shepherd as Morn
* James Lee Stanley as Bajoran security deputy
* Chester E. Tripp III
* Brenda-Jean Wright as sciences officer
* Unknown performers as
** Benzite civilian
** Bolian male
** Sutherland band
=== References ===
2018; Alpha Quadrant; Altair sandwich; assassination; Bajoran; Bajoran shrimp; Bajoran wormhole; baked potato; banner; battle cruiser; Benzite; best man; boiling; Bolian; book; boss; Bre'Nan; career; check valve; cheese; chives; The Dark Time; ; ; day off; d'k tahg; Dominion; Dukat; fast; Federation; Ferengi; figure of speech; flag; generation; gesture; good luck charm; grandmother; Hamar Mountains; headquarters; heart; holosuite program; holosuite; hydraulic fluid; hydrostatic system; intelligence officer; Kal'Hyah; Kahless the Unforgettable; Karana; kava; kava juice; K'Ehleyr; kava juice; Kela; Khitomer Accords; kiss; Klingon; Klingon Empire; Klingon mythology; Klingon wedding; Klingonese; K'Trelan; linguini; Linkasa; Lurian; Ma'Stakas; mapa bread; maternal; ; Mogh; Molor; Molor's troops; mushrooms; mustard; neutrino; Ninth Fleet; ; "Old Man"; paperwork; prejudice; Promenade; pump; Quark's; Qo'noS; raktajino; ; ; ; ; ; Samoan firedance; scowl; Second Dynasty; sense of humor; Shelby; Shenara; shoe; shoulder; ; slut; soldier; sour cream; spitting; spring; squeezing; stable; Starfleet Command; Starfleet Fleets; steak; supreme commander; tallow; targ; Tawi'Yan; ; tongo; Toruk'DoH; Trill; var'Hama candle; wedding; writer; xenophobic
==== Starship references ====
 [sic]; Bajoran interceptor (unnamed); ; ; ; (unnamed); Klingon Bird-of-Prey (unnamed); ; (unnamed); NCC-4186; ; ; ; ; (unnamed 1, and 2); ; ; 
==== Unreferenced material ====
Keltar; Torva; Year of Kahless
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