очень сложно вам ответить без деталей... да и от штата к штату практика различается очень существенно. но отвечу так (в общем):once you are served with the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage, you have about 20-30 days (depends on the state you live in) to file an Answer/ Response, and possibly a Counter-Petition. It is EXTREMELY important that she files a response!!! In her Counter-Petition she also may request child support, alimony and custody of the children.A hearing may be set, but most likely it is a preliminary hearing or a case management conference, for a judge to decide what to do with this case, or possibly to refer it to mediation. No attorney can change the course the case will take (especially when children are involved), so no matter how good his attorney is, she has a fair shot at this.So, I would: a. get an attorney!!! through a Bar Association or otherwise, but do get one! or at least consult one!b. answer the suit that was filed against her! (and file a counter-petition claiming alimony, child support and custody)c. some states require parents to take a special class, look into this.d. "psychological pressure" may not be important at all, so talk to an attorney and find out what is important and what is not.