User blog:Bobbycat1/LGBTQIA+

I felt this necessary to make in regards to the representation in the RT Community for LGBTQIA+ individuals and the current ongoing discussion in reference to certain pages on this wiki.
Now, I feel like it's more common knowledge, but for those that are unaware, within the past year Kdin came out and officially announced she identified as transgender . Since this announcement, we've had several minor continuous back-to-back edits every so often and discussions made for the correct pronouns used for Kdin's wiki page. This is a heated subject and I'm going to provide my own perspective along with Kdin's own comments about this reoccurring 'issue.' There is a TL;DR at the bottom.
Now, Kdin has been asked multiple times before and after her announcement on her preferred pronouns. Kdin has answered this with:
 
"Any pronoun is fine, I do however greatly prefer to just be called Kdin. It’s more personal and I feel like that is how most people would want to be talked to, feels like there is more of a connection and less dictation of specific “terms” or “pronouns”. That said, if you really have to know my pronoun preference, I tend to lean towards feminine pronouns for a multitude or personal reasons, which I really don’t feel comfortable getting into at this time" .
This quote being the most used when in reference to the he/him vs she/her debate on her page. Of course with any change, this process can be slow with mistakes being made and saying "he" rather than "she." Kdin is aware of this and understands that and this kind of thing happens but she is generally okay with it and not offended if this happens .
Carrying on from this, we get into the discussions going on on this wiki about the edits made on here. On multiple occasions Kdin has specifically said to not be rude in correcting others on her preferences . Even using the more traditionally masculine slang words like "dude" or "bro" is fine with Kdin .
Most recently Kdin responded to a question about those speaking up for her behalf about (even politely) correcting others on her pronouns. She asks that if anyone has a question or concern to about this matter to come talk with her directly. While she greatly appreciates the sentiment, she wishes to:
"handle things as personally as I can to halt any confusion and stop any problems before they arise, especially if they are started 'on my behalf'".
And for those that still feel unsure, "when in doubt, just say “Kdin”, it’s more personal that way anyways!" 
For my own personal opinion I'll try to keep this short, when Kdin first came out it was nice to see her being more open and happy with expressing herself to a generally supportive on and offline community. It's not like Kdin changed who she is, she just became more vocal about who she is. I've never once met nor spoken directly with her outside of a few asks I've thrown her way on Tumblr, so I won't try and speak for her. I have close friends who are trans and refer to them as their preferred pronouns. It is a change from first knowing them as he or she to another but it's out of love, respect, and human decency that I do.
TL;DR Kdin is a transgender woman who goes by she/her or simply Kdin. However, she is not offended by those that use he/him as long as it's not malicious. And to please talk with her with any concerns. 
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