The RIGHT way to treat a man who sleeps with you and then wants to be your "friend" is to say how you feel: "I feel feelings for you beyond friendship, and so I don't want to be friends with you just now... and then DROP HIM COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR LIFE!1. Drop Him Out Of Your Life. Completely. NO CONTACT.Yes - he'll complain. He'll show up on your doorstep. He'll call you. He'll try to belittle you, he'll call you crazy, he'll get angry, he'll try to make your life hell until you start sleeping with him again and being his friend.You're going to have to be very, very strong and tell him this:"I feel so bad, so vulnerable, so lost and sad. I feel like I haven't taken care of myself. I can't handle seeing you. It feels too bad. I can't be your friend, and I don't want to be your friend until I no longer feel attached to you. So please don't call me again, or come over."2. DATE!Every single man who even looks at you kindly, I want you to smile back at him. I want you to take every invitation you get to anywhere. I want you out of the house and in the company of some man.I want you to experience what it feels like to be with a man who is not like heroin. Yeah, maybe a boring man, maybe a quiet man, maybe a not-so-sexy man, maybe a man you can't or won't fall in love with.This man is not toxic in himself. He may be a very nice man. But he's heroin for you. There is no "easing out of this." Cold turkey is your only option here.